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Ashley Nicole
So what it's gonna be Baby Squatter.
Alexis Stoudemire
We finna go deep riding on a team.
Ashley Nicole
Got what you need Baby, won't you keep me company? Give me something to do when I.
Alexis Stoudemire
Get lonely I got something for you.
Ashley Nicole
When we get home.
Alexis Stoudemire
Hey. Hey, y'. All. Welcome back to another episod welcome to another episode of the Humble Baddies podcast. I'm your girl, Ashley Nicole.
Ashley Nicole
And I'm Alexis Stoudemire. And we're the Humble Baddies.
Alexis Stoudemire
The Humble Baddies back with another great episode. Me and Lex, we've been out, we've been busy, been traveling this summer, but we're here holding it down for Sherrelle and Portia today. So I'm happy to be back, y'. All. I missed y'.
Ashley Nicole
All.
Alexis Stoudemire
What you been up to, girl?
Ashley Nicole
Nonstop. My babies just got back from camp. The boys just got back from sleepaway camp safely and sound. So that was good. Assata has been home. She just got back from LA visiting her friend that was her roommate back in the dorm at img. And I just returned back from being away in the mountains. A friend of mine was like, come through, relax and get recalibrated, because I realized I haven't. And rested and really took some time of solitude and quiet and just relaxation and really over 18 months. And since I just finished school and was in the restaurant and we were filming and just lots of things going on with just with life, it was good timing to like, really just unplug and really just, like, tap into, like, myself and really just have a good time. So it was just beautiful to be out in nature and have some cooler weather and relax and just really just be. Just be still. It was really a blessing to do.
Alexis Stoudemire
Beautiful. That sounds. Rest is definitely needed.
Ashley Nicole
It is.
Alexis Stoudemire
Especially us mamas. We definitely need to make sure we schedule our rest time just like we schedule everything else for everybody else.
Ashley Nicole
Correct.
Alexis Stoudemire
Good for you, boo. That's what's up. Well, I just got back from Essence Festival. It was my very first time going to Essence Festival, and I'm kind of mad at myself because why was I not going? All these other years, all these years, I've been hearing everybody talk about essence, Essence Fest, Essence Fest. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm a go. I'm a go. And, girl, the Essence Fest is amazing. Like, why was I not there?
Ashley Nicole
Well, you know, it's good timing for everything.
Alexis Stoudemire
So I actually got booked to speak on a panel at Essence Fest, so absolutely everything. I definitely want to be more intentional about where I am, you know, the places that I take time away from my children from. And I definitely feel like this experience was worth It. I got to take my mom with me, so that was cool. I know she was, like, really proud to see her baby girl up on the stage. Just to be, you know, in a festival that celebrates black women, that celebrate, you know, black culture, you know, music and business. I mean, the energy at Essence Fest is. It's just top notch. And it was a great time. I really enjoyed myself. I hope I get to go back again, and I hope I get to, you know, do more things like panelists and hosting and stuff like that. I'm definitely leaning into that, you know, so it was just an overall, a great experience. I will say I am tired to sell because people in New Orleans, they don't go to sleep. Honey, the concert.
Ashley Nicole
We did. We did. We did. We did figure that out when we were up there in February.
Alexis Stoudemire
I thought it was just like the super bowl thing. No, that's like their everyday thing, honey. The. The concert every night didn't until 3:00 clock in the morning. Still coming out. I was just like, the fire marshal not gonna kick us out no time soon. Like, the people just kept coming out. Master P brought on about 50, 11,000 people on stage with him. I mean, it was. It was a good ass time. It was a good ass time.
Ashley Nicole
I love that. What was the panel Speak. What were you. What segment or a panel where you.
Alexis Stoudemire
The panel that I did is they have a bunch of panels. Honestly, there's something for everybody there. The panel that I did was for the ESSENCE main stage. And our conversation was about the impact of reality tv. I was on there with another young lady from Love and Marriage, Huntsville, and our moderator, Shelby, she's an ESSENCE editor, she just basically asked us a lot of questions just in relation to obviously reality tv, you know, what did we take from it? You know, how were we able to build our brand from it? What are the pros and cons? How did you, you know, decide if you wanted to be on there or not? So it was just, you know, a cute little conversation. Nothing too serious, but it was just fun to, like, show our faces and give some, like, behind the scenes, you know, details about, you know, being on reality tv. So.
Ashley Nicole
That's awesome.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, girl. So I definitely want to go back, definitely want to, you know, talk about some other things. But, yeah, hopefully I'll be back in 2026.
Ashley Nicole
I know that you gotta speak it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Gotta speak it. Yeah, girl. Absolutely. So before we. Well, actually, let's get into tonight's episode. Gonna be a good one, y'. All. First of all, cheating through the Notes app is the sneakiest trend yet. Have you heard about cheating through the Notes app, Alexis?
Ashley Nicole
Just recently for prepping, I've been, I've been unplugged. So, you know, it's just, I'm, I'm catching up to what's been. Been happening. The happenings.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, I mean, I think I, I did see a post about it, but I guess people are literally like doing the most these days. They're getting very creative when they trying to cheat out here. Cheating in 2025 has officially entered its ninja era. Forget about the DMs and hidden apps. People are now using the iPhone Notes app to cheat. It's silent, sneaky, and leaves no trace unless you go looking for it. With the shared note feature, two people can carry on a private combo with no text alerts or screenshots. Just quiet betrayal in plain sight. And trust us, people are getting creative. So have you ever found, have you ever found something suspicious in someone's note app?
Ashley Nicole
I have found something suspicious in a shared. The shared notes, but it's only because it was like a contract or something like pages, so it wasn't really like. And suspicious meaning, like you should take out the name. So I thought that was, you know, like I shouldn't be seeing that. You know what I mean? So it wasn't really suspicious like, oh, like whatever. It's just like the privacy thing. You have to remember, you have to turn it off. It's like a Google Doc. You have to unlock it or lock it to where you have to decide who you're sharing it with too. I know I have sent notes to people and not to be sneaky, but just like to collaborate with. That's what it's for. And then they make their notes and you have to be careful because you can speak. You could do speak your notes too, so that can pick up conversations and things like that. You can add pictures. It's a lot that you can do. Now if we're stooping to that, to where you're cheating, I don't want it. You know what I mean? I think it's. You're starting to just really be very creative, which is taking away time. And so if you gotta sneak through notes, apps and all these other ways, you know, of communication, that's another way of distress. So, you know, to me, everyone's gonna find some fault in something, you know, especially if you're already thinking like, I need to cheat and I always, I need to cover it up or I need to like, make it look like is Something that's not. Those are already, like, telltale signs that you're not in a. You know, it's a red flag. It's a. You're not in a stable situation. So it's unfortunate now that people have to, like, look at their notes. But I don't want it if you got to be doing all that.
Alexis Stoudemire
Right. That's.
Ashley Nicole
That's not what it's for.
Alexis Stoudemire
I mean, to be dating somebody and have to worry about their notes now is insane. I mean, I feel like, you know, at some point when you're dating, especially when you're young, like, you. You have insecurities. Everybody has insecurities. Everybody is like, at some point looks over like, oh, who they texting? Or who are they DMing or, you know, whose page are they stalking? You know, I feel like we all have had that feeling. You know what I mean? But if it gets to the point where I'm nervous about the notes, honey, I just feel like that's a lot of energy, you know, That's a lot of energy to, you know, like you said was on, you know, worrying and checking because, you know, people are going to do what they want to do anyway. You got to just let them. But it's technology. It's crazy how technology, you know, we love technology, but it can be a gift and a curse at the same time. I actually saw another post too, recently where a guy and a girl. The guy was sharing his screen to their tv and they were like, listening to music or something, and he got up and went to the bathroom and he texted another girl and he forgot his damn phone was.
Ashley Nicole
Oh, he's screen sharing.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yes, he was screen sharing with his tv. So the girl just sitting on the couch reading him, reading the text to Keisha. He talking about what you got on and can I come see you and all kind of stuff. Child, I'm just like, how you gonna be smart and stupid at the same time? Because you. You clearly. You know how to use your phone good. You screen sharing and all that, but then you stupid because you forgot to turn it off before you went in the bathroom. Child, people just really be doing the most honestly and just so sloppy. What the hell?
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, no, that's not. That's not what we're doing.
Alexis Stoudemire
So is this martyr cheating or is it just a digital version of the same?
Ashley Nicole
Well, it's a digital deceit. That's what it is. At the end of the day, it's just being deceitful because whatever you wouldn't do in front of your Partner, to me, is considered cheating. And if you're not going to talk about it and they don't know who you are and you're this totally different person behind their backs, then, yeah, no, it's not good. It's a red flag. I don't like it.
Alexis Stoudemire
That was my next question. So if you saw your partner using the Notes app to talk to someone intimately, would you consider that full blown cheating or is that just, you know, them being a little deceitful?
Ashley Nicole
It's very much deceitful because now it's like, okay, I didn't know this was a form of communication for you and this other person. So now it's a conversation that has to be had. And why is it that you know, now you're collaborating on Notes? Because it's like, you know, it connects to your. It's another way of, like text messaging and another way of, you know, emails are involved, personal information. So, yeah, I just think I would one, I wouldn't like it now. I just know it's sneaky and I just. That's one thing I try to avoid in dating in general. Like, really have to know who you're dealing with. And the beautiful blessing is I get to decide, you know, what I'm going to tolerate and who I want to be with. And if they already have these signs in a friendship dating period, I don't want it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, I agree. I think, you know, if I was to find out, you know, somebody I was dating was using the Notes app to cheat, I would just feel like you're trying to really get over on me, you know, and it doesn't even matter what the conversation is. It's just the fact that you went beyond like using regular text, using regular, you know, forms of communication. You going out your way to, like, be sneaky to me is like, it makes it 10 times worse because it's like, really didn't want me to see your true colors, you know, like, you're really going out your way to be a deceitful person. And I think that makes it 10 times worse because, like, what else would you do to this to be deceitful? What else? What am I not seeing? You know? So I feel like it kind of makes it worse, in my opinion. It's just like, not only are, you know, being deceitful, you going out your way, you being creative with it, you really taking your time to make sure I don't see this.
Ashley Nicole
So, yeah, and you can delete, you know, it's just a lot because it's Interesting, because I. We use the app for my mom. My mom has a collaborative with my sister and I with all her pertinent information. So it's like I always get an alert too, when she updates it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Ashley Nicole
You know, so it's just like. It's too much. Yeah, that's not good.
Alexis Stoudemire
It's a lot. I don't like it. So I got a bonus tea drop. One woman found a shared note between her boyfriend and another woman where they rated all the girls they were sleeping with, including her. Now, what the hell?
Ashley Nicole
See what I'm saying?
Alexis Stoudemire
Them notes, why are y' all rating girls y' all sleeping with? Like, what is this conversation? Can you imagine opening up?
Ashley Nicole
Cause it's a recurring. It's a recurring note so they can add to it and delete from it. So now that's the new, I guess, group chat way of collaborating.
Alexis Stoudemire
True collaborating on clout. Glad I'm not in these streets no more, honey. I am 2009.
Ashley Nicole
Well, that's why I'm ready to get back. Not in these streets. So I can, like, lock down with.
Alexis Stoudemire
Someone crazy out here. Okay. Yeah, it is. It's something new. It's something else. You know, day Tuesday is just. Yeah, it's a lot. All right, let's move on to our second segment. You got this one.
Ashley Nicole
All right, the second segment we have is Nicki Minaj versus Jay Z. Royalty, royal royalty, royalties, and silent beef. Nicki Minaj isn't staying quiet anymore. After years of speculation and behind the scenes tension, she's made it known that Jay Z, yes, the business mogul himself, owes her money. Whether it's royalties, bad contracts, or unreleased collaborations, she's fed up. While Jay stays silent, Nikki is subtly airing grievances and lyrics and social media and fans are split. Is she speaking her truth or burning bridges? So let's start the questions off with this. Should Nikki have aired this publicly or handled it behind closed doors?
Alexis Stoudemire
You know, I love me for Nikki because she is a fellow Sagittarius. Okay. And I'm a Sag, so I understand my good sis. Okay? And I feel like we are very much the same when we have an issue with something or someone with business, whatever. I feel like, you know, she comes off. She's a very strong woman. She's always talked about how her personality, you know, when it comes to business, they call her A. Because she knows she wants. She demands respect. You know, she's just very much a businesswoman and she takes no shit from nobody. Right? So I feel like if it gets To a point where she has to say something in public, when she has to voice her grievances or whatever it is, if she has to do it in a way that's, like, outlandish or not business like. Or whatever. I feel like they took her to that point, you know what I mean? I feel like she's a smart businesswoman. So we don't know, like, what she's already done behind closed doors. We don't know what's been done to her behind closed doors. And, you know, somebody like Jay Z and ROC Nation, they're like, up here, they're like, can't anybody touch them? You know what I mean? And I feel like nowadays, the way that you can touch these big, you know, giants in the industry is through social media. And I get it. Sometimes you got to take it there, you know what I mean? I think especially when it comes to, like, your money, her royalties, I think you have every right to speak on that. You know, it may not be politically correct, but again, this is not a politically correct industry anyway. Like, that's not how this industry normally works anyway. And I think because she's a female, she gets more backlash for anything that she does or says. You know, I feel like we've seen, you know, even Jay Z, we've seen him go through stuff in the media, and they shut it down like that, and it's nothing, you know, nobody touches him. But I feel like the moment that Nikki says something, people just eat her up. They eat her up. So, I mean, I don't think. I don't see anything wrong personally with her, you know, coming out with what her issue is. You know, maybe she feels like this is what she needs to do at this moment in time to maybe move forward and get some progress with this issue that she's having.
Ashley Nicole
Understand that I agree with you. I feel like being in that space of creativity anyway, in how she can switch on and off her octaves, her tones, and very much in her creative space. Just. We've just seen it all from her. So if this is her way of expressing herself, not only creatively, but just verbally, then I receive it in its own way because that's. That's the best way to get anyone's attention is through the media. And if you have a platform music, and obviously she has a following. And so the barbs. And aren't they the barbs? So I feel like that she's rallying them up to, like, get behind her, and here we are talking about it. So whatever it is, I Don't know details on everything that, what, what was said. But I mean, now, now we're talking about it and now it's awareness. So she definitely made a point and now we're. It's been spoken about. Yeah, so it worked.
Alexis Stoudemire
Exactly, exactly. Yeah, I'm not mad at it.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, it worked. Do female rappers get the same mentorship or protection as the male counterparts?
Alexis Stoudemire
I think if they're a threat, I feel like they don't. Or even if they're not a threat, I think, I feel like males in the industry will place the female rapper where they want them to be, you know, at the time. Like, I feel like, I feel like. And just not just, not just with rap, but I feel like the men in the industry still want to have control on how popular and who's popular when it comes to, like, the females. And if they're gonna let them, you know, like how Drake put on Sexy Red and Ice Spice, you know, I feel like that was him saying, like, okay, I'm co signing them, so, you know, we'll let them be hot. And honestly, truthfully, I don't think they're the most talented, you know, artists, but because he stepped in and co signed them, it's like, okay, we're gonna let her shine, we're gonna let her shine. Whereas there might be some other artists who are, you know, way better, but maybe they don't want them to outshine the male artist. So I feel like there's like a control thing that happens. But I feel like, you know, women always. And no matter what the industry is, we always have to fight for the little bit that we get. So I feel Nikki right now, she fighting for it because that's what we've always had to do.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, I get, I get that. I agree with you. Just always have to fight. Yeah, it just comes with it because it is. I feel like the rap culture has always been a very masculine, you know, profession. And now with the influx of female rappers, you know, the discussion gets, well, they're, they're over sexy or they're over this, they're over that. And well, they have to be ultra feminine. You know, it's. They're going against this beast that has been really, over time, objectifying them and bringing them down. So for them to stand up and really show who they are and show their, like, you know, we're not going to back down and we have a voice and we're here too. I just think it's been a bonus for them. For the female rappers, the Lyricists to really have their own protection through their voices and really standing together. Cause I noticed that a lot of them do stand together because they are the minority, and they are, but they are also the exception because we love to see it. I love female rappers. It's just about them getting their shine and really being supportive of one another. So they have to represent us. You know, they. They say what. What we think and how we feel. I. I appreciate it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Ashley Nicole
But, yeah, I don't think they get as much protection, obviously, as the male men do. That's just because it's just how it's always been, unfortunately.
Alexis Stoudemire
Mm. Yeah. Let me see.
Ashley Nicole
Yes. Yes. Would the industry even survive without the women? It constantly underpays. Think about that. I said what it says. Would the industry even survive without the women? It can. It constantly underpays.
Alexis Stoudemire
Oh, you think? I don't know. I mean, I would say no. Yeah. Because right now, I can't even imagine the rap game without the women. The women are really leading the game right now, to be honest with you. So. Yeah, absolutely not. We got Megan, we got. I mean, we got a lot of people. We got a lot of rappers that are females really out here killing it on our whole tours and everything, so. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Ashley Nicole
Well, maybe it's a shift. Here we go. Here we go. Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
Okay. Yep.
Ashley Nicole
Moving on.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right, so moving on to segment three. Trump, Elon, and the Epstein files. What are they hiding? We're living in an episode of Succession and Black Mirror. I love both those shows, by the way.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, they're both good.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah. Elon Musk is demanding Trump release files tied to Jeffrey Epstein shortly after the DOJ and the FBI claim there is no secret client list. This bombshell report has the Internet in a frenzy, with many believing that elites are protecting each other. Meanwhile, Elon and Trump are beefing publicly like two messy aunties on Facebook. So do you believe the DOJ when they say there's no client list or blackmail scheme?
Ashley Nicole
Absolutely not. Really? They really just gaslighting us in our face? Absolutely not. We know there's the Epstein file. We know who's in it. And, you know, it's unfortunate that they really gaslighting us, but at this time, this is July, this is the month seven, and so much has happened in every single thing that the President has said he's going to do. He's been doing and executing.
Meta AI
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Ashley Nicole
I just look at it like this, like nothing is coming to a surprise anymore. It's almost numbing in a way, just because you're just like, well, here we go. And then if you, you know, read the Bible and you in tune with that, too, then you're just like, well, this is a sign. Here we go. You know, so it's just. It's just a lot, you know, it's just so many layers to this, and I don't even hold my breath anymore. I'm just here living my best life because the way we are just going through it, we were in a potential World War three going on, and we were just nuclear talks and the Epstein files, that's a whole nother beast. And the way that Trump pardons people and pardons itself and has new rules and all these other things, it's just turned into really a complete shit show of just let me show you what I can do. It's just. Just act after act after act. It's just no surprise. There's no shock. I just. I'm just like, what else is next? You know, what else is next? We have Alligator Alcatraz right here in the Everglades, where it's a detainee camp. It's harsh conditions, I'm sure, you know, it's just out of control. They're picking up parents at kids graduations and schools. And we have so many other things that we should be dealing with. You know, thinking about, like, floodings and. And. And all these things and schools and what the kids are eating and urban gardens. There's so much more we should be doing, and all we're doing is creating more hate and confusion, really. You know, it's just. It's unfortunate, but this is what the people voted for, so that's why we live in America. It's a democracy, and this is what the voters wanted.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, I agree.
Ashley Nicole
No Epstein files. Just, poof, be gone.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right. They just confirmed that, you know, they ruled Epstein's death a suicide. Like, they confirmed that it was a suicide. What do you think about that?
Ashley Nicole
No surprise either. I mean, it could be a suicide. Maybe he knew something before it happened. But to me, you know, you know, that's a tough. That's a tough. A tricky situation, you know, and territory in itself. Speaking of that, the administration took away the hotline for transgenders suicide hotline and prevention and all that. So that. That's. That's difficult. And so when it comes to suicide, that's. It's just. It's just a heavy. It's a heavy situation, you know? So did he do that maybe out of guilt? We don't know where's the let or Was it. Was it staged? Was. It's so many. It's so many question marks.
Alexis Stoudemire
Where was the security?
Ashley Nicole
Like, yeah, it's just so many things. Where.
Alexis Stoudemire
Where.
Ashley Nicole
Where's the cameras? Where. Where's. What's. Where's the logs for the employees who's on duty? So, like, if that's what they gonna say it is, then whatever. I don't know how that works with all the victims and. And, you know, their lawsuits and things like that. But. But it's just heavy all around. And, you know, when your name. If you're the most powerful person in America and your name happens to be in those circles and there's pictures of you and you're on logs and all these kind of things, then you can make things disappear.
Alexis Stoudemire
Exactly.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah. Well, like you said, the people who voted for them for Trump, I just. I want to know where y' all at? Where y' all at? And what do y' all think now? You know, it's just so interesting how quiet people are now. Now that, like you said, Trump is doing everything he said he was going to do. He laid it out in a plan, and, yeah, y'. All. Y' all fell for it.
Ashley Nicole
It's just January. It's just July.
Alexis Stoudemire
It's just July. 10 years. It feels like this term has been going on already for.
Ashley Nicole
Ah, he's moving quickly, you know? He is. Look. Yeah, it's happening.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, yeah, yeah, girl.
Ashley Nicole
It's happening, boo. You know, it's just. It's. It's unfortunate, but, yeah, you know, I look at it like we saw Elon Musk, and we saw Trump really just kind of like, being babies, you know, like, they're going back and forth. They're buddy, buddy buddies. And then one is pouting and the other one is using his power to, like, mute. And then, like, going in the media, which they both love, and speaking how they feel about it, and it's just like, y', all, we have so much more, like, we should be focused on. And, you know, they're really having a.
Alexis Stoudemire
Black mirror in succession. It feels like a reality TV show. It feels like, girl, the. The White House, Instagram and Twitter, all those videos they're posting. You saw. They posted Trump and he had the song Usher playing Took My Daddy's Home. Did you see that?
Ashley Nicole
No, I didn't.
Alexis Stoudemire
Do you follow the White House?
Ashley Nicole
I used to.
Alexis Stoudemire
Is this real? Is. Did somebody have an account? Because what is happening? Like, you never know what's gonna pop up on that page. I'm like, who is running It. Who is running this page? Who is in all of this stuff? It's crazy. I can't. It's embarrassing. I can't believe this is my president. I can't believe. It's just. It's embarrassing. To say the least. All right, enough of Trump and Elon.
Ashley Nicole
Yes, enough. But egos. That's all it is.
Alexis Stoudemire
And yes.
Ashley Nicole
Okay, Measuring contest.
Alexis Stoudemire
It is time for Humble baddies. Mail.
Ashley Nicole
Okay. All right, you ready?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Ashley Nicole
Dear Humble Baddies. I never imagined I'd be the villain in someone's story, but here we are. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and the father is my best friend's ex husband. Let me explain. They were married for six years and divorced over a year ago. She confided in me and about their ups and downs. Even the final straw. I supported her every step of the way. But a few months ago, he and I started talking. It started innocent, venting, catching up, checking in. But feelings grew. One night turned into Minnie and now I'm pregnant. He says he's ready to step up. He wants to be a father. But I haven't told her. I know this will break her. I love her. But I also love this baby. Am I wrong for keeping it a secret this long? Is there even a right way to tell her? Or have I destroyed this friendship? Beyond repeat hair.
Alexis Stoudemire
Child. There's so many men in this world. Like, why him? Honey, I just don't understand. And if it didn't work out, like, I just feel like first of all, my friends, husbands, ex husbands, ex boyfriends, ex whatever, whatever.
Ashley Nicole
Ew.
Alexis Stoudemire
Like I'm not even interested. Yeah, like it's not even a thing, first of all. Second of all, if it didn't work out with your best friend, why would you think it's going to be better with you? You know?
Ashley Nicole
Yes.
Alexis Stoudemire
All the ins and outs, I'm sure of, whatever broke all the.
Ashley Nicole
The horrible dude even be turned on.
Alexis Stoudemire
Or interested by this person. So to answer the question, it's wrong. All of it. You're wrong. Your mentality is wrong. He's wrong. The only thing is right is the baby. Because you know, God. God don't make mistakes. Okay, but now I feel like everybody gonna need therapy as soon as this baby is here. You know, I feel like that friendship with you and your homegirl is over because why would we be friends anymore? I can't confide in you anymore. You know, I wouldn't feel safe around you anymore.
Ashley Nicole
Right.
Alexis Stoudemire
And then do the exes, do they have children? Like, it could be really messy, very tricky. And so, yeah, I just say this whole situation is bad and shame upon you for, you know, letting it get this far because one, condoms. Okay. Two. Like it's. It's so many other men out here, honey. They might not all be good, but you can go find another bad one because he don't sound like a good apple. There's plenty of bad apples that you could eat.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, that's my take on that.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, I agree with you. If. If the friends. If this is we talking about an ex husband, like, this is just. She's definitely getting ready to lose a friend. I think it should not. That's not a. That's not a healthy friendship. Now, all things happen for a reason. The baby didn't ask to be here, obviously. So now you have a baby. So now the father needs to step in and be a father and the mother needs to step in and be a mother. But the old saying is you lose them how you get them, you know? Yeah. The feelings came back because there was no accountability. You know, you could go back and do your thing and it was sneaking. It wasn't under the right pretense. So I don't think anything good is gonna come from this just because of how this all festered. And it's really a. A tough and not healthy situation while you're pregnant, as well as going to have a newborn and bringing another child into this situation. So, I mean, maybe you work on it.
Alexis Stoudemire
Son or daughter, that's how you brought them into.
Ashley Nicole
Well, yeah, and this happens every day. So that energy already coming from being sneaky and behind the backs and lying and. And now lying with husbands and all that kind of stuff and ex a friend. I think it's just horrible karma and you just gotta be careful when you play it with people. And she just friend, you need to let her know because now is better than later. I mean, it just gets worse. And now you have to distance yourself and give her grace. Give your friend time to really process this too, because this is also her ex husband. If Ashley, to your point, if there's kids involved now, you dealing with that was such and such his friend. You saw me cry. You were there when I was in my lowest time. My weaknesses, you know, you saw me venting about this man or there's a reason there are exes in the first place. So here you are laying next to him and comforting him and like really, you know, now having a baby with them. You now locked in for life too. So is this. Is this is therapy? It says therapy written all over it. Because now y' all are really co parenting and co. Like habiting and. And co everything mingling and it's. You know, these are half siblings. So. Yeah, therapy. That's all I got to say about that. You know, as far as to help you out, that's the advice. So please tell the. The longer you tell, wait until the harder it's going to be.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah, I feel like it gets worse.
Ashley Nicole
The wound gets worse.
Alexis Stoudemire
Is there a right away to tell her? I don't know.
Ashley Nicole
It's just honesty is the best policy. I feel it like you gotta. You gotta be honest, you know?
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Ashley Nicole
It needs to be a public place too tell you that, right?
Alexis Stoudemire
Go ahead and be there.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah, It's a conversation and low key. It's the conversation with him too, for sure.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yeah.
Ashley Nicole
Yeah. Because now everything he's involved and you know, we can attack our friends more than we attack our men too, you know, our partners, which is unfortunate, you know, as females too. So maybe it's a situation where all three of them are sitting there and like, look, this is what it is. But that's a tough situation right there, baby. I don't wish that on anybody.
Alexis Stoudemire
That's the man, that office.
Ashley Nicole
But do you think the friendship can be like, savaged?
Alexis Stoudemire
You know what? I don't think it would be a friendship anymore. I feel like if the friend was, you know, emotionally mature person and truly has moved on from whatever feeling she had for her ex husband, I'm sure she, you know, in a perfect world, I think there's a way that, you know, she could still be cordial, you know, not friendly. I don't think it would be smart to be friends with her anymore. Yeah, I think she could, you know, be cordial if she's truly moved on from him, but I just don't think there is a place for that friendship anymore.
Ashley Nicole
I agree. I agree.
Alexis Stoudemire
All right, well, thank y' all so much for that Humble Baddies mail, please. If you guys need advice or have questions, you can send in your submissions to contact humblebaddies.com and thank you so much for tuning in. Once again, we are the Humble Baddies. My name is Ashley Nicole. I'm Ashley Nicole on Instagram.
Ashley Nicole
And I'm Alexis.
Alexis Stoudemire
I'm sorry.
Ashley Nicole
And I'm Alexis Stoudemire on Instagram as well, at Alexis Underscore. Stoudemire.
Alexis Stoudemire
Yes. Y' all make sure y' all like and subscribe and tune in next week to Humble Baddies podcast. We'll see you next time. Foreign.
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Podcast Summary: Humble Baddies – Nicki Minaj vs Jay-Z, New Era of Cheating, & Trump & Elon Still Going at It!
Podcast Information:
Note: Despite the provided podcast information referencing "Club Shay Shay," the transcript corresponds to an episode of the "Humble Baddies" podcast hosted by Ashley Nicole and Alexis Stoudemire. This summary focuses on the content of the transcript, aligning with the "Humble Baddies" episode.
The episode opens with Ashley Nicole and Alexis Stoudemire warmly welcoming listeners back to "Humble Baddies." They briefly discuss their recent activities, setting a personal and relatable tone for the episode.
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Ashley Nicole shares updates about her family, including her children returning safely from camp and her own recent retreat to the mountains for relaxation and solitude after a hectic period.
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Alexis Stoudemire talks about her first-time experience at the Essence Festival, where she was honored to speak on a panel discussing the impact of reality TV. She emphasizes the importance of intentionality in personal and professional growth.
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Ashley and Alexis delve into the emerging trend of using the Notes app on smartphones as a covert means of cheating. They discuss how technology facilitates discreet communication, raising concerns about trust and privacy in relationships.
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The hosts explore the implications of such behavior, highlighting the emotional toll and the erosion of trust it causes. They also touch upon the challenges of addressing these issues within relationships.
The conversation shifts to the feud between Nicki Minaj and Jay-Z. Ashley outlines Nicki's public grievances regarding unpaid royalties and unfavorable contracts, questioning whether her approach to airing these issues publicly is effective or damaging to her career.
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They discuss the broader context of female rappers in a male-dominated industry, examining the disparities in mentorship and protection. The hosts commend Nicki's strength and business acumen while acknowledging the systemic challenges women face in the music industry.
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Ashley and Alexis tackle the contentious topic of former President Donald Trump and entrepreneur Elon Musk's public disputes amid intrigue surrounding the Epstein files. They express skepticism towards official statements denying the existence of a secret client list and speculate about potential cover-ups.
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The discussion touches on the broader political and social ramifications, including the administration's actions related to suicide prevention hotlines and the controversies surrounding Epstein's death.
In the "Humble Baddies Mail" segment, Ashley and Alexis address a listener's dilemma about being unknowingly involved with her best friend's ex-husband and facing an unexpected pregnancy.
Listener's Question:
The hosts provide candid and empathetic advice, emphasizing the importance of honesty, the complexity of co-parenting with exes, and the potential fallout on personal relationships.
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They advocate for open communication and suggest seeking therapy to navigate the emotional and relational challenges posed by the situation.
Ashley and Alexis wrap up the episode by encouraging listeners to submit their questions and share the podcast. They maintain a supportive and uplifting demeanor, reinforcing the community-focused ethos of "Humble Baddies."
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Overall Insights and Takeaways:
Technology's Impact on Relationships: The episode underscores how advancements in technology can both connect and complicate personal relationships, introducing new challenges in maintaining trust and privacy.
Female Empowerment in a Male-Dominated Industry: Through the discussion of Nicki Minaj and Jay-Z, the hosts highlight the ongoing struggles and resilience of female artists striving for recognition and fair treatment in the music industry.
Political and Social Turmoil: The examination of Trump and Elon Musk's disputes, intertwined with the Epstein files, reflects the complex and often shadowy intersections of power, politics, and personal vendettas.
Importance of Honesty and Communication: The listener mail segment reinforces the critical role of transparency and honest dialogue in sustaining healthy relationships and friendships, especially in complicated personal scenarios.
Conclusion:
This episode of "Humble Baddies" offers a multifaceted exploration of contemporary issues ranging from personal relationships and technological ethics to the dynamics of the music industry and high-profile political disputes. Through relatable discussions and thoughtful advice, Ashley Nicole and Alexis Stoudemire engage listeners in meaningful conversations that resonate with a wide audience.