Men Get Zero Benefits To Being Married…. Only Women Do.

Summary

Club Shay Shay Podcast: "Men Get Zero Benefits To Being Married… Only Women Do."
Host: Cesar Faraday | Date: February 23, 2026 | "Truth After Dark" segment

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Episode Overview

This episode of Club Shay Shay centers on a lively and candid debate about marriage, gender roles, and societal expectations. Host Cesar Faraday and a male co-host dissect the modern dynamics of relationships—particularly focusing on whether marriage truly brings any benefit to men, or if, as the episode's provocative title suggests, "only women do." The conversation veers into issues of relationship commitment, public vs. private relationships, friendship standards, gendered perceptions of security and respect, masculinity, and societal changes.

Their conversation is filled with humor, personal anecdotes, sharp disagreements, and strong opinions from both perspectives, offering listeners a raw and unfiltered look at how marriage is viewed in today's culture.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Cam Newton Relationship Debate

(Starts ~04:20)

• The hosts discuss Cam Newton's relationship and the public perception that his girlfriend wants marriage, but Cam hasn't "put a ring on it."
• Cesar's View: Marriage is about security, respect, and public acknowledgment. Living together without marriage creates insecurity for many women.

  “As a woman, when you’re investing your time, your energy, your resources…my life is yours. …If something was to happen to you in the hospital, they’re not going to say, ‘Where is his girlfriend?’ …They might even hell go to the next wife before they go to the girlfriend.” (10:00)

• Co-host's View: Security can be provided through financial means and tangible actions, not necessarily marriage.

  “Security is a bill that costs money. …I can give you security without marrying me.” (11:09)

• The hosts also touch on perception and societal validation versus the real, lived relationship.

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2. Why Do Women Want Marriage?

(~08:06 - 15:19)

• Security and Social Status: For women, marriage offers both legal and emotional security, and the societal upgrade in status from “girlfriend/baby mama” to “wife.”
• Host's Memorable Quote:

  “There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama. …It’s a respect thing, and it’s for a woman to feel that safety and security, period, point blank.” (10:30)

• Commitment and Seriousness: Genuine marriage is about commitment, not just finances or societal expectation.
• Male Perspective – “No Benefits” for Men:

  “The only difference is it’s gonna fuck the man. That is the difference. …It’s no benefits to the man. It’s only beneficial to the woman.” (16:32)

• Marriage vs. Long-term Relationship: The debate hinges on whether the “piece of paper” actually changes the relationship, or just creates more legal headaches for men.

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3. Changing Norms: Friendship & Status

(22:56 - 25:44)

• Viral story: A woman gets excluded from a friend group for not wearing high-end designer and driving an “old” Mercedes.
• Both hosts agree this highlights the artificial, status-driven nature of some modern friendships, especially among women.
• Co-host:

  “If we real cool and all of that, what do that even matter?” (23:51)

• Cesar:

  “I think more people should care about what kind of heart you have and how genuine you are… I don’t care about any of that, honestly.” (25:00)

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4. Influencer Culture & Authenticity

(25:43 - 28:18)

• Frustration is expressed over “influencer” culture, where image and status substitute for authenticity.
• Cesar:

  “I was an influencer before I ever even was on social media.” (26:13)

• Co-host:

  “Everybody ain’t influencing everything. Don’t give me that.” (25:44)

• They agree that genuine friendship and character matter more than “clout” or online presence.

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5. Masculinity, Femininity & Societal Change

(37:18 - 41:53)

• Host and co-host challenge each other: Are women becoming more masculine, and are men being emasculated? Who is “to blame” for these shifts?
• Cesar: Points to systemic, historical factors for Black men’s emasculation rather than blaming women.

  “It’s not women who emasculated men. It’s systemic racism that’s been going on for years and years…” (38:23)

• Women’s “masculinity” is framed as a response to not feeling safe or cared for, not as an innate choice.
• Powerful Exchange:

  “There’s a cost that it pays for a man to have a feminine woman. And the cost is for him to make her feel safe, for him to make her feel comfortable being vulnerable.” (40:48)

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6. Sex, Dating, and Social Double Standards

(44:02 - 54:40)

• Strip Clubs & Sex Clubs: Double standards—men going to strip clubs is “normal,” but if women do, it’s potentially a red flag.

  “If your girl wanna go see men strippers all the time, that’s a red flag.” (44:33)

• Virginity and Waiting for Marriage: Singer Tems at 29 is a virgin, planning to wait for marriage. Hosts debate whether that scenario “works” in the modern era.
  • Cesar: First sexual experiences usually aren’t great for women, requiring mutual growth.
  • Co-host: Claims a man in that situation “gonna cheat on you,” sparking immediate pushback.

  “You don’t know if she might get cracking. …It’s not that hard to teach somebody something.” (54:54)

• Infidelity and Patience: The struggle for patience in relationships with sexual inexperience is humorously likened to “learning to drive.”

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7. Fan Q&A: Social Media Red Flags

(55:38 - 56:01)

• A fan finds her boyfriend has a private Instagram following only “thirst traps.”
• Both agree this is a red flag:

  “He’s seeing what’s up.” (56:01)

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8. Marriage: Pressure, Engagements, & "Timelines"

(29:23 - 34:40)

• Cesar explains she doesn’t feel pressure to marry, even though all her sisters are married—she wants to marry for the right reasons, not for status.
• The co-host insists, humorously, that engagements shouldn’t last more than a year:

  “If you get engaged, you got one year. …After that, you should call it off.” (32:28)

• Discussion of long engagements, “buying time,” and whether marriage should be the “highest accomplishment” or a natural step for the right person.

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Notable Moments & Quotes

• On marriage’s benefit to men:

  "It’s gonna fuck the man. …It’s no benefits to the man. …When we break up now, it’s gonna be an ugly breakup." (16:32)

• On societal pressure and respect:

  "There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama." (10:30)

• On authenticity in friendships:

  "That’s so new generation type of… I don’t even feel that." (24:08 Co-host)

• On influencer culture:

  “I’m tired of that. …What are you influencing?” (25:44 Co-host)

• On systemic emasculation and gender roles:

  "It’s not women who emasculated men. It’s systemic racism that’s been going on for years…" (38:23 Cesar)

• On women's desire for security:

  "It’s about being able to say, like, I’m his wife… There’s a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama." (10:30 Cesar)

• On strip club double standards:

  “She said it’s a hobby… If your girl want to go see men strippers all the time, that’s a red flag.” (44:33 Co-host)

• On losing virginity & sexual experience:

  "Losing your virginity is the most disgusting, painful experience ever. …I don’t think I had good sex until years after having sex." (51:32 Cesar)

• On authenticity, relationships, and values:

  "People should be clear on that… If you want marriage, find someone who wants marriage. You can’t convince people to want what you want." (20:19 Cesar)

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Selected Timestamps

• Cam Newton & Intentions Discussion: 04:20 — 08:15
• Security, Respect, and Women's Perspective on Marriage: 08:06 — 11:09 / 13:11 — 15:19
• Co-host’s Claim: No Benefits for Men & Divorce: 16:10 — 17:34
• Friend Group & Status Story: 22:56 — 25:44
• Influencer Culture Rant: 25:43 — 28:18
• Masculinity/Femininity Argument: 37:18 — 41:53
• Strip Club & Sex Club Debate: 44:02 — 47:59
• Tems' Virginity & Waiting for Marriage: 51:05 — 54:40
• Fan Q&A on Social Media Red Flags: 55:38 — 56:01

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Closing Thoughts

This episode is a fast-paced, no-holds-barred tour through many of the current debates about marriage, gender roles, and societal realities in relationships. The hosts bring energy, personal perspective, and a willingness to engage—even heatedly—on sensitive issues. Whether you agree or disagree, their raw exchange offers insights into the pressures, expectations, and evolving standards shaping love and partnership in contemporary culture.

Transcript

[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It is. Like, why do I gotta sign this piece of paper? To show you that I really love you. Like, is that for real? Why do we have the government involved? Like, I love you.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's for real.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You live with me. I take care of you. I'm doing all these things for you. I love you. Why do I have to get married? Because everybody say that's.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not because everybody says it. It's because it's a. I feel like marriage is something that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Cesar Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I'm your host, Cesar Faraday.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Truth in the building. What's happening?

[Cesar Faraday]

What's happening?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Another dollar.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay. So how are you feeling today?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm good, I'm good.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

New memories still here.

[Cesar Faraday]

New timeline still kicking. Still.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Same algorithm, you know, it's all good.

[Cesar Faraday]

New timeline, same algorithm is hilarious. That's a bar. Okay, so there has been like, Lex P. Andrea Nicole went on from Poor Minds that came on our show. They went on Cam Newton show. Yeah. Love them. Love those women. First of all, down, okay? Both of them, they went on Cam show, and Cam was basically talking about there's a viral clip that's going on everywhere because Cam is obviously in a public relationship. And the conversation started by Cam saying, like, I don't get how people can be dating someone and in a full blown relationship with them, but then they want to hide them on social media and stuff. He's like, I'm not with that. Like, people know who my girl is. And she. She. And so one of the girls were like, well, you know, you also have to remember that not all relationships are what they seem online either, though, because people be having relations, goals, like the Christie and the Desmond Scott and all this. And then you don't even know what's going on behind closed doors. And he's like, so you don't really know what people's relationship actually look like. And he was like, well, what does my relationship look like to y'?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

All?

[Cesar Faraday]

And they said, it looks like hell. They said, it looks bad. And she was like, I'm not gonna say it's like, bad, but I'm not gonna say it's good. And one of them said, it looks like hell, literally. Like, I do not want to, like. Like, she. They drag her so much for everything they had.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

They got two kids, right?

[Cesar Faraday]

I think they have one kid or maybe two. I don't know. But, like, they for sure have kids. He has, obviously multiple other children.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

And they're not married.

[Cesar Faraday]

They're not married. They live together. So their whole thing. He was like, why? Like, they were like, I don't understand that girl wants to be married for sure. Like, the fact that you haven't married her and y' all living together, they

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

can't speak that on him, on her. They don't know how she feel, as she said.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, he kind of agreed to that. He was like, yeah. You know what I'm saying? And the reason why they dragged her so hard is because she is a personality herself, really beautiful girl, and she's a public figure. And before she was even with him. And she would always just talk about, like, how women don't need to be stupid and deal with men with different baby mamas and this and that and all the stuff. You know what I'm saying? And then now you're with this man who has multiple baby moms. You live with him or, like, don't live with a man before you're married and all this stuff. And so now they drag her because they're like, you said all of this stuff, and now you're with this man, and he has not married you. You've had two of his children. You live in his home. And it's like, where's the intention on marrying this person? You know what I'm saying? And Cam has made it known, like, I love this girl. He's not saying he's not gonna marry her. He's not saying that. You know what I mean? But they're just, like, from the outside looking in, it doesn't look like a relationship goals. Like, I want to be her, you know? And you. I just. It's not giving that. You know what I mean? Especially because a lot of the stuff in his opinions and that he says on the show or whatever the case is. What's your thoughts on that?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like, my thoughts on this with Cam Newton is I feel like based on just seeing his interviews and seeing how they talk, I feel like he been straight up with her. Like, she knew, like I said, with the Cardi b and Steph, what she was stepping into.

[Cesar Faraday]

Right?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Right. And the thing is, like, why does marriage make things better? Like, if they're happy how they are.

[Cesar Faraday]

Let them be happy, but they're not. She wants to be married.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

She not happy. How?

[Cesar Faraday]

You know, I mean, I'm saying she wants to be Marri. We've talked about.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Do women want to be married? What's the thing about. Do you. Is it like security?

[Cesar Faraday]

It's security. It's.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh, so they. It's. Security is knowing that, like, if I. If we divorce, I normally get half the bag. Is that the security the girl's looking for?

[Cesar Faraday]

Can I say something? When you're a woman and you invest all your time and energy in a

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

man, security is being with me, under me.

[Cesar Faraday]

Listen to what I'm saying. You're asking questions.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah, you're right.

[Cesar Faraday]

So security. We've talked about this before with them on the show, and you agreed. The thing about it is, is as a woman, when you're investing your time, your energy, your resources and everything you have into a man, I'm making my life about you and helping you. That's the mission. Like, we want to. We're doing this together. The woman is always like the second player to the man. Like, I'm here, I'm behind you. I'm packing your b. I'm making your straight. I'm doing this. I'm making sure the house is straight. I'm like, my life is yours. Like, her life is like his now. Like, she had a whole career, but, like, mainly it's now about him and making sure he's straight. So what ends up happening is, is I made this and I invested all this time and energy, all this thing for you not to fully 100% commit to me in that way. If something was to happen to you in the hospital, they're not going to say, where is his girlfriend? Does he. Are you his wife? Okay, well, where's his mother? Are you this? They might even hell go to the next wife before they go to the girlfriend. And that makes a girlfriend feel not secure at the end of the day, like, if anything was to happen, you don't have no say, you don't have no, no, no precedence over nothing. When you're the person who spent every waking day with this man, you know his ins and outs, you know him probably better than anyone because who you're in an intimate relationship with, they know you better than everyone because you're with them every damn, damn day. You see every flaw. You see everything. So as a woman, yeah, it's security. Because women are looking to men to be this person and are looking to the woman to cater to them. To be. Make their life. If they need something, we're dropping everything to be there. It's all these things. So when anything happens or anything, we don't get no say at the end. Like, women want that safety and security. It's not just about the money. It's about being able to say, like, I'm his wife. Like, I can make these decisions. I can feel this. And men treated a certain way, too. We had a conversation on the phone where you said. I mean, on the last episode, where you were like, a wife should sit in the front. A girlfriend should sit in the back. Men say things like that. You wonder why a woman wants to be a wife. Like, yeah, I don't want to be the girl having to sit in the back seat. I want to be the wife. Like, men take that seriously. Other people take that more seriously than you saying, I'm your girlfriend. So, yeah, sorry. That women want to be. Feel like they actually have a say and want to be that person. Like, yeah, period. There's a difference between I was your ex wife and I was your baby mama. There's a difference. Having a kid and now I'm your ex wife versus having a kid and I'm your baby mama. It's a way different thing. It's a respect thing, and it's for a woman to feel that safety and security, period, point blank.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

All right, I heard what you said. All right, so in saying that without getting married, and I will tell you, security is a bill that costs money. I can give you security without marrying me. You know why? Because if I say, hey, you know what, baby? I know you live with me, we're together, we got a kid, and I take care of your life. But you know what? I want you to feel safe. So how about this as security? As a guy with money like Cam say, hey, like, hey, you know what? I'm gonna get you this house on the side while we together. Boom. Get you this house. I'm gonna put this in your bank account. Boom. All of that. I'm gonna put you in my will. So if shit go bad tomorrow, we got this. You ain't gonna feel secure.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's the.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like I said, that's what marriage give you. Marriage give you all those things. So when I pass, if we marry, you get it. So I'm gonna give it to you before I pass without getting married.

[Cesar Faraday]

So security, like I said, that's real talk.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, if I give you a crib and I throw a certain amount of dollars in your. In your account, pay for boom. If I die tomorrow, you ain't gonna feel secure.

[Cesar Faraday]

Because it's not the same though. Because like I said, you gonna make the decision. So what is the two things? Why did you say this then? Why did you say that the wife could sit in the front and the ex and then the girlfriend could sit in the back? What is the difference then? We were in the. When we're talking about sitting in the car and if you. The mom is in the car. If it's the wife, she shits in the front. But it doesn't matter what. You also said that if you're playing basketball on the court, ex wife is. I mean the wife is off limits, but the girlfriend is not. You could talk about someone's girlfriend, but you can't talk about their wife. There is a difference in the respect level and even how a man views a woman.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

When you are viewing a woman, even at the level that cam is at, you can't talk about my girl. It's just everybody else like me as a man, as a public figure, you talking about my girl. What's up? All I'm saying, what you talking about my boy? You can't just say anything. I think it's different on a celebrity level though. I'm gonna tell you, things are always whatever.

[Cesar Faraday]

Why though do you feel like? Because I think, like because of celebrity. Like I don't like that. Because you make it different.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Because our stuff is more public.

[Cesar Faraday]

I understand that, but I still feel like it makes it worse because now I'm just your long term girlfriend living

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

with you and you worried about the perception what everybody else think.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not about that. It's about how a woman feels at the end of the day. Like as a woman, I feel that you're not willing to make that commitment to me. Then I'm cool. Period. Point blank. Like you even said on the show, if a man doesn't propose within one year of living each other and you're past the age of 33, you shouldn't fuck with him. Three years, you said one year of living with each other. Yes, I can pull the clip. Dark. Now you. Three years. You said one three years. Pull the clip and put it right here. Please. Pull the clip and put it right here. And if I'm right, what? Because you said one year. I know exactly what you said.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You can get a dinner anywhere you want, unlimited amount on the dinner and you can bring whatever friends up to three.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't want that. I want something different.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh, you didn't already had all that

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm cool, all that. I want something.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'll send you on a trip.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

After 33, he get one year.

[Cesar Faraday]

I ain't mad at it.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Of living with each other though. Live with each other. One year. Okay. You gotta make a decision.

[Cesar Faraday]

I feel you on that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I think that's. I think that's what it should be.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's cool. But yeah, I'm right. 100. So you said that so well. Now what? Like, you change your views so often that it confuses people because you want say this and then you turn around and say this and it's like.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It's about.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not just security. It's about having. No, you know what it is about?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

The money.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not. But do you. Are you listening to me? I'm saying it's not just about security why women want to be married. It's about knowing that you're willing to make that commitment to someone. You're willing. No, not. No. If you're not willing to marry me, you're not willing to make that commitment to me and me personally.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Marriage is overrated.

[Cesar Faraday]

Here you go.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It is like, why do I gotta sign this piece of paper to show you that I really love you. Like, is that for real? Why do I have the government involved? Like, I love you.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's for real.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You live with me, I take care of you. I'm doing all these things for you. I love you. Why do I have to get married? Because everybody say that's.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not because everybody says it. It's because I feel like marriage is something that I don't see. It's overrated. I have. My parents are married, my sisters are married. I value marriage. Still.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That you've ever been in a relationship five years. So like if you were married for five years, what's the difference?

[Cesar Faraday]

What do you mean? It means there's a bigger commitment. You can't just walk away like that. You have to actually.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah. Cuz you're going to get stung like a bee.

[Cesar Faraday]

You have to actually put in more work and this and that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You got to put in more work. What's the difference?

[Cesar Faraday]

The difference is, is when you're married,

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

we live together and we've been together five years. And we lived together five years. What's the difference from being married? The only difference is it's gonna fuck the man. That is the difference. That's the only difference. It's no benefits to the man. It's only beneficial to the woman. What benefits is it to the man to be Married for five years or be with you for five years, living like, I'm still doing all the same things, all the things that married couples do. But the only difference is when we break up now, we gonna have. It's gonna be an ugly breakup. A clean breakup is when you together, you could be a clean breakup and it ain't gonna be no anim. It's more animosity on a breakup in a marriage than it is in a relationship. It's way more in a relationship. Y' all can still be cool in a marriage. Y' all gonna be tripping with each other because y' all gonna be fighting over all this other possessions. That's so. That's so.

[Cesar Faraday]

So you're anti marriage.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, I'm not anti marriage.

[Cesar Faraday]

You seem like you're anti married.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Facts. That's the fact.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're anti marriage.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Me, I've been married. That's the facts.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, but you're saying you're cool on marriage. You're not getting married.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I will get married again.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, I don't think you should because you don't seem happy about. You see, marriage seems crazy to you.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Me, personally, I don't regret marriage.

[Cesar Faraday]

I personally feel like I don't wanna. I. I believe in marriage, and I have actually seen successful marriages.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

To believe that, like, marriage is an American or a worldwide thing that we feel like that's when you've made it.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like, that ain't like, it's not about. That's when you made it. Like, I think that that's what you're equating it to. I don't even think it's that. Like, there's so many reasons and why

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I can make you feel secure without being.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not about that. It's like, there's so, like. I already told you, there's so many reasons. It's not just security. It's about commitment. It's about taking a vow to really be with each other no matter what happens. Like, it's about really deciding, like, we're going to take the marriage.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

The marriage.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm not saying the paper does that, but it makes it official. And it takes maybe harder to break up.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

And it's harder to break up because what's at stake because of marriage.

[Cesar Faraday]

Right. So I'm not going to go back and forth. If you don't want to get married, don't get married again. I know that I'm going to get married one day. And I feel like I'm going to value my marriage because I think that marriage Is important because there's reasons why in which a woman feels like I

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

say marriage is for older people.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm not an older person. Like, what do you mean? I want a real family. I don't want a broken family. I don't want to have be a baby mother if as long as I'm not married to you, I will be a baby mother and I'm not going to be that. I'm never going to pop out kids for a man.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

What if you get married, have a kid and he divorce you?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. Then you're a baby. You're a baby, you're an ex wife. There's a difference.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You're a baby mama.

[Cesar Faraday]

There's a. You're an ex wife.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You get married, have a kid and break up.

[Cesar Faraday]

You a baby mama, you're an ex wife, you're not a baby mama. And there's a difference. You made that commitment.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like I can say this is my baby mama.

[Cesar Faraday]

You don't though currently you're my baby mama. You don't say that. You have an ex wife and you have a baby mom and that's what you say. So you don't say that because I hear you talk. You've talked about it on the show publicly. So what are you talking about? Like you, you, you. It's true. It's true that you, when you have an ex wife, you have an ex wife. When you have a mama, you have baby mama.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'll be like, if my ass wife right there be like, this is. This is my mother's kid. I don't say that. You don't think I say that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I don't know what you say. But what the point is is I know for a fact there's a difference. And at the end of the day,

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

your title make a difference. If you a baby bob or ex wife. Oh, I want to be called an ex wife.

[Cesar Faraday]

You still it not the point. You just moving on because you just want to fight be anti marriage. I don't think that you should even get married because you're going to have resentment if you get married again. Yeah. Okay, so let's move on because I can't argue down people have different values. People have different values on what they want and what they don't want. And I think that people should be clear on that because I feel like if you don't want marriage, find someone who doesn't want marriage. If you want marriage, find someone who wants marriage. You can't convince people to want what you want. Like that's just it. I think that that's an important factor. Shoot your shot on price picks and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. That's right. Price Picks is now giving you $50 in lineups when you sign up and play your first $5 prize picks makes every dunk, every dime and every board that much more exciting. So don't miss this chance to get started on America's number one app for sports pick. We are so back, baby. Prize picks is so simple to play. Football season is over, but we still have plenty of sports to build a lineup with. Basketball, hockey, ufc, soccer, college basketball, tennis, golf, esports, and so much more.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No.

[Cesar Faraday]

So Xien is like teemu for fashion. You know Teemu, you know, Alibaba. Like it's like cheap, cheap, cheap from China.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I don't know it.

[Cesar Faraday]

Right, right. But no, she. And as much as it's like she, we have the little items on there. You know what I'm saying? And she. So she's basically wearing like cheap clothing. They're saying, okay, and she drives a 2019 Mercedes. Right? And her friends were. Her friends in the group chat were like, look, honestly, we don't think you can hang out with us anymore because basically you're wearing these cheap ass clothes and you're driving a 2019 car and you live in an apartment all of us have homes, all of us live, have 20, 24 cars are up and all of us wear a designer every day. Yeah. Do you think more people should be like judging off of those type of standards when it comes to friends?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Them is not your real friends.

[Cesar Faraday]

Right?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

What I got, how I'm moving and how, what I'm driving. Nah, you ain't my friend because I'm doing with the best I got. If we real cool and all of that, what do that even matter?

[Cesar Faraday]

I agree with that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like what the, like what kind of is that?

[Cesar Faraday]

That's trifling to me.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So like that's so new generation type of that. I don't even feel that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like I hate that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like all my friends ain't got what I got. So.

[Cesar Faraday]

Right.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I still rock with them.

[Cesar Faraday]

But. And they also try to tell her, like, you have more money than to be doing all of that. Like, why are you doing that when it's not like you have any less money than us.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

About girls friendships, it's based on. I see a lot of girls have so many different friends and it's based

[Cesar Faraday]

on like looks and status and that type of stuff.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Hanging out with all baddies, girl, that's like. But then at the end of the day it's like, that's artificial.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. For sure.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Together based on what y' all can get out of each other. Because if you hanging with baddies, you going to attract more men to y'. All.

[Cesar Faraday]

Exactly.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Different places, flying, different places, doing all this. But like, that ain't real friendship. Like it shouldn't even.

[Cesar Faraday]

I think more people should care about like what kind of heart you have and like how genuine you are. Like, I'm not going to say my friends aren't baddies or whatever, cuz I'll never do them like that. But like, I don't care about people and how they look and what they're wearing and if they're cracking. Like, my friends are seriously genuine people and they're very, like, they're just like super loving and down for me and they're going to ride for me and that's what I care about. I don't care about how much more money you got than me. How many more like popping celebrity friends, how much more cracking you are. Like, I don't care about any of that. Honestly.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Artificialness.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

The women in today's society who are really out to get more certain status.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Person.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Or like when you're in an influencer type of situation, it's like we want more influence. So you don't carry the status of us being influencers. Cause everybody's a fucking influencer. I'm tired of that. I went out one day when I was like, hey, what's up? What you. Hey. She's like, hey, what do you do? I was like, you know, whatever. I was like, what about you? I'm an influencer. Like, what the fuck is that at the end of the day? Like, seriously, what are you influencing? Everybody ain't influencing everything. Don't give me that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, I know. And half of these people don't even be influencing anything. Like, that's the thing. Like, I was an influencer before I ever even was on social media. Media. Because I uplift people, motivate people, encourage people to do certain things. I talk to women, give them advice. I'm always doing that. I've always influenced people. And I've never said I'm an influencer. And I think that we just live in a generation now. Even some people, I know y' all want to kick it with the more cracking girls that are out. And now that, like, even me, like, I'm more cracking on Instagram or whatever. Like, people want to kick it. Like, let's go here. Let's go to dinner. And I'm like, girl, I don't know you. Like, I'm not. I have friends. I don't need new friends. You just to look cracking, just to be out and pull, demand or whatever, take an Instagram photo. Like, I'm cool on that. That's my problem. Because it's like, I am a content creator. Maybe I should be doing more of that, But I just don't. Because I just don't care to do that. I just. No one can convince me, like, go kick it with people that are influencing and do, like, content. But it's just. I just can't find it in my heart to go do that. Like, I don't want to be around people I don't know, and I don't care to know. Like, I've never been one. So pressed to make friends. Like, I don't want. I don't care if you're a vibe and you're genuine, you're cool, I'll rock with you. But I'm an energy person. I could read your energy before you even speak, baby. So you. You don't even got to say too much to me.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah, that's what's up. I mean, everybody. You know what I hate? You go on a girl page. She's showing all her assets, shaking this, showing that And I'm influencing because everybody.

[Cesar Faraday]

Exactly.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh crap.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm an influencer because I'm shaking ass. I'm influencing. What the hell Are you influenced, fluent? You a bad influence is what you

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

influence because of what you and the

[Cesar Faraday]

half of the followers you have.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Terrible. Our society, it is a bad place. We are in the worst place of society of all time. I truly believe that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, I mean, we were in a worse place, honey, when our ancestors were enslaved and getting whipped and chains and they couldn't even walk outside.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like, I'm not talking about black people just as a whole, as humanity. This is like the worst time ever. Like, like our influences, what we look at, what people do on the day to day, the friendships are more fake. Is access to everybody. It's just not real.

[Cesar Faraday]

I get what you're saying.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah, this not real to me. This is not real life.

[Cesar Faraday]

And that's why I say if you have a real win in your life, don't take real ones for granted. I have a viral little post like that because God is barely making those anymore. If you know that's real, genuine cool. Like the people that I know that are real ones, I'm not playing around with them. You're not taking that for granted because you're not getting that any, a lot out here. I promise you, you not. You know what I mean? Like, don't take that them people for granted. For sure. Well, thank you to our good friends at Prize Picks, America's number one sports pick app. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Let me ask you something, like, you have how many sisters?

[Cesar Faraday]

5.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Are they all married?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yes.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

And you're not?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yes.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Do you feel pressure there?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I don't. I don't feel pressure because of that at all. I'm the youngest out of all my sisters. I don't feel societal pressure to be married because I would be married by now. I've been engaged.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Don't just say I'll be married by now. I don't feel like it. Cause like you're just not gonna marry anybody.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. But I was in a relationship and I was.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Have you ever been proposed to?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yes. I just told you I was engaged.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You was engaged? What happened?

[Cesar Faraday]

We broke up. We didn't make it to the marriage. It was trifling.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So when you got engaged, did y' all have a wedding date?

[Cesar Faraday]

No, we didn't. We just.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Let me tell you something about how niggas do.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. They're just gonna do shit, like.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

But they're gonna get engaged to you just to buy some time. I feel like when you get engaged, y'. All. Nope, I'm talking.

[Cesar Faraday]

Go ahead.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

When you get engaged. I feel like when you get engaged, you should say, all right, let's plan the marriage right before we get engaged. So if I get engaged to you in June, hey, let's get married next summer. The next summer.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, we did say that some people

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

get engaged and they just be engaged.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, we did say that, though. The thing is, is we said that, but it was on me to, like, plan it and do the things, and I wasn't even in it anymore.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So you don't want to be married no more?

[Cesar Faraday]

I didn't want to be married to him, no.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So, like, what happened? Like, I'm saying, the next week, we should plan the marriage.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, we were. We were. He was talking about the marriage and everything, but I just think that I was checked out emotionally.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So you got engaged. Checked out already?

[Cesar Faraday]

I got a little checked out. I got engaged. But I was like, okay.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

During the checkout period?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, during the checkout.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So why you got engaged?

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, he proposed, and I said, yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Why are you saying yeah?

[Cesar Faraday]

Because I felt like, okay, maybe we could make it work.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Women play too much.

[Cesar Faraday]

Maybe we could make it work. You just said that men get engaged to buy time, but we play too much.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

But, like, if I engage, make it. Make it. Make it serious. So if a man engaged. If he get engaged to you, say, all right, so, like, we engaged now. Let's start planning the wedding. And if he say, hold on, hold on, hold on.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, I wasn't like that. It wasn't like that, though. That's what I'm saying. He wasn't like that. It was really like, okay, but during the engagement, it was just like, still so many arguments, still so much stuff. And I just was like, I don't think we should go through with this. He was very hurt by that. But I just felt like, hey, I'm very serious about, like, the things that I think that I deserve and that I just. And it's not even a lot like you. If you can't give me the basic things, and people don't realize that, like, I don't play like that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

Like, I don't care. I'm not gonna get married to say that I'm married. I'm not gonna get married just to be like, I'm a wife. Like, I know that. That's what you keep saying, but I'M not that person. If I wanted to do that, I would have been married, period.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

This is what I feel like. Engagement. And this is for. I'm speaking to everybody. If you get engaged, you got one year.

[Cesar Faraday]

Here you go with these.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Don't marry you in one year. You need to make a move, honey. From the engagement. You need to make a move, honey. That's the timeline on engagement. It's blowing me when I hear somebody been engaging games for six years. You blow up me. Like, what we got engaged for? We could have just been together. Like, it's a one year. That's my timeline on getting engaged.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, so I know some people that were engaged, and they both feel like, okay, like, the engagement felt like a wedding. Like, I'm cool. I just wanted to be engaged. Like, I wanted to know that you would want to marry me.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Dumb hoe.

[Cesar Faraday]

Don't say that. Cause we know people like that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You know people like that. No, you do, too.

[Matt Rogers]

Your friends.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Them. Your friends felt like, no, dog. You got one year after the engagement to do something. After that, you should call it off. One year. If I get engaged, I want to marry you, right? What does engagement.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, you said to buy time.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, no, but some dudes do that. So, like, after a year, you be like, what's up? You should be like, what's up? Like, well, if he'd be like, man, he like. Like the dude. You said on our last episode he got engaged after his girlfriend got caught cheating on him. That nigga did everything he could to say that he was buying time. But the real shit, when you get engaged, it should happen within a year. You get max. A year and a half. Girls, if you listen to this, After a year and a half, if y' all ain't married because you.

[Cesar Faraday]

Here, you go with these signs again. No, no, no.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You should have your shit in line. You should not engage and say, let me get my shit in line. No, it should be already in line.

[Cesar Faraday]

This has come from a man who's anti marriage. Y' all so don't even let. I can't tell, honey. I can't tell, honey. My biggest thing is. Look, my biggest thing is everyone does things on their own time. Like, I don't know. I've. I've talked to someone before that said that in the engagement will be enough for them. Like, okay, if I just get engaged and know that, like, because that's the

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

highest accomplishment you ever, ever gonna have getting engaged. Yeah. Some girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's crazy.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That's your highest accomplishment.

[Cesar Faraday]

Anyways, I Think for me, I'm not just getting married to anyone just to marry. I'm not afraid of commitment, but I definitely have the fear of, like, having a baby or being married. Like, makes me connected to someone for a while. And I've never wanted to make neither one of those decisions in my life because it just scares me. Like, oh, no, honey, I don't want to even deal with this person for the rest of my life.

[Matt Rogers]

No.

[Cesar Faraday]

So, like, I've never pushed go. And I could have a lot of times on those things, but I don't care about what society thinks. But do I want. Am I a romantic lover girl that wants a man to just propose to me and be like, I want to be with you for the rest of my life, and I'm going to be committed. Yeah. Like, I'm a f. I'm a girl at the end of the day. Like, I'm a woman. Everybody wants that romantic dream of feeling that. It has nothing to do with, like, all this money or this or that or, like, trying to take the man. Like, I'm the type of woman. You could have it. Like, when I be done with someone, have everything. I don't even want your money. I don't want shit. Have it all. I'm gone. Like, seriously, I will walk away from every damn thing if I'm done with someone, you could have every dollar. I will start over, because I've started over before. And you could go and get it cracking. Like, that's the type when Jay Z says. She said, keep her. Keep your own money. If we ever did split up, that's me. You could have it. Like, I'll sign a prenup and everything. Like, I don't.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

JC in this category, JC is going to be good when he's ready to break over. Beyonce, she's gonna be good. So don't, don't, don't put them in this category. Put some. That got some money in the. Who broke? Ain't no girl who broke and gonna say no like that. Say no like that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I for sure will.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You got me. You got it up. Like, keep everything. Everything. Yeah. All right. If you up, you ain't gonna be saying that.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, no, no. I for sure will say that. I'll be like, keep everything.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You got nowhere to go. You go outside, you can go like, you gonna be like, I need something. Stop playing, girl.

[Cesar Faraday]

Don't say.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It's easy to say that for sure.

[Cesar Faraday]

For show. For show. Like that, though. Like, you can have everything.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm cool till you can put Down a position, huh?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm never going to be in that position. Like, because at the end of the day, like, I don't come from where I'm going to be on the streets. Like I'm going to be good. Like at the end of the day, I'll be okay. So, you know, like. But at the same time it's like, yeah, women just want to feel loved. And you know, I saw this meme recently that says, why do men keep treating us like no limit soldiers? Like we're just girls. Like, y' all keep treating us like we no limit soldiers and talking to us crazy and treating us like we men and being rough. Like we not no limit soldiers.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

We just women. Now we're in a society to where women want to be the man. We're in that society. That's why we talk like that. When women want to drop their femininity and be masculine because we got more masculine women than ever, they think they could do what men do. That's the society that we in now. They think they can play our roles, do the shit we do heavy lifting and all that. And it's demasculating men to make us look like nothing. So like what you talking about? It is that, that's why we like that. Real talk.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. Well, I don't think that all women are like that. I think that men are now being conditioned to just like treat women like harsh.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

And this society has conditioned us to be like that.

[Cesar Faraday]

And the man in this society has conditioned women.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

They demasculated.

[Cesar Faraday]

They emasculated.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah, emasculated the men to where now we growing up, like it's okay to, you know, and wear skirts and in, in high heels.

[Cesar Faraday]

So I'm gonna break something down for you.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Get that up out of here.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's not women who emasculated men. It's systemic racism that's been going on for years and years and years. And when the day. In the slave days they used to take black men from their families, rape and, and, and beat them in front of. No, listen to what I'm saying. So women. No, listen to what I'm saying. What I'm saying. Women did not emasculate men. Men have been emasculated for centuries. Black men specifically. That's why every black man used to get a world. Black men. Let me say my.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Emasculated from black women.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, every. So black women are the, the people who are putting men in skirts and dresses when they play on acting roles. That's the only way These men can get roles is if they dress up as women. Historically, Black men have only been able to get roles when they dress up like women. Historically, systemically, people have been. Black men have been suppressed and have been emasculated by society, not by Black women. Black women have been conditioned to be masculine by Black men because Black women cannot put their guard down, feel safe or feel soft around a black man because they have treated them horribly based off of their circumstances. So if we want to talk about who made who what, Black men made women be more masculine, not the other way around. Black men were emasculated, unfortunately, by society. And this is proven historical facts. So at the end of the day, no, you're wrong. Okay, you know what? It's just. You don't like when I say something and they say that, they'd be like, nah, he cuts her off when she was trying to get off. But at the end of the day, that's the truth. So, yes, society have emasculated Black men, and it's horrible. And I hate that. And I feel like when I watch how the world has worked. Yes. Have we continued to emasculate them? We have not helped the issue. I will not say say that, but I will say that black. But I will say that if who played a bigger role in making one? Which way is Black men? Black men has disrespected, hurt, abused, cheated, lied to black women on a more consistent basis than women have hurt the black men. Black women have been loyal to a fault, okay? Black women have been designed to stick around even through all the hard times. So at the end of the day, no, I'm not going to sit here and let you say that Black women are masculine because men, we all of this stuff, we are a lot of Black women. You know how much it hurts to continue to be cheated on, lied to, taken out of your softness because a man is not allowing you to thrive in your femininity. It hurts. There's a cost that it pays for a man to have a feminine woman. And the cost is for him to make her feel safe, for him to make her feel comfortable being vulnerable. For him to make her feel like she's in a space. Space where she can thrive and she doesn't have to look over her shoulder or feel like he's cheating on her or lying to her or feel like she cannot really be in a safe space where she can be the woman that she is designed to be. Okay? A woman. When we have. We have to have hormonally less Estrogen, more estrogen in our body in order to operate as women, when we have to work super hard, take out trashes, do all these things, be on edge, be paranoid, be this. We are naturally putting more testosterone in our body and we're not able to be feminine, period, point blank. So when we are with men that you make, you want to look at, up at him and be like, yes, whatever you say. There's men that make you feel that way because they keep you in your soft era, they keep you safe. And then he can feel more masculine.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You cooked on that.

[Cesar Faraday]

I can't stand this.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Roast.

[Cesar Faraday]

Roast. Beez Species.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

We need them raw. Species.

[Cesar Faraday]

So basically, Savannah James said that she loves going to the strip club. That's one of her hobbies, right?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Hobby?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, she said it's like a hobby of hers to go to her Favorite hobby is to go to the club.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Women or men?

[Cesar Faraday]

You ask questions. I don't know. I want to say that it's probably men.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It's probably men.

[Cesar Faraday]

No, no woman wants to see a man stripper. I don't want to look at this

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

man be around with her girls. Strip club. Nothing wrong with that.

[Cesar Faraday]

What if it's men?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You can't do that.

[Cesar Faraday]

You can't go to the bed.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That's what you love to do. You want to. You love to go see that. Like, damn. That's crazy. If your girl want to go see men strippers all the time, that's. That's a red flag.

[Cesar Faraday]

But what about. So it's not a red flag that you want to see women naked all the time?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Nothing. That's a girl's outing. I'd rather you do that. That.

[Cesar Faraday]

Really? Yeah, because there's men in there that are ready and on it.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

But you going to be with your girls and y' all going to be in your.

[Cesar Faraday]

And they're. And what if they're. No.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Don't you understand the thing about Savannah James, She's a public fig.

[Matt Rogers]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

So she can't be doing. But we're not talking about.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Look at it as innocent. It's nothing.

[Cesar Faraday]

But what about if it's not? So, like, let's just say it's just a girl and it's your girlfriend. She's not a public fig.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Me and my girls are going to the strip club.

[Cesar Faraday]

And we go every three times a week.

[Matt Rogers]

Week.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, twice a week.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Well, you gotta throw something.

[Cesar Faraday]

We throw in something. And we're just going in there. We're eating wings. We're going in there.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

If you're going, you gotta go to the strip. I gotta be going on more dates than you're going to strip club. So if you're doing that more than we're going on a dates. That's issue.

[Cesar Faraday]

What about if it's a date?

[Matt Rogers]

She.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's like, oh, I want us to go on a date there all the time.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Okay, that's cool if she wants to do that. Sometimes in a relationship, we gotta do things you don't want to do.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm crying.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh, you want me to go look at some? All right, cool. Yeah. Am I allowed to get dances private?

[Cesar Faraday]

No.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That's blowing with you right there.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, that's fine.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

All right, then. And we good.

[Cesar Faraday]

And you don't mind if the girl's dancing on her and all that stuff?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I mean, no, I'm good.

[Cesar Faraday]

And she's grabbing her ass and they're shaking it and all that?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

All right, all right.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

We together.

[Cesar Faraday]

All right. So you're not tripping off of that?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No.

[Cesar Faraday]

And you're not tripping off her going once a week to the strip club?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, we're not going once a week.

[Cesar Faraday]

She said it's a hobby she does all the time.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm not going once a week. Come on.

[Cesar Faraday]

No. Yeah. To go eat there. Cheetahs. You love to get frustrated.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm not even stressing out for that.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're not tripping off of that. Okay, so you think that a strip club. Have you ever been to a sex club?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No.

[Cesar Faraday]

Would you go to one with your partner? So it's like. Okay, so for instance, there's. In Jamaica, there's a. There's a resort, and it's called. I don't know what it's called. I think it's like Hinduism, something. Something. I've heard of it.

[Matt Rogers]

It.

[Cesar Faraday]

And everyone in that resort is getting it cracking. Naked in the pool, in the beach, in the thing. Would you go to that with your partner?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

We have to talk.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, the question is, would you go? If the person. But would you.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm not planning it.

[Cesar Faraday]

But would you want to go?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm not planning it. If she wants to go, we can go.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm not. I. I don't think I'm into that because I don't like all that sex going around. Like, what kind of diseases do people have?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

She like, listen, like, she. She know if she don't want to do it, if I don't do it with her, somebody will.

[Cesar Faraday]

If she wants to do it yourself,

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

she wants to do it.

[Cesar Faraday]

She go, but do you want to do that?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, I don't want to do that. You don't.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're not such your.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, I'm not into that.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's not your vibe.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It's not my vibe. Whatever you looking at, somebody getting it

[Cesar Faraday]

cracking, but they're also right in my face. But the girls are coming over to get it cracking with y' all as well.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

No, I'm good. I ain't never done that. Never wanted to do it.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That's your vibe?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, I. I'm not into that. I think that that's too much going on. I'm nervous.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You that right?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm like.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I'm like, okay, you got it. Sorry. God, I can't even say that no more. Damn. She got me, y'. All.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm crying. I am.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

She. She cooked. I ain't going to lie. You could.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, so anyways, moving on from that.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You got me. Damn. She got me. I usually get her. She got me.

[Cesar Faraday]

He usually gets me every time, honey. Okay, so let's go back to the script, honey. Okay, so Justin Leboy is obviously with Coy Larae. They have a podcast. They've been shopping, and they've been going viral, like, all the time. And he told her. He was like, you're my first bad bitch I've ever been in a relationship with. Like, you know, like, you had them. But he was like, but, you know, it's not easy. He said, it's hard when you got your first bad bitch. He said that it's stressful him out. You know what I'm saying?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Because it's like, oh, he talking. Because having a girl who not only looked good is bad, but on a level of notoriety, too.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, for sure.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

So that's a double whammy right there on that. So I'm sure he didn't have some bad ones on the look side, but when you got the bad one who's popping not only in looks, but in the culture. Yeah, that's different. You know, that's a public relationship.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Now when you move, you got to move different. You know what I'm saying? When you're in a public type of relationship where everybody know your chick and know y' all together. So that's what he. I think that's what he's saying.

[Cesar Faraday]

Well, yeah, he was saying that. He was like, it's hard, like, and it's a funny meme because there's like.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I think he's like, pictures like, he wants to. He can't move. Go to the club if he flirting on and doing all over there. Like he wants to. Like, that's what you mean.

[Cesar Faraday]

He want to be flirting. That's what men want to do when they're in relationships. They want to go flirt with women at the club. That's what y' all want to do.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I see. I will go to the club. So I just assume.

[Cesar Faraday]

I just assume

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

what you going to the club? What you need to go to the club for?

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm crying. Okay, so you know the singer Tams? You know what I'm talking about, right, Tims? She's amazing. She's actually one of my favorite artists right now. She's a virgin at 29 and she said she's waiting for marriage. What do you think about that?

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Well, we talked about that.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, we did.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I mean, like in her situation, it's a little different because if you're a virgin in marriage, any sex that you get in the marriage is going to be great, cuz you don't know what it was. So like we said, like, you should have sex before marriage to see just what's going on. But like hers it's going to be.

[Cesar Faraday]

That's not true, though. As a woman, losing your virginity is the most disgusting, painful experience ever. It's not good sex doesn't start hating. Sex doesn't even feel good. I don't even think I had good sex until years after having sex. Like, you don't think it's good. You don't just deluse. You'll be thinking like, damn, sex is not hitting. Yeah. Because it hurts. And then also too, it's just like, it's awkward. And then like, you're not like. I think it takes a while as a woman to understand your body, to understand what you like and what you don't like to feel like. I feel like you have to have a lot of experiences sexually to get there. Like even me, like someone who's had sex, I feel like I'm still inexperienced in some aspects or like, because I haven't tried everything, you know, Like, I don't like certain things. Like I still. And getting to be shy sometimes, like, like even me. So imagine being like a virgin and having to like start having sex. You don't know what's going on.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Yeah.

[Cesar Faraday]

You know what I mean? So I feel like that's definitely a crazy experience to lose your virginity. Like, I respect it completely. You know what I mean? I'm sure, like, as a woman, it's not like I regret anything, but. Yeah. Would you want to just be like, I never had sex with none of y'. All. Yeah, absolutely. Like, y' all like, cool. But at the. It is hard to like, adjust to first having sex. And I can only imagine, like, y'

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

all gonna go through it together and it's gonna be special for her.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

You know what I'm saying?

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah, it'll be special.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Like, damn, this shit weak at first.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. Because it's like. No, because you don't.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh, if I want to marry somebody like that. Well, nothing that's going on.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I remember when I like D, baby, I just. I just need you to get me right and it's gonna blow me because it ain't Getting me right.

[Cesar Faraday]

Yeah. And I, I, I think, like, when

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

I first started, I need to hang it up on marriage at 29. You went, you waited too long, baby.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm dead. I respect it. I, I respect it and I respect it.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

But he gonna, he gonna cheat on you.

[Cesar Faraday]

Why would you say that and wish that upon her life? Don't say that. I'm saying.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Cause he gonna be. He gonna be.

[Cesar Faraday]

You don't know if she might get cracking. You don't know what might happen. I remember when I first started having sex. I'll never forget that. My ex was like, honestly, you just are laying there and it's making me feel like I'm just, like, doing something

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

you don't want me to do.

[Cesar Faraday]

You're not doing nothing. You just like this. And I remember him telling me that. I'm like, wow, this is crazy. I'm so embarrassed. Like, I just am laying there, like, dead. And he's like, I don't know if you.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

He's just funny looking there like, like, what's that movie where dude party at? What's that Dude? What's the dude. Y' all know what I'm talking about. Weekend at Birdies. You just sit there dead. And that's blowing up. That's blowing them. Come on, now. He gonna cheat.

[Cesar Faraday]

Don't keep saying that. That's out of control.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Get right.

[Cesar Faraday]

Nah, that's so crazy. Why can't he teach her? Like, why do you have to go to straight process? It's not that hard to teach somebody something.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

It is hard to teach somebody something.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm a quick learner. There's a lot of people who can catch on. You just gotta tell em a few times, hey, do this.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Ain't never done that. How long it's gonna take you to drive? Not the first two, three times. You're gonna have to drive a little bit. It's quick.

[Cesar Faraday]

It's quick. If you know how to.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That ain't quick. You ain't never drove like you gonna. Man, you might get into an accident. You gotta drive in the parking lot somewhere where there ain't no cars. You ain't gonna go in traffic your first time driving. But he gonna be like, all right. Until she get right. I need to be right.

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, that's crazy. So men just cheat when things aren't right.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Oh, it ain't that. It's just that, like, damn, she not fulfilling what I really need because she's inexperienced. So why she waited so long?

[Cesar Faraday]

Okay, so let's answer some fan questions before we Wrap up. I found out my boyfriend has a private Instagram where he follows nothing but women and thirst traps.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

100.

[Cesar Faraday]

He says it's for peace.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Red flag. That's nothing. Private Instagram where you follow now. He's. He's. He's seeing what's up.

[Cesar Faraday]

He's seeing what's up. Okay. Well, thank you guys so much for joining the Truth After Dark. We love y'.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

All. We love y'. All. Make y' all shall like and subscribe. All that goes a long way to what we trying to do in our algorithm. Five stars.

[Cesar Faraday]

All of that, five stars help us get to a hundred thousand subscribers.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Honey, please, please, please don't give us the 360 though. You got that dress on now. Valentine's Day didn't came you like damn. Like damn. Everybody give the people what they want. Like, this is a czar fair day, y'. All. I mean, come on. I don't know.

[Cesar Faraday]

I'm nervous now. No, seriously, Seriously. I don't think I want to do it. I don't think I want to do it.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

That's crazy. All right, well, next episode maybe.

[Cesar Faraday]

Maybe next episode. I don't know. I don't know. I'm scared.

[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

Hugs. This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Cesar Faraday]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Bowen Yang]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Bowen Yang]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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[Bowen Yang]

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[Bowen Yang]

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[Co-host (possibly a male co-host or guest, name not explicitly given)]

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[Cesar Faraday]

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