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Alexis Stoudemire
Lane Feel like you the one in the morning so what it's gonna be, baby Squad for Shabbat. You can hit. Hit them notes real good, girl.
Portia
And I'm need.
Cherelle
Yes, you can.
Portia
As soon as we get on. Don't start.
Alexis Stoudemire
Listen, Portia, we gotta do a welcome. We gotta let the people know. Let all the people know that my girl pick insane.
Cherelle
Yes, she can.
Alexis Stoudemire
No, he ain't hit one note.
Portia
Don't start. I'm not finna hit. Y' all are not about to play with me.
Alexis Stoudemire
We are back with another episode of Humble Baddies.
Cherelle
Yes.
Alexis Stoudemire
Round them back. Y' all miss me?
Cherelle
You have Alexis Stoudemire. I'm in the building.
Alexis Stoudemire
And we got our girl Portia with a special guest.
Cherelle
Special guest.
Alexis Stoudemire
Special guest.
Portia
He was hungry. I told y' all. My baby was downstairs crying.
Cherelle
Oh, you can feel him. I know you can feel him. Hi, baby.
Alexis Stoudemire
Portia, all that breast milk you pop, you still got a freezer load full of it.
Portia
Oh, he's eating it.
Alexis Stoudemire
He eating it. I think so.
Cherelle
Cute. See, Porsche is a humble baddie. Okay?
Portia
Humble Betty and a mom.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Cherelle
I love it. I love it. Yes. We love this.
Alexis Stoudemire
Well, our girl Ashley could not make it today. We got our girl Portia and Alexis in. And we got some tea to talk about today, you guys.
Cherelle
Yes, we do.
Alexis Stoudemire
Here we are. Y' all ready to get into it? Well, I think y' all been. We gotta catch up.
Cherelle
Hey, Cherelle, she's ready to get to the tea. I want to know how my. My girls are doing. I mean, we. See we might be breaking the Internet over here with Porsche, you know, being a mom and breastfeeding, you know, live. I love this. For us. This is who we are. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yes. But speaking of being a mother, my second child graduated high school yesterday.
Portia
Congratulations on your graduation and my diploma.
Cherelle
I'm very excited because all these nights of studying and telling him to be, you know, studious and clean your room and be on time for school and not be absent and all these things, as far as rearing them and getting them ready for the. The real world, we made it. You know what I'm saying? It takes. It's a team effort in the village, and my aunt and uncle are in town. They came from St. Louis, Missouri, and came into. I mean, just celebrating all the family. I love that they still livestream graduation. So everyone that Couldn't make it. Is able to see it. Live and cheer. Have their watch parties and all of that, too. So it was just a beautiful day. We gave him his car. He has a car for graduation for a couple years. So that was the agreement. We get a diploma, you get a car. So he is now in these streets. So y' all get sent out. Extra prayer from me, you know, it's not out there now driving.
Alexis Stoudemire
Is he picky with his car?
Cherelle
You mean, like, almost like now he want to be clean in there and all this kind of stuff.
Alexis Stoudemire
Like, was it like the type of car he wanted? And he was demanding, like, I want this type of car.
Cherelle
Well, he was like, this is the car I wanted. And he's been consistent with it. It hasn't changed. And it's his dream car, you know, and what a blessing it is.
Portia
I mean, graduation. Can y' all adopt me?
Cherelle
I know, right? Well, I have two more to go. I'm halfway there, but, you know, after those cars come trickling. So now my. My. My driveway is like a parking lot. You know, we. It's lit over here. You know what I mean?
Portia
I know.
Cherelle
This has taken off another pressure for.
Portia
Me because now my D here and my son is driving like they have their own lives and I can't imagine.
Cherelle
My goodness. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm excited. This just was a beautiful weekend. What about.
Alexis Stoudemire
That's amazing. Well, I have. It's been crazy for me. I've been traveling and getting ready. All my family is coming in tomorrow. My daughter graduates on Thursday.
Cherelle
Yes. Congratulations.
Portia
Okay. Ari.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah. So she's made up her decision. She's going to go to.
Cherelle
Don't roll your eyes. Be. Be supportive.
Alexis Stoudemire
Still indecisive. I don't know. It's between Alabama A and M and Bethune.
Portia
That's the choices. What did you.
Alexis Stoudemire
For her to go to Alabama A M? Yeah, the Bulldog.
Portia
The Bulldog.
Alexis Stoudemire
But yeah, she's. She's amazing. She's at home relaxing until. Until, you know, graduation. But she's been a big helper taking Denim to his baseball practice. You know, I got her her car for Christmas. Yes. She was making good grades and I promised her that, you know, if you continue on, you can get her little dream car with the Tesla. So she was that. But it's.
Cherelle
I know that.
Alexis Stoudemire
Helpful. So helpful. Because when you need errands run.
Cherelle
That's right.
Alexis Stoudemire
Listen, sir. Ariana, go get in. I'll be like, do you want me to sit in your car? Because I got the app on my phone. I Stop it.
Cherelle
Listen.
Portia
I know that's right.
Cherelle
I love it, I love it.
Alexis Stoudemire
But it is grown.
Portia
Graduated.
Alexis Stoudemire
Tomorrow. We had celebrated his birthday party yesterday and it's just been going. Summertime is about to start.
Cherelle
Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
Other bonus child, Shade. Congratulations to her. She graduated early from. I couldn't watch it live, so. Shout out to Sade.
Cherelle
Shout out to Sade.
Portia
Shout out to my girl Legacy. My girl finished kindergarten. She had her graduation or whatever. She stepped across the stage.
Cherelle
I thought that mom doing it in first grade.
Portia
I mean, I don't know. I don't really know how I'm supposed to feel about it because I'm like, it's fun watching her grow up because she kind of wants to be just like me and she wants to put on makeup and do a move Mommy does and go where mommy goes. So it's cute. But it's also just like, girl, relax like you just got here.
Alexis Stoudemire
Why are you growing up and growing up so fast?
Cherelle
What are you doing so fast?
Portia
You know what I mean?
Cherelle
Yeah. It's like you, you. It's beautiful to cherish these moments though, because all these milestones. We work so hard as parents and these children work so much. They, they, they, they're working hard too. And all we want to do as parents is enhance the next generation. And we're doing that. And I want to applaud you all because we, you know, this is not easy. You know, you see, we got a multitask. We're doing so much and our plates are full. But at the same. Yes. See the benefit. The baby's happy now.
Alexis Stoudemire
The baby's good.
Cherelle
You know, these are all benefits, beautiful benefits of being a mother. So they are shout out to our babies graduating.
Portia
I love it for us, all the graduations.
Cherelle
Yeah, it's a lot. It's a lot going on in this May.
Alexis Stoudemire
It is, but it's good.
Cherelle
It's good to have the family around and cheer on and congratulate and just have that energy leading into summer, you know, it's like the finale. You know what I mean? Like, we made it. Everybody. Like, we getting up early in the morning and it's a lot, you know, it's a lot with these schedules and.
Alexis Stoudemire
But you know what? I am so happy school is about to be over. I'm tired of waking up six o' clock in the morning.
Cherelle
It's a lot.
Portia
Your kids don't get in early in the morning during the summer because mine's gonna be up regardless.
Cherelle
What my sleeping.
Alexis Stoudemire
They eat everything. They'll sleep in especially because they don't play sports. Serenity, just serenity. Sleeping. Regardless. She acting like she has a double shift job. She's taking a long. She go back to sleep. Her behind sleeping. Wake up at like 9, 30, 10, and then she take her nap around 6 o' clock. She probably wake around. She'll be waking up soon, but thank you. They sleep in over here.
Portia
Move your hands crazy and get the baby. Everybody in my life is childish. Okay, Everybody in my life is childish.
Alexis Stoudemire
But who the main childish one.
Cherelle
I love it.
Portia
I am, I am.
Alexis Stoudemire
You are wor. You. You the ring leader? Yeah.
Cherelle
You have a good time.
Alexis Stoudemire
Play a lot.
Portia
I play a lot. Okay.
Cherelle
We can't see it.
Alexis Stoudemire
It's all good because the tea is hot. The tea is Portia. I want to hear your advice on how you would feel about it because you experienced this. Let's talk about our girl, Clarissa Shields on no sex for six weeks before a fight. So when it comes to preparing for a fight, every athlete has their rituals. But Clarissa Shields, the undisputed queen of boxing, just dropped the gym. That had fans raising eyebrows and nodding in respect. In a recent interview, Clarissa said she doesn't have sex for six weeks before a fight. Not for superstitious reasons, but because, and I quote, I release it in the ring. Period. Clarissa.
Portia
Okay.
Cherelle
The build up. Okay.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right. But I haven't heard this a lot. I mean, when, when my ex was preparing for his fight, I mean, it was, it was no sex. I feel like somebody created that, that whole thing and made it seem like it was. It is what it is. Like if you. Oh, if you have sex before you fight, then you're gonna lose your fight.
Portia
Yeah, no, that's a real thing.
Cherelle
Yeah, that's what to say. Medically, I'm sure, you know.
Alexis Stoudemire
They did study on.
Portia
Works for some people. There are some fighters who throughout camp, they will have sex and it doesn't, they feel like it doesn't affect them, it doesn't bother them, it doesn't. Whatever. There's other fighters who are very strict about it, who. They will go the full. And she's doing a six week camp because she fights often for fighters who don't fight as often as she does, which is literally everyone. They have 8, 10, 12 week camps, usually 8 to 10 weeks, and they don't have sex during that time. Because again, like you said, you know, scientifically, it's about the testosterone, it's about the release and, and fighters will tell you, like, yeah, I was, I was gonna go spar in the Gym. And I had sex, you know, before I went to the gym, and I had no legs. It's kind of like tiring. No legs. Like, it's. It's something. I don't know what, but the legs will give out on them after they. They bust that quick one. Like, they will go to the gym and it will be a wrap. So typically, you know, with Andre and I, we didn't for. For most of camp, like, he goes away for camp, so if he went to camp today, he'd go to Vegas, he'd go to Oakland. He's not going to be here anywhere near me.
Cherelle
Yeah.
Portia
When we first started dating, he was doing camp.
Alexis Stoudemire
You might break it.
Cherelle
It's absolutely a distraction and just everything else, too, you want to lock in. For sure.
Portia
I remember when I was in Tampa and he was doing camps in Winter Haven. His camp, like his. You know, his. His cousins, his. Everybody around him was very much like, okay, shout out to. Away from her. She can't come. Shout out to Polk county, bro. I was in. I was in the Scion flying to Polk County. An hour on the road, and I woke up, like, in the middle of night just so we can duck off and do a little something in the car and not finish. You know what I mean? It's the finishing that's the problem.
Cherelle
The release.
Portia
It's the release that's the problem. And we would play them games up until like, week four. Once they got to, like, week four, it was nothing. Then it was like, okay, girl, now you gotta relax. Like, now we gotta relax because he's serious.
Cherelle
You know what I mean? Gotta lock in.
Portia
But, like, now, like, if he goes to camp now, it'd be eight weeks and it'd be. It'd be nothing. It'd be two months, three months, Nothing. Nothing at all. Nothing.
Cherelle
I feel like basketball is different just because there's just so many games. I mean, I think it's. And it's also per person, is that, you know, whatever your. Whatever your routine is, whether it is like a meal, a nap, a coffee, whatever, you know, I don't know if it's like, you know, it's per athlete, too. They're mental. They're emotional as well. You know, you can't.
Alexis Stoudemire
You really can't. With basketball, football or boxing is very intense.
Cherelle
Absolutely.
Alexis Stoudemire
You're in the ring for minutes and rounds, so.
Cherelle
And constantly moving. Constantly.
Alexis Stoudemire
Like with other sports. Other sports, it's a team effect, so you have a time to take a break. I mean, with. With boxing, I understand why people say don't do it and I don't know.
Cherelle
Well because it's just an athlete. It's the athlete. It's an athlete mentality.
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Cherelle
Whatever makes you weak or whatever makes you not focus or not be competitive and be at your peak level, you're gonna withdraw from. You're gonna. You know, that's the discipline of being an athlete. Like, I know what my body needs, I know my body hurts, and I know what hurts my body. And if I wanna be the best and, you know, being competitive, you wanna win. So if I think this is a weakness or it's been told it's a weakness, and medically it's been a weakness. And my trainers and my. It's embedded in your energy of, like, I'm not playing around because I wanna be the best. And I'm gonna let them know. Now you get to the point where you even have, like, again. That's why, like, let me just put this out there. Like, smoking, for example, was lifted. You know what I mean? In certain sports, because it's not affecting performance. It must be. If. If a whole league, one of the top businesses in the world is saying it doesn't affect play, then, you know, go for it. But that's per player. So I just think it goes off of also, like, you know, what gets them to lock in and what they also feel comfortable with. They want to be their best.
Portia
I feel like with boxing, that. That aggression is just. It's just more necessary than it is in all those other sports. Like, you need that aggression, which is very interesting, because I feel like when women don't have sex for a while, do we get that? Because I know it's the testosterone buildup for the men.
Alexis Stoudemire
You gonna see you be angry, but.
Portia
I don't think I'd be angry. I might be irritable, but I irritable Clarissa being a beating ass. You know what I mean? Like, yeah, I don't think it's doing enough of that for me to where I'm really gonna be the bishop.
Cherelle
Yeah, me either.
Alexis Stoudemire
I mean, but you never know. Like, all the aggression you have and you need to release you releasing it out on. And it's not like she's angry, but she's releasing it. It's like a. It feels good.
Cherelle
It's a pleasure. It's an endorphin.
Alexis Stoudemire
It's endorphins to take it out. So it's not like she. Oh, you know, I'm about to beat this futurist. Because they have no sex.
Cherelle
And it's only. And it's only six weeks. Like, let's be real, you know, like, it's only six weeks.
Portia
Only six weeks is only six weeks to a woman. It's not the same as six weeks to a man. Six weeks to a man is like, bitch, I'm about to die. Six weeks to a woman is like, oh, man, I ain't had sex in six weeks. And then you about your business.
Cherelle
That's what the standard is post having a baby anyway. Like six weeks anyway.
Portia
I'm still gonna push it to eight.
Alexis Stoudemire
Y' all followed the six week standard? The eight week standard?
Portia
Yes, you psycho.
Cherelle
Why do you want somebody running up.
Portia
In there after that?
Cherelle
After all of that chaos and all of this.
Alexis Stoudemire
Retracts back. Like, we know that.
Portia
It's not about the retracting. It's about the trauma.
Cherelle
Oh, the trauma. Yeah, the post trauma.
Alexis Stoudemire
After three and a half weeks, don't nobody still be thinking about what came up out of there.
Cherelle
Three.
Portia
This is insane. I don't want.
Cherelle
We do not recommend this. Not three.
Portia
I do not recommend.
Alexis Stoudemire
I am not the only one who didn't wait the full.
Cherelle
No, we know you're not the only one, but you're the only one out of those three.
Portia
Okay, so how long did you wait?
Alexis Stoudemire
Three and a half weeks.
Portia
You're insane, bro. I took a month to that.
Cherelle
Three weeks.
Portia
And I was right.
Alexis Stoudemire
And I stopped bleeding.
Portia
You're.
Cherelle
You're still. You're. And you're still healing. That's too much. It's too much. That's me.
Alexis Stoudemire
That's.
Cherelle
Okay, Shahrill. That's me.
Portia
I say it all the time, and I always forget where it came from.
Cherelle
I know you think about me, Darrel.
Portia
That came from. Let me tell you now. I'm not going to tell you where it came from. That was fun because we was. We was somewhere.
Alexis Stoudemire
We was.
Cherelle
And you told. Oh, we were in Ashley's backyard.
Portia
We was in Ashley's backyard.
Alexis Stoudemire
Well, I must said something out of pocket.
Cherelle
Yes, you said something out of pocket. Was it the balloon?
Portia
And Alexis said, cherelle, that's.
Cherelle
Yes, yes, yes.
Portia
Funny, because she. You said something like.
Cherelle
I don't know.
Alexis Stoudemire
I don't even say what I said now. This is confidential information.
Cherelle
Camera. We'll talk about it.
Portia
I ain't gonna say what you said, but it was funny. But Alexis.
Cherelle
Charles, it was the balloon exercise, bro.
Portia
I hollered. I'm still.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, I am dying.
Cherelle
Okay, Yeah, I had it. I had to let Cherelle know I.
Portia
Was like, cherelle got a cat made of titanium. Talking about three weeks. What is that?
Cherelle
Three and a half?
Alexis Stoudemire
You know, they call me. They call me Wolverine because I heal so fast.
Portia
Okay, okay.
Cherelle
Okay, y' all.
Alexis Stoudemire
That doesn't sound right.
Portia
So fast.
Cherelle
Oh, girl, that do not sound right.
Portia
Cheryl.
Cherelle
Oh, my. Yeah, sure.
Portia
You gotta hit him with a dat dessert.
Alexis Stoudemire
I mean, like, if I get a scar or.
Portia
Yeah, sure. Yeah, yeah.
Cherelle
Anyways. Anyway, so, yes, studies have shown that.
Alexis Stoudemire
For most people, sex doesn't impact physical performance in a negative way. As long as it's not right before competition. And we're talking, like, within two hours of game time.
Portia
Oh.
Podcast Host
No.
Alexis Stoudemire
Okay, so two hours went for boxing. I feel like maybe a few days before.
Portia
I'm not getting anywhere near him. It's so funny sometimes when we watch boxing fights and we see, like, the walkout. So we see the. The arrivals of the fighters, and they're with their wives and their kids and stuff. Andre's just sitting there shaking his head like, oh, he gonna lose. Cause he just. Yeah, Distracted, like, you can't have nothing softer. You can't have nothing around you that makes you soft. You can't have nothing around you that makes you, like, oh, you can't have your kids around you. You can't have your lady around you. Nothing's soft around you. He just feels like you just gotta go in. Just deprived of anything comfortable. Yeah, comfort has to leave the world before you go fight. And he will see these men walk into the locker room holding that lady hand, and he'd be like, what is he doing? It's a curse.
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Portia
You better go. Come on. Analogy.
Cherelle
Get that out of my wine.
Alexis Stoudemire
My girl feels out of my wine.
Cherelle
Okay.
Portia
She knows some stuff. Get you a bottle.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right, you guys. So Clarissa Shields cuts off sex six weeks before a fight. But she's not alone in the world of intense and sometimes bizarre pregame rituals. Let's run through some of the wildest athlete habits we could find. So this is like a rapid firestyle. So I'm gonna give a scenario, and y' all say whether it's, you know, a ritual, like, okay, I understand it, or now. They get not carried away. Michael Jordan wore his UNC shorts under every Chicago Bulls uniform for his entire career. Call it superstition or style. Either way, they were lucky.
Portia
I get it.
Cherelle
Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
You understand.
Portia
I get it. I did the same thing.
Alexis Stoudemire
Serena Williams bounces the ball exactly five times before her first serve. And she has to bring the same shower. Shower sandals to every tournament.
Portia
Yes. Ocd. Yes.
Cherelle
Yeah. Repetition.
Alexis Stoudemire
Weight box. Hall of Fame baseball player ate chicken before every game. Literally every game. Teammates called him the Chicken Man.
Cherelle
Muscle memory.
Portia
That man is greedy.
Alexis Stoudemire
No, I don't know if I'm gonna say his last name right, but. Brian Erlacher.
Cherelle
Erlacher or lacquer.
Alexis Stoudemire
Used to watch reruns of Golden Girls the night before games. Nothing like Betty White to get your game face on.
Portia
I understand this, and I'm gonna tell you why.
Cherelle
Tell me.
Portia
Concept of, like, people watching comfort shows. It's like, shows that you've seen, you know, every episode, you know everything that's gonna happen, but you all watch it and you play it. It's like background noise. It comforts you. Like, so if you have anxiety, like before, and that's familiar, it calms you.
Cherelle
Down because it's like, triggering. Triggering a memory of, like, I like this. I know what to expect.
Portia
It's familiar.
Cherelle
It's a warm hug.
Alexis Stoudemire
Boom.
Portia
I'm only saying this because I have comfort shows, bitch. And when I'm stressed, I put on Grey's Anatomy and King of Queens and Living Single. I have comfort shows.
Cherelle
So I. I wonder if I'm doing it subconsciously. Like, I'm always, like, putting on Martin.
Alexis Stoudemire
Oh, my goodness. Me too. At night time, I have to watch Martin.
Cherelle
There we go.
Portia
You want to know why? Because you're trying to calm down so you can go to sleep.
Cherelle
It's comfort, and it gets our minds off of everything else. Because I'm sure we've seen it 50 million.
Alexis Stoudemire
Over and over.
Cherelle
Yes. And it's still funny.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right. Tiger woods always wore a red shirt on Sundays. Why? His mom told him red was his power color.
Cherelle
And it is.
Portia
I mean, I guess red is a.
Cherelle
Power color, you know, and it became a signature. It made him the highest paid golfer, you know, endorsement wise, and also the most recognizable. I mean, I started liking golf because of Tiger Woods.
Portia
So you feel that red. Okay? It.
Cherelle
Use red.
Portia
I get it.
Cherelle
Yeah. I love it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Cherelle
Stand out.
Alexis Stoudemire
Jason Terry used to sleep in the shorts of the opposing team the night before a game. Talk about getting. Getting in your enemy's head. Or maybe just their laundry.
Portia
It's giving fetish. He's nasty.
Cherelle
It's giving.
Alexis Stoudemire
Weird.
Cherelle
That's a lot of laundry and a lot of shorts. Like, to collect all the teams and just. Just remember to pack it, like, some extra stuff.
Alexis Stoudemire
That's weird.
Cherelle
It is.
Portia
That's, like, more effort than the Gaming feels like right a lot.
Alexis Stoudemire
Raphael Nadal. I don't know if I'm saying his name right. Man got a whole routine. Two water bottles angled just right. Towel touches, even how he processed lines on the court. It's a ritual ballet.
Portia
This is why men need therapy, because they would be diagnosed more. These people have ocd. Okay.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, these are some weird ones.
Portia
Some of this is just a little ocd. Just a little touch angled.
Cherelle
Every single one you've named or, like, topping their sports to at some point.
Alexis Stoudemire
Two water bottles angled just right.
Cherelle
That's interesting.
Portia
I feel like we could diagnose that.
Cherelle
And tennis. Tennis is an individual sport, so he has to lock in and do this.
Alexis Stoudemire
You know, they have the two water bottles angled just right, and the towel's touching it.
Cherelle
His peace of mind, his comfort.
Alexis Stoudemire
I guess. The point is, athletes will do whatever it takes to feel locked in, whether it's no sex, fried chicken, or grandma sitcoms. If it works, it works.
Portia
So that's what I was going to say. It's working. So do that.
Cherelle
That's what I'm saying. Every single one. If Serena, you know, she's the goat, so keep wearing them flip flops, baby.
Alexis Stoudemire
That's true.
Portia
Good hygiene. No.
Alexis Stoudemire
Did y' all have shower shoes anymore? Did y' all play sports?
Cherelle
Yes.
Alexis Stoudemire
Y' all had any sport, athlete, any rituals or anything that y' all did that was stereotypes or whatever it was.
Portia
Before I went on stage, I used to have to have a Pepsi.
Alexis Stoudemire
Well, go drink the Pepsi and let us see you act like you're on stage right now and hit it. One little note.
Portia
First of all, I'm not allowed to have Pepsi anymore because my husband says it's bad for me. And it's. It took away my guilty pleasure, and it is bad for me. He's right. It's so. But it's so good.
Alexis Stoudemire
Oh, it burns. With a little Pepsi every now and then, you get that good burp. You know, when you drink the first little swig of it and then that burp come out and it's.
Cherelle
That's all you need?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yes, that's all I need. And I'll be like, okay.
Portia
Because when we met, I used to drink them all the time. Like, all the time. My daddy used to work for Pepsi. He worked for Pepsi for 35 years. So, like, my entire life was just Pepsi products. Pepsi. I have pictures, and this is so embarrassing, and this is no shade to my mom and them, but I have pictures of me with, like, what they called watered down Pepsi in my bottle. They indoctrinated me.
Alexis Stoudemire
They like, that's Pepsi, girl.
Cherelle
I was really on that oil.
Alexis Stoudemire
You probably had two, you probably had two civil teeth in the front of your mout too. Drinking though.
Portia
Silver teeth. And I should have had four. I should have had.
Alexis Stoudemire
You know, you can tell a bad little kid when they got fall at the top and fall at the bottom.
Portia
Full of caps, nothing but break shit and eat sugar. That's all. Yeah. So no, I'm not allowed to. So no, I'm not going to drink a Pepsi. Banned in my household.
Cherelle
I. What did I do? So in high school it was. I just wasn't into. I didn't have any vices like you know, alcohol or any of that. And I would sleep a lot. I ate bad. But the only thing I could think of is I had this little tigger when I would run track. And since it was an individual sport, it just caught my nerves a little bit. So I just kept it with me for that. So I think that was like a little tigger. It was so cute. And then the only thing I could. Only another thing I could think of was it wasn't really a ritual, but I got used to it. And then it was when I was running the marathon in New York, I would train with music and so I started getting like my playlist down and all of that. And that would get me through my running for training. And then the day of the marathon I was, everything was charged up, I was ready to go and I started listening to the music. But then it was so much energy around with all the people that were running and then everyone that's in the city and cheering for you and bands and all of this. So I ended up not even running the marathon with my music, which I had trained. So I was a pleasant surprise because I still made it, but like totally thought I was dependent on this and ended up, you know, completing it.
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Alexis Stoudemire
For basketball I didn't have anything but for track it was kind of like yours lick when I So I was a 400 runner. Yes and right when the the gun go off I would start saying my ABCs every time I ran a 4 really and 2 and it basically timed me and paced where I was at each time. So like if I get to Jay. And I'm at a certain amount, and I'm not where I need to be then. I know. But it also would keep me from getting tired because I'm thinking about how to beat my pr.
Portia
Yeah.
Cherelle
Yeah. And you don't want to jump that trigger. That. That gun either. You know, like, that used to scare me. When you're coming out the blocks like that and everything. I get those nerves.
Alexis Stoudemire
I still think about it still to this day. I. We went. We were. You know, how we were supposed to be number one in state for the four by one. And I was in ninth grade. I was the first legged. And I jumped the gun because I was so scared because I was running with all varsity, and I was like. And we were projected to be number one, beat state record and everything. And it was so much pressure on me, and I was so scared, and I jumped the gun. And they still talk about this. Like, if I run into one of them, they like, dang, man. I remember when you jumped the gun. You lost us. You made us lose state, so it was crazy. So I'm just terrified every time I hear about a gun being jumped. Never again did I jump a gun.
Cherelle
That's interesting, Sherelle. Cause it's like I have. I have those. Those triggers from back in the day, too, that I still think about to this day, like you said, because I'm like. I mean, I didn't ever jump the gun, but, like, it's just you don't. You think about all these things when you're down in those block, and you just.
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Cherelle
It's so much pressure in track. You have so many fans from different schools. You're out there talking stuff. It's co Ed. It's a lot of energy out there. You know, you want to show off. You want to beat people. Like, it's. It's. It's a public event, low key. You know what I'm saying? It's talk is mess, so I get it, Cherelle.
Portia
That pressure.
Alexis Stoudemire
It was crazy.
Cherelle
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Portia
With my friend. Oh, sh.
Alexis Stoudemire
She said they traumatized. Every time I go to track meets, I'm traumatized from. And that was all you're having.
Cherelle
Sweating.
Portia
Jesus.
Cherelle
You got a crush. You know what I'm saying? You want to just. You want to beat the girl next to you. Everything.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, Crazy. All right, let's get into it, y' all. With the speculation when it. Boss man D. Why you say his name? Boss man D. You know who that is?
Portia
Yeah. Cherelle's gonna take the lead on this one.
Cherelle
I guess would be reggae tone.
Alexis Stoudemire
No, ain't her bot.
Cherelle
No. Yeah, let me hear it. Let me hear it.
Portia
Me, valet district. I'm go straight to gallery.
Cherelle
Okay. I do know that style.
Alexis Stoudemire
Okay.
Cherelle
I've heard it.
Podcast Host
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Alexis Stoudemire
Yes.
Cherelle
See? Way off.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right, you guys, let's get into it. The timeline has been on fire ever since allegation drop dropped about Boss Mandelo allegedly messing with a transgender woman. And the reactions, baby, It's a mixed chaos. They going crazy on Twitter. They've been going crazy this whole weekend. I was like, what? What's going on? I was being nosy, going to the. The. The person's page, and they is just running their mouth.
Portia
What?
Alexis Stoudemire
When we say the timeline folded like a lawn chair, we mean that some people are out here acting like he caught a felony charge just for who he might have slept with. Let's be clear. Nobody even confirmed anything yet. He hasn't said anything, but he's basically saying, like, throwing. Throwing shots out there. Like, basically, I'm a real white, and if I catch you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. He just posted that today. I'm being nosy, y' all. Cause I'm watching. So basically what happened was allegedly the transgender gender posted screenshots of Boss Mandela sliding into his hero her DMs. And it's. It's just a question mark. And I guess they exchanged numbers and they started communicating. And I guess she got mad, and because he told her to fly out to Orlando and he didn't offer to pay for it, he wasn't giving her no money. And that from the messages, it was like, dang, why everything got to be about money? We can't just kick it on cool vibes, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So, you know, old girl got her money. She like, you ain't about to play me like that. I'm about to expose you. So she went on this whole little rampage on the. Over the weekend and just started screenshot and all their messages. Now the fans are like, how you supposed to be rapping about this and rapping about that and you messing with a transgender.
Cherelle
Wait, so they did meet up, or they did not even meet up.
Alexis Stoudemire
They didn't meet up. They were up. P. I don't. It didn't say that they met up. They was just communicating via. Via. They were planning to meet up? Allegedly.
Cherelle
Okay, and is it known that this.
Portia
That.
Cherelle
That she is transgender on her page?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, she is a.
Cherelle
You go, okay, I have to check it out later.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, she gotta look at it. The baby. I Gotta see she got a police.
Cherelle
So now there. Screenshots.
Portia
My question if.
Cherelle
Huh.
Alexis Stoudemire
She's very. Apparently she's very popular too, but she's. I don't think she's, you know, did any changes with her. Her body. She. She may have enhanced her booty, but everything else is still the same.
Cherelle
What were you gonna say, Porsche? You said your question was what my question was.
Portia
Your question was, is, does everybody know that she's transgender? So he knew?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yes. I mean, you can look at. In one of the messages, it said something like that because she said he knew I was a man. Like, I was a transgender.
Cherelle
Okay, so maybe that's.
Alexis Stoudemire
He's.
Cherelle
He's denying that.
Alexis Stoudemire
He's.
Cherelle
I mean, is it just a speculation thing, or is it. Is it more like. I mean, nothing happens and he's just. He's not admitting that he even talked to her because to me, I wouldn't have said anything. There's just power and silence.
Alexis Stoudemire
I don't think he said anything to her. He just basically was. Was throwing. Saying something like, kind of shutting it down. He didn't shut. But he didn't shut it down. Just like, kind of like, keep my name out your mouth. I'm a street Y N, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. My thing is, I feel like in today's society, why do, first of all, like, everyone, a lot of people are curious, especially in that industry. And why do I feel like, why do men get so much. It's so much. Uproar. Roar. Oh, I can't even talk tonight. Uproar. When a man is. Is basically, you know, is exposed, but women, it's like, it's okay. It's cool with it. Why is it that.
Cherelle
Well, we are definitely in an oversex society in general. You know, whatever your profession is, especially if you have status and wealth and notoriety, you're a target regardless. So at the end of the day, people have their own preferences. What they do behind closed doors is really none of our business. It becomes public when people are screenshotting and running, running their mouths and doing all the excess stuff for attention, you know, for clout and everything like that. So it makes it even harder just in general, to start trusting and really trying to get to know someone. So you have to be careful on the gram. You know, a lot of relationships have developed on the gram or just social media in general. So it's a way to meet people. You know, you could be in your bed scrolling and run into someone's DM and connect with them. So it just becomes Messy when, you know, it becomes public. Because technically we wouldn't even know. A DM is a direct message between two people in your house, in your car, wherever you are on your phone. So, you know, we didn't know about this. We shouldn't have really be knowing about it. And here we are.
Alexis Stoudemire
I think the biggest thing is people put so much time. It's like you created a. You caught. You did a felony or something. Like you. You are judged so bad because you choose to go with the same sex or something. That's not.
Cherelle
I agree with that.
Portia
You know, yeah, he was open about before. It wouldn't be weaponized, but because these things are happening behind closed doors, then she felt like she could weaponize it. And she did. Because the industry, yes, the. The industry is open to those ideas, but not for black men. Not for hip hop artists. Not for whether you are a rapper or an athlete or famous in any regard. Even if you are a normal, everyday working black person, it's still unacceptable. You know what I mean? As progressive as we like to think that we are as a whole, we're just not. Not really. You know what I mean? So, no, he shouldn't be. It shouldn't be all of what it is, but it is, it is. He, you know, is presenting himself as a straight man. And there's something to be said for a man, you know what I mean, who wants to be with another man that hasn't fully transitioned. Like, I don't really know the rules, but in our community. And it's real hard to see the in between when it comes to our black men. And that is just. That's just what is. And you know, he wasn't, if that is the truth, and he was trying to get at her, and that just happens to be his preference. It's a very silent preference. Very silent preference. So she weaponized it and she knew it would work and it did.
Alexis Stoudemire
But what kills me is like, I normally don't expose people, but I'mma expose him because you're exposing people. Stop saying you don't expose people when that's what you're doing. Now. You're just ruining for yourself because now, now ain't nobody gonna want to deal with you. Apparently she had have dealt with other athletes and she claims he's the only one that she exposed. But.
Cherelle
And the whole point was because he was gonna fly her out, but then had her pay for it.
Alexis Stoudemire
No, he. He asked. Yeah, he told her she should pay for it. I guess he wasn't coughing up money that's what I got out of it.
Portia
I mean, the people gotta be careful. You got to be careful. Like, this is really not that serious. It's not. To me, it's not serious enough. If you were going to expose somebody, it certainly wouldn't be because of that. You know, like, that ain't enough to potentially ruin someone's reputation and career. But come on now. What are you doing in here?
Alexis Stoudemire
Do you think the hip hop community is ready to accept openly LGBTQ relationships? Why or why out?
Portia
I mean, if you come out that way.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, yeah, that's what I feel. I was going to say the same portion. When. When you accept it and you speak your. You tell your own story.
Cherelle
Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
And it's. It's more acceptable. But when you live in this fake life, like, you know, you. You like opposite sex and you're against all that, then, or. And you rap about something that you ain't doing, then of course people are going to. To be all over you.
Portia
I think we're a long ways away. A long, long, long ways away from that being something that is embraced in our culture. I agree on that scale. You know what I mean?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, that's true.
Portia
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Podcast Summary: Club Shay Shay - "Humble Baddies - Hour 1"
Episode Overview In this engaging episode of Club Shay Shay, host Alexis Stoudemire, along with co-hosts Portia and Cherelle, delve into the intriguing world of athletes' pre-fight rituals, with a special focus on Claressa Shields' unique practice of abstaining from sex six weeks before a fight. Released on May 20, 2025, the episode blends personal anecdotes, cultural discussions, and reactions to recent controversies within the sports community.
The episode kicks off with a heartfelt discussion about recent family milestones. Cherelle shares the joyous news of her second child graduating from high school, highlighting the collective effort and support from extended family members.
Portia adds a playful touch by expressing her desire for more graduations, while Alexis shares her own experiences balancing family commitments with her professional life.
The conversation shifts to the main topic: Claressa Shields' six-week no-sex rule before fights. The hosts explore the rationale behind such rituals, debating their impact on performance and mental preparedness.
Portia and Cherelle discuss the psychological and physiological implications, noting how these practices can vary widely among athletes.
Portia: “There are some fighters who throughout camp, they will have sex and it doesn't affect them... Others are very strict about it.” [12:45]
Cherelle: “It’s about the discipline of being an athlete. You know what my body needs, and if I wanna be the best...” [18:22]
The hosts broaden the discussion by comparing Shields' rituals with those of other athletes, highlighting the diversity in preparation methods.
Portia humorously remarks on these habits, emphasizing the personal nature of such rituals.
Cherelle adds insights into how these rituals provide comfort and mental stability, especially in high-pressure environments.
A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to the recent allegations against Boss Mandelo, a prominent figure in the hip-hop community. The hosts dissect the situation, discussing the implications of the accusations and the broader societal attitudes towards LGBTQ relationships in sports and music.
Portia and Cherelle explore the cultural stigmas and the challenges faced by Black men in the hip-hop industry regarding openness about their sexuality.
Portia: “We’re a long ways away from that being something that is embraced in our culture.” [49:42]
Cherelle: “People have their own preferences... It becomes public when people are screenshotting and running their mouths.” [45:34]
The discussion extends to the broader theme of societal acceptance and the double standards faced by men and women in the public eye, especially within specific cultural contexts.
Alexis Stoudemire: “Why do men get so much uproar when they are exposed, but for women, it's like, it's okay.” [46:28]
Cherelle: “In an oversex society... it becomes messier when it becomes public.” [46:43]
The hosts advocate for greater empathy and understanding, questioning the prevailing attitudes and urging for progress towards acceptance.
Returning to a lighter tone, the hosts share personal stories about the pressures of sports and the unique rituals they employ to stay focused and perform optimally.
Alexis Stoudemire: “In ninth grade, I jumped the gun and we lost state... I'm terrified every time I hear about a gun being jumped.” [38:23]
Cherelle: “Running marathons with playlists... but the energy from the crowd taught me to adapt.” [33:00]
These anecdotes underscore the intense mental and emotional demands placed on athletes, emphasizing the importance of tailored preparation techniques.
The episode wraps up with reflections on the discussed topics, acknowledging the complexity of balancing personal lives with professional demands and societal expectations. The hosts encourage listeners to find what rituals work best for them, promoting self-awareness and mental well-being.
Cherelle: “This just was a beautiful weekend... it’s good to have the family around and cheer on.” [10:03]
Portia: “I have comfort shows, bitch. And when I'm stressed, I put on Grey's Anatomy...” [27:53]
Final Thoughts This episode of Club Shay Shay offers a multifaceted exploration of athlete rituals, personal and cultural dynamics, and the challenges of public life in sports and entertainment. Through candid conversations and insightful commentary, Alexis, Portia, and Cherelle provide listeners with a deeper understanding of the interplay between personal discipline, societal norms, and the quest for excellence.