Humble Baddies - Keeping Secrets in Relationships + Hot Girl Summer vs. Healing Girl Era

Summary

Podcast Title: Club Shay Shay
Episode: Humble Baddies - Keeping Secrets in Relationships + Hot Girl Summer vs. Healing Girl Era
Release Date: April 17, 2025
Hosts: Sherelle Rosado and Ashley Nicole
Guest: Ryan Coogler, Director of Black Panther and Creed

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Introduction

In this engaging episode of Humble Baddies, hosts Sherelle Rosado and Ashley Nicole delve into the complexities of maintaining secrets in relationships and explore the contrasting concepts of "Hot Girl Summer" versus the "Healing Girl Era." The episode combines heartfelt discussions, personal anecdotes, and expert insights to provide listeners with practical advice and relatable experiences.

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Segment 1: Keeping Secrets in Relationships

Sharing Relationship Secrets with Best Friends

Sherelle Rosado and Ashley Nicole open the discussion by addressing whether it's healthy to confide in best friends about relationship matters.

• Sherelle (04:28): "Relationships can get really messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious. But when things happen between you and your man, do you keep it locked down or is your bestie the first to know?"

• Ashley (05:22): "I tell my friend because you know why my friend could help him next year and get the appropriate gift." (05:28)

Key Points:

• Pros of Sharing:

  • Best friends can provide valuable advice and support.
  • Helps in navigating relationship challenges by gaining different perspectives.

• Cons of Sharing:

  • Risk of betrayal or oversharing, leading to trust issues.
  • Personal relationship details becoming public knowledge, potentially straining friendships.

Personal Anecdotes:

• Sherelle shares a past experience where oversharing led to betrayal: "I was betrayed by a friend where... my ex and the friend had a whole situation." (11:58)

• Ashley reflects on the importance of guarding one's relationship: "You're supposed to protect your marriage... sometimes you're looking for something in a conversation with someone and your bestie is the only person that can really meet you where you're at." (10:16)

Pillow Talking with Partners

The hosts discuss the implications of sharing relationship details with husbands or partners.

• Sherelle (15:10): "I cannot pillow talk because I speak from experience... this is my friend, but they assume you're going to do the same thing they're doing."

• Ashley (16:08): "If Phil was to sit down and want to have a whole conversation about, like, girl shit, I would be looking at him sideways like, why are you even interested in what me and Keisha was talking about?" (16:08)

Key Points:

• Sharing too much with a partner can lead to misunderstandings.
• Establishing clear boundaries is essential to maintain trust and respect.

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Segment 2: Hot Girl Summer vs. Healing Girl Era

Defining the Eras

Sherelle and Ashley define and contrast "Hot Girl Summer" with the "Healing Girl Era."

• Ashley (22:30): "Today we're talking hot girl Summer versus healing girl era. And yes, it's okay to be a little of both."

• Sherelle (24:00): "Sherellica." (24:00) (A playful moment introducing her new persona)

Hot Girl Summer

• Sherelle (24:21): "I ain't gonna block. If I have a glow up photo drop, you gonna see all this greatness over here." (24:21)

• Ashley (24:37): "When you go through a breakup, you should get a new hairstyle... start getting back into yourself and then post that shit drop out." (24:37)

Key Points:

• Emphasizes self-expression, confidence, and embracing one's allure.
• Involves activities like traveling, socializing, and showcasing personal growth.

Healing Girl Era

• Sherelle (25:13): "Healing. I would go with healing for that one." (25:13)

• Ashley (25:49): "For my soul... I've already started. I got my chickens, 10 new little chickens, little baby chicks, and I'm getting a fabulous coop mansion built for them." (50:12)

Key Points:

• Focuses on personal growth, self-care, and emotional healing.
• Involves activities like journaling, spiritual practices, and spending time with loved ones.

Balancing Both Eras

• Sherelle (40:51): "I have a good balance." (40:51)

• Ashley (41:55): "Phil put my ass out if I do too much hot girling." (41:55)

Key Points:

• Balancing fun and healing is crucial for overall well-being.
• Prevents burnout and ensures sustained personal growth.

Summer Plans

• Sherelle (48:29): "I'm gonna bring all my family together... just have fun with my grandmother." (48:29)

• Ashley (49:28): "I've got 10 new little chickens... beginning of me getting back to who I am." (50:12)

Personal Plans:

• Sherelle plans family gatherings and trips to Dubai.
• Ashley focuses on animal care and reconnecting with nature.

Stereotypes vs. Reality

• Sherelle (37:38): "People think that, you know, it's all glitz and glam... I still have a lot of I have to handle." (37:38)

• Ashley (38:15): "People can look at it and think, like, oh, she's having so much fun. But you still gotta go home and be by yourself." (38:15)

Key Points:

• The public perception of both eras often overlooks the underlying challenges.
• Real experiences involve balancing social life with personal responsibilities.

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Segment 3: Listener Questions and Advice

Cheating with a Partner of the Same Sex

A listener shares a troubling situation where his wife has been cheating with another woman, leading to confusion and distress.

• Sherelle (55:43): "The person she's cheating with is a woman... Do I walk away or try to open the relationship?" (35:07)

• Ashley (57:05): "I don't know if I like that. Cheating is cheating, whether it's with a man or a woman." (57:05)

Advice Given:

• Sherelle: Encourages setting boundaries and considering divorce if respect is lost.
• Ashley: Emphasizes that cheating is cheating regardless of the partner's gender and advises honest conversations or ending the relationship.

Open Relationships

Another listener contemplates proposing an open relationship to maintain his long-term partnership while seeking different needs.

• Sherelle (60:21): "If he's not asking for it, then you have to move on."

• Ashley (61:16): "If they're not open-minded, just let that man go."

Advice Given:

• Assess the openness and flexibility of the current relationship.
• Prioritize clear communication and mutual respect.
• Recognize when to let go if the relationship cannot meet personal needs.

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Segment 4: Guest Appearance - Ryan Coogler

Ryan Coogler joins the episode to discuss his upcoming movie, Sinners.

• Ryan (17:07): "It deals with blues music and its relationship with the church... Trust no one... themes of brotherhood, loyalty, fate." (17:07)

Key Insights:

• The film explores deep emotional and societal themes.
• Coogler highlights the collaborative process in naming the movie, emphasizing its thematic relevance.

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Conclusion

Humble Baddies wraps up with hosts Sherelle Rosado and Ashley Nicole answering final listener questions and encouraging audience engagement through social media. They provide a balanced perspective on maintaining personal growth while enjoying life's pleasures, underscoring the importance of boundaries, trust, and self-awareness in all relationships.

Sherelle: "Make sure Phil knows that we are good... love you. Follow and subscribe." (63:56)

Ashley: "We out." (64:15)

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Notable Quotes

• Sherelle Rosado (04:28): "Relationships can get really messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious."
• Ashley Nicole (05:28): "I tell my friend because you know why my friend could help him next year and get the appropriate gift."
• Sherelle Rosado (11:58): "Oversharing information led to betrayal."
• Ryan Coogler (17:07): "It deals with blues music and its relationship with the church. Trust no one."

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Final Thoughts

This episode of Humble Baddies provides a comprehensive look into the delicate balance between personal healing and embracing one's vibrant self. Through candid conversations and expert guidance, Sherelle and Ashley offer listeners valuable tools to navigate relationships and personal growth effectively.

Transcript

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[Sherelle Rosado]

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[Ashley Nicole]

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[Sherelle Rosado]

Welcome back, welcome back. Welcome back, you guys. We're here with another episode of Humble Baddies. I'm Sherelle Rosado.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm your girl, Ashley Nicole. And we are humble. What's up, Zayn?

[Sherelle Rosado]

This is our first episode without our girl Lex. She had some business to take care of, so Ashley and I are holding it down.

[Ashley Nicole]

And we got you, boo. We'll see you next week. If y'all tune in, Lex will be back with us. But for now, you got us two holding it down all the way from Nigeria. That shit's crazy.

[Sherelle Rosado]

We have our big day tomorrow. The big wedding. Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

I cannot wait. We already got our dresses custom made. We got our day lays ready. We gonna have hair and makeup. We gonna have. We got a whole camera crew coming. So we, y'all can get the content. Like, it's gonna be big. I can't wait.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I don't know. I tried on my dress, Ashley, and I don't know how these girls and legos do it. Like, the corset. I can't move, girl. Like, I feel like. And my stomach is pushed down. Like, how the hell y'all do this?

[Ashley Nicole]

You just gotta hold your breath and just stand there and be cute.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But, Ashley, we're gonna be there from three tonight. And you know how the Nigerians party.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. You can't sit down in your dress.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I can't sit down. The dress is long. How I'm gonna use the bathroom. Like, it's a lot of things.

[Ashley Nicole]

I didn't think about the bathroom part. I didn't think about that.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. We'll figure it out. Don't worry. We're gonna figure it out. We're gonna figure it out.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But make sure y'all stay tuned because we are going to give y'all live content on what's going on and how the ladies and gentlemen, gentlemen in Nigeria get down when they get married.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Because it's a whole vibe and I'm here for it. I can't wait to show y'all. I can't wait to share everything from tomorrow.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I'm excited. So let's get into it until tomorrow. Y'all stay tuned. We're gonna get into our first topic today. Your man, your secrets. Should your bestie know it all.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's a good one.

[Sherelle Rosado]

All right, y'all, let's be real. Relationships can get really messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious. But when things happen between you and your man, do you keep it locked down or is your bestie the first to know? I'm guilty. In my previous relationships that I have talked to my bestie about things that happen in my relationship. So tonight we're diving into loyalty, boundaries, and sometimes blurry lines between friendships and romance. So what are the rules if there any before we get into it, we gonna have a spiller. Teal is basically. Okay. I'm going to ask a few questions. Would you spill it to your bestie or keep it on lock?

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, let's go.

[Sherelle Rosado]

So this is the little icebreaker before we get into the topic.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right?

[Sherelle Rosado]

He gave you the worst birthday gift ever. You going to tell your friend or you going to chill out on it?

[Ashley Nicole]

I tell my friend because you know why my friend could help him next year and getting the appropriate gift. You know what I'm saying? Like, I feel like maybe he Need a little bit of help. And I feel like that's not that deep. So I would definitely spill. Tell the bestie to help, Help, Help.

[Sherelle Rosado]

My man out, please.

[Ashley Nicole]

Help, Help him out so help Phil out, please, Lord.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Listen, I remember that happened because. You remember it was Serenity's birthday, and Phil brought the boys to Chuck E. Cheese. And we was talking, he was like, phil got me these shoes. And I didn't like it. I really wanted these. And then I threw a hit. I threw a hit to Phil. I was like, phil. I had on the shoes. I was like, phil, Ashley really want these shoes right here.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, girl. You. Phil is the one who needs some help. So I'm definitely spilling to the bestie. Go help Phil out, because he don't be knowing. He don't be knowing. God bless you.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like it's the guy. Sometimes they just do whatever, like. And unless you tell them, hey, this is exactly what I want. Yeah, they just.

[Ashley Nicole]

Whatever. I feel like that's something, though, that, you know, it's okay to tell the bestie, you know, when it comes to the rules and what you do and don't like. I feel like that one is a good one. We good to go with that one. Yeah. Okay, what's next? What's the next.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Oh, this is a good one. He accidentally calls you by his ex's name while having sex.

[Ashley Nicole]

Or should I say, like, they doing my career?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay, baby, people have been guilty out of jail because what?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, no, that's unacceptable. And, no, I would be, too. That's embarrassing. Honestly, I'm not feeling that, because, quite frankly, I'm embarrassed that you would even do that. And like, now I need to figure out our whole situation. Like, why are you thinking about her? Why is she on your mind? Like, it's so much stuff I gotta go through in my mind. Like, I'm not. I'm not spilling that. I'm not spilling that.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That is definitely embarrassing. That's something that I definitely would not say. Have it ever happened? Well, you only been in one relationship, really. No, it hasn't. Thank God. It has never happened to me.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, we not spilling that, though. That's embarrassing. Absolutely not. Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay. All right, we're gonna chill. And keep that one to the side. He gives you a gift that screams last minute gas station grab.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I'm probably spilling because why? Ew. I gotta tell somebody. I'm upset. You know what I'm saying? And I don't want to be, like, the nagger and sound ungrateful to him. So if I gotta, you know, nag and, you know, be upset, I'mma tell bestie and let her let me vent real quick.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah, that's. You know what? That happened to me before.

[Ashley Nicole]

Not the gas station. Grab what he. Girl. Gas station.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Gas station. Flowers. Oh, no. It was so embarrassing.

[Ashley Nicole]

It was so chat.

[Sherelle Rosado]

No, I didn't like flowers. It was the worst. I ain't even meant to put they business out there like that, but it was horrible. I'll tell you after we get off this.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, well, yeah, guys, do not go to the gas station to get. No, not for nothing. Unless you filling up our tanks. We don't need nothing else from the gas station. Okay, Gas station.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Exactly.

[Ashley Nicole]

Don't pick us up now. We don't even need a sticker gun. No, I'm.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Thank you.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm good. Thank you. No, thank you.

[Sherelle Rosado]

His sex game is horrible. You spilling or you chilling? Ooh, horrible.

[Ashley Nicole]

I will probably chill until I just am good on it. You know what I'm saying? Like, I want to sell my bestie immediately, but at some point I gotta spill. Cause girl, uh, not him coming over here with this we can't sex game and thinking he probably think he ought that and a bag of chips. Like absolutely not. No.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And don't be the main ones.

[Ashley Nicole]

They need to name one. Say acting like big dick energy and it's not giving. So no.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Have. Have one little sorry little move. It is horrible.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, real bad. We spilling. We spilling. We spilling all of that.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes, definitely. Okay, let's get into it. Do you think it is healthy. Healthy to share everything about your relationship with your best friend? When is it okay to vent and when is it crossing the line?

[Ashley Nicole]

Ciao. I mean, I feel like your bestie is special. So I feel like there are things that you can literally share with your best friend that you can't share with your husband or that you can share with their husband, but it just won't hit the same. You know what I'm saying? Sometimes you're looking for something in a conversation with, you know, someone and your bestie is the only person that can really, you know, meet you where you're at. You know what I'm saying? So I've learned that, you know, I just try to. When it comes to, like, relationship stuff, like if it's between me and feel like specifically, if it's something that I feel like, you know, he wouldn't want me repeating to anybody else, I definitely wouldn't share that. You know, if it has something to do with, you know, Our personal business. I'm not sharing that. But also, I think there's. It's smart to have, like, other married friends because sometimes they're going through, like, the same things that you're going through and keeping those things inside, you know, it could be a disservice when your friend might have gone through the same thing as you. And you could easily just, like, let them know, like, hey, this is where we're at. This is what's happening. But you gotta make sure that those are the right people for you and the right people that you can confide in. So I think it's just like a slippery slope with who you decide to, like, share your business with. But overall, I think that it is probably not the smartest idea to share, like, everything you know, you really got to. It's certain things, you know, that's true.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like, you know, lesson learned for me. In my. My previous relationship before Chad, I was betrayed by a friend where, you know, they ended up messing around because I overshared too much information. And the husband and yes, my ex and the friend had a whole situation. Yeah, Oversharing information. And it's like, like you said, you have to be careful who you share your stuff with because every friend, you can't treat the same. So I felt like going through that. It created me to not trust, not be. Not to be able to open up to my friends because I took what she did on everyone else and it put a guard up. So it's like, I'm very. I have a guard. Yes, I'm very guarded when it comes to who I talk to about, you know, my personal relationship or it was hard to get over. Like, it's something like you would never think that someone so close to you, never that you call your friend that you took in would betray you and go behind your back and do things when you meant it to them about things you went through.

[Ashley Nicole]

I think you do have to guard your relationship, though. Like, you're supposed to protect your marriage, you know, and so you aren't supposed to go out and just be sharing everything willy nilly, you know, not even with your bestest, best, best, best, best friend. They don't need to know everything. But I do think, you know, if there's something that you're going through and you seeking advice and you feel like this person, like, is somebody you can confide in and that you can trust, then yeah, absolutely. But we have to be very careful. You're supposed to protect your relationship. Your relationship with your husband is Everything. So I'm sad you went through that.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Because, girl, it was.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's crazy.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And I was pregnant her ass.

[Ashley Nicole]

Like, what happened? Like, how did you move?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I tried to. I called my. I called my sergeant. I was like, y'all gonna have to bail me out of jail. I was pregnant with. I went over there, tried to kick down the door. That was in my. My heyday. I was still in the military. I was like, you know what? I have so much going on. I can't risk what I have going for this foolishness. But it was a lot to get over.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I bet that's a lot. That's crazy.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, but let me ask you, what about the opposite? Like, what about telling your husband things that you and your best friend have talked about? Like, do you pillow talking? Exactly. I feel like it's rules to that, too.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It is. I cannot pillow talk because I speaking from experience. When I was younger, I used to pillow talk and say things that went on in my friendship lives, and they start to look at them different. They start to judge them, and it's like, at the end of the day, this is my friend. But they assume that you're going to do the same thing that they're doing because you pill us out. So it's. I wouldn't do it anymore. At the age that I'm at. I'm at now. What goes on with my friend, life is her business. It's not, you know, my partners.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I agree. I don't. I don't like the pillow talking. I have. I feel like I have friends who tell their husbands everything, and so then it makes me cautious about what I share with them. You know what I'm saying? It's like, well, wait a minute, because I already know. You finna go back and tell your man, you know what I'm saying? And I don't want him looking at me crazy. And I don't want my conversation to get out to nobody else. I don't know who he talked to, you know, like, it's just too much. So then it's like, damn, that kind of messed up with our friendship because I can't really open up to you like I want to, but. Yeah, exactly.

[Sherelle Rosado]

So many relationship. I'm sorry, go ahead.

[Ashley Nicole]

No, go ahead, go ahead.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It's so many relationships that have been ruined just from pillow talking. It's like people don't understand. Like, you have to draw the line and there has to be boundaries set when it comes to you and your friends discussing information about, you know, your Partners and vice versa. Discussing information about your friends to your partners.

[Ashley Nicole]

Also, it's not even a turn on for me. Like, if Phil was to sit down and want to have a whole conversation about, like, girl shit, I would be looking at him sideways like, why are you even interested in what me and Keisha was talking about? Like, ugh. Like, no, this is girl business. This is girl drama. Like, why do you care? Like that. And I will say, sometimes I do get excited and I'm like, guess what? And he just be looking at me like, bitch, I do not care. Exactly.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Exactly. So, yeah, I feel like men need to stay in men's, you know, business. Don't be in the women's business. Okay. It's not sexy. Yes. I don't like that at all.

[Sherelle Rosado]

At all.

[Ryan Coogler]

Oh, Joe, we got a very special guest. The director, Black Panther. The director of Creed. He has a new movie that's coming out in April called Sinners. Here he is, Ryan Coogler. Ryan, how you doing, bro?

I'm happy to be with y'all, bro.

Let me ask you this, right? How did you. How did you come up with the name Sinners? Why the name Sinners?

It was a collaboration between us and the studio trying to figure out the right name for the movie. And we realized that that line, you know, that that word was said so many times throughout the script, you know, it deals with blues music and its relationship with the church.

Trust no one. Because this movie has a lot to do with paranoia. This film. This film deals with a lot of brotherhood, loyalty, fate.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, sir.

[Ryan Coogler]

You did a great job of working it and putting all that together. And it came together from the trailer for what I Saw. Directed by, written by Ryan Coogler. Fruit Bell Station, Black Panther, Wakanda. Forever Creed. And now he's with this one. Sinners arrives in theaters April 18th.

[Ashley Nicole]

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[Sherelle Rosado]

Have you, Ashley, have you ever regretted telling your best friend something about your man?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, Yes, I have. But not actually. We weren't married yet, you know, but that's the thing too. It's like, you know, you don't. I didn't know I was gonna end up marrying this man. I done told all the man business, you know what I'm saying? So it's. Yeah, I mean, I definitely regret it. So you just have to be careful because now me and her are not best friends anymore. You know what I'm saying? So it's like now they got information that I don't want to do, you know what I'm saying? Repeating and it's just like, you know, so you gotta be careful.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I wonder how it is, like we always, it's easy for us to vent to our best friends in regards to things that are going on in our relationships, but we never look at it like, how would a man, how would we feel if our male vented to their best friends about us? Like, would you take it some type of way?

[Ashley Nicole]

I think Phil didn't venting about me. I think he probably has. I feel like I've stressed him out to a point where he's needed to venture. Um, but I don't know why he man to them because I don't feel.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Like they can give him good advice.

[Ashley Nicole]

So whatever they tell him, it don't even matter. But I think it's. I think men should though, talk to their, their guy friends because I feel like they don't normally. I feel like they try to keep things in. They want to be a man and not vent and open up. And I feel like they should get it off your chest, you know what I'm saying? Cause I call my friend real quick and be like, girl, forget Phil is getting on my nerves so bad. He over here getting on my nerves. Like, you know, I do that all the time, and I feel like I know I can be annoying. So I feel like, you know, Phil should probably go vent to his friends every now and then when I get on his nerves. I mean, it's for his mental health. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I would rather. I would definitely rather for my partner to vent to his male friends.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And then to anyone else or a stranger or a female or whatever, because.

[Ashley Nicole]

No, definitely not a female.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It's. It's hard for men. First of all, it's hard for men to communicate. They don't like communicating about what's going on in their relationship. They would rather hold it in.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And I feel like it just gets worse. But to just let it out, even if your friend can't, don't even give you any advice. But for him to. For him to be able to let.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, it's a good thing.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

So I'm not mad if, you know.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

My partner. I said my partner. Like.

[Ashley Nicole]

You got a partner.

[Sherelle Rosado]

What's the next subject?

[Ashley Nicole]

Girl, we'll get into that later.

[Sherelle Rosado]

What's the next one we gotta get into?

[Ashley Nicole]

So. All right, so we talking about hot girl Summer versus healing girl era. Which one are you in, Sherelle? Sherrellica.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's my new name. Sherrellica.

[Ashley Nicole]

Which one are you in?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I think I'm transitioning from a little new girl era to hot girl summer to new girl era. It's like a roller coaster ride for.

[Ashley Nicole]

Me because just a couple weeks ago, you was like, I'm not dating. I'm not doing anything.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And heal. I needed to heal, Ashley.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, so. So you're past your healing, your healing girl era, and now you're in your hot girl summer era.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I am.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, tell me more. Tell me more. So then, Sammy, you're dating you outside.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I started outside and you know, outside. I just can't be outside. Outside is not for me.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It's not for me.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right, it says, so are you outside living your best life or inside journaling and drinking tea with your crystals? Today we're talking hot girl Summer versus healing girl era. And yes, it's okay to be a little of both, which sounds kind of like you, Sherellica.

[Sherelle Rosado]

This is my name tonight. Sherellica.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, girl. Okay, so here's the game. Is it hot or healing? Okay, so let me know. Number one, blocking your ex after a glow up photo, photo drop. Is that hot or Healing.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I ain't gonna block. If I have a glow up photo drop, you gonna see all this greatness over here.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, he need to see. He needs to see.

[Sherelle Rosado]

He needs to see. You gonna get that hot girl energy without being blocked.

[Ashley Nicole]

So that's hot. Yes, I think that's.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I think you should, though.

[Ashley Nicole]

I think, like, when you go through a breakup, you should, like, get a new hairstyle, you know what I'm saying? Go to the gym, like, start, you know, getting back into yourself and then post that shit pop out. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Sometimes you got to pop off and show, period.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, I agree. So that's hot. It's hot. And healing. That could be healing too.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah, I think so.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right. Saying no to plans to protect your peace, is that hot or healing?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Healing. I would go with healing for that one.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, that's definitely healing.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I need to.

[Ashley Nicole]

I mean, I'm not going through nothing, but, like, I feel like I need to learn to say no. I feel like I be saying yes to a lot, so that's like, something I need to work on this year.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's the same. It's hard for me to say no.

[Ashley Nicole]

Because I'd be like, okay, me too. Yes. Okay, I'll come to Nigeria.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Sure.

[Ashley Nicole]

No problem. I'll be there.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Say last.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's just a quick fight. Okay. All right. Booking a solo trip after a breakup, is that hot or healing?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Healing. That was me.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I was going through healing stage. I was just booking trips and still is, which is why I'm in the predicament I'm in right now, having to be over here in Nigeria and go to the embassy to get an emergency passport.

[Ashley Nicole]

It sounds like you might be a little hot if you gotta do all that. Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It's healing and it's still hot.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right. It's giving both. I mean, I think healing can be hot. Like, you can be out, you know, trying to find yourself, and that could consider being hot. But it's a part of your healing, right? Some people heal differently. Some people need to be outside, you know, so.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But do you really think that's healing or is that just being outside? Because I feel like being outside is just a cover up, a temporary fix for you to get. Try to get over what you're. What you went through. But it's not healing what you went through. It's just at the end of the day, once you come back inside, you got to deal with what you've been facing.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, for sure. I think that could definitely be a Cover up and not dealing with your problems. But sometimes I feel like people who, like, hide inside are doing, like, more. You know, it's hurting them more.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Hurting them more. Yeah, that's true.

[Ashley Nicole]

Sometimes people don't lean on other people. They end up, you know, afraid to meet new people and guard their heart and, you know, aren't open to, you know, just meeting new people and new opportunities. They just completely shut down. And I don't think that's healthy either. You know what I mean? I think, you know, it's probably a balance of the two that's needed.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's true. I feel like, for me, I can't be on the inside all day. Like, I have. I'm a people person. I have to be around people. And, you know, going through what I went through, I felt like traveling, just traveling, just getting out and enjoying the world was. It was very therapeutic, and it helped me a lot. It helped me learn who I am and just learn what I wanted in life and in the relationship and not being able to settle or compromise for things just because this was good. But my value was in this, and this is what I wanted from a man, more than this. So it just made me reevaluate what I wanted in a relationship.

[Ashley Nicole]

So do you feel like, would you recommend, like, traveling and dating abroad? Is that something that you would say made you open again to the possibility of dating and finding love again?

[Sherelle Rosado]

So what made me open to dating? First? I had to heal myself. I had to make sure, you know, I was good, I was healed, and I wasn't bringing any negative or insecurities into, you know, anything new that I decided to get in. I did fasting. You know, I got back into my Bible. I felt like I was pulling away from. From God and just, you know, fasting, getting back closer to God and focusing on work, traveling. That just cleared my mind and cleared my headspace and. And just gave me more. More motivation to get out there and say, you know, you can do this. It's not the end of the world. Like, your work, you don't stop just because of this relationship ended.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And there's so many people out. There's so many beautiful, amazing people out there that's gonna, you know, give you what you want, treat you how you want to be treated or even better. So after I heal myself, I decided to, you know, I was traveling and.

[Ashley Nicole]

You testing the waters?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I'm testing the waters a little bit, and I'm liking these waters. I'm liking this temperature over here. Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. But your Breakup is still very, like, relevant. Like, they still post, like your ex and you. Like I just saw on Hollywood Unlocked, like, couples that, you know. Which couples would you like to see get back together? And I see your face and your ex. So how does that make you feel? Like, do you think that. Does it make you rethink? Like, maybe, you know, we could get back together or like. Like what? How does that make you feel?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like, you know, I don't know what the future may bring. If, if. If it was meant for us to be back together, then it would happen. If not, you know, I wish my ex the best and of course, you know, me to move on, but no, no ill will over there.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

If it happens, it happens. If it don't, it don't. I feel like we still share a beautiful child.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, you really. I mean, they're handling this whole thing with grace because the people be coming for you. They be coming for you on the Internet. They do.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But, you know, people only see outside shell. People only see an outside shell. So you can't. It's not for me to fight what people think.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right.

[Sherelle Rosado]

What they assume.

[Ashley Nicole]

So I agree. So how do you feel is different? Because obviously, like, you're open, you're traveling. So how do you feel it's different dating people that are not in the United States. Like, is there a big difference?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I think it's beautiful.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm asking all these questions because I'm living through you right now.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And the people want to know.

[Ashley Nicole]

I want to know. I'm the people.

[Sherelle Rosado]

So I feel like I need an interview. What happened to this bit?

[Ashley Nicole]

We'll do that to humble baddies. So we want to know, how is it dating men that are not in the U.S. is it different? Is it better like, dating a man?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Dating. Amen.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, dating. Amen. Not in the U.S. you.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I mean, it's beautiful. It's something different. Like, it's excitement. Of course, every new relationship or a situationship is. Is exciting in the beginning, but it's just. It's something different. It's fun. And I feel like it's. We're just both enjoying ourselves. I'm having a good time. But what would you say is the.

[Ashley Nicole]

Difference in, like, their. Is it their culture, their customs, how they, like, treat you, how they talk to you? Like, what's a major difference that you would say between the two?

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like they are raised to know how to treat and cater to a woman. Like, my. My biggest love language is, you know, sharing with gifts, affection, you know, touch.

[Ashley Nicole]

So you get all the above.

[Sherelle Rosado]

All the above. Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's beautiful. Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

This is very beautiful.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I can't complain right now. I'm enjoying the moment.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, well, I love that for you. I mean, I think. I mean, I'm watching you, and I'm living through you, bitch. And.

[Sherelle Rosado]

We just putting all my business out here. I wasn't ready for this, Ashley. I was not ready for this.

[Ashley Nicole]

I think he's talking about. I felt like he was. I mean, the people want to know. I want to know, so. It is what it is, child. We can talk about something else now. We don't got to keep talking about your ex. Soon as y'all gonna get back together, we can move forward.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay. Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's where we. Yeah, we want to. Bigger, better things. It's beautiful. We're in new countries. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherelle Rosado]

And I'm actually traveling. I'm. I'm traveling. I'm going to South Africa next, and then. Yeah. And then back to the States, see?

[Ashley Nicole]

And y'all going all over the continent.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I love that. I feel like we match each other. Energy. We both like the same things in life. So that. And he's a business. Very business savvy, so.

[Ashley Nicole]

So y'all.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I mean, we'll see where it goes. We're just very compatible.

[Ashley Nicole]

Very compatible. He's marking off all the checks on all the boxes. Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

All right. I love that.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, back to humble baddies now.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Believe you. I'm gonna beat your ass.

[Ashley Nicole]

Sorry. I just.

[Sherelle Rosado]

The people sweating, like, girl, I'm over here texting you, like, bitch, the people wanted to know. I told you that. Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right, what we got next? Let's see.

[Sherelle Rosado]

So you don't ask me all these questions. We were supposed to be talking about what is hot girl summer really, versus what is the healing girl era.

[Ashley Nicole]

Thank you for getting me back on track. Sorry. Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

So what is the hot girl summer really about versus what is the healing girl era? Well, I mean, I feel like you kind of skipped over. Really? You didn't have a hot girl summer? It ain't even summer yet. Like, you ain't even have that. I feel like you had your healing time, which I thought, like, you were really, like. No, I'm not dating nobody. You know, I need to focus on myself. Like, you said, you, you know, got back into your Bible. You was fasting. Those are all, like, very healing things. And those are things that I feel like we should all do, like, on a regular. Like, we don't have to be Going through nothing to get back to those things. Those are, like, important things that we should just always be doing. There's always something that we can heal from and, you know, gain from that. But hot girl summer, though, is fun. And I'm looking for them friends, too. Where y'all at? Where my homegirls that want to have a hot girl summer? Because I'm be living through y'all, too.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Listen, I feel like you can still have a hot girl summer with your man.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, I feel that way. I feel that way. But I think it's different when you're single, though.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's true. Because I had a few times where I went out and I had little girls trips while I was going through my healing era. And we turned up, we had a ball.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But it's just. I feel like it's just too much. Like, it can be draining as well, having too much, spending too much time on a hot girl summer. Because you gotta understand, you lose focus, like, trying to be out here. To me, I'm all about business. Like, I feel like I ain't making no money. I can't be out here having a hot girl summer. Too much. I'm missing out on money. I can do it every, you know, test the waters, but I gotta rear my behind back in. Like, let me get back to this, honey.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, yes, I agree. It is a distraction. It is a distraction. It can be detrimental if you don't reel it back in, but I ain't mad at it. Okay, so what about stereotypes versus reality? What are the stereotypes of what? Hot girl summers.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like the stereotypes of hot girl summers, people think that, you know, it's all glitz and glam. Like, oh, you're just out here living your best life. I wish I can just be like you. Like, you have no worries in the world. Like, when I did test the waters for my hot girl summers, I still had to go back and take care of things back at home. So it's like, what glitter is not. Is what glitter doesn't is not gold. So you me showing out for Instagram. Oh, I'm out here partying. This, that, and the third. I still have a lot of the I have to handle. And that's what people to realize.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, yeah, I agree. People can look at it and think, like, oh, she's having so much fun. Like, they broke up. But look at her. She out. She having a great time. But you still gotta go home and be by yourself and, like, think about, like, you know, what are my next steps? What Is it that I really want? Like, reality sets in and it gets real.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes. And I feel like you do. Like, I'm not gonna lie. I'm going through it. I went through emotional rollercoaster. Like, I'll be outside, but then it's time to come back in, and I'm in my bed. Cr. Like, dang, I miss this. Like, why? You know, I'm. Be honest. I was going through all that.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And it's not easy, but just being outside is not going to heal what you went through.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Can these eras coexist, or do they clash?

[Sherelle Rosado]

They definitely clash.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's what I was saying. I was outside one minute at night. You lonely in that bed? Like.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Well, been in sick late at night.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. I feel like. I mean, you know, I'm obviously not going through a breakup or nothing, but I feel like I still have my moments of, like, when I need healing and when I want to be a hot girl. You know what I'm saying? Like, sometimes I just want to be at home in my backyard in the sunlight, you know, just taking time to myself, you know, I need to just regain my energy and regain and remember, like, who I am. Because I've been out in the world so much, and, you know, I've been focusing on other things that aren't necessarily, I would say, like, who I am deep down inside. Like, when I get out and I'm, you know, going out to events, going to parties, you know, showing up to places and being around all different kinds of people and energies, it takes a lot out of you. And at the end of the day, I come home and I just feel depleted. And so after, like, you know, weeks of that, sometimes I feel like, girl, you need some healing. You need to go home. You need to go to church. You need to be around, you know, certain people who, you know, fill you back up. So, you know, right now, I feel like I'm kind of in both. I feel like I can take a little bit from, you know, my healing era and my hot girl era, and right now, that's all I'd be needing. One minute, I need a little this, I need a little that, and I'm good to go.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah, you have a good balance.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, exactly. So that's where I'm at right now, and I feel good about it, and I'm appreciative that I have, you know, the support system to be able to do that. And whenever I need to take time for myself, I can. But I think, you know, as women, we need to do both at all times. I think we need to at all times be in some kind of. Do some kind of healing. And we need to do something where we're just something that excites us. Something that's, like, girl, spontaneous and fun and brings us back to, you know, not everything needs to be so serious and just have a good time. You know what I mean?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah. I feel like, you know, you're gonna go through what you go through, but there's a balance for everything. You just have to be able to make sure you balance in it. Right?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Balance is important. I don't want to get kicked out. Phil put my ass out if I do too much hot girling.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Exactly. Look, I'd be like, ashley, make sure Phil know that we are good. I don't want him to say anything, but shout out to Phil. Phil is a real one. We was talking about this today. Like, Phil gonna make sure. He gonna make sure you good, you safe, everything what's going on, how the surrounding is. But he gonna let you have your. Your girl time.

[Ashley Nicole]

He do. He do. Props to the big deal, Uncle Phil.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes. All right, so when outside isn't the answer, let's talk about the pressure to always be on in the summer.

[Ryan Coogler]

Ocho, we got a very special guest. The director, Black Panther, the director of Creed. He has a new movie that's coming out in April called Sinners. Here he is, Ryan Coogler. Ryan, how you doing, bro?

I'm happy to be with y'all, bro.

Let me ask you this, right? How do you. How did you come up with the name Sinners? Why the name Sinners?

It was a collaboration between us and the studio trying to figure out the right name for the movie. And we realized that that line, you know, that that word was said so many times throughout the script, you know, it deals with blues music and its relationship with the church.

Trust no one, because this movie has a lot to do with paranoia. This film. This film deals with a lot of brotherhood, loyalty, fate.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, sir.

[Ryan Coogler]

You did a great job of working it and putting all that together. And it came together from the trailer for what I Saw. Directed by, written by Ryan Coogler. Fruit Bell Station, Black Panther, Wakanda Forever, Creed. And now he's with this one. Sinners arrives in theaters April 18th.

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[Ashley Nicole]

I feel like summer comes around and everybody's like, where are you traveling to? What are you going to be doing? Let's get about this weekend. Let's do this this weekend. Let's go to this party. Let's go. And I just be like, whoa. Like, that's a lot. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherelle Rosado]

That's what I was thinking. I haven't experienced that yet. Like, really? I did a, like for the summertime. This is going to be my first summer that, you know that's going to be like that. But I Just like, to do my own thing. I can't. I feel like it's too much with trying to keep up with everybody trying to be on, you know, I don't like taking pictures. I don't like being out there like that. So I think it's just this time is going to be me. If I want to be on, it's going to be because of me, not because of, you know, people trying to bring me out or whatever. I'm a balance. It.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Too much coming for me, ain't. It's. I'm a fall off the map.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I can't do.

[Ashley Nicole]

I agree. Balance is key. All right, so when do you know when it's time to pause the party for personal growth?

[Sherelle Rosado]

When the money starts slowing down. Yeah, that, that. And. And you see a change in you, like all the. The great values that you bring. You see a change in your business, you see a change in your income, you see a change in your family life. Like, that's when it's like, okay, it's time for me to focus more on. On my personal growth. Because my. What I'm. What I'm putting my energy in is the wrong things are in the wrong things.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Yeah, I agree. I mean, I feel like you can feel it, too, inside. Like, it's something inside of you. You start feeling different, you be knowing. And sometimes we ignore those feelings and we gotta start paying attention to those, because those are the things that's gonna save us every time. Like, we need to listen to our gut, listen to our instinct, listen to the. You know, when we hear that, like, girl, you need to go to church. Go to church. That's God talking to you. You know what I'm saying? We need to listen to those things. All right, so what's one thing you're doing this summer for your soul and one thing just for the vibe?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Oh, one thing that I'm gonna do this summer for my soul. You know what? I'm gonna bring all my family together. I'm going back to Columbus, and I'm gonna bring all my family together and just celebrate and, you know. You know, just have fun. Spend that time with my grandmother. She's getting older. I just want that family time, that family vibe. I was looking at old pictures and I posted a few on, and I was like, I missed this time. And I just feel like just going back to the roots, spending time. Because I'm a family person. I like to be around my family. I like to be around people. I just want to have that energy Back just being able to catch up with all my cousins, my aunties, my grandmother, and just having a good time. So this summer, I plan to take a trip back home and get all the family back together and just have a good time.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. Relax. And then maybe we'll come.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And for one thing, for the vibes, I'm gonna do a trip with the girls. Some Myself, Chad, daughter. They still my babies. And my daughters and my. My niece. We're gonna go to Dubai. Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes. Y'all fancy?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah. We're gonna do a little five. That's something. Thank you.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. I love that. I love that. Well, I'm going to. For my soul. I kind of feel like I've already started. Like, you know, I got my chickens, So I got 10 new little chickens, little baby chicks, and I'm getting a fabulous coop mansion built for them.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay. To mansion that you're living in.

[Ashley Nicole]

Absolutely. Only the best for my babies. And I feel like this is me just getting back to who I am, you know? Like, I am very much. Like, I love animals. I love being outside. I love nature. And I feel like I've kind of gotten away from that. And, you know, I try. You know, I try to do things here and there, but I really need to put more intention into that because that's really who I am, and that's what really brings me joy and happiness and peace. So just me starting my own little. I'm not gonna have no whole farm, but this is like the beginning of me getting back to who I am. So that's what I'm gonna be focusing on this summer. For my soul and for the.

[Sherelle Rosado]

What else you gonna bring? What else you gonna bring to the. To the backyard, Ashley? Cause I got a feeling you're gonna bring some goats or something back here.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't know yet, but I would love to have little baby goat. I would love to get some swans. I'm gonna start there. Just goats and swans. That's like the next things on my list. Black swans.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Oh, that's gonna be cute.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

So that's for my soul and for the vibes. So I wanna. Actually, I can't say that because it's a surprise, but.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And fit. Probably watching.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. So I got some things, you know, coming down the pipeline, some ideas that I want to do for the vibes. The vibes gonna vibe regardless. I really need to focus on the soul part and make sure I get that down first. So that's where I'm at.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay. Okay. It's storming here. You Hear that? Right, girl?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, I hear it. Crazy.

[Sherelle Rosado]

All right, our next topic. Our next topic is we. We have a segment where we get DM questions from our fans in the via dm. Every week, we're going to start taking questions via our stories. So if you have any questions, make sure you follow us on IG Humble Baddies Podcast to ask your questions. Our producers will randomly pick five questions for us to respond to. So let's get into it.

[Ashley Nicole]

Let's get into it.

[Sherelle Rosado]

My name has to be first. Ashley, I'm not reading this. Can we skip past it?

[Ashley Nicole]

No.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And hold on.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't want this to die. Say it's not charging. Hold on.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Let me make sure I'm good.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right, I'm good. Not the camera following me. Okay. All right, I'm ready. What's the question? Cherelle, I see you are living your best life. How were you able to move on and live life? I told you, the people want to know.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I think I answered that. I mean, I took time out to heal and focus on me, you know, and now I'm living here. That part I am.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's real good, too, y'all.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Okay, we already answered that one.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Oh, we did. Not a question, but I tried the pop rocks, and he loved it. Oh.

[Ashley Nicole]

Not the pop rocks. You done got the people on the pop rocks, Cher.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I'm telling you. Listen, I got so many DMs saying thank you for the pop rocks. Like, I'm surprised people didn't know about the pop rocks trick.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't know. I don't know if I like the pop rocks. The pop rocks. You didn't like it? Oh, it was too much going on. It was like I had to concentrate.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Like, I'm not you making sure they don't pop out.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, it was a lot. I was like, ooh, this is a lot happening.

[Sherelle Rosado]

You can. When you're a beginner, Ashley. You can't put too many. You probably put the whole pack in your mouth, thinking you finna do some tricks. I shouldn't have did that. I shouldn't have did that. You can't put the whole pack.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, well, nobody. It wasn't all directions on the thing.

[Sherelle Rosado]

It didn't say.

[Ashley Nicole]

Nobody told me. But I'm glad it worked out for this person.

[Sherelle Rosado]

They loved it.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right, please share with us your worst day ever. You got a worst day.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I went out on a date a long time ago, and the guy car declined, and he was getting sweaty. I guess he thought the money hit. This was when we Was in the military where, you know, we. You get paid a day early.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yep.

[Sherelle Rosado]

And he thought that, you know, his money hit. And the money didn't hit until the next day, until midnight. And his card declined and I had to end up paying the bill.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, no. That's embarrassing.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Hold on.

[Ashley Nicole]

I hope it don't hang up. All right, well, let's speed this thing along. All right, how about some humble baddies? Mel, what we got today? Let's see this.

[Sherelle Rosado]

The one I. Hey, ladies. Okay, I got it. Hey, ladies. I need your unfiltered, no hoes barred advice. The title is My Girl. Got a girlfriend? What? My wife and I been together for 13 years. Solid history, love, a life built. But over the past few weeks, something felt off. I did some digging, and turns out she's been cheating. That alone was enough to wreck me. But what really threw me, the person she's cheating with is a woman. When I confronted her, she didn't deny it. Instead, she hit me with the. There are things a woman can do that a man just can't. Now I'm spiraling. Do I walk away from this relationship after over a decade? Do I try to join or open the relationship? Or do I listen to her needs and let her have a girlfriend on the side while I say her husband? Ladies, what would you do? Be real with me. Where is he coming from? He didn't even say his name or nothing. Listen.

[Ashley Nicole]

That'S embarrassing a little bit. Like my manhood would feel a little attacked. Yeah, because it's like you not just cheating on me, you cheating on me with a lady.

[Sherelle Rosado]

But he may. Some man may think that's a turn on. But for you to say there are some things that you can't do that a woman can do, that means you don't want no part of me. Sir, I'm gonna need you to give her that same energy.

[Ashley Nicole]

No, she said. She said that. She said that there are things a woman can do that a man can't. But, I mean, I guess the girl can get a strap.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah. She's telling him that he can't. There are some things he can't do that the woman can.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right?

[Sherelle Rosado]

That is. That's like, what? Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

No, no, no.

[Sherelle Rosado]

You know what's funny, though? Because one of my friends, she. She's a lesbian. She was like, baby, I come. I can bring what your man can't bring. I come in different sizes, different colors, different shapes. I have a hook. I can't. I'm like. But see, I don't even look at.

[Ashley Nicole]

That kind of lesbianism, because, like, then just get a real one now.

[Sherelle Rosado]

She. She be. Listen, she be selling these girls dreams. She tell them what she hit them with that line, and she'd be pulling them. Girl, did you take this? This man's woman? My girl. I ain't even gonna put her name out there, but did you take this man's woman?

[Ashley Nicole]

That's crazy. I mean, I don't know. I don't know. I would say no. This is cheating. Is cheating, whether it's a man or a woman. And I think, you know, y'all have to address that, first of all. Second of all, like, you need to ask your lady, your wife, like, are you a lesbian? Have you been a lesbian this whole time? Like, is this something new? Like, I feel like that's a conversation they need to sort out, because then that changes things. Because if you're not into men, then what we doing? Like, why are we, like, what? You know what I'm saying? So I feel like there's a few conversations that need to be had, but ultimately, like, she's cheating on you. And to me, that's the ultimate disrespect. That's the ultimate, like, you know, I just think that cheating is cheating. Whether it's with it doesn't make it less cheating because it's with another woman. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yeah, I definitely think that she's over the relationship from what she's saying to him, or she's taking him for granted and he just needs to, you know, be a man. Sounds like, you know, she don't even respect him as a man anymore to even say those things, to even step out like that. So he need to file for a divorce and teach her a lesson and get someone that can appreciate what he bring and what he do in bed.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I agree. Well, I hope we answered that question for him, because he don't need to go ask nobody else this. Don't tell nobody else. Don't go tell your best friend. Don't tell nobody. This is. Yeah, stay anonymous, sir. And go through that divorce. Exactly. Yeah, yeah.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Expeditiously.

[Ashley Nicole]

Absolutely. All right, do we have time for one more?

[Sherelle Rosado]

Yes, we got time for one more.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, let's see. Dear humble baddies, I've been absolutely loving your podcast and your unapologetic real talk approach to relationships, so let's dive into something that's often gets brushed under the rug. Open relationships. I've been with my man for a few years, and neither of us is interested in a Marriage for many reasons. I love him, but I have outgrown him. I need different things from our relationship, but he is not stepping up to the plate. I don't want to end our relationship, but I have some. But I have been considering asking him about having an open relationship so that I can still get those things that I don't get from him and maintain our relationship as well. I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

[Sherelle Rosado]

She sound like she wants that polyamorous type relationship. I mean, she want her cake and eat it too.

[Ashley Nicole]

I think, you know, it's cool that she's seems like she knows what she wants because I feel like a lot of women don't know what they want. It's like they know they want to be in a relationship or they know they want to be married. But what are the things you know? Like what are the specifics that you want? And it sounds like she knows and the person that she's with don't got those things. But she cares for him a lot. So I feel like at least she knows that this person isn't giving her what she wants. And it doesn't sound like she wants to settle. And I think she's open to sharing her thoughts about that with him, which I think is awesome. Now if that person don't seem like the person that would be open to having a conversation like that, then I don't even think you should go there with them. I think you should just let them go and you know, because that might break them. They might think you're their world. They might think that you think that they're your world too. And so I feel like that conversation could go really bad, really quick. So you know, you know your partner and you know what they're open to talking about and how open minded they are. If they're open minded, then I would say have the conversation. But if not, just let that man go. Just let that man go.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I feel like she's been. I respect her for coming to him before venturing out and having a conversation. But it sounds like she want wants her cake and eat it too and present it to him. If he's, if this is not what he's asking for, then you have to move on. You can't continue to play with his emotions. Yeah, but be careful because that's a serious game to play with. Be careful what you ask for because when he start venturing off and doing things, are you mentally prepared for that? Are you ready for that? To see the man that you are, that you love with another woman loving on another woman.

[Ashley Nicole]

Maybe she wants one of those relationships where it's just her with multiple boyfriends and not him with multiples. I don't know. I never understand the rules with these open relationships. It's not for me. I don't know. I don't know what you can and can't do.

[Sherelle Rosado]

I don't know.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, no. Is my phone. Is this gonna die? Okay. All right. I got 5% left, so.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Well, baby, have the conversation. We wish y'all the best, but you cannot expect to do what you want to do and strangle this man alone.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I agree. Figure it out and figure it out quick.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Well, we thank you guys so much for tuning in. Our girl Lexus is out. We thank you guys. If y'all have any questions, y'all have any concerns y'all have, Want any advice from us, make sure you guys hit us up. Humble Baddies Podcast until next time. We'll see y'all Monday.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm Ashley Nicole. We out.

[Sherelle Rosado]

Love you. Follow and subscribe.

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[Ashley Nicole]

Who's paying for the mattress topper?

[Sherelle Rosado]

You mean the beanbag chair?

[Ashley Nicole]

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[Sherelle Rosado]

Glad we can agree on something easily.

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