Instagram Dating, Useless Men, & Being The Side Piece | Truth After Dark

Summary

Club Shay Shay – Truth After Dark: Instagram Dating, Useless Men, & Being The Side Piece

Date: December 1, 2025
Host: Azar Faraday
Guest/Co-Host: The Truth (Paul Pierce)
Producer/Platform: Shay Shay Media / iHeartPodcasts

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Episode Overview

This fiery holiday-season episode of “Truth After Dark” peels back the layers of modern dating with a blend of raw humor, candor, and social critique. Azar Faraday and Paul “The Truth” Pierce tackle the realities of Instagram relationships, the shifting gender roles in the digital age, the taboo of being a side piece, the “useless man” stereotype, the rise of transactional dating, and the stigmas attached to singlehood—especially for women. The duo reflects on generational change, vulnerability in love and loneliness, and the desires that fuel our romantic “fantasies.”

Tone: Playful, irreverent, unfiltered, and relatable.

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Key Discussion Points & Memorable Segments

1. The Side Piece Culture and Social Media Drama

[07:59–12:49]

• Summer Walker & Rich the Kid: Azar brings up the controversy around Summer Walker supposedly embracing the "side chick" role, unfazed by her partner's main relationship—as long as the secrecy is maintained.
• Old School vs. New School Side Pieces:

  “Old school side pieces wasn't blasting you... now everything is on the Internet.”
  — The Truth [09:54]

• Consequences of Being ‘the Side’: Azar points out, “You're not meant for that. Eventually, someone’s feelings go crazy... women always say, ‘I’m cool with it,’ and then the whole situation gets blasted.” [10:09]

Notable Quote

“Side pieces save marriages. But I can't—I didn't say that.”
— The Truth [10:43], humorously dodging his own viral soundbite

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2. Dating Norms in the Social Media Age

[13:18–21:55]

• 'Useless Men' & Modern Dating: Azar references a viral commentary that men these days are useless—can’t fix or build things, plan dates, or pay for much—prompting frustration among women.

  “Why are women even messing with men?”
  — Azar [13:18]

• Skillset Shifts:

  “We don’t even teach [shop] no more… the kids are smarter in tech, but maybe men are actually smartening up.”
  — The Truth [14:38]

• Social Skills ‘Disappearing’:

  “[Kids] have social anxiety…can't walk in a room and have a conversation.”
  — Azar [15:29]

Instagram Approaching vs. Real-World Flirting

• 'Sliding into DMs' vs. Real-Life Conversation: Azar dislikes men who only approach her online after seeing her in person:

  “That’s weird…you had an hour in a space with me to talk.” [18:29]
  The Truth offers possible explanations (intimidation, unclear relationship status).

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3. Are Relationships More Transactional Than Ever?

[49:53–51:24]

• Expectations & Entitlement: Azar cites women demanding financial contributions (nails, gifts) after only two weeks of talking—a barometer for a potential partner’s “worthiness.”
• Paul Pierce on Transactional Dating:

  “You just hiding your prostitution… more transactional prostitution than ever before.” [50:04]

• ‘Baddie Lifestyle’ Demands: They discuss Instagram model Chinese Kitty requiring a man to make $10 million “to keep up,” pointing out that men fueling this behavior are as responsible as women for this culture shift.

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4. Women’s Singlehood & Social Pressure

[36:01–43:13]

• Single Women Stigma:

  “People weaponize singleness for women…they praise single men as smart, but for women, ‘Why are you single? What’s wrong?’”
  — Azar [42:00]

• Challenging the ‘Biological Clock’ Narrative: Azar challenges societal deadlines for marriage/motherhood, reflecting on her own path with pride and no regrets.
• Harvard Study Stats:

  “Statistically, women who are unmarried and single are happier; men…more depressed. Harvard study.”
  — Azar [37:03, repeated at 01:50]

Notable Quote

“I’m grateful that at my age, I don’t have excess baggage…I can have a real chance at meeting someone I can have a real family with–and not have all this broken sh*t I created because I was young and beating some biological clock.”
— Azar [39:14]

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5. Sexual Double Standards & Relationship Dynamics

[22:15–29:47]

• Men Marrying Without Love: Brian McKnight’s revelation that he was “never in love with his wife” sparks debate on why men stay in loveless marriages.
• Sex as a Motivator: The Truth claims women are more sexually driven; Azar refutes, contending love drives female desire, not sex itself.

  “My motivating factor for being with a man is not sex. Most women don’t even come statistically from being with a man.”
  — Azar [24:27]

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6. “Older Women” and Younger Men

[27:48–31:56]

• Older Women ‘Season’ & Cougars: Discussion around 40-something women preferring “boy toys,” with The Truth suggesting “nobody wants them” so they opt for sexual partners with no long-term prospects.
• Double Standards Again: Azar highlights society's hypocrisy—older men with young women are condemned, but not vice versa. She calls out women “grooming” young men as equally disturbing.
• Personal Anecdotes: The Truth describes being “turned out” by a 30-ish woman at 21:

  “She was like, alright, I’ma fly you here, pick you up in my Benz…rub you down...my mind was gone.” [29:57]

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7. Entertaining Relationships With "No Real Intent"

[33:44–35:37]

• Inspired by rapper The Game, The Truth reflects on the emptiness of spending time with women he doesn't envision a future with.

  “When you start getting older, the years—you just like, man, I ain't got time to waste no more…Why am I even doing anything with her?”
  — The Truth [34:03]

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8. “Fantasies”: Relationship Wishlists

[52:04–59:23]

• Daily Fantasy Segment (lighthearted sponsor tie-in):
  • The Truth’s fantasy: A woman who “holds accountability”—and a pampering, spa-like evening (dim lighting, foot baths, feathers, massages, home-cooked meals).

    “Is for the woman to hold accountability. That’s a fantasy.” [52:40] “You killing the mood! The photograph, the massage table…the feather comes back…” [56:23]

  • Azar's fantasy: “For a man to not cheat on me to know if I love him.” [52:58]

    “I fantasize about not having to struggle for love, honey…in reality, a lot of women struggle first in order to have love.” [53:13]

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9. Ghosting: A Sign of Weakness or Just Normal?

[59:23–62:09]

• Azar: Considers ghosting “sinful” and “disrespectful,” lacking communication and courage [59:59].
• The Truth/Paul: Defends ghosting as simply an avoidance of unnecessary explanation when there’s no real investment.
• Azar: “Never been ghosted or ghosted anyone… I don’t do casual.” [61:04]

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Timestamps & Notable Quotes

| Timestamp | Segment / Quote | |:----------:|:-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 09:54 | “Old school side pieces wasn't blasting you…now everything is on the Internet.” — The Truth | | 10:43 | “Side pieces save marriages. But I can't—I didn't say that.” — The Truth | | 18:29 | “That's weird…You had an hour in a space with me to talk.” — Azar | | 24:27 | “My motivating factor for being with a man is not sex…” — Azar | | 34:03 | “When you start getting older…the years—you just like, man, I ain't got time to waste…” – The Truth | | 37:03 | “Women who are unmarried and single are happier…” — Azar | | 39:14 | “I’m grateful that at my age, I don’t have excess baggage…” — Azar | | 42:00 | “People weaponize singleness for women…” — Azar | | 49:53 | “[On paying for nails/gifts] You just hiding your prostitution…” — The Truth | | 52:40 | “Is for the woman to hold accountability. That's a fantasy.” — The Truth | | 53:13 | “I fantasize about not having to struggle for love, honey…” — Azar |

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Episode Takeaways

• Instagram and social media have transformed the basic mechanics of dating, often making it more transactional and less personal.
• ‘Side piece’ culture is more visible, volatile, and subject to public airing—feelings always get complicated.
• Traditional masculine/feminine roles are shifting. Many men lack "old school" hands-on skills; some women question their usefulness.
• Double standards pervade around age, singlehood, and sexual behavior for women vs. men.
• Single women are happier than single men, statistically”—claims Azar, despite societal shaming.
• Men and women both struggle with vulnerability—the desire for authentic, struggle-free relationships remains largely unfulfilled, framed as a “fantasy.”
• Both hosts call out the trend of transactional love—on both sides—lamenting lost values of connection, authenticity, and mutual respect.
• Ghosting is fiercely debated: is it cowardly or just a pragmatic exit from unwanted situations?

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Final Thoughts

This episode is a whirlwind tour of modern dating’s contradictions. Azar and The Truth balance banter with moments of pointed social critique. Their frankness exposes underlying anxieties about love, connection, worth, and changing gender roles in a culture defined by DMs, likes, and “what can you do for me?” Both hosts ultimately yearn for meaningful emotion—but admit that in 2025, that's as rare as a man who can fix the air conditioner and hold a real conversation.

“I just want to have a love where I’m not crying, and I’m not getting lied to…That’s a fantasy, man.”—Azar Faraday [54:32]

Transcript

[Azar Faraday]

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[The Truth]

I feel like you done went from. From what, the penthouse to the. To the. To Mount Olympus.

[Azar Faraday]

I have been with someone. Off Instagram. Yes, 100%.

[The Truth]

Have you had a sexual relationship with somebody you met off Instagram?

[Azar Faraday]

What do you mean sexual? I've been in a relationship. A full blown relationship off of someone I met on Instagram. Yes, because statistically, women who are unmarried and single are happier, and men who are unmarried and single are more depressed. This is a statistic done by Harvard Study. The women.

[The Truth]

If you tell me one more thing about goddamn Harvard Study.

[Azar Faraday]

No, the women.

[The Truth]

The more and more I sit across from you, I feel like I'm your therapist.

[Azar Faraday]

I know you're lying.

[The Truth]

Are you pissed right now?

[Azar Faraday]

So what does that have to do with anything? You are so stupid.

[The Truth]

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[Azar Faraday]

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[The Truth]

I'm your boy, the Truth.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Period. Get into that, honey. Okay. So how you feeling tonight? You got the red silk bust down?

[The Truth]

Yeah. I'm happy for the holidays that's coming up. I'm feeling real, you know, just thankful for, you know, being able to be around close friends and family for the holidays. This is a beautiful time of year to where you can share, you know, moments with your loved ones. I'm really excited.

[Azar Faraday]

I love that. That's really dope. I'm really here for that. So there's been a lot of stuff going on in the media, per usual. Okay. The first and foremost is.

[The Truth]

Hat is busting on you, though. That's a nice hat.

[Azar Faraday]

Thank you.

[The Truth]

Yeah, that hat is cracking.

[Azar Faraday]

Thank you. I appreciate that.

[The Truth]

Girl, you've been stepping, yo. Since the sun went down, you've been stepping your game all the way up.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Thank you.

[The Truth]

What you got going on? What's like. What's. What's. What you got going on?

[Azar Faraday]

What do you mean? What do I have going on?

[The Truth]

What's like, you know, what's the motivation between. I mean, I feel like you done went from. From what, the penthouse to the. To the. To Mount Olympus.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm crying. What's the motivation? It's just, you know, you had me on here telling me I was cooked every day, so I had to remind a mother that, you know, cooked food is good too, baby. Get into that. Older women is hitting too, honey.

[The Truth]

Older women hitting. This is older women's season.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not an older woman, so I don't know what you.

[The Truth]

No, it is older woman season because summer is over. So now everybody cuddling it up with the older women.

[Azar Faraday]

Who is the older women?

[The Truth]

You.

[Azar Faraday]

You see, I'm 34, honey.

[The Truth]

That's older.

[Azar Faraday]

I feel like I'm older than most younger people.

[The Truth]

It's cuddle season, but I'm not an older woman. It's cuddle season. It's getting cold outside. It's raining. Everybody looking to cuddle up.

[Azar Faraday]

Everybody's looking to pull up.

[The Truth]

Yeah. Autumn short shorts. Let's get to go. They in the closet to the spring.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

All them little skirts is gone. Everybody can't wear them skirts. And now they got to put something on.

[Azar Faraday]

It's like, oh, the boo up is right. I've been booed up. I've been booed up, baby.

[The Truth]

So everybody looking for something extra thick, too.

[Azar Faraday]

Not the extra thick, the 280 extra thick.

[The Truth]

The 280 extra thick season.

[Azar Faraday]

You got to be too something to.

[The Truth]

Do something extra thick, extra thick season. Hey, it's cold outside. I'm telling you.

[Azar Faraday]

This is crazy. Okay, so anyways, so Summer Walker. Let's just get into Summer Walker. She is was, I guess, messing with Rich the kid. And she basically. He released a voice note of her basically saying, like, I don't care if you have a girl. It doesn't matter to me. Like, get me a separate phone. Call me on that phone and I'll be your side chick. Like she. Whatever. And then like, what?

[The Truth]

Yeah, they got something going.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, that's what she was saying. Like, I'll. I don't care. And then she said. Then she said that she basically is like, I'm over it. Because your girl be tripping. Like, she be fighting people, showing up places, going to the flower delivery shop, seeing what's up, doing this. And she's like, how am I supposed to be. Have a good relationship with somebody with that going on?

[The Truth]

Well, first of all, if you decide piece first off, shut the fuck up, Lord. Like, know Your place.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, that's what she's saying. She's knowing her place.

[The Truth]

Saying, like, I won't say now she airing everything out. Like, why you airing stuff out? Why you.

[Azar Faraday]

Because this is what happens with a side chick, in my opinion.

[The Truth]

You gotta understand the consequences of that. Yeah, the girl is gonna find out. She might call you, have a conversation. Y' all might even meet up. Y' all might even meet up. It might be a situation to where I done know some cats that say, hold on, y' all wanna talk? Y' all wanna see why it is the way it is? So, like, you can't be out here and see, this is the culture we live in and the era and the generation we live in to where everybody gotta do stuff over social media. Like, nah, let me tell you what. The old school side pieces wasn't blasting you.

[Azar Faraday]

You know about that?

[The Truth]

Not like that. To where the world know. It was, like, local, right? It was like, show up at the church, like, hey, I got your baby. Something like that. That is. It is crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, they got blasted still. The thing about it is, is now everything is on the Internet. You have to be careful. But another thing is, it's like when you mess with a side chick, eventually someone's feelings is gonna go crazy. As a woman, you're a woman. You're not meant for that. So eventually, you're gonna feel emotional, and this is gonna happen. And they all, like, women always say, oh, I'm cool with it, or whatever. And then as soon as they're not cool with it, now everything's blasted out on the situation. But now all my business aired out. And, you know, in the great words of Paul Pierce.

[The Truth]

No, no, no. Use your words.

[Azar Faraday]

No, you said, use your words. Side pieces save marriages. But I can't. I didn't say that.

[The Truth]

I didn't say that.

[Azar Faraday]

You have a whole viral clip that says that. I didn't say you said you're a homeboy.

[The Truth]

I never said that.

[Azar Faraday]

Please. All I'm asking is please. Darnell put in the part where he says that right here. I'm so serious, because I really want to show everyone how Paul, just be backtracking on everything he says.

[The Truth]

I don't remember ever saying that.

[Azar Faraday]

This is crazy. Like, this is blowing me.

[The Truth]

That's why I said, say your words. You can't.

[Azar Faraday]

No, because I'm saying that I've been married.

[The Truth]

You haven't been married. I've had a girlfriend and everything, and the one conversation I was having with a dude was side piece. Side piece conversation. He was like, pete, man. My side piece kept my relationship going longer than I wanted it to go because I was ready to break up with her. But if I didn't have my side piece, I would have divorced her a long time ago. So in asking y' all on Truth After Dark as men, like, I know this ain't right, but do side pieces keep a relationship going longer than it should be?

[Azar Faraday]

Anyways, we'll move on from this because, you know, I personally will never be anybody's side chick at all. Because I'm not meant to play the side. I'm really the main person, the main course. I'm the main attraction. There is nothing that you need. I'm the fried chicken, the Mac and cheese, the yams, greens, everything, baby. And that's just it. Like, you don't need no extra sides. Cuz dealing with me is already a lot. You don't need to be dealing with nobody else. You need something. You need another girl. I'mma change my hair for you. You need another look. Okay, cool. Let me switch up the look, baby. I look different for you tonight. What you need? Like, we're not doing that. And I promise you, let a man have a side. Let anybody have a side chick on.

[The Truth]

So you said you the turkey dressing greens, but what if he won't like some sweet potat?

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, I got you, baby. What you mean?

[The Truth]

Sweet potato pies after the main course.

[Azar Faraday]

And I got something for that too. Don't even trip. I got something. Let me tell you something. I got it. I got it.

[The Truth]

Okay, okay.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not. I promise you. I got it.

[The Truth]

She said, I promise.

[Azar Faraday]

You just gotta let me know. And I got it. You just gotta tell.

[The Truth]

Say the word. She advertising right now.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm not advertising.

[The Truth]

Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not advertising. I'm off the market. And I'm not absolutely to be advertised, honey. So anyways, moving forward. So women. There's a woman on Instagram, she went viral for saying that men are becoming too content with being useless. They don't know how to fix things anymore. They don't know how to build nothing. They don't know how to pay for nothing. They don't know how to plan dates. Why are women even messing with men? And now there's new research that a study shows that the younger generation not wanting marriage. From 1993 to today, women are 22% down. Like, it decreased 22% that women don't want to be married and only 2% for men. Meaning men are still cool be married. Only 2% of men said no from 1993. But 22% of women are like, nah, I'm cool on marriage now.

[The Truth]

Damn.

[Azar Faraday]

So women are starting to feel like, man, what are the use for y'?

[The Truth]

All?

[Azar Faraday]

And y' all can't build. Like back in the day. Like, men are fixing your tire. They're changing something. They're coming in, they're building something. They're fixing the air conditioner. Now, the younger generation of men, they don't know how to fix nothing or do nothing or that's what the women are saying. So it's like, why am I even with you?

[The Truth]

Damn. We don't know how to. Like, I don't relate to this. And I believe that to be true, though, because you got to understand those. We don't even teach that no more to our youngest. No more. Truthfully, like I was telling you earlier, I had wood shop, I had tech. Yeah, tech shop. I had auto shop in high school. Those classes is no longer in the school. So now it's more what the kids do know. The kids are smarter.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, the kids are very advanced.

[The Truth]

They're very advanced. They're smarter. And it's kids out here becoming millionaires without going to school. They understand the social media game. They understand the tech world. They understanding more. They're getting smarter. So maybe that says something about men and not women. Maybe men are smartening up.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, I would say.

[The Truth]

And we don't have to be less handy because if men making more money, they can pay people to do that.

[Azar Faraday]

That's true. But I will say that the newer generation lacks the basic social skills, though. Like, they have that anxiety if they don't have their phone. They don't know how to walk into a room and have a conversation. They lack that because they're so into the Internet. They have an Internet personality. You need that, though, which you don't know.

[The Truth]

You don't. Because I can have a meeting over my phone now. I can go to work from the house.

[Azar Faraday]

You can. But it's sad because it's like we're so connected, but we're more disconnected than we ever been. You know what I mean? Like, everyone's connected on social media and all of this, but there's so many people saying that they're alone and they're disconnected and it's more lonely than ever right now, you know, because people are not congregating. They're not having little close friends and family get togethers anymore. Not. The younger generation are not doing those things anymore, you know, so it's like they're not into that. It's more say everything is online streaming. This. It's. Everything is a show. And when it comes to real life, you meet some of those people behind those screens that have the biggest personalities. They're very awkward. And there. It's like, you don't even know how to talk to nobody. Like, you don't know how to conversate, have a conversation. You have social anxiety. You can't move around. Like, it's just weird.

[The Truth]

It's like, you know, this generation ain't got no finesse. They don't know how to walk up to a female and be like, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

What is yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What is that?

[The Truth]

And then next thing you know, yeah, yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

But they don't have to do that. Cause they could just.

[The Truth]

Now, you know what's so weird to me? This is how guys talk to girls now. Like, for me, I would go, I would have to talk to a girl, and I really had to give her a little bit of conversation, not take up too much of her time and get right to the point to where I can convince her, like, maybe we should go out. I can take you out, but I got. I gotta know. I know it's the window. It's like 30, 45 seconds, maybe. Whereas now, guys just go up to a girl, but, like, give me your Instagram.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

And a girl. I'll be like, all right, here, you can have my Instagram. And that's how they meet, and that's how they exchange.

[Azar Faraday]

But you know what's even worse than that is, like, this had happened to me one time. Many of times this has happened. I'll be out and I'm seeing a person, and they're, like, in the room with me for, like, an hour. We're at an event. They're in the room with me for an hour. Hour.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You're standing there, you're staring at me. You have ample opportunity to talk to me.

[The Truth]

And how you know they staring?

[Azar Faraday]

Because I can see them looking at me. I feel in my peripheral. No, I feel them, you know, peripheral vision.

[The Truth]

Keep, like.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I can feel it in my peripheral that someone is staring. I have my head on a swivel, honey. I know when people are looking at me. I could feel it. I feel it.

[The Truth]

And you want to come say something.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't want anything. What I want, I want is if you are going to say something, do it in. I don't like a man.

[The Truth]

Like to admire from afar.

[Azar Faraday]

Listen, to what? I'm saying this. Let me get to the point, okay? So the point is, is this will happen, right? And then I'll get home and I'll get a DM from a man. Hey, I saw you tonight. You look so good. How are you? I wanted to come up to you. That's weird. You had an hour in a space with me to talk to me, to come up to me.

[The Truth]

I don't think that's weird.

[Azar Faraday]

It's weird. I don't think that's so not. If you don't have the confidence to come up to me as a man, then I don't want to with you.

[The Truth]

No. So listen to this. You got to think about like this. He might have saw you over there having fun with your friends. He might have seen a dude next to you. He didn't know if that was your dude or not. It's a lot of factors that go into this. I get what he was like, whoever.

[Azar Faraday]

That it will be situations.

[The Truth]

He was just like. He was just like. I didn't want to come up to you because I seen a lot of going on. You was in a section or it was people around because it ain't like you're going to be standing there looking like a deer. No, no, no.

[Azar Faraday]

It was a. This situation has happened when I've been like literally standing next to the person. Like I was in stable center at a box. We're on the escalator this close together. Oh, here, opening the door for me. Here you go. Won't say nothing. Know your name and no idea. That's my point. It's weird. How are you finding me on Instagram and doing all of that work? But you can't be like, hey, what's up? How are you tonight? Like, are you single? That's it.

[The Truth]

So let me ask you this.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

You ain't never dated nobody, just who you met off of Instagram?

[Azar Faraday]

I have. Yeah, I have. I've been where I've been in a. I have been with someone off Instagram. Yes, 100%.

[The Truth]

Have you had a sexual relationship with somebody you met off Instagram?

[Azar Faraday]

What do you mean sexual? I've been in a relationship, a full blown relationship off of someone I met off from Instagram? Yes.

[The Truth]

Like sexual.

[Azar Faraday]

We were having sex. Yeah, we were in a relationship.

[The Truth]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

How many times we were in a relationship? I was with this person. Like, for me.

[The Truth]

How many times have you done this?

[Azar Faraday]

Like once? Yeah, one time. This Internet stuff is new right now. Like, you're not just.

[The Truth]

Internet has been around.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. But you're not just meeting people just straight up off the Internet. I'm not meeting people. That's the new norm now. Yes.

[The Truth]

Been the new norm.

[Azar Faraday]

I've done that once before. Yes, I have done that. So, yes, I have done that. But I didn't see this person in person. They didn't see me out and about. That's the difference. They found me on Instagram, hit me up, and then we created a relationship. I didn't go somewhere, see this person, have a conversation, and they never said anything.

[The Truth]

Like, have you ever met somebody off of social media and then, like, hooked up with them the first night you met him?

[Azar Faraday]

No, I've never done that. What do you mean, hooked up? Like, had sex.

[The Truth]

Like, you know, went somewhere connected.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

And, like, maybe, like, kissed and.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

The first night you met him. Stuff like that.

[Azar Faraday]

You're crazy. No, I'm saying you have a problem. I don't need everybody in my business. Have you, like, have I ever met.

[The Truth]

Somebody on Instagram, hooked up with them, Met them?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, met them on Instagram, hit them up, Went somewhere. Went out and met them.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, cool. That's good for you.

[The Truth]

It was popping.

[Odoo Advertiser]

All right.

[Azar Faraday]

That is.

[The Truth]

That was exciting.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

It was kind of more exciting than going up to a girl, waiting for her to call you, meeting them, talking to them, waiting for them to call you, and then you set up a day, two weeks later. Nah, Instagram. Let's meet up. What you doing? What's up? Okay. Popping. That's the new norm.

[Azar Faraday]

And was that it? You never saw that person again or y'? All. It was cool.

[The Truth]

We hooked up a couple times.

[Azar Faraday]

All right.

[The Truth]

After that.

[Azar Faraday]

Cool. Okay. So anyways. I'm crying. Okay, so anyway, Brian McKnight was on the Internet, and he basically said he was never.

[The Truth]

Brian McKnight is my boy.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Yeah. He said he was never in love with his wife and he just was with her. He stayed with her for the kids, period. And he just was not feeling her none ever.

[The Truth]

Not the beginning.

[Azar Faraday]

He said he was never in love with his wife.

[The Truth]

Damn, that's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

And so my thing is, like, what do men be doing? Like, I just gotta understand.

[The Truth]

I can get what he's saying because there's certain girls that dudes like, you understand. Like, men are built different. We're not emotional creatures, you know? So, like, he could just be, like, having sex with her and, like, the sex and be in love with that, but not in love with just her.

[Azar Faraday]

And you marry that.

[The Truth]

People do that. Yeah, people do that. People. You act like, men, Men, like, they will be with a girl because of the sex. That's. And that's. It don't like, they like the way they look in the sex. But then it's like, really, you dry or you, you know, I'm just like, whatever, you know, Conversation week. You ain't really.

[Azar Faraday]

Why would you get into a whole. Like, I could never imagine it. But also, I'm not a man, so I'm not driven by sex. You know what I mean? Like, because personally, if I can't chop it down with you, kick it, hit it, vibe out, I cannot be with nobody. Like, I just feel so miserable. And even in my past relationship, my.

[The Truth]

Five women are more driven by sex than men.

[Azar Faraday]

No, that's not true. Are you a woman?

[The Truth]

True. That's 100%.

[Azar Faraday]

You're a woman. So you know, women are more driven by. Are you a woman? Do you know that for a fact? Because you're a woman. How? You're not a woman. There's no way you can know that.

[The Truth]

You're not a way I can know that.

[Azar Faraday]

That's. That's so not true.

[The Truth]

I'mma tell you why it's true.

[Azar Faraday]

I know you say this every single time.

[The Truth]

Women are more driven by sex than men.

[Azar Faraday]

No. Driven by sex.

[The Truth]

Driven by sex. Yes.

[Azar Faraday]

Why? Go ahead, say. Say the point.

[The Truth]

Because the, like, the sex is everything to a woman in a relationship.

[Azar Faraday]

That's such a lie.

[The Truth]

It's such not.

[Azar Faraday]

The sex is on the lowest totem pole in a relationship.

[The Truth]

On the lowest total pole.

[Azar Faraday]

Then why, when a man cheats, have.

[The Truth]

Sex with another lady.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, that's sad.

[The Truth]

But that's because sex is the highest level.

[Azar Faraday]

What you're saying is driven by sex is different. My motivating factor for being with a man is not sex. Most women do need sex, don't most women don't even come statistically from being with a man. Like, what are you talking about? If that was the driving factor for women, a lot of women wouldn't even be in a relationship. You're telling me that that's the driving factor? That's not the most important thing for a woman in a relationship, and I promise you that I have homegirls. We talk intimately, more intimately and raw than you can imagine. I'm a woman, and I'm telling you right now, that is not the highest thing for most women. You're not thinking, oh, my God, the sex. Yes, the sex isn't a factor. But for me and a of women, the sex is good because you love that man. The Sex is exciting because you're like, damn, I want to please him. I'm enjoying this because I love him and I rock with him so heavily. And I'm into him. That's why. That's why the sex is hitting period, point blank. And that's why when women stop having sex with a man, it's because they're off of a man.

[The Truth]

She's having sex with another.

[Azar Faraday]

No, that's not what it means. That's not true.

[The Truth]

Yes, it does.

[Azar Faraday]

That's not true. 100%. That's not true. When a woman says that.

[The Truth]

Why do men don't have sex toys like women? Is that true or not?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but also, we don't have a.

[The Truth]

Drawer with sex toys.

[Azar Faraday]

But they come every time. Typically, the average man comes every time he asks sex.

[The Truth]

Y' all got these toys, these flowers. Y' all got all this shit.

[Azar Faraday]

Come on.

[The Truth]

I don't want to hear all that. That's driven by sex. We don't got all that.

[Azar Faraday]

No.

[The Truth]

In our drawer, y' all got a whole drawer. All this.

[Azar Faraday]

It's not a whole drawer. This is what I'm saying. But this is why. This is why men are going to come 90% of the time. Men are going to come during sex, period. I don't know. Men who just don't come during sex. That's the. That's when sex is over, is when the man comes. When women. Women don't come at, like, men because it's more intricate and difficult. It's not the man's fault. So women have toys so they can get themselves there. It's different. Like, men always are going to get there no matter what. So, yes, it's a different thing, but it's not driven by sex. Like, no. A man being a man and being all the things that a woman wants, like filling him and connecting with him and having that energy and having that relationship is important. And I think that when that goes out the woman window, women start to feel like sex is a chore. Like, oh, God, I have to have sex with this man now. This is crazy. You know, like. And when I start to feel like that, I know that I no longer love this person and I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. Because it's all about how you feel about the man. And you don't agree with that?

[The Truth]

No.

[Azar Faraday]

So what is your point? You think what?

[The Truth]

Just, women are driven by sex. That's why y' all dress the way y' all dress. Smell the way y' all smell. Get the toys. Y' all need to get like, we know what it is. Come on.

[Azar Faraday]

This is crazy. You are tripping.

[The Truth]

I like a good woman that can throw on a suit and feel sexy and just like walk through the hallway or walk through the lobby and just with a swagger like, yeah, I don't need to be wearing this because I know I'm cracking.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, yeah, so what does, what does that have to do with anything?

[The Truth]

I don't know.

[Azar Faraday]

You are so stupid. I love it. Okay, so anyways, older women are starting to say in their face forties that they prefer younger men. And we've had people on our podcast that are in their 40s that have said this because I'm not in my 40s, so I don't know. But they're saying because they're more easy minded, they're not stuck in their ways and they're not intimidated by strong women. So they're like, we are. And I hear this all the time. The older women are saying the young man.

[The Truth]

What's older woman? Then let's talk about that since well forties. Okay, so 40 year old women who like younger men just like boy toys.

[Azar Faraday]

I could believe that they just like somebody.

[The Truth]

Cause everybody done written them off and nobody want them and now they just want a sexual partner and they know it's not gonna be.

[Azar Faraday]

Nobody want em.

[The Truth]

It's not gonna be, it's not gonna be no attachment because the young dude ain't gonna be feeling a young dude eventually gonna be like, I'm just gonna get with her and that's it. This ain't long term. He already know it ain't long term. If he like 26, 28, he know he got a future with something else. So he just, this is just a pass along pass by.

[Azar Faraday]

It's taking up time. There's men that have been like Draya's with, oh boy, they have a kid together, he's like 23 and she's 45 or something.

[The Truth]

But there is cases where, you know, there is cases to where an older lady can like really like turn a young boy out and he's just overwhelmed and he's just like, damn.

[Azar Faraday]

I think that it's kind of strange that when men are with super young women, we're like, that's disgusting. You're this. But when women do it, it's not looked at like that. I personally don't find that, that I think that's nasty. And I think that there's a lot of men who've been taken advantage by women who were like older Than them. And they were only like 14 or 15. And they have these stories of like, oh, this older woman who was like this age was doing this and doing that. That's. No, that's a real thing that a.

[The Truth]

Lot of men experienced.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. And that's a real, you know, that's a real.

[The Truth]

When I was 21, 22, there was like an older lady I was dating.

[Azar Faraday]

What was her age?

[The Truth]

She was like in her 30s. Okay, she was like near her 30s. But it was like as a young 21, 22 year old, you know, in the league with some cheese. It was just like, all right. She was like, all right, I'm gonna fly you here, I'm gonna pick you up in my bins. I'm like, this is baller, this is quack. Like you ain't seeing that from the young. So it's just like, all right, I'm gonna take you. So now you intrigued by that. I'm gonna put you up in this suite here. And I'm like, damn, this is crazy. Rub you down. I'm like, damn, this is not to rub you down.

[Azar Faraday]

She got the feather, man.

[The Truth]

She had that big feather. The big feather. It was like, damn. So now you over here, now I ain't gonna even lie to you. My mind was gone. My mind was gone.

[Azar Faraday]

I can imagine.

[The Truth]

I was just like, hold on.

[Azar Faraday]

But that's crazy though. That's like grooming us somebody.

[The Truth]

Yeah, yeah. I was like.

[Azar Faraday]

And when men do that, it's looked up like, you're disgusting, you're nasty, you're fucked up. But we need to hold women accountable because. What do you mean? You have a son that's his same age and this is who you're dealing with. Like, and men don't emotionally mature scientifically till 43. So you're telling me that you're with a 20 year old boy or even boys who are like 15, 16, it's cracking for a man. Cuz they're looking like this older woman, she's turning me out, she's putting me on. But that's still not okay. Like, that's weird and that's uncomfortable. Like, I would never mess with any young boy, like 21, 22. Like, I think that that's very strange. I don'. Feel comfortable with that. I have a nephew that's older than that. Like, to me personally, I do not feel comfortable with that. I don't like younger men. I do not want to date anyone younger than me. I've never been with anybody younger. Me only older than me. I Don't deal with younger men. I think it's very weird. And like, I just think that men already have a problem being mature. So it's like then I'm being with someone who's even more. And it's like you are taking advantage of them. It feels like you could easily, like I could manipulate a young boy so easily.

[The Truth]

Right now it's different because like I was like I was in the league so I seen a lot already.

[Azar Faraday]

No, it doesn't matter though, because I've had young boys that are in the league that be like 21, 22, money, rich, everything, trying to be like, what's up? And I'm like, you are a child. I will not with you. Like that's weird. And literally like I could take advantage of him and be like, let get married to him and everything, take his money and do all this. Like it's easy. That's why women are doing that. I see a lot of women getting with the young athlete boys and doing that. Like that's the little play. A lot of girls are doing that right now. Play, that's a new play right now. I see a lot. I. I don't even want to name the names cuz I feel bad. But it's a lot of women that are doing that right now.

[The Truth]

It's a ring of them.

[Azar Faraday]

It's a bunch of them. Yeah, it's a ring of them. I don't know who the ring leader is. They got a group chat maybe.

[The Truth]

I think it's a group chat.

[Azar Faraday]

I could imagine that, but I'm not dealing with that. I don't want to build. First of all, I want to be with a man who's like, knows more than me, can teach me stuff, can put me on a stuff, can tell me things. I don't want to be with someone where like your mom, like. Then it becomes like a. A weird, like sting. You know what I mean? It just starts to be weird. Like I don't like that, I don't want to be that. Like anyways, so the game was talking about how he feels like when he's entertaining women he has no real intentions for. And like he knows, like, I'm not gonna be with this girl in a relationship. I'm not gonna mess with her or my heart is somewhere else already. Like I love someone else. He admits that he like loses sleep over that and he feels like men don't talk about that enough and they don't talk about like the fact that damn like entertaining women who I don't really? With like, that. Just for sex, like, he was like, I'll feel so bad and sick to my stomach, like, the next day to the point where I had to stop doing that. You know what I mean? Because I'm just like. I'm too grown to be in that type of situation where I'm doing this, and now I'm guilty and I feel so crazy, you know? What are your thoughts on that?

[The Truth]

I agree with that.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

I think, you know, when you start getting to the realization when you get older, it's a waste of your goddamn time.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

You looking at a girl and it looked good, and you like, damn, it'll be a. You know, sexually, it's cool, but it's just like, I don't see no future with her. I don't see myself really taking her serious. Yeah. And now I'm looking at like, damn, what am I doing? Wasting my time. Because as you get older, the years, you just like, man, I ain't got time to waste no more. It's like, dog, you've been doing that for so long. You've been doing it for so long, and you just like, that's a waste of my time. I'd rather be, like, by myself or just, you know, just focused and locked in than wasting my time with a girl I know I'm not gonna be with. Why am I even going to dinner with her? Why am I even having sex with her? Why am I even doing anything with her? Because it's like, I know long. I know I'm not gonna be with her, but I think men get lonely. I think men love the. Just. It's a lot of men just. It's tough not having somebody around that always with a girl and stuff like that. And it happens even though you already know. You might have a girl at your house or hanging out with them, doing stuff, having activities with them, and you just know you don't wanna be. You know what I'm saying? You keep the friendship, and you just like, you know, I know I ain't gonna be with you, but you still, you know, do stuff like, y' all in a relationship. But then it's just like, you know, why am I wasting my time? I really actually saw that, and I felt what he was kind of like saying. Because, like, it's a waste of time now.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

And it's a waste of mental, like.

[Azar Faraday]

You know, I get it. Yeah. I felt that before.

[The Truth]

You probably feel like that now, too, huh?

[Azar Faraday]

Not now, but I've definitely felt that.

[The Truth]

Why not now?

[Azar Faraday]

What do you mean.

[The Truth]

I mean you probably feel like that like being an older lady. Like, you know, you're just dealing with dating guys you like. No, it ain't gonna know long term. Nothing coming from it.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, well, I have it because time.

[The Truth]

Is running out for you.

[Azar Faraday]

Time is not going nowhere for me. I'm good. So I'm the one who I'm. Don't go off of societal. What time something has to be. A lot of people, they met those marks by me. Oh, I'm gonna marry someone I'm gonna have. I'm gonna do. And they're miserable and they're divorced and they're unhappy and they don't have a strong relationship. I don't care. Society is putting time on you. Not going to rule my life. What kind of. What kind of person am I to let anybody rule what time I'm doing anything? Are you pay like what do what? Like I wake up in the morning. Do someone else choose what time that.

[The Truth]

Is when you get older. Like it's not a desperation to like.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't have a desperation. I can't. For people. Maybe me.

[The Truth]

You don't think that's a thing though? Like when getting older like to find like before I see. Stop looking a certain way or stop being a certain way or stop. And then they just become. See, this is the thing about women. Like when they start getting older and they don't have that relationship, they start getting more depressed. You know, I started noticing in that.

[Azar Faraday]

That'S actually not true because statistically, women who are unmarried and single are happier and men who are unmarried and single are more depressed. This is a statistic done by Harvard study the women.

[The Truth]

If you tell me one more thing about the goddamn hard stuff.

[Azar Faraday]

The women.

[The Truth]

The women, they didn't put up 100 human beings, all right, live here until you're like 70. And we're going to see if you're gonna. And then write some down like, oh, he's depressed.

[Azar Faraday]

Because men need more from women when it comes to when they get older emotionally.

[The Truth]

I don't go by Harvard studies.

[Azar Faraday]

Let me tell you something. Women are now more happy being single. But I understand what you're saying. Where society puts a time clock on women and man of like especially women. Oh, you need to be married by this time. Why aren't you married? Why don't you have kids? Why aren't you this like you even said before, like, oh, if you're over this age and you don't have a kid, there's something wrong with you.

[The Truth]

I never Said that.

[Azar Faraday]

You said that.

[The Truth]

So I will be throwing words in my mouth.

[Azar Faraday]

Put it in. Something wrong with you?

[The Truth]

Something's wrong.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you know what it is? You.

[The Truth]

No, I never.

[Azar Faraday]

You're everything that's wrong with me. So anyways, I didn't say, yeah, you did.

[The Truth]

Wrong with you.

[Azar Faraday]

You said that. You said that.

[The Truth]

No, I just say that like, like.

[Azar Faraday]

You, you said there's a level of desperation.

[The Truth]

No, I think those women like that they just overthink it. Or.

[Azar Faraday]

Have you ever considered that maybe they were pregnant and they were with someone who said, I don't want to have a kid right now and it was their partner? Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever thought about women who decided not to have children and have abortions because they felt like they didn't want to be in a situation that was up and even though they were doing everything right and they were with a partner that they love, but unfortunately they couldn't. It like there's a lot of situations in which that happens. So you can't sit there and judge anybody because you don't know what storm God has asked them to walk through. You could not sit here and put anything on anybody's life because at the end of the day, someone should tell me I should be married and I should have a kid. But half of the people that I know married and had a kid on the time that society said we should are not with that person and are in a broken family and are co parenting and are alone and now they have to raise a kid. And also hopefully they can find a partner that they want and bring a partner into a situation where they already have all this excess baggage. So at the end of the day, I'm grateful that I'm my age and I don't have excess baggage. I don't have a baby daddy I have to deal with in a co parenting situation. And luckily someone who comes in my life doesn't have to deal with that. They can get someone who don't have all of that going on and I can actually have a real chance at meeting someone that I can have a real family with and not have all this broken that I've created because I was young and I didn't really know what I wanted and I was young and I was trying to beat some biological clock.

[The Truth]

Even if you know what you wanted and stuff happens.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, so it happens. But you can't judge anybody's walk of or their path. You can't say this person was better.

[The Truth]

Because like, you can have. No, you can get the, the situation you want and then have the break. Exactly like that. Yeah. Then you waited all day. You could have did. You could have started that a long time ago.

[Azar Faraday]

But the thing is, is what I'm trying to say is I'm not judging that. You are. You're saying that this person, this people who did this were better. Why are women over 30 or women over 30 don't have this, or men over 30, they're this. You're saying that these people are better because they made this decision, right? I'm saying I don't feel that way. I feel like everyone has a certain walk and path that they decide. There's decisions that I've made till this day that was not getting married to someone or not having a baby. These are the decisions that I, I have made to be where I am here. I don't think I'm better than anyone and I don't think that they're better than me because they decided to be married whether it was happy or not.

[The Truth]

Do you have any regrets?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't have regrets, no. I feel like everything that I've done so far, like I'm, I'm okay with, you know, like I, I do feel like at the end of the day, everything I did was to get me to where I am right now. So I'm the person I am and the woman I am because of what I was, you know, God had me walk through, through. So, yeah, I don't feel like anyone is better. And I feel like for women out there that feel like they have to, because men always. And people, you should be married. You should have this. Why are you single? Why are you single? Why are you single? Because I want to be. Because I feel good about it. I have been blessed because I really have not been single like that. And I just feel like even in those moments, maybe I should have. Maybe I should have spent my 20s single and not in these boot up relationships my whole life. Life, you know, I don't know. But at the end of the day, I think that you just have to go through what you go through and don't let society or a man or any woman or anybody tell you that you need to do something differently. That's it. Because I, I don't like that. I don't like that.

[The Truth]

Are you pissed right now?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not pissed. I feel like people always think I'm pissed because I'm passionate. I talk with passion. I'm not pissed off at anything. I just want people to feel that because every woman that sat here in this chair and came on here. They say the same thing.

[The Truth]

Thing.

[Azar Faraday]

People weaponize singleness for women. Why are you single? There's something wrong with you. People do that to women all the time, but they don't do it to men. They praise men who are single. Oh, you're smart. You're not married. You're smart. You're not that. You're smarter than that. But then women are like, why are you single? Well, because I don't want to be the. With the man who's smart for being single. Like, because I want to be with someone who I actually am in alignment with, you know? And right now, I might not have that. Like, that's why. Like, so I feel like people, you know, whatever. So I. I just don't want people to always feel like being single is a weapon, you know? Like, it's not, you know, even though I have not been single a lot in my lifetime, but I know a lot of women who feel like that that's like a weapon form against them. Like, when Kendra G. Was on our podcast, you see, she said that, and every comment on our thing is like, you're not married. You're single. You're single. You're old and single. Like, they're telling her that every day. And it's like, like, okay, like, so what? And y' all men are probably single or very unhappy.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

In your relationship. Miserable hater. Never loved her like Brian McKnight never was.

[The Truth]

That's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

So it's like, whatever. Like, they'll pray someone in an abusive, toxic relationship and be like, wow, they're married, but they're probably getting their ass beat every night.

[The Truth]

So. All right, let me ask you this. Like, oh, as, like, as you get older. Yes. And you said that you don't feel like time is running out now.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

But, like, if. When you start dating. Yeah. And if. Like, what? What, like, what's the timeline to know? Like, I know I'm gonna be with this person. Or are you more, like, say, quick to, like, say, let's be together? Or.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm not quick to say let's be together, but I will say that I haven't dated a lot in my life, but I feel like when I meet someone and it's a connection, like, I won't. I'll know immediately if, like, oh, I.

[The Truth]

Could be fucked up first date.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. I could know very quickly, energetically, like, oh, I can mess with this person, or I could really rock this person long term. And, like, you know, I usually we both feel that connection, and it's like, okay, like, you want to do this or you want to? Like, what are we doing? Or whatever the case is.

[The Truth]

You know, have you ever dated somebody and then y' all been dating so long, you'd be like, all right, so what are we?

[Azar Faraday]

I never had to go through that.

[The Truth]

No.

[Azar Faraday]

But I know a lot of women who went through that.

[The Truth]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I mean?

[The Truth]

Like, are we, like, what's going on?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but because I have a strong belief, if I have to act, ask, what are we?

[The Truth]

Or what's going on?

[Azar Faraday]

We're not doing. We're not.

[The Truth]

Nothing.

[Azar Faraday]

Cause I feel like if a man wants to be with you, he's going to be like, we're together. Like, that's the situation I've had. Like, you ain't got nobody else. Like, we're together. Make sure everybody knows. Clean your shit up. Like, no.

[The Truth]

Remember we said this on the episode. If you dating a man for like three, four months and you ask him what's going on, you are officially some work.

[Azar Faraday]

Exactly. I agree. I think you're some work after that.

[The Truth]

You are officially the work. That's what you are. I think so and don't even know it.

[Azar Faraday]

It and don't even know it. I think so, too. I think your work. But I think a lot of women know, and I think that a lot of women like to stay in the gray area, because once you ask, you're going to get the answer you know you don't want, so you just don't say nothing.

[The Truth]

More women like being work than in relationships.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't think that's true, bro.

[The Truth]

That's true.

[Azar Faraday]

Where. Where are you coming up with this?

[The Truth]

More women love to be work than in a relationship.

[Azar Faraday]

That is so false.

[The Truth]

That is not false.

[Azar Faraday]

You think that women want to be somebody's sex toy.

[The Truth]

I didn't say that.

[Azar Faraday]

Work is someone's sex toy. Basically, I'm a sex dog.

[The Truth]

That's not it.

[Azar Faraday]

Then what is it?

[The Truth]

Work.

[Azar Faraday]

What is work? Divine work.

[The Truth]

Do some work.

[Azar Faraday]

What is some work?

[The Truth]

You can't just say, somebody I just hang out with.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. No. Women don't like that. That's why women are like, what are.

[The Truth]

We doing to work? They do.

[Azar Faraday]

You don't think women are like, what are we. What are we doing?

[The Truth]

Because. Because most likely you work to the man, but you, you, you the woman. Look at the man. Probably like, some work. You know what I'm saying? Women that like that, like that.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't know. I feel like, you know, I don't feel comfortable. Like, I've been in a situation before where I was dating somebody, and he was very like, what are we? What are we? What are we? And, you know, like, we. We were just dating. Like. Like weren't sexual. And, like, he was catching a lot of feelings. And I felt really guilty. So I get what the game felt like. I felt like, oh, my God. I know that I don't want to be with this man, but, like, also.

[The Truth]

So I'm gonna take these dinners.

[Azar Faraday]

No, it wasn't the dinner. It was that. This is what it was. I'm gonna be honest. It was that he was such a nice guy, and everyone was like, oh, my God, he's a nice guy. Like, he would never cheat on you. He would never. This. He's handsome. He saw. Like, he was, like, the perfect on paper, right? And I was like. Like, I know this, and I should want this man. Like, I need to want him. I need to love him. Like, And I just literally couldn't do it. And I was like, oh, my. And I was forcing myself. Like, I have to try to like him because this is the man I should marry. This is the man I should be with. Like, he's so nice, and I don't want to be the woman where it's like, you don't like a nice man, because I do. But it was just something about him where I was like, I can't get into it. And, like, romance, and I couldn't even mention something. And then the next day, it's like, oh, here. Like, just everything, the thoughtful, the romance of this, everything was there, except the connection was there, not there. And I knew without the connection, I couldn't have a real relationship. So I would tell him, like, look, I don't know. I would be very transparent, honest the whole time. Because I was like, I don't know if this is what I want. Really. I don't feel it. And he would just force it, press it, and I'm like, finally. I was like, look, I feel so bad, but I just can't. I can't get into it. Like, I'm sorry. And I know I broke his heart. Like, I felt so sick, but I was honest the whole time.

[The Truth]

The more and more I sit across from you, I feel like I'm your therapist.

[Azar Faraday]

I know you're lying. I know you're lying. You're my therapist.

[The Truth]

No, because I'm listening. I've listened to a lot of your stories, and I'm sitting here just hearing you out.

[Azar Faraday]

And, okay, so what is your assessment? What do you think I need? What would you say that I need?

[The Truth]

I'll write down a full evaluation for you and have it for you in the morning.

[Azar Faraday]

I appreciate that. Send me the invoice, honey. Okay, so before we wrap up, there's this man. I just think that people are doing too much. This is my opinion. This man said, I'm a very simple man and I have no business being with someone who has both parents still alive because I'm not. He said, look it. He said, I'm not comforting you through two parental losses. I'm sorry. I'm good.

[The Truth]

That makes some sense, though. So he gonna get you a old lady. He want an old lady. Cause most girls who parent. He said he don't want a girl.

[Azar Faraday]

Whose parents are alive. Cause I'm not dealing with.

[The Truth]

So you looking for. He must be an older man. So he looking for a lady that's probably in her late 40s, 50s or.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't know, maybe he wants that and he wants a younger. This is my thing. People have.

[The Truth]

Who have both parents.

[Azar Faraday]

People have preferences that ain't even preferenced before.

[The Truth]

Like, what do you mean? The emotional toll on that is. Could be devastating.

[Azar Faraday]

I get that I have both of my parents. I'm just like, I don't really like, I get it. But it's like, damn, this is now the stipulations. And I think that that's why more people are being alone than ever, because y' all got stipulations on it. Everything. Don't have two parents. Can't do this. Can't have never did this. Can't happen. Like, it's too much like, damn. Like. And then you wonder. People have all these expectations, you got to do this. You got to be buying me my nails and my things on the spot the second day. You got to be like, what is it?

[The Truth]

A man too much? Or is the woman Both?

[Azar Faraday]

No, I think women. More women. Definitely more.

[The Truth]

Nails, hair.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. Cuz a woman came on here. I actually put this. She said that if a man's not paying for her nails after two weeks of talking. Talking and getting early stage gifts, then it's over.

[The Truth]

Damn. Yeah. Early stage gifts is blowing me. So you could pretty much buy. You just. You just hiding your prostitution.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. You're. You're a prostitute.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

100.

[The Truth]

I think we. In a generation, more prostitution. The. The more transactional prostitution than ever before.

[Azar Faraday]

And you know what? This girl, she's like an Instagram model. Her name is like Chinese kitty or something. She looks. Looks like, all done up like the bbl, all the surgeries or whatever. And she basically said, I need a man to make 10 million to keep up with my baddie lifestyle because I need my injections, I need my this, I need my that, I need all the things that I need. And I'm just like, I'm so confused about how everything is a transaction. But what I thought about was, she says that confidently because men will do it. It. Like, there's men that are like, okay, like, I'll buy you what's up? Like, and so you feel like you can do that. Men and women are both responsible for this transactional relationship era that we're living in, because it wouldn't even be happening if the man didn't purchase it. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, we forgot about having real connection and real love and relationships. That's like, for a lot of people have gone out the window. And for someone like me, like, with old school parents and old school values, like, I need real connection and real love. Like, you can't. Can't buy me at all.

[The Truth]

If my girl can't make gumbo, I ain't messing with her, I'm crying. Oh, what about that one?

[Azar Faraday]

Come on. I can't make no.

[The Truth]

This new school can't make no gumbo.

[Azar Faraday]

If they can just gotta get that rule going.

[The Truth]

She can't make that rule. I'm good.

[Azar Faraday]

Gotta stir that rule.

[The Truth]

You gotta stir that rule.

[Azar Faraday]

This is the Daily Fantasy segment brought to you by prize picks, where you can win real cash by playing Daily Fantasy. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first five. So, Paul, we're gonna do a little segment. It's called Daily Fantasy. And basically, I love a good fantasy. You love a good fantasy.

[The Truth]

I love a good fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, come on. You love a good fantasy, honey. So, okay, I wanna know, in a relationship, what do you feel like would be your fantasy? And it doesn't have to be anything like sexual. It can be just like, what do you feel like?

[The Truth]

My fantasy? Yeah, man. For a relationship?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[The Truth]

A fantasy. Ooh, my fantasy?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. Like in a relationship, what would be your perfect. Like, what is a fantasy that you just want fulfilled?

[The Truth]

Fantasy?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. If you can have anything fulfilled in your relationship.

[The Truth]

Is for the woman to hold accountability. Fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

That's a fantasy to you?

[The Truth]

That's a fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

You don't feel like no woman holding accountability ever, man.

[The Truth]

What?

[Azar Faraday]

That's crazy.

[The Truth]

That's fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

You want to know what my fantasy is for a man not to Cheat on me to know if I love him. Yeah, get into that fantasy. Yeah, that's a fantasy that I don't have to struggle for love, honey.

[The Truth]

So what you saying? You've been cheating on all your relationships?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, 100%. I don't. I don't ever been with nobody and you know, maybe I did something wrong in a past life, but I'm telling you my fantasy.

[The Truth]

Did you stay with them after they cheated?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I did.

[The Truth]

That's love. That's love.

[Azar Faraday]

I was in love with them. Or was it dumb as hell? Which one is it? Because honestly, I feel like for me, I want to have. My fantasy is to not have to struggle for love. Like I feel like in reality a lot of women struggle first in order to have love. And men, like you said, this is from your mouth, should cheat on their women to see if they really love them. Oh, so you want to drag someone through the mud in order to see if you love them and test them and do all these things. But you're hurting this person in the process. And to me, I fantasize about not having to be strong. I don't want to be strong when people tell me you're strong. I don't like that. I know I am. But I fantasize about a world.

[The Truth]

You don't want a real fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

Come on, that's a real fantasy.

[The Truth]

It's not a real fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

That's a real fantasy. I fantasize about not. I have to be strong my whole life. In every relationship. Dating a man, it takes strength.

[The Truth]

A fantasy is supposed to be something that's like, like.

[Azar Faraday]

And that for you is holding women accountable, man, you know what I'm saying? I'm crying.

[The Truth]

Like your body going to bring you to tears and.

[Azar Faraday]

No, it's not.

[The Truth]

That's just thinking about it because you fantasizing about that.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm fantasizing about not having to struggle for love, which is so incredible. That's ah. Imagine I have a love where I'm not crying and I'm not going through it and I'm not sad. And I'm not getting this, Che. No, I'm not getting lied to. I'm not getting hurt her. That's a fantasy, man.

[The Truth]

Come on.

[Azar Faraday]

That's a fantasy. Yours is women holding you accountable. Like you get women holding themselves accountable. That's not odd.

[The Truth]

That is. Yes, that is right.

[Azar Faraday]

So that's odd to you. So you never been with any woman that was accountable.

[The Truth]

That's a tough one. That's a tough one.

[Azar Faraday]

That's wild. To me. What about another fantasy? Do you have anything else or.

[The Truth]

Yeah, for sure. So a fantasy for me is like, all right, just like, you know, a hard day. You've been working and grinding as a man, thinking about how you can build, get to the next level. And you come home and, you know, you got the LEDs rolling.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

You got the sexy lingerie on.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

Bath water ran.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

Fireplace, you got the foot bath right there. You got the big feather.

[Azar Faraday]

What's the big feather?

[The Truth]

The big feather.

[Azar Faraday]

This is coming to America.

[The Truth]

This is my fantasy. You asked what's my fantasy?

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so what's a big feather? Please tell me.

[The Truth]

Just a big feather. I don't know, like a.

[Azar Faraday]

Like some Coming to America type.

[The Truth]

Like a big feather. Like you could just, you know.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, so she's fanning you down with the feather.

[The Truth]

Yeah, yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

This is crazy. So she's giving you a foot fast and fattening you at the same. Or is it two different. Is one woman.

[The Truth]

Essential oils burning? I'm trying to set the mood up. You killing the mood. I'm trying to set the picture up for the people who watching us to see this.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, go ahead. Go ahead.

[The Truth]

You know, and you keep jumping in it.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, go ahead.

[The Truth]

The photograph, the massage table right there. We got the LED lights moving. It's low and dim with the fireplace going on. The tv, it's probably, like, got some. Well, no, you know what? As a matter of fact, the TV just gonna be playing some soft music, and then I'm gonna come in, have the robe ready for me. Boom. Jump in the shower, get bathed. Get bath, the bathing. Love that cracking. That's the, you know, cracking. Get bathed. Boom. Come out toweled up, towel dried off. Jump on the massage table, get rubbed down. Okay, the rub down. Once I get off the massage table, I set up the table. There's some wine and a meal. Man, here we go. Feel my belly up. Making me not think about nothing. Then I come from the dinner table, sit on the couch with my feet right there.

[Azar Faraday]

Your feet right there.

[The Truth]

In the foot bath. In the foot bath. The foot bath is rolling. What?

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

This is my fan.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, I'm listening.

[The Truth]

I'm trying to interrupt it.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not.

[The Truth]

Damn. I'm painting the picture.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

And then the feather come back. Bring that back.

[Azar Faraday]

The feather come back, is blowing me.

[The Truth]

So now all I got on now is just a robe with my feet. Nothing on, just a robe.

[Azar Faraday]

Just naked robe on.

[The Truth]

Yeah, Leave it open. Just open up like this. Lay my head back, getting feathered up.

[Azar Faraday]

What Is it. What is getting feathered up?

[The Truth]

Then the coconut oil come out.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

Then we get the coconut oil with the candles rolling. Maybe get the hot wax and drip that down, you know, get the hot wax.

[Azar Faraday]

What is the.

[The Truth]

This is my fantasy.

[Azar Faraday]

What is the hot wax?

[The Truth]

You know, get the candle, the wax.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Okay. Yeah. And drip it all down the body.

[The Truth]

Just probably on my inner thigh area where it kind of stings. And you kind of get me. Get it jolt me. You know what I'm saying? And then it jolts me. It gets me going like, ooh, ooh, you know, and it's like, ooh, man. Then you know, then that's when my lady come around from behind me with the feather. And then, you know, the feather is mawing me and I just sit back and put my head back.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay.

[The Truth]

And then, you know, then if you know, you know.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, come on, feather. It's the feather for me.

[The Truth]

It's the feather.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. It's the feather for me.

[The Truth]

I'm gonna have to bring a fuck feather in so you can see what I'm talking about.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Yeah, I'm excited to see that. Okay. Well, I love your fantasy. You know what I'm saying?

[The Truth]

That's what it is. You asked me what was mine.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, thank you to our good friends at prize Picks, America's number one sports pick app. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first five. Okay, so one last thing. Ghosting. So a woman said ghosting is sinful and it disrespects a person's God given dignity. Do you feel that way? Like if you ghost someone without any communication or. I know you don't feel that way because you seem like you just ghost anybody at any time.

[The Truth]

That's me, Paul, Ghost Pierce.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't like that because for me, personally, I don't like a ghosting because it lacks courage.

[The Truth]

It.

[Azar Faraday]

It lacks responsibility.

[The Truth]

Let me tell you what goes into God.

[Azar Faraday]

What goes into it?

[The Truth]

What goes into it? You know what it is? What is it? And women fail time and time again to hold accountability. When a man ghosts you, it's just not for nothing. It's something. But he don't have to. He don't have to sit and argue about it. He just. He good. I'm just good. I'm good. Ain't no need to explain it. You know what it is?

[Azar Faraday]

I think that's weird and tacky.

[The Truth]

That's not weird.

[Azar Faraday]

Learn to communicate as a person.

[The Truth]

Well, it's not. I'm not in a full Blown relationship with you. First of all, ghosting don't happen in a full blown relationship. It happens with somebody you talking to, hanging out with.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but if you're talking to and hanging out with someone, at least you could be like, y.

[The Truth]

Not emotionally invested like that either.

[Azar Faraday]

You're not, but the other person probably is.

[The Truth]

No. Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, I. I personally, I never been ghosted before, but. And I never ghosted anybody.

[The Truth]

Huh?

[Azar Faraday]

Huh?

[The Truth]

You ain't never been ghosted?

[Azar Faraday]

No. Like, I don't talk to people to where it's just like casual. To where you just ghost me. Like, I don't have casual relationships.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

But I've also been in a relationship most of my life, so I don't have, like all these dating fleeing things because I've been in serious relationships most of my life.

[The Truth]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

So, you know, I'm a relationship person. But I just feel like the ghosting thing, like, I would at least tell someone, like, look, this is just not for me.

[The Truth]

What if he sex you back? Like, I'm good.

[Azar Faraday]

What you mean?

[The Truth]

And then don't say nothing after that.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, just text me. I'm good.

[The Truth]

I'm good.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm good. Love and joy. I mean, I guess I'm not gonna hit nobody up if they're texting me like, I'm good or I'm falling back. Like, I'm just gonna be like, okay, like, cool. Like, I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna ever with you again. Like, I'm not chasing nobody. I'm not that person. Like, I'm cool if I'm in a relationship with someone. Yes. I'm gonna be like, like, hello. Like, you gotta be up. But if it's just someone that I'm dating or something weird and they're just like, cool, I'm. Okay, bye.

[The Truth]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. There was more to talk about, but we gotta wrap it up. Thank you guys so much for joining our episode. Make sure you guys are subscribing, commenting, telling us other topics that you want to hear from either Paul, myself, or both of us. Feedback, all of that jazz. We love to hear from you guys. We really appreciate the support. Thank you. Thank you so much. Anything you want to say to the people, Paul?

[The Truth]

Enjoy the holidays.

[Azar Faraday]

You are crazy. Enjoy the holidays.

[The Truth]

Yeah. Enjoy the holidays.

[Azar Faraday]

All right, thank you.

[The Truth]

We love you.

[Azar Faraday]

We love you.

[The Truth]

Down. This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Azar Faraday]

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[The Truth]

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[Azar Faraday]

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