Men Get Zero Benefits To Being Married…. Only Women Do. - Club Shay Shay

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Summary

Club Shay Shay Podcast: "Men Get Zero Benefits To Being Married… Only Women Do."
Host: Cesar Faraday | Date: February 23, 2026 | "Truth After Dark" segment

Episode Overview

This episode of Club Shay Shay centers on a lively and candid debate about marriage, gender roles, and societal expectations. Host Cesar Faraday and a male co-host dissect the modern dynamics of relationships—particularly focusing on whether marriage truly brings any benefit to men, or if, as the episode's provocative title suggests, "only women do." The conversation veers into issues of relationship commitment, public vs. private relationships, friendship standards, gendered perceptions of security and respect, masculinity, and societal changes.

Their conversation is filled with humor, personal anecdotes, sharp disagreements, and strong opinions from both perspectives, offering listeners a raw and unfiltered look at how marriage is viewed in today's culture.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Cam Newton Relationship Debate

(Starts ~04:20)

The hosts discuss Cam Newton's relationship and the public perception that his girlfriend wants marriage, but Cam hasn't "put a ring on it."
Cesar's View: Marriage is about security, respect, and public acknowledgment. Living together without marriage creates insecurity for many women.

“As a woman, when you’re investing your time, your energy, your resources…my life is yours. …If something was to happen to you in the hospital, they’re not going to say, ‘Where is his girlfriend?’ …They might even hell go to the next wife before they go to the girlfriend.” (10:00)
Co-host's View: Security can be provided through financial means and tangible actions, not necessarily marriage.

“Security is a bill that costs money. …I can give you security without marrying me.” (11:09)
The hosts also touch on perception and societal validation versus the real, lived relationship.

2. Why Do Women Want Marriage?

(~08:06 - 15:19)

Security and Social Status: For women, marriage offers both legal and emotional security, and the societal upgrade in status from “girlfriend/baby mama” to “wife.”
Host's Memorable Quote:

“There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama. …It’s a respect thing, and it’s for a woman to feel that safety and security, period, point blank.” (10:30)
Commitment and Seriousness: Genuine marriage is about commitment, not just finances or societal expectation.
Male Perspective – “No Benefits” for Men:

“The only difference is it’s gonna fuck the man. That is the difference. …It’s no benefits to the man. It’s only beneficial to the woman.” (16:32)
Marriage vs. Long-term Relationship: The debate hinges on whether the “piece of paper” actually changes the relationship, or just creates more legal headaches for men.

3. Changing Norms: Friendship & Status

(22:56 - 25:44)

Viral story: A woman gets excluded from a friend group for not wearing high-end designer and driving an “old” Mercedes.
Both hosts agree this highlights the artificial, status-driven nature of some modern friendships, especially among women.
Co-host:

“If we real cool and all of that, what do that even matter?” (23:51)
Cesar:

“I think more people should care about what kind of heart you have and how genuine you are… I don’t care about any of that, honestly.” (25:00)

4. Influencer Culture & Authenticity

(25:43 - 28:18)

Frustration is expressed over “influencer” culture, where image and status substitute for authenticity.
Cesar:

“I was an influencer before I ever even was on social media.” (26:13)
Co-host:

“Everybody ain’t influencing everything. Don’t give me that.” (25:44)
They agree that genuine friendship and character matter more than “clout” or online presence.

5. Masculinity, Femininity & Societal Change

(37:18 - 41:53)

Host and co-host challenge each other: Are women becoming more masculine, and are men being emasculated? Who is “to blame” for these shifts?
Cesar: Points to systemic, historical factors for Black men’s emasculation rather than blaming women.

“It’s not women who emasculated men. It’s systemic racism that’s been going on for years and years…” (38:23)
Women’s “masculinity” is framed as a response to not feeling safe or cared for, not as an innate choice.
Powerful Exchange:

“There’s a cost that it pays for a man to have a feminine woman. And the cost is for him to make her feel safe, for him to make her feel comfortable being vulnerable.” (40:48)

6. Sex, Dating, and Social Double Standards

(44:02 - 54:40)

Strip Clubs & Sex Clubs: Double standards—men going to strip clubs is “normal,” but if women do, it’s potentially a red flag.

“If your girl wanna go see men strippers all the time, that’s a red flag.” (44:33)
Virginity and Waiting for Marriage: Singer Tems at 29 is a virgin, planning to wait for marriage. Hosts debate whether that scenario “works” in the modern era.
- Cesar: First sexual experiences usually aren’t great for women, requiring mutual growth.
- Co-host: Claims a man in that situation “gonna cheat on you,” sparking immediate pushback.
“You don’t know if she might get cracking. …It’s not that hard to teach somebody something.” (54:54)
Infidelity and Patience: The struggle for patience in relationships with sexual inexperience is humorously likened to “learning to drive.”

7. Fan Q&A: Social Media Red Flags

(55:38 - 56:01)

A fan finds her boyfriend has a private Instagram following only “thirst traps.”
Both agree this is a red flag:

“He’s seeing what’s up.” (56:01)

8. Marriage: Pressure, Engagements, & "Timelines"

(29:23 - 34:40)

Cesar explains she doesn’t feel pressure to marry, even though all her sisters are married—she wants to marry for the right reasons, not for status.
The co-host insists, humorously, that engagements shouldn’t last more than a year:

“If you get engaged, you got one year. …After that, you should call it off.” (32:28)
Discussion of long engagements, “buying time,” and whether marriage should be the “highest accomplishment” or a natural step for the right person.

Notable Moments & Quotes

On marriage’s benefit to men:

"It’s gonna fuck the man. …It’s no benefits to the man. …When we break up now, it’s gonna be an ugly breakup." (16:32)
On societal pressure and respect:

"There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama." (10:30)
On authenticity in friendships:

"That’s so new generation type of… I don’t even feel that." (24:08 Co-host)
On influencer culture:

“I’m tired of that. …What are you influencing?” (25:44 Co-host)
On systemic emasculation and gender roles:

"It’s not women who emasculated men. It’s systemic racism that’s been going on for years…" (38:23 Cesar)
On women's desire for security:

"It’s about being able to say, like, I’m his wife… There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama." (10:30 Cesar)
On strip club double standards:

“She said it’s a hobby… If your girl want to go see men strippers all the time, that’s a red flag.” (44:33 Co-host)
On losing virginity & sexual experience:

"Losing your virginity is the most disgusting, painful experience ever. …I don’t think I had good sex until years after having sex." (51:32 Cesar)
On authenticity, relationships, and values:

"People should be clear on that… If you want marriage, find someone who wants marriage. You can’t convince people to want what you want." (20:19 Cesar)

Selected Timestamps

Cam Newton & Intentions Discussion: 04:20 — 08:15
Security, Respect, and Women's Perspective on Marriage: 08:06 — 11:09 / 13:11 — 15:19
Co-host’s Claim: No Benefits for Men & Divorce: 16:10 — 17:34
Friend Group & Status Story: 22:56 — 25:44
Influencer Culture Rant: 25:43 — 28:18
Masculinity/Femininity Argument: 37:18 — 41:53
Strip Club & Sex Club Debate: 44:02 — 47:59
Tems' Virginity & Waiting for Marriage: 51:05 — 54:40
Fan Q&A on Social Media Red Flags: 55:38 — 56:01

Closing Thoughts

This episode is a fast-paced, no-holds-barred tour through many of the current debates about marriage, gender roles, and societal realities in relationships. The hosts bring energy, personal perspective, and a willingness to engage—even heatedly—on sensitive issues. Whether you agree or disagree, their raw exchange offers insights into the pressures, expectations, and evolving standards shaping love and partnership in contemporary culture.