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A
This is an I Heart podcast. Got what you need? Baby, won't you keep me company? Give me something to do when I get lonely. I got something for you when we get home if you let me back. Hey, girl.
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B
I miss you.
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A
I know. I miss you too.
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B
Man, this summer is flying by. I feel like I. I mean, Paris wasn't that long ago, but I feel like I haven't seen you forever.
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A
It's been crazy. It. It seemed like the kids just got out of school, and now I'm school shopping, getting ready to send one off to college and the other one back to school.
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B
Oh, look, girl, you got all age groups. You got, you got, you don't.
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A
Don't even remind me. I don't even know why I started over. Oh, my goodness, girl. But. But it's fun. It's fun. I can't complain. I'm excited. The weekend was amazing. I actually was in. I missed the last show because I was in Texas. I started a new team there, you know, and they are killing it. You know, we got together, we had a great event. We networked. We. I got to meet all my Texas agents. I stopped by my favorite restaurant, Taste in Houston. So anybody, if you ever want some good soul food, some good brunch, make sure you check out Taste in Houston. The food was amazing, but other than that, I've been, you know, doing what I do, keeping busy.
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B
That's what's up. That's what's up. Well, congratulations on. The new office is taken over. I'm so proud of you. Like, you're really killing it. So many women, so many realtors in general, they really look up to you. And I know this is only the beginning anyway, so look forward to everything that you bring to the real estate industry. Girl, you're killing it. Thank you, boo.
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A
Thank you. I try. I try. How you been? What's been going on with you?
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B
Girl, I just been here with these children and my husband. This weekend was probably one of our slowest weekends that we've had in a long time. So we were just really relaxing at the house. Relaxing means still keeping these kids busy, but just slow. Just being able to hang out at home by the pool, just have a drink, put some food on the grill. I really be needing that sometimes because we just be moving so fast, doing so, so much, and sometimes really just need a second to, like, chill at the house. I really needed that.
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A
Right? Yeah, I feel you on that. I'm ready for, like, every time I feel like I have a minute to relax. I don't because it's something else coming. A project coming, agents calling. I got an event or I want to spend some time and, you know, go on vacation, take my little weekend trip. But yeah, hey, I'll rest one day.
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B
We need the rest. Rest is needed. You gotta schedule that.
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A
So my question. Have you been watching Love Island?
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B
Well, no, I don't watch that. That is not for me. Okay. Like, I know it's taking over the world right now. I know everybody is watching Love island and it come on, like, every night, right? Y' all are literally tuning in every night to watch this.
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A
It's done. Last night was the season finale and they picked the winner and the world was.
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B
I gotta hear no more about no damn Love Island. I think I'm too old for this. Like, I don't know. I just. I literally didn't watch one episode. Nothing about it just made me want to watch it. But go ahead, let me hear who so I was.
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A
I felt the same way. But of course I have Ariana in the house and her friends come over and I just get sucked right into it. So I didn't catch it. I tried to. Yesterday was a relaxation day for me. So I was like, let me start from episode one.
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B
Okay.
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A
I got through it and I did develop some favorites. What's my girl name from Alabama? Ola. I forgot they know who I'm talking about. The one from Alabama, she's. She's my favorite and I was hoping that she would win. Her and Nick.
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B
So what is the show? So it's like a dating show and it gets down to one couple?
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A
Well, it was down to four couples. So couples come in and out, they mix and mingle.
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B
We gotta vote for them.
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You have to vote each week.
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B
So it's like Survivors but love.
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A
Yes. You gotta prove your real love. And if you are. If you become a, you know, a fan, sometimes you get guilty by association. So if one of the girls start dating a guy who the fans don't like, then they don't like that girl. It's crazy how. How it is, but shout out to the winners. I forgot her name. They. The people who the love.
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B
The.
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A
The people who watch the show know who it is. Shout out to them. I actually. Actually did like them too. They were Dominican, but they won. They won a hundred thousand. And you have, I think, what my daughter stated. She said you. Whoever gets the envelope, they decide if they want to keep it or share it, split it. But I think they decided to donate to a charity with their money.
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B
How much money?
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A
They win a hundred thousand. But the crazy thing is they make so much money off of sponsorship deals. Yeah, it's crazy. I was like, I wish we had that back when we were coming up in our early 20s.
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B
Well, I also heard they also was passing around STDs. All of them had herpes, bumps on their lips, and all these challenges.
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A
No, no. Okay. So. So I. That's not true. So my stepdaughter, we. She auditioned for Love Island. So before you even get even during the. The stage of them interviewing you, you have to go through an extensive back. A mental health check, extensive STD check, all of that, all the way up. So they do an extensive. You have to go through so many met. Go through medical.
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B
People have herpes, though, and they was. They was. They was showing the herpes and outbreaks, and they was all kissing each other. And the challenges. This is what I. I could.
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A
I couldn't do that, though. I couldn't do that because I'm very germaphobic. And if you kiss one person and you coming to kiss the next one, I would have passed.
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B
That's why I said, this is for these new kids. I can'. Do that. I can't get. I'm gonna be the whole time watching. Like, that's what I was like.
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I was like, how can y' all do this? Like, you go from kissing this one to kissing this one. Y' all just sharing.
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B
Yeah. Okay. Would you do a show like that, though, if it was, like, maybe a little bit more mature or, like. Yeah, more mature.
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Yeah. If it was. If. If it was a more mature show, I would, but if it came down to kissing, I wouldn't.
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B
Yeah.
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A
I mean, I'll be like, just kiss me right here on the cheek. I do not like kissing, and I have to really love you to kiss you. And even when I love you, if your hygiene ain't right or if your breath st. You ain't kissing me. I'm sorry.
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B
Okay. Well, child, yeah, I'm gonna get into the Love island. No matter what nobody said to me and everybody was talking about. I just was like, I only have, like, this much time to watch tv, and it's not gonna be watching that.
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A
But it was actually it. You can get sucked into it for sure. Definitely. You can get sucked into Love Island. But it wasn't bad. I enjoyed it. I fell in love with some of the couples. I even, you know, teared up a little. But, yes, it was so cute. Alondra. Nick. Nick and Alondra was the names. Those were my Favorites. I was reading the the fan mail. It was so cute.
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B
Nice. Not you crying over these little children.
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A
They are so cute together. I hope that they find love off the village.
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B
Okay.
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They should have won, in my opinion. Okay, so y' all tell me who y' all think should have won. I'm. I'm team Nick and Alondra. Alondra and Nick. She'll be my girl now. Enough of Love island. Because Ashley can't get into it. I mean, I'm barely getting into it because I just jumped on the bandwagon, but I am a team of Love island, so definitely will be keeping up with the next season that comes out. Okay, let's get into it. Cash doll, natural era and why it's a big deal. So you've been noticing Cash doll have. Have been wearing. She's been going around bare face, no weave, no makeup, and she is looking good. Cash doll just let the world know that her man loves her more when she's natural. And she's been confidently showing up with fresh skin, no makeup, and embracing her glow. But in a world obsessed with perfection, is natural beauty finally back in style?
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B
Yeah. I mean, I think, first of all, most men love when their women don't wear, you know, makeup and all the hair extensions and stuff. I mean, I know Phil always used to say that to me. Like, I love when you. You don't have any makeup on, blah, blah, blah. But I think most men do prefer, like, when their women are, you know, in their natural state. And. And for some reason, like, when you go out looking raggedy to the gas station, to Walmart real quick, that's when most guys be trying to holler. So it's something about just being in your most bare au natural state that really turns men on. Because I feel like it's like, oh, well, if you look this good when you're a bear, then, you know, when you get all done up, you must really be fine. I don't know. In my head, that's what I'm thinking, but I think everything is, you know, it comes in waves. Like, I think, you know, makeup trends, hair trends, all of these trends, they come and go. I don't think necessarily that their being there went out of style ever. I just think that people just stopped doing it because of social media and because social media is so present, at any moment, there's a camera, somebody's taking pictures of you. You know, everybody wanted to make sure they look good. So I think that's why that look kind of might seem like it Went away. But I don't think bare face and natural, you know, makeup and stuff like that and hair was ever out of style.
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A
Right. I feel like, in my opinion, I like both. Like, at first, I felt like I needed to go around and wear makeup. Everywhere I had to go, I needed to put on makeup. But like you said, when I was in relationships, they like the freckles, they like for this to show. They like the natural face, everything. Now I'm starting to embrace the natural look more. I got. Except I gotta have my lashes, but I'm starting to embrace the natural look more because when I put on makeup, I get hit with, oh, she look old. Instead of there, I'd be like, oh, don't put on a lot of makeup. Don't do this. I don't like it because it's hard for makeup artists to even do my makeup and to blend, and it makes it worse that I have freckles. So to try to keep the freckles showing, to try to make sure it's blended, it's a lot of work. And I have to go through a test and trial every time if I'm going trying out a new makeup artist.
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B
For sure, the makeup are a rare, a rarity. So don't cover them freckles up.
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A
I don't. So now I started. I don't have on anything right now, but what I've started doing now is getting mineral, like a little glow to put on my face, and just going out like that. Unless I really need a beat.
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B
Yes. I lean towards wearing makeup. I love to beat my face down. I have, like, best friends who are makeup artists, so they kind of taught me how to beat my face. So my face. I'm gonna beat my face. But I have gotten my skin care down to perfection to where now I'm, like, right now I don't have anything, just lip gloss and lashes. But. But yeah, so now I'm like, I'm more into the skincare side of things so that I can go and feel confident in my own skin without makeup, which I think is refreshing, because you know when your skin is bad and even when it. Or, like, your skin was bad, and you just see, like, the remnants of when your skin was bad, like, you do just want to cover it up. You are less confident. So I think it's just great, too, that we are seeing more women step out and be more natural. Especially somebody like Kashda, because she's, like, a super confident, like, bad bitch personality, and she's, like, showing women, like, we can still be bad bitches and be natural. And bare face. And she used to have the. Her. Whoever used to be doing her. Oh, my God. Like, the way they used to layer her hair. Like perfection. So see her out here, like, yeah, my man likes me like this. Like, I love it. I'm here for it.
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A
I love it, too. Have you ever felt like your natural look wasn't enough? I know I have. Like, it took me a minute. Especially in my younger days. I used to always spend so much money just to go look good. And I felt like me looking good was having on a full face of makeup.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And just walking around natural, I just felt like it wasn't enough for me. I felt like in order to impress my man, I needed to have my face done up. I needed to do all this. I needed to look glam. It was a lot. But as I started to embrace my natural look, my freckles, my little tiny eyes, my little lips, I started to love my natural look even more.
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B
Yeah, I think we all go through that. I think all women have gone through times where we just feel like we need to do something to make ourselves look like. And I think just with growing up and being more confident in yourself, it kind of. You kind of find what works for you too, you know, I think that because I've been in a relationship for so long, like, I never really felt pressed to go out and look a certain way to, you know, find a man or nothing like that. So I never really had that pressure. But I feel like the pressure for me more so is to look good amongst other women. You know what I mean? Other women put more pressure on you to, like, do the most. Like, if you're. You ain't got all the inches down your back and you don't got your lashes done, you don't got, you know, the best makeup artist. You don't have the best clothes. Like, I feel like trying to keep up with other women will make you feel like you gotta do, you know?
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And you know what? What else put pressure on me? I was in the military for 13 years. You was in the military. And you know how strict they were on us. No makeup, no lashes, no nails, no this. And another reason why I felt like I needed makeup, because it was so much crazy pressure on looking like a little boy all the time with your hair pulled back and you couldn't wear nothing. You couldn't get glammed up. It was hard to get glammed up. And you were so tired. You had the weekend, but you were so tired. So now that I'm out, I went. I did go through a stage where I just wanted to put on makeup. I couldn't be going nowhere. I. I just wanted makeup on my face.
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B
Yeah.
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So I blame the military, too.
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I'm tired out here. For women, just really finding, like, that balance of what makes you feel comfortable and confident without overdo doing it, you know?
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A
That's true. What's one insecurity you had to unlearn about yourself?
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B
One insecurity. You know what I hated the most growing up was being skinny. Yeah. Because, you know, everybody. You know, I went to a predominantly black high school, and it was like a lot of Hispanics. So the girls was filled out. Okay. They have bodies early. And I did not. I started my period later than most of the girls. So I was very much just straight up and down. And, you know, people used to pick on me and, you know, call me all kind of names because I was skinny. And so I feel like that was, like, probably my biggest insecurity. And then I started modeling, and I got signed with all the biggest insecurities. Agencies in the country. I got signed with Ford. I signed with Click, and then I started making money. And then those insecurities started.
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Went away. Like, what? I'm glad I'm this size. Yes. You know, we used to always get picked on growing up in high. Middle school. High school. Skinny pancake booty. This, that, and the third, but. And the women who did have the shapes. Now, I hate to say it, but, baby, I was like, I thank God I was skinny, I was athletic. You know, I'm still working out because the ones that y' all wanted in high school, y' all don't even look that way no more. They are huge.
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B
Yeah. Yeah.
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Some of them.
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B
Yeah. I. I do thank God for genetics and for being a late bloomer, because, yeah, I mean, late bloomers thank God for being a late bloomer.
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A
And it was the ones that was thick that used to pick on the skinny ones. The females, too. Y' all know who y' all was picking on. Those skinny girls in high school and middle school. But that's what. And that's what I tell my daughter. I was like, she's going through this stage where she got a drink insurer. I'm like, no. I said, just stay your size, because when you get older like us, that weight gonna slowly start creeping up.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So just. Just be happy how you are right now. Don't. Don't force it. Don't force the weight up on you.
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B
Yeah. Now, insecurity.
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A
What's that? Oh, yeah, you do them things. Nah, don't feed me barking.
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B
No, they don't be barking because I keep them clean.
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A
No, you keep them cleaning.
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They don't be barking. They just. I keep a muzzle on them. You know what I'm saying? They just. They not the cutest feet.
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A
Your feet look like fingers.
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B
You know what I'm saying? That's still an insecurity that I have. I don't think it's going anywhere anytime soon, but it's cool. Like, God bless me.
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A
But you got your husband. That's all that matter. And your husband loved him.
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B
He was just.
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You do, Ashley, you be like, no, don't look at my feet. Don't look at my feet.
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B
You know, God can't give us everything. It's all right.
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A
Yes, but he blessed you with a beautiful face, beautiful body. You, you good girl. I'd rather have. I'd rather have feet with muzzles on them than, you know, a jacked up face, period.
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B
Okay. You done made it this long. It's fine.
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A
Yes, but in regards to overall makeup, I feel like the real flex is when you're confident. Confident either way.
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B
Yeah.
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And more. And if more women started celebrating, whether, you know, it's natural beauty or, you know, full glam, not just online, but also in real life, will be unstoppable, period.
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B
So.
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So definitely, you know, embrace it. Embrace your natural beauty. Embrace glam, whichever one. But don't allow a man. Do not allow a man. You shouldn't allow a man to force you or to. To, you know, make you force you into the natural beauty.
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B
That's what I was gonna say because she said she did it because that's what her man like. And it's like, yeah, but is that what you like? You know what I mean? Like, let's make sure that we're not just totally changing our whole personality are and what we like for our man. You know what I mean?
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A
Right.
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So that's true. Because then things. Because then what's next? What if he's like, well, I don't like you hanging out with her, or I don't like you going there. It's like, you know, once you start. Especially this man is not your husband. Once you start conforming to things because that's what your man like, he's to.
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Going, you start living for him and not yourself. And then that's where the unhappiness and.
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B
Everything else another leads to another child.
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And I've been in relationships my previous Relationship, you know, they embraced everything. But I've been in a relationship before where it was like, I want you like this. I want you to dress like this. And eventually you get tired and wore out, and you're like, I'm living for. I need to be living for myself. Why am I doing everything that you want, but then you go out and sleep with this, that, and the third, the opposite of what you want from me.
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B
Yeah. Be careful going down that road of doing it, because that's what my man like.
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So you definitely do. So do it because you want to do it, not because, you know, I mean, you take your man advice, but also do it because you want to do it.
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B
Right.
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A
Get into it. You heard about what your president done. Quietly do.
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B
Oh, my gosh.
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Why he quietly removed ML Martin Luther King's statue and why is it so solid? So I've seen it on a few blogs, but that's something that should have, like, really hit the headlines.
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B
Right.
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There's been very little media coverage, but it's been reported that Donald Trump quietly removed the Martin Luther King Jr. Statue from its longtime display at the White House. And people are barely talking about it. Why is that?
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B
I don't know. That's really crazy. I mean, I feel like he's doing something all the time, so it's not surprising. You know what I mean? But this is something. I mean, Martin Luther King, even if you are not into civil rights, you don't know nothing about nothing. You know who Martin Luther King Jr. Is and you know his important importance in our country's history. So, yeah, it's crazy that this isn't making waves like it should be. But it's also not surprising that it's not because, you know, it's one of our heroes. You know what I mean? And I don't know, Trump. It just doesn't surprise me at this point. Honestly, nothing does. This president feels like it's been going on for forever and we only, what, six months in, seven months in.
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A
I feel like, you know, the fact that it happened and it barely made the headlines tell you everything about how the country treat black history.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And the leaders. Because, I mean, it's like you. You're silently and slowly erasing African American history.
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B
Right.
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They stop talking about it in the schools. They're slowly stop talking about it in schools. They're, you know, taking.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Memories away.
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B
Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I just. I really don't understand. What was his point in moving? It was.
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A
Did it like.
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B
Did he say Anything or did he just moved it? Nothing. No, nothing else with it.
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Nothing else with it. It was just removed from it where it was displayed, and I think it was placed somewhere else. I gotta read into it. But it's just. It's sad. Like, why are you coming in here, making all these changes, especially for people who fought and risked their lives, you know, they did something great for America, because I guarantee you, if it was somebody else, if. Let's. If a black president came in and moved somebody, you know, move George Washington. Exactly. It would have been a World War Three.
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Right.
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Crazy. It's crazy how it is. How, you know, we're silently. How they're silently just, you know, erasing African American history. And it's not right.
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It really isn't.
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That's why it's important for us as parents, because they're taking it out of the schools to continue to teach. To teach what, you know, what was what. Our. What our. What we fought for, what our ancestors fought for. It's very important to teach that because eventually the way that they carrying on.
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B
Yeah.
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A
The history is going to be erased.
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B
Yeah. No, you're right. You know, I was just talking to somebody, like, other parts of the world, like in Africa, too, they are not teaching about, you know, black history, the slave trade, all of that stuff. They're not teaching it. It's not just in America, which is. I had no idea. So we really do have to be smart about it. We have to be intentional about teaching our children and keeping history alive and, you know, making it a point that we don't let things like this just go by. We can't just let the media let this slip by like that. We can't just not say anything. Like, we really have to put our foot down and, you know, say something. Because like you said, if we just keep letting things go, soon it's not going to be nothing left.
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And I read something where they were trying to take the first African American pilots out of military. Out of the military history. It's so much.
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B
The Tuskegee Airmen.
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A
Yes, the Tuskegee Airmen. They're trying to take that. Well, I don't know if it's implemented, but it's just. It's so much that's slowly being erased, and no one's talking about it or even trying to fight for it.
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B
Thanks. Yeah.
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We gotta get better. You guys gotta stick together and get better. All right. Some good news. So it's a bittersweet, the fact that, you know, Teddy Bridgewater, apparent, allegedly, he got fired for Doing what school the school wouldn't do.
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B
So, yeah.
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The story. TED Teddy Bridgewater, former NFL quarterback, has been removed as head coach at Miami Northwestern High after he admitted in a Facebook post that he paid out of pocket to support his players, including meals, transportations and recovery needs. Instead of being praised, the school suspended him. Teddy clapped back, saying, you can't fire someone who doesn't work for you. And he, he also stated that he was still going to support, even if he have to support in the bleachers.
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B
Well, somebody needs to be awarding this man, like, and mind you, they had.
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Just won, I think, the championship. So I feel like it's more than that. Like, when I was growing up, my coach, because my mom was a single mom, you know, she was working and I ran track, my coach went out his way to make sure his top players, make sure his players, you know, were where they needed to be, whether it's track, going to track practice, going home late practices, involved in different things. You need more people like that in your life.
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B
Everybody knows it takes a village, first of all, and especially in our, you know, our black neighborhoods, our black schools, like, we need our black men stepping up in this way. So that's just crazy to me that somebody would want to suspend him and keep him from being such, you know, a great part of the community. And they said that he doesn't even really work there. So.
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A
I feel like it's, it's more personal. It. Reading it really got up under my skin because I came from a place where I didn't have all the help, like I said before. So it's, it, I feel like it's, it's more personal than, than, you know, whatever they doing is a personal vendetta or something.
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B
Same one. So obviously whatever he's doing is helping. So I'm not understanding the, whoever is against him. I'm not understanding, you know, what foot they have to stand on, because clearly, whatever he's doing, it's working, it's helping. He sounds like an amazing person in these children's lives. And, yeah, I just, I, we all know how much it takes to, how much of a village it takes to help raise these kids, to help get them to their practices, how much things cost, and he's paying for things out of his own pocket. He's not doing anything illegal.
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A
Like, I'm, it's not like he's benefiting.
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B
From, I'm not finding financially where it went wrong here for him, and I hope they make it up to him, and I hope somebody comes to their senses and calls them out on this because, you know, what if this deters other people, other men from helping and wanting to step up and, you know, help out in the community like that? I don't.
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A
The fact that he said he. He'll sit in the bleachers and still support and help, it shows that he's a great leader and he loves his community. It's like, it's rare to find black strong leaders like that in the first place. And now y' all want to come in and tear this man down. And he's. All he's doing is supporting the community, right? All he's. All he is doing is helping these kids who. Parents probably growing. Some of them probably growing up in single, you know, households. Some of them. Here we go with this again. Some of them are growing up in single households. Some of them, the parents need the help, and you want to come down and. And mess things up. It's not right.
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B
It's not. I wonder what the parents are saying. I wonder if, you know, was there a meeting? They said that there's no investigation, but he doesn't work for the school, so how could there really be an investigation? Like, I wonder what the ins and outs are. I wonder what the conversation. I wonder what the students are saying, what the parents are saying. I just kind of want to know because outside looking in, this sounds crazy as hell, honestly. It really does.
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A
It definitely does. It sounds like something. Some personal situations.
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B
So we hope it works out and that petty Bridgewater can get back to doing what he was doing. Because you can tell that this is probably like, a passion of his to, you know, go out of his way and do what he's been doing. Hopefully they figure it out and they bring down whoever was trying to bring him down.
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A
Yes, we got to get better. We got to continue to support our community. Do. Do you feel like support. Why is supporting our own communities. Communities often punished instead of praised?
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B
You know, maybe it's like that crab in a barrel type of thing or somebody wants to get the praise. You know, I don't know. I just feel like. I don't know. I think people just get wrapped up in the wrong things and they forget the reason why. You know, we do charity work, and while we are helping, like, what's the reason? What are we here for? What's the purpose? You know, people get locked up in their own personal wants and needs. Things can get political. Things can just, you know, like I said, have nothing to do with the reason that we're even there. So I know it's unfortunate, but it happens. And that's why you have to make sure you have the right people in place that can keep a balance, a check in balance and everything.
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A
Yep, that's true. That's definitely true. You have to keep that check in balance. Like I said, we didn't have those issues growing up. You know, my coach would go in and go out the way for us to make sure we were good. I mean, it was a small town, most of us grew up in single parent households. So we needed that support and that help. And I feel like, you know, people trying to tear another man who's trying to help down, a black man who's trying to help is not right. Like we supposed to be supporting each other and just support him. Like all he's doing, all he is doing is just helping the community. Let's get into it. So make sure y' all support. Y' all go over there and support our boy Teddy down in Miami. Gabe said he sent you the humble Betty's mail. Ashley, do you got it?
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B
Yeah, I do have it. Is this time for him to humble Betty's mail already?
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A
It's already time.
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B
Alrighty.
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A
I'm under the weather right now. I don't know what's going on. I smell sound like a. I got this cough sounding like a smoker's car last week. I don't know what it is.
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B
Yeah, okay, well, our humble baddie's mail is from Brandon in West Texas.
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A
Okay. Brandon from West Texas. All right. He said, I love Texas. I. I think I. I was thinking about, I mean, to cut you off, I was thinking about relocating to Dallas.
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B
What? Okay.
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A
I love it there.
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B
I don't know. I've only been to Texas a couple times and it's been okay. But nothing about it that I was like. Except for like. You could buy a big ass house there though.
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A
Yes. And the land. I miss my country living.
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B
That's the only thing I was like. But other than that, I was like.
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A
No, I could see myself living there for sure.
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B
I know they say like Houston is like the similar to Atlanta.
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A
Girl, you seen them? Them what? Them STDs. The. The numbers on Houston in Texas.
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B
Cheryl. Well, you better wrap it up.
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A
Oh, I ain't. You said we doing all that now.
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B
No, I'm just playing.
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A
Okay.
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B
What's up, Shirelle? I'm not the type to put myself out there like this, but I had to shoot my shot because real recognize real. Okay. It's.
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A
Oh, no, no, no, no.
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B
Put the hotline now all of a sudden?
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A
Okay, this is not the humble baddie's hotline, all right?
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B
Okay. I've been following you for a minute, and truthfully, it's not just your beauty that caught me. It's the way you move. You lead with purpose, handle your business with grace, and still manage to light up every room. That's rare. I work in the oil fields out in West Texas. Long days, real grind. But I built a solid, peaceful life. No drama, no clout chasing. Just growth, loyalty, and vibes. And from what I see, you match that energy. So, respectfully, if you're open to it, I like to take you out sometime. Good food, good combo. No games. Just something real with a man who truly sees you. Let me show you different. I'll be Lady. Brandon.
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A
Brandon first. I don't even know who you are and how you look. See, y'.
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B
All.
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A
Y' all play too much. Y' all play too much. Well, first of all, thank you, Brandon, for that sweet message, but I'm currently off the market.
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B
She's off the market.
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A
Officially.
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B
Officially. Ring the bell. Is there a bell? I need a bell.
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A
I didn't say you did. You said you off the market. I'm not dating anyone right now.
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B
Oh, so you're. You're just not dating, but you're not off the market? I'm just trying to clear this up for Brandon.
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A
Brandon, thank you so much for the sweet messages. Okay, is that clear enough?
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B
I mean, I guess so. I mean, Brandon, you might have to do a little more than send in.
- [37:49]
A
A Hubble Bat email. First of all, we don't even know how Brandon look.
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B
I mean, he must be confident. We know that the. Right. Such a nice letter to you. First to read on Humble Baddies. I mean, he's probably decent looking. Is he that confident?
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A
I need pictures.
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B
Okay. What's in the picture?
- [38:14]
A
Well, I really don't need. I. I just want to be curious to see who you are. But, yeah, I just want to be curious to see who you are. So send a picture, Brandon, if you watching this.
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B
Okay, well, thank you, Brandon. If you guys want to write to Cherelle or.
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A
Oh, no, ma'. Am.
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B
Send pictures, send bank statements.
- [38:38]
A
No, I did not say all this.
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B
Have as much information as possible. Okay? So thank you guys for writing into Humble Baddies. Please write again if you have questions. If you need advice, write to. What is it? Contact humblebaddies.com. yeah, we will love to read, you know, your mail. No.
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A
No more. No more. We thank you guys for another episode of Humble Baddies. We're gonna let Ashley go because she has to go 10 to her son's basketball game. We love y'. All. Until Wednesday. We will see y'.
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B
All.
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A
Make sure y' all follow us at home Baddies podcast. Follow us on Instagram. Charrell Rosado, underscore Ashley. Where can they find you?
- [39:21]
B
Find me at Ashley Nicole. And Ashley, underscore Nicole on. What's it called?
- [39:29]
A
Snapchat.
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B
Yeah. Yeah.
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A
You look like you're going to referee the game with that black and white on there yelling all you miss. You're welcome. I do.
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B
I be out there yelling and screaming. You know, feel the coach so the parents be looking at.
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A
Oh, Lord.
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B
Yeah. All right, I'm gonna go. Bye. All right.
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A
Love y'.
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B
All.
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A
Bye.
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B
Sam.
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A
This is an I Heart podcast.