A Special Galentine's Day, We listen and we don't judge, spicing up the bedroom | Humble Baddies

Summary

Podcast Title: Club Shay Shay
Host/Author: iHeartPodcasts, The Volume, and Shay Shay Media
Episode: A Special Galentine's Day, We Listen and We Don't Judge, Spicing Up the Bedroom | Humble Baddies
Release Date: February 14, 2025

Summary:

In this special Galentine's Day edition of Club Shay Shay, NFL legend Shannon Sharpe engages with the vibrant hosts of Humble Baddies—Matt Rogers, Shirelle Rosado, and Ashley Nicole—to delve into the nuances of friendship, self-love, and modern relationships. The episode seamlessly blends insightful conversations with engaging activities, providing listeners with a blend of entertainment and valuable relationship advice.

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1. Celebrating Galentine's Day [02:03 - 03:29]

The episode kicks off with an enthusiastic introduction to Galentine's Day, a celebration focused on friendship and self-love rather than romantic relationships. Matt Rogers emphasizes the inclusivity of Galentine's Day, stating:

"Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just want an excuse to have fun with your girls, this episode is just for you." (03:15)

Alexis Welch Stoudemire shares her personal interpretation:

"Galentine's Day to me means time for self-reflection, self-love. Really, just about." (04:00)

The hosts discuss various ways people celebrate Galentine's Day, from quiet retreats and spa days to lively gatherings with friends, highlighting its flexibility and personal significance.

2. Love Bombing: Romance or Manipulation? [16:36 - 19:41]

A significant portion of the conversation centers around Love Bombing, exploring whether it constitutes genuine romance or manipulative behavior. Matt Rogers introduces the topic:

"Have y'all ever heard of it? Love bombing. Is it real romance or is it manipulation?" (16:36)

Alexis and Ash express skepticism, describing love bombing as potentially manipulative when excessive affection and grand gestures are used to gain control:

"I think it is manipulation, but how." (16:42)

"If somebody's doing too much, I just automatically I'm like, who are you really?" (19:06)

The discussion underscores the importance of recognizing the signs of manipulative behavior in relationships and emphasizes the value of consistency and genuine connection over superficial grandiosity.

3. Sustaining Relationship Intimacy [20:37 - 25:24]

The hosts transition to discussing how to maintain the initial excitement and intimacy in long-term relationships. Alexis reflects on evolving feelings:

"I used to have butterflies, now I have a sense of safety and home." (23:20)

Matt Rogers shares his perspective on consistent behavior and setting realistic expectations:

"I'm not going to overdo it. I'm not going to give you expectations from as a man and not follow through with it." (20:14)

The conversation highlights the transition from the exhilarating “butterflies” phase to a more mature, secure form of love that prioritizes mutual respect and understanding.

4. Dating While Healing [25:24 - 27:58]

Exploring the complexities of entering new relationships post-trauma or heartbreak, the hosts discuss whether it's possible to truly find love without being completely healed. Alexis offers a nuanced view:

"I believe so. Only because I feel like no one is ever 100% healed." (25:35)

They emphasize the importance of self-awareness and emotional readiness, suggesting that while complete healing may be unattainable, being in a good place emotionally enables healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

5. Long-Distance Relationships in 2025 [28:00 - 32:34]

The trio delves into the dynamics of maintaining long-distance relationships in the modern era. Alexis shares success stories and her own openness to such arrangements:

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and the anticipation of when we're gonna meet next is exhilarating." (29:32)

Matt Rogers reflects on his past experiences, highlighting the balance between personal space and maintaining connection:

"It's about having your own space and not dealing with someone 24 hours a day." (29:48)

The discussion underscores the feasibility of long-distance relationships with effective communication and mutual understanding.

6. "Would You Rather" Game Segment [33:11 - 39:44]

Injecting fun into the episode, the hosts engage in a "Would You Rather" game, posing hypothetical relationship scenarios to each other. Topics include preferences in intimacy, handling secret admirers versus confident suitors, and managing public versus private encounters. Notable moments include:

• Matt advocating for good communication over physical prowess:

  "I feel like communication is a big deal because then you can communicate what you like and don't like." (34:00)

• Alexis emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and emotional connection:

  "I need to know what's up. If you want to get me, come and get me." (38:43)

The segment fosters a lighthearted yet meaningful exploration of personal relationship values and boundaries.

7. Unfiltered and Unfollowed: Social Media Behaviors [43:38 - 50:05]

In the "Unfiltered and Unfollowed" segment, the hosts address various social media scenarios affecting personal relationships:

• Wedding Invite Snubs: Discussing how to react when friends aren’t invited to significant events.

  "I wouldn't take it personal unless it's a close friend." (43:44)

• Toxic Podcasting: Handling relationships with individuals who publicly rant against modern women.

  "You can't take everything to heart." (44:39)

• Ghosting and Exes Following New Partners: Strategies for managing unsolicited interactions on social platforms.

  "Ignore it." (45:49)

• Gym Selfie Overload: Deciding when to mute or unfollow accounts that may trigger negative feelings.

  "I might like mute them because I don't need to be seeing that." (47:58)

These discussions provide listeners with practical advice on navigating the complexities of digital interactions and maintaining healthy online boundaries.

8. Listener Mail: Rhonda's Abusive Relationship [51:20 - 53:42]

The episode features a heartfelt advice segment where Rhonda shares her struggles in a relationship with a paralyzed partner who mistreats her. The hosts respond with compassion and actionable advice:

"Nobody should endure abuse, regardless of their circumstances. You should step away and find a safe space." (52:25)

Alexis emphasizes the importance of recognizing abuse and seeking help:

"If you're the caretaker and this person is dependent on you, that's abuse." (52:43)

Matt Rogers reinforces the message of prioritizing personal safety and well-being:

"Physical abuse is not okay. Don't take that. Definitely run away." (53:04)

The segment offers solace and strength to listeners facing similar challenges, advocating for self-preservation and support seeking.

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Notable Quotes:

• Matt Rogers [03:15]: "Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just want an excuse to have fun with your girls, this episode is just for you."

• Alexis Welch Stoudemire [04:00]: "Galentine's Day to me means time for self-reflection, self-love. Really, just about."

• Alexis Welch Stoudemire [25:35]: "I believe so. Only because I feel like no one is ever 100% healed."

• Shirelle Rosado [51:20]: "You should be able to find a safe space so that you guys can figure out your situation."

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Conclusion:

The "A Special Galentine's Day" episode of Club Shay Shay offers a rich tapestry of discussions centered around friendship, self-love, and the evolving landscape of modern relationships. Through candid conversations, interactive segments, and heartfelt advice, Shannon Sharpe and the Humble Baddies provide listeners with both entertainment and valuable insights to navigate their personal lives with confidence and compassion.

Whether celebrating with friends, reflecting on personal growth, or seeking guidance in challenging relationships, this episode serves as a comprehensive guide to fostering meaningful connections and sustaining love in its many forms.

Transcript

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[Matt Rogers]

Here and we're celebrating with a special Galentine's Day edition.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Love that. Look at me, I'm over here getting ready to get excited. It was getting real hot and spicy up in here. You know, we in the gym, we in the bedroom, we got Shorty is the big ones.

[Matt Rogers]

I get in my Way never out of my lane Feel like you the one in the morning so what is going be, baby?

[Unknown]

Squad up.

[Matt Rogers]

We're gonna go deep riding on a team Got what you need, baby won't you keep me company Give me something to do when I get lonely I got something for you when we get home if you let me put it down when I hit the town hey, guys. We are back with another episode of Humble Baddies.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm Shirelle Rosado.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

What's up?

[Unknown]

I'm Ashley Nicole.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And I'm Alexis Welch Stoudemire.

[Matt Rogers]

And we are the Humble Baddies. Yes, you guys, love is in the air.

[Unknown]

Yes, it is.

[Matt Rogers]

Valentine's Day is here and we're celebrating with a special Galentine's Day edition.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Love that.

[Matt Rogers]

While Valentine's Day is often about romance, Galentine's Day is all about celebrating friendship.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes, it is.

[Matt Rogers]

Self love and the amazing women in our lives like you too, ladies. Love y'all. I love y'all too. Whether you're single, in a relationship or just want an excuse to have fun with your girls, this episode is just for you.

[Unknown]

Yes. Welcome.

[Matt Rogers]

We're going to dive into what Galentine's Day really means, how people celebrate it. Ladies.

[Unknown]

Yes.

[Matt Rogers]

What does Galentine's Day mean to you and do you celebrate Galentine's day?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Galentine's Day to me means time for self reflection, self love. Really, Just about. Really, Alexis. I feel like I like to take time to really dive into me. Whether it's quiet time, a spa day, staycation, or go to the beach, or a combination of all of the above. My favorite meal. I feel like it's good just to really tap into your soul and yourself. So to me, that's what Galentine's Day is. Aray, on the other hand, my oldest daughter, I'm still cleaning up confetti around the house because she hosted a little gathering for her cheerleader girls from school. And they really indulged in like bringing desserts and a favorite dish and just really just had time together with each other and played games and stuff like that.

[Unknown]

So that's cute.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I see what they did there and I like that they were in PJs. They were just really coordinated and had some fun time together with no boys. No boys were allowed. So.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, I love that.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah. What about you, Ash?

[Unknown]

To be honest, I've never celebrate Galentine's before, but I've seen it, like over the years.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I've seen you've been in my house for Galentine's.

[Unknown]

You did A gal that was Galentine.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Unknown]

Oh, shit. I didn't know Galentine's because I thought we were like blue or something.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

No, no, I'm talking about. Did you come when I. We did the Galentine's. We were on the roof and did a little vibe at the house.

[Unknown]

Okay, well, invite me next time.

[Matt Rogers]

We better get an invite.

[Unknown]

Yeah, I didn't. I've never. I don't think I've ever done a Galentine's Day. But I've seen, like, people, you know, host different things. Like, I've seen people have, like, people come whole, like concerts and dinners and like, they get all dressed up and it's like really, really cute. So I would definitely, like, be into it. But Phil, we've been together. He caught me when I was young.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Unknown]

We've been celebrating Valentine's Day together for the past 16 years.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah. So.

[Unknown]

But I mean, I'm down to do a Galentine's. Invite me, Alexis. I want to come to the Galentine.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm actually doing one and you guys are invited. It was a last minute thing. I was talking to Ashley. I was like, we should do something like a Galentine's Day. So Wednesday, I reached out to the chef. Yeah, we're gonna get y'all some pajamas. They don't have to be matching. But I'm doing a little special thing at the house for y'all.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Beautiful.

[Unknown]

That's so sweet.

[Matt Rogers]

It's gonna be cute. We're gonna have fun, get drunk. Y'all go back to y'all mans if we have one.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I mean, I think that's a good thing about Galentine's, though. It's inclusive because for us single gals, it can be a little bit, like, intrusive and very much sad around this time of the year just because it's commercialized holiday that's all over the place. You walk into Walgreens, you see the candy shape hearts, like with the chocolates in there, the flowers. You know, in your workplace everyone sees balloons and flowers being delivered and gifts and all that kind of stuff. So you can get a little lonely and sad around this time of the year.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm not getting lonely. I'm taking Serenity to Nickelodeon Studios.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, that's gonna be fun.

[Matt Rogers]

We're gonna have a mommy daughter Galentine's Day.

[Unknown]

I think it's good that you make the holiday what you want of it. I mean, it's about love. So you. There's so many different types of love, different ways you can display love. So I think that's cute. You know, you spending time with your daughter, Your daughter spending time with her home girls. You having the Galentine for all the girls. Like, I think that's. That's great.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love that. For us.

[Matt Rogers]

Yes.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It's going extra. I don't think guys do like Galentine's like a.

[Unknown]

A guy in time.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

A guy in time.

[Matt Rogers]

They don't care about none of that stuff. But did you know that is it Valentine's Day? It's the most money spent holiday.

[Unknown]

Really? Over Christmas. Oh, damn.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, they go all out, cuz they want the roll out the red carpet or the rose carpet and like the gifts and do. Do everywhere.

[Matt Rogers]

Do women buy their. Do y'all. Do you buy your. Your man something for Valentine's?

[Unknown]

You know, Phil is not a like a gift type of person. He just wants some good ass. Whop later.

[Matt Rogers]

I thought you was gonna say something.

[Unknown]

I like that ass head later.

[Matt Rogers]

Oh, he want it all.

[Unknown]

Yeah, that's what he wants.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I know that's right. You're sharing life.

[Matt Rogers]

You ain't got time to do the. What you call it?

[Unknown]

What?

[Matt Rogers]

The. The starfish.

[Unknown]

Oh, no, no, no, no. Cockroach.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

No, she said cockroach.

[Unknown]

Ain't no cockroach in that night. Ain't no starfishing at night. He gonna get some wop that night.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay, so then there's preparation. You can be ready to go have.

[Matt Rogers]

A good time bringing out your.

[Unknown]

What?

[Matt Rogers]

The kids, the tools.

[Unknown]

Oh, yeah. Everything comes out. Everything comes out.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Do the kids go away?

[Unknown]

We go like usually we'll do like a staycation.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

See, that's what I'm talking about. Go book that hotel, y'all, and get away. Leave them kids. It's not for them this time.

[Unknown]

Exactly.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love that for you guys. That's right.

[Matt Rogers]

No wind up coming back with a.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Little pug, cuz they said November, right? Is. It's Valentine's Day.

[Unknown]

November, baby.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And then Scorpio come in. Yeah. From Valentine's Day?

[Unknown]

No, no.

[Matt Rogers]

What you doing for Valentine's Day late?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I don't know yet. I mean, I haven't decided. I do. I don't know if it's going to be sand or snow.

[Unknown]

You want to be booed up or what? Are you trying to.

[Matt Rogers]

She said she got options.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I don't. I don't. I don't mind being booed up. I mean, it's a time to give love and receive love.

[Matt Rogers]

Wait, what do you want to do?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm open. It's whatever. Like if someone is like, let's Go out or let's, let's go away.

[Matt Rogers]

I can do a quick get away and get a room on the other side of town.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm down for all of that. So that's. But it needs to be planned a little bit so I can like, you know, bring some, some, some accessories. Oh lord.

[Matt Rogers]

Wait, Lex, what are the accessories?

[Unknown]

I need to know.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I mean it could start with clothing. So some, some I feel like negligees. Yes, some Ling. We have some accessories like that. And see, I pull up with a.

[Matt Rogers]

Trench coat with nothing on it, nothing under.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It's okay, it's okay. You know, look at me, I'm over here getting ready to get excited. Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

Okay. For the pre game look, the viewers need the lexpert what they gotta do.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, the Lexpert.

[Unknown]

Oh my God, the Lexpert. The sexpert.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I just like. I like the element of surprise. I also like just the teasing and just like the show of it all. That's cute and sexy.

[Matt Rogers]

Yes.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And I just want to have a good time and do you bring like.

[Matt Rogers]

Dessert to the bed?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

No, that's messy to me. Like I don't need dessert. I'm the dessert.

[Matt Rogers]

Have you ever had pop rocks?

[Unknown]

Pop rocks? Where you're telling me to get, tell me about that.

[Matt Rogers]

You gotta get the pop rocks.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

What are the pop rocks for? Sherrelle?

[Matt Rogers]

You put them in your mouth.

[Unknown]

Put them in your mouth.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I do.

[Matt Rogers]

You put the pop rocks in your mouth.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So then there's a lot of.

[Unknown]

Yes, it's popping while you sucking, sucking.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And looking and sucking and looking. Okay. Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

Then it's the dirty edition of Humble Baddies.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like pop rocks. So you saying bring some something. I thought you were gonna say something like some syrup and some honey, some whipped cream.

[Unknown]

You should have a little goodie bag for your Galentine's.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

That's a good idea.

[Matt Rogers]

So Galentine's gonna be before some numb numbing cream. Yeah.

[Unknown]

This is too much work.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Numbing for the mouth.

[Matt Rogers]

Some people can't take it. Some you gotta for the mouth.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I've never heard of it for the.

[Matt Rogers]

Mouth men like when you smell, where do you put it if you don't.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Other numbing cream I've heard for like the anal.

[Matt Rogers]

Numbing for the anal. I ain't never heard of that.

[Unknown]

Oh, this is too much. Okay.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Why is it too much?

[Matt Rogers]

Listen, you got.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I didn't know numbing for the mouth.

[Matt Rogers]

Numbing makes you slob more. And men like when you slob.

[Unknown]

Okay, this is a lot.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It's Is it though?

[Unknown]

I mean, this is hot.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I am. It could be that or it could be the laportier over here.

[Matt Rogers]

Oh, yeah, we gotta put some. Some laportier in the bag.

[Unknown]

I think it could be a combination of portier in the bag, but you know, they can get.

[Matt Rogers]

Listen, lady, I'm telling y'all, get y'all some laportier. The laportier just turn everything like it's like a heated. Like a warm section.

[Unknown]

Get you warm and ready to go.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, it's something about that kayak that do something to you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You know that yak, that good brown. That good brown gets you right.

[Matt Rogers]

You gotta stay away from that right there. That shit'll get you in trouble.

[Unknown]

All right, y'all. So back to Galentine's day. You gonna put the goodies in the goody bag.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay, I got.

[Unknown]

Okay. You let her know what's up.

[Matt Rogers]

We're gonna take you to a whole other level.

[Unknown]

Sexy lake.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I don't mind.

[Unknown]

Y'All are.

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[Matt Rogers]

Guys, we always get your DMs, your suggestions on which we should talk about. So today we listen and we don't judge.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

We listen and we don't judge.

[Matt Rogers]

So we're going to talk about it. The Rise of Love Bombing. Have y'all ever heard of it? Love bombing.

[Unknown]

Yeah, I've heard of it. I've definitely heard of it.

[Matt Rogers]

Is it real romance or is it manipulation?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I think it is manipulation, but how.

[Unknown]

Do you know the difference?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, that's a good question too. Like a certain question to it. I don't know Love bombing like an example of love bombing Would be like over exaggerating something. Right. I feel like if you can't follow up and you can't be about what you're speaking on, then don't say it. I feel like you're exaggerating. You're getting my hopes up. And to me, that's a turn off if you can't deliver. I don't want it if it's not real.

[Matt Rogers]

Exactly.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I mean, that's how I feel about that. What about you guys?

[Unknown]

I think, you know, if somebody. Something comes off too good to be true in the beginning, that's like a red flag. So, I mean, I don't know. I think a woman or anybody who is looking for love and then finally meets somebody that they feel like is giving them everything that they need and they're, you know, doing all the things with affection and the gestures and everything like that. I feel like it can feel like it's real, but I think sometimes we have to take off the. The rose color. What do you call glasses. Yeah. And you know, just be a little realistic. Like, is this something that somebody can sustain, you know? Right. Or is it just. They're just trying to make me like them. Like they're just doing things to make me, you know.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, they're representative.

[Unknown]

Yeah, exactly.

[Matt Rogers]

I feel like, like it's kind of hard because when I first met Chad, he was. I mean, he's dining wine and dining everything. So I would wouldn't call it love bum. And I felt like it was like true, consistent behavior. Yeah, but. But it's still consistent behavior.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

When we were together, like, he always. I mean, in the beginning, he was like going extra, extra. Like every week I would wake up with something new.

[Unknown]

You felt like he love bombed you?

[Matt Rogers]

I don't know, because I mean, he. He kept that behavior. Like it wasn't like it was just temporary.

[Unknown]

So he sustained it.

[Matt Rogers]

He sustained it.

[Unknown]

So it wasn't a love bomb.

[Matt Rogers]

It wasn't. I wouldn't say it was a love bomb.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

But it's like, how do you know when does it come to an end when someone love love bombs?

[Unknown]

Like, I think when they show you that if they. If they don't get something from you and then they try to, like, take it from you to punish you or.

[Matt Rogers]

So basically they doing it until they get what they want. Right.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Until they basically gain control of you. Like, here are these big gifts, Here are these big wishes and these big things. And then now that I've got you, what are they actually chasing after now.

[Matt Rogers]

That they've Captured you and then would it become manipulation once they feel like they want to regain you and get you back so they go back to doing the thing. Do you. Is it still love bombing or is it now manipulation?

[Unknown]

Yeah, it's both. I think it's both. It's one in the same. But I think, like, I don't know, for me, I feel like when somebody's doing too much, I just automatically I'm like, but who, who are you really? You know, if I can't, if it's so much that I can't really tell, like, and I'm not getting to know who you are and like the reasons why you love me or like me outside of like you giving me stuff and I can't figure out the reasons why I really like you outside of the stuff that you're love bombing me with. Then I think that's like a cue to be like, what is this?

[Matt Rogers]

Right. I respect. I seen this. I was listening to this guy talk and he was basically saying, like, I'm not going to overdo it. I'm not going to give you expectations from as a man and not, you know, not follow through with it. So you're gonna, how I treat you when I first meet you, this is what you're gonna get.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like that. Throughout the duration, right?

[Matt Rogers]

Throughout the duration. So if I'm not texting you like that.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

Then that's what you're gonna get. Get used to that. And he, he said that he had problems with, with women, like dating women, because they felt like he wasn't serious. It wasn't that. He's a busy man and I don't wanna promise you something that I can't continue to do. And I was like, you know what?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I respect.

[Matt Rogers]

A lot of men love bomb. Like they go over the top to get what they want. And once they got it, once they got what they have, then it's, you know, you get complacent and it's not the same.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I feel like courting is essential to this. Like courting, like old school courting. Let me, let me show you. Let me, let me show you what my intents are. I prefer someone who's consistent. It's very attractive. And you mean what you say, you say what you mean. To me, I appreciate someone who's intentional. Like, I feel like when you're. We're having dialog and conversation, I like the phone calls, I like the little text messages.

[Matt Rogers]

You be on the phone with your legs in the air, twerk.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like all of that. Shit. Like talk to me on the phone. I do. I get my 3am, my 3am wake up call. Like, hey, babe, I'm just, I just made it in. I just want to talk. And you look up. It's like 30 minutes. I like that because I came up in the era of that, like on the phone.

[Matt Rogers]

If we cluelessly together. Yes.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You rather have the extra, extra, extra long cord. Cause there's only two lines in the house. If you were lucky, you would pull it into your room. One hang up, like one ring, one hang up and then you like call back real quiet, you know, or nights and weekends. That's when you could turn up. So like I come from that era of just like that intention. So I appreciate that because we do all live busy lives. And I feel like when people are transparent and they're open and honest about their time, then they're like, okay, well I can text you. Little quick thing, you know, you start to know your schedule or they know your schedule. I think it becomes sexy and kind of flirty when you're like sending like your little timestamps of just what you got going on.

[Matt Rogers]

And that's the best feeling. Like, how do you let that feeling continue to last? Like the butterflies and the just being. What. What are things that you can do to continue that? Like when you first meet someone, to have that same feeling five, ten years from now. Is it possible, Ash, you want to.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Answer that for us?

[Unknown]

How to keep the butterflies.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes. And is it possible? Because I feel like it is.

[Unknown]

I mean, I feel like I don't have butterflies anymore. I have.

[Matt Rogers]

Excitement.

[Unknown]

I have. I don't know what you call it. It's not butterflies. It's definitely different. It's definitely a more mature feeling. It's not butterflies. It's like a sense of like, like safety and home.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Like reassurance.

[Unknown]

Yeah. It's like at the end of the day, I know where home is. I know. Like, I just have this sense of like feeling safe. You know what I mean? Secure.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love that.

[Unknown]

So I think I still, you know, we're. I'm excited to, you know, not necessarily. It's not excitement. I wouldn't say it's excitement. It's just literally for me, a peace of mind. A piece of. When I get back to the house, you know, I know like he's home or if I'm out and he calls me like, you know, it's him checking to make sure I'm safe. Like, it's just for me, it's like a safety thing. Like, I know somebody in the world is always making sure I'm good.

[Matt Rogers]

Right.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love that.

[Unknown]

And for me, yeah, I mean, that kind of, like, trumps butterflies. It kind of. That grows into something more. But I think just making sure that you guys still relate on an everyday basis. Because we're together all the time. We live together. You know, he's retired, so he's home. So, you know, it's not the same as, like, you know, when you go days or whatever without seeing somebody. Like, I see him all the time, so it's not like the same excitement, but just being happy to have somebody to share life with.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Unknown]

To share, like, experiences. Like, I still get excited to come home and tell him things that I've done or things that I'm excited to do. So for me, it just.

[Matt Rogers]

It's like your best friend. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love that. I. I like the chase, I like the butterflies. I love all of that. Like, I want to keep it going because I feel like I see older couples that are really in love, and I attain to that. Like, even where you can dance, if that's what you started off doing and sharing music and vibing together and. Or traveling, those shared interests, I feel like that is a goal of mine that I want to sustain and be able to, like, look forward to in my relationship going forward.

[Matt Rogers]

So this one is for you. Dating while healing.

[Unknown]

Ooh.

[Matt Rogers]

This one for you, Lex. Can you truly find love without being 100% healed?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I believe so. Only because I feel like no one is ever 100% healed. And I would even say that despite if you've been married, divorced, we all have. As humans, we have different triggers, we have different experiences in different ways that we move because of whether it's how we were raised.

[Unknown]

Yeah. Anybody has something, they have to heal.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Exactly, exactly. And to me, it's always daily struggles, too. You know, it could be something today, it could be something another month from now. And so to me, it's just like, I feel, yes, you can. To me, it's more about where you are in your heart and where. What are you willing to give.

[Matt Rogers]

Right.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

What is what space, what capacity is left. Right.

[Matt Rogers]

But don't get it. I feel like. Don't get it twisted. Like, start dating and you're not over that relationship, because that's what a lot of people.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, yeah. You have to give yourself grace.

[Matt Rogers]

You definitely have to give yourself grace and time. A lot of people get caught up in, you know, going to the next without fully healing and recovering from the previous relationship.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Of course. So it takes time.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, it definitely takes time.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

But I also have talked to friends now that have said, you know what, Alexis, I see that. That vibrancy in you now, where it's more attractive compared to. There was a little grayer vibe before, because I'm just coming off of. Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

This Lex that I know now from the Lex when I first met is totally different. And I love this Lex right now. It's like you own it. Like, you just come in a room and it's just sunshine.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Thank you for that.

[Matt Rogers]

And that's what I love about you. Like, you're very. You're very secure in who you are as a woman. No matter what you've been through, you can't see it because you've overcome all that. And I just love that, like, every time you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Thank you.

[Matt Rogers]

Come next to us, I feel like it's nothing but sunshine.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Thank you. That comes from healing, that comes from doing the work. That comes from really, like therapy, talking to myself, self love reassurance, and really just opening up and really discovering that spark of who I am as Alexis. Because I feel like in any relationship, you want to be a whole. And I pray and hope that my partner is a whole, too. That way we can come together and really be secure in ourselves separately to be. To create that one whole together. So that's what I tame for. I'm there. I'm like, I'm. I'm ready and I'm open. So we. We shall see what happens.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm happy for you, Lex. I love this Lex. Thank you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I love this Lex, too.

[Matt Rogers]

It's so beautiful. The. The sexiness, the. It's like. It's a different type of vibe from when I met before.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And I'm in my essence right now. You know, it's just. I just feel like my. I've done my work, I've done. I put in the work, and I'm at this space now where I'm just open, and I'm like, there was some sad times, there was some heavy times, but I'm so aware now of who I am.

[Matt Rogers]

And you overcame it.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I did. I did. And whoever can tap into this space right now and catch this butterfly high, good luck to them, you know, because they'll be blessed.

[Matt Rogers]

Right? Yes, I know that's right. So listen, ladies, I mean, we all have. I mean, you've been in your. You're still in your relationship, but we have, you know, we've overcame the hurt and it's. It's another size. It's Sunshine.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It is the sunshine. It's just. What do they say, you know, Weeping may endure for a night, but joy.

[Matt Rogers]

So it comes in the morning.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

Amen.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It happens. I'm in prime example and a witness. So that's one of my testimonies for sure.

[Matt Rogers]

My last one. Long distance relationships in 2025.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm down for that.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

I actually, honestly, I wouldn't. I would be down with the long distance relationship.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I'm down for.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Just because I have my home that I'm sharing with my children right now.

[Matt Rogers]

Like, it feels good to be by yourself.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I like that. I like when they're away. I like when they're with their dad. I like when I. And to be long distance is cool just because, you know, absence makes the heart grow fonder. And so, you know, it's the anticipation of when we gonna meet next.

[Matt Rogers]

That's how I love that. Right. When Chad and I was together, you know, it was a. I was in Tampa, he was in Miami, and it was just, it was excitement to, oh, I'm going to see my baby. I feel like it's more excitement and the long distance and then you still get be. You're still able to get back home and just have your own, like you don't have to deal with. With.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

Someone 24 hours a day. Like. Okay.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Because we're nurturers too. We like give a lot. We wanna, we might wanna make sure they're good. So it's good to like, kind of like look forward to that. I like that.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah. I'm down. I know a couple actually who were married for seven years, lived apart because they both had their own separate lives, finished building a home together while they were in this relationship and have just now moved in together after seven years.

[Matt Rogers]

Oh, wow.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Of marriage. So, like, I see it and they, they love it. They love it. And I'm down with that. I could see that happening. I'm not, I'm not mad at that.

[Matt Rogers]

I think I wouldn't be mad at it either.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You know, I like that you would.

[Unknown]

Do the marriage too.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, absolutely. Just because I'm, I'm on, I'm on this, my trajectory of where I'm at as Alexis, whoever my partner is will understand that, you know, we are in and out of the country at times. And, you know, where I'm at in my space and just where I am with my children, there's things that they need and whoever invests in me and understands who I am, I'm like down to really accommodate them. Because I want them to accommodate me. Whether it's travel and we can. I love that. Getting. Hopping on the plane, doing a quick 48 hours or trips and tapping in real quick, you know, meeting up for a date night somewhere in. In the middle. I'm down for that too. That's fun. It's exhilarating. Showing up in a trench coat with nothing. Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

Sexy lick.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

As long as they don't, you know, security. They don't pull me over to the side. Right. Something's beeping or something. I have to do a real strip shirt.

[Matt Rogers]

What? You got a bullet.

[Unknown]

Oh, my God.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I mean, I might. That's what I heard. No, I'm just playing. Nah. But low key. It's just. I like that I would be open to it. Just because it's 20, 25 and been in this space and the fact that we travel so much. Yeah, I meet. I meet people in the airport. I meet people, you know, in these. These parties, these events and these exclusive vibes. So they have their life going on, and that's attractive. You know what I'm saying? I got things going on here in Florida. I'm a Miami girl right now, so it's like. But I'm. I'm also a travel friend too, so. Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

Hint, hint. Look at that little laugh.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Look at the mask.

[Matt Rogers]

You never seen Lex blush this much.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You know, we're talking about love. You know, we're exuding love over here. And this is my month. This is my birthday month.

[Matt Rogers]

Oh, yeah, it is your birthday month.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I'm all for it.

[Matt Rogers]

Little freaky little Pisces. You.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Ooh, Is that what they say about us Pisces?

[Matt Rogers]

They say them posse. They say them posses are freaky.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

We are fish.

[Matt Rogers]

You know, they are the. The true definition of a sex expert. Sexpert or Lexpert.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like that.

[Unknown]

I don't know what y'all are talking about, but now it's time for the hot girl headlines. Oh, but actually, I would rather play a game. Are y'all down? Are y'all.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm down.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Cause it's a galentine.

[Unknown]

I mean, y'all got me going.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, I'm a little nervous. I'm a little nervous.

[Matt Rogers]

I'm ready for games. I like games.

[Unknown]

Okay, so the game is called. Would you rather.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay, so back in the day, basement. Would you rather.

[Unknown]

Wait, what? If you was playing games in the.

[Matt Rogers]

Basement, what y'all used to do back in the day in the basement.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Would you rather. I'm just saying. I'm throwing it out.

[Unknown]

Get your mind out the gutter. I'm just playing, actually. Yes. Would you rather. I'mma give y'all some scenarios.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay. Okay.

[Unknown]

And you got to let me know what you would rather do.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

All right.

[Unknown]

Would you rather date someone who's amazing in bed but terrible at communicating or someone who's an incredible communicator but average in the bed?

[Matt Rogers]

You gotta be good in bed.

[Unknown]

Yeah, good in bed. But he sucks at communicating.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

This is tough.

[Matt Rogers]

Cause I know how to carry a conversation. Baby. I just need you to be good and bad.

[Unknown]

But communication, I feel like it breaks up relationships, like, immediately. Like, you can help somebody get better in the bed.

[Matt Rogers]

I mean, we ain't doing nothing but dating, and it ain't like we getting married. I don't know.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I feel like foreplay starts at. Hello.

[Matt Rogers]

Oh.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You know, like, so the communication is part of, like the.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Like that little bit of that.

[Matt Rogers]

You know what? That is true. Because with women.

[Unknown]

Yeah. If it doesn't get you here first.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

That's not gonna get wet.

[Matt Rogers]

That's true.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So I feel like communication is a big deal because then you can communicate what you like and don't like and what you want and don't like what you need and don't need. You know what I'm saying? So that we can.

[Matt Rogers]

But what if they know how to give it to you?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

That's what I'm trying to tell you. Like, I can work with the like. Oh, if they can.

[Matt Rogers]

Okay. What if. What if they. What if they're a good communicator? And what is this?

[Unknown]

Maybe he.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Wait, listen, that's not the question.

[Unknown]

You said average.

[Matt Rogers]

Let's make it interesting. Because average can make you. Let's make it interesting.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So just average sex.

[Matt Rogers]

No, no, no. We finna make it interesting. It says average, but we finna make it interesting.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, my goodness.

[Matt Rogers]

What if he's a great communicator and he's.

[Unknown]

No, probably not. Probably not. It's a pass. It's a haul ass.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It's not even a game. Okay.

[Matt Rogers]

He's a tickler. All right.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

A tickle with no pickle. Okay, thanks.

[Unknown]

Okay, okay, okay. Next one, Next one.

[Matt Rogers]

She's real pickle. Are you rushing the question?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Wait, hold on. We didn't finish.

[Unknown]

We all know we don't want nobody with a little.

[Matt Rogers]

But we got to add Lex.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Communication.

[Matt Rogers]

But with a pickler. A tickler.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, my goodness.

[Matt Rogers]

A tickler with a good. With good communication.

[Unknown]

You don't want it.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I can't do it.

[Unknown]

That's easy. Don't nobody want that.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like depth.

[Matt Rogers]

Huh?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I like depth.

[Unknown]

We going to say no? Everybody wants that. Nobody want nothing little in the bag.

[Matt Rogers]

Well, everybody ain't blessed with.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

But you also don't want anything ginormous either.

[Matt Rogers]

I'd rather have something ginormous than a little tickler.

[Unknown]

I don't think so.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You'd rather go big dog? Like, you'd rather go, like, crazy.

[Matt Rogers]

Ain't nothing that big now.

[Unknown]

Oh, no. Now.

[Matt Rogers]

So you would rather have a tickler than big dog?

[Unknown]

No.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

With the influx of toys and, like, other things, I feel like you could work with a smaller penis compared to a bigger one.

[Matt Rogers]

You can work with the tickling.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I don't want to. Give me the communication. Give me the foreplay. Give me the other things. I don't want. I don't want to smell it.

[Matt Rogers]

I don't think she said she want a big dog.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, she don't want a puppy. She want a big dog. Okay, all right.

[Unknown]

Can we move on now, please?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes, we can.

[Unknown]

Would you rather have an intimate encounter in a public place or a private location? Public or private?

[Matt Rogers]

I would do public.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I would definitely do public.

[Matt Rogers]

It's fun. It's the. It's the excitement of.

[Unknown]

Okay, so have you done it. Have you done it in a public location?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Matt Rogers]

Dressing room.

[Unknown]

Okay. What about you?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

A private bathroom in the back of a club.

[Unknown]

Okay.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I've done it on an airplane.

[Matt Rogers]

Airplane.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Private.

[Unknown]

Oh, you really got them high miles Private.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah. Mile High Club Lex.

[Matt Rogers]

Part of the Mile High Club. Bitch, I ain't even do that.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

Okay. Would you rather have a secret admirer or a confident person who makes their intentions known immediately?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I don't mind. The secret admirer that is going to eventually reveal themselves. Like, we gotta. I need to. I want someone to come up to me. I don't. I'm not. What I don't go after is often I feel like I want someone to be interested in me. And if it's mutual, then I'm like, oh, yeah, let's. Let's lock in. Okay, let's see what's. Let's see what's up with this.

[Unknown]

What do you want? Secret admirer or a confident person who comes up to you immediately?

[Matt Rogers]

I like playing the cat and the mouse.

[Unknown]

Okay, elaborate.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Tell me.

[Matt Rogers]

I would like a secret admirer.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So you want. You want someone to just. Just not reveal who they are, but give you all the hints, give you awesome vibes, but, like, you don't even. You want them to. You want. You Want to figure out who it is?

[Matt Rogers]

It depends on who it is.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

That's what I'm trying to say. What if the grand reveal, after all these things, let's say, for example.

[Matt Rogers]

No, let me.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You know, See, your hair is giving you.

[Unknown]

What?

[Matt Rogers]

Like that man who was messaging you that time?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

No, I need to. This is a catfish situation. I'm ridiculous.

[Unknown]

I need to know who.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You need to know. And if they pull up on you and then they show, like, interest and.

[Matt Rogers]

All of that, then, yeah, I need to know.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So there you go. I need to know, too. I want to know what's up. But come after me if you want this. Come get me.

[Unknown]

Last one. Would you rather be blindfolded or tied up during a spicy encounter?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Both.

[Unknown]

Ooh, shit.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Why can't I choose both?

[Unknown]

All right, that was easy.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Because that element of surprise is there and your senses are heightened because if one of your major senses is taken away, then each. You know, your taste, your hearing, your smell, your touch, everything turns up a bit. Yeah, I like that shit.

[Unknown]

Both.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Unknown]

Tie me up and blindfold this whole.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Episode and give me a safe word.

[Unknown]

All right, y'all. Thank you for playing.

[Matt Rogers]

I like that. We needed to do a little bit more of that ash.

[Unknown]

All right, I got y'all. Next time, we'll dive a little deeper into. Would you rather.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Bowen Yang]

Yes.

[Unknown]

What do we have now, Lex?

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[Matt Rogers]

Never out of my lane Feel like.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You want this is a segment of unfiltered and unfollowed.

[Unknown]

Yes.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes. The wedding invite snub. I mean, we all feel some kind of way when we're not invited somewhere, Right. A girl you considered a friend gets engaged, plans a big wedding, but doesn't invite you, but still watches all your IG stories follow, unfollow or block.

[Unknown]

I wouldn't. I would keep following her. I feel like we're still friends. Not everybody's invited to everything, especially, like, life events. Events. Weddings are big. Weddings are expensive. Exactly. Expensive. All the things there for, you know, whoever the bride and groom want to be there.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

So I wouldn't take it personal.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

I wouldn't take it personal unless it's a close friend. But if it's just a friend, you know, they have who they want to invite to their. And like Ashley said, they are expensive.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Matt Rogers]

Nothing to take personal.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah. Because you never know. It could be an intimate wedding of ten. It could be. Or it could be whatever. So we don't know. We don't know. I like that. The Toxic Podcast, bro. A guy you went on one date with starts a podcast where he rants about how modern women bring nothing to the table. Do you follow back, unfollow or block?

[Unknown]

It's a lot of those, child. We'll be unfollowing the whole goddamn Instagram balloon pop. Yeah. I feel like everybody. Everybody, you know, has an opinion. Everybody wants to share their opinion. And if. And it's a podcast, if you disagree with everybody and everything, like, you won't have any friends. You won't have. You know what I mean? It's like, it's your. Your right to feel how you feel and say what you want to say. You know what I'm saying? You can't take everything to heart. Now, if it's something like, you know, there are some topics that we can really, like, stand on and be like, okay, I need to set myself apart from this person. Yeah. But if it's just, you know, know it's a lot of dumb stuff on the Internet. I feel like you just have to filter it out, let it go in one ear and out the other.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Cherelle, what do you think you want to talk about?

[Matt Rogers]

I feel like it's just a podcast. Like, they're entitled to their opinions, just like we are entitled to our opinions. We have a podcast, so it's nothing to get mad about. That's what it's for.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

That was their experience.

[Matt Rogers]

Exactly.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Pretty much. I like that. What about the ghosting Comeback. Someone who ghosted you six months ago suddenly pops into your dm. Hey, stranger. Or hey, big head. What are we gonna do, ladies?

[Matt Rogers]

Ignore.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Cause six months is a minute, right?

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

That's a lot. They see you popping. They see you maybe a new haircut, new vibe. New vibe.

[Matt Rogers]

Like you don't care.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, yeah. Ignore, Ignore. Yeah, I like that. What about the ex's new boo? Your ex's new girlfriend follows you first. Likes all your old posts and comments. So pretty. What are we doing, ladies? From a pick two years ago.

[Unknown]

That's so weird.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Two years ago.

[Matt Rogers]

That's weird.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

What are we doing?

[Unknown]

I would probably ignore that too.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

Ignore that.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

They're a fan, right? Their fan behavior.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay.

[Unknown]

Weird behavior. Weirdos.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay. The one who owes you money.

[Matt Rogers]

They.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Still haven't paid you back, but they're posting luxurious vacations, brunches, and concert tickets. What are we doing, ladies?

[Matt Rogers]

I'm calling them, messaging them. Where is my money?

[Unknown]

Exactly.

[Matt Rogers]

Where are my coins?

[Unknown]

Exactly.

[Matt Rogers]

You're doing a little bit too much over there. Them income tax done hit. I need my coins.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So not only are we, we're gonna still keep following.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah. And we'll follow. Follow up. Yeah, Follow up.

[Unknown]

Absolutely.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Follow up.

[Matt Rogers]

Right?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Or pull up. And lastly, the gym selfie overload. Someone posts 15 gym selfies a day plus every workout set. Are we following blocking or is that too much? What are we doing, guys?

[Matt Rogers]

I mean, if it's something that they do and it's their how they get paid, it's motivating.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

So it's lifestyle behavior.

[Matt Rogers]

I'll be like, okay, they got something new.

[Unknown]

I feel like I wouldn't unfollow or anything, but sometimes people do over post.

[Matt Rogers]

Something you're gonna mute.

[Unknown]

I mean, I love the music. Not for gym selfies because, like, I need motivating, like for gym. But if somebody's posting, for instance, them always shopping or always like spending money frivolously, you know, that's something that I need to work on. So I might like mute them.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

Because I don't need to be seeing that. Like, I have to be conscious of the stuff that I'm taking in every day.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Absolutely.

[Unknown]

So if it's something that I feel triggers me and it's something that I'm trying to work on. Like if I see them going out to the club all the time or drinking all the time, and it's something that I'm personally trying to work on, then I might mute them or unfollow.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Understand?

[Unknown]

But going to the Gym I need to do more of.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Listen, I see Cherelle in the gym and you motivate me.

[Matt Rogers]

By the way, I have my little gym poster too. And then I throw up to do.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Sis, you motivate me.

[Unknown]

I motivate you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm like, them legs. Let me see what Sherel doing today. I need to get that workout in and that fit. So I'm following.

[Unknown]

I. I don't like, do be doing too much, but you don't be doing too much.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

No, you don't.

[Matt Rogers]

Some people be. Yeah, some people be doing too too much. I be in the gym. Like, girl, you need to stop.

[Unknown]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

And then they'll pull they pants up tight so they little camel or moose knuckle can show.

[Unknown]

That is crazy.

[Matt Rogers]

What is you doing over there?

[Unknown]

One time, Phil bought me those leggings where it like, scrun in the booty.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I got the camel and I was.

[Unknown]

Like, I cannot share this. The scrunchie.

[Matt Rogers]

I got something.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Wait, what do you call it?

[Matt Rogers]

The scrunchie?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Booty. Scrunch. Booty.

[Unknown]

Is that what. I just can't do it. I just feel like you see too much. Like you can see all of my ass up in the crack, you know, you can see I have some of those.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I cannot wear those. I would turn that gym upside down.

[Unknown]

I can wear those. I have a big old booty, but I just still feel like I wear some of them.

[Matt Rogers]

But it's not too much of a.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Scrunch because it enhances it for sure.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, it does enhance it.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You think people want to be.

[Matt Rogers]

I love my low cut. My low back cuts where it's like the whole back is out and then it. It's a low cut.

[Unknown]

I am not cute in the gym. When I work out, I look mess. Yeah. It's nothing cute about it.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, I'm locked in. But I get cute sometime.

[Unknown]

Yeah. I do not be cute for you. Sweated out.

[Matt Rogers]

Yes.

[Unknown]

The clothes. I got all my old Nike stuff from when Phil had his Nike contract. I got brand new Nike stuff. It's old, but new. Like. Yes, but it's not like the cute scrunch booty and the all the new, like, cut.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Unknown]

Outfits that they have. I don't have none of that look.

[Matt Rogers]

The gym has turned into a fashion show.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

It does.

[Matt Rogers]

Like, you got to come in there matching from head to toe.

[Unknown]

It's a club at this point.

[Matt Rogers]

Even the prison. Even the prison gyms. And I go to a prison gym.

[Unknown]

You call it.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Oh, wait, a what?

[Matt Rogers]

Prison gym.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Where it don't look, please tell me what.

[Matt Rogers]

It don't look good on the inside. It's a lot of freeway weights. It's. It's like. Ready?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Prison gym.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah, we call it the prison gym. You got trap music in there. And you. You and I just.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

You. And they're locked in.

[Matt Rogers]

Locked in. Even the prison gyms turned into a fashion show.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm not mad at the motivation, though. Like, I'm here for it. Let me. Let me see what's going on. I want to see progress. I want to see the vibes, all of that. Yes, yes, yes.

[Matt Rogers]

Listen, I'm coming out with a little bit a leg video. So y'all make sure y'all stay tuned.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Let us know. You do have some beautiful legs.

[Matt Rogers]

Thank you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Well, ladies, it was getting real hot and spicy up in here. You know, we in the gym, we in the bedroom, we got shorty. It's the big ones and all this kind of stuff. What do we have next, lady? Cherelle? What you got for us, sis?

[Matt Rogers]

Listen, y'all, I got the humble Betty's mail. And we thank you guys for submitting. We make sure we, you know, we find someone. We pick it. We don't know what it is until the day of. So this week we have Rhonda.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Hey, Rhonda.

[Matt Rogers]

And Rhonda needs our advice. Let's hear what Rhonda has to say.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Okay, sis.

[Matt Rogers]

Okay, Rhonda. I've been in a relationship with a man who is paralyzed. And despite all my efforts to care for him, washing his clothes, helping him daily, he keeps mistreating me. He throws things at me when he's upset. And he recently started hitting my legs with his cane. I understand he's likely frustrated, but I'm reaching my breaking point. Do you think it's time for me to walk away since he can't?

[Unknown]

Now, Rhonda, first of all, was that Shay talking about, is it time for me to walk away since he can't? Was that shade or not?

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Am I tripping? Rhonda, since you gotta get some distance. Okay, let's start with that first.

[Unknown]

I don't care if you're paralyzed, disabled, or whatever. Nobody should endure abuse. Like, there's no harm for that. If he can't use his words, then it's an issue. It's a problem. So I definitely think that you should step away, make sure you find, like, a safe space.

[Matt Rogers]

You know, you should run away.

[Unknown]

You should be able to find a safe space so that you guys can figure out your situation. And if he can't Figure out a way to. To discuss whatever y'all issues are, then it's time for you to walk away for sure.

[Matt Rogers]

Run away. Run away.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah, I agree with Ash. Like, it's time to go.

[Unknown]

Maybe he needs some therapy of some sort.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Because if you're the caretaker and this person is dependent on you, that's abuse. Like, there's ways to communicate, there's verbal ways. I don't like that. I don't like that. Rhonda, you might have to let him go.

[Unknown]

And he needs to get some help. If he's frustrated, he needs to find better ways to deal with his frustration not hitting you.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

And I know they have assistant assistance for that. Given the situation, there are people who can handle the. The influx and the up and down of behavior issues. That sounds a little deeper. I'm nobody's doctor or anything like that, but you know when you're starting to abuse others emotionally and mentally and they're taking the time to help you, that's not. That's not good.

[Matt Rogers]

It's not good. Serious. On a serious note. Yes, he needs help and you need to get away from that relationship.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Matt Rogers]

Because physical abuse is not it. And yeah, we don't condone in it. Like, and you shouldn't either. You shouldn't take that. Right. So definitely run away.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Yes. Don't walk. Run.

[Matt Rogers]

That's the end of it. That's our Humble Betty's mail. If you all have anything that you want to submit, send over to us. And remember, we are giving away $2,500 to one small black owned business. Subscribe to the podcast.

[Unknown]

Yes.

[Matt Rogers]

In order to get these $2,500. Absolutely.

[Unknown]

Let's go. Thank you so much for tuning in to Humble Baddies. You can find me at ash3nicole.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

I'm Alexis Walsh Stoudemire. You can find me at Alexis Stoudemire.

[Matt Rogers]

And I'm Sherelle Rosado. You can find me at Shirelle Rosado. Underscore. Thank you again for tuning in to Humble Baddies for our Galentine Edition episode. Whether you're celebrating Valentine's Day with a partner, your friend, friends. Or enjoying some well deserved self love, we hope that your day is filled with joy and appreciation.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

Spread the love, everybody.

[Matt Rogers]

We love you guys.

[Alexis Welch Stoudemire]

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