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Humble Baddies - Hour 2: Sharelle, Alexis & Porsha react to Dave Portnoy allowing his ex wife access to his account!
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We're prohibited by law 21/ terms and conditions apply. All right, y' all, it's time to get into segment three. Oh, this is gonna be a good one. And it's gonna raise a lot of questions. The bank account is still open. Oh, yeah. Yeah. All right, our next segment is about none other than Dave. How do you say port? No. Port. No. The bar student. The founder. So Shannon Sharp did a interview with him recently and it just. It went Crazy. His comment in regards to he still allows access. Allows his ex to have access to his account. People was going in on him. Yeah, they were. And I even put my two cents in and ended up with, like, over 17,000 comments. It showed that likes. I saw it. That's a good man, Savannah. That's a good man. Yeah. I was like, and that's why he's blessed. You know, let's be real. He's the owner of Barstool, the founder of Barstool Sports. And, you know, this is also a stigma in our community, too, I feel like, because it was. The men were the ones that was, like, chiming in on what I said. And what I said by he is the reason why he's blessed is because, you know, I don't know if they have children or not, but he's protecting and providing still. Like, she was there. He said it. He was like, I believe in loyalty, and I couldn't afford a hamburger. And here she is right there supporting me. And, you know, what did Dre say? Started from the bottom. Now we here. And he said they broke up by the time he really made it, and he wanted her to enjoy that. You know, like, it's no fun on a yacht alone. You know what I'm saying? Bring your people around. And if they do have children, why wouldn't you want her to be protected and her mind to be free and carefree? And your children, if they don't have children, it's the next people around you, your friends, you know, like, I made a job so y' all don't have to suffer, you know, So I looked at it, like, even from a spiritual perspective, of the fact that he's still, like, being generous and he's giving to her. Like, you know, they didn't work out. So he's not bitter. He's healed. She's healed. They can be friends. And I want my friends to be up there with me, you know, you got your rolly on? I got my rolly on. We. We hearing this together. We. It's no fun shopping and swiping and it's a lot of money. Like, what's that gonna do? It's a lot of money. I mean, I don't know if the. The viewers. Did they research or don't know who they're. He's talking about. This is wealthy. And again, if you have generational wealth and you don't have children, again, I don't. I don't know anything. But your friends employ them and make them up there with You. You know, it's. It's a big deal. And, you know, she's even dating someone else. We're so caught up on the next getting it after us or. I work so hard so you can't have it. We want to hoard it. We want to, you know, keep it for ourselves. And, you know, it's too much bitterness. And he's clearly not bitter. He. You can tell he still loves her. It's respecting at the end of the day. And so that's what I said, what I said about the fact that that's why he's blessed, because he's gonna keep getting more, which he is. He's gonna keep giving it away with, whether it's philanthropy, friends or, you know, his ex or whatever. I mean, it's a bank account. And honestly, I'm sure he has more than one bank account. But that's enough for her. If she wanted to, she can rob him. That means she has access to everything, and he trusts her fully, and that's what we have to do at the end of the day. Like, that's who she is. That's her character. And he tr. He's trusted her then back in the day, and he trusts her now. And I'd rather have people I trust that have access to my bank account. You know, maybe we don't know. She's good with numbers and has been helping them pay bills and keeping them organized. We don't know this stuff. Okay, it sounds all good, what you said, Lex. Now put yourself on the opposite side, and you're that new woman coming in. He probably in for about five years now, and you find out that his ex still have access to his funds. It's coming from a healed place. Because I'm now his new situation, and because I'm with this man and we have this connection and he's honest with me, then it is what it is. I'm not harboring that energy into this new relationship. I would be attracted to a man that's generous and has that choice and that loyalty and not have that energy of, like, hatred from the ex and that heaviness. Don't bring that shit into my new relationship. It's not about hatred. I feel like generous and loyal, and that's a lot. Like, we're not talking about just, like, looking out. See what we talking about? We're talking about, like, marital access. So if you're not married anymore, I'm almost wondering why y' all got divorced in the first place. Exactly. It's on a new chair There should be boundaries, access. You're not married anymore. I understand that. And if I had it like that in. In whatever the case, she can have that access to that account fully and foremost. And I'm sure he has another account, so, no, it would not bother me. I ain't going. I ain't going for that. We are women. We are territorial. Like, okay, now that you're in this situation, I understand y' all had something, but, baby, let's. Let's respect our relationship. Because what happens is now she still has access. It's gonna. It may not cause confusion right then and there, but eventually it's gonna cause confusion. A woman who's not with you anymore has financial access over all of what we have coming in because it's now because we're together. This is wealth, not, you know, rich. It doesn't matter, Lex. It's just bound. I get. I get the boundaries 100%, and I get that. But again, there's more than one account, guys. Like, if. If she has access to. I don't mind having a family fun. I'm so upset. Girl, you. You in right now. There's many accounts, guys. I'm looking like that. There's many accounts. There's many accounts. There's a family account. That's us account. He said. He didn't say. It's many accounts. He said, if she. We don't know. He said this out his mouth. If she wanted to, she can rob him. She can take. So she has full view. She hasn't. But what we're talking about is he's in a new relationship, married, and she's still. That wouldn't bother you? Nope. Oh, my goodness. Nope. This comes from a hill place, y' all. I'm just saying. Again. Again. Go back to that. This is we talking about, like, you know, if you, like, look at Mackenzie Bezos. And, you know, all these. These. They have. It's a lot of money, y' all. We're talking about a lot of money. We're not talking about, you know, a regular situation, like, you know, the masses. You know what I mean? This is. I'm just going off of what he said. He was like, I could not afford a hamburger. We broke up before I made it to this level. And no, that's my daddy. We're not saying not. But to have full access of all financials when you're in a new relationship, that's not common and that's not normal, and that's not acceptable. It's not common, and it's not normal. Neither is this situation. That's not. I'm not saying it's common, but if there's open dialogue, it's an open book. And this is what you do and this is what y' all been doing. No, it's not gonna bother me. Especially if it's not hindering nothing that we got going on. That means you're being fully open and honest. Imagine all the people who have bank accounts that people don't know about and y' all married and y' all together and they're hiding all this stuff behind your back. And that's true. And that's not the IB thing. That's not the vibe either way. That's what I'm just trying to say. That's understand. And I'm just being honest, Lex. I just, I. I don't think anybody would agree with another woman, especially an ex or another man having. I have a perfect example. Having full control over your whole financial statements and have access to it. That's just rock. What happened with the rock? The rock, his ex wife is his manager. She gets him all his deals. He's very. He's very much married. Has children, a whole another family. And she still is. It's different. She's his manager. This lady pull and. And take money. She's not a manager. She just. He's basically saying whenever. Basically what's mine is yours, it's not a manager. Is he remarried or we just. Yes, he's remarried with children. No, I'm. I'm talking about Mr. No, I don't think so. But I don't know, it's just again to the point where even the ex is Mar. Is actually dating. He said she's dating someone and it's not a big deal. Again, eating right now. Eating on bar. So what you mean? Yeah, well, it comes with the territory, you know what I mean? Just like someone's benefiting off of my last name or something or you guys's or whatever. You know what I'm saying? It's just. It's just another way of saying, look, I just want to open an honest relationship again. We don't know what people. What work wives are doing at these men's jobs. We don't know how if they over there helping paying the bills and they got access to the Amex and spiping on themselves and making reservations. So it's different levels of it. They might have access to one of the cards. But honestly. Yeah, that's all. I'm just trying to say I'd rather Be honest. Like, look, this is my ex wife. She was there when I had nothing. She has access to this account and this is what it is. It's worked for us. This is what I'd rather that than me finding out and the other way. So if that was me, and a man was open and honest and he told me that I would look him right in his eye, say, go get your woman, please. Because you love that lady. And it's okay. You love that lady. Go get that lady. Because you love her. That's your soulmate. Go get your lady. Cause it ain't. It can't possibly. I would hope that he does love her, but he doesn't have to be with her. That's not respect, you know, that's a lot of. That's a lot. Maybe it's just valid. I understand it. It sounds good. But in reality, no matter how, it's gonna eventually cause some type of controversy. No matter how. Okay, yes. You know, when we in that love stage. Okay, babe. But it just naturally, it's your whole. Find it like over everything. She can pull whenever she want to. And in the beginning, you may, you may love him in the beginning, but eventually it will cause some type of controversy. And I love the fact that, you know, he. You could tell he's that kind of guy, was like, whatever she wants, let her have it. That's a different kind of confidence. Whatever she wants in the divorce. Cause she deserves it. She was there for me. You don't know what she's been through. So kudos to him for that. I actually glad that he said it. I haven't heard this before where a man has been that confident to be like, I trust her or, you know, I'm loyal to my people. Actually, I would work for this man. I would ask a man to be friends with him. I would like him to. I'm glad he said what he said. And kudos for, you know, shout out to Shannon Sharp for that because I don't think I've ever heard this before where a man is sitting there with this access. And he is barstool sports, by the way, very masculine, very macho. And he's saying, you know what? Which a man's weakest point is their wallet. Right. You know, that that's what it's going to hurt them the most. And that lets me know that he's running his business in a great way. He's running his household in a great way because he is confident. You know, he's like, it's not what's that? What's that? I got it here. She was here when I had. He's rich. Yes, he's rich. That's what it is. So I'm glad he said what he said because we needed to hear that. And it lets you know who's healed and who's not. No, a lot of people want to meet her. Not gonna lie. She sounds like a woman. She really does. I kind of want to meet her because she left such an impression on him. Her lawyer did what she was to him. She left such an impression on his heart, in his life that he's like my life's work. My life's work, my fortune. I'm leave it open. He definitely that because some women get carried away and you can say he definitely take care of her. 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I just think at it like I look at it like this because I was in this life for years and on a very high level of seeing that the, you know our we got the posse and it's all of us in the club and you popping bottles and spending 20k and taking the homies shopping because they came up with you from back in the day, right? You know what I'm saying? And you get a car and they everyone gets a chain when I get a chain. It's that same mentality, you know what I mean? And his friend is a female. It's his ex wife and I think it's dope. Again, we should have this energy. But a lot of us are bitter. A lot of us are holding generational heaviness. I feel like it doesn't have to be regards to that. I feel like that is extreme to a certain point, especially once a new relationship is involved. But you can still take care of somebody. Correct. Make sure that they're good with that. That means you really care about them. That means he really trusts her. Yeah, he really trusts her. And he really care about her enough to be like, look, I'm handing this over to you, and do, you know, go. You know, again, when. When sexy Lexi Yacht pulls up, I can't. I don't want to be on there by myself. Y' all. Y' all have to come. Like, you know, we just gotta ride. Gotta ride out. Okay. Does this give he's still emotionally connected. Energy, or could it just be convenience, interest? I think it's a combination of both. Yeah. I think it's everything. Yes. He's. He's connected, and he should be. He's. It's respectful. That's like his family, this extended family. And now he's a multimillionaire or whatever. And she was there when I had nothing. Just if. Even if she was a man, same thing. What do you think, Portia? I think it's everything. I think that there is. I'm sure he still loves her. I'm not gonna say he probably loves her romantically, but he still loves her. He definitely appreciates her because that. It seems like a kind of appreciation. And also, I think that it could. He just. He probably knows her wealth or not. She might not even be a big spinner. She might go out and really try to blow her load and buy everything she's ever wanted, and it still wouldn't mean much to him. It still wouldn't. Exactly. She could really just be one of them girls, just like simple in that way of, you know, nothing too extravagant. She doesn't over consume like he knows her. So it, you know, it feels. It sounds odd because they're divorced, and if I had found somebody, you know, as a man, and, you know, I didn't have anything, and then I have all of this, and I can still trust her with my fortune and my. And she's with somebody else, and he's like, yeah, she could take half a billion to pay for her own wedding, and she can do that. If I really had that type of trust and affinity for somebody, I don't even think I'd be able to let them go, because I just feel like that's Just so rare. It's rare. You know what I mean? So, yeah, I mean, yeah, I think he loved that lady and he lady back. And it would be hard for another woman to come in and accept it. I don't care how secure you are. But to be able to feel some shoes like that and it will cause some type. I don't care what people say. It will cause some type of insecurity if you don't have any. It's just. It's natural. It's a natural feeling. So people can say, oh, you know, this, that and the third. No, it's a natural feeling is we're human beings. Because there are a lot of divorced men who still take care of their wives in a way that like, you know, they're still there for them or if they have a lot of money, they still. And not like on some court order, but like, you know, I still want to make sure she's okay. This is taking it a step and a few notches. Yes, it is. It's very rare. Yeah, this is. This is just turned up a bit like a lot actually. It's a lot. That's why, that's why it's like views and so many comments and all that energy. Because we don't need blacks to be able to take on some shit like that. Unless you said what. Unless, you know, you got your blindfolds on. I don't care about. I want, I want, you know, I am projecting and very much like putting out there a healed man, a generous man, a man that is very much want to love me and put me on a pedestal and be honest and it coming from a healed place. So like, you know, talk to me. Let's talk about it. What works for you naturally, there's nothing wrong with that. That's not what I'm saying. Like I would love to be with someone like that. What I'm saying is naturally, it's still gonna cause some type of insecurities or something because we're naturally, we're human beings. No matter how healed you are, no matter how it's gonna. Something is gonna question, wow, he really trusts this person. Or wow, she really trusts this person. What is it? It's just. It may not even be a lot, but it's still going to raise some. Some antenna. Why is this person. Why does this person still have full access even. Even if he explained why, but full access while we're together, I'mma be, I think what's going to end up happening if he does like say, hey, I Found someone. We're together. We're serious. Then there's going to be some. Some differences. Like, it's going to be a different bank account. I'm sure. But I mean, we're speculating. I don't know. We don't. It's funny because, like, all the women are, yes, yes, King, yes. Yeah. And all the men are like, niggas crazy. Yeah. The woman was on the other side that's just coming in. They wouldn't be saying, yes, king. Yes, king. They're gonna be like, okay, baby, let's swollen up. Yes. All right, now. No more. Okay? It's enough. I know she was there riding with you, but now you have, you know, a new sheriff in town. Let's lay out some boundaries, and that's fine. Did he say if he has the money? I'm not saying. I'm not saying don't take care of her or stop taking care of her. Yes. You can have your boundaries now. It's us. We're in a relationship for sure. Want somebody on the outside to see what we're invested in or what we're spending in. Like, create boundaries for sure. For sure. I'm not saying you not to have boundaries, you know, at all. You definitely want to speak up and say what makes you feel any kind of way, you know. Child, that's his pocket account. That's how I feel. That's what I'm saying. Like, if you really. Yeah, exactly. Like. It's okay, guys. It's okay. There's more where that came from. Like, I look at again, Mackenzie Scott, who was married to Jeff Bezos. Like, she can't. It's just too much money. She just had a kid giving it away. It's so much, you know? Like, come on. He's like, she was there with me in the garage when, you know, like, it is what it is. She has shares. That means she was there. I wish more. I wish more of us, but she ain't got full access. She ain't got full access. She got her own. She got her own access. You know, it is what it is. Yeah, he took care of her, you know, he made sure she was good. And that's always whatever she wants with this situation. I just can't. I can't be with somebody who allows their ex to have full access. I'm just saying it's a lot more people that we just don't know. I don't mind him taking care of, like, taking care of navigated. We gonna figure that together, Boo. Boo. I'll stay with you now, but we gonna navigate. We gotta figure this. Just think of everyone who you know that again, they don't know about even secret accounts. So he's putting it out there like, look, she got access to this one, so, so be it. Okay, I'd rather that. I'd rather that with the ex than a secret bank account where he's over here doing other stuff. So that's that. That ain't how he put it out. He said, baby girl got access to everything. I want to meet her. She sounds, like, cool. She sounds interesting. Nothing against the old lady. Nothing against. You know what I mean? She sounds. She got one. Yeah. Here for it. Okay, ladies, be honest. Have you ever kept tabs on an ex? Bank account, emails or social. Socials after the breakup? No, I didn't keep tabs. The only thing that I did with my ex is making sure that the bills are paid. Experience in that department. So, yeah, making sure. That's great. Make sure this is paid. Make sure. Have tabs of it. Just reminder, friendly reminder. Pay this. Yeah, no, it's over, so. Wish you well. Alexis, I get the feeling that it very. You had. Obviously it looks amicable, but you had, like, your divorce, was it easy peasy? Hell no. Like, hell no. No, because you're essentially giving. Paying someone to two different parties who don't know anything about you. They don't know your history, they don't know your pillow talk. They don't know how you feel like you're gonna raise your kids. They don't know anything that you want to do together as co parenting, as on an umbrella of what your family, what you have for your family, your travel, your this, you're that. So they go by regulations of a board or a matrix metrics, you know, this. This rubric, scale of. Slide this number in here, slide this number in here. This is what we've done because this is the law. So I was in a different position, obviously, because, you know, just. Because. Right, we all. We all know that. So it was a. It was not. It was a lot of. Because I met Mari when we were 19, so it's been a lot of buildup of his wealth and our wealth together. We started off very young at this. Again. So, like, I look at it like, you know, he could have gone to the left with his career or he could have gone to the right. But in the court, in the courts, they don't care if you're a girlfriend. They don't care if you've been put in some work and Some blood, sweat, and hours and all that. If you don't have that piece of paper with your last name on there that says, this was my wife or my husband, it don't count. You don't get benefits from the NBA. You don't get benefits from anything else. You got to get your own medical, you got to get your own this. You are still separate. So you could be with someone for so many years and get no benefits from it on paper. You know what I'm saying? So it was not amicable, because people, you coming from a hurt space, too. You also. It's very instant. You're coming from embarrassment. You're coming from a place of, like, trying to figure out the future. Because at the end of the day, a divorce is like death. You know, you go through these different moods. So one day you could be mad at that person. The next day you could be sad. The next day you can have remorse. The next day you have just all these different issues. So whatever that that lawyer is putting in front of you that day, and you're making that decision, you're thinking about the lifelong dream now becoming a reality in real time. Because this now is over. You know, you plan to go on trips a year ahead. You plan on saving these things and your children going to this school and this, this and this. That all is financial awareness and planning. So when it's now stripped and now being able to split, you're splitting banks, your accounts, you're splitting investments, you're splitting. You're splitting portfolios, you're splitting all these assets that would have collaborated. Like, you know, when you're collaborating with a net worth, now you're splitting it. It's horrible, it's horrifying, and it's splitting of the generational wealth. But at the end of the day, the beautiful blessing is because we do have a family, we do have four children. We invest it properly, and we also make sure our children are good. Because at the end of the day, that's the focus people start getting individual. Well, he's not gonna be in my house or the house that I put my money in. It shouldn't be about that. Are the kids safe? Is this where they go to school? Are there friends in the neighborhood? Is this the kind of car they should be driving because it's safer rather than, you know, X, Y, and Z? So I look at it like this. You have to be careful who you lay with at the end of the day because. Say that again. Okay? You have to be careful who you lay with at the end of the day. Because a child is forever. You know what I mean? So that's who our, my first, my, my, our priority is, are the children, what's best for them. Exactly. So I know what you mean by like when the attorneys come through and they're just like, you know, they don't know you personally. They know everything that you put in. They don't know the dynamics of the relationship. They're just going by the metric system. You have to have a separate conversation, be like, okay, your lawyer don't know me. He ain't fair, he's going to get hit. You know what I mean? Did you. They're doing their job and so is mine. So they'll put in stuff in your ear like, oh, you should do this or in the opposing again, it's a battle and it's the finale, you know what I mean? That's it. Once there is, you sign on that dotted line, it's over, you know, and you can't go back and be like, oh, I made a mistake or I was just playing, you know what I mean? No, it's setting standard because it has to be. It's a legal binding contract and you have to adhere to it. You know what I mean? So it's just, it's a tough, it's a tough thing. That's why I don't recommend divorce to anybody. You know, you splitting and it's, it's heartbreaking, but it has to happen. Would you would have tried to rekindle looking at it now and make. Made it work instead of after going through that divorce, would you have tried to fight a little harder to make it work? Do y' all see this? Scan it. Look, life bothered me, okay? I'm living my best. Let me just be real with y' all like with any, with any breakup, okay? I'm glowing up. I'm glowing up. And this was all God's plan and I am following my dreams. I would have been more distracted because I'm very much a hands on wife. And so it's I, and I was behind this, this, this God of a man on earth that everyone worships and that's a lot of work, okay? That's a lot of work behind the scenes, behind these doors and we have kids and we have y' all in comments and we have everyone in our business and we got family we gotta take care of and we got, okay, all these things. So that's a full time job. So now it's different because I am learning my financial awareness for My household. I am grocery shopping for myself and my kids. I am planning and time managing my mental time and my doctor's appointments, and I'm looking out for Alexis, and I'm happy. So this was all God's plan for me to not be in that situation, because I am in love with Alexis. And now whoever gets all of this is getting a complete just work apart. You know what I'm saying? Baby, you need to say it again. Tell the people, you a real wife and you a good wife. I have no regrets if somebody's about to get. Get all these blessings. Like I said, when you're a good wife. You were clocked in. That shit didn't work. Oh, you were a good wife. Baby. Come on now. You know the good wife, that hummbird woman. Okay, these babies are graduating. These babies are clean. These babies are fed. They sleep good at night. They're in a beautiful neighborhood. We safe. Oh, baby, we good over here. Ooh. Let me. Let me just interject because I was having this conversation with somebody earlier today. They were talking about Cardi B. And Stephanie. What's his name? Stephanie behind the. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, somebody. It was. It was a comment or something, and I had a conversation with somebody about the comment, like, oh, you know, she left her husband just to go beyond, like, somebody's roster type thing. And I said, wait, wait a minute. Wait, here's the thing. Here's the thing is it will look like that. It will look like. Because she was a wife, and a lot of people feel like that is the prize. And it is a prize. It is an honor. But it's also like, if your husband has a roster, why wouldn't you be in a better position if you just stop being a wife and you got with somebody else and yes, you're on his roster, but you're not a wife. Because being a wife is so much. It's a lot. You have a lot. You have so much obligation, so much sacrifice, so much energy. I promise you, I. Like, if Andre wasn't here, do you think I would so freely just become somebody else's wife again? Get that away from me, because absolutely not. I'm not ever gonna love another person ever this month the way that I have given myself. So serious. And if you're a wife and you're. Yes, wife, and yes, if you really, you know, take honor in that title. Calm down. Exhausting. So I'm sitting like, okay, she's with this man, and she might be on a roster, or he could be on hers. But being a wife is exhausting. And if you're going to do all of that, like, you don't want to be doing all that for your husband who got a roster. Come on now. Yeah, it gets tiring. It's like they, and they've been famously known to like, have already been like, try to be like, put the divorce papers out there. Right. So she tired. That was a toxic. That was a toxic. Listen, be happy, don't worry, be happy. Move on, be happy. You've probably heard that sickle cell disease affects a lot of black folks, maybe even people close to you. It's more common than you think. Almost everybody knows somebody. 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Experience the first wired bra you'll actually want to wear all day. Visit nyx.com for 15% off your order with Free Flex 15. That's K-N-X.com code Free Flex 15 for 15% off nyx.com we only have one time at this life, y' all. One time. Yeah, that's it. I'm not gonna be miserable. I'm not gonna be trying to make some one sided trying to make something work and you draining. You're doing all the wife duties and they out here got a whole roster and barely. That's not right. That's lopsided. That's not equally yoked. But you know I'm not. But you know I'm very much for marriage and I'd be looking at you in a moment. They cute. You know what I mean? I'd be like, thank you. I wish they could. But we have more past. We put in half of two decades. We put in half. And guess what? He got me forever. He got me forever with these grandbabies because I'm gonna be there. He got me at every graduation. We were at graduation. Yeah, but you know somebody else here and get all this goodness and this blessing, baby. Because I don't go back. Glowy skin sex. Look, Lex, go ahead, give him a little shake. This is the diamond in the rough over here. Listen, listen. If y' all looking, Lex is single and ready to meet. Do you see that skin is glowing. Lex. Know how to cook. She know how to clean. She know how to be a fool. I don't know. She kind of been filling this up a little bit lately. I'm thinking she might. Might already have a little something. A little something? No, she got. You got or no possibly she got. She got some. She got three and a possible. Listen, I'm here. I'm here for Lex. You say I'm happy, I'm good. Like we. We. I'm. I'm happy. I travel three. I'm, I'm. Everything is moving in my direction right now. I'm God's favor right now. Like I'm not. Yeah, I'm where I need to be. Like emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially. Like, you know, it's a hard time from the bottom. But you know, if I would have known what I am feeling right now, then we, of course we would feel like, okay, I can get over it, whatever. But this is work in progress. This is. This is a lot confident. It was a lot. You healed through it. And I'm still healing. I'm still going through it. You know, it's always something. You're right. It takes time. But you look good, Lex. Thank you. I feel great. Real glowing. I need you to send me that routine that you doing for that skin to keep on glowing away. Glow. You can't send me that mask. So it don't matter. She got somebody. Somebody give her glow. We gotta hear what the secret is to that glowing skin over there. You know, drinking plenty of water and minding my business. Amen, period. That's it. All right, you guys, we got to. We gotta wrap it up. What we got next? I done lost my notes. It was getting good. Juicy. Yeah, we were selling. We loving it. What do we have? Humble bodies. Mail don't what we got. Yes, we are into the last. No, we have questions. We on set four. I'm the humble lady. Portia, you want to take that? You got to this stuff up. No, hold on. I don't have it. I can do it. I'm ready. I don't have it. I got it. I'm ill prepared. Okay, so we'll wrap it up with this, this last segment. So here are questions from the humble baddies. Fans. If you had to leave the U.S. what are your taxi places you would move to? Ladies, I'm not answering. Yes, you're going to answer. You're going to answer. I'm going to say Italy. Yes, I love Italy. That's where I'm have to go to in the Caribbean because I love Beaches, and I love sun and I love sand. But Italy is kind of my vibe. I love that. I love that. I love Italy. And I would also, since we lived in Israel, I would actually live back in Israel. I loved it over there. And it's a good access point to other cities and countries, too. So nice. Italy. I probably would move to Paris. Ooh, Paris. Yes. In one other place. I probably would move to Lagos. Okay, I love that. There we go. You get one redo in life. What moment are you going back to fix or relieve? And you can't say, I wouldn't change anything. Oh, but I wouldn't. No. Wonder how you going back to fix or relive. Yeah, okay. Or relive. Oh, man, I would relive a lot of stuff. Yeah, I would relive a lot of stuff, too. I would probably go back and relive not getting married at an early age and experience my youth. I wouldn't. I probably would relive, you know, having. No, because I'm. I'm blessed. Nothing, actually, you know, getting married at an early age and. And just living and experiencing you. Okay, so you. Are we asking this question with, like, okay, we could change anything, but we would end up right back here anyway. I wouldn't get married so early. I got married at 20. Because that would change my answer. If I knew that I would have all of this right now and I'd be who I was and everything would be what it would be then. Yeah, I would change something if I knew I'd still be here. Yeah, I'll still be where I'm at today. If I didn't. Even if I didn't get married early. Reliving moment. Oh, trying to think. I want to say mine, Portia, this is uncut and unfiltered. We don't care and we don't. I say all the time that if I could have skipped a lot of the. A lot of the growing pains in my relationship in my 20s, that I absolutely would have. Like, when he was working my nerves, if I could have just told him to go and buy his business, but I knew that we would eventually come back together and do what we're doing now, that would be perfect. But, Lord, if. If I just could have told you. Getting on my nerves. You know what I mean? If I. You need to go away from me with that and then come back 28. You know what I mean? 27. 28. And then. Because let me tell you, my 20s was so tumultuous and so dramatic for no reason. For no reason at all. Just figure it. Just us figuring out that we loved each other was exhausting. It was exhausting. I will say that I spend time being exhausted, but if I know, like, if we would just end up right back here with our kids and we're married and everything is. Is easier, then, yeah, I would change that. I think for me, if I were to relive a moment would probably be right before I had kids. I think I would have just waited longer. But then at the same time, while you having kindergarten graduation, I have two drivers and they're two graduated. So, like, I guess I would just relive that moment of like, that freedom before children and just like, you know, where would I have lived or traveled to or whatever? But it's kind of worked out because it's like, you know, I'm living it right now. So I feel like it goes both ways with everyone, you know, at the same time. I'm like, I would have told him to go about his business, but bitch, he's the reason why my 20s was so much fun. I know, right? Think about it. I figured there was still some good with the bad, and that's why everything way more. He's getting tired. But no, we had more good. There's definitely more good. We gotta wrap it up. All right. We gotta wrap it up. So we're gonna do one more good question. Okay. Number four. Number four. Would you date someone who doesn't believe in birthdays, holidays, or gift giving? Yeah. It's a hard no for me. No. That's a no. Because that one, my love language, she gets yes. And receiving do them all. Yeah. No, I like. I like celebrations. I like memories. Yes. I mean, a lot of holidays, and I want to be like, no, I can't force myself with you because it's gonna cause confusions. No, baby, I love a festive partner. I want someone that's like, pulling out the decorations before I can or just looking forward to something. You know what I mean? Like, let's. Let's turn up. Let's have a good time. Let's have people over. Let's. Let's enjoy life. Yeah. Like, at the very least, I don't need you to be as enthusiastic as I am, but I need you to not contest me when I say I want to throw something on the grill. Yeah. Want these people to come on me. Don't, don't. Don't roll your eyes when I say I want to make sodas. You want her hot dog? She want to be petty, childish. Yes. With the cherry and a little jar juices the oil on top. Yes, I need that. All right, you guys, that's enough of tonight. We enjoyed you guys. We sure did. Thank you for your stories. Lex, you know, you are amazing. You always giving great advice. Portia is funny as hell. Y' all make sure y' all follow y' all tell them where they can follow you guys. I'm sure everybody's auto Underscore on Instagram. I'm Alexis Underscore Stoudemire on Instagram and I'm at Portia Berto on Instagram. Yeah. Also follow Humble Baddies podcast and make sure you subscribe to Humble Baddies podcast on YouTube and tell all your people to subscribe. Until next time. 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