Drea Nicole & Lex P Discuss Marriage, Getting Cheated On, & ATL Strip Clubs

Summary

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Club Shay Shay – Drea Nicole & Lex P Discuss Marriage, Getting Cheated On, & ATL Strip Clubs

Release Date: December 22, 2025
Host: Cesar Faraday Paul (for “Truth After Dark”, a Club Shay Shay segment)
Guests: Lex P & Drea Nicole (of the Poor Minds podcast)

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Episode Overview

This episode of Club Shay Shay, under the “Truth After Dark” banner, brings together viral personalities & podcast hosts Drea Nicole and Lex P. The show candidly tackles relationships, marriage expectations, getting cheated on, trust, “levels” of cheating, and the culture of Atlanta and Houston strip clubs. The conversation is spirited, balancing humor with genuine wisdom and personal experiences.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

How Lex P and Drea Nicole Met & Built Their Brand

• Origin Story:
  • Met while bartending at a Houston strip club—not as dancers—where they bonded over hustling, quirky customers, and “busting down” big tips.
  • “[A customer] was tipping her like, $100 every drink… only gave me like, $2,000 that night. Me and her…we could bust this down. And we just stayed friends after that.” – Lex P (08:14)
  • Lex eventually moved to Atlanta and convinced Drea to join; their friendship became the backbone of their podcasting partnership.
• Podcast Beginnings:
  • Recorded their first podcast episode at friends’ urging while out and about; “people around us would just start listening to our conversation, chiming in.” – Drea Nicole (08:41)
  • The show (Poor Minds) started to gain traction, building a cult following before they began featuring guests.

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Perspectives on Relationships, Marriage & Timelines

Are They Single or Taken?

• Lex P: Single, recently out of a 2.5-year relationship; on-off situation, works closely with her ex.
  • “We work together and stuff, so…I don’t know.” (11:49)
• Drea Nicole: In a relationship, but “not married”; sees herself as technically single on paper due to lack of commitment.
  • “I think it’s so weird to be like, oh yeah, I have a boyfriend. So it’s like, technically, I am single. I’m not married. ‘Cause what are we doing?” – Drea (12:04)

How Long Should You Date Before Marriage?

• Both agree: Men “know” within a few years if they want to marry; waiting more than 3 years feels excessive.
  • “When you start to get close to that three year mark, what the you trying to do, right?” – Lex P (13:24)
• Living Together Before Marriage:
  • Drea: It’s fine as long as “there’s a plan”—no cohabitation just for comfort.
  • “Cause if you live together, it’s kinda like they get comfortable: ‘Babe, we don’t need to go to that courthouse.’” – Drea (14:06)

Marriage as Love AND Business

• Marriage serves practical purposes (finances, legal rights, legacy).
  • Drea shares how her late mother was protected post-father’s death because they were married: “If they wouldn’t have been married, he could’ve had cousins…fighting her for what was hers.” (16:04)
• Spiritual/Emotional Value: “It’s a union before God. It’s a beautiful thing.” – Drea (17:24)
• Avoiding Wasted Time: Lex P says the biggest fear is wasting “5-7 years” without marriage or kids.
  • “A lot of women, their biggest fear is wasting all of that time.” – Lex (17:44)
• Ultimatums & Timelines: Both women support giving a “timeline” (not quite an ultimatum) but agree men often take longer to articulate their plans.

Is it About the Proposal, or the Partnership?

• Both want genuine, not pressured, proposals.
  • “I’m not pressuring you… I would never do that with a man. I’m not.” – Lex P/Drea (22:17)

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Infidelity, Cheating & Loyalty

Discovering Infidelity:

• Both have experienced being cheated on—one through “Inspector Gadget” social media sleuthing (Drea catching her boyfriend on another woman’s story at an NBA game).
  • “I seen a brown-skinned, big booty. I said, I—that’s her…they was at the Dallas Mavericks game having a ball.” – Drea Nicole (36:28)
• Lex P: Found out via mutual friends’ word-of-mouth and telling details.

Would You Stay If He Cheated?

• Drea: Used to forgive, now sees cheating as a deal-breaker.
  • “Even if we did move on and he becomes the perfect guy, it’s still in the back of my head…I think this is actually a deal breaker for me.” (59:03)
• Both agree: Cheating with a baby mama is an ultimate “no”—shows enduring attachment.

Levels of Cheating:

• Lex: “Cheating is anything you do that you can’t tell your partner about.” (56:55)
• Physical vs. Emotional:
  • Both see emotional cheating (support, sending money, etc.) as potentially worse than just physical.
  • “What if it’s like your man is sending somebody money and helping them with stuff. Yeah, that’s worse than…they hit it.” – Cesar (57:17)
• Reflexivity: Men “dish it” but can’t take it; men are often more sensitive about reciprocal flirty behavior.

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On Jealousy, Trust & Social Boundaries

Boundaries in Social Settings:

• Both hosts distinguish between harmless fun and real disrespect.
  • “My ex, he was real flirty…but people also tell me I’m really flirting, too…So…I don’t really mind it because I feel like it goes with knowing your man.” – Lex P (43:28)
• Looking is natural; blatant staring or over-the-top flirting is disrespectful.
  • “Don’t break no neck… You can say stuff, you gonna do stuff, you’re gonna live, you’re gonna—like, that’s just a part of life.” – Cesar (47:11, paraphrased)

Friendships, “Bro Code” & Reporting Cheating:

• Only intervene if it’s your best friend; otherwise, don’t get involved or risk getting blamed.
  • “I’ll walk up to the table—hey, how you doing?…But that’s a best friend. That’s only a best friend.” – Drea & Lex (39:08)
• Caution against misreading situations; rely on trust and communication.

Men with Female Friends & Strip Clubs:

• Both women are comfortable with their men at strip clubs as long as it’s in the open. Private back-room dances are “too horny”—crossing a line.
  • “A private dance is crazy.” – Drea Nicole (64:57)
  • “You too horny. You getting a little head.” – Lex P (65:01)

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Modern Dating & Gender Roles

“Passport Boys,” Cultural Differences & Traditional Values

• Debate over American women vs. women overseas; note on culture and upbringing:
  • “The men [overseas] are more traditional as well … being a leader. We were forced to be independent [in the US].” – Drea (71:29)
  • “When them overseas women come over here, they got an agenda, baby…they want that check.” – Cesar (72:55)

Attitudes on Being Single

• Drea: Being single isn’t a “sickness”; it can be fulfilling if you have strong community/friends/family.
  • “Being single is not scary…it’s a win-win either way.” – Drea (53:26)
• Lex: Hopes for partnership—“life’s not meant to be lived alone” (53:59)

Men Want Less Talking; Women Want More Communication!

• Men want women who “talk less”—but women also wish men would express themselves more openly, not bottle up feelings.
  • “Stop holding shit in so much.” – Lex P (76:41)
  • “He told me…‘It’s okay because I’m not always looking for an answer.’” – Lex recalling her ex’s words about sharing problems (75:11)
  • “We can’t help it [giving solutions].” – Drea (75:27)
  • Balance is key: both want partners who will listen, but also not nag or rehash issues without moving towards solutions.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On marriage timelines and expectations:
  “It don’t take 10, 15 years for you to figure out if you want to marry somebody.” – Lex P (13:13)

• On living together pre-marriage:
  “I don’t need no roommate.” – Dre Nicole (14:40)

• On proposals:
  “I’m not pressuring you. Yeah, that’s gonna blow and it’s gonna feel authentic.” – Lex P (22:17)

• On cheating & intuition:
  “I went to the people he was following... I knew it. They was at the Dallas Mavericks game having a ball.” – Drea (36:28)

• On emotional cheating:
  “[Emotional cheating is] actually worse. Like, it’s worse.” – Drea Nicole (57:05)

• On strip club differences (ATL vs. Houston):
  “The Atlanta strip clubs be more popping because the girls...be professionals. They be climbing the poles…The Houston girls, they just fine. They know they fine. They gonna do a little shake.” – Lex P (66:26)

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Important Timestamps

• Origin Story: Meeting at the strip club & early bartending hustle — 06:51–08:24
• Why & how they started podcasting — 08:41–09:48
• Views on relationship status, “being single” vs. “relationship" — 11:04–12:41
• Marriage timelines, cohabitation, and business angle — 13:05–17:24
• Infidelity stories (“Inspector Gadget" moment) — 35:25–37:11
• Cheating—physical, emotional, sending money to other women — 56:55–58:53
• Boundaries & double standards in social scenarios/strip clubs — 61:01–66:05
• Comparison ATL and Houston strip club scenes — 66:11–66:34
• “Passport Boys,” traditional values debate — 71:06–72:56
• What women & men want more/less of in relationships — 73:51–76:41

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Tone & Language

The conversation is lively, sisterly, and unfiltered. Lex P and Drea Nicole bring humor and wisdom with candid, often hilarious personal anecdotes. The hosts encourage openness, holding men and women equally accountable while never losing the fun, “after dark” feel.

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In Summary

This wide-ranging, hilarious, and sometimes poignant episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in modern relationships. Lex P and Drea Nicole serve up unvarnished truths about dating, marriage timelines, how to spot and handle cheating, and the differences between Atlanta and Houston’s legendary strip club scenes. The episode leaves listeners with real talk on standards, self-worth, and the value of genuine communication and community.

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Find Drea Nicole & Lex P on tour (Poor Minds): [poorminds.com – March 2026 Still Tipping Tour]
Follow for more: All socials, dates, and links are shared towards episode’s end (78:58).

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Transcript

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[Lex P]

And I'm just not an overly jealous person. I think that first of all be fine. They be looking good.

[Dre Nicole]

So.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Facts.

[Lex P]

You know what I mean?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's cool.

[Dre Nicole]

A little.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Dre Nicole]

No, that's too much.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Dre Nicole]

Move that shoulder.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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All.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Dre Nicole]

I don't like coochie. Keep that shit away from me.

[Lex P]

I don't know, you might be open to it. Maybe like a little girlfriend or something when I get older. I don't know.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

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[Dre Nicole]

Oh, wow.

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[Dre Nicole]

For hey, that was an introduction.

[Lex P]

Every time people intro us, we always be like, we did all I know.

[Dre Nicole]

Come on, girl.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Dre Nicole]

Give a song.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We did that. We did. I love it. Well, thank you guys for joining. I really love y'. All. Thank you. You have such a genuine, cool spirit. Like, your chemistry together is just dope. Like, I really love your content. And people really rock with y', all. So, you know. That's incredible.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you for having us. For having us. Of course.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

How did y' all meet?

[Lex P]

We met. We love this story. So we met in Houston.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

At the strip club.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

We were both working at the strip club. We were bartenders, not dancers. We was bartenders. It was, like, my first real bartending job. I had never really bartended before, so, you know, I was just making, like, the typical Henny and Cole cranberry vodka. Keep it cute. Glass of champagne. That's what you come to me for. She had been bartending for a minute, so she was a little more experienced.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm serious. Yeah, yeah, I'm holding them up.

[Lex P]

And we had been working together for a few months, and we. I don't know, we. We would speak, like, we would say hi to each other, but we never really had, like, a conversation. Until one night I had a customer who was just asking me for, like, the craziest, Like, Bob Marley's and stuff. I'm like, who the hell know how to make that?

[Dre Nicole]

But he was just trying to talk to Dr.

[Lex P]

He was trying to talk to me. He was trying to holler at me. And he was tipping really well.

[Dre Nicole]

He was.

[Lex P]

But he was asking for a lot of stuff that I'm like, girl, I.

[Dre Nicole]

Remember he ordered a Manhattan. He ordered a Manhattan. In the strip club.

[Lex P]

In the strip club.

[Dre Nicole]

What are you doing?

[Lex P]

And so I'm like, like, hey, girl, if you, like, help me make these drinks, we could bust this money down. Cause he was giving me. He was giving me so much money.

[Dre Nicole]

He was tipping her, like, $100. Every drink that she gave me, he.

[Lex P]

Only gave me, like, $2,000 that night. And then me and her, I was like, okay, we could bust this down. We could.

[Dre Nicole]

And I was making them strong, too. I was like, yeah, I'm going to double it.

[Lex P]

And we just stayed friends after that. Like, we remained cool. I ended up moving to Atlanta a year after we met. The whole year I was there, me and her would still communicate all the time. And then I convinced her to move to Atlanta and get for real.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And then how's y' all decide to.

[Dre Nicole]

Do the podcast I think we would. It sounds so common now because everybody's like, oh, my gosh, we're so funny. We need to start a podcast. But honestly, it was like, people, every time we would go to a bar, be having a conversation, people around us would just start listening to our conversation, chiming in. And like, my ex, the guy I was dating at the time, he was like, man, y' all need to record this. This is funny. Because we had started a YouTube channel. We used to be on there doing mukbangs, beauty content, all type of stuff. And he was like, no, this is what y' all need to record. So we recorded the episode, and, like, it got like, 100 views, which was good for us. Cause everything else was getting, like, two. Yeah. I was like, we did it. We hit the recording.

[Lex P]

We on to something.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

So honestly, after doing that, it just stuck. And then my friend, she had a popular podcast at the time, and she was like, hey, do y' all know about podcasting turn into a podcast? And honestly, we've had so much help along the way of people just being like, this is a good product. Y' all need to keep doing this and helping us brand it. Because it was Wind Down Wednesday, which is so generic, but we were like, okay, let's brand it as poor.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's dope. And not everyone, like, I. There's so many podcasts, but not everyone could just. They think anyone get on a mic. But it's hard has that. That the interesting conversation that just captures people. And with y' all really do have that. Like, y' all are hilarious and funny, like, and just a vibe. And you don't have to have guests. It could just be y' all and listen.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And that's big because some people are guest driven. That's dope.

[Lex P]

We started off doing that, like, for the first. We actually just really started having guests within the past two, three years. For a long time, it was just her and I just recording by ourselves solo.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I love that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's kind of been like what our model is. Because we, like. You want people to fall in love with y'.

[Dre Nicole]

All.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying?

[Dre Nicole]

You get it.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know, because you used to be. Because when you guest driven, you could run out. Yeah. But, like, when they fall in love with you, the guest is a bonus.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying? And that's how we feel. But, like, yeah, I think you guys have been doing fabulous in this space. I'm definitely a fan. I've seen clips have come up A lot of y'. All. And I just had me cracking up. Yeah, we did.

[Lex P]

Thank God.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

He was like, they're so funny.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

When she said it, I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

He was like, yeah, I know who they are.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

They're funny.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I was like, no, I love that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Are y' all in relationships?

[Lex P]

I'm not currently. I was for, like, two and a half years.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. I saw you say that on Joe Budden, that you were. So now you're not.

[Lex P]

I'm not. I'm single, but.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But yeah, I mean, I'm single.

[Lex P]

I'm single.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Somebody about to be back.

[Lex P]

My ex. He still be. He was texting me earlier, but.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

So.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But y' all been on and off, so. Or y' all were.

[Lex P]

We were on.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

But then as of. I would say this year, we've been on and.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. So do you think that this is off permanently, or are you going back on?

[Lex P]

You know, I don't even want to lie. I'm not sure. Just because him and I have to be in close proximity to, like, a lot of the time.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

We work together and stuff, so.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

I don't know.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So you're like, I don't know. We might get back together. I heard that. Okay.

[Lex P]

It's hard out here.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

It's hard out here.

[Dre Nicole]

It is. Dating is.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

What about you?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm in a relationship. You know, we figuring out, I always say. But I'm not married. Like, I'm 36, so I think it's so weird to be like, oh, yeah, I have a boyfriend. So it's like, technically, I am single. I'm not married. Cause what are we doing? You know what I'm saying?

[Lex P]

What are we doing?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So you feel like, if I'm in a relationship, but we're not married. You're single.

[Dre Nicole]

Well, I mean, I say single because, like, with, like, paperwork. That's what I put. You can't put. You got a boyfriend.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, you.

[Dre Nicole]

But I mean, as far as, like, I'm not going out with other men. He's not going out with other women, as far as I know.

[Lex P]

N.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause don't play with me.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Don't play with me. Don't play with me.

[Dre Nicole]

But, yeah, I think, like, at this age, it's kind of like, you know, I am with somebody, but it's kind of like, you know, I'm too old to be like, boyfriend, girlfriend.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So how long have y' all been together?

[Lex P]

Two years.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

What do you think the timing is, and does it change on age for y'?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All? I was gonna Say, yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

What do you think the timing is for you to be like, hello, like, are you gonna propose? And if not, I'm moving on. Like, what? What do you think?

[Lex P]

Are we at that time?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Because of the age.

[Lex P]

Is that what it is?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

Well, no, to be honest, I think I've always felt that way.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Lex P]

I feel like men know. At least that's my opinion. Yeah, I'd be feeling like they know. Like it don't take 10, 15 years for you to figure out if you want to marry somebody.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So what is the. What is the year?

[Lex P]

Damn to me, when you start to get close to that three year mark, what the you trying to do, right?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I agree.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's what I feel. I feel like you gotta live. What are you trying to do?

[Lex P]

Because when we get to five first, if we're still not, you say what?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I think you gotta live with each other.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You know, a lot of women have a rule of life. I think you gotta live with each other. Until I'm married, women have that rule.

[Lex P]

I don't have that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I don't have that rule.

[Lex P]

I live.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You don't know nobody.

[Lex P]

I need to know you.

[Dre Nicole]

I need to know.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I need to live with you.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not mad at that, but I feel like it needs to be a plan. Like, because I feel like sometimes if you move in with a guy. Cause I've lived with somebody I've dated before, and I feel like if you live together, it's kind of like they get comfortable. Like, babe, man, we don't need to go to that courthouse, man, I love you. What I gotta get them white people.

[Lex P]

Involved for why we need the paperwork.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They like crying.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Cause they get comfortable. They feel like, why do I have to do this? We're good. We're in the same house. What more do you want from me?

[Lex P]

Common law married.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, they do. So I feel like, I think it needs to be. Like everything needs to be. Be aligned. Like, is there a proposal that's about to happen? At least we need to be engaged in living together.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So you feel like there should be a plan. Like, hey, I want to move in. This is the time we should start living together. Because I think that we're getting to that point. Once we live together, we should now be getting engaged. Like that should be a conversation. You feel like you should.

[Lex P]

I think so.

[Dre Nicole]

I don't need no roommate.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I don't need. You want a plan. You want a man with a plan. He wants to be vocal. Well, I Noticed with men, though, they do a lot of their own inner thinking and they don't really express their plan all the time. They don't, you know, like, they could have a plan like, oh, I'm gonna. Let's move, let's do this. But they don't always sit down and communicate it and be like, hey, this is what we're doing. Because men don't operate like that.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel, well, you better let me know because time is chicken.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Hey, like, like this is the thing, like, you all, like, for men. I'm gonna speak for the men, because we just, we kind of live in the moment.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying? It's not like I'm gonna come in here and I got a plan laid out for you. Here we go. After two years, we're gonna get engaged. And then after three years, I'm gonna marry you. And then after four years, you're gon. We don't got the paper. We don't got the paper for that.

[Dre Nicole]

Right, right.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

We in the moment, we just. We don't even know we even love with you. It is just. We get slapped over the head like, damn, I love her.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Like, damn, how did that happen?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying? It's just like, you know, But I truly feel like you don't. Why is marriage even important? Is marriage important? Is that important? Is that something you saying that's what I want to do? Yes.

[Lex P]

I think, Yeah. I think when I was younger, I definitely didn't care as much about marriage as I get older. I do. Because I also look like It's a business 100%.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

So it's a business.

[Lex P]

It is. It should be about love. But also you need to be with somebody where it makes sense on paper.

[Dre Nicole]

And I say, I look at it like this. Cause my parents were married and my dad passed away. And when my dad passed away, my mom was taken care of. Cause he had everything in order. And I think about, like, if they wouldn't have been married, he could have had cousins and everybody else that's coming from the woodworks fighting her for what was hers. But they don't recognize that unless that piece of paper says, hey, everything belongs to her. So you see that a lot of times somebody passes away and it's like, oh, he survived by. And they be like, oh, this whole. His little friend.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

His longtime companion.

[Dre Nicole]

Long time companion.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

He blowing me. Or like, you know, you have this intimate relationship with a man that you've been building for all these years and Then he dies. And you. Like, no one is even taking you serious. You're like, wait a minute. He's the person. He talked to me about everything he wanted to do, everything he needed me to put together. But then you get cut out completely. And you get. And sometimes they have people that just want to take advantage. Damn, I really want to help and make sure this is straight. Your kids are straight, these people. And I can't even do that because now it's like, no one's taking me serious, you know? So I think that that's for. That's how I look at it. And if something was to happen to me, vice versa. Because your partner is the most intimate person that knows you the most, no matter what. Cause you're with him every day. You tell him everything. So I would want vice versa. If something happened to me, you should be able to be like, I know this is what she would want.

[Dre Nicole]

And outside of that, I think it's a union before God. It's a beautiful thing. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's something that, you know, a lot of people, some traditionally do it in a church. Like, this is a beautiful moment. And it's like, I don't look at marriage as something scary or a bad thing. I look at it like another step in life that's, you know, a progressive. Yeah, I agree.

[Lex P]

I don't know. I just feel like if it's something that you want, you just need to stand 10 toes on it. Because also, I think a lot of women, their biggest fear is wasting all of that time. Like, you're with a man for five years, and y' all don't. You trying to keep it cute, and you trying to play coy. So you're not really bringing up the fact that you want to get married. You letting him do it on his own time or hoping that he will. And then now, y', all five years, in six years, in seven years. That's why he still haven't married you. You tapping your foot like, what's going on? Then say, y' all end up breaking up. That's seven years you spent with that person. And you really wanted marriage or you really wanted kids, and it never happened.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

This is what I. I'll tell you this. And I started to break you. But, like, I feel like after 33, he get one year.

[Lex P]

I ain't mad at it.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Of living with each other, though. Live with each other one year. You got to make a decision.

[Dre Nicole]

I feel you on that. I'm not mad at that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I Think that's. I think that's what it should be.

[Lex P]

But do you think men respond well to ultimatums? Cuz that's kind of like a ultimatum.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All right, well, I got to do something else, cuz like you just said, what, five years go by? Yeah, well, six years go by, but then check this out. Now say like, you together three, four, five years. Why jump? Cuz this, this. We, we, we. We good right now, right? We good. Is. Is everything good?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

No, it's not.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean everything.

[Lex P]

I want to be married. And I'm not.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Hell no. The woman's gonna be. For you, it's good. But the woman's in her head every day, like, am I not worthy? Want to marry? Why doesn't. Can I have this D? Like, God forbid a man's been married before. Then you really like. Oh, wait, hold on. Yeah, yeah.

[Lex P]

He really ain't going to be in no rage.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly. So then a woman starts to get in her head. So it's not good for a woman. But like my best friend, her fiance, they met and in a year he proposed to her on his birthday. I like that they getting married in February in Jamaica.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, they. I feel like when you're older, a man just knows if he's rocking with you or not.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But then she said this, it's a business, right? So say he treated like a business too. So say like, all right, I'm gonna get us this house. I'm gonna put it in your name. Boom. All right, I'm gonna do a couple things in your name. Is there a rush now? Is there still a rush when he's starting to do stuff? Okay, my will your name, like now what? You can kick back a little bit. You can kind of like, okay, you know what?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We ain't gotta get married.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But he did a couple, couple of things that like, if something happened, then I'm good, right? It's a business though, because to be.

[Lex P]

Honest, I'm not putting. I'm not putting no house in my name for us and we not married.

[Dre Nicole]

This is on me.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I'm nervous. And now we're broken up and now I have the mortgage and bought.

[Lex P]

And why do I have to do it? Like, it's giving. It's giving you illegitimate.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, it's giving. It's giving way.

[Lex P]

Got your together, cuz.

[Dre Nicole]

Why you got a whole other family.

[Lex P]

Yeah, cuz why I need to be in my name?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Because I just want to make sure if something happened, baby, like, you know.

[Lex P]

Bread flags will go up to me, that would be damn.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, both of our names could be on the house if we decide to buy a home and live together or something like that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All right, he going to have his name on it too then.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, but he, a smart businessman, is going to make sure his name is on the house too. So if you're doing that, it's like, what you up to?

[Lex P]

If you just want it to be in my name and you don't want to have no parts legally, I'm going be questioning the out of that.

[Dre Nicole]

Something in the milk.

[Lex P]

Yeah, something ain't right.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Something in water ain't clean. Okay, good luck.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

If you think we do. Damn.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But do you think. But do you think that the woman, the idea of like a man, like, proposing to you and wanting to marry you and do this in front of all these people, is that something too? Like, more than it just being a business, do you feel like, damn, I feel special. Like this was, you know, like, I feel like women want that moment, cuz you want to feel like, wow, you really thought about this. You got on your knee. I think women also, they love that. Like, you know, that's something.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I think I just like the ideal of marriage.

[Lex P]

I mean, and I think men will only go to those type of lengths when they really love you and are choosing you. I think it's about feeling like you love me enough that you're choosing, choosing me out of all of these other options.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. Yeah. And it's not. I think a lot of women do love the idea of just being like, I got the ring, I'm married. A lot of women do love that idea. But then there's some women who really just love that man. And you're like, I want this man to choose me and want to do that. And I don't want to be in a space where I'm like, are you going to propose to me? Are you? I'm not doing that.

[Dre Nicole]

Me neither.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I would never do that with a man. I'm not.

[Lex P]

I'm not pressuring you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, that's gonna blow and it's gonna feel authentic.

[Dre Nicole]

I forced you to do it.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like I forced you to marry me. Now you resent me later on. I'm not doing that. Like, if you don't want to do.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

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[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Okay?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Morning sex, daytime sex or nighttime sex?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Oh, so. Oh, man, that's a good one. I think I'm gonna rank morning number one.

[Dre Nicole]

Morning.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I agree with that. Why is morning number one?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Oh, because that's the start of your day. And you know, I just feel like when you wake up and you have that intimacy in the morning, it just. It just flows throughout your day. You feel good, you know? Okay, you just gotta. You positive, you smiling, you just everything feel like it's just. You're gonna have a great day.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay? So it sets the tone for the day.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It sets the tone for the day. You like, hey, all right, you know, we got it in. It was cool, man. I'm feeling good. Getting a shower, get ready. I'm ready to take on the day period. You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's that morning time be hidden and then so like second is probably gonna be that that night. Cause it's a little. You could be a little more romantic at night. Cause you know, nighttime is A vibe.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Right.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know, and you just say, you, you, you. You just got. You might throw some roses, a bath, candles, nighttime. Give you all that type of feel.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying? You could do so much at night. Movie, dinner, wine, drinks, lay down, back massage, all of that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

And it just hits at night, so that's second. And, you know, during the day, it's just like. I feel like a daytime hit. It's like. Like a quickie type situation.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Right. Just like a quick one, too. Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You know what I'm saying? So that's how I'm gonna rank up from one to three.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. I think I'm gonna do the same. Nothing is better than, like, a morning sex rollover. Like, ooh, roll over. Hit it, hit it, hit it. You're cracking for the day. You know what I mean? I love a morning sex, and I love a wake me up sex. Like, I'm waking up to. It is a vibe. Like I'm waking up. Like, oh, okay, okay. Cracking. Okay. And then for sure, nighttime, I'm gonna say nighttime, like you said, is like, more sexy and vibey. And then, yeah, daytime sex is like, all right, let's get it in real quick. But it could be cool if you just, you know. All right, like, we both feeling it. Let's get it in. So, okay, another ranking. Shower sex, beach sex, car sex, or bathroom sex?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You making this up.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I'm making this up right now. No, rank these. Which one? Sex in the shower, sex on the beach, sex in the bathroom real quick. Like, boom, babe, let's go to the bathroom, you know, or sex in the car.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I'm gonna say sex in the bathroom. One.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's one.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Why is that one?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Well, I feel like that's a situation where you got the mirror right there, you know, saying, if ain't nobody around, say it's in your crib or your apartment or wherever it is. Not a public bathroom. Not on. Now that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's not a.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Not a public bathroom. Okay. About, like, in the crib or something that. Where you could just, like that mirror hit.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So you can see the mirror, see.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Little reactions from each other right there. Hands might be on the window. You like, oh, okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

So that's one for me for sure. And then you said, shower will be second.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It's just something about the shower, you know, that's just, you know, you like that suds. You get the suds going there. However, wash your partner. Then y' all get it cracking. So I. I'll say the shower is number two. And then you said what? The beach. And what was the.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Or the car?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I'm gonna say the beach is third. I don't even know if I've ever done that on the beach. Wait, yes, yes, yes. I don't know, maybe I can't remember if so but like then I think, hey, damn cars, man. The car is uncomfortable.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Cars uncomfortable. Car has to go last.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah, car is uncomfortable.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I agree with that car.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I agree with this.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

For me, because I'm tall, it's just too uncomfortable for me.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I would say probably a car is going to be last for me. Shower is cool, but shower can get tricky. Like shower is to me overrated. Cuz y' all are trying to get the position and then if you're with someone that's like super tall and you're not the same height, like it be a whole situation. You be trying to get la here, lay here, you'll be uncomfortable. Well then you can't even focus on getting it cracking. Like the shower is tough to be too wet. Yeah. Slippery. It's this, it's that you fall and you try to get it. Like I like it, but I think that it's just like overrated sometimes because, you know, like I'll still get it cracking in the shower. But I need like it's not my first one. I don't think I would probably say bathroom is going to be one, but like you said, not a public. Cuz that mirror. Okay, cool. That hits and then maybe I don't feel like these are good options. I'm gonna say like beach. If you're on a vacation. Hitting it. It's warm. Yeah. I'm hitting that beach. Yeah. The moon out. You warm out there. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So that then shower, then car. That's what I'm going for, period. I think that's a cool line.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You should have gave better options. You gotta be like jacuzzi.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. You give the options. What's the options?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You just made them up.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, I just came up with them. You give three.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Oh. All right, so let me see if you can rank these.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Rank these in order.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Props.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like toys.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

A video.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. Like making a movie. Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Or like bondage.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. You went all the way left. I think you're gonna be like degree like.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Oh no.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All right, come on, let's go right through it.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay, so you said bondage is like what, like someone's tying you up and this and that, right?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yes. Yes.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. I can get with that. I'm gonna say toys, bondage, and then. What was the last one?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Sex tape.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Sex tape. I'm gonna go with those three.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Sex tape is third.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Sex tape is third. Because sex tape is cool. But sex tape has to be like, you trust this person. You love this person. And, you know, guys know, y' all not ever gonna be on some relationship.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You're gonna do it.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Someone you love, and I think, you.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Know, ain't on those.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, stuff like that. Yeah, for sure. So, I mean, sex tape is cool. I'm. I'm totally with that. Like, you could watch it back when you're not with the person. Like, that's cool.

[Dre Nicole]

You know?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But I also feel like, okay, maybe. Yeah, maybe that's my order. Sex toys, you know, Those are cool. What is your order?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Well, probably, like, toys and stuff. Yeah. You know. You know, like, stuff that's like. Like, you know, you get the cream or the.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, I agree.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Or the feather blindfold. Stuff like that. Exactly what I'm saying. Stuff like that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I like that. I'm cool.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's one. And then I'll say, sex tape is two.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

And then I go to bondage, where it's just like. Oh, got you tied up to the.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. Tied up to the thing or something like that. The bondage gets intense. It's not just tied up. It's giving whips and chains.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't know if I. I don't.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Know about all of that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I don't think I ever done that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I never did that before. I'm willing to try things, but that's intense. But, yeah. Okay, those were cool. I thought you were gonna hit us with, like, Jacuzzi in the movie theater. Have you ever had sex in a movie theater?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I don't think so.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's a lot.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. Where's the craziest place you ever had sex?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I don't know. I don't know. The plane.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

All right, the plane.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I feel like that's normal, though.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I never had sex on a plane before. That's not normal.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I mean, when you do, like. When you do, like, private jets.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. Yeah. Then that makes a difference. We're talking about a public plane in that bathroom.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah, that would be. That would be crazy.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's blowing me. So I'm not doing that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah. So, like, place are you, like, damn. What? Maybe, like. I don't know. I don't know. The plane.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

The plane is cool. I'm not mad at that. All right.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Private jet, though.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Dre Nicole]

But to a point, that what he made. Like, we had this conversation with a married couple that came on our show before, and he was like, do you want to be a bride or do you want to be a wife? Yes, because it's a big.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I talk about it's a lot of.

[Dre Nicole]

Responsibility to be a husband and to be a wife. That's a lot. You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They always say, get with someone who doesn't just want a husband, but they want to be a wife and vice versa. Get with someone who doesn't just want a wife and he also wants to be a husband.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Because a lot of people just want the idea of, like, oh, I'm a wife now. I have a ring now. And they don't even be happy.

[Dre Nicole]

Right.

[Lex P]

Or they don't want all that comes with it because ain't always gonna be sweet. But that's what you signing up for when you decide to marry somebody. Like, the bad, the ugly.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly. The rich or the poor. And, baby, once you marry me, honey, I'm not divorcing. We figure this out, like, take a walk, take a nap, come back, and we gonna talk about it. We gonna be all right. Like, I'm not doing no divorce. Not at this age and not at this stage. Maybe if I was like, I'm not doing that.

[Lex P]

Like, we gonna be.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We better figure it out the rest of life.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We. We dying together.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, I'm with you on that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We die and you die. I'm dying the next day. Like, we're done. For real. I'm not playing that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

So what's the worst way you and y' all been in, like, probably several relationships, right?

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, several.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Let me ask you this. Let me ask you this. So now I'm hearing her talk and I'm hearing y', all, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Never leaving the next man in marriage and everything. Because, you know, y' all getting older and everything. So what's the worst way you found your man cheating or has a man ever cheated on you?

[Dre Nicole]

Now, you know damn well, right?

[Lex P]

You know damn n be cheating.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, I'm just saying. What's the crazy?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Just you ain't even got to Name the worst way. What's. How did you find out?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

How did you.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm Inspector Gadget. My last relationship. The thing is with my ex. He has a type. First of all, he has a type like me.

[Lex P]

Every time you say that, I always know exactly who you talking.

[Dre Nicole]

Cuz he has a type. Me, his baby mama, the girl he was cheating. All look alike. Triplets. Hey, twin. They grown.

[Lex P]

They do have a similar.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

Like. So he didn't follow a lot of people at the time. And this was so crazy, he actually left me at his house. Cause I came in town last minute and I used to always stay with him when I would go home. And so he was like, hey babe, I already had something planned, I gotta go do something, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, okay, cool, I'll just be at the house, whatever. So I don't know what made me just like something in my spirit, that intuition. I was like, what is he doing? Because if I'm in town, why you didn't just push it back, move something around, you know, like you couldn't change your schedule, whatever. So I went to the people he was following and I was just scrolling and I seen a brown skinned big booty. I said, I, that's her. You was like, I mean, I didn't even have to click. I clicked on her page. I went and looked at her story, y'. All. They was at the Dallas Mavericks game having a ball. He in the camera like this.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

No.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, he was tart.

[Lex P]

Letting her record him is nuts.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. She was like, why would he let her record?

[Lex P]

That's crazy.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Cause he didn't sleepy.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh my God.

[Lex P]

You asked him to get close.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You was sloppy. But you know, isn't there something about going through a following list and you just know which one I'm doing? You always know as a woman. I've seen memes about this. As a woman, you could just look and be like, I feel like it's her and they messing around. You just know certain things or you know, a certain vibe. Like, you know, and men don't realize that we know what kind of girls you like from. Like we.

[Dre Nicole]

We know it. Like my man, I know his type. Every time I see a. I'm like, you know my. You know him.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I know.

[Dre Nicole]

Do you know this? I know it. I don't know.

[Lex P]

I feel like for me it was my friend telling me because the guy that I was dating, he was like in the same vicinity with somebody who knew the girl I was cool with. And he called her and told her that he was up there with the girl, but not to be, like, on no messy. She just, like, kind of letting her know who was up there. Yeah, like, she was just. She was basically just like, oh, yeah, he told me so and so was up there, and so and so was up there, and he was up there with this person and that person. And this is my friend, but we wasn't really friends like that. She didn't know that was my man yet, basically. And she told me just on some chopping it up, letting me know who was up there at the place. And so I'm just like, what the he up there with who? And I tried to keep it real cute, cuz, like, I said she didn't.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Know that was my man.

[Lex P]

So I'm like, what the. So I called him and I asked him about it, and then he was like, oh, no, that's crazy. People be lying. I wasn't up there with her.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes, the.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You were. Oh, my God, cuz.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Then I went looked at the girl.

[Lex P]

Story, and she was indeed in the same place as him.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no, no. Now, okay. Have y' all ever seen somebody, you know, like, let's say you have a homegirl. She ain't your best friend, but you, like, know her man, and he's out on a date with someone else. What are you doing? That's a tricky situation.

[Dre Nicole]

You better pay him.

[Lex P]

Because I just feel like stuff like that just get real touchy. It gets touchy about their partner, and.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They start to blame. They start to blame you in a minute. Like, hold on, girl. You was lying. That's why it's hard. But what if it's your best friend? What you doing?

[Lex P]

No, if it's my best friend, I'm telling you that I seen y'.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

All.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm taking a picture, zoomed in.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

But I want him to know that I saw. Like, I would walk up to the table, hey, how you doing?

[Lex P]

I would do that, too.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Me too.

[Lex P]

Like, hey, what you doing up here? Yeah, who is this?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yes. 100.

[Lex P]

Nice to meet you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

100%.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, but that's a best friend.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's only a best friend.

[Lex P]

That's a best friend.

[Dre Nicole]

Certain women, my man, he can't do no wrong. Girl, you all have been. You don't even know what we got going on. I'd be like, never mind.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. I don't be getting involved if I see someone.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You can't look from afar and go tell because you don't know what that is. Yeah.

[Lex P]

I will say that Though, because I was gonna say my mom told me this story about how when her and my dad first started dating, my mom had four brothers. Brothers. So one of her brothers, he was in the Navy, and, like, when he would go away, she would drive his car. And so one day she ended up picking him up from the airport when he got back. And I guess somebody that was cool with my dad seen her picking him up from the airport and then called my dad and was like, oh, yeah, I seen your girl at the airport picking up this man. And they hugging and X, Y, and Z. And then come to find out it was my uncle. Uncle. But my dad trusts my mom, so.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

He believed you have to trust because people will put things in your ear. Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

You have to know exactly what it really is.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

If it's my best friend, I don't care what it is. I'm just letting you know, honey. I don't need context. When it's my best friend, I'm just letting you know this is who he's with. Okay. That's his sister. Cool.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, it's not gonna be no beef. That's why you only do that with your best friend. You don't do that with nobody else.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It don't matter if it's your best. Like, yeah, that's your best friend, but, like, your best friend could be. He over here, arm around this girl, walking through her. He lit. But this is his cousin. But his family. His family.

[Dre Nicole]

But also, if that's his. If that's your best friend and that's her man, she'll already know. Oh, he outside with such and such. Like, you know what I'm saying? You'll know if I tell her, like, hey, girl, I seen your dude. He was outside. Oh, he was with xyz. Cause you know where he was at. That's why y' all gotta stop lying.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly. And your best friend's not gonna be mad at you because it's your best friend. She gonna be like, okay, girl. Yeah, he's out, actually. He's out with his cousin. Yeah, that's his. That's his.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But a man like to say, like a man. We not gonna tell you every step of the way. Yeah, we ain't gonna tell you. I'm out with xyz. Xyzz. But there's, like five of us. We gonna say.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We gonna go, what are you hugged?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

And I'll be out for a little bit.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, it better be a.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It's not a hugged up. But it's like, say, like, you in a section it's like couple girls. Like, this is where y' all really make. This is why y' all get. All right, y'. All. Y' all rolling with this. Say, yo, man, he out with his boys. It's three of the boys, okay? They got a section at the club, and it's like four girls in the section. Kenny is without me. Okay, no, no, look. But look, where am I?

[Dre Nicole]

You at the crib while he out.

[Lex P]

With a bunch of girls?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

No, he not with the girls. His boys.

[Dre Nicole]

His boys. I'm not gonna lie. Stuff like that doesn't bother me. Like, I get it.

[Lex P]

It doesn't bother me.

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, think about it. If your man is outside, they don't wanna be in a sexual with a bunch of n. Like, if it's innocent, like, women are around y' all drinking, having fun, that's cool. But as long as it stops right there, nothing. I don't want a woman to ever feel like, oh, yeah. Cause a lot of times it ain't even about him. It's about. I was with Dre, a man last night. He was all in my face.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They love to do that.

[Lex P]

Good. Because you dated.

[Dre Nicole]

My face.

[Lex P]

It's like them having a little oneup, and they.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

The men don't realize that women are calculated, and they do that on purpose. They know, and they'll literally go. And then that's how you get caught up. Cuz the next day, they be like, girl. And even if you weren't doing anything, like, as a man, you can never be too friendly. You can't. Because a woman's going to flip that. As he was. Was on me. He was trying to flirt with me, and then everyone else is going to interpret it as that. So now she going around talking about, your man is flirting. And even if it's not the truth and she forgives you, it still just feels. It don't feel like you're a woman. Like, I don't want to feel that. You know what I'm saying? Like, you ain't. What. What is your example of a man being too friendly? Like, whereas you cross the line.

[Lex P]

Oh, I don't know. Because, you know, I'm not gonna lie. I'm a little lax when it comes to that. Like, I'm a little relaxed when it comes. Because I feel like my ex, he was real flirty.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

But people also tell me I'm really flirting, too. And I think people will think that I'm flirting with them. And I'm not even trying to just.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Because of my people be That's. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

It's just because of my energy and stuff, so. And he. He knows that and he giddy and it's the same with me.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You. Yeah.

[Lex P]

So I feel like it doesn't really bother me sometimes. Whereas other women that I'm friends with, they will shut that down.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

When they feel like they man is being too flirty or too friendly, I don't really mind it because I feel like it goes with knowing your man.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Right.

[Lex P]

The man I was with. That's where it stops. Like, he gonna be friendly, but he ain't doing nothing.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It ain't leaving right there.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But it just depends on the circumstance, in my opinion, too, and who's around and what's. Why, like, don't. You can't just be making me look and feel stupid. Yeah. That's where I draw the line. But, like, I also agree where it's like, you gonna say stuff, you gonna do stuff, you're gonna live, you're gonna. Like, that's just a part of life. Life, you know? Like.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You can't be too uptight with a man.

[Dre Nicole]

I agree.

[Lex P]

And I'm just not an overly jealous person. Like, I think that first of all be fine. They looking good.

[Dre Nicole]

So.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Facts. Right.

[Lex P]

You know what I mean? So I don't expect my man to not look. I saw something online the other day, and this lady was basically saying, like, she don't want her man looking at anybody. She don't want him looking at other women looking at things.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's crazy. Crazy, though.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Because I heard a girl tell me, she was like, my man can't be around, like, pretty girls. I don't allow him crazy. First of all, girl, you can't control a man. He's gonna see pretty women. You're not the most beautiful woman in the world.

[Dre Nicole]

Sorry.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

None of us are. There's always gonna be someone prettier.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Better body, this and that. Just like, there's gonna be a finer man, richer man, everything. So you have to be secure into your own shit. Like, I can't. I don't like to control and micromanage that. That's.

[Dre Nicole]

That seems so miserable.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Miserable. I'm going be stressed out. I can't. I can't control that you be around women. Matter of fact, be around the baddest in the world and still choose me. How about that? Be around the baddest and be able to be like, I'm cool. Like, that's what I want. You know what I'm saying? Like, be around that and then still choose me, then I'm cracking.

[Lex P]

And I also feel like you. You get the best version of your partner when you let people be who they are. You're not supposed to let that disrespect you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Right.

[Lex P]

You know what I mean? He shouldn't be trying to holler at no women or nothing inappropriate while you around and stuff and you seeing it and you just being cool with it.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, but you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

If he.

[Lex P]

If he, like, looking, I. I don't know. I just don't care about that.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Me.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I don't want nobody breaking no neck to look at nobody that's gonna blow me. If a is like, yeah, but even if a man, like, I'm with a man, he's like, oh, you know, oh, you're a pretty girl. Or like, even says, I don't care. I'm like, whatever. But if you doing a lot, then you blow me. Then I'm like, this is crazy now.

[Dre Nicole]

It's a bit much.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Now you're trying to get cussed.

[Dre Nicole]

It's a thin line between somebody being flirty and somebody being thirsty. I don't want no thirsty.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Let me ask y'. All. Let me ask y'. All. So y' all walking y' all together. Boom. That's cool.

[Dre Nicole]

A little.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, A little brown.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Cause I'm probably.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

She fine. I'm probably gonna blend, too. Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Boom, boom, Boom.

[Dre Nicole]

Nah, that's too much. You moved that shoulder, nigga. That's it. The first time, you went like this. The second time, you was like, we.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Know how to do it, though. Cause a dude. A dude. We be like, what's she doing all that?

[Dre Nicole]

Now we in Atlanta, too, so it's.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

A lot of that.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm like, God damn, it's a Tuesday afternoon.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah, we do. Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I look at women all the time, and I'm like, okay, she's hitting. Got a little thing. Body ta. Like, I'm very friendly. I love people. I be chopping, like, so I get it. And I'll even be like, oh, look. Look at that. Look at that. Like, I do stuff like that. But don't break no neck. Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Don't take it too far.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Cause now you taking it too far. And now she already thinking like, her. Cause you know what I hate as a woman? When I'm out and I see a girl and her man and he's staring me down, I hate it. It's so embarrassing for the girl. And it's like, wow, I would never want my man to do that. Yeah, I want to feel crazy. Because I'm looking at him looking at me. No, you feel someone.

[Dre Nicole]

You feel.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You feel someone.

[Dre Nicole]

It's very uncomfortable.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It's very.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And then you see it and it's like you with a whole woman and you just staring down. And then you feel stupid for her. Like, embarrassed. Like, damn, I get secondhand embarrassment from you, girl.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Oh, my God.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And I hate that. And I don't want that. Don't be. Women like that one up a feeling, girl. He was on still just staring.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That ain't. That's just a look. He just like, whatever.

[Lex P]

But why are you staring?

[Dre Nicole]

Staring is crazy.

[Lex P]

Acknowledging that she fine is, but staring.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what's crazy? My friend, one of my closest friends told me a story. She was on vacation with the man she was dating at the time, okay? They went to, like, Mexico or something. They're at a resort, okay? They're like hugged up in the pool, kissing, okay? And I think he had eventually, like, got up, went to the bathroom or something. A girl was like, hey, I just wanna let you know your man is winking at me.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

No.

[Dre Nicole]

And like, she was like. She had to tell her. She was like. It ruined the trip. What are you doing? Literally, while they're hugging, he was looking at another girl and winking at her. Staring at.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yes.

[Dre Nicole]

I swear to God.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That is crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

That's what I'm saying.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Saying.

[Dre Nicole]

So it's just like, yeah, you gotta draw that line somewhere.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You gotta draw the line.

[Dre Nicole]

Cause it's like, yeah, a look is a look, but sometimes when, you know, when a. When somebody's staring you down, a staring.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You for sure know a stare, it's.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, what are you looking at?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And you know, a break neck doing those two things, it's like you're doing too much. Do y'.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Would y' all bring a third into your thing, into your relationship? Like just for a night or something?

[Dre Nicole]

I don't like coochie. Keep that shit away from me.

[Lex P]

And so, see, when I was younger, I used to. I had a girlfriend before, okay? So, I don't know. I be saying once I get married and me and my ex have, like, talked about this before. Like, I don't know, you might be open to it, maybe like a little girlfriend or something. When I get older, I don't know.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, so an extra girlfriend for both of y'.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Okay. Why is he your ex right now? Cuz it's clear that you still have something there.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, wow.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Look, look.

[Lex P]

I think I feel like we just were not in alignment with the Things that we wanted currently.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Which is what?

[Lex P]

Which is like where the is the ring.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

That's just how I feel at this point when it comes to me and him. And I feel like, you know, he is marriage minded. He wants to get married, all of those things. But I think he has been like JD like most men in a lot of from previous relationships and stuff. So I just think he's apprehensive and he's really big too on. He already has a kid, so he doesn't want to have another kid without being married first because he thought he like, I don't want to be no two time baby daddy. So I'm like, okay, I respect it. So where to ring in? Because I'm also ready to pop babies out.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Period.

[Lex P]

So we just, you know, not in a line.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So do you give him an ultimatum like we gonna be getting married or we're not gonna be together?

[Lex P]

Oh, well, I don't feel like I gave him an ultimatum. But that's why we're broken up because we just not on the same page. And I feel like he know where we stand with it.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

So I feel like for you, she built something right here. And when you build something with somebody and you have a history and it's like you comfortable and it's like, damn, I don't want to tear it all down and start all the way over. And then that's a whole nother process. That's a whole another five years for something else.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

And it's like you want it to work, it just feels like, but you just not sure. But then it's like, damn, if I could start something new and start building somewhere else. Damn. To start the rebuild is a process.

[Lex P]

But do you really feel like you should stay for that reason? Because then you do have situations too where women get out of long term relationships and they end up meeting the love of their life and get engaged in like a year.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like she said, that was literally my best friend. She has a whole baby daddy. He's this, that, that she left him was like, I'm not dating. Whatever. Went on one date. Married, engaged.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Because you get, you get like the thing is when you, when you break up with somebody, you have that initial of like, I need to be with somebody. When you with somebody you like, you make a mistake. You can make a quick mistake, you know what I'm saying? Because you resented that person now and now you looking for something quick. Then I'm oh, I found somebody quick. Yeah, now it's a mistake.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But that's not always the case, though.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

A lot of people do that, but.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

No, a lot of people do that, but people. She like, took a break for like a year.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Dating in general. And then she literally was like, I'm so comfortable alone. I don't even want to date. Like, I don't want to. I don't even care to be with nobody. And then, boom, it hit her in the face type thing, you know, because you do hear those stories about women. And then, boom, they're with the next man. It's like, wow, you're doing all of this. You're ready to marry. You're not playing games with me or whatever. I don't know. I don't know with men. I don't know how much time you let a man slide with stuff. If you want something, he's not willing to give it to you, then do you let it go?

[Lex P]

I don't know. And I think that's where in life you never really know if you making the right decision.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes.

[Lex P]

You know, and I think that's sometimes the scary part about life. You never really know. Like, okay, is this the right decision that I'm making? I hope it is, because then you also, on the other side, have women who leave relationships and then they don't never find nobody else.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, that's true. But I doubt that's going to be your situation. I thank you. But you know, like, I feel like women feel that way. And I'm like, me and my home girl say that. I'm like, look at your track record. How long have you ever been single in life? You haven't even been single for that long. Like, you, you going to get it, trust me.

[Dre Nicole]

But outside of that, being single is not scary. It's not like a bad thing. Like, I really enjoy, you know, the freedom that I have of like living alone. Living alone sometimes. And so it's like being alone is not scary. And it's not like, oh my gosh, the most horrible thing ever either. So I feel like it's a win win either way. If I find my husband and we have kids and live happily ever after, that's cool. But if I'm by myself, I'm cool with that too, you know, you have.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

To be okay with that.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Lex P]

I don't know that I would be okay with it.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I would.

[Dre Nicole]

I think it's because I have community.

[Lex P]

Like, life is not meant to be lived alone.

[Dre Nicole]

It isn't. But I'm not alone though. Like, for me, like, I have such a strong Community. Like, me and my sister are, like, extremely close. I have my nephews. I have my friends.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Not alone. You got yourself. Yeah, I have.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You know, but it's nothing. It's different than having one person in that household and knowing, like, you have that one person. Person you call on. But I agree with you.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, yeah, community is important.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

People always make me feeling like being alone is such like a. They make it like a sickness. Like, oh, you're single.

[Dre Nicole]

She ain't got no man.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Oh, my God. Yeah. What's wrong with her? They always say that. It's like, what's wrong with y'?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

It's the real question. That's why we don't want to deal with y'.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, how about that? Yeah, because it's easy. People think, oh, it's so hard to get a man. You can get a man if you just don't want to be alone. You can get a man.

[Lex P]

Is that the easiest thing to get?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly.

[Lex P]

It's getting a quality man.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Lex P]

Getting a good man is hard. It's hard getting a man.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

There's a statistic that says women want. Women are more attracted to men who are taken, and men are less attracted to women who are taken. So, like, when a woman is knowingly taken, less men, which I actually can feel that, like, if you're knowingly public or, you know, whatever, less men get at you.

[Dre Nicole]

I need to shut up then. I'm single, y'.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

All.

[Dre Nicole]

I need to shut up.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They say that, but even Cardi B. Has said that. But less men, honestly. Like, even Cardi B Said that when she was married.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

No, men were getting. They were cool, like, oh, hi. She wasn't getting men at her like that. But when men are married or men are taken, women want them more because they're like, oh, you can be a husband. You can be a boyfriend. I might be cuter than her. I might be able to take her man. Why can't he be my boyfriend? He has the ability to be a husband and a boyfriend and a relationship person. So it makes them, to a lot of women, more attractive.

[Dre Nicole]

I think there's a lot of truth to that, too, because I think it's so interesting all the time when a woman has a child with a man. They were together, then they break up, and then she ended up being the side to her baby daddy.

[Lex P]

Oh, yes. Happen a lot.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

That's crazy, because I used to. You go from being a man to the side girl.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Women go from being the main to the side all the Time.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

So the baby mama becomes the side to the man.

[Lex P]

Once he get a new girl, he.

[Dre Nicole]

Gets a new girlfriend or whatever. And then.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, I'm not.

[Lex P]

But you was once the girlfriend.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Do you feel like if your man cheated on you with his baby mom, is that like, would you get back with him for that? No, that's a cheat you can't do.

[Lex P]

Because I feel like you still have feelings for her.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. And y' all have a kidney. This is someone you're going to have to deal with with forever. So you can't just be like, I'mma cut her off, babe. I'm never going to talk to her again. No, I don't deal with that. That's the one line where it's like, now, would you take a man back if he cheated?

[Dre Nicole]

No, not now. I. I used to not. I used to, like, kind of not care, but I think now.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Che, what's levels to cheating?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, so the game said that there's levels to cheating. Did y' all see that? Okay, so let's talk about it.

[Lex P]

So, you know, some people say that cheating to them is anything that you do that you can't tell your partner about.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay.

[Lex P]

I be more so feeling like he's physical.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. For me, emotional, to me, cheating is actually worse. Like, it's worse.

[Lex P]

Emotional is worse. But usually if it's an emotional connection, they.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, because what if.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

What if. What if it's like your man is sending somebody money and helping them with stuff. Yeah, that's worse than. Yeah, they hit it.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's worse money.

[Lex P]

That's worse than you paying this bills. If you really like her.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, you really with her or you. Or what if a girl hit him up like, hey, I really need help. My car or something. Something. Can you send me some money?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I'm.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I'm cool.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

And they have sex, but they never had nothing sexual.

[Lex P]

No, but you about to have sex with her.

[Dre Nicole]

You definitely open it. You warming her up.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You warming her up?

[Dre Nicole]

You warming her?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Or even if y' all had sex once or twice, she's hitting you up. What if your man has a home girl that he's. That he sends money to? Is that okay?

[Lex P]

A home girl that he sent money.

[Dre Nicole]

To and they're not.

[Lex P]

Where's her.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, what she said, where's her job?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

She need a little help? It's the economy.

[Lex P]

If you help one time. Cool. I'm not opposed to, like, my man helping one of his friends once, but sending her money consistently. No, that's the problem.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Not the consistent.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

A Man, sending a woman money is blowing me in general. Like, if, you know, unless it's your family members or something like that. What? Like this. She ain't sitting here having sex with you and doing this and doing that. What?

[Lex P]

But is it like a cap thing? Like, what if she need $200, still pay?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You're saying, like, is there a cap?

[Lex P]

Is there a cap on?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

She be hitting a man who's single and available to be giving you money and not someone else's man. That's, like, who's building a life in an empire to get. Like, it's not his responsibility to take care of another woman. Like, if it's the mother of his children. That's different.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, that's definitely different. 100%.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

She got a car. Like, yeah, that's different. You can send your baby mom money for stuff. I don't think that that's a problem. But just a rant. Like a homegirl.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Dre Nicole]

And I realized with cheating, too, I used to be like, oh, I can get over it. You don't. Like, for me, personally, I used to be like, in relationships, and, like, he would cheat or something and do something, I'd be like, oh, my gosh, I forgive him. We're gonna move on from this. And even if we did move on and he becomes the perfect guy and he changes, it's still in the back of my head. And I'm just like, you know what? I don't think I can forgive this. I think this is actually a deal breaker for me.

[Lex P]

Are you a person that bring it up, though? Like, you can't get over it, and then you bring it up, like, when y' all having other arguments.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, in my last situation. Yeah. That it happened. Cause I realized I'm not over this. Like, I can't get over it, and I won't get a. You know what I'm saying? Now, I've had situations, like, with somebody I'm dealing with. Like, we're on and off, and, like, we were off, and they were like, maybe dealing with somebody and stuff like, that is different. Like, if we. If we had an off period and you were dealing with somebody else, like, it's gonna hurt my feelings and make me mad. But you didn't cheat on me because cheating is just different. I don't know. It just hits me different.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Do you have levels of cheating, though? Like, what is it? Like, what is. Like, if a man is like, oh, you know, he went out, let's say, his homegirl's in town, he went to go get Drinks with her. But he didn't tell you.

[Dre Nicole]

Like, if that's your homegirl, why are you not telling me?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Right.

[Dre Nicole]

Anything that you do behind my back, I wouldn't necessarily categorize it as cheating, but you're being. You're being dishonest.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You're being sneaky.

[Dre Nicole]

There's no trust there. You know what I'm saying? You don't trust me not to not trip. I don't trust you to be honest. So it's like, what are we doing here? So anything that you do behind my back that you're being sneaky about, it's dishonesty. So I just. I can't do it.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Is this cheating? Let me ask y' all off. Say, like, he go to the club with his boys, he gets drinks. So he just meet a girl. You pull up to the club and you walk in there, you see, and it's a girl on his lap. As soon as he see you, he push her off.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, like, what are you doing at the club?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

At the club? At the club club.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Not a stripper.

[Dre Nicole]

No.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I seen this happen, though. He just met the girl. I seen this happen.

[Dre Nicole]

You friendly.

[Lex P]

That. Why are you talking about? Too friendly?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Look, she walked in, he thought he saw a ghost. He was like, o.

[Dre Nicole]

Exactly.

[Lex P]

Imagine if he pushed her. Now I'm really suspicious.

[Dre Nicole]

Why are you pushing her?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But let me tell you something comfortable.

[Lex P]

Five minutes ago, cuz he saw you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Even if he didn't push her.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Is that cheating?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

A woman sitting on the flat is cheating.

[Lex P]

Yeah, because what are you.

[Dre Nicole]

Feeling? Friendly as hell. Because guess what?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Now y' all have a conversation like, no, we just met and she right there, she like.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So even more reason why she's sitting on your lap. You just met her.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

We was just vibing. There was no other seats.

[Dre Nicole]

But say I never walked into another seat. If I never walked in the club, was you gonna come home and tell me what happened? Like, man, I was at the club and this girl sat on my lap.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

We not gonna tell you that.

[Dre Nicole]

Exactly.

[Lex P]

Of course not.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But why would we need to tell that? Why we want to start an argument?

[Dre Nicole]

Cause I like to fight.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

See what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Why do you want a girl? Okay, let's answer this question. If you walk in the club and your girl has a man and she's. I mean, she's sitting on a man's lap.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

If I walk in and my girl is sitting on the dude lap, I'm good.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly. But it's okay.

[Dre Nicole]

Men can dish it, but they cannot.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I can't steal that about men smiling in a girl's face. Flirting moment. A man even comes talk to you for two seconds, they be like, what y' all talk about? Damn. But you could be kiki and turn.

[Dre Nicole]

Like.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

My girl sitting on somebody lap.

[Dre Nicole]

You finna go, no, no, no.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Look, if I see it, I'm not even gonna approach her. I'mma look and be like, oh, that's what she on. All right, I'm gonna go play the bar over here. And I'm. I might go start talking to something else. Like, all right, yeah, now I'm gonna start flirting right here now. All right, I'm about to do it right here. About to walk over here, I'm like, hey, come here. Come here real quick. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. How you doing?

[Lex P]

So is that automatically, like, the end of the relationship if you started? Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But guess what? He had every excuse for when a girl was on his. See, but this is the thing.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I didn't say it was on my life. I said this is what I saw.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But let me ask you this. Are you leaving a man if you see that? So let's say you come in the club, the girl is sitting on his lap, rubbing his head.

[Dre Nicole]

And it's not about the action. It's about how it makes me feel. And what I. Every time now, every time you step out, you have been rubbing on his head.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Now you thinking every time he goes.

[Dre Nicole]

Every time that he's miserable. I don't wanna. Every time you step out the house, I don't wanna be like, damn, I wonder what he's doing. That's not fun. So the actual action of it is the bigger picture, and it's the after effects of what you did. You know what I'm saying?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But you can get over it.

[Dre Nicole]

No, I can't.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Now here's another scenario.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Scenario. So that's not cool, but it's cool if you walk into the strip club and she twerking on them.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, she's working.

[Dre Nicole]

They do not want them in there.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

They do.

[Dre Nicole]

Nice.

[Lex P]

Well, sometimes they actually do.

[Dre Nicole]

Sometimes.

[Lex P]

But I feel like.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

This is appropriate setting to do that. It's a strip club. And also, too. No, like, you know, I'm thinking like, this is a strip club. You come here to do that. You don't already know what to expect.

[Lex P]

And I like my man going to the strip club and nobody.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

He right there getting all rocked. He right there. Get.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Come on.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Like, that's true. That's good. He good.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You good with that?

[Dre Nicole]

I mean, I just feel like, if a girl is dancing on. You're going to happen.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

That's gonna happen.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah. That's not cheating.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

But look, he in the back room. He in the back, back room with her, though.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

You now you doing too.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Far. No, he just. He just getting a private.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

He just private with private dance. Not necessary. Get out there with everybody.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Too many people on him. He's like, no, I'm be in the.

[Dre Nicole]

No, a private dance is crazy.

[Lex P]

In the back.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

He can't get a private dance.

[Dre Nicole]

You too horny?

[Lex P]

You too horny. You getting a little head.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Why you getting a little head? That's blowing me. If you in the back, you blow me in the back. It's crazy because I just came to the realization there was a viral me like guy and he was like, when guys tell me to go to the strip club, they're like, oh, you want to go get hard in the club together? And I realized, like, men are hard in the.

[Dre Nicole]

They are.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I didn't know that. Why wouldn't I know that?

[Dre Nicole]

They used to walk up to the bar like, order wings. Just let me get that lemon pepper.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

No, I don't know why I was so naive to not realized. Like, cuz I'm not getting like turned on. But obvious. I'm not, you know, whatever. But I'm like thinking like, y' all are just hard all here, all standing.

[Dre Nicole]

Around together, just hard.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

As hard as what we coming here for then what we here for?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And y' all live in Atlanta, right? So I used to live in Atlanta, honey. And my home girl worked at Onyx and she was cracking. Okay, this was back 10 years ago, but them strip clubs is no joking Atlanta. I seen them eating each other. Everything.

[Lex P]

Everything in Atlanta, toys.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I'm like, oh, y' all are having a porno shoot, right?

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah, it gets.

[Lex P]

And they butt naked. They just be having it. All right. If you go to walking around, just hitting it.

[Dre Nicole]

All right.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah, but I mean, if you go to strip club Atlanta is. Is what's more cracking Atlanta or Houston for the strip club? I've never been to Houston.

[Dre Nicole]

To me, I'm. I'm biased because I worked at one of the really popular strip clubs for a very long time. And now we go back. We always go to Area 29. We always talking about Area 29.

[Lex P]

We love Area 29. It's a good time. But to me, I'm not gonna lie, Atlanta strip clubs be more popping because the girls out there be really dancing.

[Dre Nicole]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

They really be professionals. They be climbing the poles. They be doing the tricks, flipping. The Houston girls, they just fine. They fine. They know they fine. They gonna do a little shake.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay, so before we wrap up, y', all, Paul has some viral clips, and I want to know what y' all think.

[Dre Nicole]

I'm not gonna lie. I was very scared to come here today. I was. Because I was like, oh, my God, he gonna say something crazy.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Everyone who comes is always like, you're so nice and you're so cool. Crazy. Yeah, you talk crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

I was scared.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Only with me and her.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But with other people, he don't do that. So he said, cheat to see if you love your. You have to cheat on a woman to see if she loves you. What do y' all think of this?

[Dre Nicole]

You can't do nothing else.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Why is that the go to?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah. And why do I have to struggle for love?

[Lex P]

I think. And I think that's a big misconception. People think that they have to go through a lot with a man or a lot with a woman for y' all to be compatible or to make sure that y' all supposed to. To be able to make it work. Like, I feel like, why can't it just be smooth selling from day one?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And.

[Dre Nicole]

But I. I'll say this to a point, cuz I think sometimes you do have to go through things to make it work, right? Yeah, but it don't have to be cheating. Like, I have, like, I had a situation where, like, his grandmother died, and it's like, you know, do. You can't. How do you suffer? You got to see how somebody goes through something. You know, maybe something has happened with you financially, and you're going through a season, or maybe I'm going through a season. Like, we can go through things. You ain't gotta go fuck another bitch to see it. Let me see how strong she is.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Exactly.

[Dre Nicole]

No, there's a lot of things that can happen in life that can test our relationship outside of cheating to see if we can weather the storm.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I'm not saying, like, initially, like, hey, all right, you know what? I'm gonna go see. I'm gonna let her catch me. And let's see. Let me test her, Will. I ain't initially saying that, but I know guys that's found out. Because, like, I'm talking about, like, people in my position. Motherfuckers that got hella money. That's mean. That's already known. Say, like, shit, he already got 100 million. Now I'm meeting you. How I know that you Know you ain't like the rest of them, right? You know what I'm saying? You chasing checks out here or something. So what I gotta do to know this? So how do I find out? And what I'm. I'm dumb. I'm dumb as hell. Cause I'm just. I'm just. I like girls. Whatever. I'm just like, oh, she fine. Damn, she got a good personality. Oh, God, let's listen to be my girl dumb out here. So how do I know for sure that she ain't about to just try to get me for my.

[Lex P]

I don't think you really know. I think you have to give it time and really get to know the person and vet them properly. I think a lot of the time, men and women just fall head over heels really early. And you don't really know this person, you know, the representative. You have to give it time. Time tells all. People can only keep up a facade.

[Dre Nicole]

For so long, right?

[Lex P]

First few months, yeah, a year in, you gonna see the real them.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They say six months. You can't hold on to your representative for too long. And like you've said before, they actually do be knowing. They just decide, like, I'm gonna stay. Cause she cool with sex. Cool. She pretty, I can take. They be knowing for real. After a while, they're like, yeah, she ain't. But you already.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I can deal with that.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I can do with it. You know, she not gonna really be with you. Rolling with you, you die. She gonna be taking that money and smiling and laughing to the bank.

[Lex P]

But you know, when a woman is.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Genuine, who she hangs around, how she operates, the real friends she got, the people she talked to. Like, you know. You know, because.

[Lex P]

And then it's like, yeah, women be golden. I truly do believe and get you.

[Dre Nicole]

A lot of times these men get you a woman that got something to lose. They got her own business. Business that got her own things going on outside of you. You know what I'm saying? When you have a woman who has something to lose and things going on, it's just like, yeah, it's cool that you have money. It's a plus. But it's not why she's here, because she got her own going on.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

She knows how to run a business.

[Dre Nicole]

She knows how to talk to people.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

She knows how to do things. She's adding value to your life.

[Dre Nicole]

Exactly.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Wants to. You know what I mean? She's not just like, oh, spend this money. Also, someone will be like, no, don't spend that, babe. Say, save this, do this like, you peep that, yo, she really rock with you. Like, don't, don't. Don't get it twisted like there's other ways.

[Dre Nicole]

So long.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

It's very, very long. Yeah, it is.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay, so Paul also says that he feels like women overseas are better to be in a relationship with. He didn't say it, but I'm summing it up. To be in a relationship with. They're just more submissive. They want a family. They want a. Like the Passport boys.

[Lex P]

So that's what I was gonna say. You support the passport.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I don't even know who the Passport boys are. She brought that up, and that's my first time ever hearing about it.

[Dre Nicole]

Really?

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

I said that the women overseas have more traditional family values than American women.

[Dre Nicole]

Okay. And you know what? I'm not gonna say you're wrong. But also, on the other side of that, the men are more traditional as well. So they're doing that because they're raised in the household where it's like, I'm taking care of the household. I'm being a man. I'm being a leader. We were forced to be independent. So, yeah, there's no men in the house. So, yeah, I have to pay the bills. I have to be strong. I have to be. I'm gonna be a more militant and a little more argumentative because this is how I run my house. Cause ain't no man in here. Y' all be gonna get some milk, and y' all never come back. So it's like the society and the culture is a lot different here because we were forced to be the man of the household and independent. So, yeah, those women are going to. Able to be more submissive and listen more because they hold family in the house. Literally, they raise their family. The grandmother in the house, the grandfather. Everybody in the house together, they got help.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And the men are running the bills and this and that. And the woman have their position.

[Dre Nicole]

They have a village.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And they already see that. That's what it is. You're like, oh, this is what it is. Okay? And guess what? The men don't wait three years to marry. Euphoria. They're gonna be like, we're having a family. Family. We're getting married. This is your house. Yeah, exactly, exactly. But when them overseas women come over here, they got an agenda, baby. That's the difference. Because I've seen that. They come over here, baby, they doing the same thing everybody else doing.

[Lex P]

Okay?

[Dre Nicole]

They want that check.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

They want that check, honey. And that's all you had. Take me Shopping. Oh, you this. Oh, yeah. They coming over here for a reason. Period, point blank.

[Dre Nicole]

Melania did it too good. She said, I didn't mean to be the first lady.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I just want a little chick that.

[Dre Nicole]

Got her in some trouble.

[Lex P]

Ended up getting her in the White House.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Lady there. You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Don't even know how to speak English. She on baby Chr. Like, girl, what? I'm crying. Okay, y', all, this has been fun. It's been so fun. We're going to wrap up with a little segment.

[Lex P]

Okay?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Okay. This is the Daily Fantasy segment, brought to you by Price Picks, where you can can win real cash by playing Daily Fantasy, use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. So the segment is, I'm going to ask you two, what is your fantasy in a relationship? Not sexually. It can be, but, like, what do you want more of from your man? Like, what do you wish men knew about women?

[Lex P]

Like, what do you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And what do you wish they did?

[Dre Nicole]

Less?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, I want them to know more of.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Like, for me, she asked me this. What do I want more from a woman? Like, let's stop talking so goddamn much.

[Dre Nicole]

Ooh, I know.

[Lex P]

And that's a tough one for us.

[Dre Nicole]

You know what's crazy?

[Lex P]

To not talk.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

It's crazy.

[Dre Nicole]

You said that. I tweeted one time, and it went viral because, like, I was at dinner with my man. I was trying to be, like, romantic. I was like, babe, like, what's your fantasy? Like, what do you want, like, me to do? He was like, to be quiet. I said that. Beat me up.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And we thinking our personality is everything. They love our personality. We chop and we laughing, be like, shut up, girl.

[Lex P]

Us to be quiet. It's crazy.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

But it's like, sometimes, what do you just supposed to sit there mute all day? You know what I'm saying?

[Lex P]

You know, I don't know. I think that sometimes we think that we're coming up with a solution or we think we're helping, and then they be looking at it, like, being combative, but we're not trying to be combative. We really think we're helping the situation.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

That's what it is. It's like, you always have to question it, but it's like, I'm not questioning. I'm just thinking, like, can I also come up with a different solution or bring this to your attention? Because sometimes you don't remember this. Like, and then they're like, you just always question me and you don't Follow your compounded. But it's like, I'm just trying to help.

[Dre Nicole]

My ex.

[Lex P]

He told me, he said it's okay because I'm not always looking for an answer that part. Like sometimes just talking to you, I'm just getting like. I don't necessarily want you to come up with a solution or to help me, but us as women, we just can't help it.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We can't help. And we'd be like, well, didn't you say you didn't like that? Like, girl, I just said I'm going here, girl.

[Dre Nicole]

I think for me, like what I would like more is just like a balance. Because he's like a workaholic and stuff. So it's like I'd be having to make him take a break. Like, literally I'll be having to make him sleep and go get a facial, go relax today. So I wish like they would men would find more of that work life balance of like relaxing sometimes. But I get it, like, you know when you just are in hustle, hustle mode. I understand that. But I think life is all about balance because you don't want to look up and you're like 67. You're like, damn, all I did was work, like, all I did was work.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like then travel or do nice things like just for yourself even. Yeah, yeah, for sure.

[Dre Nicole]

So, yeah, I think that's something that. I mean, yeah.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

What about anything less from a man? Like, they'd want us to be quiet, less talking.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, I don't know.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Less.

[Lex P]

What could they do less?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I think I said I would like a man to be like, less. Like, I don't know how to put this in a like the right term, but like stop holding shit in so much.

[Dre Nicole]

Oh, okay.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Like, because they'll let shit be build up.

[Dre Nicole]

You don't even know.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And it could be small. Like it could. You could be annoyed by the smallest thing I do. Like, babe, can you go do this or turn off the light? And it's just like, I hate when you ask me that. Just turn like little stuff and then they get all mad and it just boils up and they're irritated. It's like, just tell me Sometimes like communication, communication, More communication.

[Lex P]

But you know what I've realized? I think men don't like doing that though. Because then when they talk too much, that be a turnoff for someone. Women like, they be like, oh, he nagging, he's sassy, he always complaining.

[Dre Nicole]

But I think that's so crazy cuz like, if this is your man and somebody you're dealing with, like, I be wanting you to tell me what's wrong.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I want to hear every. What else? What were you going to say it? I want to hear everything a man got to say. But men have said, like, even my past relationships, a man has told me, like, yeah, you act like. Women act like they want hear to hear your problems, but once you start giving the problems, they start respecting you less. And I don't, I don't find that to be true because the more I know, the more I can anticipate your needs and help you and help us grow.

[Lex P]

You know, Like, I'll say this, I definitely want you to tell me. But then I think it gets to a point and this is just people across the board. Like, how many times you going to bring it up though? The same thing.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

That's over and over and over because.

[Dre Nicole]

We got to come to us solution.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

Then it gets to a point to where it's like, okay, damn. Yeah, like what we going to do about it? And I think us as women were naturally that way. This is cool, but what are we going to do about it? Like, I understand how you feel, but let's come up with a solution. I like a solution based person.

[Dre Nicole]

Same, same.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

All.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

I personally been loved y', all. So I'm so happy that you guys are here.

[Lex P]

Thank you so much.

[Dre Nicole]

Yes. And when y' all come to Atlanta, let us know cuz y' all gotta pull up and do our show.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

My sister lives in Atlanta, so going after her husband and her. Yeah. So I, I go out there.

[Lex P]

Perfect.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

We going for show. Do the show out there.

[Dre Nicole]

And also y' all make sure y' all go to poor minds dot com. We are going on tour. So y' all make sure y' all go get yalls tickets. March 2026 still tipping tour. We coming to the city near you, period.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

And we'll put all that information in the down below so y' all can follow them, their podcast, their tour dates, all that stuff.

[Dre Nicole]

Thank you.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

Of course. Of course.

[Co-host/Interviewer (possibly Paul or another host)]

Thank you, guys. This is to taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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[Cesar Faraday Paul]

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