Club Shay Shay – Truth After Dark: "Kim K’s Influence On BBL Culture & Why Men Are The Prize"

Date: December 15, 2025
Hosts: Azar Faraday & Period Paul P
Podcast Network: iHeartPodcasts and Shay Shay Media

Episode Overview

In this lively episode, Azar Faraday and Period Paul P jump into the cultural ripple effects of celebrity influence—most notably, Kim Kardashian—on beauty standards, the BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) craze, and gender roles in modern relationships. They candidly discuss how social trends are shaped, the debate over "who is the prize," and why so many women pursue cosmetic surgery in pursuit of desirability. The hosts also unpack the double standards and pressures faced by women, the impact of male validation, and the complicated dynamics of relationships in a social media age.

Table of Contents

1. Cultural Trends: Kim Kardashian’s Influence
2. BBL Culture and Male Preferences
3. Double Standards & Beauty Standards
4. Who Is the Real “Prize” – Men or Women?
5. OnlyFans & Changing Perceptions of Women’s Agency
6. Safety, Gender, & Social Expectations
7. Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes
8. Timestamps for Key Segments

1. Cultural Trends: Kim Kardashian’s Influence

Discussion:
The hosts directly address Kim Kardashian's outsize impact on modern beauty ideals, delving into how her physical features have become the template for global trends—particularly among women of all backgrounds.

• Influence on Beauty Norms:

  • Paul P claims, "I blame Kim Kardashian for the women we see today. I truly do, because she is one of the most influential women that ever lived… she had the plastic surgeries and made it cool to do that." (16:31)
  • Azar counters, noting Kim doesn’t have drastic lip injections like others, but Paul P argues, "She's the reason. Cause I feel like every girl look like [Kim]…want the straight black hair and the lips and the curvy booty…and the eyelashes." (17:05)

• Cultural Appropriation vs. Imitation:

  • Azar highlights Black cultural roots of these trends, critiquing how credit is rarely given:
    • "If you look back in our history, there’s all types of hair textures...Y'all tan your skin to look darker…do your lips. You want to look fuller…everything that you’re doing is black." (15:15)
  • Paul replies: "I wouldn’t even call it stealing...Imitation is a form of [flattery]." (18:53)
  • Azar’s view: “It’s okay to do that...[but] as long as you give people credit, where it’s due.” (19:38)

2. BBL Culture and Male Preferences

Discussion:
Rising numbers of women undergoing BBLs and other surgeries are explored in relation to male desire and cultural messaging.

• The Impact of Male Validation:

  • Viral quote response: “As a man, I'm not working 10 hours to come home and look at a flat ass butt…That's crazy.” (10:53)
  • Azar’s frustration: “That puts women down and makes them feel crazy... this is why women get BBLs.” (11:14)

• Natural Curves and Shifting Beauty Ideals:

  • Paul P on Black beauty influence: "Culturally…our women are just like, naturally have big booties...So now, since we are cultural representers of America, people want that look." (11:43)
  • Azar: “Back in the day it was frowned upon. Even in old movies girls said, ‘How do I get rid of this fat butt?’” (13:43)

• Pressure from Partners:

  • Azar tells a story: "I'll never forget that one time I was with my homegirl and her man told her… 'If you would’ve had some butt, I would have been proposed to you.' She hopped on a plane and got a BBL. Swear to God." (21:23)

3. Double Standards & Beauty Standards

Discussion:
The hosts dig into how these expectations shape women’s self-image and the prioritization of outer perfection.

• Internalized Pressure:

  • Azar: “As a woman, you just analyze everything about yourself…You wanna be the best version of yourself…and if I do this, maybe I will be like, you know, most liked.” (22:28)
  • Paul P questions: "All the women…what is that? The fake hair, the fake nails…make you the best version of yourself?" (22:58)

• Consequences of Surgery:

  • Paul P’s warning: "Be more of your natural self…girls lose they self in the surgery…when you start looking at some of these before and afters, it’s crazy." (20:25)

4. Who Is the Real "Prize"—Men or Women?

Discussion:
The show humorously negotiates the concept of "the prize" in dating, recognizing both gendered insecurities and efforts for validation.

• Who Seeks Validation More?

  • Azar admits: "When you're out here as a woman, like, you wanna get the best man…If I look this way, I can get this man, this money, change my life…" (23:14)

• "Men are the prize" argument:

  • Paul P: "If women are doing all of that, then men have to be the prize." (24:13)
  • Azar: "I believe that men and women are both the prize…If it’s the right situation." (24:19)

5. OnlyFans & Changing Perceptions of Women’s Agency

Discussion:
A segment is devoted to the explosion of OnlyFans, shifting ideas about self-promotion, and debates about sexual empowerment versus long-term impact.

• Stats & Trends:

  • "1.4 million American women are now on OnlyFans." (35:19)
  • Azar: "I should get more credit as a woman to have the body that I have and not be on OnlyFans." (35:51)
  • Paul P: "How much you gonna take? OnlyFans, they said tomorrow we get 10..." (36:10)
  • Azar: "The reason I can’t do it is…it’s just like a digital footprint that lasts forever…I cannot sell my soul for that." (36:31)

• Sex Work vs. Content Creation:

  • Azar draws the line: "If you’re a person...you having sex, you having sex. I’m never doing that like ever." (38:10)
  • Paul P: "Let me ask you a question. If a man…says…here’s 20 million just to sleep with you?" (39:15)
  • Azar: "There's always going to be strings attached…whatever you do, there's a price to pay. Whether it's a financial price or something else." (41:01)

6. Safety, Gender, & Social Expectations

Discussion:
The duo contrasts the different realities faced by men and women regarding personal safety, especially in dating and public life.

• Women’s Perspective:

  • Azar: “Women have so many worries more than that on a first date…Getting raped, drugged, killed—that’s worse than just getting robbed and killed.” (43:23)

• Men’s Perspective:

  • Paul P: “For a man, getting set up. Possibly even killed from a woman.” (43:01)

• Escalating Dangers:

  • Azar gives a personal anecdote: “I was in my car and a man opened my back door and sat in my car…he was a psycho.” (44:52)
  • Paul P alarms: “Lock your goddamn doors…what's wrong with you females? Lock your damn door!” (45:16)
  • Azar, on situational awareness: “…it's not always that simple. I just hopped into my car and didn't lock my door right away." (45:51)

7. Memorable Moments & Quotes

• On Kim K as archetype:

  • Paul P: "She is really the reason why the women look the way they look today, good or bad." (17:42)

• On BBL pressure:

  • Azar: "People always say to me, like, you don't understand because you have a certain body type…But I have a nose that's big, that I'd be thinking, I want a nose job." (21:42)

• On women’s efforts for men:

  • Azar: "You don't know how painful it is to get your legs and your body wax…we do a lot, we do a lot, and it blows me..." (24:19)

• On gendered safety:

  • Azar: "As women, we have to fear way more things than men…Men have the freedom to do a lot of other things that women don't…" (43:54)

• On relationship advice:

  • Paul P: "There's no playbook for a relationship…you just have to know your partner and get to know your partner and ask questions." (30:03)
  • Azar: "Men need to accept and understand women are emotional creatures…we might need more reassurance…because that's just how we are." (32:31)

• Azar's story on friend's BBL:

  • "I'll never forget that one time I was with my homegirl and her man told her when I was right there, ‘If you would’ve had some butt, I would have been proposed to you.’ She hopped on a plane and got a BBL. Swear to God. True story." (21:23)

• On couples’ dynamics and success:

  • Azar: "Some men and women...they don't want you to be bigger than them…if I keep you here, you need me and you're depending on me." (53:12)

8. Timestamps for Key Segments

• [10:53] – Viral quote about men not wanting "flat ass", discussion leads into BBLs
• [16:31] – Paul P blames Kim Kardashian for current plastic surgery trends
• [19:38] – Debate on imitation vs. appropriation; giving credit to Black innovators
• [21:23] – Azar's story: pressure from a boyfriend leads to friend getting surgery
• [24:06] – Who's the "prize" in dating? Gender roles reversed
• [35:19] – OnlyFans stats and realities, Azar’s personal stance
• [41:01] – Azar explains the intangible 'price' attached to transactional sex
• [43:23] – Safety fears: men vs. women
• [44:52] – Azar’s story about a stranger entering her car
• [49:47] – Young Jeezy's belief in friendship as the basis for marriage
• [51:06] – Portia Williams’ comments on successful women and jealous men

Tone & Style

The conversation is candid, unscripted, and occasionally playful yet addresses serious issues about body image, cultural identity, and the complexity of modern relationships. The hosts are direct, often blending humor ("I’m on my way" as a classic Black lie—48:32), personal story, and unfiltered opinion.

Summary Takeaways

• Kim Kardashian’s look has become a dominant beauty standard, triggering a wave of plastic surgeries and altering what’s seen as desirable worldwide.
• The BBL trend is both rooted in Black culture and controversial; societal and male preferences reinforce pressure on women to modify themselves.
• There’s a tug-of-war between celebrating natural beauty and the normalizing of radical cosmetic alteration.
• Economic opportunity, social media, and validation from men fuel the rise of OnlyFans, with significant discussion about boundaries and long-term digital consequences.
• Gendered safety concerns sharply divide the experience of men and women in public and dating, highlighting ongoing disparities.
• Success in relationships often comes back to mutual respect, communication, and resisting jealousy—friendship and support trumping controlling dynamics.

For listeners: This episode is a deep-dive into the intersections of pop culture, gender politics, and self-identity, offering both personal anecdotes and sharp critique. The hosts’ blend of storytelling, reflection, and debate makes for a relatable, sometimes confrontational, but always honest conversation about what it means to navigate attraction, affirmation, and authenticity in 2025.