Offset Spinning The Block For Cardi B, Liking A Pic Is Cheating, & Unfollow My Ex!

Summary

Club Shay Shay – Offset Spinning The Block For Cardi B, Liking A Pic Is Cheating, & Unfollow My Ex!

Episode Date: February 20, 2026
Host: Shannon Sharpe (Shay Shay Media & Playmaker)
Guests: Zahra Faraday and Paul

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Episode Overview

This episode centers on the complexities of modern relationships, trust, loyalty, and “spinning the block” for love—especially in the digital age. Using timely pop culture moments, including Offset’s extravagant gesture to win back Cardi B, the hosts Zerha Faraday and Paul tackle controversial questions: Is liking a pic cheating? Should you unfollow your ex? Can relationships recover from infidelity—or is doubling back on an ex a mistake? The pair also dive into gendered notions of temptation, the value of discipline and boundaries, and the authenticity (or lack thereof) behind friendships in the age of influencers.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Offset & Cardi B – Is It Ever Worth Spinning the Block?

[04:29 – 06:43]

• Offset tries to win back Cardi B with a lavish Valentine’s Day gift (10,000 roses and balloons).
• Zahra: Skeptical, believes repeated cheating shows he "wasn't that in love."

  "He couldn't have been that in love, because the way he was dogging her out and cheating every chance he got." (05:31)

• Paul: Advocates for second chances, argues public vulnerability (like televised apologies) can be genuine signs of remorse.
• Discussion transitions to whether grand gestures should outweigh past betrayals.

  "You hating on black love!" (05:44 – Paul, joking to Zahra)

2. Cheating & Forgiveness: Can Real Love Survive Betrayal?

[06:43 – 08:43]

• Zahra shares an example of a male Olympian who cheated and later issued an emotional public apology.
• Both hosts debate if such gestures outweigh the gravity of cheating, especially when infidelity occurs early in a relationship.

3. “Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?”—Changing After Infidelity

[08:43 – 15:58]

• Can you truly love someone and still cheat?
• Paul: Explores the complexities—love has "levels" and sometimes people get too comfortable or act out of vulnerability.

  "Love is hard. There's ups and downs... it's not what you can give in love, it's what you can take." (09:54)

• Zahra admits she emotionally withdraws after betrayal, arguing repeated wounds never fully heal.

  "After time and time and time again, those deep wounds never go away." (12:48)

• Do people change? Both agree discipline is essential, but true change must come from within.

4. Temptation, Discipline, & Gender

[16:09 – 21:11]

• Ace Hood’s viral clip (played by Zahra) details his choosing discipline over temptation and honoring marriage boundaries.
• Paul: Emphasizes discipline, setting boundaries, and avoiding compromising environments, especially for men in the limelight.

  "You gotta chop the wood every day... bring something to the table every day." (20:28)

• Zahra believes it takes a "special type of man" to consistently avoid temptation.

5. Trust, Friends, and the Company You Keep

[27:41 – 36:24]

• Should you judge a partner by their friends’ behavior? (“All women got hoe friends,” Paul jokes.)
• Zahra: Having a "hoe acquaintance" isn't the same as a close friend—true friends affect your reputation and boundaries.

  "A whole friend don’t respect if you’re in a relationship… will always put you in a weird predicament." (34:20)

• They discuss the risk of being associated with “thirsty” or promiscuous friends, and how it influences perceptions and trust.

6. Judging Friends by Status and Looks

[37:01 – 42:42]

• Zahra shares a viral story of a girl shunned by her friend group for driving an "old" car and wearing "cheap" clothes.
• Both slam such shallow standards—authenticity and loyalty matter more than image or “baddie” status.

  "That’s so new generation type of sh*t, I don't even feel that." (38:12 – Paul)

7. Liking Pics = Cheating? Social Media Boundaries

[43:08 – 48:53]

• Coy Leray’s stance: liking or DMing other women online equals cheating, period.
• Zahra and Paul debate: does intent matter? Does accident count? What if content is educational, not flirtatious?

  "I don't want my biggest fear...when I go to a woman's page and then I see my person following them...Like, I cannot stand it." (47:27 – Zahra)

• Layered in is the complexity of following and unfollowing exes and the unspoken rules of digital loyalty.

8. Should You and Your Friends Unfollow Exes?

[48:53 – 53:25]

• Zahra feels it’s disrespectful to keep following exes, or for friends/family to maintain ties online.
• Paul is less concerned, seeing little harm unless there’s meaningful engagement.

  "If I'm following them, there's only select things that I see...So it's gonna stay over there." (51:10 – Paul)

9. “Inspector Gadget” – Old-School Myths About Cheating Detection

[54:13 – 55:07]

• Amusing discussion of old myths and tactics, like women checking a man's body as supposed proof of infidelity.
• Both call these methods unreliable (or “myths”).

10. Fan Question: Proposing After Cheating—Genuine or Panic?

[55:18 – 56:26]

• A listener asks if a proposal after being caught cheating is real growth or just desperation.
• Paul: "He panicked." (55:34)
• Zahra: "I'm saying no." (55:54)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On love vs. infidelity:

  "Players fuck up." (08:43 – Paul)

• On holding a grudge after betrayal:

  "After time and time and time again, those deep wounds never go away." (12:48 – Zahra)

• Ace Hood on discipline:

  "That's a part of my power...I can't just give that out to anybody." (16:36 – Ace Hood)

• Paul on routines and security:

  "It's almost gotta be to the point where you know your man’s routine." (28:21)

• The “hoe friends” running bit:

  "All women got hoe friends." (33:04 – Paul)
  "I have hoe acquaintances. I know some hoes." (33:34 – Zahra)

• Social media thirst:

  "Like and follow is cheating. Like and follow is too much." (47:08 – Paul)

• On influencer culture:

  "I'm an influencer because I'm shaking ass? You're a bad influence is what you're influencing." (41:48 – Zahra)

• On shallow friendships:

  "Y'all want to kick it with the more cracking girls that are out...like, girl, I don't know you." (41:05 – Zahra)

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Timestamps of Important Segments

• Offset tries again with Cardi B: 04:29 – 06:43
• Public apologies for cheating: 06:43 – 08:43
• Can you love and still cheat?: 08:43 – 12:15
• Can people really change?: 13:36 – 15:58
• Ace Hood on marital discipline: 16:08 – 18:05
• How to avoid temptation in relationships: 19:23 – 21:11
• Are your friend choices a red flag?: 27:41 – 36:24
• Status, image, and fake friendships: 37:01 – 42:42
• Is liking a pic cheating?: 43:08 – 48:53
• Ex etiquette - to unfollow or not: 48:53 – 53:25
• Inspector Gadget myths about cheating: 54:13 – 55:07
• Proposal after cheating - real or not?: 55:18 – 56:26

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Tone & Style

The conversation is lively, candid, and humorous—often poking fun at double standards and generational gaps, but always coming back to the importance of genuine trust and real values in love and friendship. Both hosts share personal anecdotes and social observations, keeping the discussion accessible and relatable—never preachy, always real.

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This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating modern romance, trust, or just trying to parse out the new rules of digital-era loyalty—with lots of laughs and a few hard truths along the way.

Transcript

[Zahra Faraday]

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[Zahra Faraday]

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[Paul]

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[Zahra Faraday]

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[Paul]

You're constantly just chipping away and refining.

[Bob Pittman]

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[Zahra Faraday]

Then she says, have you seen a photo of my son? And I'm like, who is this person?

[Boys and Girls Podcast Host]

Welcome to the boys and girls podcast. Arranged marriage is basically a reality show and you're auditioning for your soulmate. And who's judging? Only your entire family. I sacrificed myself to this ancient tradition hoping to find love the right way. And instead I found chaos, comedy and a lot of cringe. Listen to boys and Girls on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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On paper, the three hosts of the Nick Dickenpole show are geniuses. We can explain how AI works, data centers, but there are certain things that we don't necessarily understand.

[Zahra Faraday]

Better version of Play stupid games, win stupid. Yes.

[Paul]

Which. Which, by the way, wasn't Taylor Swift who said that for the first time. I actually, I thought it was. I got that wrong.

[Nick Dickenpole Show Host]

But hey, no one's perfect. We're pretty close, though. Listen to the Nick, Dick and Paul show on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

[Paul]

All women got whole friends.

[Zahra Faraday]

I don't have hoe friends.

[Paul]

You just don't know.

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I know my friends. I have a small amount of friends, and none of them are hoes. And I can stand on that. We could bet it. I don't have whole friends. We could bet it.

[Paul]

I don't know how I'm gonna know. I don't know.

[Zahra Faraday]

What, Like, I don't have whole friends.

[Paul]

Oh, no.

[Zahra Faraday]

My friends are all either in a relationship, married. Like, they're not hoes.

[Paul]

Like, you know, you got some. Everybody got hoe friends.

[Zahra Faraday]

I have hoe acquaintances. I know some hoes.

[Paul]

Everybody has whole friends. This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Zahra Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Welcome, everybody, to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I'm your host, Zahra Faraday.

[Paul]

The Truth in the Building.

[Zahra Faraday]

Is that too loud or is that going to affect anything?

[Paul]

Let's just do the intro.

[Zahra Faraday]

Like, yelling, yodeling. Okay. Hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the Truth After Dark. I'm your host, Azar Faraday.

[Paul]

Truth in the building.

[Zahra Faraday]

Okay. Truth in the building.

[Paul]

What's popping?

[Zahra Faraday]

It's popping. How you feeling today?

[Paul]

Good. How you doing?

[Boys and Girls Podcast Host]

Good.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm good. I'm good.

[Paul]

So another lot of. A lot of going on.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah. Another day, another set of.

[Paul]

So you got the. The. The black Catwoman outfit. Looking cool.

[Zahra Faraday]

Thank you.

[Paul]

Looking cool. All right, let's get it.

[Zahra Faraday]

So basically, I know your last video kind of went viral. Are you talking about Cardi B Being some work? Everyone had different feelings about it. You know, some people were saying, like, she's a wife. She was a wife at one point. So, like, what do you mean? And then a lot of people agree with you. Honestly, I think more people agree with you than not. But recently, it looks like Offset is trying to spin the block. He got her 10k, 10,000 roses and balloons on Valentine's Day.

[Paul]

Oh, he's serious.

[Zahra Faraday]

So he's like, oh, she's single again. See, that's why I told them they be creeping. Them exes and all, that they be them man. Be. She's waiting.

[Paul]

He never really, like. He never really let go either.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I could see that, you know,

[Paul]

because he was, like, always coming, talking to her and, you know, staying in touch. I mean, they got. They got. They got history, you know, so it's like, it is what it is. And I mean, you know. Yeah, but he was in love.

[Zahra Faraday]

He couldn't have been in that. Of love, because the way he was jogging her out and cheating on her every chance he got. So men want to say they're in love, but then they do all of this cheating and lies and all of this. So I pray that she don't take them back.

[Paul]

But whatever you do, you hating on black love.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm not hating on black love. That's crazy that you would say that. I just want my sis to find someone who actually is going to treat her like she deserves to be treated. And obviously, like, I don't double back on no ex. Especially if whatever like. And exes have done, grand gestures, all of that. I'm not doing that. Like, we.

[Paul]

We.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, but I'm saying, like, there's a reason, in my opinion, that you shouldn't double back. But hey, if she does, good for her. But, you know, speaking of that, there was an Olympian who won recently. He went on. So he was, like, being recorded by, like, the news reporters and all of this. And he went on live and he was, like, thanking everyone, and then he started crying and he was just like, I wanna give an apology to my. To the girl that I was with six months. I met the love of my life six months ago, and then three months in, I cheated on her.

[Paul]

Ooh.

[Zahra Faraday]

And he's like crying and he's like, she's the love of my life. I only have eyes for her. I don't know if she'll see this, but I think about her every day.

[Paul]

She gotta take him back after that. When you get out in the public apology.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, that's hard.

[Paul]

That's hard to do. You know, not every man is willing to get out there and put themself on the line and cry and cry and save their relationship. Made itself vulnerable. That's about as most vulnerable you can get when you go out in public eye on a national scene and apologize and, like, that's real love. So, you know, kudos to him. He won his woman.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah. I'm not mad at him. I feel like it was sincere. It seemed very genuine. Sis, you might have to just run that back.

[Paul]

Take them back, girl. Take them back. Run it back one more time. You know what I'm saying? What's the worst that can happen? Y' all had love there. I know, but the thing is, you know what the red flag about all that is? Y' all only were together six months before, like, in three months in. You cheated.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's crazy.

[Paul]

Come on now. I mean, I know he went out and did all of that, but, like, that's. You gotta look at that, too. I can understand if y' all been together for some years, but six months in. In a relationship, three months in, you cheated? What happened? Like, Straight up. That's like. Come on. Like you ain't really feeling her like that. Well, clearly, or you are, but I don't know. Like that's. That's tough. That's tough. I don't know about that.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I think like before a year, if there's already them type of issues going on, maybe you should rethink the relationship. Because why are you already doing all this shit before a year even happens?

[Paul]

I wish I knew the circumstances of all that, but that's a lot. But you know, he went out and got vulnerable. I guess if you gonna try to get back, that's the way you gotta do it so well, you know, get back, you know, you gotta give it a try, girl. I mean, he was in love, you was in love. I mean, players fuck up.

[Zahra Faraday]

Do you think that when you're in love, do you think it's possible to be very deeply in love with someone and cheat on them?

[Paul]

I think it's happened, but like, do you think it's. Maybe there's certain circumstances that the dude just felt like maybe disrespected or something happened to. Where? Why? I don't know, it was like. I don't know if they was arguing or going through some shit, who knows, you know, you can be deeply in love. I mean, how deep in love though? Like, it's levels to love too, because cats will be with somebody in love at first and then the love will wear down, but you're so used to the person that you just don't go nowhere, you know what I'm saying? I don't know, it's just like. Then you become. I done heard couples say we just roommates. Like at some point it's just like, damn, but you love them. But it's like this the way it is, you know what I'm saying? I don't know, it's just. Love is hard, you know what I'm saying? Love is hard. There's ups and downs. And I said it before, it's hard. Like it's like. It's not what you can give in love, it's what you can take. Like, you know what I'm saying? That's like the true love. Because we all gonna go through some shit, you know what I'm saying? And that's like what love is. And it might not be intentional and it might not be like, I'm trying to hurt somebody, but it just. It's just. That's what be happening. And you just. It's hard. It's hard to like Describe one definition of love and all that. Cause you, like, if you love me, why would you do something like that? Yeah, I get it. But, you know, humans, human nature, sometimes, and then influences and the people you surround yourself with and the environments you put yourself in can have a major influence on that. And sometimes you get in a vulnerable position to where that's what you do. And so, you know, just. Just sometimes happens.

[Zahra Faraday]

Okay.

[Paul]

Well, speaking of, have you ever cheated on your.

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I've never cheated. I always say, like, when I was 14, but that doesn't really count. It was dumb, like, when I was a kid. Like, I always say that because I was 14.

[Paul]

I stole when I was 14, but I never stole before.

[Zahra Faraday]

And it really cheated.

[Paul]

Like I robbed a bank, but it don't count because I was young.

[Zahra Faraday]

Like, I don't think that relationships under 18, they're juvenile. It wasn't like I was having sex, so it doesn't even matter. But no, in my serious, actual relationships, I've never cheated ever. I know people who, like, cheat back after they've been cheated on. Yeah, like, a lot of women do that. I've never cheated back. I would probably say what I do is I just emotionally withdraw a lot, and I just like cheating. I mean, I'm not giving my energy, but it's not. It's not purposeful. It's like, I'm not purposely or intentionally doing anything to hurt you. I think I just get beat. Like, you feel beaten down after being cheated on so many times that you're just like, you're not the same anymore. And I feel like your light is dimmed, and now you are riddled with so many different fears and insecurities, and you just don't feel happy or good. So you're vibe changes. You know what I mean? And, like, I've been in that position where I'm like, we should break up. But the other party's like, no, you know, let's work it out. And you try and you try, but you're just like, I can't feel the same way anymore. I don't believe.

[Paul]

But you can. That's what working on it is. You can feel the same way again. Like. Like, if I go outside and I fall down and I scratch myself. So now I got a scar?

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul]

Like, the scar is gonna go away eventually. Over time it's gonna heal, but it's

[Zahra Faraday]

never gonna look the same.

[Paul]

It can look the same.

[Zahra Faraday]

When you got stabbed, do you have wounds that are still there?

[Paul]

I have scars that are no longer there.

[Zahra Faraday]

But you have a lot that are.

[Paul]

That's deep wounds. The stabbing was a.

[Zahra Faraday]

So that's what I'm saying. After time and time and time again, those deep wounds never go away.

[Paul]

I covered it up with a tattoo. So now you can't see it.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, but it's still.

[Paul]

You can't see it no more.

[Zahra Faraday]

But it's still there. That's, like, numbing the pain. But it's still there.

[Paul]

No, it's not there no more.

[Zahra Faraday]

I think that after a while, it's not there. Being cheated on and lied to. It's just like, you get to a certain point where you're just like, damn.

[Paul]

Well, you say it gets a certain point. It has multiple then. Now it's multiple.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's what I just said. A deeper wound. You can't hide a deeper wound. Like, it gets to a point where now it's like, you done did so much that I can't even look at you the same anymore. And now I don't feel the same to where I feel like my whole light has been, like, shut off.

[Paul]

Do you believe people change?

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I believe people change if they want to change.

[Paul]

Yeah. But, like, I don't believe you can make someone.

[Zahra Faraday]

But you know what I noticed with men? Let me say this. This is the thing about men. Men will be like, I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna change. And the first week, they're, like, being so good. They're being accountable. They're trying to, like, show you this, show you that. But that starts to die down quick. Like, men will only do this shit for, like, one, two weeks. And then all of a sudden, you back on your same bs.

[Paul]

But change is something different. Like, you can see the transformation in somebody. Like, I can see, like, say, somebody who's overweight. Then they transform. They lose the weight, and they keep it off. They've changed. Somebody who gets in religion now. Like, damn, you a whole new person now. Now you going to church, you praying, Your routine is different. You can see change. And that's a sign of maturity, no?

[Zahra Faraday]

For sure. I agree that you can change. I don't think that that's not real. I think that you can't make somebody change. I think change has to come from yourself. And the reason I say that is because you can. Like, there's so many things that people want to do to change themselves. Like, I want to work out every day. I want to stop doing this. I want to stop drinking. I want to take vitamins. And it's so hard for you to Change yourself when you really want to. So what makes you think you can change somebody else?

[Paul]

Well, look at the. Look at the person's personality. You have to look at. When you see somebody change, you have to say, hey, is he capable of changing or is she capable of changing? What kind of discipline traits do they have? Are they disciplined? Do they have it in them to be disciplined? Because discipline is a major, like, thing in somebody to change. Like, are they disciplined in other areas in their life to where you can see it's in them? Yeah, it's in them. You just have to do it. Like, he's shown commitment to things. He's shown discipline to things. So it's not like, you know, it's not in a person. Because when somebody want to do something, they do it, and they have the discipline to do it every day and be that way. And so if. If you see the traits in them and you know that it can happen, then it's possible.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, you know, so, you know, speaking of that, I'm gonna share a clip. Ace Hood, he's been married to his wife for some time now.

[Paul]

And they said the rapper, right?

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Talks about on Cam Newton show how he avoids temptation. So I'm gonna play it for you.

[Ace Hood]

So obviously, before my wife came into my life, I was the boy. I've had my fair share of women doing whatever I want, Boom, boom, having fun, da, da, da, da, whatever. I learned very earlier on, bro, like, that I had the power in that. So I never. I was never the type of man that just wanted to share myself with a bunch of women. I always felt like I was a man of value and always seen that once you connect with somebody on that intimate level like that, it changes the circumstances of things. And that didn't always work out well for me. So a part of my change and evolution was for me, realizing that that's a part of my power. You know what I'm saying? And I can't just get that out to bom, bom, bom, bom, bom, bom, bom. I can't just get that out to anybody. And this is just coming in the game because I always felt like what made me step out of the game with that of just knowing of like, bro, they gonna always be there. A lot of things in my life I call forth on. I pray about it and I call it forth so it's not like just a shot, you know what I mean? So I started positioning myself even when I was with the mother of my children and me and her just. You know what I mean? I'm pulling up at her house 3, 4am in the morning, seeing my kids sleep. That dynamic wasn't healthy for me, dawg. So I realized I'm like, you can't do this. So she was the first change to that in terms of recognizing the power that I have by retaining you see what I'm saying? By keeping that. You feel me? Cause now I got to say so in the power to be able to say, yes, I want to do it, and not you just shake, shake, shake in my face.

[Paul]

And.

[Ace Hood]

And then now I feel like now I'm turned up. It's like, nah, I got the power to decide. Like, to see that and say that it's beautiful, and to decide to say that, nah, I don't want to indulge in that. So in terms of being in a marriage, for me, like, I told myself, I'm gonna take that serious. I don't play with marriage. I'm not that type of guy. I don't play with. You know what I'm saying? I'm very intentional when I do something, dog. You feel me? So I'm like, all right, if we gonna get married, we gonna do this, we locking in. So that's how I really. How I hold out on the temptation, bro. I respect mine no matter where I go. You know what I'm saying?

[Paul]

Yeah.

[Zahra Faraday]

So what do you feel about that? Do you feel like there's a way for men to not give in to temptation when they're with somebody?

[Paul]

You know what? He gave into the realization that, like, my habits and what I'm doing is not healthy for us as a marriage, as a couple, as us having kids. And something hit him.

[Zahra Faraday]

They don't have kids, actually.

[Paul]

Oh, they don't have kids.

[Zahra Faraday]

He has other kids with a different baby mom.

[Paul]

Yeah, well, he said, like, something about coming home.

[Zahra Faraday]

He was saying that basically his baby mom, he would go over there and just smash at 3, 4am because he had access to her type of thing. And he. His wife and was his longtime girlfriend. They don't have any children.

[Paul]

Okay?

[Zahra Faraday]

So basically, he's saying, like, I had to cut off all those temptations from these other people in order for me to have my marriage. Even if someone's shaking it in my face and trying to be like, come get it. He's like, I can't do that. And I feel like that takes a special type of man and a lot of discipline for a man to retain himself from trying to indulge in those certain things. You know, and I feel like you don't see a lot of men, like, people love that clip. Because what he's speaking on is, like, actually having the discipline to not indulge in things that are accessible to you.

[Paul]

Yeah. Well, the thing is, you can't put yourself in that position either. And you have to set boundaries, and you have to set a line to has some type of access to you. Yeah. And it's hard being in a limelight. Being a guy who's been successful and people who know who he is is temptation. So the less. That you put yourselves in those environments.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul]

You know what I'm saying? And you have to say, hey, this is worth it to me. I'm gonna take myself. I'm gonna remove myself from certain homies and certain, you know, baby mamas. I'm be like, listen, this is how it is now. You know, if it ain't on the schedule with the dog kids and all that, then this is what it is. And if it ain't about that, then this is what it is. And keep it like that. And value what's right here in front of you. Because we get with what's in front of you, and then it's just, like, you get so comfortable with what's in front of you. You like, you think that's always gonna be there.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, for sure.

[Paul]

And when the scare of it's leaving you, you know, you try to straighten up and move a certain way when it's too late, you know, so you gotta always just value it. And it's work every day. You have to put the. You gotta chop the wood every day. You're not gonna knock the tree down with one hand. You just gotta keep chopping wood and work on it every day. Cause every relationship is not go. Gonna be perfect. You gotta work on. You can't just assume that y' all good. You gotta just, like, bring something to the table every day. Like, man, I love you, man. I appreciate you. It's little words that go a long way every single day that keeps a relationship strong. Let's go date nights. Let's do this. We have our thing. I think relationships have to build on. Let's have our thing.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul]

You know, it's hard to just wing it and just wake up and do stuff like, listen, you gotta have something that you look forward. Oh, you know what? Every Friday, we just gonna go do this. I look forward to this every Thursday. This is our thing. All right? You got your one day with the guys. You know what? You know what? I'M gonna do with the guys for her to feel safe. We gonna just go over here. You know what? Right here in this little spot close that where she. Her friends is in there, whatever. But she know I'm good. And it's just. You gotta do the things that make her comfortable. Even when it's not with her, you know she's comfortable. You doing that, like, in the relationship. I don't know if your wife or girl is comfortable. You just going to the club. No, that ain't it. Like, you gotta have a thing that you. You know what, baby, let me get the house today or the spot today. Me and the guys is gonna have a Domino's and barbecue. But I just need some time with the guys. And she's comfortable with that. But you gotta make her feel that. You know what I'm saying? It's gotta be a comforting thing, like when you go with your girls. Like, me and the girls is going and doing this, like, nah, it ain't no more girls trips. When y' all together now, we off that. What y' all gotta go on? The girl go down the street to the girls trip, right? Like, y' all don't need to go out of town for the girl. What you gotta. What y' all need to talk about out of town? Like, right here. Hey, here y' all together right here, y' all talk about the same shit, right? Like, go with a dude. If you need to get out of the country, or you gotta get to an island, go with a dude. All this girl trip shit, I'm off that shit in a relationship. Come on, dog, you blowing me. Well, y' all gotta go. Like, we just. It's just me and the girls. We gonna take mud baths here that do this the spa, you know, this is spa right here by our house. Like, let's get that together. Come on now. All that you could do and wanna do with your girls, you could do right here. Why you gotta be. Enjoy those experience with your other one, with your person, right? Or let's make it a couples trip, then let's start doing that. Let's start going out of town with couples. That's what I'm on. Like when you coupled up, like, if you wanna get out the country, let's see who else wanna go. Like, so it'll be more fun and you ain't feeling like that's fun. When you get out with your friends and y' all can go places, that's the couple. That's the girl's trip for me. You with your man, she with her man. And that's what makes it comfortable when you're in a relationship, when you're doing things like that, when you have to do all that other shit and it's just uncomfortable. Like, come on now, you gotta make your one feel comfortable in what you doing when it's not with her and with her.

[Zahra Faraday]

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[Paul]

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[Zahra Faraday]

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[Paul]

Well, when you go through it with your partner and then y' all have a spat and you're not talking, it's just, it's. It's. It's up to the man. It's always on the man. But like we as a society saying the man is the one always fucking up. What about the girl? What are y' all doing? What are you doing to make him feel in a safe place when he ain't like that. Because what's always about the man? We talk about these subjects. It's like, what's the man gonna do when she's not like, what about the man?

[Zahra Faraday]

Well, I just say that because I feel like the men have more temptations and desires. Like, men are animalistic by nature. They're natural hunters. And they, like, we make a joke, like, when we ovulate as women, we're very, like, sexual, and we're very, like, turned on during that period of time. It's like a week. And we say that men feel like that 24 7, you know? So, like, it's just different for a man. Temptation is more prevalent in a man's life than it is a woman. You know, I don't go outside and look at a man's ass when he's walking. I'm not looking at his. Like, I'm not outside like, damn, I want to hit him.

[Paul]

I'm looking at his fit and his look and his height and look how his swag is. Y' all don't look at that anyway. Y' all looking like, damn, he look cool. His swag is through the roof.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But that's rare. Like, I can honestly say it's rare for me to see a man and be like, damn, like, that's a rare thing for me. But women with bbls and fat asses are walking down the street every day. Yeah.

[Paul]

So that's like, we see that every day. So why are we all gassed off of that? That's just a thirsty motherfucker that's just thirsty all the time. He just thirsty. Like, we see the same. I see the same girl every goddamn day. They got the lips. It's the same look. Like, give me a new look. Like, come on. Like, original is never gonna be outdated. But when I see the same look at all places. And, yeah, it's more temptations. It's definitely. Especially when a girl is flirting and got wondering eyes and they, like, just throwing it at a dude. But you got. Where are you going to put yourself in that position?

[Zahra Faraday]

I mean, you can go anywhere. Like, honestly, like, women are thirsty.

[Paul]

That ain't happening at, like, the places I go. It ain't happening at the grocery store. It ain't happening at the studio. It ain't happening at my. At the. When I go play basketball. Ain't no even girls in there. And like. Like, take yourself. Remove yourself from all of that. I don't need to. And then when I'm around that. Let me be on my one.

[Zahra Faraday]

But what happens when you are like, this is the thing, it's easy to stay faithful when you're not around it, right? Like, it's easy. If I'm addicted to desserts, I never go anywhere with desserts. But what about when the dessert is right in front of you? How do you have the discipline to not eat it?

[Paul]

Because you gonna know in your man or your woman how disciplined they are in life. They have it in them. You know what I'm saying? If you got an undisciplined man, you gonna see them traits already. Like, damn, he ain't got no discipline. He came like, damn, hell, no, he can't. He can't even stay consistent on nothing. On nothing he do. Like, you gonna see that. Like, so you gonna know your person and you gonna know what they up to. Or your intuition gonna tell you something, and it's just you gonna see it early, you know what I'm saying? Like, you know what? He ain't consistent to nothing. She ain't consistent to nothing. Yeah, you gotta be consistent in a relationship. What you do on every day, you gotta be like, man, he consistently like your man, your woman. I know her, and I ain't got to check up on her because she's consistently doing this. This is. I know that. It's almost gotta be to the point where you know your damn near your man routine, you know, with his TV shows, what time he go to bed, where he be going, what he doing with who he with. You always could tell a lot about a man and a woman based on their friends, too. Yeah, like when you start looking like, damn, if he go. If he around that and he with him, it's gonna make you uncomfortable, you know what I'm saying? Based on who they around.

[Zahra Faraday]

I mean, is that true, though? Because I've been with someone and their friends are thirsty as hell and they want to be with girls. All they talk about is women all day. They have different women everywhere. So if that's the truth, we gotta reevaluate some things.

[Paul]

Are they always around them or are they always around them? And two, when he's around them, is his girlfriend with him?

[Zahra Faraday]

But it doesn't matter.

[Paul]

It doesn't matter.

[Zahra Faraday]

It's basically what you said. Think you're saying, examine their friends.

[Paul]

What about if he's only with his friends with his girl?

[Zahra Faraday]

That's not realistic, though.

[Paul]

That is realistic.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's like, again, there's going to be moments when you want to have a Guy's night. And you're going to be with your homies. Oh, I'm going to go over here.

[Paul]

We could just chill in the backyard.

[Zahra Faraday]

All I'm saying is, if I'm cool

[Paul]

with that, let's get on the barbecue, cat. Let's go. Like, come on, dog. Let's just chill, drink, do whatever we going to do and just be chilling. Like, if your guys night. Like, what does a guy's night consist of? Like, sometimes it's dinner. If your guy come from out of town. Like, we going to dinner, you know. You know, my guy come in town once every blue moon. We going to dinner. This is what we do. And you know, and you gonna even know what dinner spot we going to. Cause we probably gonna go to the same spot every time. And if you wanna pull up, pull up. Cause this is where we gonna be. Straight up. Like, you know the consistency of your dude and your girl.

[Zahra Faraday]

But you can't say that.

[Paul]

And they'll never deviate from it. And you can't say what. Say that.

[Zahra Faraday]

That if the friends are thirsty or this or that. That just means that person's automatically thirsty.

[Paul]

No, I don't. I can't say that. No.

[Zahra Faraday]

Well, you said that right now.

[Paul]

But you gotta look at the friends. But you gotta say, like, it's always.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm always having friends.

[Paul]

I got thirsty friends like a mother. Like, they thirsty. I ain't gonna. They thirsty as hell. But I said, man, I gotta be careful when I go wherever if I'm going with them somewhere. But I don't never really go nowhere with them. Like, y' all could be thirsty. And you gotta be comfortable with your man. Like, I know when he went here, I know my man ain't thirsty, but I done been around him with him, with his friend that's thirsty. But I know my man ain't thirsty. You know your man thirsty, though. Like, he got some thirsty tendencies. Like, oh, dawg. Like, I could be around my girl, she got thirsty friends. And it might not even move me. But, like, how often do they go out with them? How often are they if they're with them?

[Zahra Faraday]

A lot.

[Paul]

Two, three times a week. Once a week. That's tricky without you, without your person. You gotta say, like, damn. But when I'm out with him or her with the thirsty friend. All right, cool. I know he thirsty. Cool. Let's go somewhere, baby. You know this nigga thirsty, all right. You know he gonna have a new one with him every time. It's all good. You know that. You know, let's go on a double date. You might go on a double date with your man, and he got a new one every time with his thirsty friend. You know, you might look at him like this. Who you kicking with? Yeah, but all. He kicking with him 99 of the time I'm with you. And the 1% of the other time he at the crib.

[Zahra Faraday]

And then what if it's not. Then you can't trust him because it's like if you have a. If you have a thirsty. Because I don't think you get the same grace. Like, if a woman has a whole

[Paul]

friends, all women got whole friends.

[Zahra Faraday]

I don't have whole friends.

[Paul]

You just don't know.

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I know my friends. I have a small amount of friends, and none of them are hoes. And I can stand on that. We could bet it. I don't have whole friends. We could bet it.

[Paul]

Yeah, I don't know. I'mma know.

[Zahra Faraday]

I don't know what? Like I don't have whole friends.

[Paul]

Oh, no.

[Zahra Faraday]

My friends are all either in a relationship, married, like, they're not hoes.

[Paul]

Like, you know, you got some. Everybody got whole friends.

[Zahra Faraday]

I have hoe acquaintances. I know some hoes.

[Paul]

Everybody has whole friends. 100%.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's not true. That's not true.

[Paul]

Everybody has whole friends. Now I'm gonna count how many times you kicking with the whole friend. Now that's gone. I'm check that off. She kicking with her tonight. Why she kicking with her? Why she ain't kicking with the. All right, let me see. So you want to kick with the whole friend again, they ain't like, damn, how many times y' all gonna kick it? Birds of a feather flock together, right? I got no problem with kicking it with the whole friend. Just like, how often do you kicking it with the whole friend? Like, like. And where y' all going? You can't.

[Zahra Faraday]

Because the thing about kicking is where

[Paul]

you going with the whole friend, though?

[Zahra Faraday]

And this is another thing, okay? I know some hoes. Let's just keep it real. So I know. But they're not my friend friends.

[Paul]

Like, you know what I'm saying is a whole friend.

[Zahra Faraday]

This is not my friend friends. But mind you. Yes. The difference is I don't talk to her on the phone. I don't text her, I don't call her. I don't go out with her calling one on one. Like, I'm saying, like, I kicked it. Like, we kicked it on some. A bunch of people out type thing, right? But the point about a whole. Let me Tell you about a whole friend. A whole friend don't respect if you're in a relationship because when they in a relationship, they hoe and a whole friend is going to, no matter what, be like, come over here, let's walk by these men. Let's come right here, let it be seen. Let then put you in a position to be all with these men that be on you like period, point blank. Like they're going to be like, let's walk by this table where these men are. Let's go right here. Because she don't want to go alone and you with her. So now I'm in the position. And usually when you have a whole friend, the men want you more than the whole friend because they're like, oh, she more cracking. Who is she? I ain't seen her out. I ain't seen her in about. So now you're in a position where I'm with this hoe. And now all these men want me. She trying to get the attention, but they gonna want me more than her. So now I'm in a position where all these men are on me. And then I could look crazy. Like, what if someone's like, oh, they call my man. Or like, oh, yo, girl. I hear with all these men, like they're chopping like, it puts you in a weird predicament. So you can't go out just one on one with no whole friend. That's just the truth. If you're in a relationship, period point blank. It's just like if you're with a thirsty guy and you guys go out, he's gonna have a bunch of girls with him.

[Paul]

A lot of these thirsty guys ain't got girls like that.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm crying. You're stupid as hell.

[Paul]

And then if they do, they really not lie tight. So I ain't even tripping. Go ahead, dog. She tricky you on that. Like, go ahead.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm crying.

[Paul]

Shouldn't be tripping off my old friends because they, they, they, they, they work as tricky.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm dead.

[Paul]

They work super tricky. I'm gonna be over here just sipping on something chilling.

[Zahra Faraday]

This is the more or less segment brought to you by Price Picks where you can win real cash by picking just more or less on your favorite players. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups. When you play your first $5. Okay, so there is a girl, right? And she went viral because she got kicked out of her friend group because her friend said she wears sheen. You know that brand Shen?

[Paul]

No.

[Zahra Faraday]

So she an is like, teemu for fashion, you know, Teemu, you know, Alibaba. Like, it's like cheap, cheap, cheap from China.

[Paul]

I don't know it.

[Zahra Faraday]

Right. But no, she. And as much as it's like she. We have little items on there, you know what I'm saying? And she. So she's basically wearing like cheap clothing, they're saying. And she drives a 2019 Mercedes. Right. And her friends, her friends in the group chat were like, look, honestly, we don't think you can hang out with us anymore because basically you're wearing these cheap ass clothes and you're driving a 2019 car and you live in an apartment. All of us have homes. All of us live, have 20, 24 cars are up. All of us wear a designer every day. Do you think. Yeah. Do you think more people should be like, judging off of those type of standards when it comes to friends?

[Paul]

Them is not your real friends looking at what I got, how I'm moving and how, what I'm driving. No, you ain't my friend because I'm doing with the best I got. If we real cool and all of that, what do that even matter?

[Zahra Faraday]

I agree with that.

[Paul]

Like, what the. Like, what kind of is that?

[Zahra Faraday]

That's trifling to me.

[Paul]

So like, that's so new generation type of that. I don't even feel that.

[Zahra Faraday]

Like, I hate that.

[Paul]

Like, all my friends ain't got what I got. So.

[Zahra Faraday]

Right.

[Paul]

I still rock with them, but.

[Zahra Faraday]

And they also try to tell, like, you have more money than to be doing all of that. Like, why are you doing that when it's not like you have any less money than us.

[Paul]

I show you about girls, friendships. It's based on. I see a lot of girls have so many different friends and it's based

[Zahra Faraday]

on like, looks and status and that type of stuff.

[Paul]

Hanging out with all baddies. Yeah, girl, that's like. But then at the end of the day, it's like, that's artificial.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, for sure.

[Paul]

Together based on what y' all can get out of each other. Because if you hanging with baddies, you're going to attract more men to y'. All.

[Zahra Faraday]

Exactly.

[Paul]

Different places, flying, different places, doing all this. But like, that ain't real friendship.

[Zahra Faraday]

I agree. I think more people should care about, like, what kind of heart you have and like how genuine you are. Like, I'm not gonna say my friends aren't baddies or whatever because I'll never do them like that. But like, I don't care about people and how they look and what they're wearing. And if they're cracking, like, my friends are seriously genuine people, and they're very, like. They're just, like, super loving and down for me, and they're gonna ride for me. And that's what I care about. I don't care about how much more money you got than me. How many more, like, popping celebrity friends, how much more cracking you are. Like, I don't care about any of that, honestly.

[Paul]

Artificialness.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul]

The women in today's society who are really out to get more certain status.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah.

[Paul]

Person or, like, when you're in an influencer type of situation, it's like, we want more influence. So you don't carry the status of us being influencers because everybody's a fucking influencer. I'm tired of that. I went out one day when I was like, hey, what's up? What you. Hey. She's like, hey, what do you do? I was like, you know, whatever. I was like, what about you? I'm an influencer. Like, what the fuck is that at the end of the day? Like, seriously, what are you influencing? Everybody ain't influencing everything. Don't give me that.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I know. And half of these people don't even be influencing anything. Like, that's the thing. Like, I was an influencer before I ever even was on social media, because I uplift people, motivate people, encourage people to do certain things. I talk to women, give them advice. I'm always doing. Doing that. I've always influenced people. And I've never said I'm an influencer. And I think that we just live in a generation now. Even some people, I know y' all want to kick it with the more cracking girls that are out and now that, like, even me, like, I'm more cracking on Instagram or whatever. Like, people want to kick it. Like, let's go here. Let's go to dinner. And I'm like, girl, I don't know you. Like, I'm not. I have friends. I don't need new friends just to look cracking, just to be out and pull the man and. Or whatever, take an Instagram photo. Like, I'm cool on that. That. That's the. My problem. Because it's like, I am a content creator. Maybe I should be doing more of that, but I just don't, because I just don't care to do that. I just. No one can convince me, like, go kick it with people that are influencing and do, like, content. But it's just. I just can't find it in my heart to go do that. Like, I don't want to be around people I don't know and I don't care to know. Like, I've never been one. So pressed to make friends. Like, I don't want. I don't care if you're a vibe and you're genuine, you're cool, I'll rock with you. But I'm an energy person. I could read your energy before you even speak, baby. So you, you don't even got to say too much to me.

[Paul]

Yeah, that's what's up. I mean everybody. You know what I hate? You go on a girl page. She's showing all her assets, shaking this, showing that. And I'm influencing because everybody.

[Zahra Faraday]

Exactly. I'm an influencer because I'm shaking ass. I'm influenced. Influence in what the hell you influence fluent you. A bad influence is what you influence

[Paul]

because of what you your and the

[Zahra Faraday]

half of the followers you have.

[Paul]

How terrible. Our society in a bad place. We are in the worst place of society of all time. I truly believe that.

[Zahra Faraday]

Well, I mean we were in a worse place, honey, when our ancestors were enslaved and getting whipped in the chains and they couldn't even walk outside.

[Paul]

Like, I'm not talking about as black people, just as a whole, as humanity. This is like the worst time ever. Like, like our influences, what we look at, what people do on the day to day, the friendships are more fake. Is access to everybody. It's just not real.

[Zahra Faraday]

I get what you're saying.

[Paul]

Yeah, it's just not real to me. This is not real life.

[Zahra Faraday]

And that's why I say if you have a real one in your life, don't take real ones for granted. I have a viral little post like that because God is barely making those anymore. If you know someone that's genuine cool, like the people that I know that are real ones, I'm not playing around with them. You're not taking that for granted because you're not getting that any a lot out here. I promise you. You not. You know what I mean? Like, don't take that them people for granted.

[Paul]

For sure.

[Zahra Faraday]

For sure. Well, thank you to our good friends at Prize Picks, America's number one sports pick app. Use code TAD and get $50 instantly in lineups when you play your first $5. Okay, so Coy Leray and Justin La Boy are in a relationship. Yeah, I think Coil Array is so cute. She's such a pretty little girl. And basically they have a podcast that they're doing or whatever and so all their clips are going viral because people just Love seeing that. So Coy Larray is on there, and she told Justin, like, I for sure think liking another woman's pick is cheating, period, point blank. Dming a woman is cheating. And he's like, so you're gonna say liking a pic is in the same category as me sleeping with a girl? And she's like, yeah, period, point blank. It's in the same category. She said liking a. He's like, well, what if I was scrolling and I liked it by accident? Now I cheated on. And she's like, yeah, don't be liking nothing on accident. You're going to piss me off. So they were going back and forth about it. He was like, I'm not going to mess up. I'm not doing none of that shit. You ain't got to worry about me. So she wasn't saying, he does it, but she was saying in her mind, that's cheating 100%.

[Paul]

It depends on who you like.

[Zahra Faraday]

She said, any girl. If you like in girls pictures, you cheating.

[Paul]

Well, what if I'm in the industry and I need some video girls or I like that outfit and I just like you What? I don't know. I'm just trying to figure out what's

[Zahra Faraday]

the name that sounds stupid as hell. You liked an outfit as a grown man, you liking an outfit on another woman, that sounds stupid as hell. I don't think that liking a picture is cheating, but I think that liking a picture, like, it depends on what

[Paul]

the girl look like. If she look cracking, is she looking like, damn, like, you can't do that now. You can't do that. But if she just, like, damn her work. What if she, like, giving a seminar and it's like, I like she was on it, but, like, she's educating me on something.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah. No. No other woman should be educated by my man, period. What are you educating? No other man should be educating me. I don't like that.

[Paul]

No. But like, she's on her Instagram talking about dieting and cooking. Like, she's like, you know, like the one girl who was clapping it and cooking like, you like, damn, that food look good. I can't. Like, I liked her dish. She baked. You know who I'm talking about? The girl who was cooking with Kya.

[Zahra Faraday]

Cooking with Kya. First of all, that girl's like 18.

[Paul]

No, no. I don't know. The point is, I'm just saying it was, you know, people cooking and they, you know, and I liked it. I liked the food, but she just happened to be cool on there. So is that something.

[Zahra Faraday]

I' ma say this. If a man was like this, wiggling his dick and then he started cooking on Instagram. Yeah. They. Do you know that there's men? Because I seen it.

[Paul]

Oh, you see?

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I seen it.

[Paul]

Your algorithm is crazy.

[Zahra Faraday]

There's men. No, because there's men. There's man. Listen, there's men. What is your algorithm. Because you seeing women shaking ass hooping. Yeah. So anyways, there's men who don't listen. There's men who do sexual cooking where they, like, massage the meat and then they, like, stuff it like this and they be doing all this stuff. So that's cool too, because I'm just looking up the cooking tutorial. Right. So that's cool. Yeah. And then it's like he's in a gray sweat and he got a dick print out, and he's like moving around with it, shirt off, dripping, licking something off. Because it's spilled, like all of that.

[Paul]

That's in your algorithm.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm just saying. I'm just. I'm just saying. Because that's what these men be doing on here too. I'm not saying I'm liking that. I'm saying, is that okay for a woman to be liking that in a relationship?

[Paul]

Yeah, go ahead. I'mma pick my battles. Go ahead.

[Zahra Faraday]

So. So. Because last time, just the last episode we did, you said it was not okay.

[Paul]

No, no, no. But I'm saying, are you following it now? Are you liking and you can't like and follow. Let's just do that. It's one or the other.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's. That's. That's.

[Paul]

You can't like and follow. That's cheating. Like and follow is cheating anything up and not follow or follow and not like, for real. Like and follow is too much.

[Zahra Faraday]

Like and follow.

[Paul]

Like and follow. You can't do both.

[Zahra Faraday]

I don't want. I don't want my biggest fear. And I hate this when I go to a woman's page and then I see my person following them and it's like, ew. Like, it turns me off from everything. I have to leave the page. Then I'm scrolling little bubble, see? The person is liking the pics. Then you're just like, ugh, thirsty. Like, I cannot stand it. Then you gotta get off of the page. Like this thirsty motherfucker spits a man like it. You could see it because now you see the bubble of someone likes something right up anyone you follow, if they, like in a picture. You see a picture of they face your person and I'm done. Like, I'm pissed. I'm irritated. It happens. It's happened.

[Paul]

So if your person. It happened to me, liked it, and he following it.

[Zahra Faraday]

It's thirsty to me During y'. All.

[Paul]

When y'.

[Zahra Faraday]

All. Yeah. Because why are you following this person? First of all, you're thirsty. And then, you know what? Like. And you know what else I don't like is when you're following. Like, you used to talk to this person, and you're still following this person, and they're commenting stuff, and then you're just, like, cool with that. No, this person has to go unlike. No, it's. Yeah, it's happening, honey. And you gotta. You gotta follow that person and have this person removed. You, like, that's. That happens. And I've seen that in my situations. I've seen that. Yeah. And that's blowing me because I'm like, what? Like, I don't follow none of my exes. But you know what else I noticed recently? My ex came on my Explore page. Right?

[Paul]

How do you know these things?

[Zahra Faraday]

Because I'm on my Explorer. So my ex. Not my. My. Not some. My ex.

[Paul]

Yeah, yeah, I know, but.

[Zahra Faraday]

Came on my Explorer page. Right.

[Paul]

Following me. Who was on my Explorer page? None of that.

[Zahra Faraday]

What do you mean? You're just scrolling and they come up like, it just came up on my Explorer. No, I don't know how. Because it was someone. It was. No, because it was two people tagged, like a collaborated post with, like, Nike or something. Something. Right.

[Paul]

Okay.

[Zahra Faraday]

So I look at the page, and I was like, oh, and who. And the people who I love. And I know I saw y' all still following that person, and y' all are traveling for that. My family. Some people that I know. Y' all better unfollow that person right now. And I was like, wow, y' all are still following him. That's weird.

[Paul]

Oh, like, you broke up with him and you got people following.

[Zahra Faraday]

They're following years later. That's tricky. And I went to that, and I saw that recently. I said, why y' all following? Still following him.

[Paul]

Yeah.

[Zahra Faraday]

And I know a lot of it is because, like, y' all may not even realize you follow him, but some of it, whoever it is, if you're following him and you, my friend, that's weird to me. And I don't get down like that. You should be unfollowing every. Do you think that your people should unfollow your exes when you guys break up on Instagram?

[Paul]

Do I think, like, my girl like, okay, my girl should unfollow they. Exactly. I ain't really worried about it. I ain't even looking into it.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm not even, you know. But if you just happen to see a. No. Is it foul?

[Paul]

How do I see it?

[Zahra Faraday]

Just. You happen to know that she follows her ex somehow, So I have to

[Paul]

go on her page and look.

[Zahra Faraday]

No, you're not looking. Just someone told you, like, you know, this is her ex. She still follows him. Is it blowing you?

[Paul]

You know what?

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm not from that era.

[Paul]

That era to where, like, you know, people get mad for unfollowing and liking thing. I'm not from that air. Like, people say, you unfollow. That's like slapping the. And I'm not. Don't. Don't put me in that category.

[Zahra Faraday]

Well, this is why I'm gonna say that I don't like it. If I'm following my ex, I'm keeping up with them. Why am I keeping up with my ex?

[Paul]

The thing is, I will tell you this.

[Zahra Faraday]

I don't fuck with that.

[Paul]

I will tell you this. I have people that I follow, right? That I will scroll and I never see them. You know why? Because I don't like them. And they're not in my algorithm, so it don't matter. I don't never see them if I'm following them. There's only a select things that I see of people that I follow.

[Zahra Faraday]

But it will sometimes randomly come up.

[Paul]

Never comes up.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's a lie.

[Paul]

Never comes up. I swear to you. Mine never comes up because I never liked it. I never commented on it. So they. Not in my algorithm. So I don't even know what that's all about. So it's going to stay over there.

[Zahra Faraday]

But I think it's just like me, out of respect for anyone that I've been with, I always unfollow my exes. But not even just for that. For me. Like, I don't want to follow you. I don't want to see what you have going on. I don't care.

[Paul]

Time consuming.

[Zahra Faraday]

It's one person. How many exes does one have? Like, it's one person. It's not that consuming. I know who my ex is, where I'm following you. All right, so it's not that like.

[Paul]

Like, do you want to follow all the guys you. You've ever dated?

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I'm talking about a relationship.

[Paul]

Say to all the guys, do you still follow guys that you used to date?

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I probably have guys that I used to date. Like here and there, but we wasn't. The difference is, is a full blown relationship. We live together. We were together. It was a committed thing. There's people you date that you don't even look at like that you're like, whatever. I dated this person once five years ago. I don't even talk to this. I don't care. It's different. But like being in a relationship with someone, intertwining families, intertwining friends being booed up. This is someone that I lived with. This is some. I don't consider all the people I date like, okay, cool. This is someone I dated. It's not that deep, but like having a deep relationship with someone who actually meant something to you on a deep level and was your partner for real.

[Paul]

Yeah.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's different. I've only had three serious boyfriends. Yeah. So that's what I'm saying, like that it's not that hard to unfollow that person. Like, you shouldn't be keeping up.

[Paul]

I don't have nobody like that. That's. That I unfollow, like. Cause the two people that I had the relationships with, you know, I was with them like.

[Zahra Faraday]

Right, that's what I'm saying.

[Paul]

So a certain way, you know, I live with them, I had children with them.

[Zahra Faraday]

Right.

[Paul]

That's it. Like, that's it. Everybody else who I dated or whatever, they not even in my algorithm, you know.

[Zahra Faraday]

Yeah, I get what you're saying. All I'm saying, I'm talking about real people that I've been with. It's like, I'm not, I'm not following that person. And that's just like any like my friends, I don't know why they still follow that person. That's weird.

[Paul]

Yeah, yeah, that's tricky with your friends. Follow.

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I just saw my ex come up and I went to the page and I saw all my people who still follow him and I'm like, y' all are weird for that. Like, for real, you gotta move your mic up. Okay. So anyways. Okay, we're gonna do this one last thing and we're done. So this woman says, so you know, how do you remember back in the day? I don't know if you remember this, but you know how women used to say, like, they used to like check their man's situation when they came home, like smelt it, see if their balls were shrunk because that means they had sex with someone. So a woman says that she would see if her man comes a lot. He. That means he hasn't cheated, but if it was only a little bit, she's like, you're cheating on me.

[Paul]

That's not true.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's a myth. Or that's not true.

[Paul]

That's a myth. Because what if he played with himself?

[Zahra Faraday]

Playing with yourself sounds crazy, but. Yes.

[Paul]

How does that sound? Crazy as a man, how does that sound? Crazy?

[Zahra Faraday]

No, I'm just saying. How you word that. Yeah. Okay.

[Paul]

Men do that. So say, like, you gone for the day. He whip one, let it go and get his day going. Cause he feel good. He had to let one go. Like, damn. Then he come home, and then you see that it ain't at the normal capacity of what it usually is. It could be that, like, don't. Come on. Y' all be just making up stuff. Y' all just Inspector Gadget on every little thing. It ain't the same amount as it was.

[Zahra Faraday]

Nah.

[Paul]

Cause he probably, you know, released one.

[Zahra Faraday]

Do you feel like if your girl is like, y' all haven't had sex and then you came home and she was doing her thing herself, would you feel away, like, damn, like, we ain't even had sex and that's what you're doing?

[Paul]

Go ahead, get yourself off. I'm tired.

[Zahra Faraday]

Get some food.

[Paul]

Get some food. Good look.

[Zahra Faraday]

I am dead.

[Paul]

Good look.

[Zahra Faraday]

Okay, so let's do one fan question before we wrap up. My boyfriend proposed after I caught him cheating. He says he realized he almost lost me. Do you think that. That he's just panicking or is he really growing and wants to be with me?

[Paul]

He panicked.

[Zahra Faraday]

That's fine.

[Paul]

100% panicked. Why you didn't propose to her before? Like, let me get her back.

[Zahra Faraday]

So should she say no?

[Paul]

No. Hey, any chance you get a chance a man propose, you better take it. He panicked, though. He was like, this is the only way. There's no way out of this.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm saying no. I'm saying no.

[Paul]

He was in some. He was like, I gotta propose now. He blew himself. He was like, I gotta just propose. That's the only thing left. I can't. Ain't no words. Ain't nothing I can do. This is the only thing I can do is just marry her. And he panicked.

[Zahra Faraday]

I'm gonna be like, no.

[Paul]

Cause that's gonna buy you some time

[Zahra Faraday]

before the wedding to cheat some more.

[Paul]

No, I mean, it's gonna buy him some time and just like, damn, is this something I wanna do? But he panicked. To keep the relationship, but you can't.

[Zahra Faraday]

Then you're gonna traumatize her more by proposing and then taking it away was the question.

[Paul]

That was the answer.

[Zahra Faraday]

Okay, thank you guys so much for joining another episode of the Truth After Dark. We really appreciate y'. All, like, subscribe. Help us get to 100k.

[Paul]

Tell us, is there something you want us to talk about? Also, any guests you would like us to have? You know what I'm saying? Truth After Dark, like, subscribe, man. It's all love. We love y'. All.

[Zahra Faraday]

Love you.

[Paul]

This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody. Welcome to Truth After Dark.

[Zahra Faraday]

Do you think that men or women are more toxic?

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[Zahra Faraday]

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[Zahra Faraday]

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Which, by the way, wasn't Taylor Swift who said that for the first time. I actually, I thought it was. I got that wrong.

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[Zahra Faraday]

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[Zahra Faraday]

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