Cheating On Your Partner, Threesomes Outside The Country, & Open-Relationships | Truth After Dark

Summary

Club Shay Shay – "Cheating On Your Partner, Threesomes Outside The Country, & Open-Relationships | Truth After Dark"

Release Date: November 3, 2025
Host: Cesar Faraday (Truth After Dark), supported by a co-host
Podcast: Club Shay Shay

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Overview

This episode of "Truth After Dark" (a segment within Club Shay Shay) dives unapologetically into the tangled realities of modern relationships—from cheating and open relationships to threesomes, mental boundaries, and friendship dynamics. Cesar Faraday and the co-host dissect recent celebrity scandals and relatable dilemmas, blending unfiltered personal experience, social observations, and spicy hypotheticals. The tone is raw, humorous, and candid with strong opinions and lively debate.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Open Relationships & Cheating Scenarios

([03:14]–[08:07])

• Michael Blackskin Situation:

  • Recap of Michael Blackskin allegedly fathering a child outside his open marriage.
  • Cesar discusses, “I think when people are open ... sometimes if you are open, the agreement is ... we mess with women together or I approve ... but whatever the case is, it’s obviously not okay because he’s apologizing ... he fucked up.” ([04:01])
  • The co-host believes: “If it’s open, that should be cool.” ([03:43])
  • Both agree that specific agreements, not just the label "open," dictate boundaries.

• Boundaries in Open Relationships:

  • Exposing the misconception that open = no rules.
  • The importance of “record deals”—private relationship rules that outsiders don’t see.
  • “You don’t know what people’s record deal was closed when … you don’t know what people’s record deal is.” ([08:04])

2. Men and Women as Friends

([06:47]–[07:31])

• Cesar asserts, “Men and women cannot be friends, period. Like it’s some tricky always. And that’s just the truth.” ([06:47])
• The co-host disagrees but Cesar doubles down: “The only way they can be friends is if a man is genuinely not attracted to that woman or the woman friend-zoned him. The moment she does anything… it will change, period.” ([07:13])
• Sparks a debate about boundaries and respect in relationships—especially if the dynamic changes.

3. Social Media & Parenting

([08:25]–[10:24])

• Cesar criticizes parents creating and roleplaying on Instagram accounts for their children: “It takes a level of mental illness ... Like, why do you have an Instagram for your child, and you’re writing captions as if you’re the child?” ([08:25])

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4. Threesomes & Rules for Extra-Relationship Sex

([11:35]–[14:19])

• Threesome Boundaries:

  • “Maybe if I went out the country, it was a random woman ... we did it. Maybe I will do it. But ... I don’t even want us to know the name of the girl.” ([12:18], [13:56])
  • Strict rules: no lingering, “she should be out of there as soon as he nuts ... it should not be from you ... I’m not going to sleep until you’re out of there, ho.” ([12:46])

• No Emotional Overlap:

  • Recurrent insistence that threesomes must stay anonymous and unrepeatable to avoid emotional entanglements.

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5. Marriage Proposals: Should Women Buy Their Own Rings?

([14:42]–[19:18])

• The Mase Viral Clip:

  • Discussion over Mase’s viral statement: “If you really want to marry me, go buy your own ring.”
  • The co-host: “If you want it earlier than me ... go get the ring now, and I will ... that’ll tell me something.” ([15:38])
  • Cesar: “As a woman, I would advise no woman to ever do that ... If a man don’t want to marry you ... that’s burnt out.” ([16:38])

• Debate Over Testing Love:

  • Co-host suggests testing women’s love with extreme actions.
  • Cesar counters, “You don’t have to create tests for your partner. You are going to be tested all the time by God.” ([18:13])

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6. “Cheat to Test If She Loves You” – Toxic or Real?

([19:18]–[24:10])

• Co-host provocatively says, “If you really want to know if a girl love you, you need to go out and cheat on her.” ([19:18])
• “You want to be with a woman with low self esteem. That’s the type of advice you’re giving young...” – Cesar ([19:59])
• Cesar: “That’s the worst advice you can give ... Stop trying to tell young men to go cheat on their women to test them.” ([20:12])

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7. Men Who Cheat: Trust, Friendship & Business

([24:58]–[26:16])

• Noriega's stance (via Angie Martinez): “If you can disregard, disrespect your girl and cheat, I do not trust you ... What are you going to do to me if you are cheating on ... your partner?” ([24:58])
• Co-host disagrees: “I’m just doing business with you. That’s it. ... That ain’t it.” ([26:16])
• Discussion over whether cheating translates to dishonesty in other areas.

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8. Women Friends and Relationship Sabotage

([29:01]–[33:27])

• Viral post: woman credits her marriage/success to ignoring her friends’ advice not to cook/clean or submit.
• The co-host: “Women really the downfall of other women’s relationships? 100% ... crabs in a barrel.” ([29:31])
• Cesar: “Stop telling your business to your friends. They’re going to be the downfall ... they’re going to now judge him.” ([29:54])
• Advice: “Don’t take advice from people you wouldn’t want to switch lives with.” ([33:27])

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9. Exclusivity, Sex, and Unspoken Dating Rules

([38:19]–[44:12])

• Talking Stage Etiquette:
  • Co-host: “If we’re just talking and I’m out with another girl, don’t come up to me ... If we’re just in the talking, dating stage. Don’t do that.” ([38:33], [39:09])
• Sex Is Never Casual (for Women):
  • “Sex for women is not casual because every time a man enters you, whether you have a condom on or not, you risk getting pregnant ... and nothing about that is casual.” ([41:01])
  • Scientific note: “A woman releases a hormone while they have sex that makes them fall in love ... men don’t.” ([42:01])
• Exclusivity Should Be Explicit:
  • “Do you think that when it becomes exclusive, a man needs to ask directly?”
  • Co-host: “He has to tell her, you’re my chick.” ([44:23])

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10. Sex & “Post Nut Clarity”

([44:48]–[47:06])

• “Post nut clarity” is discussed:
  • “You’re feeling a girl and then as soon as you nut, you’re like, ‘I shouldn’t have did that.’” ([44:53])
  • The co-host confirms: “That be happening to dudes ... you just get caught in a moment and you was like, damn, I was tricky.” ([46:08])

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11. Is There Such a Thing as ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’ Sex for Men?

([46:48]–[50:42])

• Cesar: “Is there really, like, good vagina and, like, not good vagina—and what is that difference?” ([46:48])
• Co-host: “I think a man makes it what it’s gonna be ... if it’s not cool, then it’s on the guy.” ([47:06])
• Discussion on intimacy, physical and emotional connection.
• Talk about sex hygiene—smells, pH balance, and how both partners can impact experience.

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12. Rapid-Fire Relationship Dilemmas

([50:42]–[52:42])

• Which is worse: partner cheats with your friend or your enemy?
  • Co-host: “My friend. Because now I got two enemies instead of one.” ([50:56])
• Which is worse: partner cheats with another woman or a man?
  • “My partner cheating with a man because I’m the man.” ([51:39])
• Sharing Netflix passwords with exes: No big deal; “just change and get your own account.” ([52:19])
• Old DMs between best friend and current partner: Not a threat if pre-dating.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Open Relationships:

  • “You don’t know what people’s record deal is. ... So we can have as many opinions as you want, but he’s clearly apologetic for what he has done. So clearly he broke some type of rule within what they decided upon within their own relationship.” – Cesar ([08:04])

• On Testing Relationships:

  • “You don’t have to create tests for your partner. You are going to be tested all the time by God.” – Cesar ([18:13])
  • “If you really want to know if a girl love you, you need to go out and cheat on her.” – Co-host ([19:18])

• On Social Media Parenting:

  • “Like, why do you have an Instagram for your child, and you’re writing captions as if you’re the child?” – Cesar ([08:25])

• On Sex and Relationships:

  • “Sex for women is not casual because ... you risk getting pregnant ... nothing about that is casual.” – Cesar ([41:01])
  • “Post nut clarity ... you just get caught in a moment and you was like, damn, I was tricky.” – Co-host ([46:08])

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Open Relationships & Michael Blackskin Discussion: [03:14]–[08:07]
• Men and Women Friends Debate: [06:47]–[07:31]
• Social Media Parenting Critique: [08:25]–[10:24]
• Threesome Rules: [11:35]–[14:19]
• Should Women Buy Own Ring? The Mase Debate: [14:42]–[19:18]
• Testing Love via Cheating: [19:18]–[24:10]
• Cheating & Trust in Life/Business: [24:58]–[26:16]
• Women Friends as Relationship Downfall: [29:01]–[33:27]
• Unspoken Rules of Talking Stage: [38:19]–[44:12]
• Sex, Exclusivity & Post Nut Clarity: [44:48]–[47:06]
• Good vs. Bad Sex Discussion: [46:48]–[50:42]
• Rapid-Fire Dilemmas: [50:42]–[52:42]

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Episode Tone & Takeaways

• Blunt and unfiltered: Hosts hold little back, calling out toxic relationship advice and gender double standards.
• Humorous and lively: Banter over scenarios like “post nut clarity,” threesomes—and whether pretty girls have worse sex—spark big laughs.
• Thoughtful moments: Despite jokes, hosts call for maturity and self-respect, especially around relationship boundaries, exclusivity, and advice-giving.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in real talk about unconventional relationships, modern dating dilemmas, and the messy intersection of love, sex, and friendship.

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Transcript

[Cesar Faraday]

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[Cesar Faraday]

For their children and post as if they're the child. It's mentally ill to me. And then they post and they comment and they say thank you mommy and post to the comment to yourself. It's sick. She should be out of there as soon as he nuts. And it should not be from you. It has to still be for me. Then you have to go. It's no spending a night. It's no I'm sleep and you. I'm not going to sleep until you're out of there. Ho. Is there really like good vagina and like not good vagina and what is that difference?

[Co-host]

You really want to know? If a girl love you, you need to go out and cheat on her.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like I'm losing my mind.

[Co-host]

This is taking over the game. All right everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Cesar Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I am your host, Cesar Faraday.

[Co-host]

What up? The truth is in the Building.

[Cesar Faraday]

The truth is in the building.

[Co-host]

Another week, back at it. Another week back at it.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yep, back at it again.

[Co-host]

Stuff going on, man.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, it's some stuff. So we're gonna hop right into the stuff that's going. So Michael Blackskin, he has a whole situation with his wife. So I guess basically he ended up having a child outside of their relationship.

[Co-host]

Wait, but they, they was an open relationship, right?

[Cesar Faraday]

From what I heard, they were open. But he did have a baby with one of his female friends.

[Co-host]

And that's not cool. No, I'm saying, like, if it's open, that should be cool.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, I think when people are open, I don't know all the details, but clearly it's not cool. So clearly it was something against whatever agreement they had. Maybe they had an agreement where sometimes if you are open, the agreement is like, we mess with women together or I, you know, it's the thing we do, me and you. Or I approve. But whatever the case is, it's obviously not okay because he's apologizing on, you know, line to her. And she went ahead and I will summarize, but she did write something to her son online, as if he's going to read it, and then just said, I want to share something from my heart, basically to her son, I'm sorry for bringing you into a world in a situation that wasn't what you deserved. Even though I can't change the past, I promise you, now that you are here, I'll do everything my power to give the life and love you deserve. You will never have to question whether you're loved. You are my heart. And then he came out and posted his new baby and said good day to my family, friends and fans. The last few months, God has blessed me. But in blessings came a lot of pain. Two months after his wife gave birth to little Mikey, a female friend I've known for over five years also gave birth to my son, King Blacks. Anyways, he apologized to her. I hope she forgives me for the pain I've brought to her. I'm going to do my best to be a loving father to avoid turning into Nick Cannon or Elon Musk. I'm only dating women that run out of period or how to hysterect.

[Co-host]

Run out of damn. So they not together no more.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, she then responded and said, I don't normally respond, but let's just agree that was the most pathetic post or apology ever.

[Co-host]

Goodness.

[Cesar Faraday]

And she said, basically she said at this point she's done joining the circus because he was A clown.

[Co-host]

Oh, my God.

[Cesar Faraday]

And she stayed in the circus for too long. And his type was never me, because I'm a real woman. This is what happens when you hold a demand down 100%.

[Co-host]

See, this is my opinion on that. You. You come to the circus, we go on tour, we performing, and then all of a sudden, you. This is what you signed up for. But just now you ain't feeling it no more. Like, come on, this supposed to just. We supposed to keep this going. Like, this is what you. I don't understand women who get into open relationships and men. Like, this is what comes with it. Now, if you're okay. And like, to me, open relationship means it's open. We're together. So don't say what I can or can't do, because that's not what open is. So now I have another kid, and now you ain't feeling the circus. And I'm like, damn. Like, what happened? See, women get into relationships, and it's cool at first, and then y' all be together for a long time, and this is what it was. But then you stopped being cool. This is how we got cool. And now you. This. Now it ain't cool. See, that's. Man, that's. I don't like that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I could never be cool with an open relationship. But, you know, this goes back into what I was saying. Men and women can't be friends. Men and women I see every single, single day. Oh, he was my friend for five years. Now we're married. Oh, he was. Now we obeyed my female friend, had a baby. Like, I do not give a what. Nobody says men and women cannot be friends, period. Like, it's some tricky always. And that's just the truth.

[Co-host]

I don't agree.

[Cesar Faraday]

I agree 100, and I'm constantly proven right. And the only way they can be friends is if a man is really genuinely not attracted to that woman or the woman. Friend zoned him. But the moment she does anything that remotely makes it seem like he could get it, she. It will change, period.

[Co-host]

So when you was like that, like your other person, did you have friends like you? No. I'm saying, like, I'm not saying you wasn't attractive, but you was like, another person.

[Cesar Faraday]

When I was 280.

[Co-host]

Yeah. Did you have friends, like, other friends outside your boyfriend?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I didn't. No. Because it was disrespectful.

[Co-host]

All right, so I'm just saying, like, if it's open a relationship, it opens the door for other things. So now you gave me that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I agree. I'm not denying that.

[Co-host]

What's the issue with it? And now that a kid becomes involved, and especially see, this hurts my heart when you have a young one that's like four months and now it's like it's over with or, you know, and it's just like, damn, but he has.

[Cesar Faraday]

Two young ones now you have a baby with a whole nother situation. And as a woman being honest, a man with a newborn baby in a relationship is a very difficult thing to deal with. And you gotta really love that man. Because bringing a baby outside of your relationship into this world while in a relationship. While in a relationship, and having another baby on the way or getting that baby, that's some up foul. And it feels. Even if whatever the situation is, it's hard, but it's difficult and it takes. No, but it doesn't matter. They're not open in that sense. They probably, whatever they did, they had an agreement because he's clearly apologizing and saying he fucked up. So whatever. They were open. You don't know what their record deal was closed when. Yeah, you don't know what people's record deal is. No one knows what's in Beyonce's record deal. No one knows what's in their record deal with him and her. They had their own situation moving. So we can have as many opinions as you want, but he's clearly apologetic for what he has done. So clearly he broke some type of rule within what they. They decided upon within their own relationship. No one knows what y' all have going on, but y' all. Now, to me, I'm sick of women going on penning a whole note to their son that's two months old. Like, it takes a level of mental illness for people to make Instagrams for their children. No, when people make Instagrams for their children and post as if they're the child, it's mentally ill to me. Like, I will not deal with that is the weirdest to me. And then they post and they comment and they say, thank you, Mommy, and post to. The comment to yourself is sick. That's what I just saw something. No, but I just saw an influencer the other day and someone posted about it and she posted herself pregnant and made an Instagram for her unborn child and then said, mommy, is that me? And replied, this is what people are doing. I see it all the time. I've seen people in my own family do some stuff like that. And I told him, I said, that's sick. Like, why do you have an Instagram for your child, and you're writing captions as if you're the child. Mommy took me on a date. Like, that's mentally.

[Co-host]

That's crazy.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's mentally.

[Co-host]

What about the people who have Instagrams for their dogs?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I mean, I think if you're not right. I just. I can't. I can't do any of these. Yeah, I just. I'm just saying it's crazy. And me, personally, my kid does not need to have an Instagram period, like, when they're not able to use it themselves as a fucking adult.

[Co-host]

My thing is, if me and someone has an open relationship, then that's what open me. But we discussed open. Everything goes okay, so we're gonna move.

[Cesar Faraday]

On to that, you know.

[Co-host]

Damn, that's crazy.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, I get what you're saying, and I think once you open that door, you open the door to a whole bunch of other things. You open the door to this type of stuff happening. You open that door, unfortunately. And that's why, as a woman, even if you know a man might slip up and do something, you never make it seem like that's ever going to be okay. Like, I'm never going to be. Even if I know my. Like, damn, if this man cheated on me, I probably wouldn't break up my family because I love this person and I don't want to leave him, and I probably would stay. You know what I'm saying? But I'm never letting him know. Like, you go, and I'm still going to be crying, and you still going to have to make it up and build the trust. But, I mean, you don't make a man feel like he could just get away with anything. Like.

[Co-host]

But this is my thing. So, like, if I say, me and you in a relationship, and you say we open, and I say, all right, let's have an open relationship, that means I like having sex not only with you, but other girls.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. So it's like, every man likes having sex with other women. All type of women.

[Co-host]

But now you agree to it. Yeah, but now I have a girl that agreed to it. Oh, I'm in heaven now. Okay, so now, you know, maybe it's under your terms, but, like, what if it's a girl that me and you was with together, under your terms, But I had something with her.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's the problem. That happens.

[Co-host]

That's what you open with her, like, without you, but, like. Cause you're not around right now, or you nine months pregnant, or you.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, I'm not doing that and what else is blowing me is, like, if I would know I'm not open. Like, to me, a threesome. I'm not really feeling that. But I always said, like, maybe if I went out the country, it was a random woman, we would never see her again. And we did it. Maybe I will do it. I would do it. But, like, it blows me, like, if I'm asleep and I wake up. Someone just asked me this, and I wake up and my man is having.

[Co-host]

Sex with that girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

Everyone.

[Co-host]

You was drunk, passed out.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, she should be gone as soon as. There's two things. She should be out of there as soon as he nuts. And it should not be from you. It has to still be for me. Then you have to go. It's no spending a night. It's no I'm sleep. And you. I'm not going to sleep until you're out of there. Ho. And if I wake up and you're writing something next to me, I'm. It's every. It's blowing me. I. I'm losing it. Like, I'm losing my mind. What you mean you doubling back on the sex sleep.

[Co-host]

Hold on. We was, you know, we was watching the movie. You fell asleep.

[Cesar Faraday]

You shouldn't be watching us. See, this is where meds. Why are you watching a movie with a horn?

[Co-host]

Fell asleep because we. That's what we was all doing.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, she's. We're not watching. That's where I draw the line. It would never wake up.

[Co-host]

Well, wake up.

[Cesar Faraday]

We're not watching movies anyways, so let's move on to crazy. That would blow me. I'm not having. That's my biggest thing. Like, I'll do it, but the has to go.

[Co-host]

I made some wings. You asleep? We ate the wings.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're not making food? No. You don't. No, there's no making food. Like, what are you talking about? There's no eating apple. I don't even want to know her name. We. I don't even want us to know the name of the girl.

[Co-host]

You set it up though.

[Cesar Faraday]

You know, it was a pickup. We're out the country. It was a pickup. She's there. She's at the club or something. Okay, cool. We did that. You gotta go. We never seen you again. We're not exchanging numbers. We don't know your name. I'm never gonna see you. And this man is never gonna see you ever again. You're out. You're out of there. That's the only way I will do that Threesome. That's the only way. And I'm done after that. And then I don't even want to.

[Co-host]

Licking my toes. You woke up to the toes. Getting lit.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm out. I'm not even doing this no more because it's crazy. This is Mommy. Anyways, let's. So, Mace, he has a viral clip right now.

[Co-host]

Wait, Mace.

[Cesar Faraday]

Cam and Mace.

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[Co-host]

Murder Mace. Murder Mace.

[Cesar Faraday]

Murder Mace.

[Co-host]

Okay, okay.

[Cesar Faraday]

Mace has a viral clip right now where he said that he was with a woman and she wanted to get married, so he asked her to buy the ring if she was really serious about the proposal.

[Co-host]

What's wrong with that?

[Cesar Faraday]

So you think that. Okay, like, you're in a relationship, and I'm like, hey, serious.

[Co-host]

Did she propose to him?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, he's saying that.

[Co-host]

Oh, she said I wanted to get her married, and she said, imagine you're.

[Cesar Faraday]

In a relationship, babe, I want to get married. I really want to marry you. I want to do that commitment.

[Co-host]

Go give me a ring.

[Cesar Faraday]

So. Not you. A ring. Buy your own ring.

[Co-host]

Buy your own ring?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, go buy your own ring, and I'll use. And then we could. If you that serious about me, go buy your own ring.

[Co-host]

Ooh, that's a bar. Oh, I'm a. I'm a. Damn. I'm at the. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Let me put this in my notes. Oh, yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

So you think that a woman should buy her own ring if she wants a man to marry her.

[Co-host]

Ooh. I mean, you. If you want it earlier than me. Yeah, like, you want to get married. And I wasn't on that thought process, but he said, go get the ring now, and I will. Is that not worth it?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm never. I'm never ever forcing a man to marry me, so it's not worth it. To me, it is if you want me to go out and buy a ring. Because first of all, I'm never even.

[Co-host]

Telling a man these rules even come from.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, no, no, no, no. It's not a rules. It's. It's.

[Co-host]

It's.

[Cesar Faraday]

For me personally, there's a reason. It's an order. And when things are out of order, it's not cracking. And that's a fact, because for me, if my man is saying, first of all, I'm not bringing up marriage. I've never brought up marriage in any of my relationships, because that's just, like, I'm not pressed. You want figure it out. Secondly, also, I'm not going to be like, oh, I'm not ready to get married, so let me go get the ring. Cuz that's a level of like I'm.

[Co-host]

Forcing and hold a cage jewelry and get a cheap ring. And that's. Ain't that a ring?

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not about the price. It's about the thought of I. It's about the thought of if a man don't want to marry you and you going out to buy a ring that's just burnt out on so many different levels. As a woman, like, I don't even care what the man is saying. As a woman, I would advise no woman to ever do that. Because it's not about the price, it's not about the ring. It's like if as a woman you have to do all of that to get a man to want to marry.

[Co-host]

No, it ain't that. Let me tell you something.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, what is it?

[Co-host]

I think sometimes men be with women and say, like you would everything's all good and y' all lovey dovey. And y' all ain't never really tested love. Ain't really been tested. Like y' all ain't really been through nothing. That'll tell me a lot. That'll tell me a lot if a.

[Cesar Faraday]

Woman goes buys a ring.

[Co-host]

Yeah, because think about it like you really. Like I told you, the love get tested when you go through something.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, for sure.

[Co-host]

The love get tested. Like we can just be lovey dovey and say we love each other and it's all rainbows and roses. But then you ain't really been through something because sometimes you go through one thing and y' all break up. Oh, that was built on like that wasn't real.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't care what no one says. That's a play play relationship.

[Co-host]

I'm like, oh, it's kind of real. Okay, she down to do that. That's gonna tell me something. Then she come back with it. I'm like, damn, you really did that. So you know what? Go get your money back. I got you. Maybe that was a test. Maybe that's what the test was, to figure it out.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like, that ain't.

[Co-host]

That's a real one.

[Ryan Seacrest]

That is.

[Co-host]

That is a test.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't believe that's the test.

[Co-host]

I put you y' all through some.

[Cesar Faraday]

To test you going to go through test. It has nothing to do with me going to buy a ring. Life is going to test you. And yes, I agree. If someone breaks up with you or leaves you off of the first test, that relationship wasn't built to last. That was a play play relationship. At the end of the day, we wasn't serious and we didn't have moving because you are going to be tested on so many different levels. You don't have to create tests for your partner. You are going to be tested all the time by God. Because anything powerful and two people coming together that are equally yolked, that are creating a powerful movement in the world is going to be tested. And if you're a man of God, you know that the Dev don't come for his own people cuz they already over there with him. The devil comes for the light, the powerfulness, the angels, they come for those type of people. So if you get two of those people together, you don't have to create no test. Y' all are going to be tested all the time with a lot of different things.

[Co-host]

Maybe that was the final test. The.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, that ain't the fight. It's not your. If you a man of God, it's not your job to test nobody. That's not your responsibility. That's God's job. So don't preach that and then say you creating tests or vengeance or this on people because that ain't for you to do. Moving on.

[Co-host]

Moving on. So anyway, there's cats out here like really, if you really want to know if a girl love you need to go out and cheat on her. Let's see, if you really want. If you really want to know if a girl love you for real, go cheat on her and see how she react. Now we gonna see what's real. I'm just saying, like I, I don't know, Tell me. But we. What? Tell me.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you something. Let me tell you something. If you really want to know if.

[Co-host]

A girl, if a girl really love you, go out and cheat on her.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay. And if that girl loves herself more than you, then you ain't got no chance in the world. Exactly. So you want to be with a woman with low self esteem. That's the type of advice you're giving young self esteem.

[Co-host]

That's love. That's just love.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, it is to a certain degree, but that's not something that. Listen, just because I might decide how to stay with someone, you don't. God will. God will. Trust me. There's going to be tests that you can't even think of. You've been through so many tests in your life that you couldn't create it if you wanted to. Trust me. So stop trying to tell young men to go cheat on their women to test them. Like that's the worst advice you can give.

[Co-host]

If you want to know if a woman loved you.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's the worst advice of how do.

[Co-host]

I find out if a girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

I just told you, you're gonna be tested in different ways.

[Co-host]

How do I find out what's the test? Give me an example.

[Cesar Faraday]

Women don't deserve to struggle just to have love.

[Co-host]

Well, it go both ways.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, but I'm saying that.

[Co-host]

But it go both ways for the man, for the woman. Let me. If you want to see.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm gonna do that, and I'm gonna see what's going on. Yeah, I feel like at the end of the day, it's really, really important to be very aware of the messages that you put out into the universe. But I will say this. There are going to be tests in relationships that you do not even know are coming to you. And I don't believe that cheating and infidelity is the only test that you can have in a relationship. There's a lot. A lot. And I feel like at the end of the day, and there are some women or men that feel like, I can't deal with cheating. Everybody can deal with something. There's some women that could be like, I don't care if he has no money, but I can't deal with a man where that's cheating. Some woman. I could deal with a rich man, but I can't. I. I can't. I can't deal with a broke man, but I could deal with some cheating. There's a lot of different things. You find someone who's worth it, and you find what works for you. Cheating might not work for Mary up the street, who ain't never seen nothing like that. That might break her down and shatter her in a way that she can't even explain to herself or anyone around her. But she may be able to deal with a lot of other stuff. Love is enduring what you and your partner can give. But you have to understand your partner enough to know what that is. You get to know each other, you understand each other, and you understand who somebody is. And you know you can't change nobody, period. So, no, you don't cheat on your partner to figure that out if that happens. And that's a crossroads you guys have to deal with. I know I would probably be willing to stay if everything else was in alignment for me, but not everyone is doing that.

[Co-host]

You gotta set it up. Like, I'm gonna set it up today. I'm gonna call her up. I'm gonna be tell the homie, like, Tell my girl I'm gonna be in this club, but I'm gonna be with some work. See how she react when she walk in and the girl is on my lap or something.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, a motherfucker don't want to do that to me. I'mma keep it real.

[Co-host]

If she whoop that. If she whoop her ass, she love you, and y' all cool. And she walk out of there and hold your head. She love you.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's so toxic. That's toxic as hell. I do believe that there's a level of thing you have to put your. You and your partner will. Will go through there. It's. But it's inevitable. You don't have to create no extra test. It's inevitable.

[Co-host]

One thing I will say. It don't have to be sex. Sex ain't always.

[Cesar Faraday]

I know, but when I'm saying me.

[Co-host]

Well, my arm. Like, if I got my arm around another girl, is that cheating?

[Cesar Faraday]

It's just disrespectful.

[Co-host]

Is it cheating?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I wouldn't say it's cheating. And I would. I'm not gonna think that's not gonna end our relationship.

[Co-host]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like that.

[Co-host]

If you walk in and I'm.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's not the end. You're kissing.

[Co-host]

Kissing?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, kissing is cheating.

[Co-host]

Like the kiss another girl is cheating?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yes. If you're harmed around or, like, touchy, whatever. That's not necessarily cheating. And that's not anything you're gonna break up. But it's like, if you're kissing, that's blowing me. And honestly, like I said, to whom much is given, much is tested. You do not have to create no test for your partner. If you guys have a powerful relationship. To whom much is given, much is tested. You will be tested.

[Co-host]

Listen, even Jesus. Okay, tested.

[Cesar Faraday]

Are you giving yourself to Jesus? This is blowing me. Are you? No.

[Co-host]

But he tested the love of Abraham, right?

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay.

[Co-host]

Did he not? You're talking about you went to God, right? You went to the God and you went to all of that. Now God will let you know. Yeah. Jesus tested Abraham, right? Or was it. Wait, wait, who was. It was Abraham Jesus tested. He took his family, took. And he tested his faith. He tested his job. It was job, right? He tested job. Like he wanted to see his love.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, so I'm just saying.

[Co-host]

So I wanted to see the love.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, well, you. You might see a lot more than love tested.

[Co-host]

Joke. That's what I'm saying.

[Cesar Faraday]

So anyways, this is the perfect segue. Noriega was on Angie Martinez podcast, and he said, if you can disregard, disrespect your girl and cheat. I do not trust you. What are you going to do to me if you are disrespecting? If you are cheating on the woman who you live with, create a life with who is your girl, who is your partner? If you can cheat on her, what can you do to me? You ain't going to treat, treat me.

[Co-host]

Right about his homie.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, his homie, he said he judges men that do that. He don't want to do business with you and he don't want to know.

[Co-host]

You'Re looking for some female fans with that one. He didn't been around.

[Cesar Faraday]

No. I've heard a lot of men say, like, and usually I hear white men say this, but they're like, I don't trust well, others I don't see just white. I don't. I always see others say this. They say like, I don't like to do business with men who cheat on their wives. Because if you can cheat on your wives, you'll cheat in business, you'll cheat in other things. Like, I don't trust that. I always see like certain high caliber men say that that are not black. He's the first black man I actually heard say that. Same concept of like, I don't trust you if you can cheat on your woman. Because if your woman is the person who's doing all of this for you and is here for you every day and you could cheat on her, what can you do to me? I'm not even giving you half of it.

[Co-host]

That's not. Nah, that ain't it. Cause I'm just doing business with you. That's it. I'm just doing business. This ain't got nothing to do with love. I don't even have to know the person I'm doing business with all that well. I just know that he do good business.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, but not just business. He's saying like, just friendships too, like his homies. Like, how can I? What you gonna do to me if you do?

[Co-host]

If I'm sitting with my homie and I know he married and he out cheating on his wife and I'm seeing it right there. That's up for her to find out, not me. I'm not trying to get in the middle of all that. I don't like, I'm still gonna be cool with him. That's on him. Like, that's his, you know, his doing. I ain't gonna discredit him. That's my homie. Still. I gotta love him over different Reasons.

[Cesar Faraday]

If you're out with your. Let's say you're out and you see some. You see your homeboy, like, your cool, close homeboy girl, and she's out with a man, and she's booed. She's kissing. And this is your close homeboy's girl. Are you saying something?

[Co-host]

Oh, let me see if he booed. This my dude. Yeah, I'll be like, yeah, I saw her. I don't know if. Look, see, I'm not gonna jump to conclusions because, like, from the outside looking in, I don't know what the situation. I don't know if they have an open relationship. So I'm gonna ask them, like, you know, do y' all have an open relationship? I'm gonna ask other questions before I just go straight. Hey, I saw her. People like to jump to a conclusion. I don't like to do that. So I'm gonna be. I'm like, if she see me, I'm gonna let her see me, and I'm gonna see how she react to me, and then I'm gonna figure out what the mode is. I ain't gonna look from afar and then go back, because that's what people be doing, and that's how people ruin relationships, because they don't know really what the hell is going on.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. And I fuck with that because I.

[Co-host]

Need to be more in depth and really see. I ain't gonna just make a judgment off of what I see from afar. I'm gonna be like, hold on, let me go over there. That's the homie. Girl, I might say something. What's up, sis? How you doing? Everything good? You know, see what the vibe is. And if she comfy, then I'm. I don't got nothing to say. I ain't got nothing. Is she comfortable?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, but you could.

[Co-host]

Because she don't get uncomfortable if I come over there.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, because you can play it off. You can be like, hey, bro, this is Darnell.

[Odoo Advertiser]

Right?

[Co-host]

Right.

[Cesar Faraday]

Oh, my God. Yeah.

[Co-host]

And then when I talked to the homie, I was like, yeah, I saw. I saw wifey yesterday with Darnell. Yeah, let's see what he say. Oh, yeah, that's her brother.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, they was kissing in the tongue and down.

[Co-host]

Nah, you got to be a little more low than that.

[Cesar Faraday]

But they wasn't. They was lit. They did not. They thought they was low. They was in an exclusive setting. You just happened to be in that exclusive setting, too.

[Co-host]

Nah. All right, so a little more low than that. If you are married and you out, kid. Nah. You can't do that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Do you believe? So there's a woman going viral on the Internet, and she's showing off her ring, right? And she's like, listen, they told me not to cook for him. They told me not to clean. They told me not to listen to him. They told me, told me, told me, told me. They all told me not to do this. All my friends, friends. And now I'm about to get married. That's why I didn't listen to y'.

[Co-host]

All.

[Cesar Faraday]

So that's going viral, Baller. And basically they're asking the question is, are women really the downfall of other women's relationships?

[Co-host]

100%. 100% crabs in a barrel. Because when they down, they gonna pull each other. They want you to be like, come on now. Like, man. Man, I solely believe that's marriage has been ended. When girls be friends and one get divorced and the other one starts still hanging with her, just giving her all her bad energy because her wasn't right, and then now it leaks into your shit.

[Cesar Faraday]

You know what I'll say though, too? I really believe this. I feel like women have a tendency to vent only the negative stuff because they want to get it off. So they call their friend and every negative thing that ever happened, they told him about it. And then their friends are like, girl, I don't like him. He ain't. And then ever since that they not feeling him, and now everything he does is like, like what? Like. And then they're. Now their friends mean so much to them that it's like they're getting in her head every day. Well, girl, what is he doing? Like, I've had girls where I'm out and I don't even know these girls like that. And like, I'll be out with someone. They're like, oh, who? Who's talking to your man? Who's that? Like, girl, what? Get out my business. Because I'm not that person. Like, I'm not gonna. I learned at a very young age, and I hope more women learn this. Stop telling your business to your friends. They're going to be the downfall because they're going to now judge him. And what's crazy is, a lot of those people, if they were in the same situation as you, they would probably stay because they're not in the situation and they're not emotionally bound and they don't know the rest of your relationship, they're going to judge everything about your relationship.

[Co-host]

That's why I always say, Mary, couples should have married friends. Because if you do have A situation to where you going through something. Like, you got somebody you can lean on that probably been through the same thing you've been through, and y' all could kind of bounce off each other and heal. Where you got these girls who ain't got nothing, and you constantly going to them or they going through it, they gonna try to put you through it, too. That's why I be saying, like.

[Cesar Faraday]

But your married friends can do that, too. Sometimes if they're like, whatever, they have a certain standard or they're unhappy. Like, there's certain stuff for sure. Because it's like. Like, for instance, what we talked about, what everyone's willing to put up with. Some women might not ever put up with. No cheating is what they say. And some cheating happens. They're like, no, girl, my man would never like, sometimes it could make it worse sometimes, because women will be like, no, my man doesn't do that. He shows up, and then they're sending pictures of what the man's doing on the Instagram. And he bought me all these flowers for Valentine's Day. What does your man do? Oh, but we don't really celebrate.

[Co-host]

This is what I hate that women do. Y' all compare on what y' all men are doing for y'.

[Cesar Faraday]

All.

[Co-host]

And then you look at like, I wish my man would be doing what he doing.

[Cesar Faraday]

Just talked about this with Heather because she actually said she feels that. She used to feel that with her man to where she would see on Instagram all this stuff, and she would send it to him and be like, yo, what?

[Co-host]

What? What?

[Cesar Faraday]

Like, see this? Like, why am I not getting this?

[Co-host]

And I had to say, compare that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's exactly what I said. I said, you can't compare because comparison is the thief of joy. You don't even know what kind of situation they're doing. And you don't know that half of these people wouldn't be doing that if Instagram didn't exist. Yeah, it would be a bouquet and a dinner. Not all these 20 million bouquets filling every single inch of the home and all this extra doll stuff, because it's an Instagram content world now. You know what I mean? And I feel like women do the comparison stuff. So even sometimes when women are in relationships, it can be difficult because they're gonna do a comparison thing, and they're gonna be like, well, my homegirl. You know what I'm saying? Well, my man did this, and he would never cheat on me. Like, whole time he cheated. He just don't know. No, I'm Just kidding. But you know what I'm saying? Like, so I do think it important. No matter what, you. You have your one or two people that you know you can trust, that you were not going to judge you and that have a level. Don't take advice from people you wouldn't want to switch lives with. I don't. If I look at your marriage and it's raggedy as hell. I'm not taking advice from what you're saying.

[Co-host]

Like, you gotta go take advice for people who've been together a long time and stable. You know, sometimes it may not be the friend. It might be like a sister or a mentor. Yeah. Or like somebody like something like, you know. Damn. Come on, let me have a talk with, like, how did y' all make it so long? Like, how did y'.

[Cesar Faraday]

All.

[Co-host]

What did y' all go through anything? And most couples who've been together longevity and has decades of. Of. Of marriage together, they been through something more than one thing.

[Cesar Faraday]

A thousand things. And that's the truth.

[Co-host]

And that's why we probably separated at some point.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. 100. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. You go through a lot of stuff when you are together for a long time. And I think people who look at things from a perspective of life like we've been together for 20 years, they're able to look at it and be like, oh, this is something you're going through, but they're not. Like, this is extreme. End it right now, today. It's over. You know what I mean?

[Co-host]

Yeah. Anyways, we gotta put y' all to the test, man. We gotta make sure. So what is the test? Damn.

[Cesar Faraday]

The test is not for you to create. The test is gonna be given. You're gonna be given a test multiple.

[Co-host]

If she can't make me some. Some. Some lobster pasta first time through, and it'd be bomb, then we gonna have to have an issue. I mean, what kind of test? Like, you don't want the other test.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's stupid. But I can make a busting lobster pasta. So listen, let's get back into what we're talking about. So there's a man, and he takes a trip for his 40th birthday alone, because his girlfriend couldn't afford her half.

[Co-host]

Half. Whoa.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's blowing me. I'm. I'm tired. I'm tired.

[Co-host]

Wait. She couldn't afford her half of the trip. And this is his girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. And this is. And so he just was like, bye. And went on the trip. He was going, no, I don't Know where he went?

[Co-host]

Damn. She couldn't afford her half of the trip for his birthday. That's boss. That's a boss move. He probably wanted to go to London or something.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's. I'm not dealing with that.

[Co-host]

Like, you know what, man, this is gonna cost. This gonna. This is gonna cost me a grip, man. Can she get. She can't get there. It's my birthday. This is what I wanna do. I mean, this only get 140. Damn. I ain't mad at that. Kind of like she can't afford her half. Cause I can't afford her half. So if she can't afford her half.

[Cesar Faraday]

He can't afford it. But he doesn't.

[Co-host]

Nah, you didn't say that. He didn't say that. You sue me.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm assuming that he didn.

[Co-host]

I can't afford her half, but this is what I want to do for my 40. And if she can't afford her half, then this is what I want to do. So how you mad at him? You just got to be like, I'll see you when you get back. You can't be mad at that. The trip would have cost him like 3,000. He can't spend 6,000, and she can't afford the 3,000.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's just a plane ticket. And you already have to stay somewhere.

[Co-host]

You gotta understand what a trip is. You got flight, hotel, food.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're staying in the same hotel. So if you booked it, you booked it.

[Co-host]

I got flight. Flight.

[Cesar Faraday]

So flight.

[Co-host]

The only flight, round trip. Then, you know, it's like, man, how many days? And they'll say, it might be seven days. It might cost 3,000 for the room.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're already booking it, so what's the difference? You're going anyway. So you have the room. That's the most expensive part.

[Co-host]

Now, the room ain't the most expensive part, because I'm gonna be wanting to do something for my 40. I'm gonna be wanting to do this.

[Cesar Faraday]

And you're gonna do that regardless if I'm there or not.

[Co-host]

Yeah, but I'm saying if she came.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'll share the food. I just have a few bites.

[Co-host]

You'll share the food?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host]

What about that flight? That flight might be the most expensive thing.

[Cesar Faraday]

No.

[Co-host]

Yes. How you gonna.

[Cesar Faraday]

Because the room. Because the room.

[Co-host]

The room.

[Cesar Faraday]

How are you gonna say no? You ride first class for almost forever. You don't know regular frights, how much they cost? Like, you telling me. Like, we talk about people who can't afford. Like, I'm in that category. I Was in that category. Like, let's keep it real. I know what not affording and what these flights are heading for. You want to talk about the flight is more than the trip. Have you took the. An affordable vacation?

[Co-host]

I mean, go out the country. A flight over here cost like 10,000 to go overseas, and I got the passport.

[Cesar Faraday]

There's not. That's not the type of flights people are taking.

[Co-host]

He might be taking that.

[Cesar Faraday]

You can go into a coach seat. It's never going to be $10,000 period, point blank. I know you don't. Yes. If you don't know that lifestyle, look it up. Oh, I don't have to. I've traveled.

[Co-host]

So you've been to Africa for how much?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm getting it. I never said Africa.

[Co-host]

Like, what if that's where you want to go?

[Cesar Faraday]

Whatever. Moving on, Moving on. Moving on, man. Because you blow me. So today's question. Okay, all right. We're actually gonna go into some other stuff really quick.

[Co-host]

Really quick. We got on the agenda.

[Cesar Faraday]

What do you feel like are the unspoken rules of the talking stage? So when people are just dating, they're not boyfriend and girlfriend? Are you allowed in that stage to date and talk to other people?

[Co-host]

Yeah, the unspoken rules. If we're just talking and I'm out with another girl, don't come up to me.

[Cesar Faraday]

Oh, but what if we're talking to.

[Co-host]

And you see me over here with somebody else and we just in the talking stage? Then the unspoken rule is don't. Don't come over here saying, hi, what you been up to? Don't do that. You see I'm out with somebody else right now. No, we just talking. Be cool. And I'mma do the same thing if I see her out. Oh, okay. She. I'm okay. I'mma moved in another.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, I can respect that.

[Co-host]

You know what I'm saying? Rule.

[Cesar Faraday]

Don't do that.

[Co-host]

Don't come over there like, I won't go to your table, be like, hey.

[Cesar Faraday]

Why you didn't call me last time? Dating other people. Yeah, that's true.

[Co-host]

Come on. That's weak as hell.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's true.

[Co-host]

If we just in the talking, dating stage. Don't do that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, you're dating now. Are you communicating like, I'm dating other people? Like. Or is it just unspoken?

[Co-host]

We gotta do. We gotta. You said the unspoken spoken.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, but, like, for instance, what if we start to have sex, Is it okay? Because I personally am not okay with having sex with somebody who has sex with other people. I would not. I'm not Knowingly, Obviously. Probably happens.

[Co-host]

See, this is the problem with you females. No, seriously, like, y' all start dating a dude, and the first day you have sex, y' all pretend like y' all go with the dude. Like, we didn't establish that. We just had. We was in. We caught in the moment. So, like. Like, don't. If I have sex with you, and then the next night, you see me over here at. At the spot with some. With somebody else. That don't mean we go to, like, don't come over here. Like, what you doing? No, we didn't establish that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's why I'm not having sex until that's established.

[Co-host]

Yeah, no, we didn't establish.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's why women.

[Co-host]

I'm have to embarrass you in front of everybody.

[Cesar Faraday]

Why do you have to embarrass them?

[Co-host]

Because you embarrassing me now. Because I'm saying, like, if we have sex and we, you know, and you come over and I'm on another date and be like, excuse me, all that shit, like, hey, what's wrong with you, shorty? Hey, you better step back. And I'm at a table with another. Like, come on, you embarrass me now. Cause we didn't establish that we was together. Because girls, when you have sex with them one time or the first time, and we ain't established we was together, they think that your girl or something off top is just okay, you know, if y' all are there and like, is this going to be exclusive? Like, come on, you got to say that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I personally will say this. Don't be having sex with these men. Honey, you need to wait till these men are being intentional and serious. Because women, like, nothing is casual about sex for women. You entering my. I don't believe in casual sex.

[Co-host]

You don't.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not casual.

[Co-host]

You don't.

[Cesar Faraday]

First of all, stop pointing at the finger down. Put the finger down. No, no, no, no, no. Listen to what I'm saying. Sex for women is not casual because every time a man enters you, whether you have a condom on or not, you risk getting pregnant. Being pregnant is not casual. Nothing about that is every time a man enters your body with a condom or not, you sex, you. You get. You can risk a disease, period, point blank. Yeah, but it's more intense for a woman because some. When a key enters a hole. Right? Not everybody at the end of the day. No, listen to what I'm trying to say. A man at the end of the day entering a hole is different from a woman being entered A woman being entered is nothing about that is casual. And that's for every woman. If they want to play a game and act like it is, they can. But scientifically, a woman releases a hormone while they have sex that makes them fall in love. I don't know the name of it, but it's a true thing. So at the. No, men don't release that hormone. They don't. It's a scientific thing. Men don't, women do. So the more you have sex with a man, the more likely you are to fall in love. You are risking yourself. You're putting yourself in a really bad position. And nothing about sex is casual, period. You end up pregnant, you end up having to have an abortion, you end up taking a plan B. All of those things are harmful for your body, period, point blank. Those are things that men don't have to deal with. You end up with a uti, you end up with bacterial vaginosis, you end up with. With pH balance off. These are all things that women deal with that make sex not casual for women. And the reason women want to have sex with you and now they feel like they're in love is because you are entering their body.

[Co-host]

I mean, you entering my body.

[Cesar Faraday]

So they're going inside of you.

[Co-host]

Yeah. When?

[Cesar Faraday]

How?

[Co-host]

In. In sexual intercourse. A penis. You're going on a penis inside of.

[Cesar Faraday]

Not inside of your body.

[Co-host]

Yes, you are.

[Cesar Faraday]

Paul, the only way that a man gets entered is through the analogy. There's no way that a woman is entering your body during sex.

[Co-host]

Well, you're smothering my body. You're smothering me.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm screaming, get me off the pod. This man is crazy. You're smothering me. Sex is not casual. It's not. And women should stop having casual sex because it always ends up and some up. For a woman, it's heartbreak, it's embarrassment. It's a man being like, girl, we ain't even giving all of that.

[Co-host]

I want to know how did they scientifically study that her hormone goes off when man enters one. So, so they was. Somebody was having sex and they was doing a test. Like how?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, how? How they do tests on animals and then they test humans too? No, they test the animals and then they test the human.

[Co-host]

That's the same thing.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, but they test the humans too.

[Co-host]

No. So I'm about to see who's the first. Who's the first? I was laying there with their partner and he went and they had the whole Mr. They did it in the MRI or something. They was in the mri and they saw the neural. Neural part of the brain.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't know, but we'll have to.

[Co-host]

Look at the study they be making up out here.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, it's not a made up thing. So do you think that when it becomes exclusive, a man needs to ask directly, like, will you be my girl? Does it have to be a clear, like we're together?

[Co-host]

Yeah, he has to tell her you're my chick.

[Cesar Faraday]

He's telling her. He's not asking.

[Co-host]

And then. No, he's telling her and then I'll see what she say. Okay. Or no, I'm not ready for that. Okay, cool.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay. Okay. Got you.

[Co-host]

You gotta tell her. You don't have to ask. Tell her if that's how you feel as a guy. No, we exclusive too.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay. Is post nut clarity a real thing for men?

[Co-host]

Explain that again.

[Cesar Faraday]

So post nut clarity is when it's like you're feeling a girl and then as soon as you're nut, you're like, oh, let's call.

[Co-host]

Have. Have a what?

[Cesar Faraday]

Post nut clarity. That's what it's called. So it's like you're feeling a girl and then once you nut, absolutely, you're.

[Co-host]

Like, say something else.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's what they call it. They call it. They say pose nut clear. Once you, you, you know, finish.

[Co-host]

Okay, then what?

[Cesar Faraday]

You're like off of her? Like, like. Because they say, like, you never heard of this?

[Co-host]

Yeah, I mean, I, I understand that language. Okay. Like now you just like, I shouldn't have did that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, like, are you like, is that a real thing? Like clarity after you finish and you're.

[Co-host]

Like, like, that is a thing.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, it's like, I'm disgusting.

[Co-host]

I'm disgusting with myself. I'm like, yeah, that's tricky. Oh, you feel bad. It'll ruin your day. Like, damn, I shouldn't have did that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm like, oh, and is it just like. Is it because what like you cheated usually? Or is it cause she's like someone that's just not giving.

[Co-host]

It could be a number of things. It could be like. It could be like you cheated or it could be like you was lit. Or it could just be like.

[Cesar Faraday]

You'Re not attracted.

[Co-host]

Turn you look and you see that, that after that wake up. If you look at that, that not that night time that wake up, you just like, damn, what did I do?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm crying.

[Co-host]

It'd be a lot of shit that going. It's different, you know? I don't know. It's just, bro, I was like, damn, it was. You just get caught in a moment and you was like, damn, I was tricky. Yeah, that'd be happening. Yeah, that be happening to dudes. Like, you know, that's mostly young dudes, though. You know, they just be, like, doing too much. But that. I mean, it could be anybody, truthfully, you know. Yeah, that's a thing. That's definitely a thing.

[Cesar Faraday]

Do you feel like. And I really want to know this, because I feel like men will be like, oh, my God, like, this is the best sex I ever had. Is there really, like, good vagina and, like, not good vagina and what is that difference?

[Co-host]

I think a man makes it. What it's gonna be. Okay, Explain, like, if it's not cool, then it's on the guy. Cause I feel like a guy gonna make it cool.

[Cesar Faraday]

But do you think that there's good vagina? Like, is there, like. You know how a man's like, this vagina so good. I'm feeling it. Is that true or is men just saying?

[Co-host]

I mean, the homie told me it was, like, weak. He was like. She was just, like, laying there with moving.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's crazy.

[Co-host]

She was just laying there, just didn't move head back. Didn't even have no reaction to nothing. I was like, damn.

[Cesar Faraday]

But, like, does the vagina feel different? Like, that's what I'm trying to ask. Like, you're not answering, like, yeah. Question of, like.

[Co-host]

I think so.

[Cesar Faraday]

Is there different feels?

[Co-host]

You know, I think it's more than just the penis and the vagina. It's the intimacy that make it better.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I agree. But I'm asking you.

[Co-host]

It's more than a feel, though. Cause if you just out. If you just. Your whole thought is just to just go ahead and finish. You just not really thinking about if it's cracking or not. But if you feel a certain way, it's always gonna be better if you feel a certain way about the person. Person.

[Cesar Faraday]

But do you feel like there's such thing? Because I've heard men be like. What I've heard a lot from men is like, oh, like, really, really pretty women have, like, bad vagina sometimes. And it smells. And I've heard that a lot. Like, and it's blowing me. Like, it's like a smell to it. I've heard this so many people. And Heather said she heard this too. Like, more. A lot of people have said they heard this from men. And I'm like, what is that like?

[Co-host]

Or are you pretty? No, I'm just like. I mean, what do you think? I'M asking you. You got pretty friends.

[Cesar Faraday]

I personally don't know because when I feel like our men telling the truth, like with me, it's always like it's hitting it's bomb. But it's like, is every. Is every man just saying that?

[Co-host]

Have you ever got up from sex and was like, what's that smell? Cuz if you have, it's usually coming from the girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't think so. No.

[Co-host]

I'm gonna be honest. You ain't never got.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I never got out. Like. No, no, no.

[Co-host]

What is that? Let me go to the bathroom real quick.

[Cesar Faraday]

This is. Blow me.

[Co-host]

I'm saying not never. Come on, don't lie.

[Cesar Faraday]

Not to where. It's like crazy use.

[Co-host]

Just like the friction was off.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, but also too. What's crazy is, you know that men's ph, Men can throw off a woman's ph though.

[Co-host]

Now it's on us.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, no, no, that's a real thing. Like a man, like, trust me, like your body as a woman with a certain man will like be thrown off. I'm telling you, the woman will agree to this.

[Co-host]

Have your ph ever been thrown on?

[Cesar Faraday]

It has, yeah.

[Co-host]

Oh, so you have got.

[Cesar Faraday]

But it wasn't like to where it was like. No, no, it wasn't that. But it was just like, you can tell it's like different from your. Like sometimes if you have sex with a man a lot, you start to smell like him. Like, I can smell him on me. You know what I mean?

[Co-host]

She ain't answered the question. She ain't.

[Cesar Faraday]

Because that's not. That's crazy. No. So anyways, let's get back into this.

[Co-host]

Oh, man. Just got up and went to the bathroom.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's wild.

[Co-host]

And didn't come back.

[Cesar Faraday]

No. Like, what are you talking about?

[Co-host]

I don't know. I'm just saying I don't know.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, so anyways, moving. Moving forward. Because you can't take anything serious. What's worse for you? We're gonna play a little game. What's worse, your partner cheats with your friend or your enemy?

[Co-host]

My friend. Because now I got two enemies instead of one.

[Cesar Faraday]

But isn't that worse? Tattoo enemies?

[Co-host]

Yeah. So it's worse to go with my friend.

[Cesar Faraday]

Oh, oh, oh, I see what you're saying. Because then when you have an enemy, it's just kind of like it's already my enemy. Yeah, but like, can you expect my.

[Co-host]

Enemy to try to do something? Yeah, yeah, whatever.

[Cesar Faraday]

I get that.

[Co-host]

No, but now my homie, my friend. Oh, that's. That's weak.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that is super weak. I get what you're saying. The friend hurts way more to my.

[Co-host]

Because I talk to him.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. I don't talk to my enemy. Yeah, for sure. What's worse, your partner cheats with a woman or a man?

[Co-host]

My partner cheating with a man because I'm. I'm the man.

[Cesar Faraday]

So go. Okay, I get what you're saying.

[Co-host]

So if other men.

[Cesar Faraday]

So it's more forgivable if it was a woman to you.

[Co-host]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, got you. But I mean, why. What if the girl was using the fake? You know, they be using the.

[Co-host]

The girl was using the fake on her.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. Okay. Okay. So now next thing you find out, huh? Okay. You find out that your partner and their ex still share a Netflix password. Does that bother you?

[Co-host]

No. I'm be like, you got to change and get your own account.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay.

[Co-host]

She just forgot. I pull up and it's her name. Like, oh, she forgot.

[Cesar Faraday]

Your best friend shows you old DMS from your partner and they sent. A year before you started dating, they were flirting in the DMS a year before you started dating. You and your. Your best friend's like, look, flirting.

[Co-host]

I mean, you thought she was fine, too. That's cool. Okay. I ain't tripping.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, well, I think this was a great episode. Besides, you just say anything, man. You say a lot of stuff.

[Co-host]

Even when you was that other girl, you would have never.

[Cesar Faraday]

I never what? Bye. Thank you so much. Like, seriously. Seriously, you run me low. Thank you so much.

[Co-host]

Oh, man.

[Cesar Faraday]

For joining Truth After Dark. We appreciate you.

[Co-host]

Thank you. Next week, we have guests coming. Make sure you tune in next week. This one is going to be a thriller next week, so make sure you join.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. Thank you guys so much for all the love, the support. Make sure you're subscribed. Make sure you guys are following us on all social media platforms. Just support us. We really, really appreciate the love. Thank you so peace.

[Co-host]

This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Cesar Faraday]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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