Club Shay Shay – Drea Nicole & Lex P Discuss Marriage, Getting Cheated On, & ATL Strip Clubs

Release Date: December 22, 2025
Host: Cesar Faraday Paul (for “Truth After Dark”, a Club Shay Shay segment)
Guests: Lex P & Drea Nicole (of the Poor Minds podcast)

Episode Overview

This episode of Club Shay Shay, under the “Truth After Dark” banner, brings together viral personalities & podcast hosts Drea Nicole and Lex P. The show candidly tackles relationships, marriage expectations, getting cheated on, trust, “levels” of cheating, and the culture of Atlanta and Houston strip clubs. The conversation is spirited, balancing humor with genuine wisdom and personal experiences.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

How Lex P and Drea Nicole Met & Built Their Brand

• Origin Story:
  • Met while bartending at a Houston strip club—not as dancers—where they bonded over hustling, quirky customers, and “busting down” big tips.
  • “[A customer] was tipping her like, $100 every drink… only gave me like, $2,000 that night. Me and her…we could bust this down. And we just stayed friends after that.” – Lex P (08:14)
  • Lex eventually moved to Atlanta and convinced Drea to join; their friendship became the backbone of their podcasting partnership.
• Podcast Beginnings:
  • Recorded their first podcast episode at friends’ urging while out and about; “people around us would just start listening to our conversation, chiming in.” – Drea Nicole (08:41)
  • The show (Poor Minds) started to gain traction, building a cult following before they began featuring guests.

Perspectives on Relationships, Marriage & Timelines

Are They Single or Taken?

• Lex P: Single, recently out of a 2.5-year relationship; on-off situation, works closely with her ex.
  • “We work together and stuff, so…I don’t know.” (11:49)
• Drea Nicole: In a relationship, but “not married”; sees herself as technically single on paper due to lack of commitment.
  • “I think it’s so weird to be like, oh yeah, I have a boyfriend. So it’s like, technically, I am single. I’m not married. ‘Cause what are we doing?” – Drea (12:04)

How Long Should You Date Before Marriage?

• Both agree: Men “know” within a few years if they want to marry; waiting more than 3 years feels excessive.
  • “When you start to get close to that three year mark, what the you trying to do, right?” – Lex P (13:24)
• Living Together Before Marriage:
  • Drea: It’s fine as long as “there’s a plan”—no cohabitation just for comfort.
  • “Cause if you live together, it’s kinda like they get comfortable: ‘Babe, we don’t need to go to that courthouse.’” – Drea (14:06)

Marriage as Love AND Business

• Marriage serves practical purposes (finances, legal rights, legacy).
  • Drea shares how her late mother was protected post-father’s death because they were married: “If they wouldn’t have been married, he could’ve had cousins…fighting her for what was hers.” (16:04)
• Spiritual/Emotional Value: “It’s a union before God. It’s a beautiful thing.” – Drea (17:24)
• Avoiding Wasted Time: Lex P says the biggest fear is wasting “5-7 years” without marriage or kids.
  • “A lot of women, their biggest fear is wasting all of that time.” – Lex (17:44)
• Ultimatums & Timelines: Both women support giving a “timeline” (not quite an ultimatum) but agree men often take longer to articulate their plans.

Is it About the Proposal, or the Partnership?

• Both want genuine, not pressured, proposals.
  • “I’m not pressuring you… I would never do that with a man. I’m not.” – Lex P/Drea (22:17)

Infidelity, Cheating & Loyalty

Discovering Infidelity:

• Both have experienced being cheated on—one through “Inspector Gadget” social media sleuthing (Drea catching her boyfriend on another woman’s story at an NBA game).
  • “I seen a brown-skinned, big booty. I said, I—that’s her…they was at the Dallas Mavericks game having a ball.” – Drea Nicole (36:28)
• Lex P: Found out via mutual friends’ word-of-mouth and telling details.

Would You Stay If He Cheated?

• Drea: Used to forgive, now sees cheating as a deal-breaker.
  • “Even if we did move on and he becomes the perfect guy, it’s still in the back of my head…I think this is actually a deal breaker for me.” (59:03)
• Both agree: Cheating with a baby mama is an ultimate “no”—shows enduring attachment.

Levels of Cheating:

• Lex: “Cheating is anything you do that you can’t tell your partner about.” (56:55)
• Physical vs. Emotional:
  • Both see emotional cheating (support, sending money, etc.) as potentially worse than just physical.
  • “What if it’s like your man is sending somebody money and helping them with stuff. Yeah, that’s worse than…they hit it.” – Cesar (57:17)
• Reflexivity: Men “dish it” but can’t take it; men are often more sensitive about reciprocal flirty behavior.

On Jealousy, Trust & Social Boundaries

Boundaries in Social Settings:

• Both hosts distinguish between harmless fun and real disrespect.
  • “My ex, he was real flirty…but people also tell me I’m really flirting, too…So…I don’t really mind it because I feel like it goes with knowing your man.” – Lex P (43:28)
• Looking is natural; blatant staring or over-the-top flirting is disrespectful.
  • “Don’t break no neck… You can say stuff, you gonna do stuff, you’re gonna live, you’re gonna—like, that’s just a part of life.” – Cesar (47:11, paraphrased)

Friendships, “Bro Code” & Reporting Cheating:

• Only intervene if it’s your best friend; otherwise, don’t get involved or risk getting blamed.
  • “I’ll walk up to the table—hey, how you doing?…But that’s a best friend. That’s only a best friend.” – Drea & Lex (39:08)
• Caution against misreading situations; rely on trust and communication.

Men with Female Friends & Strip Clubs:

• Both women are comfortable with their men at strip clubs as long as it’s in the open. Private back-room dances are “too horny”—crossing a line.
  • “A private dance is crazy.” – Drea Nicole (64:57)
  • “You too horny. You getting a little head.” – Lex P (65:01)

Modern Dating & Gender Roles

“Passport Boys,” Cultural Differences & Traditional Values

• Debate over American women vs. women overseas; note on culture and upbringing:
  • “The men [overseas] are more traditional as well … being a leader. We were forced to be independent [in the US].” – Drea (71:29)
  • “When them overseas women come over here, they got an agenda, baby…they want that check.” – Cesar (72:55)

Attitudes on Being Single

• Drea: Being single isn’t a “sickness”; it can be fulfilling if you have strong community/friends/family.
  • “Being single is not scary…it’s a win-win either way.” – Drea (53:26)
• Lex: Hopes for partnership—“life’s not meant to be lived alone” (53:59)

Men Want Less Talking; Women Want More Communication!

• Men want women who “talk less”—but women also wish men would express themselves more openly, not bottle up feelings.
  • “Stop holding shit in so much.” – Lex P (76:41)
  • “He told me…‘It’s okay because I’m not always looking for an answer.’” – Lex recalling her ex’s words about sharing problems (75:11)
  • “We can’t help it [giving solutions].” – Drea (75:27)
  • Balance is key: both want partners who will listen, but also not nag or rehash issues without moving towards solutions.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On marriage timelines and expectations:
  “It don’t take 10, 15 years for you to figure out if you want to marry somebody.” – Lex P (13:13)

• On living together pre-marriage:
  “I don’t need no roommate.” – Dre Nicole (14:40)

• On proposals:
  “I’m not pressuring you. Yeah, that’s gonna blow and it’s gonna feel authentic.” – Lex P (22:17)

• On cheating & intuition:
  “I went to the people he was following... I knew it. They was at the Dallas Mavericks game having a ball.” – Drea (36:28)

• On emotional cheating:
  “[Emotional cheating is] actually worse. Like, it’s worse.” – Drea Nicole (57:05)

• On strip club differences (ATL vs. Houston):
  “The Atlanta strip clubs be more popping because the girls...be professionals. They be climbing the poles…The Houston girls, they just fine. They know they fine. They gonna do a little shake.” – Lex P (66:26)

Important Timestamps

• Origin Story: Meeting at the strip club & early bartending hustle — 06:51–08:24
• Why & how they started podcasting — 08:41–09:48
• Views on relationship status, “being single” vs. “relationship" — 11:04–12:41
• Marriage timelines, cohabitation, and business angle — 13:05–17:24
• Infidelity stories (“Inspector Gadget" moment) — 35:25–37:11
• Cheating—physical, emotional, sending money to other women — 56:55–58:53
• Boundaries & double standards in social scenarios/strip clubs — 61:01–66:05
• Comparison ATL and Houston strip club scenes — 66:11–66:34
• “Passport Boys,” traditional values debate — 71:06–72:56
• What women & men want more/less of in relationships — 73:51–76:41

Tone & Language

The conversation is lively, sisterly, and unfiltered. Lex P and Drea Nicole bring humor and wisdom with candid, often hilarious personal anecdotes. The hosts encourage openness, holding men and women equally accountable while never losing the fun, “after dark” feel.

In Summary

This wide-ranging, hilarious, and sometimes poignant episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in modern relationships. Lex P and Drea Nicole serve up unvarnished truths about dating, marriage timelines, how to spot and handle cheating, and the differences between Atlanta and Houston’s legendary strip club scenes. The episode leaves listeners with real talk on standards, self-worth, and the value of genuine communication and community.

Find Drea Nicole & Lex P on tour (Poor Minds): [poorminds.com – March 2026 Still Tipping Tour]
Follow for more: All socials, dates, and links are shared towards episode’s end (78:58).