Ari Fletcher’s Wild Statement, Unfollowing Your Ex, & Giving The Silent Treatment

Summary

Club Shay Shay Podcast — Episode Summary

Episode: Ari Fletcher’s Wild Statement, Unfollowing Your Ex, & Giving The Silent Treatment
Date: January 27, 2026
Host: Shannon Sharpe (iHeartPodcasts / Shay Shay Media)
Guests/Co-hosts: Azar Faraday and Paul Peasy

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Overview

This episode of Club Shay Shay dives into viral relationship debates and online culture, focusing on hot topics like Ari Fletcher’s infamous controversial statement, boundaries with exes on social media, the “ick” factor in dating, and the silent treatment in relationships. Hosts Azar Faraday and Paul Peasy keep it candid, humorous, and very real, exchanging personal stories, social critiques, and advice on everything from relationship boundaries to viral social media memes.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Viral Relationship Tests & Truth-Telling

• “Resting My Eyes” = Liar?
  • The hosts discuss a trending Instagram theory: If a man is snoring and claims he was just "resting his eyes," he's a liar.
    • Azar: "Me personally, I don't agree with that. I think that's crazy." (07:56)
    • Paul: "She is way off with that ... y’all are following the wrong advice from people on Instagram." (09:04)
• Takeaway: Internet “tests” for honesty are often oversimplified and not to be treated as relationship gospel.

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2. Ari Fletcher’s “Wild Statement” — Age Gaps and Outrage

• Controversial Rant: The episode spotlights a clip chastising men who avoid dating women over 30, accusing them of being inappropriate, even criminal.
  • Quote: "Men that are hyper fixated on this idea that women expire after the age of 30 are pedos ... you should go to jail ... you're a sick individual." (09:26)
• Hosts React:
  • Paul: Finds the leap to "pedo" labeling absurd; brings up inconsistencies in age gap logic.
  • Azar: Points out the nuance in age, law, and development, especially regarding much younger women.
    • "At 14 years old, they have no business dealing with no grown ass man. That is disgusting." (12:43)
• Age Gap Debate:
  • Paul: 25 is his minimum, regardless of his age.
  • Azar: Still finds large age gaps problematic, especially from her female perspective.
• Double Standards: Both acknowledge the societal double standard regarding older women dating younger men.
  • "I don't double standard it. But you're the one who said double standards are okay..." (17:18)
• Hosts agree: Blanket labeling is reckless; context matters in age gap discussions.

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3. Sex, Money, and the Limits of “The Price”

• Ari Fletcher’s Further Viral Statement: Admits she’d let someone defecate on her for the right price.
  • Azar: "I don't have a price. I'm not getting shit on." (36:06)
  • Paul: "30,000 ... that’s the going rate." (36:24)
  • Discussion swerves to what people would (or wouldn't) do for money—most 'lines' involve sexual acts and dignity.

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4. Turn-Offs and “The Ick” in Dating

• First Date Red Flags:
  • Azar: Men not opening the car door, being inconsiderate, or having visible plumber’s crack are “the ick.” (21:21)
  • Paul: Women wearing tennis shoes or Jordans on a fancy first date, being vegan and not communicating dietary needs, or not wanting to share a drink.
• Sloppy Drunk, Clumsiness:
  • Both agree being sloppy drunk or clumsy (like fainting or frequent falling) on early dates is a major turn-off.

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5. Relationship Boundaries — Social Media & Exes

• Posting Your Significant Other:
  • Paul: Prefers privacy to avoid drama or inviting outsiders’ opinions.
  • Azar: Used to post partners but sees both sides; breakups can make prior posts awkward.
• Following Exes:
  • Paul: Indifferent—doesn’t think it’s a big deal unless there’s active engagement.
  • Azar: Firmly unfollows exes: "I'm not keeping up with the Kardashians. I don't have to see what you're up to..." (47:59)

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6. “More or Less” — Relationship Dilemmas Game

(Segment starts at 48:51)

• Hiding Your Phone vs. Snooping:
  • Both agree: Going through your partner’s phone is more disrespectful than being protective of your device. (49:33)
  • "Just ask ... before I go through your phone, I'ma know something is up." — Paul (49:33)
• Texting Ex "Happy Birthday My Love" vs. Deleting Messages from a New Interest:
  • Deleting messages from someone new is worse; both are unacceptable if you’re in a committed relationship.
• Vent to Friends vs. Opposite Sex:
  • Venting to the opposite sex is riskier; can create space for emotional affairs.
• Lying about Where You Are vs. Who You’re With:
  • Lying about who you’re with is the bigger problem.
• Silent Treatment vs. Trash-Talking Your Partner:
  • Both hurtful, but Azar notes the silent treatment is her #1 “non-negotiable,” calling it a form of major disrespect. (58:30)
• Staying in Contact with Someone Who Wants You:
  • Azar: Staying in touch despite knowing their intentions is disrespectful.
  • Paul: “As long as you keep boundaries...”
• Communication and Battles:
  • Both stress the importance of picking your battles and not nitpicking every issue in a relationship.

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7. Advice & Fan Questions

(Segment starts around 66:02)

• Intimacy Issues:
  • A listener asks about a partner who won’t "go down"—unanimous advice: Communicate your needs.
  • Paul: “You gotta do things you don't wanna do to make it work.” (67:33)
  • Azar: “I don’t want anyone doing something sexually that you don’t like doing." (68:14)
• Feeling Unappreciated:
  • Open a direct conversation about reciprocity. Don't let things slide until resentment builds.
  • Paul: “As a man, we just want to feel appreciated ... Reciprocate the energy.” (70:46)
• Baby Mom Drama:
  • Is it a red flag if a partner’s ex sends pics (with herself and the kid)? Yes—address it, but pick battles wisely.
• Dating with Children:
  • Referenced Dr. Cheyenne Bryant’s viral statement: “Dating a man with children is like being in a polyamorous relationship.”
  • Azar: "You have to communicate ... If you love him, you're going to have to love his children and be a part of his life." (74:44)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Viral "Liar Test":
  • “She is way off with that ... y’all are following the wrong advice from people on Instagram.”
    — Paul (09:04)
• On Dating Age Gaps:
  • "I just think that when I was 25 ... I have no business being with a 50 year old man."
    — Azar (16:27)
• On Ari Fletcher's Statement:
  • "I'm not getting shit on. I will not derail myself on that level for no money."
    — Azar (36:06)
• On Social Media & Exes:
  • "I'm not keeping up with the Kardashians. I don't have to see what you're up to..."
    — Azar (47:59)
• On Being Unappreciated:
  • “As a man, we just want to feel appreciated ... Reciprocate the energy.”
    — Paul (70:46)
• On Silent Treatment:
  • "The silent treatment is like a form of major disrespect. Like, you're going to ignore me intentionally?"
    — Azar (58:28)
• On Kids from Previous Relationships:
  • "If you love him, you're going to have to love his children and be a part of his life."
    — Azar (74:44)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Social Media "Liar Test" Discussion: 07:06 – 09:14
• Ari Fletcher’s Viral Age Rant: 09:23 – 11:29
• Deep Dive on Age Gaps & Laws: 12:04 – 17:06
• What’s Your Price?/Ari’s Dubai Statement: 35:03 – 37:03
• First Date “Icks” & Turnoffs: 20:07 – 24:44
• Posting Your Partner & Social Media Boundaries: 44:49 – 47:18
• Following/Unfollowing Exes: 47:18 – 48:51
• "More or Less" Relationship Dilemmas Game: 48:51 – 64:41
• Fan Questions & Advice: 66:02 – 73:57
• Blended Families & Dr. Bryant’s Viral Take: 73:57 – 76:28

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Tone, Style, and Conclusion

Throughout, Azar and Paul blend blunt honesty, relatable stories, and occasional banter—keeping the mood playful yet insightful. They tackle viral internet culture with skepticism, acknowledge the complexities of relationships, and suggest communication as the ultimate tool, even on awkward topics.

For listeners who want real talk (and a few laughs) about modern relationships, boundaries, and social media antics, this episode is packed with stories, personal opinions, and advice straight from the front lines of today’s dating world.

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Tip: Skip the lengthy integrations and ads—most of the juiciest, most relevant conversation starts around 07:00 and heats up consistently through the fan question advice hour.

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[Paul Peasy]

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[Azar Faraday]

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[Paul Peasy]

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[Azar Faraday]

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[Azar Faraday]

Lord, I'm nervous. Okay, so let's get straight into some stuff. So basically, there is a woman on Instagram and she was like, I have a very sure way to tell you if your man is a liar or not, right?

[Paul Peasy]

A sure way.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, you know how they say, like, I have a way that's like, yeah, tried and true of whether or not your man is a liar, Period, point blank. She said, this always works. You're gonna know if your man is a liar. You're gonna know whatever, right from jump. She said, if your man is dozing off and he's full blown snoring everything, and then he wakes back up and you're like, baby, were you asleep? And he's like, nah, nah, nah, I wasn't asleep. She said, he's the dirty dog liar. Cause why would he lie about that? Me personally, I don't agree with that. I think that's crazy. But so many women were like, oh, my God.

[Paul Peasy]

He was resting his eyes. Snoring, resting his eyes.

[Azar Faraday]

You snore. Rest your eyes.

[Paul Peasy]

What time is it?

[Azar Faraday]

It don't matter.

[Paul Peasy]

It do matter.

[Azar Faraday]

She's saying he's lying.

[Paul Peasy]

It do matter. That's what I'm trying to tell you. How y' all gonna speak on men? I done been in this situation. If it's 2:30, I'm resting my eyes. I wasn't sleeping and I was.

[Azar Faraday]

When you rest your eyes, I was.

[Paul Peasy]

Listening to the tv. I didn't want to see it. I want to listen so you snore.

[Azar Faraday]

You can hear when you're.

[Paul Peasy]

I can hear what? I'm snoring? Yes. I can hear the tv. I'm actually watching, hearing it. But then I wake up, like 15 minutes. Like, I know exactly what's going on.

[Azar Faraday]

While you wake up. I thought you weren't asleep. How you waking up from not being asleep?

[Paul Peasy]

Because I was resting my eyes.

[Azar Faraday]

So that means you open your eyes, you don't wake up.

[Paul Peasy]

So I was asleep. I was resting my eyes.

[Azar Faraday]

So you don't wake up, you open your eyes. You just said I wake up. Waking up.

[Paul Peasy]

Well, people assume that when you close your eyes, you sleep, so.

[Azar Faraday]

Right. So it's indicative to say that I opened my eyes. I didn't just wake up.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah. Okay. So I was. I just opened my eyes.

[Azar Faraday]

So you don't think that's a way to show if a man is lying?

[Paul Peasy]

She is way off with that. Way off. If y' all go for that, then y' all are following the wrong advice from people on Instagram.

[Azar Faraday]

I think so too. I agree with that. 100.

[Paul Peasy]

I think that she said, let me wake up.

[Azar Faraday]

So I'm gonna show you a clip of this woman, right? And then you could react to it.

[Paul Peasy]

Okay, this is the one.

[Azar Faraday]

Men that are hyper fixated on this idea that women expire after the age of 30 are pedos. What the do you mean you are a whole ass grown ass man and you don't like a grown ass woman? Huh? What do you like? Actually, don't answer that. I already know. You need to stay away from all schools, all playgrounds, and all children, boys and girls, immediately and fore. You guys tell on yourselves every single time you make a comment on a grown woman's age, you're expired after 30 and you're a monster. You are a monster and you need professional help. You actually need to go to jail. And then if you get out, you need to go to hell immediately after. You're a sick individual. Not only are screws loose, but they're completely missing. Completely missing. You guys should be so ashamed and embarrassed to even say these intrusive thoughts you have out loud. Right? You should get some professional help if you don't find women that are your age of age attractive. Yeah, yeah, Okay. I hope you heard that loud and clear.

[Paul Peasy]

I mean, how much more does I have to hear? I've already made an opinion on this. See, first off, you just skipped the whole goddamn decade, girl. So if a guy say past 30, you a pedophile. So if you mess with somebody 29. That don't make sense. That'll make sense to me. Come on now. Don't, don't, don't. She been hurt, you can tell that she got some pain in her heart. She must be cooked. Must call her cooked. Talking about you a petty if you don't mess with somebody over 30. Like what girl you cooked girl? Man, I need you to come on this show and explain yourself. Whoever that was. Cuz she got some animosity in her heart calling G petty. You should go to jail, you should go to hell. So if you 45, you can't date a 29 year old. 28, 27, 26, 25.

[Azar Faraday]

I mean that is a big age gap. Like if I was grown ass woman.

[Paul Peasy]

You're a grown ass woman.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but if I was 45 and I was dating a 25 year old, I would feel that that was strange. I would feel.

[Paul Peasy]

How is it strange?

[Azar Faraday]

Because I have a nephew that's 25.

[Paul Peasy]

But still, how is it strange if you grown. Only Americans think like this.

[Azar Faraday]

Let's not get into like it's true.

[Paul Peasy]

Only Americans.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, because overseas married women that are, they marry girls that are 14. That's what you're saying, right?

[Paul Peasy]

Culture.

[Azar Faraday]

Right.

[Paul Peasy]

And that's okay, but who's to say what's the proper age? Who's to say?

[Azar Faraday]

Well, it's about, it's about your law.

[Paul Peasy]

In your country because like go. If you go back in the days where God kings were marrying, you know, based on family and I don't know what the age is and I know there's laws in America, there's laws in all these different countries. Me personally, I think that there is something to an age gap. Like I think 25 is the number for me, 25 is the number. If 25 is the lowest, I'm going, I don't care if I'm 78, 25 is the lowest.

[Azar Faraday]

Let me tell you something, it's not about the laws, it's about the laws.

[Paul Peasy]

It is about the laws.

[Azar Faraday]

No to you because.

[Paul Peasy]

No it's not to me, it's to everybody.

[Azar Faraday]

But I'm saying if the laws was 14. Let me talk. Cause I just let you get your stuff off. If the laws is 14 and you want to date someone that's 14 because the law says that's okay. There's something mentally wrong with that man. And I'm going to tell you why. Because at 14 years old I was a 14 year old. You had daughters that were 14. At 14 years old, you know, just like I know they have no business dealing with no grown ass man. That is disgusting. Because number one, you're not fully developed mentally. You don't even know your own body. You don't even understand your menstruation cycle. You don't even understand how you're going to.

[Paul Peasy]

You're going off into something. No, I've never said. That's about no teenager age. Nothing.

[Azar Faraday]

No, but what I'm telling you, it doesn't matter when you're. I was a woman so I understand how it feels to be at all these different ages of being from 25 to 14. Because we're talking about the laws in different countries. In different countries you said it matters what the law says. That's what matters. In different countries it's okay to date someone who's 14 years old.

[Paul Peasy]

I don't know what these laws is in these other countries is you just.

[Azar Faraday]

Said the kings and queens get to date young kids that are.

[Paul Peasy]

I didn't say that. You got to rewind this. I didn't say that. I didn't say that.

[Azar Faraday]

You didn't say the kings and the queens were dating young girls. I don't know know the age, the ages were young.

[Paul Peasy]

They were 14 or 18 or not. I don't know.

[Azar Faraday]

But even at 18, when I was 18, I didn't know nothing. Like I was not developed in that way. And it just. To me, I had no business dealing with a fit like that is sick to me and on so many different levels. Because if you want someone who's 18, to me it shows me that you just want someone that is not mentally mature, that's not developed, that's just going to. Let's go with the okie doke and just be with whatever. If that's what you want, cool. But at the same time it's like, like if you want to have an actual relationship and not just like a dictatorship, then you should want someone who actually can talk to you, that can understand the world on a different level. At 18 you don't understand life like that.

[Paul Peasy]

Like I'm saying, do you understand life?

[Azar Faraday]

I mean, you have daughters, that's 17, probably going to be 18.

[Paul Peasy]

What age.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you know how kids operate? You look at your daughters as grown women to deal with 50 year old men. No, you don't. You look at them like they barely still know how to brush their teeth at that age. They still don't know how to take care of themselves fully at that age. They still need me to take care of them. They still need me to do all this stuff for them. When you see actual kids grow, you know that that's not. Why are you closing your eyes? What are you so.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm listening.

[Azar Faraday]

No, go ahead.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm listening.

[Azar Faraday]

Like for me, when I see that, because I have nieces that are that age, when I watch those people. What?

[Paul Peasy]

I'm listening. You look like you want to say something. I will say it when you're done.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm done. I'm done.

[Paul Peasy]

You done?

[Azar Faraday]

Yes.

[Paul Peasy]

I get what you're saying, but it's like for me, I'm not into that teenage and grown man thing. I completely agree. But also, man, you gotta understand, like, I done seen like when I was in high school, it was girls in my school that was like 16, 17, grown men picking them up.

[Azar Faraday]

But when he said grown, were they like 23?

[Paul Peasy]

I don't know. You grown. I mean, you, you drive and you got a whole beard.

[Azar Faraday]

Being 23.

[Paul Peasy]

I don't know.

[Azar Faraday]

And dating someone who's 17 is different than being 45 and 48.

[Paul Peasy]

But I said 25. I said 20.

[Azar Faraday]

You're saying you would date someone who's 25 and you're damn near 50 years old, so they're 25 years younger than you. That is like ridiculous. Crazy age.

[Paul Peasy]

Ridiculous. What age are you? A grown woman?

[Azar Faraday]

You.

[Paul Peasy]

You.

[Azar Faraday]

It takes you a minute to really so.

[Paul Peasy]

25. 25.

[Azar Faraday]

I just think that when I was 25.

[Paul Peasy]

25, it's not dumb.

[Azar Faraday]

It's like I have no business being with a 50 year old man when I'm 25.

[Paul Peasy]

If the, if she likes them, like you act like that don't happen.

[Azar Faraday]

It is what it is. I don't really care. But my daughter, when she was 25, I pray she don't come home with a 50 year old man. That would be.

[Paul Peasy]

I would be crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

It don't matter how y' all look, Dud man. And, and, and when you're older, it's a difference whether you look cool or not. There's a huge difference from a man that's 35. Just like you say, there's a huge difference with women. Oh, there's a huge difference from a man. A man who's younger and a man who's older. It's a very big difference. And just like you say women are cooked over 30 and all this stuff, it's the same thing. Like, men who are older operate way differently than a man.

[Paul Peasy]

But it's okay for a woman to date a young man?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't think that's okay. I literally think it's disgusting and disturbing. I say that all the time. I think it's extremely wrong.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, double standard everything.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't double standard it. But you're the one who said double standards are okay, did you not?

[Paul Peasy]

It depends on what side it's on. It's okay for a woman to do it, but it's not okay for a man. Yeah, that's the double standard we talked about.

[Azar Faraday]

So you think it's okay for a man to do that and a woman not? I don't think it's okay for a woman to date.

[Paul Peasy]

I think we don't look at it the same.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I can agree with you. And. And let me just say this. What the girl said about men being pedophiles, because they, like. I think that's ridiculous, and I think that's super disrespectful, and I don't agree with that at all. Like, she's taking it way far. Girl, get your together, because you just saying anything. I don't know what her name is. It's not relevant. Yeah, but I don't care about what her name is. The point of the matter is you saying that to me is like, just categorizing a group of men to be pedophiles is very, very reckless to say.

[Paul Peasy]

Maybe we should tag her.

[Azar Faraday]

We're gonna do all of this in the edit. Me and Darnell already talked about all of this.

[Paul Peasy]

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So.

[Azar Faraday]

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[Paul Peasy]

Emotionally, what turns a man off? Woo.

[Azar Faraday]

Man.

[Paul Peasy]

What turns a man off physically by the woman?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, sexually, sexually, emotionally, emotionally. Anything. Like what are some turn offs? Like big.

[Paul Peasy]

What is the situation though? But what's the situation? We gotta come up with the scenario. First date, your girl, your wife. Second, third date, we just met. Like it's levels to it. Well, because your girl can do something that's a first date can't do, right?

[Azar Faraday]

That's true.

[Paul Peasy]

You know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

So let's talk about the first date. What are instances? Like, like little things. Like it could be little things. Like for instance, if I'm on a date and a first date with a man, right? And like I get it. Like not men. All men are gentlemen. So they're not gonna necessarily open the car door. Okay, we know that that's like wishful thinking with a man, right? And I don't expect that every time. But like we're on a first date and if a man is like chopping it down, getting in the car first, getting comfortable and I'm in my heels just standing there.

[Paul Peasy]

What you mean what?

[Azar Faraday]

That's blowing me and you never unlock the car for me to get in the car immediately. No, because you're inconsiderate. Like let's say like the man is talking to someone and like moving slow and he just has you sitting at the car door like this and where he at? He's moving around, he's getting to his door, taking a long time. Then he gets in the car, closes his door, gets comfortable and then unlocks the door and you're just standing there in your heels like a first date. I'm never talking to you again. And that's a small thing. As a woman.

[Paul Peasy]

What kind of car is it?

[Azar Faraday]

Complete. It doesn't matter. Why is that?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, that matters. No, it doesn't.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't care if he was in a Bentley.

[Paul Peasy]

Don't have, he got the Rolls, Rolls.

[Azar Faraday]

Royce, baby, whatever you got. If I'm standing there in heels while you get comfortable as a grown ass.

[Paul Peasy]

Man and put a seatbelt on and.

[Azar Faraday]

Then put a seatbelt on and get comfortable and adjust and then unlock the door, you're blowing me.

[Paul Peasy]

You petty as hell.

[Azar Faraday]

That's not petty. Most women will do that. It's called being a gentleman. But I guess that's a lost part in this society.

[Paul Peasy]

What if he had to clean the seat? He had to clean.

[Azar Faraday]

He didn't unlock the door. Way before that. You should see your woman standing there. That's so inconsiderate. Men don't think about those things. A woman got dressed, she put on heels, she got cracking for you. It's cold outside. You're standing there, you're waiting, you're waiting, you're waiting.

[Paul Peasy]

It's like.

[Azar Faraday]

It's like you're a grown ass man though. Did not consider me those little things I could just. I could foresee in the future. Like, this is the thing. I'll give you a second date to see if you're gonna do some shit like that again. Cause I give people a little chance. Like, let's see if you just. That was just a one off. You was drinking, you was vibing, and you just did some weird shit.

[Paul Peasy]

So he must ain't got one of the. He so. All right, so he ain't got that card when he walk up to it. The door unlock.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I mean your side. The one person's side unlocked.

[Paul Peasy]

That's what I'm saying. He just walked up, he didn't even grab his key. But no, he had to get in to open the door.

[Azar Faraday]

The Range Rover doesn't do that.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, dude.

[Azar Faraday]

No, it doesn't. You stand at that door, trust me. Until it's unlocked and the handle comes out. It does the passing the. The driver side. And then you want to get out, your ass crack is showing. Once the ass crack shows when you're getting out the car, that's blowing.

[Paul Peasy]

Who for? A guy. The guy.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. No, I don't want to see an ass crack as and I don't want to see no like draws ass out. Why is your ass out? Like, if your ass is out, okay, you doing too damn.

[Paul Peasy]

I guess for me, if it's the first day you wear tennis shoes. You blowing me. You coming in some Jordans. I don't give a damn. They the nicest Jordans. You blowing.

[Azar Faraday]

That is blowing.

[Paul Peasy]

First date, I'm taking you to Mastros. You got them Jordans on. I'm like, what? Like, come on. I thought the heels on this the first D snake, right? Damn. What you coming in crying Jordan crying gotta blow me. I'm gonna be like, man, you know what? I'm a re. I'm gonna be like, we ain't going here. I'm gonna have to take you somewhere else. I'm gonna adjust them based. I'm gonna adjust based on how you dress. I'm gonna have to take you to In N Out. Nah, we ain't going to Mastros. Not like this. No, I'm good. That's gonna turn me off. Then another thing. What? What? On some physical or what? Another thing that's gonna drive me, that's gonna run me low. The first day, second day, where we at with it? What are we looking at anyway?

[Azar Faraday]

First or second?

[Paul Peasy]

First day, second day, third day, whatever.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Peasy]

All right. I don't like the fact if we go to the restaurant and. No, this is. Dang, this gonna blow me. You don't tell me you vegan before we go out. That's gonna blow me. Don't. Don't tell me I didn't look the. I didn't got you to the best spot. Now you telling me you vegan and all of this. I'm like, damn, I got you to the best steakhouse and you ain't even tell me that that'll blow me. I mean, I could work with you, but, like, damn. Come on. You gotta give me better communication.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, okay. Is that him?

[Paul Peasy]

And then if you ain't having no drinks with your boy, then I don't even know if we can date.

[Azar Faraday]

Damn.

[Paul Peasy]

I mean, we gotta be able to have a glass of wine. Some. Damn. Like, damn.

[Azar Faraday]

I was in a relationship with someone. My ex was a vegan, and he.

[Paul Peasy]

Wasn'T gonna work out. That ain't gonna work for me.

[Azar Faraday]

But he was a gangster. But he didn't drink. And we had a ball, though. Nah, Just because you don't drink or.

[Paul Peasy]

Or. Or eat steaks. No. Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

No. His thing was, like, people had to be high or drunk to. He was like. I feel like in la, because he was from New York, Brooklyn. He was like, I feel like in la, men have to be drunk and high to, like, want to get crap. Like, what's up? He was like, I don't have to be drunk. Huh.

[Paul Peasy]

To talk to a female. No.

[Azar Faraday]

To, like, other men. Like, he be on head, on a swivel.

[Paul Peasy]

We just out having a good time.

[Azar Faraday]

But if someone has a good personality and they don't need to be lit, then they don't need to be lit. Cause I feel like that's true.

[Paul Peasy]

I mean, I didn't dated. I didn't dated a girl who didn't do none of that. And it was cool. It was cool.

[Azar Faraday]

It Was cool. So I don't feel like you have to have.

[Paul Peasy]

But that was a long time ago. Over decades ago. So now it changed.

[Azar Faraday]

So now it's just like you have to have liquor. Cause I could be a vibe without no liquor. I can have a ball.

[Paul Peasy]

You gotta have a glass of wine. Well, you gotta be on my vibe. You gotta be on my energy. Let's have a. Let's have a glass of wine or something. Come on, let's go. We ain't doing nothing tonight, you know. Come on now. Like you over there looking square. Let's come on now. Let's kick it. What's going on?

[Azar Faraday]

That's crazy. What if I want some, like I'm on a like detox, honey.

[Paul Peasy]

All right, all right. After your detox.

[Azar Faraday]

All right.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm gonna hit you up after your detox. How long your detox gonna be? What, two more? Three. Three more.

[Azar Faraday]

So, okay, if you're in a relationship with someone.

[Paul Peasy]

Oh, relationship now?

[Azar Faraday]

No, let's say you're in a relationship.

[Paul Peasy]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Sin is like, y' all started out drinking, hitting it. And they're like, look, I'm not going to be drinking for like three, four months because I'm trying to get on a serious thing. I'm detoxing, I'm vibing. You're gonna be like, I'm cool.

[Paul Peasy]

No, you good. I respect that.

[Azar Faraday]

How you respect it then. But you can't respect it by dating.

[Paul Peasy]

Someone because when we dating, when I get you a couple of drinks, you're going to tell the truth and I'm going to learn a lot about you. So that's going to tell me a lot.

[Azar Faraday]

So then you want to crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

I don't know about this one.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, I guess I think another thing that's a turn off too. This is a turn off. If I go out with a man his first, second, third day and you're sloppy motherfucking drunk and you're a grown ass man. That's out for me. What? Like you're supposed to be, how am I looking to you? And you just sloppy. And it's funny because my homegirl, and she's gonna be mad that I said this, but she went on a date with someone I know. And I actually hooked them up and they were out. And this man passed out, fainted on the ground at the club or something. And she said she never looked at that man ever again. He was so hurt. He was calling me like, azar, I love her. I don't know what to do. She was like, I can Never take. I will never. Look at this, man.

[Paul Peasy]

That happened to me before.

[Azar Faraday]

You fainted.

[Paul Peasy]

No, I went out on the date and the first day she fainted, I was good.

[Azar Faraday]

Now people be good off of that. I'm cool, sloppy drunk. And you know what I thought?

[Paul Peasy]

Nah, she wasn't. You know what? It was crazy too. She wasn't even drunk or nothing. She just fainted. Look, she didn't even have no drink. The drink didn't even get there yet. It was like I had a cigar or something and she fainted cause of the cigar. And I was like. And I was with a couple of the homies. I was like, get her up out of here.

[Azar Faraday]

They gonna think you dragged her down.

[Paul Peasy]

That's what I'm saying. That's why I was like, they gonna think I did something. So I was just like, nah, we can't. I can't do this. It was all on cameras and stuff and it was just like, nah, I can't. Nah. You know what?

[Azar Faraday]

What if you're on a date with a girl and she falls down the stairs twice in a night? Let's say she fell down the stairs.

[Paul Peasy]

What date is this? How many days? How many days the first date, fell.

[Azar Faraday]

Down the stairs, got up and her ankle was weak, so then she fell down again twice in one night.

[Paul Peasy]

How many dates is this? First date.

[Azar Faraday]

It's been a week.

[Paul Peasy]

First date for a week. I'm good, I'm good. I'm like, you know what? Now she, she, she. I can't do this. She over here. She, she tricky.

[Azar Faraday]

She's tricky, tricky.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm like, what's, what's going on? I can't take you nowhere. Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

What if she's like, I never fail. This is like crazy. Like, I promise you I haven't failed.

[Paul Peasy]

You don't understand is your girl is a reflection of you. If these looking at me seeing my chick fall all the time, they're gonna.

[Azar Faraday]

Be like, damn, what if she's like, it's a one time thing and I never ever fall. I haven't fallen.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm thinking, she's lying. It's my shoes lying though.

[Azar Faraday]

My shoes have me crazy. It's hooking on the things down my ankle week.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, damn, we good?

[Azar Faraday]

No, I feel that if I'm on a date with a man in the first week and he fell twice, I'm never deal. And then a man is why he keep falling though? And a big ass man just falling, he just falling all the time.

[Paul Peasy]

Clumsy as hell all the time.

[Azar Faraday]

It's not all the time.

[Paul Peasy]

You understand? This is an impression you make when it's at the beginning. It's the first week. Like, you blowing me. Like, damn, you falling and you dropping.

[Azar Faraday]

You messed out on someone so good.

[Paul Peasy]

All right, how about this? You on the first date and he accidentally bumped the wine and the spill on your dress. But it's a great date.

[Azar Faraday]

I would see him again. I'll be pissed. And then what if he's like, I'm gonna buy you a new dress. Yeah, we. We crack.

[Paul Peasy]

It's all white. And y' all supposed to go to the Chris Brown concert after. You can't go home and change.

[Azar Faraday]

Why?

[Paul Peasy]

So now he's like, we're gonna miss the concert if you go home.

[Azar Faraday]

We missed the concert. It's okay.

[Paul Peasy]

Just missed the concert.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm gonna be all right. Like, I'm not tripping off no concert that hard. I'm not sure. I'm no Cruise Brown. And at the end of the day, that's a great concert, I'm sure. But it's just like, cool.

[Paul Peasy]

The Usher concert.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't care who it is. Like, I'mma be all right. I'm not pressed for nothing. And at the end of the day, if it fail and it's a great day and I'm vibing and you're like, look, I'm going to get you a new dress. Cuz if you're not going to get me a new dress, that's blowing me.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, I'll take it to the cleaners.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I could do that too. I'll be cool if you can take it.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, take it to the cleaner.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, if you take it to the cleaners. Cool. I'm going to take it to the cleaners. Whatever. What if he's like, I have a whole bunch of dresses in my trunk? Like, this is crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

You're playing I will blow y'.

[Azar Faraday]

All.

[Paul Peasy]

That's what I'm like.

[Azar Faraday]

You're blowing me? He's like, no, it's my sister's. She has them in here. I' ma say no. I'm not talking to you.

[Paul Peasy]

He got work on deck. He got a bunch of dresses in his trunk.

[Azar Faraday]

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[Paul Peasy]

So you need a prescription for these?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you have to get these supposed to do. They're supposed to make you last long.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah. How many days it lasts, huh?

[Azar Faraday]

It's not gonna last for days. It's hours. Who's being hard for three days?

[Paul Peasy]

Like, this is how these things work. Girl, you don't know how these things.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, I'm not 50 year old man, so I wouldn't know. Have you dealt with this before, like Viagra and things?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, I tried it. All right, so they last for days, though.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't want to ask D now.

[Paul Peasy]

D nail no too. They last for days. Don't.

[Azar Faraday]

Are you gonna take that right now? I don't think you should take that right this moment.

[Paul Peasy]

Oh, that tastes sweet too.

[Azar Faraday]

Lord, this is stressing me out.

[Paul Peasy]

I might have something popping. Hold on. Tonight, Let me see what's going on.

[Azar Faraday]

Wait, and then you have to put them, like, under your tug or something.

[Paul Peasy]

Okay, that's what I'm gonna do. Oh, man. They're kind of sweet too. It's kind of like candy and medicine at the same time.

[Azar Faraday]

Why would you take that right now? This is crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

This is the Roast Spark segment, okay? So I gotta let everybody know what they doing.

[Azar Faraday]

Are you gonna come back with an update?

[Paul Peasy]

They gotta watch the next episode for the update.

[Azar Faraday]

The what? The next episode for the update.

[Paul Peasy]

Make sure y' all tune in, let y' all know what's going on.

[Azar Faraday]

Lord, good luck. Let me take a drink, cuz. You done stress me out.

[Paul Peasy]

You can't be a host and be stressed out.

[Azar Faraday]

I can be what I want to be.

[Paul Peasy]

No, you got to be able to, like, you know, deal with the heat. You got the boots on tonight. The knee thigh high. You got the thigh high boots on tonight. I see.

[Azar Faraday]

Stop.

[Paul Peasy]

Why you got the thigh high boots on tonight?

[Azar Faraday]

Cuz it went with my outfit.

[Paul Peasy]

Like it go with your outfit?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, it does.

[Paul Peasy]

Let me see. Stand up tomorrow, look cool. Let me see.

[Azar Faraday]

Wow.

[Paul Peasy]

You don't never want anybody to see your outfits.

[Azar Faraday]

Everybody, when I'm back outside.

[Paul Peasy]

When you back outside, you back outside.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm just saying, like, when I'm, like, walking through life, people see my outfits, but I'm not gonna stand up and do a whole thing on the show. That's just crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

I thought this was after dark.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, that's cool. You got your toes out. They already got feet, picks and. Okay, that's enough for them. All right, anyways, back to what we're saying. So, Ari, Money Bag Yo, G, Herbo's baby mom, and Money Bag Yo's girl.

[Paul Peasy]

I've been seeing stuff all Right.

[Azar Faraday]

Fletcher? She said for the right price, she would definitely let someone on her period. Karisha was like, no. Young Miami was like, no, I will not do it for no price. Like, she's like, p. Yeah, but Mariah was like, girl, you're at the right price. Yeah, I'm getting shitted on 100%. I don't give a damn. We're at everywhere. Anywhere. There's no perimeters.

[Paul Peasy]

Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

People aren't getting shitting on. I told you people are getting shitted.

[Paul Peasy]

We talked about this.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Peasy]

You ever been shitted on? It's a question. Ari says she is a price.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I'm asking you?

[Paul Peasy]

I asked you a question.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, have you been on? Right, so that's ridiculous. Don't ask me no like that.

[Paul Peasy]

Well, you're saying that's the thing going on with girls now. Like, this is not a thing for men.

[Azar Faraday]

No, man, in Dubai, the whole part is they on you and you on them. They like to be on, too.

[Paul Peasy]

What's your price?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't have a price. I'm not getting on. I already told you this before. Like, no one is shitting on me. Like, I will not derail myself on that level for no money. There's a lot of other things I could do to get a few dollars to get shitted on, but he was.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, yeah, I got this 30,000.

[Azar Faraday]

30,000 to get shitted on. You sound ridiculous.

[Paul Peasy]

No, I think that's the going rate. That's what they've been saying.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not getting shit on for 30,000.

[Paul Peasy]

30,000. What have you done for 30,000? What would you do for 30,000?

[Azar Faraday]

Not much. I'm going to tell you. Not much.

[Paul Peasy]

No, that's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm doing much for 30,000 for 30 outside of, like, for my man.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, would you do the Vince Carter on Truth after dark for 30,000?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Peasy]

Well, you'll do something then for 30,000.

[Azar Faraday]

For 30,000 to do with 360. That sounds stupid as hell. If they want to fund 30,000 for that, cool. Run that.

[Paul Peasy]

And I run that up.

[Azar Faraday]

Run that.

[Paul Peasy]

Girl, you got to get your hustle up. 30,000. That's a good amount of money for.

[Azar Faraday]

Fully clothed standing up for 30,000. Anyone would do that. That sounds stupid.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, but you said I wouldn't do much for 30,000.

[Azar Faraday]

But I'm saying, like, for 30,000. As far as, like. Like anything that's not fully clothed or sexual and favors and all that or whatever else, I'm not doing none of that. Like, I'm not A you cannot buy me.

[Paul Peasy]

I didn't. Nobody said no, no.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm just clarifying that in case anyone.

[Paul Peasy]

Was confused, he was going there with them.

[Azar Faraday]

So a man on Pop the Balloon was saying that there was a woman that he had picked or whatever she had on an outfit. And it wasn't, like, crazy revealing, but it was just like a little jumpsuit, showed a little curve, showed a little body. And he was like, you know, on a scale to 1 to 10, how revealing do you think your outfit is? And she was like, probably like six or seven. And he was like, okay, so how revealing do you dress typically? And she was like, probably like six or seven. And he was like, okay, well, I like you. Would you be willing to tone that down if we were in a relationship? And she was like, absolutely not. Why would I do that? Like, I'm not going to be willing to do that, actually. Do you feel like when a woman gets in a relationship, she should start toning down how she dresses?

[Paul Peasy]

I think if he liked her like that, then what you. What you looking for, bro? Like, like, she gonna. Everybody gonna expose their cars. This is what you liked about her, right? You liked her in the 6 or 7 range of her dress. So now you get what her. You want her to go to 3, 4, and then down when she had the 3, 4, you gonna be like, this ain't what I met. I need you to do stuff how it was when you met. Like, I don't like that. And it's vice versa. Like for a girl with a man. This is how it was when we met. Now you want me to go Back to the 3, 4. This is what I was on. And that's where things get misconstrued in relationships. Because you like that. That's the reason you like me. Cause you liked how I dressed. You don't know me from nothing. We just met, right? You like my look, so what do you know about me? That saying that I need to tone it down. And we just said a few words to each other, but you like this. And now that's controlling. It really is. Cause I like, shoot, I could look at a woman and be like, damn, she cracking. She got a whole suit on.

[Azar Faraday]

You love to say this, like, for real.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, damn, that's sophisticated. I like that. Now if you go from that to, like, being all revealing, I'm like, damn, what happened to the look I met you in? You know, and if we get together and be a couple, I'm like, man, I liked you when I met you. Like that. I get it. But, like, if you met her like that, you knew what you. Like, you just trying to, like, tone her down for what? I mean, to turn her up.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. I feel like in my past relationships, like, issue would be, like, wearing bright colors. Like, I wasn't allowed to wear bright colors, like blue or green, like, workout outfits or anything, because it was just like, oh, it brings attention. So that was like, oh, you can't wear that.

[Paul Peasy]

You was cool with that, right?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I was okay with it. I was like, all right, cool. You know?

[Paul Peasy]

Or like, you didn't feel like it was controlling. No, no, it was cool.

[Azar Faraday]

Or if he was just like, oh, don't wear that. Yeah, okay. Like, oh, you're not wearing that tonight. Like, okay, cool. You know, like, whatever. I don't think that that's a big battle for me to fight. Like, I just feel like that's whatever. Like, if you're not comfortable, then. Okay, like, it is what it is. You're a man. So sometimes when I wear things, I'm not looking at it as, like, ooh, something. Something like, you know, little things that I don't look at. Like, so if you feel uncomfortable with it, then I won't wear it.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, it's just very simple for me. I think that's an easy compromise, just in my opinion. But everyone is different, so everyone has a different opinion on what they prefer, you know? Or like, a man will feel like, if you're with me, you could wear whatever, but if you're not with me, you're going out to here with your homegirls. Then, like, this is crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You know, so it's just. I guess it just depends. There was a viral list of careers going around online that is a do not date list of careers for men or women, both. Personal trainers, athletes, content creators, nurses, firefighters.

[Paul Peasy]

You just name half the world.

[Azar Faraday]

This is. I guess you can't have the world. This is the list. And they're basically saying, like, these. These professions are the most.

[Paul Peasy]

Cheaters.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, promiscuous of all of them, basically.

[Paul Peasy]

So what now?

[Azar Faraday]

Truck drivers, personal trainers, photographers and models, rappers, police, entertainment, security, athletes, pastors, teachers and content creators.

[Paul Peasy]

You said everything in the entertainment field, then that's pretty much.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, the police isn't technical.

[Paul Peasy]

That just covered the whole entertainment field, though. So take away the entertainment field. Then you got people who work for the city, which is, like, security and police. Like, and then what?

[Azar Faraday]

Truck drivers.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, what are you looking for then? Teachers? What are you looking for then? What's. What's you just said the whole population.

[Azar Faraday]

I mean, there's like, people in finance, there's people in hr, there's people in real estate, there's people in. And there's a lot of more professions. You know, there's people in fashion, there's people in.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, that's. That's all a part of what that. That list was too, though. That's associated with that list.

[Azar Faraday]

Not finance. Where is finance associated with that list? Where's HR associated with that list?

[Paul Peasy]

Girl, you was not getting nobody in finance, so calm down. No, that person who said that, I'm so defeated.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm like, what?

[Paul Peasy]

Oh. Oh, no, no. So what they saying?

[Azar Faraday]

They're saying that you should not date these people because these people are whores and they're gonna cheat and they're just not good people to be around. You know, you're on that list. I guess, technically, if you want to consider me a content creator, I'm on that list, too.

[Paul Peasy]

You hold that list, too. Influencers. Like, what the hell? Same thing. She talking about herself, because she probably put influencer on her Instagram page. That's what it is. Like, come on, now, don't contradict yourself.

[Azar Faraday]

I mean, I think that you date who you date. If they rock with you and you cool, then it don't matter. You know what I'm saying? But they do say, like, nurses and personal trainers cheat all the time. And flight attendants, they say those are the main jobs. It's funny because there's. It's a viral thing on Tick Tock where flight attendants be like. It's like this thing where they say, how many bodies I had when I started doing flight attending? And it'll be like three. And it's like, how many bodies I've had now that I've been a flight attendant for a year? And It'd be like 25. And then they'll put the little man and the woman. There'll be like five women, 25 men. Like, and it goes like, so many women are doing that viral of, like, they be getting it cracking on the flight attendant.

[Paul Peasy]

Cause I guess I'm traveling now. I'm going to this country, that country. I'm eating this food.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm meeting people on the flights.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, yeah. I mean, they ain't meeting them on a flight. They meeting them where they get.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I heard they meeting them on the flights. They meeting them on the flights.

[Paul Peasy]

They meeting them at where they at. They gonna stay like, I got two nights. And over here in Francois, let's see. Oui, oui, you know what? I'm like, you know, Damn. Come on, now.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so there's a viral meme.

[Paul Peasy]

Another viral meme.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, it's a lot of viral means.

[Paul Peasy]

We got.

[Azar Faraday]

And it says. And it says, if you're in a relationship, I should be able to tell by looking at your IG feed. A lot of y' all look single, but you're not. Why don't y' all like posting your significant others on your page?

[Paul Peasy]

To keep my relationship private. I don't need nobody in my business. I don't need nobody DMing her. I don't need all that attention coming to my significant other. We know that's all that matter. I don't gotta floss you. I don't gotta. I ain't gotta let the world do all of that. Come on, now. Oh, that's. That's. That's lame. A lot of the times, I mean, like. Cause you putting yourself out there for. For criticism. You putting yourself out there for other people to hate you. Putting yourself out there for people, like, criticized for people to, like, try to get at your girl or discredit you or. And all of that. Like, then that's where creeps come in at, like, people who publicize their relationships all the time. That'd be, like, the beginning of the end for the most part.

[Azar Faraday]

I mean, I will say this. Like, I've been in relationships that were on my Instagram or whatever. We posted each other, but it wasn't that serious because maybe, like, we're not celebrities, so it's probably different for you. But, you know, for me, like, I would like to do, like, family life. Yeah, I'll do, like, family. Like, oh, we're with my family. We all took a picture, and then it's like, oh, I'll post that. Or, like, it's like, it was just easy because it's like, I was with this person for so long. We're together. Like, I'm not hiding it. I'm just, like, posting stuff, and you're right there. Cool. Reviving cute little stuff. But it wasn't an issue. You know, I think the hardest part is, like, if you break up, then you take all the pictures down, and then everyone's in your business, and they're like, damn, well, what happened? Why are y' all not together anymore?

[Paul Peasy]

It just brings up too much questions, you know, whatever.

[Azar Faraday]

Whatever. But, you know, like, whatever. Like, I. I don't think that it matters to me, like, either way, to be honest. So is it okay to follow your ex or. People used to date. When you're in a new relationship on Instagram.

[Paul Peasy]

Is it okay to follow people you used to date? That's not a big deal to me.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so you don't mind if someone like, they follows their ex or people they dated?

[Paul Peasy]

It's not a big deal.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so you're like, I'm not even.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, searching to see if you even doing it.

[Azar Faraday]

But what if you know the ex and you know she follows him and she's liking all his pictures and stuff.

[Paul Peasy]

Stuff. Why are you liking the pictures?

[Azar Faraday]

Why are you following him?

[Paul Peasy]

Because I don't got time to go through the unfollow. Every body.

[Azar Faraday]

I mean everybody.

[Paul Peasy]

Who?

[Azar Faraday]

Your exes. Damn. How many people you dated? Talking about everybody. Millions of people.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, ain't they millions of people?

[Azar Faraday]

Then how is it so many people?

[Paul Peasy]

I mean, I could have been out with like 25 girls on one date. What?

[Azar Faraday]

Like what?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You were out with 25 girls?

[Paul Peasy]

No, I'm just saying, like, they, like, when you get this, I could have just been like one day with them and be like, I never talked to them.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but your ex is different to me. I don't follow none of my exes. I feel like my exes. I'm not following you on Instagram. I'm not keeping up with the Kardashians. I don't have to see what you're up to, what you're doing, what new tattoo you got, what car you buy. I don't care about none of that.

[Paul Peasy]

I said it don't even matter because they not in my algorithm because I'm not liking their pictures. So I'm not even seeing them anyway. Yeah, I feel like if they in the algorithm, that's saying something different. Like you. If you like, hey, look. And we scrolling and your ex coming up on the algorithm. Yeah, let's talk about it now. But if you just following them, I'm not even tripping. But if I see you in the algorithm on the scroll, then you tell. That's telling me that you commenting or liking them. Because people fall completely out of my algorithm. Like, I don't see them. And I might be following them for years and I never see them. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? You know how that work. So I don't think that's a big deal.

[Azar Faraday]

This is the more or less segment brought to you by Price Picks, where you can win real cash by picking just more or less on your favorite players. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups. When you play your first $5. So we're gonna play a game today and you're gonna tell me, what do you think is more disrespectful? Okay, so what do you think's more disrespectful? Hiding your phone or going through your partner's phone?

[Paul Peasy]

Hiding your phone? I mean, I don't think. What do you mean hiding your phone?

[Azar Faraday]

Like, hiding and you can't look at my phone. Like, being weird. Like, just, you know, someone's overly, like, protective.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, I think it's more disrespectful to go through your partner's phone. Truthfully, I think so. Like, if they go in the other room and you being all sneaky and shit, like, come on, man, just be like, damn, what is it? Like? Before I even go through your phone, I'mma know something is up. Cause I don't even have to. I don't even have to do all that to know. Like, when you're around somebody so much and you know they tendencies and you see how they move, you gonna feel it in like, your conscience, you gonna feel it like something ain't right, something is off, something is, you know, it ain't really moving. Like it was moving before and. And you know, now you being all like, I'm a know, like, damn it, is something going on? Your conscious speaks and if you don't listen, then it'll just fly over your head. So I just think it's disrespectful to be sneaky about going through somebody phone. Just ask like, you know there's something going on. What's up? Read the room, feel the temperature. Like, who, who, who you been with? Like, what's going on? Talk about it like, why we ain't this? Why we ain't. It's gonna be signs of everything definitely before you even have to go through somebody phone. And when you address that, you're gonna be able to tell, like, like, you know, you know, whatever it is, you're gonna figure it out. Yeah, you ain't got to do all of that. If you don't, then you don't know your partner.

[Azar Faraday]

I agree. I think going through your partner's phone is really disrespectful. It's an invasion of privacy. You don't know what that person has in there. It could be stuff like, personal, about someone else's business. Like, it's just a lot. And personally, I don't rock with that. And like you said, there's signs like, I always feel it ahead of time and no. And I'm just Like, fall back. Like, you know, I. I could feel it. I don't need to do all of that.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

What do you think is more destructive? Texting your ex happy birthday, my love or deleting messages from somebody else new?

[Paul Peasy]

Deleting messages from somebody else new.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, like, you're dealing with someone. You're being sneaky. You're deleting the messages or texting your ex. Which one's worse? Someone new or texting your ex?

[Paul Peasy]

Deleting. Deleting. New. Like, what's new?

[Azar Faraday]

A new person?

[Paul Peasy]

Like, why is there new if we're together? Why is there.

[Azar Faraday]

Why is there ex text messages if we're together?

[Paul Peasy]

Because it may be a respect factor.

[Azar Faraday]

There's no respect. You don't have to respect your ex. Like, that's weird to me. Why are you texting an ex that you don't have Nothing. No.

[Paul Peasy]

If you don't have no connection to.

[Azar Faraday]

Your ex, you don't have no connection.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, no kids.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, no kids.

[Paul Peasy]

Okay. If it's no kids, is it more disrespectful to text your ex happy birthday, my love, or something new? I think they equal. I think it's the same thing.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, do you think it's more disrespectful to vent to your friends about your relationship and tell them, like, negative stuff or to vent to the opposite sex?

[Paul Peasy]

It's way more disrespectful to vent to the opposite sex. Because if it's opposite sex you vent into. Unless it's like, you got a gay dude, right? You know, a lot of. A lot of gay. A lot of girls vent to, like, they gay friends. Yeah, that'll be your friends. But that's the opposite sex.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but gay. We know.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, dude, don't. Don't. It's both bad for me because now it invites, like, that negative energy and that negative type of, like, just aura into your relationship because they always gonna ride on your side. They gonna be like, girl, you don't need him. And then the dude gonna do the same thing too. Like, well, you know, I've been telling you. You know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

It depends, though, because I think I got super lucky. My friends will tell me, like, bitch, you're dead wrong. Like, I'll literally ask my friends, like, am I tripping? Like, before I would even approach my partner, like, I'll text them, like, is this crazy? Am I tripping? And they'll literally, like, they'll literally be like, you tripping? Chill.

[Paul Peasy]

But, like, there's circumstances, too. But like, say, like, you vent into, like, yo, yo, man's best friend. That y' all cool. He like your brother. He like your brother. He like your brother, though.

[Azar Faraday]

Disrespectful. That's cross.

[Paul Peasy]

He like your brother, though.

[Azar Faraday]

That's crossing the line.

[Paul Peasy]

I don't think that's crossing the line.

[Azar Faraday]

I think that's weird.

[Paul Peasy]

I think if you talking to his best friend and he trusts y' all together and y' all like brother and sister. I don't think that's. That.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't think I'm cool on that.

[Paul Peasy]

I think that's really weird because think about this. Don't. Don't. Like, you gotta listen, though. You gotta pay attention, listen. So you gotta, like, thinking like, damn, who else know him better outside of his partner? His best friend. So, like, he'd be like, man, what do I have to do? What do you think? You talking to him and he giving you some real ass game. Like, you know what, man, he been going, he might tell his best friend something he ain't told you. Like, man, you know what he ain't want to tell you, but he going through some, like, turmoil with this and that and all of that. Just, you know, bear with him. It might can help, you know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

Your best friend is always going to be on your side. So it's biased. Like, I feel like it. Even if the man is wrong, my best friend's gonna, like, promote that you stay with me, that you make it work. Even if it's like, nah, they get a therapy.

[Paul Peasy]

But he might give you some game, too, about, like, he, you know, some things he might not want to tell you.

[Azar Faraday]

I've done that before. I understand. I get it.

[Paul Peasy]

So why you off it?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm off of it because it always gets tricky.

[Paul Peasy]

It's always because he tried to get at you now.

[Azar Faraday]

Nah. But it just. It creates a weird.

[Paul Peasy]

And you friends with the best friend's girlfriend, too. You friends with both of them.

[Azar Faraday]

That's really. Gets tricky. You never supposed to vent to the best friend's girlfriend.

[Paul Peasy]

No, no, no. But you know, them, we all cool. Like, you just be like, we all cool. You know what I'm saying? I mean, I never did that. I'm just trying to hypothetically speak or, you know, just kind of, like, say that's a situation to where that can be a thing. You know, I've never done that. Like, I ain't never called my boy wife and be like, man, you know, I'm going through it with such and such and da, da, da. I never done that, but I could see a situation to where that can.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, I mean, I've done that before for sure. Because it's been years with this person and, and they're like family at this point. Like our whole fan. We're this.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah. Like, what if you taking like vacations with all of them and stuff and like the whole family, it's like, it's not, it's not weird. I'm telling you. You looking at it like on some young, like high school.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not looking on high school stuff or college stuff. Okay, so what's worse? What's more disrespectful? Lying about where you are or lying about who you're with?

[Paul Peasy]

I think it's more disrespectful to lie about who you're with because, you know, some cats don't be wanting to tell they woman I'm at the strip club, you know, when I'm at the spot with the homies, but I'm with the homies. Like, I don't know, it's just certain situations. I know you don't like me being here, but then I'll tell you later. Like, you know what? I lied. I was at the strip club or I lied, I was more vulnerable because who you with, that's way more suspicious now because the people you around you like. Cause you gonna like, start coming up with stuff in your mind, but like, where you at? You know, you could come clean with that. It just may be a spot you don't like me to be at. And I just like, man, I was at. I was right here, you know, it wasn't nothing. But I didn't want to tell you at the time because I didn't want an argument. And. But also wooty woo, he can confirm. But like saying people who you with, that's tricky. That's tricky. That's like, oh, no, that's. That's. I think that's why. What about you? What you think?

[Azar Faraday]

I think lying about who you're with for sure is more tricky. Yeah. Because who the are you with that you gotta lie about it?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, who are you with that you gotta lie about that?

[Azar Faraday]

Why are you lying about going to the strip club either, though?

[Paul Peasy]

Like, because you probably said, I don't like you doing all that. But then it was the homies and I just want to go. And you know, they was all like, damn. Oh, you can't you girl. Oh, you, you. You wear the panties in the relationship and you like, you can't do nothing. You know what I'm saying? Guys get peer pressure like that from their homies.

[Azar Faraday]

People need to understand who they're in a relationship with more and adjust. Because if you're with a relationship with someone who likes to go out all the time or y' all are always hitting it, that's because that's what he likes to do. With or without you, he's going to be outside. So it's like, if you know you have someone like that and that's not your vibe, then I don't know why you rocking with that person. Because that's what the person's gonna do. What about talking bad about your partner when you're mad or giving them the silent treatment?

[Paul Peasy]

Talking bad about your partner?

[Azar Faraday]

It's more disrespectful. Yeah, it's disrespectful than the silent.

[Paul Peasy]

I'll take the silent treatment.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm gonna say the silent treatment if I get the silent treatment. I promise you. Like, that's almost like I'm gonna break up with that person. Like, that's like one of my highest non negotiables. If I'm messing with someone and they're silent so bad. It is, though. You know, the silent trim is like a form of, like, major disrespect. Like, you're gonna ignore me intentionally? Nah, I'm cool on that. Like, I'm. That's like, to me, I'm so cool on that. Like, I can't tell you how much that bothers me. Like, I could deal with a lot of stuff. I'd rather you argue with me, talk it out with me, figure it out with me. But if you're gonna ignore me for a day, if you're gonna ignore me for days, like, get a new girl, by the time those days are up, I'm cool. Like, I promise I'm cool.

[Paul Peasy]

If I ever give somebody the silen, that's because I am gonna say something that I might regret. And it's best that I stay quiet.

[Azar Faraday]

Not for days.

[Paul Peasy]

Cause I'm gonna say something that's gonna be breakable up with if I have this.

[Azar Faraday]

Breakable up?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, breakable up with if I have to say something. So I just, like, take the high road. I'm gonna. Like, I'm gonna shut up because I'm dangerous. If I got the silent treatment and you bring out the silent treatment. Cause I'm like, you know what? It's best for me to be goddamn quiet because I'm gonna say something that's gonna really break us up. So I'm gonna just keep it quiet. Yeah, I don't.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't with the science. I'd rather someone tell me, like, yo, give me, like, a minute and we're good. Just give me a minute.

[Paul Peasy]

All right, so three words. It's good. Give me a minute.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, we're good, but give me a minute. I just. I don't want to say nothing. Break up, up a little bit, and.

[Paul Peasy]

Then walk out the room and slam the goddamn door anyways. That's the same thing. Solitary.

[Azar Faraday]

So what's more disrespectful? Staying in contact with someone who, you know wants you or pretending that you don't know their intentions?

[Paul Peasy]

Staying in contact with what?

[Azar Faraday]

Staying in contact, like you're still cool with someone and you know they want you. They know, you know, y' all have, like a vibe or something and you know they're on you and you still cool with them, or just pretending like, I don't really know that they want me. Like, not acknowledging it.

[Paul Peasy]

As long as you keep the boundaries. I don't know about that. Like, say that one more time. You said. What's more of a red flag.

[Azar Faraday]

What's more? Disrespectful.

[Paul Peasy]

Disrespectful.

[Azar Faraday]

Staying in contact with someone who wants you.

[Paul Peasy]

You.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, y' all are talking, somebody wants you, and you know they want you. Or pretending you don't know someone wants you. Like, you don't know their intentions.

[Paul Peasy]

That don't make sense.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, it does, because you're pretending. Like, nah.

[Paul Peasy]

What?

[Azar Faraday]

Like, this is cool? Like, they're not on that. You're. You're tripping. Like that you just think, they want me, they don't want me. But you know, you know, because you know when someone wants you for real, it's a delusion if you don't.

[Paul Peasy]

If that's the case, think about any girl who has any contact with a guy or every guy at some point of knowing this girl is gonna wanna get at him. But as long as you keep it stiff arm out in the distance, then what you gonna do about it?

[Azar Faraday]

He's not staying in contact.

[Paul Peasy]

What does like, staying in contact mean? Like, how often?

[Azar Faraday]

Whenever, Once every six months or anytime. Like whenever you want to. This should not be that hard.

[Paul Peasy]

This is hard. Come on.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, what?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, it really is.

[Azar Faraday]

It's really not for me personally. I know, like, if I'm in a relationship, if I was in a relationship and I have men that want me and they're texting me like, hey, what's up? Like, literally, I just had a situation where I was out with somebody that I was dealing with, and I saw this guy, and he said, what's up? And he was someone that I dated very briefly, and he knew I was with this person. And then every day, you're texting. I fumbled shake my head. What's up?

[Paul Peasy]

Did you tell your person?

[Azar Faraday]

Hey, what's up?

[Paul Peasy]

Did you tell your person?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I did. I did. I did. So, like, this is crazy. So why are you texting all the time now? Like, are you crazy? Like, you.

[Paul Peasy]

I've never had. I've never had. I never had that.

[Azar Faraday]

But men are. That's what I'm trying to tell you. Men are like that. So if I'm cool with this person, mind you, this is not even a person I slept with or anything. It was just someone who had interest in me, and I never wanted them. Like, it was a coup. And you're just every day like, damn, you look so good. I fumble, and it's just like, ignore, block. Like, I'm blocking. Why am I not blocking that person?

[Paul Peasy]

I've never had to deal with that.

[Azar Faraday]

But as a woman. That's what I'm saying.

[Paul Peasy]

Women deal with that.

[Azar Faraday]

So disrespectful to stay in contact with that person.

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah. For a woman, it's like, men. But men are the ones doing it. Men are the ones doing it. Exactly. So it's not what.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, we're moving on from this. Anyways, thank you to our good friends at prize Picks, America's number one sports pick app, use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. Okay. Yeah. So ASAP. Rocky. He said that when he met his. If he met, like, his girl earlier, he feels like he wouldn't have been ready. And timing is super important when you meet a woman. He's like, you know, like, if. I know I would have probably messed this up if it would have been earlier in my life when I met her. And he was like. And I also feel like, like, the right woman in your life is amazing because it, like, takes the blindfold off of your eyes. Like, she'll tell you, like, that's not really your friend for real. Or this person is trying to do this or this person is trying to do that. And he's like, you know, his woman, like, has changed his life so much for the better.

[Paul Peasy]

Oh, that's. That's dope.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. And he's talking about Rihanna, obviously, because him and Rihanna are together. And he said that his. In his Other relationships make it easy.

[Paul Peasy]

When you're a woman, a billionaire, just, ooh, right. Easy to take them blindfolds off.

[Azar Faraday]

But you know what? They look like they have an actual really dope relationship.

[Paul Peasy]

She got too much resources to find out if I'm cheating. I'm good. I'm good, right? I'mma settle in. I'mma settle in. I'm settling in.

[Azar Faraday]

It seems like he genuinely actually rocks with her. For real, though. Like, it doesn't.

[Paul Peasy]

That's Rihanna.

[Azar Faraday]

You're horrible. Anyways, let's do a fan question, and then we're going to wrap it up.

[Paul Peasy]

What?

[Azar Faraday]

That's wild.

[Paul Peasy]

That's not wild. That's Rihanna. She's billionaire.

[Azar Faraday]

When a woman says that, she's so trifling. She's such a gold digger. She only wants you for money. Cheat on her to see if she loves you. But a man, oh, I'm rocking with her because she's a billionaire. Like, that sounds crazy.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, how it sounds crazy?

[Azar Faraday]

Because it's a woman says it. It's crazy. It's like a gold digger.

[Paul Peasy]

It's just that. But we know what you mean.

[Azar Faraday]

We, like, how can you get the same.

[Paul Peasy]

Cause we don't get the same opportunities as the women get. Cause there's more rich men than rich women. So when we get a chance to do it, we. That's City boys up.

[Azar Faraday]

Anyways, let's get into the fan questions before we wrap up. So someone said, I'm not even gonna name their ats because I just don't want to put them out there. I really like my man, and our relationship is good, but he doesn't go down on me much, and it's starting to bother me. Me, I don't want to make him feel pressured or awkward, but I also don't want to keep being unsatisfied. Should I say something or just accept that this is how it is? Whoo. I personally, that's a hard one, because I love that a lot. So I feel like if it's something that you really feel that you want.

[Paul Peasy]

And need, you should say it then.

[Azar Faraday]

Then you should talk about it. You know what I mean? Because, like, that could drive you to be, like, super unhappy in your relationship.

[Paul Peasy]

I gotta say it then, girl. She gotta say it. Yeah. That's what it is. Like, hey, baby. I like that.

[Azar Faraday]

Why are you so short?

[Paul Peasy]

No, I'm just saying, like, nah. Because if you're in a relationship and it's good, then tell them that's simple. That's an easy one to fix. That's an easy fix. You know, this ain't difficult at all.

[Azar Faraday]

But how do you tell a man that? Like, she probably.

[Paul Peasy]

Oh, baby, I love when you go down. That's one of my favorite things.

[Azar Faraday]

What if he's like, I don't really like that.

[Paul Peasy]

What you mean?

[Azar Faraday]

What if he's like, that's really not my favorite thing. I don't want no one going down on me that doesn't like to do that. That's awkward for me. Then I'm in my head, like, I have to tell this man, which means he doesn't really like it, which means now I don't even enjoy it because now I'm in my head thinking, he's so distraught down there.

[Paul Peasy]

That's not what a relationship is. You gotta understand any relationship, any successful relationship, whether it's business, man with his wife, like, you gotta do things like you don't wanna do to make it work. Like if he. Like, I need you to get up at 5 in the morning. Get up at 5 in the morning if you wanna be with that person. If you gotta do, like, you gotta do stuff that you don't like to do to make shit work.

[Azar Faraday]

Put. What? Period? I don't want anyone doing something sexually that you don't like doing.

[Paul Peasy]

It's anything, though. It's gonna be things you don't like.

[Azar Faraday]

To talking about sexually. That's what we're talking about.

[Paul Peasy]

It don't matter. It don't matter what it is.

[Azar Faraday]

I think that sexually, I don't want anyone going down on me that doesn't like to do that. I feel like that's gonna make me feel awkward. And you could tell in the performance that you don't like to do with. The performance is lacking.

[Paul Peasy]

He gotta show that he like it.

[Azar Faraday]

The performance is lacking.

[Paul Peasy]

He gotta show that he like it.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I mean? Cause it's like, you know, he gotta.

[Paul Peasy]

Show he like it.

[Azar Faraday]

You can tell when a woman is unenthusiastic about giving you head. It's like, oh, hurry up. Like. Or a woman who's into it, she's moaning, she's getting into it. She's catching a vibe. Like, it feels different. And women feel the same way.

[Paul Peasy]

Then why did you commit?

[Azar Faraday]

Maybe he was doing it.

[Paul Peasy]

Maybe you knew this already, but maybe.

[Azar Faraday]

It fell off, though.

[Paul Peasy]

You knew this before y' all got into it. So who felt?

[Azar Faraday]

No. What if he stopped doing it?

[Paul Peasy]

Then he doing it with somebody else.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so a man says, I pay for dates. I plan the. He's doing it with somebody else's crazy. Don't need these. That advice. And tell her now she's gonna be thinking her man is doing it with someone else. Don't say that. A man said, I pay for dates, I plan things, I show up emotionally. But sometimes I feel like my girlfriend just expects it and doesn't really acknowledge it. How do you bring up feeling unappreciated without sounding like you're just keeping score? Like, I do this, I do that.

[Paul Peasy]

That's a tough one. Because that one like, it just like sometimes you get in a relationship and you try to explain it to them, and then they look at you like you complaining when you really just like, damn. I just, you know, like, damn, I ain't keeping score. But like, you know, what's up? It just seems like it's lopsided out here. Like, for real. That'd be a lot of relationships, man. Cause a man girls. And that's a girl getting comfortable. That's what how most relationships start to be the beginning of the end. When girls start to get hella comfortable, they stop doing the shit that they used to do and shit start getting lopsided. He still doing the same shit. And then, you know, it's just like, damn, she just got comfortable and appreciative before she was. Thank you. I appreciate you. Oh, man, you was doing shit then. Then you got comfortable. That's how most relationships end, I'm telling you. And men just want to feel. As a man, we just want to feel appreciated. Like, damn, show me. And how appreciating that is. Reciprocate the energy. Like, don't just keep just taking, taking, taking, like, reciprocated, like, damn, we're. What are you doing in this? He's just constantly doing stuff. And he like, damn. And that's when these other little motherfucking chicks creep in. It's like, I do that for you. Like, I do that for you.

[Azar Faraday]

Why do they know that, though? Why are you complaining to another woman about the relationship that's the problem?

[Paul Peasy]

Because he blowed. And I tried to tell them.

[Azar Faraday]

And that's when a girl starts complaining to a man and he's like, oh, she don't go down to you. I'll do that for you. I'll do that for you. Yeah, same shit. Have a conversation and talk about what's lacking.

[Paul Peasy]

But when he had the conversation go over her head and it's complaining, this is what. This is what that leads to. After that conversation.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, he said he hasn't had the conversation yet.

[Paul Peasy]

Well, have the conversation.

[Azar Faraday]

He's asking how to have it.

[Paul Peasy]

Have the. So how do you have this conversation? Just tell her, like, look, man, I'm just like, man, I feel unappreciated in this, man. I just feel like I should be your king. I should be. You know, I should be. You should be making me feel like I'm that guy and I ain't been feeling like that. That once you say that, then see how she move if she just distanced and, you know, it's something else going on.

[Azar Faraday]

All right, that's a good advice. Okay, one last one, and then we're going to wrap up. My boyfriend has a child, and I respect that he has to communicate with his baby mom, but sometimes it feels like she's doing extras. She'll send pictures of herself with the kid and not just the child alone. And it feels intentional. Am I being insecure or is it something I should address?

[Paul Peasy]

I think you addressed that. That be like, you don't. I don't need no pictures with y' all in it. Like, you gonna have to be in the picture. Like, I appreciate that you send the pictures, but like, he gotta. He gotta take it. Like, n. I don't send me the ones. Just send me the ones of my daughter or my son. Like, I don't need you to be in it because I just doing too much. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Address it. You gotta address. We gotta just. As relationships. We gotta address our feelings. We can't go behind closed doors. We can't talk to our friend, our guy friend or girlfriend. Like. Like, no. Address the situation. That's the only way things is going to pan out. When you address the situation once, twice, three times now, and things don't change, then that's when it start being issue. Things gotta change because this is how you feel. Like, if we feel a certain way and the communication gotta get better. That's why we don't have these. These relationships like we used to, where people were staying together 20, 30 years having them because the communication is off. People can't deal with. People quit too easy.

[Azar Faraday]

What about last time when we talked about this? You said that you should avoid conflict and not have communication because it was based on just anything. The question was, if your woman feels like, bothered by something, should she address it or should she just avoid bothering?

[Paul Peasy]

Depends on what it is. Because you got to also pick your body battles.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Peasy]

Like, is it worth me even complaining over this little.

[Azar Faraday]

That's what I'm saying. So is it like.

[Paul Peasy]

It depends on what the battle is. That's what we got to understand as a relationship. Couples. I'm not going to picky. Be picky over every little thing. Now let me see your messages with her. Let me see how you communicating back. Are you sending pictures back with you in it and like, like, like, you know what if it's nothing and you looked at it and you see what the. You know what? This ain't even worth. Like, we gotta do better with picking our battles. Like, the battles don't add up because it's gonna be too many battles to a dude, gonna be like, I'm good. You know, it ain't even worth it.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I get it. I think I'm gonna say this to close it off. Our most viral clip till this day, and I was just thinking about it, is Dr. Cheyenne Bryant saying that dealing with a man with children is like being in a polyamory relationship. And it's crazy how big that clip is. That clip has like 500,000 likes and so many retweets, and it still gets cracking till this day. And it's crazy how so many people and women resonate with that. You know what I mean? And I didn't understand it, but I get what she's saying. You know, it's hard when you deal with someone that have, like, kids and stuff because you realize that, that, like, what she's trying to say is, like, you got to deal with, like, you got to deal with baby office. You got to deal with different things. Depends on who you got to deal with.

[Paul Peasy]

Deal. You ain't got to deal with the.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, you do because you have to deal with the whole a factor of, like, your man having a whole part of your life that you're not involved in. Like, you got, like, if you don't have kids, you don't have that. Like, you also deal with the fact that you'll never have, like, your own family with that person. Meaning, like, this is not the first time this person already lived this life, had kids. This is you. Like, that's not as exciting to be like, oh, you're having a kid. Like, it's a different dynamic. And I feel like so many women deal with that and they like, so many women related to this. And it's crazy because I just was looking at this yesterday and I was like, damn, people were feeling that. And I feel like it's so important in a relationship for that to be understood and, like, the dynamic to be addressed and everyone to be on the same page, because if not, it's hard. So I feel like with the this situation, you have to communicate it and you have to talk about how you're feeling. Because if this is someone you really want to be with long term, then you got to be able to address this. And he has to make sure you also feel comfortable in the situation, because if you don't, then you're never going to be able to be with someone long term. That's a reality that you have to accept. This person has children and you have to. If you love him, you're going to have to love his children and be a part of his life. And that's important. So address it, talk about it, get into it. And I think that that's the best thing move. And Paul says the same thing. So keep sending in fan questions. We really, really, really love the fact that you guys send these questions in. We want to do, like a little hotline one of these days. We'll let you guys know about that. And we have a live show coming up, so if you're in the Los Angeles area, we will give you all the details soon. Thank you guys for all your support. We love you.

[Paul Peasy]

We appreciate you, like, subscribe. Follow us on all the major platforms. YouTube.

[Azar Faraday]

That's it. I mean, what are the major platforms?

[Paul Peasy]

Come on.

[Azar Faraday]

You don't know what platforms roam around all the major platforms.

[Paul Peasy]

We're not supposed to be arguing. We're supposed to tell the people what the platforms are.

[Azar Faraday]

The platforms. YouTube, Spotify, Apple. You want me to name every single platform?

[Paul Peasy]

Yeah, people are.

[Azar Faraday]

Yes, YouTube. And make sure to that. You guys know that we're on Tubi, so if you are, that's what I'm just.

[Paul Peasy]

I'm cheering you on right now.

[Azar Faraday]

Watch us on Tubi. Watch.

[Paul Peasy]

Usually distracted you are. You're easily distracted. I make a face, you're like.

[Azar Faraday]

Thank you guys so much. You can watch us on Tubi, Apple, Spotify, all the major platforms, YouTube, etc.

[Paul Peasy]

You think I run her dry? She ruby dry high. She run me low. I mean, you know, that's what she say. Let's see the boots.

[Azar Faraday]

This is crazy. Good night. Thank you guys for joining.

[Paul Peasy]

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[Azar Faraday]

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