Kim K’s Influence On BBL Culture & Why Men Are The Prize | Truth After Dark

Summary

Club Shay Shay – Truth After Dark: "Kim K’s Influence On BBL Culture & Why Men Are The Prize"

Date: December 15, 2025
Hosts: Azar Faraday & Period Paul P
Podcast Network: iHeartPodcasts and Shay Shay Media

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Episode Overview

In this lively episode, Azar Faraday and Period Paul P jump into the cultural ripple effects of celebrity influence—most notably, Kim Kardashian—on beauty standards, the BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) craze, and gender roles in modern relationships. They candidly discuss how social trends are shaped, the debate over "who is the prize," and why so many women pursue cosmetic surgery in pursuit of desirability. The hosts also unpack the double standards and pressures faced by women, the impact of male validation, and the complicated dynamics of relationships in a social media age.

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Table of Contents

1. Cultural Trends: Kim Kardashian’s Influence
2. BBL Culture and Male Preferences
3. Double Standards & Beauty Standards
4. Who Is the Real “Prize” – Men or Women?
5. OnlyFans & Changing Perceptions of Women’s Agency
6. Safety, Gender, & Social Expectations
7. Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes
8. Timestamps for Key Segments

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1. Cultural Trends: Kim Kardashian’s Influence

Discussion:
The hosts directly address Kim Kardashian's outsize impact on modern beauty ideals, delving into how her physical features have become the template for global trends—particularly among women of all backgrounds.

• Influence on Beauty Norms:

  • Paul P claims, "I blame Kim Kardashian for the women we see today. I truly do, because she is one of the most influential women that ever lived… she had the plastic surgeries and made it cool to do that." (16:31)
  • Azar counters, noting Kim doesn’t have drastic lip injections like others, but Paul P argues, "She's the reason. Cause I feel like every girl look like [Kim]…want the straight black hair and the lips and the curvy booty…and the eyelashes." (17:05)

• Cultural Appropriation vs. Imitation:

  • Azar highlights Black cultural roots of these trends, critiquing how credit is rarely given:
    • "If you look back in our history, there’s all types of hair textures...Y'all tan your skin to look darker…do your lips. You want to look fuller…everything that you’re doing is black." (15:15)
  • Paul replies: "I wouldn’t even call it stealing...Imitation is a form of [flattery]." (18:53)
  • Azar’s view: “It’s okay to do that...[but] as long as you give people credit, where it’s due.” (19:38)

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2. BBL Culture and Male Preferences

Discussion:
Rising numbers of women undergoing BBLs and other surgeries are explored in relation to male desire and cultural messaging.

• The Impact of Male Validation:

  • Viral quote response: “As a man, I'm not working 10 hours to come home and look at a flat ass butt…That's crazy.” (10:53)
  • Azar’s frustration: “That puts women down and makes them feel crazy... this is why women get BBLs.” (11:14)

• Natural Curves and Shifting Beauty Ideals:

  • Paul P on Black beauty influence: "Culturally…our women are just like, naturally have big booties...So now, since we are cultural representers of America, people want that look." (11:43)
  • Azar: “Back in the day it was frowned upon. Even in old movies girls said, ‘How do I get rid of this fat butt?’” (13:43)

• Pressure from Partners:

  • Azar tells a story: "I'll never forget that one time I was with my homegirl and her man told her… 'If you would’ve had some butt, I would have been proposed to you.' She hopped on a plane and got a BBL. Swear to God." (21:23)

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3. Double Standards & Beauty Standards

Discussion:
The hosts dig into how these expectations shape women’s self-image and the prioritization of outer perfection.

• Internalized Pressure:

  • Azar: “As a woman, you just analyze everything about yourself…You wanna be the best version of yourself…and if I do this, maybe I will be like, you know, most liked.” (22:28)
  • Paul P questions: "All the women…what is that? The fake hair, the fake nails…make you the best version of yourself?" (22:58)

• Consequences of Surgery:

  • Paul P’s warning: "Be more of your natural self…girls lose they self in the surgery…when you start looking at some of these before and afters, it’s crazy." (20:25)

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4. Who Is the Real "Prize"—Men or Women?

Discussion:
The show humorously negotiates the concept of "the prize" in dating, recognizing both gendered insecurities and efforts for validation.

• Who Seeks Validation More?

  • Azar admits: "When you're out here as a woman, like, you wanna get the best man…If I look this way, I can get this man, this money, change my life…" (23:14)

• "Men are the prize" argument:

  • Paul P: "If women are doing all of that, then men have to be the prize." (24:13)
  • Azar: "I believe that men and women are both the prize…If it’s the right situation." (24:19)

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5. OnlyFans & Changing Perceptions of Women’s Agency

Discussion:
A segment is devoted to the explosion of OnlyFans, shifting ideas about self-promotion, and debates about sexual empowerment versus long-term impact.

• Stats & Trends:

  • "1.4 million American women are now on OnlyFans." (35:19)
  • Azar: "I should get more credit as a woman to have the body that I have and not be on OnlyFans." (35:51)
  • Paul P: "How much you gonna take? OnlyFans, they said tomorrow we get 10..." (36:10)
  • Azar: "The reason I can’t do it is…it’s just like a digital footprint that lasts forever…I cannot sell my soul for that." (36:31)

• Sex Work vs. Content Creation:

  • Azar draws the line: "If you’re a person...you having sex, you having sex. I’m never doing that like ever." (38:10)
  • Paul P: "Let me ask you a question. If a man…says…here’s 20 million just to sleep with you?" (39:15)
  • Azar: "There's always going to be strings attached…whatever you do, there's a price to pay. Whether it's a financial price or something else." (41:01)

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6. Safety, Gender, & Social Expectations

Discussion:
The duo contrasts the different realities faced by men and women regarding personal safety, especially in dating and public life.

• Women’s Perspective:

  • Azar: “Women have so many worries more than that on a first date…Getting raped, drugged, killed—that’s worse than just getting robbed and killed.” (43:23)

• Men’s Perspective:

  • Paul P: “For a man, getting set up. Possibly even killed from a woman.” (43:01)

• Escalating Dangers:

  • Azar gives a personal anecdote: “I was in my car and a man opened my back door and sat in my car…he was a psycho.” (44:52)
  • Paul P alarms: “Lock your goddamn doors…what's wrong with you females? Lock your damn door!” (45:16)
  • Azar, on situational awareness: “…it's not always that simple. I just hopped into my car and didn't lock my door right away." (45:51)

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7. Memorable Moments & Quotes

• On Kim K as archetype:

  • Paul P: "She is really the reason why the women look the way they look today, good or bad." (17:42)

• On BBL pressure:

  • Azar: "People always say to me, like, you don't understand because you have a certain body type…But I have a nose that's big, that I'd be thinking, I want a nose job." (21:42)

• On women’s efforts for men:

  • Azar: "You don't know how painful it is to get your legs and your body wax…we do a lot, we do a lot, and it blows me..." (24:19)

• On gendered safety:

  • Azar: "As women, we have to fear way more things than men…Men have the freedom to do a lot of other things that women don't…" (43:54)

• On relationship advice:

  • Paul P: "There's no playbook for a relationship…you just have to know your partner and get to know your partner and ask questions." (30:03)
  • Azar: "Men need to accept and understand women are emotional creatures…we might need more reassurance…because that's just how we are." (32:31)

• Azar's story on friend's BBL:

  • "I'll never forget that one time I was with my homegirl and her man told her when I was right there, ‘If you would’ve had some butt, I would have been proposed to you.’ She hopped on a plane and got a BBL. Swear to God. True story." (21:23)

• On couples’ dynamics and success:

  • Azar: "Some men and women...they don't want you to be bigger than them…if I keep you here, you need me and you're depending on me." (53:12)

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8. Timestamps for Key Segments

• [10:53] – Viral quote about men not wanting "flat ass", discussion leads into BBLs
• [16:31] – Paul P blames Kim Kardashian for current plastic surgery trends
• [19:38] – Debate on imitation vs. appropriation; giving credit to Black innovators
• [21:23] – Azar's story: pressure from a boyfriend leads to friend getting surgery
• [24:06] – Who's the "prize" in dating? Gender roles reversed
• [35:19] – OnlyFans stats and realities, Azar’s personal stance
• [41:01] – Azar explains the intangible 'price' attached to transactional sex
• [43:23] – Safety fears: men vs. women
• [44:52] – Azar’s story about a stranger entering her car
• [49:47] – Young Jeezy's belief in friendship as the basis for marriage
• [51:06] – Portia Williams’ comments on successful women and jealous men

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Tone & Style

The conversation is candid, unscripted, and occasionally playful yet addresses serious issues about body image, cultural identity, and the complexity of modern relationships. The hosts are direct, often blending humor ("I’m on my way" as a classic Black lie—48:32), personal story, and unfiltered opinion.

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Summary Takeaways

• Kim Kardashian’s look has become a dominant beauty standard, triggering a wave of plastic surgeries and altering what’s seen as desirable worldwide.
• The BBL trend is both rooted in Black culture and controversial; societal and male preferences reinforce pressure on women to modify themselves.
• There’s a tug-of-war between celebrating natural beauty and the normalizing of radical cosmetic alteration.
• Economic opportunity, social media, and validation from men fuel the rise of OnlyFans, with significant discussion about boundaries and long-term digital consequences.
• Gendered safety concerns sharply divide the experience of men and women in public and dating, highlighting ongoing disparities.
• Success in relationships often comes back to mutual respect, communication, and resisting jealousy—friendship and support trumping controlling dynamics.

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For listeners: This episode is a deep-dive into the intersections of pop culture, gender politics, and self-identity, offering both personal anecdotes and sharp critique. The hosts’ blend of storytelling, reflection, and debate makes for a relatable, sometimes confrontational, but always honest conversation about what it means to navigate attraction, affirmation, and authenticity in 2025.

Transcript

[Azar Faraday]

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[Period Paul P]

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[Azar Faraday]

And just what is banging out the window mean?

[Period Paul P]

You know, just. You know what all the lips just doing that, you know, just like, damn. Taking over your face. This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I'm your Host, Azar Faraday.

[Period Paul P]

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[Azar Faraday]

Double P. You know, on our last episode, everyone in the comments was just so appalled by your feet being out and that you were playing with your feet.

[Period Paul P]

I was playing with my feet.

[Azar Faraday]

They're like the fact that Paul is playing with his bare toes on this. Everyone's said it on this camera is blowing me. Yeah. You had a mouth. Yeah. And they were be. Some people said, listen, I'm trying to get through the episode, but Paul played with these feet. He blowing. He said it was blowing up.

[Period Paul P]

I didn't even realize it.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I. I mentioned at the beginning of the episode, I said, okay, come on, bare feet.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah. I was feeling comfy.

[Azar Faraday]

You was comfy. Like people have to do anything. I'm for it. Everyone is just a hater. It's okay. He had his feet out he's living his best life. What's the problem?

[Period Paul P]

Living my best life, period. Beat up, kicking back after.

[Azar Faraday]

Exactly.

[Period Paul P]

Let's go.

[Azar Faraday]

Exactly. Okay, so let's get right into it. So Cher, you know the singer Cher, who's 8 years old, she's marrying her boyfriend, AE, that's his name, I guess. And they have a 40 year age gap, so he's 40 years younger than her. So this is the thing you were saying. Like, man, don't really mess with the other room. They're not going to marry them.

[Period Paul P]

For real.

[Azar Faraday]

They're like, well, he's married her.

[Period Paul P]

He married her.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, he. He proposed to her.

[Period Paul P]

I met this. I met him before I had a chance to meet Dude.

[Azar Faraday]

He's Tyga's close friend.

[Period Paul P]

I don't know. His close friend.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, he's Ty's best friend.

[Period Paul P]

Be with Amber Rose, right?

[Azar Faraday]

No, Tyga. No. Yeah, yeah, he did. He has. I think they have a kid or something together even.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah, that's how I met him. Yeah, exactly.

[Azar Faraday]

Who you talking about?

[Period Paul P]

Like we had a lunch together in Hollywood on some business back in the day. And I'mma say one thing about dude. Cause guys, we ain't really dealing with older women. That gap is crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

Crazy.

[Period Paul P]

I think this is a play.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, for sure. Everyone looks at it like that.

[Period Paul P]

But just like women do it. So that's city boys. We up, we popping. We finally doing it now because all these women be on it. Like when you see the lady over there with the old man on the diet bed, but he rich as hell and he over there, oh baby doing, she doing all this. And we know that's a play for her. That's a play. Now we like. I mean I'm finally, we finally got somebody on our side that can run that play. He probably give. Yeah. You know. Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that he's like having sex with women on the side? Like, or is that satisfying? Like, do you think that a man could just be like, okay, I'mma bag this old lady and we're going to have sex and that's all I need. I went from Amber Rose big booty, big titty stripper looking body to I'm going to be doing this.

[Period Paul P]

I'mma sacrifice the sexual needs for, for this.

[Azar Faraday]

And I doubt he wants to get caught up because he get caught up. That's his whole play and his money and his bread. He living a different life. He's with Cher. Cher is a white pop star. Like she's a whole different level of rich that you are not gonna see that type of lifestyle unless you're around that.

[Period Paul P]

Listen, bro, this is what I'm gonna tell you. Just make sure that you are on the wheel.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm doing it.

[Period Paul P]

And on the insurance, the life insurance, you gotta get your name on that life insurance. You gotta get your. And then once you do that, you know, you know, you gotta ride it out. You don't want to. You know, I ain't promoting. Don't. You know, don't mess it up. Don't be trying to see other women, you know, ride it out, dog. No, Ride it out. Ain't going. It ain't going to be that much longer.

[Azar Faraday]

She's only 80 years old. It's not like, though my dad is like, the life expectancy. 80.

[Period Paul P]

That's the life expectancy.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, she looks like she kicking for a minute. She going to be one of them. That's 97.

[Period Paul P]

That'll blow me.

[Azar Faraday]

That will blow him, too.

[Period Paul P]

17 more years. It is.

[Azar Faraday]

It's blown up. But they seem cool. Whatever. They seem cool to each and something, man.

[Period Paul P]

I ain't. I ain't promoting, like, go do something else. But women do this all the time.

[Azar Faraday]

Women do this all the time. But I don't like the situation where men are trying to be like women and women are trying to be like men. I just don't feel that vibe.

[Period Paul P]

Trying to be like a woman. Woman trying to be like.

[Azar Faraday]

No, but it's like, it's baller.

[Period Paul P]

That's ball. She probably showing up some things he ain't seen before for sure. You know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm 100. She's showing him a lifestyle he ain't never seen.

[Period Paul P]

I don't know what. I don't know what she's showing them, but if it's a lifestyle or things, or maybe some things, she. Maybe the sex is crazy. You know what I'm saying? Don't put it past she know things, dog.

[Azar Faraday]

She's older, so she's not cooked. Not to hit at 80.

[Period Paul P]

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[Period Paul P]

This is kind of just mentally for me. Just mentally, like, you know, you get to sit there having your drink and she right there putting. What do you mean? She's right there taking off her clothes. You gonna be like, damn, I got myself into.

[Azar Faraday]

I got myself into.

[Period Paul P]

Hey, he probably drink every day.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, he do a little more than drinking, baby. And that's. That's a little more than drinking, I'm sure.

[Period Paul P]

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[Azar Faraday]

That's blowing.

[Period Paul P]

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[Azar Faraday]

But she might be having a procedures, honey. They begin vaginal rejuvenations and all type of stuff and she got the money. So listen, what that mean you could do what vaginal rejuvenation is? Supposedly it's a procedure that women can get when they are either like had a kid or like stretched out, I don't know. And that it tightens it up and it's back to you never did nothing before, supposedly. I don't know. But people. I've heard of it and people are getting it.

[Period Paul P]

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[Azar Faraday]

So as this is a viral quote that's been on the net right now and a guy said, as a man, I'm not working 10 hours to come home and look at a Flat ass butt. This is crazy. I feel like, why are men like this? Who would say this to, like. That is so crazy.

[Period Paul P]

This is a black man.

[Azar Faraday]

This is a. Only a black man is saying this. Why would you go on the Internet and say this? Like, and this is why. And men always get mad when I say this because they're like, y' all like to blame them for everything. This is why women get bbls and all of this. Because they feel like you're not going to want to be with a woman with a flat ass. But that's crazy to me. That's blowing me. Like, well, you don't want to what? Like, that puts women down and makes them feel crazy.

[Period Paul P]

No, I mean, as a black man, you culturally come from. Like, our women are just like, naturally have big booties. If you go to Africa, you know, I remember my mom. This is a true story. My mom went to Africa and she came back and, you know, one of the first things she said, she was like, man, I was over there and. And the women are beautiful and they just have big old booties. I was like, damn, Mom. What?

[Azar Faraday]

You always remember that.

[Period Paul P]

Like, she said that. And I was just like, damn. I mean, just culturally, as you know, that's in our DNA. So now, since we are cultural representers of America, people want that look. So now we make it to where, like, if you ain't got that, you not popping for women. And people are. They get, like, sensitive and they get insecure women because they feel like that's what American culture for women should be. And like, you know, think about this. When we walk down the street, if somebody got that thing on them, we gonna be like, on some dang, like, thirsty. Like, I don't know why we like that, but it's just like, he just be like, you know, it's the double take on that. You like, damn. That's what draw men. I don't know what it is about seeing a woman's booty. It's just that we turning around to that. Like, that's getting our attention more than. You could have the ugliest face on the planet. But if you got that thing, he gonna be like, what's going on? You know what I'm saying? It's like, damn. But that's what society and what we've made, like, TV and made it like. Okay. Because before, it wasn't like that. Think about the Playboy model had the flat cakes.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. Because it was like a white American beauty stand.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah. So now it's like, now.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, now Everyone has.

[Period Paul P]

Was frowned. Big booty back in the day was frowned upon.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

Remember that?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

It was like, ew.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

What is that?

[Azar Faraday]

Like, even in movies, when you watch all movies, they're like, how do I get rid of this fat butt? Like, they say like, that you're like, what? And now it's like, okay, so let me ask you. It's glorified. But let me ask you this question. So there's a black girl who came on the Internet, and she was like, we are no longer following the white woman beauty standard. Like, beauty standard was white women. Right.

[Period Paul P]

Playboy model. But.

[Azar Faraday]

But listen, I kind of still disagree with that narrative because I still believe. And their whole thing is like, oh, well, black girls. You guys straighten your hair to be white. Right? Okay, I get it. Right? But this is what I. This is my thing. You know how many other things y' all do to be more culturally in tune with black people, though? You can't just say, like, black people always set the tone for the culture. So you get your lips injection injected. People got made fun of for having bigger lips growing up. I did. Like, I don't have even huge lips, but it was still like, I got made fun of for having a big butt. I went to a white school. Why is your butt so big and your sm. Your stomach is so small, it looks weird. Like, okay, so I'm thinking I look weird because I'm around white people. Like, you know what I'm saying? But now what is it? Like, y' all are doing everything. Like, I can count more things that white women do to look black than black women do to look white. Do you agree with that?

[Period Paul P]

Yeah, absolutely.

[Azar Faraday]

I feel like that's the truth. And then the white women are, like, arguing down, like, no, y' all get. Straighten your hair. Okay, we do one thing, and you cannot say, like, if you look back in our history, there's all type of hair textures coming from black people. Just, like, there's all type of skin tones, but y' all tan your skin to look darker. Literally get spray tans. Y' all literally do your lips. You do your butt.

[Period Paul P]

You.

[Azar Faraday]

You want to look fuller. You want to have bigger. Like, everything that you're doing is black. I don't care what nobody says. And y' all follow the culture. You want to dress, you want to act, and you want.

[Period Paul P]

This is what TV is now. Like, you know, there's trends that, you know, they. It's like waves. It's like ebbs and flows.

[Azar Faraday]

Of course there's trends always, you know, What?

[Period Paul P]

I mean, the clothing just, like, the women's look. And, you know, moving forward, it's just like what we glorify on TV when we see these beautiful women with these big old sexy lips and these big old eyelashes and eyebrows and butt and lips banging out the window and what?

[Azar Faraday]

Banging out the window.

[Period Paul P]

Lips banging out the window.

[Azar Faraday]

And just what does banging out the window mean?

[Period Paul P]

You know, just.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what?

[Period Paul P]

All the lips just doing that, you know, just, like, damn. Taking over your face.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, those look crazy to me the most.

[Period Paul P]

I mean, but that's what's, like, in the TV now, and that's what, like, people follow. And it's like, you know, I blame. I blame Kim Kardashian for the women we see today. I truly do, because she is one of the most influential women that ever lived. And, you know, she had the plastic surgeries and made it cool to do that.

[Azar Faraday]

But Kim don't have those lips. She ain't never had those lips. And I'll give that to her.

[Period Paul P]

Hold on, hold on, baby. She's the reason. Cause I feel like every girl look like him. Like, damn. I'm like, oh, everybody want the straight black hair and the lips and the curvy booty and the. And the eyelashes and the shh. And, you know, everybody's cutting their noses up and chin up and cheeks up. And like, everybody. I blame her for the way our girls at. But then now they get out of control with it. They like, I want to give me the Kim K. But now they OD it, and now it look crazy and start looking crazy. Like, she is really the reason why the women look the way they look today, good or bad. That's just what I feel. It may not be true, but I think her influence on the society of women today came from her influence.

[Azar Faraday]

And where did her influence come from?

[Period Paul P]

I don't know.

[Azar Faraday]

Black people. She kicked it with black people. She was around black people. She married black people.

[Period Paul P]

She became like, the thing is, she made it okay because people was like, why are you getting a fake? Why you getting to this?

[Azar Faraday]

She made it okay. I agree with you.

[Period Paul P]

And it was okay to do it because people really frowned upon on the surgeries. Like, oh, you getting all this surgery?

[Azar Faraday]

Well, this is why two black women were mad because Kim K. Did, like, braids in her hair one time, and she was like. She said something. Or like, people were like, kim K. Started made braids cracking, like, trendy. She started the braids, and black people were mad because, like, women for so long couldn't Even go to work with braids. Like, if you had a job or a job interview, it's like, you can't wear your hair like that. You can't do it. Like. And it was a protective style, you know, for women. And now Kim's doing it and it's cracking, and now it's in the Vogue magazine. But for black people, it was. But that's what I'm saying. She's stealing the culture from black people. She's making it relevant and popular.

[Period Paul P]

I wouldn't even call it stealing.

[Azar Faraday]

I would say that the reason.

[Period Paul P]

Stealing, because I. I think imitation is a form of.

[Azar Faraday]

I agree. I agree.

[Period Paul P]

You can take this.

[Azar Faraday]

But when you. When you acknowledge and honor it, what I don't like is when people do that and then they say they made it a trend. Because there. You know that there's. Historically, with the Kardashians, they have ripped off small black people creators for their ideas. Historically. And have, like, lawsuits with them. Kylie, all of them. Like, you'll take from a small black creator that don't have nothing, and you'll. You'll steal their whole idea. You'll make it cracking, and you'll. You'll claim it as yours. And a lot of people do that. And it's like, all I'm saying is it's okay. It's okay to do that. I don't even hate the Kardashians. I like Kim. I think she's fly. I. I really do. But I think that as long as you can give people credit, like, where it's due, like, honor the fact that, yes, this is from this, like, this is from black people.

[Period Paul P]

I don't even want the credit. You steal my. You make it popular. And do you want to give me credit? I don't get for it. Don't even give me no credit. I ain't benefiting from it.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, your name could. It could. Like, them just saying your name could be something for you and you could get cracking. So you never know. But all I'm saying, like, for them, if they mention a name drop somebody, it might change their life. You know, they're very influential. Like you said, one of the most influential families in the world. Like, so I agree with you. I think she does.

[Period Paul P]

So all you girls out here, you're not gonna look like Kim K. Stop it. You're doing too much. You're going overboard.

[Azar Faraday]

Kim K. Don't even look like Kim.

[Period Paul P]

K. Be more of your natural self. Be a natural soul. Like, because girls lose they self in the surgery, you become you do.

[Azar Faraday]

They do.

[Period Paul P]

You lose yourself. Like, you lose your personality, you lose your look, you lose your soul. Like when you start looking at some of these before and afters, it's crazy. Wow. And now you, you, you. And I get it, you know, it puts batteries in some of these girls backs because I done seen some before and after pictures. And now you was talking, now you talking like this. Cause you can't. And you know, but as men, as a culture, we have to do a better job because we like say, hey, if you don't look like this, then you're not gonna get. You're not gonna be popping.

[Azar Faraday]

I'll never forget that one time I was with my homegirl and her man told her when I was right there, he was like, if you would have had some butt, I would have been proposed to you. And you know that she hopped on a plane and got a bbl. Swear to God. True story. Swear to God. And I was like, wow. And it blew me. And she looks great. But I will honestly say, like, I'll never forget that day because it really like killed me. And I feel like people always say to me, like, you don't understand because you have a certain body type. And I get it. I may not understand, but I have a nose that's big, that I'd be thinking, I want a nose job. I have certain that I want to change all the time.

[Period Paul P]

What did you change about yourself?

[Azar Faraday]

I told you, I just always think about having a nose job.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I'm saying? Because I have a Persian nose. Like, I had the nose that Kim K. Had before she had a nose job. For real. Like, you know what I'm saying? But I'm scared because I don't like how that looks sometimes. Like, I don't like that look of like that skinny, like it scares me. I don't want to look like that. Like, you know what I'm saying?

[Period Paul P]

So what's wrong with your nose now though? I don't think nothing wrong with it.

[Azar Faraday]

Thank you. But you know, like, as a woman, you just analyze everything about yourself. You're like, I need to do like everything you over just analyze. Like, I should do this, I should have this, I should have this. Like, I should have a boob job, I should have a nose job. I should do this now. And you think that because you're just like, you wanna, you wanna look perfect, you know what I mean? Like, you wanna be the best version of yourself. And if I do this, maybe I will be like, you know, most like.

[Period Paul P]

Like, you say, be the best version of yourself, right? But.

[Azar Faraday]

But that's not physical.

[Period Paul P]

What is that? You know, I'm not talking about you. I'm not talking about you, but I'm just talking about. Women always say, I want to be the best version of myself. But all the women you go out here, what is that? The fake hair, the fake nails, the fake eyelashes, the fake everything make you the best version of yourself?

[Azar Faraday]

No, I wouldn't say that. But I would say that people, when. Listen, when I say best version of myself, it's more of a soul thing, inner thing. But, you know, also to. Physicality is important because men are visual people, you know? And when you're out here as a woman, like, you want to get and get the best man that you can get. Like, that's how women think. Like, if I look this way, I can get this man. I can get this money, dude, and have this and change my life because I look like this. So women literally work at These jobs, like McDonald's and crazy stuff, save money to get a BBL so they can go be around the crews of people and go try to find a man and be, like, cool. Like, this is a thing. Like, and that's why it's this whole epidemic where women are like, I done got the BBL and I'm still working at McDonald's. Like, I'm still. I still got the job. I'm still stressed out. Like, I still don't got nothing cracking.

[Period Paul P]

So this goes back to, like, when we always had this conversation, like, who's the prize if women are doing all of that?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, they are.

[Period Paul P]

Then men have to be the prize.

[Azar Faraday]

But men are doing a lot too.

[Period Paul P]

What?

[Azar Faraday]

You have say it all the time. No, no, no. Let me tell you, I'll be honest with you. Today I was just thinking about this because I did, like, all this stuff. Like, I have my legs waxed, my everything. Like my eyebrows, this, my hair, women. It hurts. Like, you don't know how painful it is to get your legs and your body wax. Like, I'm in there. Like, I'm in so much pain, right? And I'm thinking to myself, like, damn, we do all of this. Like, it's so much. And. But you do. Like, especially if you have a man, you're like, I have to make sure I'm fresh. I have this, I have that. Like, you want to do that for the person you're with. Yeah. Like, I don't know that if that means they're the prize. But I do think that I believe that men and women are both the prize. I think both people bring and add so much value that they can make each other better if it's the right situation, in my opinion. So, like, yeah, as women, we do a lot. We do a lot. We do a lot. And it blows me because you do have to low key. If you're like, with somebody. Like, a man is gonna be like, girl, uh, like, get this together. Like, you look a mess. Like, really, in reality.

[Period Paul P]

You look a mess.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, in reality. Like, just keep it real. Like, you're with a woman, her nails is chipped, her hair is busted. She looks.

[Period Paul P]

She a real one.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, she's a real one. But you're still going to be like, baby, let me give you some money so you could go get your together so we can go out and you can look like something. Like you have a chips. Like that looks crazy. Like chip nails busted, broke, like, just looking crazy. Like hair busted hair. Like, just looking a mess. You're going to. You're not going to feel. Not smelling good. Not like having an outfit that's fresh and a sweat and a Jordan. Like, you're like, this is crazy. For sure. You're gonna be like, this is crazy. Like, you could do that if you're chilling and it's your girl and y' all are just like, chilling and like. But even then, like, men want a woman who's naturally beautiful without makeup, and you're chilling with her and you're looking at her when she wakes up.

[Period Paul P]

Well, naturally, beauty without makeup is like, what I like.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

No, no, no. What I'm saying is, like, what that person likes from his girl. It don't. Like, there's no set definition or no set person. Like, I might just like you like that, right?

[Azar Faraday]

No, for sure. Of course it don't matter.

[Period Paul P]

Like, who's to say that somebody else can say you not beautiful. I might just think that you're beautiful like that. Whereas other people might not. Well, it's fine. I don't care what other people think. I like you like this. And this is the problem with the women, because men will tell you, I like you like this, but still want to do the other thing. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's like, damn, I liked you like this. And if. But you cared more about what other people thought of you than your own man. And that's sometimes. Yeah, women do that a lot.

[Azar Faraday]

No, women do.

[Period Paul P]

Women do that a lot. He can tell you like, baby, I don't want you to get an Ass implant. I don't want you to get a breast implant. I like you like this and I'm your whole man, I'm your husband, I'm your whole everything. And you'll go out and wanna do it anyway that women do that.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I'm saying?

[Period Paul P]

That's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

You know that I was with someone who thought that like when people. He said he's been with women who got like implants and stuff implanted in their body. He said it mentally. He was like, it literally mentally makes women like crazy. He's like, I really believe like putting things in your body. But I've always felt and been against of putting like things in my body. I don't want foreign objects in my body and stuff. Like that's why like, you know, like implants are like a silicone thing or like when people get butt implants or like, you know, one of the most dangerous surgeries in the world is a bbl.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

It's the most dangerous surgery ever. And people still do it every day. Like, and it kills me because it's like you want to but so bad. But again, I don't know, like, I can't relate to that portion of it. But I understand wanting to change yourself.

[Period Paul P]

No, you can't relate.

[Azar Faraday]

Shut up. This is the daily fantasy segment brought to you by Price picks where you can get win real cash by playing daily Fantasy, use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. So today we are going to talk about what do you want more from a woman and less from a woman? Or what do you wish men knew more about? Like, what do you wish women knew more about men? Like what things do women just miss about men always? And it's like, why don't you guys get this?

[Period Paul P]

I think sometimes women sometimes have a harder understanding of reading the room, you know, from a man, you know what I'm saying? Like, so what we need more of for women is do a better job at reading the room. Like if he have a long day, he come up and you can see it on his face. Don't start irritating them with like just questions, flooding them with shit. I mean, and I think it's vice versa for the man too with the woman. You know, sometimes we might be irritating when you done had a long day and you won't really want to deal with it. But that's life. But like as far as fantasy and would I want more from a woman?

[Azar Faraday]

Like what do you want women to know about men? Like what Are we missing. Yeah, like, what are women missing when it comes to men? Like, you wish that all women just understood about a man.

[Period Paul P]

Every man is different, but a man. And, like, not just basic, like assembly line.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so, like, it's.

[Period Paul P]

Everything has its own feature.

[Azar Faraday]

What is yours? What do you. I'm asking you.

[Period Paul P]

So you asking for me what I.

[Azar Faraday]

Feel like, what do you wish women.

[Period Paul P]

Knew more about me? That I'm difficult. I know that 100%. Like. And understanding that I'm difficult. But at the end of the day, I know I mean well and I want the best. And like I said, every man, every woman is different. I can't go into a relationship. I can't go into a situation to be like, all right, this is going a playbook. There's no playbook for a relationship. There's no playbook for, like, getting to know that person. You just have to know your partner and get to know your partner and ask questions. I think when you look at it, at the end of the day, men need to be better at communication. More communication for men. Cause women will over communicate your ass. Yeah, 100%. We have to be better at communication. We assume that y' all post to know stuff after the first time. Because, you know, we'll give you the playbook, but we gotta keep giving y' all the playbook. Cause y' all wanna keep hearing the playbook.

[Azar Faraday]

We do.

[Period Paul P]

And there's nothing wrong with. That's what I feel like, you know, I have to learn about women. You know, but what a woman has to learn about a man, like, don't keep annoying him with the same damn things. And pick your battles.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, that's a good one.

[Period Paul P]

You know what I'm saying? Women like small battles. Dang. You just ain't gonna put the soap back. Like, really? Like, come on. We ain't about to argue about that. Like, women have to do a better job at picking their battles with men. Like, we can't be having all these little small battles. You know, And I think that's one thing women have to do a better job at with us. I can see that. You know, then when it's something major, I get it, oh, you know, this or that, the bill ain't been paid, or you. Or, you know, it's like, you know, levels to, like, arguments.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

Because then a man feels like you nagging, it turns into nagging, and that gets annoying for a man. So I think women have to do a better job at figuring out what do I get hot at him about instead of you know what? I could let that go. We could talk about it, but I can't. All right. This is one thing. Talk about stuff with a man, but don't make it sound like an argument.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, that's what we're communication. Yeah, I can agree with that. I think, for me, I would say, I wish that men would just accept and understand women are emotional creatures. Like, we're emotional. We have different hormone fluctuations, literally. We are like, our bodies scientifically hormone, like, fluctuate every week. We have a luteal phase, we have ovulation. Then we're menstruating on our period. Like, we have one good week out the month where it's not something going on. And God forbid you have anything else in your life. So when men complain about women and their emotions, it's like, do you not want to be with a woman? Because women are more emotional? Men are less. Like, you guys have less emotion than us. Or at least you don't have the fluctuation of feelings like we do. So we might need more reassurance. We might need to feel like we're love certain days, or we need those things. And I wish men just understood that, because that's just how we are. It just is what it is, and it's not really changing that. So if you really like women, you really like that, because you know that that's what it is when it comes to being with a woman. Like, that's just what we are. We're gonna be emotional, and if we love you, it's gonna be like, we want to hear it, period. So that's how I feel.

[Period Paul P]

Okay.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. So cool. But yeah. So thank you to our good friends at prize Picks, America's number one sports app. Use code TAD and get 50 instantly in lineups when you play your first five doll. But I can relate to, like, wanting to change yourself because you feel like you want to fit.

[Period Paul P]

You should give the fans a360.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not doing that. No. People ask for that every day.

[Period Paul P]

I'm not doing that. You can't relate. Show them why you can't relate.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm not doing that. I'm not. I don't feel comfortable with that.

[Period Paul P]

You don't?

[Azar Faraday]

I don't. I don't feel comfortable with that.

[Period Paul P]

How can. Or so they need to go to your page.

[Azar Faraday]

I don't have my stuff on my page. My pages don't show that. Yeah, no, I don't have that on my face.

[Period Paul P]

It's gotta be something, like, if they.

[Azar Faraday]

See me wear like, maybe like a video where I was like, there might be a video where Darnell took. Where I'm like, she posted a video.

[Period Paul P]

The other day I saw when she was dancing.

[Azar Faraday]

Oh, my befores and after. So if you do see my video on my before and after, you can see that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you can, actually, because I've been posting my weight loss before and after.

[Period Paul P]

Yeah.

[Azar Faraday]

So you can see the full body so people can see my transformation. So, yeah, you can see it on there. But, you know, I'm not giving nobody no.

[Period Paul P]

360 real quick.

[Azar Faraday]

No, Paul, like, what is wrong with you? I'm not promoting that.

[Period Paul P]

Like, just the Vince Carter.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm not promoting that. That's crazy. So anyway, speaking of American women, 1.4 million American women are now on Only Fans.

[Period Paul P]

1.4 million women are only fans.

[Azar Faraday]

American women only are on only fans. 1.4 million. I don't know.

[Period Paul P]

1.4. So we have 1.4. I mean, I don't see nothing wrong with that. I mean, women are coming up off.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, women are supposedly. These women are making so much money on there. Like, listen.

[Period Paul P]

Damn. It's crazy. Like. And it's crazy because this generation has learned to make money there easy way.

[Azar Faraday]

Exactly. And you know what? I should get more credit as a woman to have the body that I have and not be on OnlyFans. I think people should be really congratulating me for that. No, they should congratulate me for that because I could probably be coming up on a check right now off of OnlyFans, but I choose to not do that.

[Period Paul P]

How much you will get?

[Azar Faraday]

I'm getting. I'm getting paid.

[Period Paul P]

No, no, I'm just saying. How much you gonna take? OnlyFans, they said tomorrow we get 10.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not taking it. I'm not taking it because that's the.

[Period Paul P]

But you ain't got to do no sexual. You just gotta be on some. Just like, what do you have hanging around? Just put some coconut oil on naked. Just was like. Like some bikini or something. Like. And you just putting coconut oil just kind of dancing.

[Azar Faraday]

No, no, no. The reason I can't do it is because it's just like a digital footprint that lasts forever. Like, I really care about the fact that I'm like a certain type of woman. I really do. Like, that means so much to me. I cannot sell my soul for that.

[Period Paul P]

You go down bad.

[Azar Faraday]

If I'm down bad, I always say, you can hit that street. So you can hit that bigger roller. Yeah, you can Hit the only fast. If I'm down that bad. But I don't. I don't. I don'. Put that on me. If I'm down bad and I'm on the streets, homeless. I'm not doing that 100 million, Paul. Leave me alone. And you know what's crazy is that men always are. Like, if I was a woman, I would be on only fans right now. I would be selling my baby. Like, I'll be selling sex and everything.

[Period Paul P]

But the thing is, think about it like this. And you have to be. You got to think logically. Like, you gotta think as a woman. You've dated a man and have boyfriends. That's like taking you to dinners and did all these things, spent money on you that you've done, had sexual activities with. You don't have to do no sexual activities for onlyfans. Just be sexual and get married.

[Azar Faraday]

No, no. People are having sex on there.

[Period Paul P]

Having sex on there?

[Azar Faraday]

Yes. I don't know the people who are making real money. Unless there's a celebrity, they're having sex.

[Period Paul P]

So they're monetizing porn on there?

[Azar Faraday]

Yes, they're having sex. They're having sex with women, each other, men, all that. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, they're having sex. I don't follow. But the thing, because I know, I see it on the Internet, like, people talk about it. Like, even one of the girls that's, like, super popular, she has a whole thing called a bop house. And like, in Miami, it's like all the bops that have only fans, they.

[Period Paul P]

Live in one house.

[Azar Faraday]

They live in. I guess they do content. I think it's a content house.

[Period Paul P]

Kind of like sex house.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. And I see it because I just see things on the Internet and, like, they talk about it like they'll promote. Like, guess what, guys? Tonight we're doing this. Even the Adam22 guy with his wife or whatever, she has sex with black men on there. He watches. Or they do threesomes. Like, it's all about having sex. Like, there's some women who make shakes. They're not making the same. Unless they're like a celebrity that people are obsessed with and want to see them. Like black China. She probably don't have sex on there. She just. Just be doing her own thing because people want to see her. She's already famous. Like, so it's different because you have a huge fan base. But if you're a person that's just regular and you just have a body or something, you're just like a little. You not you having sex, you having sex. Like men can see too many other things to just watch you and pay. You're not nobody just to be. Yeah, you're having sex on there. And I'm, I'm never doing that like ever. So you can't pay me to do that. I'm just saying that right now. So. But like a ruby rose, like she's on there.

[Period Paul P]

Let me ask you a question.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, go ahead.

[Period Paul P]

Like if a man, stranger, just a good looking man on the street right now says, hey, I've been following your podcast and I really admire you, you're beautiful and everything. Like, like Pretty Woman. You see that movie?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I love Pretty Woman. That's one of my favorite movies, but.

[Period Paul P]

In a different way. What do you say? Hey, I just wanna hear here's 20 million just to sleep with you.

[Azar Faraday]

That's crazy. Like, because that's out of control. No, because, you know, I feel like.

[Period Paul P]

That'S what only fans.

[Azar Faraday]

But have you ever seen the movie. Have you ever seen the movie where it's the, the couple and they go to that house with the famous. The man who's really rich and he says, I propose a deal for one night, I want you and I'll give you like a million dollars. And she goes back to her husband and the husband's like, do it like he's thirst. Do it, do it, do it like we need the money or whatever. Just one night. Who cares? Well, so the name of the. I forgot the name. And then she goes and does it. But then it. There's always strings attached. My dad always taught me, listen, there's always going to be strings attached. I remember a man bought me like a red bottom when red bottoms was like so cracking and expensive. And I was such a young. I was young. I was like 17, 18 years old. And I came home and I showed my dad and he was just like, what? Like a man who's doing that for you. I hope you know what that means. Like there are strings attached to that. He's not just buying you those shoes for $2100 and this is a long time ago. Like, no. Like, so there's always. Whatever you do, there's a price to pay. Whether it's a financial price or something else. A piece of your soul, your heart, your spirit, you're gonna pay something, baby. So like I don't want to like play them type of games. And then lifestyles is, are. Is really dark. Like that porn world and them strippers, like, it's a dark lifestyle. Like I had a homegirl in Atlanta who was a stripper, One of the most popular strippers at Onyx Strip Club. And she lived in a hotel, like, but a crazy one. And, like, with a son. And, like, it's just. It's too much like, I don't like that lifestyle. It's just dark, and then you're. Ha. What do you think? The strippers are also doing other things. Like, you're not just stripping now. A man's gonna come in there, hey, I'll give you 10,000 for the night to do this. Then you're doing that, and then who knows what else is happening? I'm not living like that. Yeah, that's scary. What if a woman came up to you right now and was like, hey, Paul Pierce, I love you down. I'm such a fan of yours. I'll give you 20 million right now.

[Period Paul P]

20 million for what?

[Azar Faraday]

Get a cracking. I need everything, but I could do anything.

[Period Paul P]

How long she get?

[Azar Faraday]

She gets off one night, and she could do anything she wants to you. I'm just saying, like, she gets cracking. No, no.

[Period Paul P]

Stick nothing in the exit hole. No, we ain't doing all that. Nah, nah, nah. We ain't. Don't. Don't anything.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, so no, without that. Without that. That. Without that. But anything else.

[Period Paul P]

What you mean, anything else, though? It's got to be, you know, we're.

[Azar Faraday]

Not saying that part. No exit.

[Period Paul P]

Whole thing be like, how much?

[Azar Faraday]

You said 20 mil right now. You come with me, no questions. Like, no, give me your phone. Turn it off, because I don't want no one to know where we're going.

[Period Paul P]

Okay?

[Azar Faraday]

Get in right now. The car is right here.

[Period Paul P]

Car right there.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah. 20 mil. She's about 80 years old.

[Period Paul P]

Run that.

[Azar Faraday]

See, that's the thing about men.

[Period Paul P]

I'm gonna roll something up. I'm gonna have some drinks. I'm gonna be. Run that.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what? You know what's crazy? I want to ask you a question. This is the thing. Men are so different. That's why men are always like, if I was a woman, I would do this, right? But let me tell you. What's the scariest thing you have to think about on a date? Like, on your first day? Like, what's the craziest thing? Like, the scariest thing that would happen?

[Period Paul P]

I think for a man getting set up.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. Getting robbed.

[Period Paul P]

Possibly even killed from a woman.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, getting set up by a woman. That's a good one. Okay. Yeah. So women have so many worries more than that on a first date or.

[Period Paul P]

Meeting up with a man killed and robbed.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you do. No, you're right. You're right. But it.

[Period Paul P]

What?

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, Getting raped before you're getting killed? You don't think that that's crazy? Like, getting all these things, drugged, raped, killed. Like that's worse than just getting robbed and killed? I'd rather just get robbed and killed because then I'm not getting raped, too. You don't think that that's worse to get raped before.

[Period Paul P]

I'd rather a woman rape me than kill.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, you're a man. You're a man. You're a man. You don't know about being raped as a man. Like, maybe you do. Like, men know about that. I'm not going to take that away from me.

[Period Paul P]

That's the worst thing.

[Azar Faraday]

No, no, but men. Men as women, we have to fear way more things than men when it comes to being around men. When it comes to, like, you can't even, like, go walking at a certain time at night. You can't go running. Like, men have the freedom to do a lot of other things that women don't have the freedom to do.

[Period Paul P]

What type of women are we talking about?

[Azar Faraday]

Does that matter?

[Period Paul P]

Yeah, it does matter.

[Azar Faraday]

Why would you say.

[Period Paul P]

What demographics does this happen? This type of things happen to.

[Azar Faraday]

Like, I can't go do some of those things.

[Period Paul P]

Do what?

[Azar Faraday]

Like, you can't go running and walking at night. Like, I can't.

[Period Paul P]

How do you want to go walking and running at night?

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, I'm done with this combo with.

[Period Paul P]

You take that shit during the day. Be smart.

[Azar Faraday]

My point is, is even if it's not night, it gets dark early. It could be five o' clock, and I want to go walk to the store really quick. I want to go do something outside. Like, you have to live in much more fear all the time I have to look behind my back. I'm scared because I can't protect myself against a. One time I was in traffic.

[Period Paul P]

You know that. Don't do those things.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, but there's some things. There's some things that you can't control. I was in traffic one day and a man opened my back door and sat in my car and was crazy. A psycho man.

[Period Paul P]

Uber driving.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I was in my car. Goodbye. I'm not.

[Period Paul P]

I'm not having. What you talking. I'm trying to figure out what you talking about. You said you was in your car and a man jumped in your back seat.

[Azar Faraday]

Yes.

[Period Paul P]

Lock your goddamn doors.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, okay.

[Period Paul P]

Driving. What's your damn problem? See, women. Y' all don't think about life.

[Azar Faraday]

I do. I do. I was at home and the man just walked in my house.

[Period Paul P]

Lock your goddamn door when you at home. What's your problem?

[Azar Faraday]

I lock my.

[Period Paul P]

What's wrong with you females? Lock your damn door.

[Azar Faraday]

I lock my door.

[Period Paul P]

Y' all just be cruising through like.

[Azar Faraday]

That's not true. I have awareness, and a lot of women have awareness. Me, too. Me, too, though.

[Period Paul P]

I'm driving down the street, my doors is locked.

[Azar Faraday]

But what if it's just an accident that your door wasn't locked? Like, it was just literally a fluke. I had just hopped into my car and got out, and boom. I just didn't lock my door right away.

[Period Paul P]

So you jumped in the car. He jumped right in.

[Azar Faraday]

Goodbye. I'm going to move forward.

[Period Paul P]

Carry some mace.

[Azar Faraday]

I have some. So if anyone tries to run up, I have some. Don't try me, because I'm not just loose out here. I am protected.

[Period Paul P]

That's crazy.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm protected. He did. He did. I was on the. Stay out of Monica, okay? And he was crazy. It was crazy. I was on Santa Monica. I had just got out.

[Period Paul P]

He jumps in the car.

[Azar Faraday]

He jumps in the car. And literally I was like, oh, my God. Are you okay? And because he was.

[Period Paul P]

He was calm.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, because I'm. I'm not gonna panic under pressure. Like, I've been through a lot of crazy situations, so I know how to be cal. And I'm like, what? What's going on? Because he's like. He's like a crackhead. So I'm like, I'm nervous because, first of all, you smell. I don't want you to touch me. And I just don't want, like, you to do anything to me. So I'm just like, are you good? Do you need me to take you somewhere? Like, I was like, all right, well, I'm gonna pull over and we're gonna get you somewhere. And he was like, all right.

[Period Paul P]

So you was driving. So he was in the middle of traffic, jumps in. And then you was just calm. Like, is everything okay?

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah, I was all right.

[Period Paul P]

You was calm? Yeah. That's wild. You supposed to be like. You supposed to cause a scene. You a woman. You gotta cause a scene. You gotta make people aware that something ain't right right now when you in this traffic. As a woman, this is my advice. If something you uncomfortable with something, you gotta cause a scene. To where? Now eyes is looking. You got people looking.

[Azar Faraday]

No, everyone was already looking. They already knew. Everyone was looking. They saw. No, they saw him jump in And I was looking like the person. No one did anything.

[Period Paul P]

They might have thought you was picking them up. Nobody cared. Like, you gotta cause a scene. You gotta be like, hey, this guy.

[Azar Faraday]

Well, the thing about causing a scene is I didn't want him to react to me causing a scene. He was sporadic.

[Period Paul P]

You got to jump out that damn car.

[Azar Faraday]

Car.

[Period Paul P]

I'm teaching you. This is, like, for your safety, though.

[Azar Faraday]

No, I'm listening.

[Period Paul P]

Jump out the car. Cause what if he jumped behind you? He could, like, slash you.

[Azar Faraday]

That's what I'm saying. I was gonna cause a scene.

[Period Paul P]

You gotta jump out.

[Azar Faraday]

But what if I caused the scene and then he did something and it, like, made him react immediately?

[Period Paul P]

Jump out the car and yell immediately.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay, I'll do that next time. That's good. You hear that, ladies? That's what we have to do. What are lies that all black people tell? Black people always tell. Like, what's a lie that black people always tell?

[Period Paul P]

Oh, that's easy.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm on my way.

[Period Paul P]

Oh, my God. I'll be there in 15.

[Azar Faraday]

I'll be there. 15 minutes.

[Period Paul P]

15. Hey. All right, so 15 means 30, 45.

[Azar Faraday]

If you like it. I love it.

[Period Paul P]

Right. I'll be there. I'm on my way.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm not sleeping. I'm just resting my eyes.

[Period Paul P]

I'm just resting my eyes.

[Azar Faraday]

Why would I lie?

[Period Paul P]

You know what I'm saying?

[Azar Faraday]

Call me if you need anything. I'm praying for you.

[Period Paul P]

I'm gonna call you right back.

[Azar Faraday]

I'm gonna call you right back. My hair was long till my mama gave me a perm. I'm crying. That's a funny thing. Anyway, so Young Jeezy was on a podcast with TD Jakes Bishop. TD Jakes. And he was basically saying that he feels like. Like, you know, obviously he was married and he went through a divorce. Okay. He was married and he went through divorce. And he feels like the key to a healthy marriage is to be friends first. Do you agree with that? He feels like he didn't do that with his last marriage. Now he's divorced, and he's like. I feel like if the foundation of a good marriage is to have a friendship with that person, I. I think so.

[Period Paul P]

I think that's a good foundation to have. Yeah, it sound. You know, but, like, how long we. I mean, you know, it's difficult. Cause ain't no book on this.

[Azar Faraday]

You know what I'm saying? Maybe that's a good.

[Period Paul P]

Because a lot. Like, truthfully, a lot of relationships start sexual, and it's built on Sex, like, truthfully.

[Azar Faraday]

And that's not good, though.

[Period Paul P]

That's like. I feel like 90% of relationships are built on sex.

[Azar Faraday]

But I think that's the problem. That's what he's saying. He's like, I built my relationships like that, and they were falling apart because we didn't get to know each other and have the foundation.

[Period Paul P]

I think when you're in relationships, you got to figure out what works for you. That's what works for you. You know, that's what works for you. And whether it's built on sex, whether it's built on friendship, it still can end. Like, you don't want it to end, you know, so, you know, whatever just mentally and physically you feel like is the right thing, that you feel like gonna have a great foundation, long run, then you gotta do that.

[Azar Faraday]

Okay. And then one last thing, and then we're gonna wrap it up. Portia Williams, who recently came out with. In a lesbian relationship, she said successful women attract jealous men who want to te down. Do you agree with that? Say that successful women attract jealous men who want to tear us down, dim our light, and make us feel like less than, basically.

[Period Paul P]

I mean, she's in that. She's in that. She's a successful black woman.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

And, you know, she's probably feeling that. You know what I'm saying? So I really don't. I don't know how I feel about that. I feel like it's a shame. I just feel like success. It doesn't even have to be a woman. I think people try to tear you down when you're successful anyway.

[Azar Faraday]

That's true.

[Period Paul P]

You know, it has to be. It has no color.

[Azar Faraday]

But do you feel like if you're with a woman in a relationship and you're successful, a woman will be, like, trying to tear you down?

[Period Paul P]

That don't even sound right. Why are you trying to tell me down if I were together?

[Azar Faraday]

That's what she's saying. When a relationship. Men get with women who are successful and they try to dim their light and tear them down.

[Period Paul P]

Oh, damn. I. I wouldn't even know how to speak on that. Like. Cause I'll be trying to uplift you. I'll be proud of you. Like, because you. A lot of light of successful men don't. Don't get with successful women.

[Azar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

You know, so, like, maybe the man is not successful and she is, and.

[Azar Faraday]

He'S trying to blow on her because you want. Yeah.

[Period Paul P]

And it's messing with his ego.

[Azar Faraday]

That's what happens.

[Period Paul P]

You know what I'M saying. So he like, oh, you know, instead of trying to uplift her and be like, be proud of her and try to take her to the next level, you gotta be like, you on some jealousy shit. Really? Like, which is weak. That's a weak emotion. That's a weak.

[Azar Faraday]

And it doesn't mean that the man is not successful. Because I was with. I'll never forget this. My ex told me years and years ago. I was like, I think I wanna start a podcast. Because people always tell me, like, I have a voice and I talk. And he looked me dead in the face and was like, you should never have a podcast. Like, damn. No, he literally told me, swear to God, I'll never forget this moment. He was like, you. Honestly, like, you know, like, you're smart, but, like, sometimes, like, I don't know how smart you are. And, like, if someone asks you a question, I wouldn't want you to be embarrassed because you don't know how to respond. Like, I just think. I don't want you to look stupid. Like, people train for this. You're just not meant for that type of thing. And I literally was like, damn, okay. And I really was like, okay. And I didn't do it at that time. Timing is everything. But people do that.

[Period Paul P]

I think some men and women, they go both ways. They don't want you to be bigger than them.

[Azar Faraday]

That's what it is. 100 because if I keep you here, you need me and you're depending on me. So if I know you have something in a gift and you start to show that to the world, you can go past me. And I don't like that.

[Period Paul P]

There you go.

[Azar Faraday]

That's what it is. Well, thank you guys so much for joining us on another episode of the Truth After Dark. We love you guys. Make sure you guys are subscribed. Tap in. Share Comment like all that jazz. We're now officially on Tubi, so please make sure you guys go check us out on Tubi.

[Period Paul P]

And yeah, tune in some of our old episodes because we got some classics, you know. Don't just keep up with the weekly. These old episodes, you need to backtrack at them. We got some classes on there. Make sure you tune in Tubi. We'll be up uploading more episodes. So make sure you tune in YouTube. Subscribe like. We appreciate y'.

[Azar Faraday]

All. Love y'.

[Period Paul P]

All.

[Azar Faraday]

Peace.

[Period Paul P]

This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Azar Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic?

[Period Paul P]

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