Relle's Relationship Red Flags, Wife Material, Ranking Best R&B Songs | Humble Baddies

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Episode Information

• Title: Relle's Relationship Red Flags, Wife Material, Ranking Best R&B Songs | Humble Baddies
• Hosts: Sherrelle Rosado, Alexis Stoudemire, and Ashley Nicole
• Release Date: January 15, 2025

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1. Introduction to Relationship Dynamics

The episode kicks off with Sherrelle Rosado, Alexis Stoudemire, and Ashley Nicole delving into the nuanced topic of wife material versus fun girls, challenging common stereotypes about women’s roles in relationships.

Alexis Stoudemire sets the stage at [01:00] by stating:

“Our main topic for today is wife material versus fun girl. Debunking the stereotypes about how women are perceived in relationships.”

2. Personal Reflections on Relationship Roles

Sherrelle shares her personal journey, highlighting how she previously embodied wifely duties before being married, which led to confusion in her role as a girlfriend. At [01:17], she reflects:

“I saw everything that my mom did with my husband. I thought, okay, you in a relationship. Y'all live together, cook, clean. Y'all shacking? We were shacking.”

Alexis discusses her evolution post-divorce, emphasizing the importance of taking baby steps in dating and being more conscious of not overextending wifely duties too early:

“Now I'm more conscious of it. I’m acknowledging that you have to earn a little bit more… I feel like you got to earn it and I'm the prize.” ([03:16])

3. Modern Dating and Social Media Influence

The hosts explore how social media has altered dating dynamics, making romance performative and competitive. At [12:41], Alexis notes:

“Because of social media, we're seeing the romance, we're seeing the cars for the birthdays, we're seeing the big things, the roses. And it's just becoming very competitive.”

4. Real Red Flags Segment

A pivotal part of the episode is the "Real Red Flags" segment where the hosts present scenarios to identify as red flags, green flags, or reasons to leave a relationship.

Scenario 1: He still texts his ex happy birthday every year ([19:21])

• Sherrelle Rosado declares it a red flag:

  “He can't text his happy birthday.”

• Ashley Nicole concurs:

  “Why the fuck is he texting his ex? Why did he still have her phone number?” ([19:40])

• Alexis Stoudemire offers a varied perspective but ultimately finds it concerning:

  “I don't need a text from my ex.” ([20:03])

Scenario 2: He follows every Instagram model, but she’s nowhere on his face ([25:38])

• Ashley Nicole labels it a red flag and suggests leaving:

  “Horrible. I wouldn’t say I would haul ass, but it's definitely a red flag.” ([25:53])

Scenario 3: She refuses to split the bills, believing the man should pay all ([27:37])

• The hosts debate the nuances, with Ashley Nicole labeling it an orange flag due to the complexity of financial dynamics:

  “Financials are tricky. Money changes, situation changes.” ([28:05])

Overall, the Real Red Flags segment emphasizes the importance of recognizing controlling and possessive behaviors early in relationships to prevent future issues.

5. Ranking Best R&B Songs

Transitioning to a lighter topic, the hosts engage in a competition to rank the best R&B songs, encouraging listener participation.

Alexis Stoudemire kicks off her list with:

“My number three is 'Cherish the Day' by Sade.” ([34:26])

Ashley Nicole follows with a classic:

“Anytime you put on the R&B playlist, they're going to play 'Weak' by SWV.” ([34:43])

Sherrelle Rosado adds her favorites:

“Rick James and Tina Marie's 'Fire and Desire'.” ([35:03])

The competition continues with each host selecting their top R&B tracks, fostering an engaging and interactive atmosphere. The segment concludes with listeners being encouraged to vote on their favorite playlists.

6. Listener Interaction and Advice

The episode features a listener submission from Amy in Dallas seeking advice on handling a possessive boyfriend who demands social media passwords and restricts her wardrobe ([41:10]).

• Sherrelle Rosado responds decisively, identifying the behavior as controlling and urging Amy to "haul ass":

  “He's controlling, he's possessive, he's a narcissist. You don't have time for that.” ([42:19])

• Alexis Stoudemire reinforces the need to trust one’s intuition and prioritize personal well-being:

  “If it already feels off, it's off. It's not right for you. If it doesn't feel comfortable, girl, run.” ([43:20])

7. Upcoming Events: Grammy Attendance

The hosts share their excitement about attending the Grammy Awards, highlighting past experiences and anticipation for upcoming events.

Ashley Nicole expresses her enthusiasm:

“I'm so excited.” ([30:00])

They discuss potential outfits, pre-grammy parties, and the vibrant energy of the event, emphasizing the cultural significance and networking opportunities it presents.

8. Closing Remarks

Concluding the episode, the hosts encourage listener engagement through comments and social media interaction, ensuring continued community involvement and support.

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Notable Quotes:

• Alexis Stoudemire on earning respect in relationships:

  “I feel like you got to earn it and I'm the prize.” ([03:16])

• Sherrelle Rosado on controlling behaviors:

  “He's controlling, he's possessive, he's a narcissist. You don't have time for that.” ([42:19])

• Ashley Nicole on trusting intuition:

  “If it already feels off, it's off. It's not right for you. If it doesn't feel comfortable, girl, run.” ([43:20])

Timestamp Highlights:

• [01:00] Introduction to wife material vs fun girl
• [03:14] Alexis on evolving post-divorce dating
• [12:41] Impact of social media on romance
• [19:21] Real Red Flags scenario: texting ex
• [34:26] R&B song rankings begin
• [42:19] Listener advice on possessive relationships
• [30:00] Excitement about attending the Grammys

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This episode of Humble Baddies offers deep insights into navigating modern relationships, recognizing red flags, and balancing personal growth with relationship roles. The engaging discussions, coupled with interactive segments like R&B song rankings and real listener advice, provide a comprehensive and relatable experience for the audience.

Transcript

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You know what a pump is?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

My mom said she don't want to date nobody with that. And at her particular age, how she.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Know he had one?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Because it's prep. You have to pump it to get it right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Wait, wait, wait. Oh, my God.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't want to hear no more. Please stop.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He's controlling. He's possessive. He's a narcissist. You don't have time for that. As of right now. Getting into a relationship in the future.

[Ashley Nicole]

Actually, Nicole, I get in my way.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Never out of my lane Feel like you the one in the morning so.

[Ashley Nicole]

What it's gonna be? Baby squatter? We finna go deep Riding on a.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Team Got what you need, baby?

[Ashley Nicole]

Won't you keep me company? Give me something to do when I.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Get lonely I got something for you when we get home if you let.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Me put it down. What's up, y'all? It's another episode of Humble Baddies. I'm Alexis Stoudemire.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm Ashley Nicole.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And I am Sherrelle Rosado. And we are the Humble Bad Daddies.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay, our main topic for today is wife material. Vers versus fun Girl. Debunking the stereotypes about how women are perceived in relationships. Things a wife does versus the things girlfriends do. Okay, what y'all think about that, ladies? Sheesh.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

My problem was I used to always do what a wife do before I was a wife. And that was a big issue because, I mean, I grew up in a household, and I'm from the south, and, you know, it's just in you. It's just in me. Like, I saw everything that my mom did with my husband. I thought, okay, you in a relationship. Y'all live together, cook, clean. Y'all shacking? We were shacking.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm doing everything that a wife do. But I'm a girlfriend. That's the issue.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And it's never too late to learn and change it up.

[Ashley Nicole]

So if you get into your next relationship, you just gonna be.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You said I was getting into another relationship. I'm not getting in a relationship I don't want to ever.

[Ashley Nicole]

Like, you're good on it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

As of right now, I'm not getting into a relationship.

[Ashley Nicole]

But that's. That's what, in the future, you might want to.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That's what I'm talking about as of right now.

[Ashley Nicole]

I know.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

As of right now, but I didn't get into a relationship in the future.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Actually, Nicole, Willard, Alexis, I'm enjoying dating right now.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Dating is different from being in a relationship.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I agree.

[Ashley Nicole]

100% how will you enter a relationship being that you were married at once? Yes, at one. At one time. Do you feel like you will go into it in the same way that you did in your past relationship? Because I know that you guys were together at a young age, you had babies, y'all were traveling the world, y'all were doing everything together. So I'm sure you were doing those wifely duties before you were actually a wife. Would you do it the same way?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So to answer your question first, okay. No.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

But right now I feel like I am really cognitive of taking baby steps. I. In the past of dating, because I've been dating really, I've been divorced for four years, so it's been dating differently.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

At the beginning I was just in that wife mode of catering to, nurturing and just like, I feel like I was overdoing it and.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And you don't think that you're doing it.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah, exactly. I, I didn't, I wasn't conscious of it. And so now it's like, now I'm more conscious of it. I'm more in a healed space, low key to where I'm acknowledging that and I'm like, you know what, you got to earn a little bit more, Alexis, because it's this essence and it's low key from dating that I learned more about my essence through talking to other men, like just learning that.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But do you catch yourself sometimes like doing those wife duties and you like, damn, I'm doing too much. I got to pull back.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I do 100%. Like, I feel like you got to earn it and I'm the prize. That's how I feel. I always have the analogy of being like Princess Peach at the Super Mario and Luigi, the Mario Brothers video game. I'm the Princess Peach. That's at the last round, the last stage. And you gotta come go through all these hoops and waves to come get me.

[Ashley Nicole]

So do you expect for the man to do any husbandly type duties before he's the actual husband?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

To me, husband like duties would be like paying big bills and providing a lifestyle for me which a lot of women providers.

[Ashley Nicole]

Exactly. Which a lot of women who are dating.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And I would not put that pressure on him.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

At all because, you know, but I.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Feel like I have that this generation, they make it easy. Like especially the young athletes, they're paying the bills, they doing every tricking to the fullest. Do you call it tricking or do you call it taking care of?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I mean, I guess if you have.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Or do you call it hush money.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

All of the above, I think.

[Ashley Nicole]

But to me, that's easy. That's the easy thing to do is to give the money.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So the bar is low.

[Ashley Nicole]

So if they're giving the money, though, and they're doing. If you think that that's a husband like quality for somebody to do, do you feel like it's fair for you to hold back on those wifely duties?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But see, I feel like with this, with women, we don't look at it like that the way men look at it. Like, we're not, okay, if he's not doing this, I'm not gonna give him out. I'm not going to do this. Or be like a wife. We are naturally submissive, so we're going to do things and not even know it or not realize it that we're doing the things as what a wife does. Because in our natural instinct is to care for and love.

[Ashley Nicole]

But I feel like a lot of women will feel like if a man is paying for everything that they feel like he's providing, so he's acting like a husband. So maybe I should do my wifely duties now.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh, no, it's. It's kind of hard because a man can pay for things. I feel like, you know, like there are some men that just give money, Right. They spend no time.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

They're gifting, they're just gifting.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like, they're just, here's money, but there's no time provided. So how can I give you those type of duties when there's no time? It's just like, here's like, money to go, leave me alone so I can go deal with my other women.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, no, I think there. I think that's the difference. Yeah. Like, I don't think that a woman would just give herself like a wife to a man who's just giving her.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Money just being a trick.

[Ashley Nicole]

But I know a lot of women, especially if that's the motive. But like young women, when you are with a man who has it to give and to take care of you, in a way, it. It does make you want to do those things.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah, it's enticing.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Right.

[Ashley Nicole]

But it doesn't necessarily mean that he's like trying to be a husband and you should be doing those wife things. And I think that's kind of where I had. Phil had caught me or whatever. Real young bitch.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That's why your ass is married.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, but he didn't want to get married.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What was his reason?

[Ashley Nicole]

For not wanting to get married?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No, for eventually getting married. Well, what was his reason for not wanting to get married? Did he feel like he was too young?

[Ashley Nicole]

No, I think he just never had an example of it, and it just wasn't on his mind, like, get married for what? You know what I mean? Like, it wasn't even in his realm of thought. Like, it just wasn't a thing. You know what I mean? But he was doing things that, in my mind, were what a husband does. Like, he was paying for everything. He was taking care of me. And when I say paying for everything, Phil's not the kind of, like, guy that's going to go and splurge and buy me bags and dumb shit, you know? He's not that guy. But he's definitely, like, wrote some big checks for me, like, clear.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He pays for you to get out the military?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

Like, so that's what I'm saying. So in my mind, you know, I felt like, oh, he's providing for me.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And he let me do this.

[Ashley Nicole]

But he. He's. He's at home with me. He spends time with me because we're at home, but he just like to be at home, like. And so in my mind, I'm like, oh, he's.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But the thing about it is. But you. You could think like that, because a man. If a man don't want to be with you and don't want to take it to that next level, they ain't gonna spend time with you.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

They're not gonna do it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

They're not gonna do it. They're not gonna spend that much money on.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I wasn't. I mean, I. I knew. I knew he liked me or whatever, right? Like, I knew that, but he. I was thinking. What I'm saying is all that shit he was doing, in my dumbass, young, naive mind, I was like, oh, he trying to be my husband, you know? And that wasn't the fucking case.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We're hopeless romantics. We grow up with, like, once upon a time, the prince comes and the princess, and then happily ever after. Like, I'm falling back, though, because I feel like I like to be courted. I like to be. I like to have romance. And I feel like, you know, I give romance, too, but I want that. I want someone to show the initiative. Like, I have to going back to wifely things. I like to cook. I like to. That's one form of, like, my intimacy or love language. So I am ready to go, like, go get groceries. Like, let's stay home and let's cook a meal. I'm like, no, you Gotta earn that. Like, it takes time to get that kind of alexis, you know, just that level of alexis. That's. That's something I cherish. You know what I mean? That I'm feeding you. And so I can't give that off the rip. I don't want to. They have to earn that.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay, so as an example, you just wait until you feel comfortable enough to give them that part.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Certain levels. Because I think that's even levels of that. Also intimacy. There's levels of that, too. Like, how much are you giving to them? And like. Like lowering the bar of, you know, being, you know, tied up or something. Like, whatever the case may be. Like, those. It's levels to all of that. Just like there's levels to financial presence and things like that. It takes time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I just want to build. It's a balance between both parties. Like, to receive, you have to give. And that's both. And you'll know if that's the person like, okay, I'm going to take it to that next level. I'm going to take it to that next level. And a man know, like, Phil probably knew, like, okay, this is my girl. Even though he didn't want to say it. He was investing. He's investing with you. He was investing, but he just didn't know at that moment. But I. I give my hat off to y'all. Y'all.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah. He invested in. And you know, the returns have been.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, but I just say, like, to younger women, you know what I mean? Like, we don't listen to, like, our parents when they're like, don't shack up. Like, there's a reason for that. They don't want us to give all of that straight point ass too early, you know, And.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And I was. Ass Was just shacking up.

[Ashley Nicole]

Phil and my dad had to have a whole conversation, like, outside. I still don't know what they said to this day, but I remember it like it was yesterday. Like, Phil came over to the house and my dad was like, let me.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Talk to you outside, period. And your daddy be serious, too. And whatever.

[Ashley Nicole]

Whatever Phil said was good. Cause he must have said the right things because we was good. We kept on checking. It was what it. You know what I mean? But it's a reason why, like, our parents say, don't shack because you end up doing things for a man that doesn't deserve it.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

What do they say? Why buy the cow if the milk is free?

[Ashley Nicole]

Right?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That was. That was something. Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

But I was three and a half, kids shacking up and then we finally got married, but you know.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, same.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

So I mean, shit, I was married and divorce. Married and then divorce.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. I mean, I think we should have these conversations more like about what it really feels like to just do too much for a man too early, even if you are in love. I was madly in love with Phil, but I shouldn't have been doing what I was doing. I was.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, we definitely do. I was learning how to cook neck bones at one point. Like calling my mom mama, how you season these neck bones.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Oh yeah, you were showing out, huh?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I was showing.

[Ashley Nicole]

I was trying to win him over.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I mean he did marry me, but it's like, God damn. Like I'm young, I'm 22 years old.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Why the hell are we doing? We were doing the most full time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Job, active duty and still trying to do all this and I don't have a ring on my desk.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Very, very grown.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I, I, I just think that it's comes the time and a place for it. I think because of social media, we're seeing the romance, we're seeing the cars for the birthdays, we're seeing the big things, the roses. And it's just becoming very competitive.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's very performative.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's very performative. Yeah. So I think that's kind of altered it too. But just being single and dating, I feel like it's a competition because there's so many options. So everyone is doing their backflips and their cartwheels and they bringing out their best tricks and they, they neck.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You know, I think, and I think that's to go back to your question, Ashley, why I don't want to get in a relationship. I have been in relationships my whole life. I haven't had a chance to see what Sherrelle wants. Like to learn me. To know what? Like to actually go out and date. And date. It's okay to date. I think people have, have the problem of dating as, oh, you got to sleep, you don't have to sleep. Learn who you are, learn what you like. Change the type of men that you attract.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Because we have a problem where we are attracting the wrong type of things.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I agree.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

So I need to learn what I really like and who I am. So that's, I don't see myself getting into a relationship right now. Like I wanna, I want to learn me. I'm in a different era now.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I congratulate you on that because you have to take time, you have to take time for yourself. We give so much, we have children. We have other people that depend on us for so much. You. We have to give back to ourselves. I had that time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And the problem with me is, no matter how much I say, you know, I'll change, and, you know, I don't want to give the wife duties, I'm going to instantly fall because I'm a mother, I'm a nurturer.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

So I'm instantly falling into that role of giving those wifely duties. It's. It's. But it's.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's just in your nature.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It's just who you are. Yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

So I just. I think it's smart of you to really take that time, find out what you want, who you want, because then it will be easy for you to let that guard down and to be who you really are and not have to hold back everything that you are that makes you so great. And whoever you end up with is gonna be able to appreciate it even more.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

But date them all, sis. Date them all. I'm just gonna put that out there. Date them all.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. I'm living through y'all. Okay. So call me. I'm gonna be texting y'all when y'all at the dates. You know, if it's a, like, girl, this is.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

But it's. The good thing is you can go home. I like it. Cause I can go home to my bed. I can go home to my kids. Like, I can go home if I don't want to deal with something. I'm like, I'm out of here. And that's because I don't have to.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Date them no more peacefully at night.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Snoring, slobbing out the mouth. I know that. All of that.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

All of that. Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

I love that y'all.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

This how me and Ashley is. Don't take it. Don't take it serious. Me and Ashley, Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Very close. We'll be going back and forth.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We get petty with each other. Well. But it's all love, so don't take it serious.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's all love. Don't y'all be in the comments. Time out.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Uh, what is that? Gay and the shade. We are talking.

[Ashley Nicole]

Absolutely.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Love you.

[Ashley Nicole]

I love you, too. Always. That's a good love.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Love it. Love it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But, yes, I love it. I love it, though. And I talk to my daughter about it, too. I tell her, don't give it all because she's in love. Obsessed with this Tyler. I love Tyler to death. He just signed a Georgia Bulldog. But they've been to. Been lovebirds since Sixth grade.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah, sixth grade. Six Lockdown is sixth grade. It's cute. It is cute.

[Ashley Nicole]

They need to go and, you know, let them.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

The goal is to stay together and.

[Ashley Nicole]

Then maybe they'll come back together.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yes. I'm like, go out and, you know, go experience college. Have fun. You gonna meet.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I said that with a Ray. She's been with Joey for a couple years now, since high school. It's her first boyfriend, everything. So it's like, I'm like, y'all in college. Y'all don't wanna date it, try it or whatever. But, like, low key. His parents are still together. They met at, like, 19, 20. And then obviously her dad and I met at 19.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But the thing about it is, do you think people get curious? Like, damn, what if I was able to date a little bit more?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I think they get comfortable and not curious.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I think you just have to spice it up. A lot of people who've been in relationships a long time, if you're not like, that's why I respect your relationship. Because it's not. Y'all just don't check the box in your relationship. Like, you still have your girl time. It's balance there.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like, you still have your girl time. You go out, feel, have his God, God time, and y'all bring it back together. Y'all still spice it up. I think in a lot of relationships that you see that have been together a long time, it's like, you can tell. It's like they look at each other and roll their eyes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

They don't want to be there. Yeah, yeah, that's real.

[Ashley Nicole]

Phil be getting on my nerves. And then I just call y'all, and I'd be like, can we go out?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And then you be like, I'm going home.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

After. After bringing him some food back too, you know?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You know? You know, let me order my man some food.

[Ashley Nicole]

I already know y'all be reminding me, don't forget to order your man.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We got you, sis. We got you all the time.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

See, look at us. The nurturers. And us is like, don't forget.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, we got y. Y'all make sure.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I live it, though. We live it through you, Ashley.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's right. You're a go.

[Ashley Nicole]

Don't live through me. I'm living through y'all.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No, you can live through. You can live through us, and we live through you. Ain't nothing wrong. Balance.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's balance.

[Ashley Nicole]

Balance.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We want us to having that beautiful relationship that stands the testimony. Thank you. Absolutely.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That's the goal for sure. Especially with black families.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's right, sis.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You don't see that a lot. So that's what I love. You have two boys.

[Ashley Nicole]

Y'all pray for us.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It ain't going nowhere. Cause I can't see you with nobody else. And I can't see Phil with nobody.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Supportive prayer.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Protection prayer.

[Ashley Nicole]

If something happened, I'mma be in jail. I'mma be up under the jail. Up under the jail.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We ain't even going to speak like that because ain't nothing happening.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's okay. No facts.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

All right, ladies. I have something new for the humble baddie. Ooh.

[Ashley Nicole]

What you got for us?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It's called rail Red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Rail, red flag.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Rail red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, I love it.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So tell us more.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

The thing about rail red flags is I'm gonna give you guys scenarios, okay? And you tell me if it's a red flag, green flag, or you just haul ass.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Ooh.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I mean, I ain't even.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Forget the flag.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Forget the flag. I'm hauling ass.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

All right. Y'all ready?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

The first one is he still texts his ex happy birthday every year. Red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Holla ass. Holla ass.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Holla ass. Call the fuck ass.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

She's leaving.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He can't text his happy birthday.

[Ashley Nicole]

Why the fuck is he texting his ex? Why did he still have her phone number?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Why do you still know her birthday?

[Ashley Nicole]

Exactly. Why Is it that bad?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Was it that bad?

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't give a fuck if it was good as fuck.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I don't care.

[Ashley Nicole]

Exactly.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You should be an ex for a reason. Yeah, you an ex for reason.

[Ashley Nicole]

You would be okay with your man texting his ex happy birthday?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm not mad at it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I don't believe that, Lex.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm not mad at it. I don't need a text from my ex.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

So your man is texting his ex every year? Specifically.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

If I. If I know. I mean, but you don't know that. Why does it have to be so, like, cut off ties. Why does it have to be so.

[Ashley Nicole]

It's not cut off. I don't give a fuck. Y'all could have left on good terms.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Because she may think that there's some. Something still there.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I think I'm just would be confident.

[Ashley Nicole]

What's the purpose, though?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It ain't about confidence. It's about respect.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It doesn't bother me.

[Ashley Nicole]

So every year he makes sure he send her happy birthday, for example.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And he forget. He forget. One year to send your ex happy birthday.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I would hope that. Like my ex, for example. I would hope that his lady would be like, make sure you show her she ain't. But I'm just saying.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

When was your birthday? When is your birthday, Lex?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

February.

[Ashley Nicole]

Y'all have kids together.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It's coming up.

[Ashley Nicole]

I guess I get that.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's what I. That's what I'm thinking.

[Ashley Nicole]

But I think it's a way to go about it. Like, if I had children with somebody and I wasn't with them anymore, I would just, like, give them.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I would tell my son, card. Yeah, here, make sure you go. Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

I wouldn't do it personally. I would do it through them because that's how we're connected.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I get it.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay. That's just my opinion.

[Ashley Nicole]

But, you know, I. I just don't believe you.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I think you just saying. Saying you would do it just because. You just saying.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm not saying it just because.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's just. I don't think. Yeah, y'all know me. I'm not holding grudges and all that kind of shit. Like, it's just a test.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You was just talking about the other day last time. Oh, he did not introduce me to his new girl.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes, I hold up. I should be held at a higher regard, 100%. Just like. Like, just like, even if it's not me being texted happy birthday, it should be my kids sending a gift. You know, he should be initiating that. I 100% think that.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

But your kids old enough to send their own gift to their mom.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

They are, but they can get a bigger budget from their father.

[Ashley Nicole]

Bloop. But I don't know.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm just saying. I'm just saying. You know what I mean? I know I encourage them, like. I encourage them to, like, do that, you know?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I don't know. I can't. I don't let. I love you enough, sis. But I don't agree with you on this one because I wish they would send you. Better not let me find out. That's just me.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't. I mean, what do you need a.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Happy birthday Text me?

[Ashley Nicole]

It's like, happy birthday, Texas.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's not sending.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Men barely even remember dates.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Exactly.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No, it ain't exactly. The fact that they're going out their way to send their ex a happy birthday. That's a pro. That's a red flag for me. I'm just saying.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Well, what if your birthday is tattooed on them?

[Ashley Nicole]

That's they problem.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's the reminder. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What? His birthday. What you trying to say?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm just saying, his birthday.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He won't forget, period.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

You know, I was just in the. You know what I mean? Just was in his life forever. So it's like, you know, so as.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Long as he send you a happy birthday. That's my grandma birthday. Y'all some little freaks, too.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We are.

[Ashley Nicole]

Your grandma was a freak. I ain't.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm just saying that's why my grandma stayed married to my granddaddy for years.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like, years. She had four girls. They still in the same. God bless my granddad. But my grandma, you know, Ola Mae Allen laid it down.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. I believe Omar.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Hello. Every Saturday.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Omay. Ellen. God bless. The dad was happy. A happy pastor.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You okay with it, Ash?

[Ashley Nicole]

And I say I'm Holland ass.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, I'm Holland ass. I don't like that. Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He follows every Instagram model.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

You said it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Listen. No, y'all gonna be surprised.

[Ashley Nicole]

What?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Cause a lot of the older you, the grandmamas. Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

They be busting it. They listen. Don't be surprised.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We have to keep it going, don't we?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Stop it. Don't. It gets. I'm telling y'all.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Guess what? Guess what?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I didn't heard. Overheard.

[Ashley Nicole]

Your grandmama was doing it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Not my grandma, but my best friend. Her grandma had condoms in her drawer. And not only condoms, she had a dildo.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Oh, yes. Yes, she should.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And she was 80 years old.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Grandma said she popping 80. But you hear what's going on in those senior communities. They have all the STDs.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, they do.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

They do.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

They do. I mean, what do you look up. Look up in the villages. All they have to retire older.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

All they have to talk about.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

They have.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes. What do you.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It's the truth. It's not funny, but it's the truth.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't want to talk about this anymore.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm just saying, they be busting it wide open.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, my God.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I hope I am, too.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

They be having pumps and all.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, my God.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You know what a pump is?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

She don't want to date nobody with that. And at her particular age, how'd she.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Know he had one?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Because it's prep. You have to pump it to get it right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Wait, wait, wait. Oh, my God.

[Ashley Nicole]

I don't want to hear no more. Please stop.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Some people got it. You know.

[Ashley Nicole]

Get back to the real man. Please.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Please. I'm just saying.

[Ashley Nicole]

How did we get off on this tangent?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Well, you asked.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

When you get. You know.

[Ashley Nicole]

You said your grandma was afraid.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No, I did not. You asked that question. I just said, oh, that's my grandma's birthday. Pisces are. And then you was like.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And I agree.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

My own.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I am.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Ashley started this conversation.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, God.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay, the second one. He follows every Instagram model, but you're nowhere on his face.

[Ashley Nicole]

Red flag. Flag on the play. Red flag.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Horrible.

[Ashley Nicole]

Red flag. I don't know.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Haul ass. Get on out of there. That's horrible.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I mean, horrible. I wouldn't say I would haul ass, but it's definitely a red flag.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I mean, it's.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So you would just tell them to switch it up or. Or post more.

[Ashley Nicole]

I would find a way to say it real cute without telling him what to do. And if he don't catch a hint, then I'm Holland ass.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No, you just got to be like, babe, what's the point of following all these Instagram.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm not gonna do that because I just. I want you to do what you want to do. I'm gonna let you know, like, ill. I don't really find that attractive. You know what I mean? And then I'm gonna see if you can catch a hint and then switch it up. But if you don't switch it up on your own, then. But I don't like telling men what to do. Like.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Right. You should know.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

You should know.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You should know.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I'm gonna give you a hint on about what I. What we talking about. You know what I mean?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

But it's like, what if it's like, like in social media right now, it's like, you know, you've heard of soft launch or like the hard line?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Right?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So like, if you. We know people that have just like hard launched, like their booze. If he was following all these ladies and then, you know, now all of a sudden, you know, he's posted his lady, then it should, it should change 100%. But if not girl, that don't mean keeping it private.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I don't.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's not cool. I don't like that.

[Ashley Nicole]

I. I mean, as long as you could follow who the you want to follow, of course. But if we're like in a for real relationship and you're choosing purposely not to post me, then that's the problem.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's the whole ass.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Because anybody can see who you follow. Why the you following them? Yeah, I feel you. Okay, this one is from a female perspective. She refuses to split the bills because she thinks relationships should be traditional where the man should pay all the bills.

[Ashley Nicole]

Orange flag, almost.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Right. That's tough because of the situation. Like, I'm traditional. I Feel like a man should provide majority of the big bills. Will I be paying a couple if something pops off? Absolutely. But I feel like it's your dynamic at the beginning. Like, if you're traditional and you want to stand on that, then stand on it. So to me, it would be a red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I would say orange. It's not a red. Cuz financials are tricky. You know, money changes, situation changes. So, you know, I feel like you never know, one day you might be down bad and you should be able to be there and pick your man up if need be. So just being like, I'm out if he can't pay the bills is. That's really. That's kind of that.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, it depends on. It's. It depends on the situation. Because I've been in my relationships, we like, of course, the man took care of the majority. Majority of the bills, like the. The big bills, and I took care of the little bills. But if she don't want to split nothing, not even the little groceries in the house.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, that's a red flag for me. That's a red flag because what if, you know, I'm that man and I'm with you and I can't depend on you and now you want to leave me when I'm down and out.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Because I can't hold the ground for like hold. Hold the fork down for like a month or two.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's why the man's is mad right now, because they feel like the women is just out here taking. Right, Taking. Taking, Taking. Yeah. Okay, well, red flag.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Real red flags, you all. Let me know what you guys think. Let us know how we did on Real Red Flags. We cannot wait to hear what you guys have.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We read them, we see.

[Ashley Nicole]

Give me all the comments. I read all the comments. I'll be trying to respond to all of them too.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Really?

[Ashley Nicole]

I do.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We try. I try to engage with my.

[Ashley Nicole]

I do.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

My followers. Some of them I block.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah. Like, you out of here.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Get your ass out of here. All right, you guys, guess what's coming up.

[Ashley Nicole]

What we got.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We got the Grammy. I'm excited, you guys, because I have never went, girl, we're going.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm so excited.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I've been before.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Really? Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

In 2012.

[Ashley Nicole]

How was that?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's an experience. You guys are gonna have so much fun.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm excited.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I was invited with my daughter who had a classmate of a producer who produced Diamonds for Rihanna. So we got to go. And they actually won the Grammy. So we walked.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That was a Perfect end.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

She got a little designer outfit, hair and makeup.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We gotta find a designer to wear, actually.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Who did you wear? I was in Lanvin.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And so was my baby girl.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So you gotta get ready, actually.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We gotta get ready.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Y'all gotta get it right.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, my God. Okay. Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And it's fun. There's pre Grammy parties. There's like. I don't know if it's the parties. It's the parties.

[Ashley Nicole]

The parties that I'm ready for.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Energy. That is in LA with all the musical entertainment, the producers. It's a vibe.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Well, we're excited. We have to. If there are any designers that want to style us.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

How you doing? I'm a sty.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Listen, we gonna make sure we gonna wear it good, you know, but, like.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Live is different too, because they'll pause and. And then, like, you see people getting up, going to the bathroom, and, like, then they'll play, like, the interlude and, like, the music. It's fun. It's an experience.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We can't wait. We gonna go and we gonna come back and let you. We gonna share our experiences with your experience when you went.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

We can't wait.

[Ashley Nicole]

Girls.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes. I'm rooting for anybody in particular.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes. Yeah, Everybody. Black.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

No, that's right. Well, listen, I know that's right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm hoping Shaboos he gets some type of award because I felt like the CMA did him so wrong.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like how you have the longest running song on the Hot 100.

[Ashley Nicole]

Was it the longest?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It was the longest.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, my God, it was crazy.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

He was tied up with Nas X. Nas X?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Lil Nas X. And yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

And they didn't.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's disrespectful.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It is. So I'm hoping Shaboozi gets something. He's a black country singer, and I feel like he's underestimated in the music industry.

[Ashley Nicole]

Well, I'm glad Beyonce featured him in her Christmas performance. Did y'all see that? Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That was epic.

[Ashley Nicole]

That was like a Super bowl performance.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Shout out to Beyonce.

[Ashley Nicole]

She featured a few black women artists.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

All the country singers.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, yeah, she did. She did that. She really put them on the map and gave them their shine that they deserved. So shout out to Beyonce. She's a humble daddy.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And the black. And the black writing academy. She also highlighted them. Just all the different notes that she adds to the influence.

[Ashley Nicole]

She was very intentional about. Very intentional about that performance.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And that's. That's why I'm hoping Shaboozi gets something. So we're rooting for you, Shaboozi. Yes. We're rooting for you, and we want to give you your flowers. To the humble. Daddy, you and Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X, we're going to give you some pink flowers, but Shabuzzi, we want to give you. Both of you guys your flowers because.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's right.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Your work is not unnoticed.

[Ashley Nicole]

Right. Well deserved.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And we putting that out there that you're gonna win.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yes, absolutely.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes, yes, yes.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

All right, guys, so while we're talking about music, I think we should have a little competition, and we're gonna let our followers determine who has the best top three R B songs. So we're gonna go. So we want.

[Ashley Nicole]

So wait, top what kind of song?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

R B.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Just R B.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like R B.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

No matter what era.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, like, we could do old school. We could do 90s.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Let me get in my R B bag real quick.

[Ashley Nicole]

Listen, that's crazy.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

You pick. We're gonna go one. We're gonna go each. Each time. One. One row. So it's gonna be a. A competition. We're gonna let our fans pick. We'll put it like our third or just.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Just. We'll just do one at a time, and so we can. Number three.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We can bounce off of each. Yeah, it doesn't matter. I ain't scared because I got a good list.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I ain't scared either.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Who said they must listen? I'm a R queen. Are you scared?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's funny because we got different. Like, you know, y'all know my parents are older. Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm an old school person. Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

We gonna see what's up. I'm trying to. I think I'm trying to get the classics.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah, yeah. Okay. I got mine.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right, so who goes first?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay, I'll start. All right. My number three is Cherish the Day by Sade. Oh, cherish the day.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's a. That is a good one.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That's a good one.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Ashley Nicole]

So I chose a classic. Okay. Anytime you put on, you know, the playlist, the R B playlist, they're going to play this song Weak by swv.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Everybody know them words? All the words.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

In a day. Yes. That's a good one.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay, I'm gonna bring it back. I'm gonna bring it back a little bit. And I'm gonna go with Rick James and Tina Marie. Fire and Desire.

[Ashley Nicole]

Okay. Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yes, yes, yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

All right. All right, bet. So we on. Well, I didn't get round two.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Round two. Round two.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay. This one was sent to me by A friend of mine.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh, is it our friend?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's our friend. Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

Gosh. And it was.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It was a good one. And it's Unthinkable by Alicia Keys.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay, okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

How'd that go?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

If we do the unthinkable when it make us look crazy. If I asked you. I'm ready.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh, y'all ready?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm ready.

[Ashley Nicole]

And he's trying to send you. He was trying to send you a little subliminal message.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm sending you a subliminal message.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. My second one is.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm gonna tell you what to send him on my second one.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh, I love that. I love, like, sending songs.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, it's a different frequency. I need you to send this once. That's it.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's kind of like a love language. Like sending songs, like, speaking through songs.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, that's sexy.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm gonna start doing that again. I ain't did that a minute.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That was your friendly reminder.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yes, I'm gonna do that.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay.

[Ashley Nicole]

My second song is Doo Wop. That thing.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That thing. That thing. That thing.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, that one.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

All right. My second one is H Town. Knocking the boots. Somebody rocking.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Knocking the boots.

[Ashley Nicole]

Hey. Okay.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Give me some good love.

[Ashley Nicole]

You nasty.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Send that to him. Send that. I sure will. Yeah, I think you should be ready.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Okay. My number one. This is for all my lovers, you know this is the quiet storm. Caught up in the Rapture by Anita Baker. Oh, that was also sent to me, too.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh, okay, Lex. Okay.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So y'all know that one.

[Ashley Nicole]

Wait.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Caught up in the rapture of you.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, I ain't even finna lie.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Y'all know the humble baddies know I.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Need to hear it. I need to hear it.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. I think I got my last one. My last one is a little controversial because I think he got canceled.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh. Tory Lanez.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

R. Kelly.

[Ashley Nicole]

R. Kelly.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

R. Kelly made some hits. I don't care what nobody say hits.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Didn't he?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Let's talk about.

[Ashley Nicole]

I mean, can we. Let's talk about it during the time. You know what I'm saying?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Which one? Which one?

[Ashley Nicole]

I mean, I just did bump and grind, but there's so many.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

R. Kelly had some kicks, baby.

[Ashley Nicole]

That's the album 12 play album was. You know what I mean?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

Can we play R. Kelly now or no?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I mean, I still play R. Kelly. Oh, you still.

[Ashley Nicole]

You never stopped playing him.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I ain't never. I didn't count, so I stopped.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I feel like it's not in my rotation anymore. Like, my streaming.

[Ashley Nicole]

I'm gonna bring Them back. I'm gonna bring them back poor.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Well, I ain't gonna say poor Kelly, because he know he was wrong.

[Ashley Nicole]

But you can separate the music from. Yeah, the music was the crime.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I think we. We equate the music to, like, memories, too. Like, I Believe I Can Fly was, like, played at everybody's graduation. Like, so, you know, because in a.

[Ashley Nicole]

Minute, we gonna have to stop listening to all the music because everybody finna get canceled. But that's another conversation. Go ahead. What's your name?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay. This one is specifically dedicated to my ex.

[Ashley Nicole]

Oh.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Oh, it is by sfp. My love is the sh. Boy, you never find another love as good as this.

[Ashley Nicole]

He sure won't. He already knows. Cause my love is the bomb, baby.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I miss video. I miss all of that. Like, what's up?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

That one. It was a tie between that, but I felt like I should have dedicated the song. And hearing now about Lifted Vandross.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Oh, that's a good honorable mention.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, we could do this. We could do this round for round.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Like, we could really do that.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That is a good song. That's a good wedding song.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yeah, I know.

[Ashley Nicole]

A la Luther Van Joss.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Big Luther, too.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

So, you guys, y'all, let us know who had the best playlist out of the top three. We want to hear you guys thoughts in the comments. Drop them below.

[Ashley Nicole]

Don't cancel me because I like R. Kelly. Y'all know y'all be listening to him, too.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

All right, thank you so much for that. That was fun. I enjoy that.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Now we gotta go update our playlist.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes, we do. We do. We do. Thank you for that. Guess what time it is, y'all?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What time?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Oh, what time is it?

[Ashley Nicole]

Like, time during your morning show. Do y'all remember that?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Humble baddies mail time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay, what time is it?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Humble Baddies mail time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What time is it?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Humble baddies mail time.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What time is it?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's what time it is. Okay, y'all ready for this one?

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yes.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Thank you all so much for your submissions, too. Please continue sending them in, and you could be featured. So here we go.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I don't know, Lex. We might get another lover. Secret lover.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Secret lover. I did have a lover, didn't I? In the hummy Baddies mail.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Okay, well, you know, Bets got her a secret boo now.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

For real. Okay. Anyway. All right. Here we go. Hi, ladies. My name is Amy.

[Ashley Nicole]

Hi, Amy.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

And I'm writing you from Dallas. Okay, Dallas, first off, thank you for creating such an amazing podcast.

[Ashley Nicole]

You're welcome.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It feels like the only place I turn to for advice right now. Here's what's been weighing on me. I've been seeing this guy for about eight months, and at first everything seemed great, but lately he's become really possessive. He doesn't let me wear certain clothes, like anything tight or that shows off my body, kind of like Aquarius. And he asked me for my social media passwords multiple times to check if.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

I'm talking to guys.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Wait, that's not the game right now.

[Ashley Nicole]

Go ahead, focus.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's starting to feel overwhelming, but I can't tell if this is just normal relationship stuff or it's. Or if I'm overthinking.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Girl, what the mean you can't. What?

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Hold on, hold on, hold on. I don't know how to handle this. And I could really use your advice. Is this something I should be worried about or am I reading into it too much? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

What's her name? Cindy.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Amy.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Amy. There's nothing to think about. There's nothing to consider. You just need to haul ass. He's given all the red flags. He's controlling, he's possessive, he's a narcissist. You don't have time for that. You have to let that go before it gets worse. Because if he's starting off now like that, it's gonna get even worse. Haul ass.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

And don't look back. Burn rubber.

[Ashley Nicole]

I am.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

What do you think, Ash?

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, I mean, she said it all. She really, you know, diagnosed the out of him.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Honestly.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

She did. She let him have it.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

She did.

[Ashley Nicole]

But, you know, I think her already having that feeling in her gut, that intuition like you already know. You just looking for somebody to tell you what you already know. Like you already know. If it already feels off, it's off. It's not right for you. If it doesn't feel comfortable, girl, run. Just.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

There's no point in saying social media.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Early eight months in. I just think he's got something going on. So that's becoming like. Let me see what she got going on. Just. Just because I'm doing the Most.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

It's controlling 100 and, you know, behind.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

That's a lot of.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

When you have controlling, there's more things behind you. It's a domino effect. If you control, you do this. If you do this, you got a quick temper. If you got a quick temper.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yes.

[Ashley Nicole]

And then if you give into that one thing, then it's going to be something else next week that he's gonna want and control and she can't even be herself.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

So Amy.

[Ashley Nicole]

Amy. Holl ass. Get the on.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Yeah. Yeah. Not. Not good.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah. Find another Dallas man.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Yes. There's plenty of them out there.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It is. It is.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah, girl. Hope this helps. Hope we answered your question. Thank you for submitting.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Thank you so much.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Ashley feel bad for you. You hear how she talking? Yeah. It's not.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It's not.

[Ashley Nicole]

Sorry, sis. It's not looking good for you. It ain't. It ain't. Let him go.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

Boo.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Real red flag that. That's it. We going to pin it. Real red flag.

[Ashley Nicole]

Yeah.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

We thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of humble baddies. I am Cherelle Rado.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

I'm Alexis St.

[Ashley Nicole]

Ashley Nicole.

[Sherrelle Rosado]

Make sure you guys subscribe. Follow us on Instagram, YouTube. We'll be back. Until next time.

[Alexis Stoudemire]

It.