“Hitmaka” Challenges Azar, Speaks On Never Getting Married, & How Ray J Changed His Life. (Part 1)

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Episode: “Hitmaka” Challenges Azar, Speaks On Never Getting Married, & How Ray J Changed His Life (Part 1)
Date: June 29, 2026
Host: Azar Faraday (with Paul Paisy)
Guest: Hitmaka (formerly Young Berg)
Theme:
Candid, lively conversation on overcoming trauma, relationships, marriage, modern dating, social media image, accountability, and notable career milestones.

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Episode Overview

This episode features music producer and songwriter Hitmaka, known for his chart-topping records and influence in hip-hop/R&B. The hosts, Azar Faraday and Paul Paisy, dive deep with Hitmaka about overcoming early trauma, his views on relationships, why he’ll never get married, and the unexpected way Ray J changed his life. The conversation is raw, unfiltered, and alternates between humor, introspection, and blunt honesty.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Shared Childhood Trauma & "Being Sent Away"

• Azar and Hitmaka connect over both being sent away as teens to controversial behavioral programs—similar to those highlighted in Netflix documentaries.
  • Hitmaka details being kidnapped by Samoan men, sent to "High Impact" in Jamaica, and a traumatic experience involving labor and isolation ([05:02]–[09:37]).
  • Quotes:
    • “Never in my life have I met another person, person in the wild that has went through something like that.” — Azar ([05:04])
    • “I had to walk 100 laps with a 100-pound brick on my back…” — Hitmaka ([07:19])
    • “When I got out, I didn’t even know 9/11 happened.” — Hitmaka ([09:12])
• Both reflect on how this shaped their mental toughness and resilience:
  • “You become so tough and you have to, like, almost finesse it…” — Azar ([07:39])
  • “It turned you, whether for the good or the bad.” — Paul ([11:05])

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2. Relationships, Marriage, and Modern Dating

• Hitmaka’s Reluctance to Marry

  • He believes marriage is “for old people and poor people” and has no intention to marry legally ([12:30]).
  • Quotes:
    • “Marriage is for old people and poor people.” — Paul ([12:35])
    • “Facts, man.” — Hitmaka ([12:37])
    • “I’m never getting married. Like, not on paper.” — Hitmaka ([13:08])

• Transactional Nature of Modern Dating

  • Hitmaka asserts most relationships today are transactional and genuine love is rare unless built from nothing ([12:13]).
    • “Everything’s transactional, man.” — Hitmaka ([12:25])

• Women, Trust, and Security

  • Discussion on prenuptial security, the notion of paperwork in marriage, and women’s expectations ([13:18]).
  • Hitmaka: “But what is the purpose of the paperwork?” ([13:16])
  • Paul: “It’s to put you in court. Period.” ([13:20])

• Polygamy/Multiple Partners

  • Hitmaka is open about not wanting monogamy, expecting women who date him to accept his lifestyle ([14:48]).
    • “Any woman that deals with me knows that I’m going to have other women involved regardless, anyway.” — Hitmaka ([14:55])

• Female Expectations and “The Medium Ugly” Debate

  • Azar insists she doesn’t require looks or wealth, arguing for compatibility, but Hitmaka challenges her standards with humor and skepticism ([16:08]–[19:40]).
  • Running joke on “medium ugly” men and the reality of attraction, success, and relationship standards.

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3. Social Media, Personal Branding, and Accountability

• Image Online vs. Reality

  • Hitmaka “calls out” Azar for posting a video on Instagram where she dances to a song with “whole behavior” connotations, suggesting it conflicts with the womanly image she presents on the podcast ([29:21]–[35:34]).
  • “That’s like whole behavior, though. The whole premise of the song is whole behavior, right?” — Hitmaka ([31:38])
  • Azar acknowledges the feedback and says she would take such a post down if a partner asked, accepting the duality/conflict between her public persona and private values ([34:22]).
  • “Thank you for calling me out… I can always do better. I understand that now.” — Azar ([35:13])

• How Social Media Fuels Dysfunction

  • The hosts and Hitmaka discuss how social media encourages people to expose private conflicts, putting careers and relationships at risk ([42:54]).
  • “If something happens, it’s like, all right, he don’t like me. Let me put the camera in his face. Now it’s your career. Now we on all the blogs.” — Hitmaka ([45:15])

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4. Sex, Double Standards, and Candid Confessions

• On “Cracking” (Hooking Up) Quickly

  • Paul asks both Hitmaka and Azar about the fastest they’ve hooked up—a humorous, frank exchange ([39:08], [51:20]).
  • Hitmaka claims “10–15 minutes” in his tour days ([39:20]).
  • Azar denies ever having a one-night stand, admits to kissing and “done little shit” but not sex on a first date ([51:33]–[52:38]).

• Condom Use and Responsibility

  • Discussion about sexual responsibility, the culture shift around condom use, and shifting accountability back onto women as gatekeepers ([49:28]).
  • “I’ve never had a woman ask me if I got a condom on me ever.” — Hitmaka ([49:10])
  • “You cannot come near this vagina without a condom.” — Azar ([50:25])

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5. Career Pivot: Ray J Changed Hitmaka’s Life

• The Making of “Sexy Can I” and Mainstream Success
  • Hitmaka credits Ray J with propelling his career, explaining he originally didn’t want to record “Sexy Can I,” but it became his breakout hit ([39:59]–[41:33]).
  • “I’m going to be honest, I didn’t want to do the Sexy Can I record at all… But it ended up being the most…for my career as Youngberg, that shit went to the moon immediately.” — Hitmaka ([39:59])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On trauma and personal growth:

• “That was the most devastating thing… I was a bad kid… Demon time off the rip.” — Hitmaka ([05:13]–[05:47])

On relationships:

• “I think that marriage is kind of like, I don’t see no man out here being like, yo, I can’t wait till I get married.” — Hitmaka ([13:08])
• “Everything’s transactional, man.” — Hitmaka ([12:25])

On social media and image:

• “If you’re preaching a certain message and. Then you’re living and you’re doing that. You’re projecting.” — Hitmaka ([33:48])
• “That’s like whole behavior, though.” — Hitmaka ([31:38])

On accountability:

• “I want men to be vulnerable and be able to do that. So what can we do as women to make you feel safe?” — Azar ([42:46])
• “Emotional intelligence, probably. Not firing off with the first thing.” — Hitmaka ([42:54])

On Ray J & career:

• “Me and Ray J literally had two tour buses back to back…That was life changing.” — Hitmaka ([41:13])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Introductions and Early Trauma: [03:16]–[09:47]
• Impact of Trauma and Life Lessons: [09:51]–[11:06]
• Views on Relationships, Marriage: [11:13]–[14:15]
• Polygamy & Dating Standards: [14:48]–[20:07]
• The “Medium Ugly” Debate: [16:39]–[20:07]
• Social Media Accountability: [29:21]–[35:34]
• Sexual Culture and Condom Use: [49:10]–[51:15]
• Fastest Hookup Stories: [39:08], [51:20]
• The Ray J Story: [39:59]–[41:33]
• Vulnerability and Gender Double Standards: [42:46]–[47:19]

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Tone and Vibe

• Conversational, passionate, playful yet raw; direct challenge and candid humor, especially from Hitmaka (“That’s like whole behavior…”)
• Azar is openly self-reflective, takes feedback, and keeps the discussion solution-oriented.
• Paul provides comic relief, realness, and street-smart wisdom.

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This episode celebrates survival and reinvention, confronts modern relationship realities and double standards, emphasizes the importance of personal brand, and reminds listeners how one pivotal connection (Ray J) can change a life. The blend of blunt honesty, empathy, and playful sparring makes for a highly engaging listen.

Transcript

[Azar Faraday]

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[Hitmaker]

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[Hitmaker]

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[Paul Paisy]

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[Paul Paisy]

This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I am your host, Azar Faraday.

[Paul Paisy]

Paul Paisy in the house.

[Azar Faraday]

And today we have a guest that I'm super excited about. He went from surviving some of life's toughest challenges to becoming one of the most influential hit makers in music. He's created chart topping records, helped shape the sound of hip hop and R B, and built a legacy both in front and behind the scenes. Please welcome hitmaker.

[Paul Paisy]

Hitmaker in the house. What's up, man? I know this has been a long time coming. I've been telling we need to get them on, get them on. I'm like, damn. But we was like in the middle of moving studios in the last few months and rearranging stuff, so, man, we finally glad to have you. You're a legend out here in the game. You done done some legendary stuff in the game. Very influential and we appreciate having you, man. For real.

[Hitmaker]

Thank you, brother.

[Azar Faraday]

For real. I'm super excited. And in the midst of researching you, I found out some stuff. No, no, no, no, no. But this is. This is blowing me. Right?

[Hitmaker]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Because you have some stuff in common that's actually really crazy.

[Hitmaker]

Oh, right.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

I never met anybody that's been through something similar to me.

[Hitmaker]

What's that?

[Azar Faraday]

So you talked about, obviously, coming from a wealthy family. We know you ain't ate hot dogs. Peanut butter nuggets. We know that. Right. But you also spoke about being sent away.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

To a program that's similar to the Netflix documentary. I did too. I never ever met nobody. I came through a wealthy family.

[Hitmaker]

For real.

[Azar Faraday]

I got sent away. My mom sent me away to one of these.

[Paul Paisy]

No, for real. No, for real.

[Azar Faraday]

And when I read that about you and I heard that you say that, I was like, oh, my God, never in my life have I met another person, person in the wild that has went through something like that.

[Hitmaker]

Oh, well, this meant to be. I think we going to learn a lot from each other in this whole conversation. I've never met nobody outside of that program. When I was there that been through that type of. That was like the most devastating thing, cuz, you know, like, did they come kidnap you?

[Azar Faraday]

Like they did me Handcuffs. They made me put on the outfit. I didn't know where I was going.

[Hitmaker]

She was insane.

[Azar Faraday]

It was the most insane. And when I heard your story, I was like, there's no way he Went through this, like me just like you. And I was so. And I'm so curious to know, like, what was your experience and how do you feel like it shaped you as a man today?

[Hitmaker]

Man, I don't know. So it was different for me because like, I was bad, of course, and like I was a bad kid. But I had a record deal at the time, so I was signed a DMX label and I was living in New Jersey and I went back to Chicago to kind of like reunite with the person that was my producer at the time. Because I wasn't a producer. I was just the artist that was kind of being told what to do, you know, and like writing my own raps, but still like needing someone else's influence on like me to make great records. So I went back home and when I was with back home, it was with the niggas that was like the biggest drug dealers in Chicago in the game at that time. So my mom was pretty much afraid. And then before that, like it was some gunshit that happened in my. At my house. Like a gun went off at my house in New Jersey. And I was like a. Literally like at that time, I think I was probably like 5 foot. I was like. But I was bad though. I was smoking, drinking. I was just wilding out like on some different shit. Demon time off the rip. And I went to the mall and my mom was getting all these mysterious phone calls. And I'm not really close with my mom and I wasn't really close cause I live with my dad. Like I got the boyz n the hood lifestyle. Like my dad raised me like he raised straight. So fucking. My mom's getting these mysterious phone calls and she like, I'll be parked at the Walgreens at the north entrance. I'm like, who the fuck is you talking to? She like, no, my new husband is going to meet us up here. And that next thing I know, I come out the mall and two Samoan dudes rope me up and then take me to the airport.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, that was a traumatizing experience. When you got there, how long did you stay?

[Hitmaker]

A year. And I ended up having to go to Jamaica to go to High Impact. And I had to walk 100 laps with 100 pound brick on my back to get back to where I was. And Thompson Falls, Montana.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh my God, I'm so sorry. I know the trauma that that comes with, but I think that it shaped me mentally in a way that a lot of people can't relate to.

[Hitmaker]

Right.

[Azar Faraday]

Because you become so tough and you have to, like, almost finesse it, you know, in a way. So it was. It was crazy to hear that you went through that.

[Hitmaker]

Nah, hell no. We alumni, babe.

[Azar Faraday]

Man. I went through that shit, too.

[Paul Paisy]

So it was a cult.

[Azar Faraday]

For mine, it was a little different.

[Hitmaker]

No, they was paying $5,000 a month or six grand a month for me to be there. And it wasn't really a cult. Maybe it. I don't know.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, it probably wasn't. You just don't realize it was a school.

[Hitmaker]

And it was, like, mad in the school was like, three, 400 kids in the school. So it wasn't. It was like. No, it was like some government. But, like, when it got shut down, like, when I did my research after the fact or whatever, it wasn't a cult, but it was some shit like a cult. Give me, like, Tiger King, like, how that nigga just got a place and a bunch of bitches that he got fucking.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Hitmaker]

That's just like, some rich nigga shit, but, like, on some, like, white boy shit. To me, our shit was like a real school.

[Azar Faraday]

But what. There was things going on there, right, that were traumatic.

[Hitmaker]

No, you couldn't. You couldn't have, like, condiments. You start out level one zero points. No condiments.

[Azar Faraday]

You would go by point system. Yeah, I went by point system.

[Hitmaker]

Then you got, like, a little young that might be younger than you telling you what to do or whatever violating you to send you to this. You go to something called worksheets. You act up there. You go to somewhere called the Hobbit. You up at the Hobby. You go to High Impact in Jamaica where there's no child safety laws, and they beat you the up down there.

[Paul Paisy]

Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

It's a crazy situation. I understand that. I was there for 15 months. So similar to you. How old were you at the time?

[Hitmaker]

This is like, teens. I can't remember. To me, it was when 911 happened. Because I was very close with, like, Aaliyah, because I was signed to dmx. And, like. Like, I got just a bunch of memories from that era with Aaliyah and DMX or whatever. But what really happened is, like, they cut you off from the world. So it was no television, no phone, no newspaper, nothing. When I got out, I didn't know 911 happened. I didn't know none of that.

[Paul Paisy]

Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

That's how it is. You don't have no contact with outside world, and they don't allow you access to. To see what's going on.

[Hitmaker]

I don't even think I got like mail for like the first six months or some shit like that.

[Azar Faraday]

It was tough. So it's really crazy. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

[Hitmaker]

Why, though? We here, we here.

[Paul Paisy]

Listen, dog. God, don't make no mistake. It shape you to where you get to a certain point to where, like, look where he is now. Look where you are now. You know, I think we all gotta go through some shit, you know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

For sure.

[Paul Paisy]

Or even if we don't go through some shit. When you look at a motherfucker who, like, really did it at the highest level, and you be like, damn. You know they went through some shit.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

Cause the grind be different and the energy you put toward when you want to get there because you know you done been through some shit. You know what I'm saying? So, like, everybody I done talked to, successful, man, I be like, damn. What was it like? Like, what you went through, though, how you grew up, what you didn't like. Dad, mom, no dad, no mom. Like, it's like certain things, whatever your experience, like, it'll shape your life. Like, I was shaped in a way growing up in Inglewood and East Oakland as a kid, so that shaped you another way. Then you start being a young adult and you start going through friends that you ain't friends with no more. Just like, damn. Then I got stabbed and it was like, damn. Another thing, you know, you get shaped at different periods in your life, man, and it really turn you, whether it's for the good or the bad.

[Azar Faraday]

Absolutely.

[Hitmaker]

For sure.

[Azar Faraday]

Absolutely. Okay, so to shift the energy a little bit.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's the personal stuff. We've all. Let's get to the nitty gritty.

[Azar Faraday]

Let's get into that. Because it was like, whoa. Someone that. Yeah. Went through that. But we obviously are. We talk about relationships and stuff like that. If you want to share, you don't have to. But what is your current relationship status now? Are you in a relationship?

[Hitmaker]

Nah. I mean, damn, how honest. Ooh, I should let it go.

[Paul Paisy]

Ooh, she gonna get mad.

[Hitmaker]

I gotta. It's complex. I'm not in a relationship. But no. Like, no. Like, I'm. I'm. I'm just me.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[Hitmaker]

I handle myself a certain different way. You know what I'm saying? So, like, a lot of men probably not capable of it or don't even think that it's realistic, but, like, I'm just having. I handle myself and my business a certain type of way.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that in today's climate, it's harder to date or feel like you can find women trustworthy or genuine.

[Hitmaker]

I don't think no women is like, genuine.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[Hitmaker]

I think a genuine relationship is when you find somebody that y' all meet on a common ground of having nothing and y' all build something together that's really genuine. Like, everything transactional, man.

[Paul Paisy]

So I made the comment, I said, have you ever been married?

[Hitmaker]

No.

[Paul Paisy]

So I made this comment that marriage is for old people and poor people.

[Hitmaker]

True.

[Azar Faraday]

You agree with that?

[Hitmaker]

Facts, man.

[Paul Paisy]

See, and I got a lot of flack for that because I feel like when you in those areas, it works. That's real love. Like, I feel like that's where real love is stacked up in place.

[Hitmaker]

Right. I think that marriage is kind of like, I don't see no man out here being like, yo, I can't wait till I get married. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's something that's kind of like, done for women. But as far as me, like, I can only speak for myself. I'm never getting married. Like, not on paper.

[Paul Paisy]

You did.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. You said you would give a girl a 10 karat ring.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You would do the wedding, you would do the house, buy our house, but you just wouldn't do the paperwork.

[Hitmaker]

But what is the purpose of the paperwork?

[Azar Faraday]

Right? Well, the purpose of the paperwork is

[Paul Paisy]

to put you in court.

[Azar Faraday]

Is to.

[Paul Paisy]

That's what it's paperwork for, is to put you in court, period.

[Azar Faraday]

It is to create and some leverage for the.

[Paul Paisy]

For the girl.

[Azar Faraday]

It's the security for whoever is less well off.

[Hitmaker]

Well, if you don't believe in me like that and you think I'm capable of actually having being married to you and having children with you and just kicking you to the curb, then you not don't have faith in the type of woman that you are. And you start in a relationship without, like, I don't like that.

[Azar Faraday]

Would you do something? Like, would you have a will or a trust where it's like, if we did divorce, like, I got you and your sister.

[Paul Paisy]

No divorce, no. So this is.

[Azar Faraday]

Or not divorce.

[Paul Paisy]

But if we did split up, say, like, we're together. If she's like, well, I need some security. I've been living with you doing this, and I was just like, well, I'll put you in the wheel. So if something happened to me, you know, you can make some decisions, some stuff will go to you. But if we break up, you out the wheel, that's like marriage.

[Hitmaker]

That's realistic.

[Paul Paisy]

That's like marriage. Though.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah, but I would still want my woman to work. So if I'm taking care of all the bills and I'm like, you're living in my home with me and you still work, you're basically stacking money and doing. You have. You're building your cause.

[Azar Faraday]

She can have her own money while you're paying all the bills and.

[Paul Paisy]

And this and that.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I get that.

[Paul Paisy]

But this the thing, too. What about, like, you want to go somewhere? Like, baby, let's go to the Bahamas. I gotta work, baby, baby, I want to go. Like, you know, so, like, when you got some money, it's like, if she working, how you gonna. Now you like, damn, she working so much, I'm gonna go to the Bahamas with this other girl.

[Hitmaker]

Well, that's what I was gonna say. Like, in reality, any woman that deals with me knows that I'm gonna have other women involved regardless, anyway.

[Paul Paisy]

Okay? Understanding.

[Hitmaker]

Not in a disrespectful fashion, but just the way our life moves, right? Like, if I go somewhere and, like, and you're my woman and you know I have a high sex drive or this, that. And third, are we being honest with each other? If I can leave you for three to four weeks and say that I'm not entertaining any other pussy.

[Azar Faraday]

Ooh, that's crazy.

[Paul Paisy]

That's true.

[Hitmaker]

If you know the nigga that you got, though, right?

[Paul Paisy]

If you know. See, this is. This is the thing. No, no, no hit. No hit. No, this is the thing. Like, what if you with a girl and you telling her everything, you telling her the truth. Cause girls, like, I wanna know and you rolling with that, it gets to a certain point where the girl will be rolling them with that. And then all of a sudden, they just mind change, like, oh, but this is how we met. This is how we got in.

[Azar Faraday]

Now, men are not designed to be that way.

[Paul Paisy]

Men are designed to be that way.

[Azar Faraday]

I didn't say men.

[Paul Paisy]

Oh, women.

[Azar Faraday]

Women are not designed to be that way. Women play mind games with themselves and pretend that they will be okay with that. And that's why, historically, a woman will say they're okay with something and a year later be putting your business out there, losing their mind. Because women, and I advise women on this constantly. If you are, you know, you're not capable of being with a man like that, don't put yourself in a position to be with a man like that.

[Hitmaker]

Then why do y' all all want a man like that?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't. So I can't stand.

[Hitmaker]

What kind of man do you Want.

[Azar Faraday]

I want a man that wants me and me. And is. Is. Is wise enough and emotionally and truly selfless. How you know what I want?

[Hitmaker]

Cause I'm gonna be honest with you. Right? You want an attractive guy.

[Azar Faraday]

No.

[Paul Paisy]

Oh, you.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't care about looks. I don't care about looks.

[Hitmaker]

What about financially? Is he financially attractive?

[Azar Faraday]

Financially? You don't have to be super rich to be with me. No, you could be cool. I could be cool. I'm not going to be with someone broke because I attract what I am, and I'm not a broke person. That's a mindset of mentality, and that's where you are in life.

[Hitmaker]

You could date like a bus driver.

[Azar Faraday]

I can't take a bus driver.

[Paul Paisy]

No.

[Hitmaker]

So who is this guy? Like, because it's like a mystery. Like, you want to get a piece of paper and draw them and, like, hang them up so we can actually see, like, who. What's the outline of this? Like, what? He. He's. He's ugly.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't say he's ugly.

[Hitmaker]

I'm saying he doesn't have to be,

[Azar Faraday]

like, the finest man in the world, right?

[Hitmaker]

So out of 10, he's a five.

[Azar Faraday]

Seven.

[Hitmaker]

Wait, hold. Five and seven is. Is a dangerous level. Like, come on.

[Paul Paisy]

Like, that's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

Medium ugly. Medium ugly.

[Paul Paisy]

Medium.

[Hitmaker]

Example.

[Azar Faraday]

Example. I don't care about height.

[Hitmaker]

No. What?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't care about a.

[Hitmaker]

Just say a. That's medium ugly.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

Hold on.

[Hitmaker]

Somebody famous? A man that's medium ugly.

[Paul Paisy]

Like Martin Lawrence is medium ugly.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. That's a good one.

[Hitmaker]

Okay. And he gotta have what?

[Azar Faraday]

You don't have to be famous. You don't have to be famous.

[Hitmaker]

What type of bread, though? Like, make a year.

[Azar Faraday]

I think it would be a bread that could match my pocket. So we can build together. Like, I have this money, you have this money, and we could build together because two is better than one.

[Hitmaker]

How old is he?

[Azar Faraday]

Older, probably.

[Hitmaker]

Wait, so you want a medium ugly, old unsuccessful man?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not saying he's unsuccessful. Success say less success. No.

[Hitmaker]

So we on two different islands.

[Azar Faraday]

Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Success is relative. What does success mean to you? Success you live in.

[Hitmaker]

No. Success in Los Angeles, California.

[Azar Faraday]

It just says success is different for everybody. What I find successful could be that I'm happy, I live good, I feel good, I'm healthy. That's success to me. Success is driven by wealth. First of all, you come from money, I come from money. That's not the driving force for me. Because when you see it and you're raised by it. That doesn't attract you in the same way. Attract somebody who never seen it. They're hungry, they're hustlers, they're desperate. I don't have that desperate desperation inside of me. I have a different type of drive. I've seen money without love and I know what that fucking looks like. So for me, that's never been that goal for me.

[Hitmaker]

What year did you see money without love?

[Azar Faraday]

In the year that my parents were married my whole fucking life.

[Paul Paisy]

And how do you know?

[Azar Faraday]

What do you mean, how do I know?

[Hitmaker]

I'm saying, but that's a total different generation than what we in right now. I'm talking about it. Where have you seen any of your friends with money without love be successful right now? Any your peers or anybody? Do you? Or are you just the like the. The one in a million? You didn't need it. When a haystack just only think like this. Name me one person that think like this. That's your. That's up here to you. Do you have a friend that believes these things?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I do. I do.

[Hitmaker]

I have really ugly 50.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not saying stop doing the ugly.

[Hitmaker]

Okay, A medium ugly that's three years old.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm big on looks, I'm big on energy.

[Hitmaker]

How old is it?

[Azar Faraday]

50 years old or like whatever. It could be any age, but I mean, do I. It could be any age. I don't know what age.

[Hitmaker]

Okay, So I love you. God bless you. You're a great woman.

[Azar Faraday]

Thank you.

[Hitmaker]

I ain't doing none of that shit.

[Azar Faraday]

What are you not doing?

[Hitmaker]

Nothing. You talking about.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, that's why we're different people.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah, but like that just sound like a ll like you ugly and broke.

[Azar Faraday]

I didn't say they were broke. I said that they had to match me. That's not broke. I just said I'm not a broke woman. And I don't have a broke mindset. And I never came from.

[Hitmaker]

I can't relate because I think that even in my position, I don't know if Pete can relate to this, but it's like I hate when women like brag about they career points and like, I love it, but I hate it because it's like you're never invest into a man. Like I'm gonna invest into a woman anyway, so it's kind of pointless for us.

[Azar Faraday]

How do you know that's true though? Women invest in a woman to a man, mentally and not financially. I can be your manager. I can make sure you making right plays I can give you intuition. I can show you things. Yeah. Like I've been with a man where I'm helping you make the right decisions because I'm a businesswoman. So it just.

[Hitmaker]

You don't respect this nigga.

[Azar Faraday]

That's not true.

[Hitmaker]

So you gotta come in and make all his businesses.

[Azar Faraday]

That's not what I'm saying. Women have an intuition that men don't have. So I can see things that you may not seen, just like a man can see things I can't see. That's why women were made men. Women were made for each other. So if I get it, if you don't have that, or you don't see that, or you don't value that, but there's a lot of ways that a woman can invest into a man. Investing into a man could be making sure your breakfast is made, making sure this is prepared for you. Anticipating your needs before you know you need that. I already anticipated that for you. I already have that ready for you. So guess what? Bill Gates and the most successful men in the world, you know what they say, the less decisions they have to make, the more successful they are.

[Hitmaker]

All the things that you saying that you could do for a nigga is like the rich nigga, the broke nigga, ain't even gonna be around you. Like the medium ugly, not successful man. He gonna be out the door before you can make breakfast. You talking about, yo, I can make breakfast for you. That sound like. For a man with a lifestyle that's just kind of like laid back, like you could fill in the blanks for it. If I'm hustling like that, and I'm really trying to. Cause ultimately, like, I'll never tell you if you're my girl, but if I'm still like at this level, and me and you are eye level, then it's in my nature to want to have more than you. So I can provide for you. Right.

[Azar Faraday]

I get that.

[Hitmaker]

So you think that you're gonna be able to make me breakfast? If I gott be out, I'm out the door at 6am if that. If we living like that.

[Azar Faraday]

I understand that.

[Hitmaker]

So you not really doing nothing.

[Paul Paisy]

Well, the. The important thing, I think, is for the woman to recognize what the man.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm. Nothing is crazy.

[Hitmaker]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, go ahead. Sorry.

[Paul Paisy]

Well, the important thing for a woman is to recognize what a man need. And, and if it's just. That's what I'm saying, coochie or, or comfort, you know, it's. It's. It's men out There like that, that, you know, they got everything covered.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

But so then men like that, they feel like, you know, I could probably get that from any girl. So you act right.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

You know what I'm saying? So act right. So as long as you act right, we. We locked in.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Hitmaker]

Do you have kids?

[Azar Faraday]

No.

[Hitmaker]

See, that's the flyest thing that you could bring to the table. Like, yo, I don't have kids and I'll be able to, like, have my first child with you. I think that's the bargaining chip for you over any other girl that might got kids or got other shit going on. That's what you bring to the table. Like my womb ain't been, you know what I'm saying, tampered with.

[Azar Faraday]

All right. I never thought about that.

[Paul Paisy]

That's a flex.

[Hitmaker]

Clock it or whatever.

[Azar Faraday]

The girl.

[Paul Paisy]

But is it really. Is it like, you know, women with no kids, like we talked about, this is a woman with no kids in her 30s. Is that like, Is that, like, attractive or is it a red flag? Because some men think it's attractive, some men think it's a red flag. Some be like, why aren't you? You know, it's a lot of questions that come up with that. Like, what you think about that?

[Hitmaker]

I just think it's behavior. So when I get. If I'm attracted to you and you don't have no kids, and like, certain people will look at it as a red flag, but to me it's just like, what's your behavior like when you get around me? Are you on some hot girl shit? Are you. Are you just a fun time? Are you somebody I could take serious? I think a lot of times, even with me, like, you could be so lusty over a woman and be like, damn, like, I can't wait to. To entertain this girl. And you'll be thinking that she'll be coming in a different perspective, but she's just really a fun time. So you just gotta honor it like

[Azar Faraday]

that, you know, because you're. You don't have kids, right?

[Hitmaker]

Nope.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you want kids?

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

That's like a big deal for a man to not have kids these days. Most women meet men with kids and having no kids. Like, you can look at it like, is it a red flag that you're, you know, X amount of age and you don't have kids? But then at the same time, you know, I don't think it is because I think that's someone who made smart decisions and didn't want to have a kid with someone. They knew they weren't going to be with long term. So it's kind of like.

[Hitmaker]

You think that. You think that's true, though? Why don't you have kids?

[Azar Faraday]

I never found someone that I wanted to have kids with. I never thought the situation was right. The timing wasn't right. The situation wasn't right. It didn't feel right. Like I always say, the man who gets me to have his baby is a cold motherfucker. I'll tell you that. Because I will not have a baby by a man that I feel like the situation isn't right. The timing is around. I don't care if it's the richest nigga in the world. I will not have that baby because I will only have a baby.

[Paul Paisy]

It's the richest nigga in the world.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. I'm not having a baby for money.

[Hitmaker]

That's Cap.

[Paul Paisy]

But it's the richest dude in the world.

[Azar Faraday]

It's not Cap.

[Hitmaker]

Because I had sex with the rich, richest man in the world. Because you fucked with him.

[Azar Faraday]

But this is what I'm saying. The reason I say that is because my having a child is connected to me having a partnership, a foundation, love, something. I can bring my child into the world. That's not a broken family. And if that happens, it happens, because it could.

[Paul Paisy]

Ain't gonna be broken. Ain't nothing gonna be broken with the richest nigga in the world.

[Azar Faraday]

But the thing is, is I'm not listening. I could be married and I could get a divorce.

[Paul Paisy]

That's true.

[Hitmaker]

Nah, for real.

[Azar Faraday]

And I could start the foundation, you know what I'm saying? I could start with all that and it can end. But I wanna at least know I'm starting on a strong foundation. I want to know that our moral compass is aligned so if we don't work out, we can handle this really, like copacetic, you know what I mean? And I just feel like I don't care, like, who it is. If I don't feel like that timing is right, I'm not going to do it. And I'm getting older, so I get that.

[Hitmaker]

That's a red flag. More than you not having a baby is what? That you dated for how many years you dated and you felt like none of the niggas that you fuck with was able to, like, take a.

[Azar Faraday]

That is a red flag for sure. I agree with you.

[Hitmaker]

It's like bad, bad decision making, right?

[Azar Faraday]

I agree with you 100%. I've had in. Historically, I've made bad decisions with men for sure. And it is A red flag.

[Paul Paisy]

But there's no to me. There's no such thing as a bad decision. No, seriously, because you learn from that learning experience, right?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

You feel me? Always. That's my mindset. Whatever I'm never looking at. I got wasted these years with this girl. I wasted my time doing this. Because you know what? I learned something from that.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

And it made me wiser.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

Everything I've did, being an older man like, you like to say I'm wise as hell.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you are.

[Paul Paisy]

Because I'd have been through some shit.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul Paisy]

That I. That wasted my goddamn time.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Hitmaker]

I think that's. That. I must speak on that too. I used to think like that. But it's too much information. We got too much information now. So when you date a bunch of people, you. You become damaged goods at some point.

[Azar Faraday]

Yes, I agree. Yeah, yeah, I agree. You become damaged, but it ain't a bunch of people.

[Paul Paisy]

It's like, I've been in long term.

[Hitmaker]

If you doing long. If you learn long term and if you had like a major learning experience from that, it's kind of like you might cut off a certain. Like, to me, like, as soon as I see some type of behavior that I don't like, I'm shutting down. It's over.

[Paul Paisy]

At that age, no comebacks. Yeah. After you done been through that, now you quicker with it. After like one week, two weeks, I'm like, yeah, you know what? I can see this going in this direction.

[Azar Faraday]

But you learn from those experiences that you have.

[Paul Paisy]

But you got it.

[Azar Faraday]

It's a long term. I've only had three guys, like, long term relationships. You know, I'm 35 years old. I'm not young, so 39. Yeah. I'm not a young girl, obviously, I'm not a spring chicken. But I have, you know, been in those relationships. And I do always say, like, I think it's not necessarily regret, but I need to learn to leave sooner. And that was my problem. I didn't leave sooner, and that was me. So when I have a man or someone that I'm with and I realize they might have issues, I look within myself on why I'm attracting that or what's wrong with me. It's never really about them. It's easy to vilify the people because it makes it easier to move on and to feel like we're not the bad person. But for me, it's like, what is my problem? What's wrong with me? And I think that through that work and the healing, I don't believe anyone is fully healed. I'm going to constantly be healing and growing. I can now take accountability and be like, I see where I did that wrong. Or I see where. If someone tells me, like, I don't like that you do this, babe, I'll be like, okay, give me an opportunity to correct my behavior. And if I keep doing it, then, yeah, but like, I can correct myself now and I can see where I'm wrong and I can see where I fucked up at. You know what I mean? And I could understand when to leave quicker in a situation that's no longer serving me, or in alignment before being

[Hitmaker]

35 and basically settling. Cause you said you settled, right?

[Azar Faraday]

I wouldn't say that I was settling, but I would say that I just, you know, I thought that it was right for me at the time.

[Hitmaker]

Did you deal with more lit niggas previously? Like, oh, you was always medium ugly, no money.

[Azar Faraday]

Stop doing that.

[Hitmaker]

I'm just trying to get the research. I'm just doing this, like a real therapy session. I take these lives to somewhere we can all learn. I love that. You know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

Can you do mine too? I love that. But look, dealing with this.

[Hitmaker]

Go ahead, pass them all.

[Paul Paisy]

They need this. Getting thick in here.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm crying.

[Hitmaker]

We about to go send them to. We about to go to the store, get some champagne. Get something, man. Get up, man.

[Paul Paisy]

For real.

[Azar Faraday]

No, but what I will say is, is like, yeah, historically, like, I haven't been with like, super famous men or anything, but we're okay.

[Hitmaker]

So can I, can I. Can I pull you up on charges?

[Azar Faraday]

Yes.

[Hitmaker]

Okay. So I'm going to tell you what men don't like, right? Okay. And I see you and I watch and I'm a fan, you know what I'm saying? I watch the show or whatever. And like, you got really valid points. And like, I think that you're an attractive woman. I was actually, like, riding with you. Like, yo, let's give it a benefit of doubt. Because that was my manly shame weighing in on me, you know what I'm saying? Like, damn. Like, you can't keep looking at women the same way. Like, she's speaking up this and a third. But then like, I seen you in a car doing the spin that shit with your ass in the air in an suv. And I was like, damn, that's not the same person that's on the pot. You know what I'm saying? That's not the ugly. That's not the ugly, man. No, no. Money. Spend what he don't have nothing to spend on.

[Azar Faraday]

But also too. I will say when I go out, I will dance. I love to dance.

[Hitmaker]

You went out. You was in a car.

[Azar Faraday]

But the point is, is if I'm dancing like I'm a dancer.

[Hitmaker]

And you put it on your gram,

[Azar Faraday]

though, to spend that shit dance. It wasn't my ass shaking, though. I did not put my ass shaking on the gram.

[Hitmaker]

Cause trust me, I put my ass up. But you was definitely.

[Azar Faraday]

You was giving like I was dancing

[Hitmaker]

the young Miami like I did in my ab dance.

[Azar Faraday]

I remember you comment on that. Cause I was like this. Spend that shit. But I wasn't. My body, my ass. It was literally just me like this.

[Hitmaker]

Well, why would you promote that on your social media?

[Azar Faraday]

Well, I love that song. I can't lie to you. Spend. That shit was cracking. Because that's what you saw. He commented on it. I was in the car and I was like, send that shit. Send that shit. I was dancing. Young Miami posted it. I added her. You know what I'm saying?

[Hitmaker]

You wanted to get reposted. You was trying to come.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, I don't care about getting reposted. Please. I don't care about.

[Hitmaker]

No, I'm not saying that.

[Azar Faraday]

But the point is, is I love the song.

[Hitmaker]

No, what about the man that's watching you on this platform? Like, yo, this is a bad. This is what the definition of she know what she doing. And then you go and you're having your fun. And you. Cause my thing is, I don't post nothing I do in my personal life on social media. Cause I might be doing a spend that shit dance with you. I might be spending some money on you doing that shit. But they never see that. You can't contradict what the energy you putting out.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay?

[Hitmaker]

But you living a double life. You one foot in, one foot out. You one foot in a dope game and one foot in fucking business.

[Azar Faraday]

I wasn't shaking my ass. I was sitting down. I will pull this up, Darnell. Make sure in the edit.

[Paul Paisy]

I'll send the video right now.

[Azar Faraday]

I'll send the video.

[Paul Paisy]

I want to see this.

[Hitmaker]

That's like whole behavior, though. Like, the whole. The whole premise of the song is whole behavior, right?

[Azar Faraday]

The premise of the song is whole behavior. But it's.

[Paul Paisy]

Let's see, let's see, let's.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm gonna show you the video. I'm gonna show you the video.

[Hitmaker]

You know what she was giving.

[Azar Faraday]

I wasn't. I remember you said something to me. You DM me about that. I Remember? You do, but I'm not a hoe.

[Paul Paisy]

No, let's see. What? The video. I gotta see the video. She's shaking ass.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not. I never shaked ass in the video. I swear to God. That's on my father's life. I'll pull it up. I never shake ass. Yeah, I can. Yeah, I can.

[Hitmaker]

I didn't want to disrupt the.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm gonna find it. Watch. I'm gonna find it.

[Hitmaker]

You ain't seen that, Joan?

[Paul Paisy]

No, I ain't seen it.

[Azar Faraday]

Right here, look. This was it.

[Paul Paisy]

All right, Let me see.

[Azar Faraday]

Young Miami. I don't have the video. But look, she posted it. And I was sitting like this.

[Paul Paisy]

Where's the video?

[Azar Faraday]

I was sitting down.

[Hitmaker]

She wasn't doing nothing to get reposted, right?

[Azar Faraday]

You know how many people repost? I don't like this. Spend that, spend that, spend that.

[Paul Paisy]

What's the video?

[Azar Faraday]

All right, let me try to see if I can find that video.

[Hitmaker]

That's cool, you know?

[Azar Faraday]

Nah, because I need to find it,

[Paul Paisy]

because

[Azar Faraday]

I would never twerk on the Internet.

[Hitmaker]

She wasn't twerking. I'm.

[Azar Faraday]

It was never twerking.

[Hitmaker]

She wasn't twerking.

[Paul Paisy]

But working, then that's like. Okay, that's thirst trapping. Oh, that's.

[Azar Faraday]

It was never twerking. I'm trying to find it. I'm trying to find it.

[Hitmaker]

You did the little Kim one, too?

[Paul Paisy]

The little Kiss did do the little Kim. I was that song.

[Hitmaker]

That's the wrong message.

[Azar Faraday]

This is me. This is the video, nigga.

[Paul Paisy]

Hold on. This is the video. That's the video.

[Azar Faraday]

That's the video.

[Hitmaker]

She gonna make it suspended.

[Azar Faraday]

That's a hoe. That's the whole video.

[Hitmaker]

It's the wrong messaging.

[Azar Faraday]

That's a hoe.

[Paul Paisy]

She likes the song.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, come on, Paul.

[Hitmaker]

But what you. What you saying, though?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm just singing a song that I like.

[Paul Paisy]

I don't even know.

[Hitmaker]

It ain't about the song.

[Azar Faraday]

That's all I did. That's crazy to you.

[Paul Paisy]

That ain't crazy. This right here. Because this girl's going in on that.

[Azar Faraday]

I would never shake my ass to no video. I would never even show my butt. They asked me to do.

[Hitmaker]

Let's clear it up, because they might clip this up. I love Miami. I work with Miami. We got a lot of going. My friends and my. My producer friends did this song. It's not about this song at all. What I'm saying.

[Azar Faraday]

What is it?

[Hitmaker]

Tell me, please, if you're preaching a certain. A certain message and Then you're living and you're doing that. You're projecting.

[Paul Paisy]

All right, I'm here with media and I'm here with.

[Hitmaker]

I think that's mad confusing. It ain't about how you carry that. What you doing? If you running around here and you stepping like on some.

[Paul Paisy]

Like you spin, that's like, wait, wait. I ain't heard the song all the way, but what's.

[Azar Faraday]

You have heard it. We sing it all the time. Where the scam.

[Paul Paisy]

Well, I only. Only know the spin part, so.

[Azar Faraday]

So let me say this. I don't disagree with you. I can be held accountable for where that can look a certain way.

[Hitmaker]

Would you let your man check you on that, like your text?

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, I would.

[Azar Faraday]

If he told me to take it down, I would take it down. I'll never not take it down. If my man told me to take anything down, I will. I never looked at it in that way, but I can understand where you're coming from and I see that. I was just singing the song, to be honest with you. I really like the song. I think it's a vibe.

[Hitmaker]

I do too.

[Azar Faraday]

I think it's like spit ass shit, and I like it and that's where it came from. But I do understand and respect what you. You're saying.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah. So you Malcolm X and Martin Luther King. You. You got. You got.

[Azar Faraday]

I got. I gotta hold myself to a higher standard and not do shit like that. And in my defense, you. The reason you comment on it is because you never see me do no shit like that ever before.

[Hitmaker]

That's why I was so triggering.

[Azar Faraday]

I was like, whoa, Yeah, I get that. And I. I have to hold myself to a certain standard as a woman, especially if I'm trying to be a certain role model for other women. So I understand that. I respect you and thank you for calling me out because I can always

[Paul Paisy]

be better on the real. I get it down. That makes sense.

[Azar Faraday]

I can always do better. I understand that now. I'll never twerk on the Internet, but I understand what the messaging looks like. So I feel you. I could be checked. I could be coached. I could be understood. I could understand shit.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah, let's go.

[Azar Faraday]

I could understand shit. Not for real, because I didn't look at it like that in no asset, but I can understand that.

[Paul Paisy]

I understood it now, how he put it. I understand how he's saying it, because the message in that song is something. And if you ain't giving that type of energy while you speaking on that,

[Azar Faraday]

that's what he's Saying just to be very clear, and Paul can vouch, I don't give that energy in real life. I'm not like, nigga, buy me this, spend it, do this. I'm not that woman. I'm really not.

[Hitmaker]

What's the first date? If we was going on a first date, what's the vibe?

[Azar Faraday]

Anything. You know what would be amazing? Let's drive in the car, have a connection and vibe. Go to the beach, listen to dope ass music, sing it together. Like, let's just vibe out. I'm never like, take me shopping. Never told a man, take me on a shopping street.

[Hitmaker]

So if I'm a man that's medium ugly and has a low bank account, and I see you on this podcast and I see you on Instagram saying that I might be. You might miss your person putting out

[Azar Faraday]

that energy, but not spend that. No, I listen, thank you for calling me out. I appreciate it. I'm not even mad at it. I can respect it. I can respect it. And if a man told me, take that down, this is what it looks like.

[Hitmaker]

Turn up, go ahead. What's next? Come on.

[Paul Paisy]

We don't get off that.

[Hitmaker]

No, it was all it was. You packed the box. You hit the box in the video. No, you see that? You see what they doing, right?

[Azar Faraday]

No, I never did that.

[Hitmaker]

You see the tick tock one where it's like all the older girls like doing a little Kim and then they like.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, yeah. The moral of the story is this. If you ain't hitting this, then you ain't getting this.

[Paul Paisy]

You did that video. You definitely did that video. No, I saw it. I saw it. I saw that video.

[Azar Faraday]

I would never. He's lying. Don't be honest.

[Paul Paisy]

You know them lyrics. How you know them lyrics?

[Azar Faraday]

Because I know little Kim.

[Paul Paisy]

That's before your time.

[Azar Faraday]

I know little Kim.

[Paul Paisy]

Oh, okay. Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

Don't do that. I would never do that dance. First of all, I know that song. I love that song. I know that song.

[Hitmaker]

You ain't get to the song, sing it.

[Paul Paisy]

She know word for word.

[Hitmaker]

What's the hook of the song?

[Azar Faraday]

Wait. Cause I don't know the hook. I don't think.

[Hitmaker]

I don't want.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't know the hook. Let me think. Moral of the story is this.

[Hitmaker]

See if you did. You don't even know what you love.

[Azar Faraday]

I like that song. That little clip it though.

[Hitmaker]

Pause the whole thing.

[Paul Paisy]

Now she throwing lips on the.

[Azar Faraday]

Now she. No, that's mama thing.

[Hitmaker]

The whole song about giving each other heads.

[Paul Paisy]

Yep, yep. I don't want Dick tonight.

[Hitmaker]

That's my pussy, right? That's the hood.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, eat my pussy, right? I don't want Nick tonight.

[Hitmaker]

What a glamour y' all filming us with.

[Azar Faraday]

I know that. No, I love. Listen, Listen. Like, I come from a music background, and I understand. So when I hear a good song, I'm like, spit that shit. But I feel you and I understand you. And I hear you now. I hear you now. But you never gonna catch me twerking on the Internet.

[Hitmaker]

Salute the verse. Fresh Miami, Jay White, the whole gang.

[Azar Faraday]

So he. After he called me out, which is crazy. I love it, though. I'm here for you. No, no, no.

[Paul Paisy]

It makes sense, though. I get it.

[Azar Faraday]

I get what you're saying.

[Paul Paisy]

I didn't even think of it like that. But then when you said it like

[Azar Faraday]

that, I get it, too. I get it, too. And as someone who you. In my opinion, and all this stuff, and then you see that, you're like, wait a minute. I get that. I'm not mad at that. I'll never be mad at that.

[Paul Paisy]

Right, right.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. So moving on from me.

[Hitmaker]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

You talked about men.

[Paul Paisy]

I want to know something.

[Azar Faraday]

Go ahead, Go ahead.

[Paul Paisy]

No, I'm just saying, like, what's the fastest you like, because you say, I'm never gonna get married, so obviously you, you know, you be. You mean your fair share of women being single or whatever type of situation. What's the fastest you ever crack something? Cracked it, like, from the meat time.

[Hitmaker]

Oh, my God.

[Paul Paisy]

Within the hour without paying.

[Hitmaker]

I don't pay for nothing. Right?

[Paul Paisy]

All right, all right. What's the fastest, you think?

[Hitmaker]

Zero.

[Paul Paisy]

What's the fastest crack song?

[Azar Faraday]

Zero minutes.

[Hitmaker]

10, 15 minutes.

[Paul Paisy]

Damn. We need to ask this question to a lot of people, like, within 15 minutes.

[Hitmaker]

But that was in my younger days.

[Paul Paisy]

That's what I said. I know. This is a younger day.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah. This is like. You gotta think I was on, like, Scream tours and all the other shit. Like, yeah, like, that was so incredible. Like, me and Ray J literally had, like, two tour buses back to back.

[Paul Paisy]

Oh.

[Hitmaker]

We got driving through the whole United States of America. So you can imagine what that was.

[Paul Paisy]

For real, Right? You said something about Ray J put you on, right?

[Azar Faraday]

You said he changed his life.

[Paul Paisy]

Oh, he changed his life. Right, right, right, right.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah, yeah, he did.

[Paul Paisy]

He changed his life. That's what it was.

[Hitmaker]

My life. A little bit. A lot of bit with that record. Because, like, I'm gonna be honest. I didn't want to do this sexy. Can I record at all. And because I had my other records that I wanted to do, but I was just such a fan of Ray J, like, and me and Ray J. I love Rachel. I'm glad I'm in LA right now. I'm gonna go pull up on him. But it's like, man, that time was just like, an incredible time. Like, I was a fan of him, right? Cause he was knocking everybody down. Like, he was like. Like, I'm like, yo, this nigga, he on some, like, young, fly nigga shit. Like, me. Like, yo, like, he having his way. So that's how we kind of, like, connected. Pause, you know what I'm saying? And got cool. But, like, the label wanted to go with that record, and then it ended up being, like, the most, like, for my career as Youngberg. Like, that shit went to the moon immediately. And it was like, my biggest crossover record at the time. Hot 100, number two, down to 10 million. Like, it was one of those ones that kind of took me from. Because Ray J. Wentz was so mainstream at the time. That was like, right when the Kim Kardashian tape came out and everything. So, like, it kind of crossed me over to, like, the white people, the white folk. That was life changing. For real. That's. But he's different. Like Whitney Houston. I've seen everything with him.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I saw this. You said, whitney, we gotta get right.

[Paul Paisy]

Hey, right, right.

[Hitmaker]

He gotta come down.

[Paul Paisy]

I've been trying to get you on the show, right? I'll be hollering at you, you to hit me. He got right. You gotta come on the show, bro. Come on, man. We go way back. We got the same peoples, man. He know. He know. That's my man.

[Hitmaker]

Are you tripping right now?

[Paul Paisy]

That's my man. He gotta do his thing, right?

[Hitmaker]

I love him.

[Paul Paisy]

I love right, too, man. You gotta come on the show, though, dog. Come on, man.

[Hitmaker]

Stop playing with his shirt on.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, keep the shirt on, bro. That's my boy, though.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, okay.

[Paul Paisy]

Talk about it.

[Hitmaker]

It look like you lining me up.

[Azar Faraday]

No.

[Hitmaker]

Yo, bro, I'm looking at these glasses dark.

[Paul Paisy]

We gonna start giving out vests in this.

[Azar Faraday]

In the truth, I would never. No, we respect you lying to me,

[Paul Paisy]

what your opinion is and what you saying in here. Hit, man, you a legend in the game.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you are. And I respect on everything. I'm not. I'm not.

[Hitmaker]

No, we can talk about anything. Let it go, man.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, okay, okay. No, it's nothing like that. So you did talk about how men can't open up to women and be vulnerable, right? Because you feel like women will look at them differently after. Is there something that women. Cuz I know we talk about stuff like this, but I want to be like solution oriented. Is there anything women can do to make a man feel more safe or vulnerable? Like what can we do? You know, because I want men to be vulnerable and be able to do that. So what can we do as women to make you feel safe?

[Paul Paisy]

Damn, what can you do?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, like I want to make men feel safe.

[Hitmaker]

Emotional intelligence probably.

[Azar Faraday]

And what does that look like?

[Hitmaker]

Not. Not firing off with the first thing. Everything that I like. I'm going to be honest. Like every woman woman I've ever dealt with. Like, you got to think if you set your boundaries on a bunch of different shit, like why do you think that men are. Why do you think that women pull out a camera and put people on social media for clout? No, to they know. Go ahead. So what's the next no?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't know. Tell me.

[Paul Paisy]

I think women pull out a camera to put people on social media because they ain't got shit else to do.

[Hitmaker]

Right? I agree with that. Like there is some truth in that. There's. There's some truth in that.

[Azar Faraday]

Or to be like, whose?

[Paul Paisy]

Cause they nosy as hell ain't got shit. Okay.

[Hitmaker]

I'm talking about in a moment of some bullish happening.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, oh, oh. Like they're arguing or something.

[Paul Paisy]

Like you should be going to like. Like to me, this society is so fucked up, bro. To like. Whereas like when I grew up, if you saw a squabble or something, or something, a confrontation, people run over there and be like, hold on, how can we resolve this now? When you see a squabble of a confrontation, you filming it and somebody's life can be in danger and you filming it. Like, hold on. Like my initial reaction, like, hold on, man, y' all don't need to be doing this right here. Y' all come on. Cool. It's a better time for all this now. You just gonna. And I done seen confrontations that ended in the killings.

[Azar Faraday]

Facts.

[Paul Paisy]

Like it's crazy the time I'm living in right now, like for me to see this dog. I'm like, this is weird to me. This is a weird ass society. This is a weird ass era. When you watching motherfuckers having a knife fight or you watching. Or you watch somebody about to get into a squabble that don't need to get into a squabble because you know he gonna get his ass whooped. But you want to. Or girls fighting. Like, come on, dog, this Shit, weird as hell, man.

[Hitmaker]

The crazy thing is like. And this is like, spin a block on that. What we were saying is kind of like, I think that women will do that because they know that men value their career in their life more than they value the relationship. So the immediate time, the reason why men are not so forthcoming and they don't, like, wanna. And women aren't able to pretty much like, control their emotions and is because, like, if something happens, it's like, all right, he don't like me. Let me put the camera in his face. Now it's your career. Now we on all the blogs. This is how I get the reaction of you. Like, a woman could literally be like, you nigga, I ain't doing it. I'm like, go ahead, gang. You know what I'm saying? But if she there in person with you and she can pull out a camera on you and do that, she knows that men value their career more than they value any relationship they're in. So they'll jeopardize the money. And the most unfortunate part of the whole situation is because not saying that something crazy is happening. Like, if something domestic is happening, that's something. I respect all victims or whatever, but, like, women don't be acknowledging. Like, you gonna up my career. This how we all eating. You know what I'm saying? Like, this what the whole play is. So don't up the money. Don't up the money. Just seem like I ain't gonna speak on certain situations, but, like, it happens so much. And I just think that.

[Paul Paisy]

You seen the Geno Smith situation?

[Hitmaker]

That's what I was gonna say.

[Paul Paisy]

Yes, I am. That's the Geno Smith situation you talking about.

[Hitmaker]

And I don't know what.

[Paul Paisy]

I don't know what really happened, but, like, if we got a bond and we got a kid together, like, don't. Like, I'm like, I understand. That's exactly what you said.

[Hitmaker]

If I'm going. That if a nigga doing that much disturbance to your piece, I don't think the last thing you want to do is, like, film them and be around them. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's gonna get up out of here. Call 91 1, you know what I'm saying? Type shit.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, that's so crazy that we do that. And as men and women. But if it's something that's illegal or domestic violence situation. And you gotta. I get it. But I just feel like if you have a situation with somebody and you can resolve it off camera, resolve it off Camera facts. If we really gonna be in each other's life for this period of time and the guy is taking care of you to a certain situation, like, why do women create this type of animosity? And we gotta. And we gotta deal with each other.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that men should take more accountability about the woman they lay down with? Because I take accountability about the man that I was with. I look at myself. So I think that men also need to stop playing the victim in these situations and understand. You knew this was the type of hoe she was. You saw how she was moving. You see her track record and you see the type of woman she is. She's not at a certain standard.

[Hitmaker]

50.

[Azar Faraday]

50, okay.

[Hitmaker]

I think it's on both sides. But to me, it's like when they get to the children part of the thing, because the sad part be like this. You got kids with this. And you going up on social media, your kids gonna see this one day. It's gonna be like the Internet never deletes. So in reality, to me, it's kind of like it's all the woman's decision. When it comes to the kids side of things, though, they're just being honest, right? And I think that women don't understand how much they run this whole situation. Like, think about it, right? We all like, we all like, I'm 39, you 35p out of you.

[Paul Paisy]

I'm 48.

[Hitmaker]

Okay? So back in the day, like, I remember when, like when I was a kid and I was getting like my first piece of. And like that, like, like, who got the rubbers? You got condoms?

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah, yeah, you got condoms?

[Hitmaker]

Had condoms on them, just in case. Went to the club with the condoms on them. Ain't no. Got no rubbers, right? You put 10. Anybody got condoms in here right now?

[Paul Paisy]

Damn, not one.

[Hitmaker]

Damn. So it's. That's not even in the culture no more. But then when you really buckle down to it, like, even when you watch movies like Friday, this pulling out old condom. A condom 18 years old. Like, women had a stigma. That's because all this was going around like, you got to have a rubber. You got to do this. It was in the tlc, it was in the. The music. It was in the. Now it's just like, me, suck me. You know what? I'm saying this after you speaking it. I ain't never had a woman ask me if I got a condom on me ever.

[Azar Faraday]

You speaking it. Damn, you speaking it. And you know what's crazy is I saw you say something. No, I saw you say something. You was like, I don't get why these niggas just don't pull out. Like, what is going on? Like, you know this is not your girl. You know you don't want to be with her. You know this is some work and you doing that.

[Hitmaker]

Or if we really want to say that women are the queens, that what they are, and we want to respect them at why she ain't ask you what a rubber was before you got in it?

[Azar Faraday]

Facts. Because I must keep it real. I'm a hypochondriac. I'm so scared you lying. I'm not lying.

[Hitmaker]

They gonna get you liquored up. Yo, bro, I know some savages I know that's like, that'll start off with the rubber, be beating a from the back, take the rubber off, throw that halfway across the room and be back in the pussy row.

[Paul Paisy]

Ooh.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, I'mma keep it real. And you can believe this or not, and most people don't believe this, but I have slept with a few men that I wasn't in a relationship with. I'll be honest. But most men I've been with, I've been in a relationship with. And I have them raw. And that's just the truth. Not the man that I wasn't in the relationship with, because I've had a few one offs. I'll be honest. You ain't me.

[Hitmaker]

Rah.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't want no A's. I don't want no herpes. I don't want no disease. And if I.

[Hitmaker]

So you standing on it like, oh,

[Azar Faraday]

I'm standing on that? You cannot come near this vagina without a condom. If we not together, I don't know who you and what energy you bringing towards me. And honestly, it was, you know when

[Hitmaker]

that changed, though, right?

[Azar Faraday]

When did it change?

[Hitmaker]

Feminism?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. I'm not a feminist. I don't believe in equality.

[Hitmaker]

When women feel like they can knock down and make the decisions that they want to make. Yeah, that changed. I could believe there's no shame. Ain't got no shame no more.

[Azar Faraday]

Gang 100. I say that all the time. I'm like, how come when you meet a man you broke, you poor, you don't have your hair done, you don't have your nails done, you don't have no money, you can't pay your rent. That's weird to me. Like, I was raised different than that. Like, I have my shit. You ain't gonna catch me telling. No man can come out here and say, I was like, oh, I'm broke. Can you help me? It's never gonna be that. I'm very big on that. And I'm very big on you wanna have sex with me and we not together. It's gonna be a condom.

[Hitmaker]

Okay, look, can we, can I, can I ask a question? Since I'm on your show? How long does it take for you to crack something?

[Azar Faraday]

What does that mean, crack something?

[Hitmaker]

Same question that he asked me. What's the fastest time that it takes for a man to get in your pants?

[Azar Faraday]

The fastest I ever.

[Hitmaker]

Yeah, like, have you ever had a one night stand before?

[Azar Faraday]

I never had a one night stand, but I don't know.

[Hitmaker]

Have you ever had sex with a man on the first night?

[Paul Paisy]

That's cap.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I never had sex on a man, but I have kissed a man on the first night and done little shit.

[Hitmaker]

So you gave him head on the first night?

[Azar Faraday]

I've done stuff. No, I have. I'm being honest. I have.

[Paul Paisy]

On the first night, Don't I have.

[Hitmaker]

You might as well gave me the pussy. Cause nigga be like, yo, you a eater. When I was younger, I kept one

[Azar Faraday]

in, experience, one off. And honestly, I'm being real. Like, I don't like to talk about this, but you know, I've, I've done that, but I'm, I have not done that a lot. Like, I can name how many men I had sex with on my respect and I, I really swear to God about that. And there's not a man that could come out and say, oh, I felt right or like I have a few people that I had sex with that I do regret. And I'd be like, damn, I, I wish I never did that when I was younger. Or it was a vulnerable moment. It was this. But like, like I for the most part have been in long term relationships and I have had sex with those partners, period. Like that's just the truth. No man could come out and say I cheated on them. I've said this on the show a million times. Come out if you really feel that no one is going to do that.

[Paul Paisy]

Yeah. Hey, you said, do you see marriage in the cards?

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