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Matt
Hi, I'm Matt.
Leah
And I'm Leah and we're from the Grown Up Stuff Podcast.
Lisa Green Lewis
And just in time for tax season, on this week's episode, we're chatting with CPA Lisa Green Lewis about how small businesses can tackle their taxes using TurboTax Business.
Matt
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Shirelle Rosado
And 17% of Gen Zers believed that you could write off any expense as a business expense.
Matt
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Lisa Green Lewis
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Leah
Y'all back from the motherland?
Shirelle Rosado
Yes, girl, I didn't want to come back.
Matt
Don't ask me about my hair, okay? If it look like it's mine, it's mine.
Shirelle Rosado
Are they gonna be long distance?
Matt
You saying? Yeah, it's gonna Be long distance.
Leah
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Shirelle Rosado
I get in my weight never out.
Leah
Of my lane Feel like you the.
Shirelle Rosado
One in the morning so what it's.
Matt
Gonna be Baby squatter? We finna go deep Riding on a.
Shirelle Rosado
Team Got what you need, Baby won' company Give me something to do when I get lonely I got something for you when we get home if you.
Matt
Let me put it down when I.
Shirelle Rosado
Hit the town what's up, guys? We are back with another episode of Humble Baddies. I'm Shirelle Rosado.
Matt
I'm Ashley Nicole.
Leah
And I'm Alexis Stoudemire.
Shirelle Rosado
And we are the Humble Baddies.
Leah
What's up, y'all? Y'all back from the motherland?
Matt
Yes.
Shirelle Rosado
Girl, I didn't want to come back.
Matt
We missed you, Lex. We missed you so much.
Leah
You know, I was celebrating my 42nd lap around the sun.
Matt
Who belated?
Leah
Thank you so much.
Shirelle Rosado
Happy birthday. Happy birthday.
Leah
Thank you. Thank you. It's Pisces season, so shout out to my fellow Pisces out there.
Matt
So you had a good time? You were in the nyc?
Leah
I did. It's cool to be back, like, full circle. I go often, and the fact that my youngest was born there and there's lots of footsteps there in New York, in the big city.
Shirelle Rosado
Y'all spent a lot of time there?
Leah
Yeah, yeah, we did. You know, it was an investment. And, you know, if they say if you can make it New York, you can make it anywhere. So the fact that our family thrive there, they still thrive. We still have a name there. And, you know, it's just good to see friends that are family that you just haven't seen in a while. And plus, it was a nice change of weather.
Matt
Yeah.
Leah
And the vibes, the people, the.
Matt
Was it snowing?
Leah
No, no snow. No snow. But it was chilly. Just a little chilly, you know, which I like. A little brisk.
Matt
Okay. But we was in the opposite. We was in Africa.
Leah
So tell me, I mean, are y'all jet lag, like, list jet lagged?
Matt
I'm tired.
Shirelle Rosado
Tired. We was partying.
Matt
This one had me outside every day. Every day, all night until the sun came up.
Shirelle Rosado
Wait, it wasn't us. It was the promoters and it was Legos.
Matt
Listen, okay.
Shirelle Rosado
I had a party.
Leah
I. Let me write some notes about Legos.
Shirelle Rosado
I'mma tell you what you need in your packing kit when you go there.
Leah
Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
You going to need IV hydration packet.
Matt
Yeah.
Shirelle Rosado
Because there's no sleep. You're going to have to charge up before you leave.
Leah
Yeah.
Shirelle Rosado
And just go with the flow.
Leah
So it's not a, A relaxation vacation.
Matt
No, I live coffee and champagne.
Shirelle Rosado
Like, oh, we were urinating the whole time. But you know what? Shout out to everybody in Legos. Everybody in Ghana. Y'all took showed out great care of us. Y'all really showed out. Like, we're gonna. Hopefully we can upload some clips. We got some clips of us. Like, when I tell you the hospitality there was top tier. It was top tier. They showed us so much love.
Matt
They were hosting dinners and I mean, they really laid out the red carpet. Like, it was very much coming to Africa, like coming to America, but it was like coming to Africa.
Leah
Really. Tell me more, tell me more. We just thought you loved it.
Matt
Yes. So we went to Lagos and then we also went to Accra in Ghana. And I just loved Ghana. Like, for me, I want to spend more time in Ghana.
Shirelle Rosado
Well, we are going to be spending more time. We do have some exciting news. Allure Realty has partnered with a big development company over there and we're actually going to go over there soon.
Matt
So it wasn't all play.
Shirelle Rosado
Yeah, it was work, too.
Matt
We definitely had some business meetings. We definitely going to get into the real estate business over there. There's a lot of new developments happening out there and Allure is going to be a part of it.
Leah
I, I hear there are great business opportunities in the motherland, especially Ghana and Nigeria. People are coming back.
Matt
I think we all should invest. Black people, we should definitely invest.
Leah
Our price points. Pretty reasonable to where you.
Matt
Yes, absolutely.
Shirelle Rosado
Really amazing. The, the units that we're partnering with, they're starting out at 84,000 and they have a great ROI. ROI, which you.
Leah
English. For those that don't know, return on investment. Okay.
Matt
Yes. So, yeah, I mean, we're, we're here to educate and, you know, let everybody know. You know, I know a lot of people don't know about, you know, investing. Investing in real estate and investing in a whole nother continent, let alone another country. So we're here. You know, send us an email if you have questions and we would love to help, you know, set that up.
Shirelle Rosado
Yes. I love another great thing that I loved about Africa, for us to go over there and you don't have to walk on eggshells. You don't have to be a yes man or like, you walk in it. It's. It's generational wealth over there. Like, you got powerful as black men, powerful as black women over there. Just killing. Like, it was just so beautiful to See, it was very kings and queens running shit.
Leah
Well, we're basically not the minority, period.
Matt
Not basically. We aren't, you know. Yes.
Leah
Yeah.
Matt
It was a beautiful thing to see.
Leah
I love that. How was the food?
Matt
The food was amazing.
Shirelle Rosado
Yes, it was amazing.
Matt
The food was amazing. We went and got a massage at a waterfall. I don't know if I was supposed to say. I don't know if I was supposed to say that.
Shirelle Rosado
Why not? We're not gonna talk about that.
Leah
Why not?
Shirelle Rosado
Why not?
Matt
It was beautiful.
Leah
You're in nature, you're getting massages, rest and relaxation. I mean, why not?
Matt
It was a little different. It was a little.
Leah
What was it different, Ash? Why was it different?
Matt
The men in Ghana are very beautiful. I'm just.
Shirelle Rosado
The skin.
Matt
Yes. And the big muscles.
Leah
And this is who was doing the massaging or just in general? I just wanted my mic a little closer.
Matt
We're talking about the massages, but in general.
Shirelle Rosado
Yeah.
Matt
Yeah. They're beautiful people.
Leah
Yes.
Matt
Beautiful country, beautiful people. Yeah.
Leah
So everyone was warm with you guys? I'm just warm and very catering.
Matt
Yeah. Everybody wanted to make sure, like, we had a great time and we did.
Leah
Well, Ash, did you. You did say the last episode that you were looking for, you know, a prince. Okay, I want to know. The people do want to know. Was there so many connections out there.
Matt
I am the matchmaker.
Leah
But yes, we know that the Nigerian.
Matt
Men are very aggressive. I mean, we knew this already, but nah, they walked up to my friends, my single friends, and was like, I want your number. Give me your number.
Leah
So no conversation? No, none of that. It was more just very.
Matt
It was very straight to the point. It was very straight.
Shirelle Rosado
They're very direct, assertive man.
Leah
Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
But did I give out my number?
Matt
Did you?
Leah
Did you?
Shirelle Rosado
I didn't.
Leah
There was no one. That piqued your interest? No.
Shirelle Rosado
Okay.
Matt
Okay. Well. Okay, we'll have to go back because I said we had a mission.
Shirelle Rosado
Yeah, Ashley did say that.
Leah
Okay.
Matt
Clearly.
Leah
Well, that was. That was good. At least I see we see at least you went and, like, sprinkled a little essence there.
Matt
We'll be back. So it's fine.
Leah
Yeah. And I'll go this time.
Shirelle Rosado
Are you going to go with us for real?
Leah
I will.
Shirelle Rosado
Okay.
Leah
It was just a little conflict of interest with my birthday. You know, it's.
Shirelle Rosado
Maybe you might not want to come back. You want to be.
Matt
You want to be there for your birthday?
Shirelle Rosado
Yeah. You want to be there. You want to be over there for your birthday.
Leah
So next year.
Matt
Next year, let's make it happen over there.
Leah
I love that for you all, though. I love that.
Shirelle Rosado
So much fun. Like, yeah. And I was telling Ashley and everyone, like, I did the ancestry DNA and I found out, like, it does a breakdown. I'm 26% Nigerian.
Leah
Yeah. I love that.
Matt
She's a Niger queen.
Leah
I love that.
Shirelle Rosado
It's beautiful. But you're gonna love it.
Leah
Yeah, I can't wait. I can't wait. So.
Matt
Yeah, I need a break, though. I'm tired.
Shirelle Rosado
Okay, but you about to go back on vacation.
Matt
I know. I got one more trip with the kids. I got, you know, I owe the kids.
Leah
It is just a lot.
Matt
So I gotta take the kids on a little spring break trip.
Leah
Yeah.
Matt
And then I'm sitting my ass down because I'm a fucking die.
Leah
Yeah.
Shirelle Rosado
I got to take mine too. They don't start spring break until two more weeks from now.
Leah
So this is the first year that I have. Three of my babies are. They're just. It's three different schedules, so nobody's going on a group trip. It'll be more individualized because they're overlapping one's. One's on spring break now. Then I have Assata coming in next weekend, then she's a good week, and then after that are the boys. So it's just all over the place. So all of March is spring break. Somebody's on spring break.
Shirelle Rosado
Well, that's amazing.
Matt
That is. It's a blessing, right?
Leah
It is.
Matt
Children are a blessing. They wearing me out, though.
Shirelle Rosado
They are.
Leah
It's never a dull moment with them. Because on spring break, do you feel like you have to put them in activities, keep them busy, or is that a time for everyone to rest?
Shirelle Rosado
You got to keep them busy.
Matt
I feel like I'm always trying to keep them busy, but I feel like for spring break, it is a time for us to, like, do something different. Like get together, do something different, get out the house, you know, go on a trip, something. Even if it's not like far. Just get them out of their environment.
Leah
Yeah.
Shirelle Rosado
Show them something different. I feel like, you know, I can speak on myself, me growing up as a child, I wasn't able to travel the world. So just showing them the world, giving them an experience that I didn't have. Yeah, I love that. It's better than just giving them money or paying for their time or putting them in a summer camp. Like, let's go, let's go. Let me show you the world.
Matt
That's beautiful.
Leah
It's hands on, hands on education. You just cannot get that back in those core memories that they'll take forever. It is. It's amazing to always travel with your children.
Shirelle Rosado
But Chad, he reached out to me, you know, we're still nothing like that, but we still are a family at the end of the day. And he was like, have the baby ready. So Serenity's getting her hair done and the sisters are shopping, taking all his girls on a trip. A daddy daughter, spring break. So Serenity and her sisters with their dad leaves tomorrow to go to Dominican Republic. I was like, okay, look at passports. You wanted to make it a competition, you take them to doctor. I'm taking the girls to Dubai. Oh, damn.
Leah
Big jump.
Shirelle Rosado
So Sade and Ariana both graduate in May, so their trip for me will be going to Dubai.
Leah
That would be fun.
Shirelle Rosado
All the girls, the older girls.
Leah
Yeah, I love that. Now, now when you travel, are the kids in first class?
Shirelle Rosado
Oh, no, baby, they going to be in economy. But mama go be in first class. Mama gonna be at the head and they can be at the tail.
Leah
Yeah.
Matt
Do your kids travel first class too?
Leah
They got kicked out a long time ago. Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
They don't drink liquor.
Leah
They don't drink the liquor, they don't eat the food. And I mean, it's funn. They were like, why are you in first? I'm like, wait, what? Especially the boys. When they met me in Japan, they were like, it was so tight in the back. I was like, look, I don't know what to tell you, you know, and.
Matt
They'Re old enough now, like, they don't need to be like, right. Sitting right next to each other.
Leah
Exactly.
Shirelle Rosado
First class. I was 30 years old.
Matt
Exactly.
Shirelle Rosado
Like, no, it's a privilege. Yes. Y'all gotta work for this.
Leah
It's a privilege.
Shirelle Rosado
I'm gonna make sure y'all get there.
Leah
Yes, yes.
Shirelle Rosado
Y'all may be in the back of the plane, but y'all gotta work for this.
Leah
And you're right, I don't have to be under them. They're all self efficient. All the iPads are charged, the phones are charged, they sleep, they can watch whatever they want.
Shirelle Rosado
Okay. Nobody steal them.
Leah
We all in the same spot.
Matt
Yes.
Leah
So, like, what do you guys think of travel etiquette? I know, speaking of, like, traveling and these airplanes, it's real scary. Right now is a real thing, you know, travel etiquette is a big thing.
Matt
We might need to start teaching some lessons on the travel.
Shirelle Rosado
But did y'all see. And I felt like that happened to me where I seen a. A news article where the plane had to Turn around. Because the guy was excessively farting.
Matt
That is the same. How much do you have to be farting for them to turn the damn plane around?
Leah
Enough to where you people are getting.
Shirelle Rosado
Sick from the smell.
Leah
That's horrible.
Matt
That's awful.
Leah
That's awful.
Matt
Now I have let out a fart or two in the plane. Okay?
Shirelle Rosado
Oh, Ashley, I'm sorry, but we family.
Matt
What I did.
Shirelle Rosado
You remember when I was texting you and Martini, I was like, oh, y'all, I got gas. It was a food.
Leah
So we was on the plane. You. Well, you noticed on the altitude.
Shirelle Rosado
I had. I had the bubbly.
Matt
Listen, I had the blanket seal.
Shirelle Rosado
Cuz I was like, oh, my stomach is.
Leah
Where can you have to let it out sometimes.
Matt
You taking malaria pills? The malaria pills be making my stomach.
Leah
You're eating at weird times. The jet lags.
Matt
Turn the plane around. That is something.
Leah
So you let one out, Cherelle.
Matt
I had.
Shirelle Rosado
They was the silent ones, too. I was like, oh, my God, give.
Matt
Me the silent killers you got.
Leah
But no one, no. I think everybody just had to make that look like it's not bad.
Matt
I think everybody's afforded one good little. You know what I'm saying?
Leah
Cause that's a long flight. That's a long flight.
Shirelle Rosado
It is a long flight.
Matt
That's right.
Shirelle Rosado
I remember when Chad and I used to be on the plane. And it was one time where I had bad gas. And the people was looking at Chad, rolling his eyes.
Matt
Cause they're not gonna think that it's the woman.
Shirelle Rosado
And I look at her, she's so.
Matt
Cut, but she stank.
Shirelle Rosado
I'm looking at her too.
Leah
I'm like, that's funny. It's that. It's. That is the farting to me. It's when people take their shoes off and their feet smell.
Matt
Oh, yeah, that's nasty.
Leah
I was sitting next to a guy going from, like, cross country, and it's already a long flight. And we were on those in those kind of like the pods to where it was two. So right next. So I was like. He was. And as long where you want to rest. Because if it's like, most likely if it's a red eye, you say something to him. I. So at first, I would have said something.
Matt
At first I was like, you gonna make me sick.
Leah
I was like, is it. It has to be him, you know? Cause at first you just. It's just this overwhelming foot odor. Then I looked and I was like, yeah, I think it is. So I was like. I tapped him. I was like, sir, do you mind, like, you know, covering up your feet? And he was like. He looked at me and he was just like. Kind of gave me the shoulder and kind of, like, turned.
Matt
No, he didn't.
Shirelle Rosado
Oh, my God.
Leah
Because I was. But then he did end up covering up his feet with the blanket. Did it help? No. That funk. That funk penetrated that little blanket's feet. It had to be fungus. It had to be something. But I feel like people think they're at home when they're on the plane, and you forget. It's a shared space. And not only is it a shared space, it's a tiny shared space.
Matt
Yeah.
Leah
And you don't pay all this money to sit in, you know, first class to be uncomfortable.
Matt
Yeah.
Leah
It's just not. It's not cool.
Matt
It was a crying baby on my way back from Africa. It was.
Leah
And I. The long leg.
Matt
The long leg.
Leah
That's tough.
Matt
It is tough. Because I remember them days, flying with my babies, and they would be crying, and I was just like, damn, I remember them days. But I feel like you should always be, like, the type of person. Cause I will never forget this. There was this one flight. My baby was crying, crying, crying. And this old white man was like, let me help you. Let me help you with your baby. And I was like, no.
Leah
Like, I got it.
Shirelle Rosado
Cause you're just like strangers.
Matt
I got my baby. I'm good. And he was like, just let me help you. And I was like, no, no, no, no, I'm good. And then my baby just kept crying. Kept crying. So finally he just took. He didn't say nothing to me. He just grabbed him. And when I tell you, my baby, he just. This was Phillip when he was little. He just stopped crying just like that. And went to sleep in that man's arm. And I looked at that man, I was like, oh, my God. Like, thank you so much. I almost started crying. Cause I really was having, like, a hard overwhelm.
Shirelle Rosado
Cause you try to. You like, oh, what? People looking at you.
Matt
So I always feel like people should remember, like, you know, the mom is probably going through it right now. Like, I always look for, like, the moms who, like, need a helping hand with their strollers and, like. Cause they got so much going on where you're traveling.
Leah
We've been there.
Matt
It's a lot, you know? But in that moment in Africa, for a second, I was like, I just.
Shirelle Rosado
Wanna go to sleep.
Leah
Of course.
Matt
And then I had to be like, bitch, you remember? That used to be you.
Leah
That used to be you.
Matt
So don't forget. And I was like, okay, just put your headphones in, girl. Just put your headphones in and go to sleep.
Leah
Let's do what I do.
Shirelle Rosado
Ashley, we're gonna make. Create. We're gonna help Ashley create a headphones. The whole time we was in Africa, Ash, cuz the music is loud. Ashley had the earplugs.
Matt
Earplugs? Yes. Cuz I have sensitive ears, so it.
Leah
It's like heightened.
Matt
It's too loud for me in the.
Leah
I'm old.
Shirelle Rosado
You're not old.
Matt
Okay, well, I don't know, but I do not. I can't do the loud noises in the club. So if you ever see me in the club with something in my ear, just ignore it.
Leah
And it was super loud. Yeah.
Matt
So what I do, if I don't have my. If I don't have my earplugs, I will get a tissue and then I like get a little piece and I ball it up in my hand, I put it in my mouth so it can get a little wet, and then I roll it up in my hand and then I stuff them in my ears and it makes she hear better. If you try to talk to me in the club with nothing in my ear, I can't hear you. But as soon as I put them in, I can hear you. I can't hear what like so much loud debates are doing. And I know people be looking at me like I'm crazy. And I know it's annoying, but I gotta do it.
Shirelle Rosado
So Ashley come out with her own line of earplugs.
Matt
Yeah, y'all better say y'all gonna be thanking me when y'all older and y'all can hear. Cause y'all going to the club every night.
Leah
I just can put those maxes on, turn that noise cancellation and just max out.
Lisa Green Lewis
Hi, I'm Matt. And I'm Leah and we're from the.
Leah
Grown Up Stuff podcast.
Lisa Green Lewis
And just in time for tax season, on this week's episode, we're chatting with CPA Lisa Green Lewis about how small businesses can tackle their taxes using TurboTax Business.
Matt
A Forbes study mentioned that a whopping 93% of small businesses overpay their taxes.
Shirelle Rosado
And 17% of Gen Zers believed that.
Matt
You could write off any expense as a business expense.
Leah
So can't blame them.
Shirelle Rosado
It's really important to do your taxes right.
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Shirelle Rosado
Lex I see something different. Boo.
Leah
What? You see different?
Shirelle Rosado
Did you take your locs out?
Leah
I did.
Matt
Oh, my goodness.
Leah
I'm in this hair journey of right now. Well, I would say it's been a. It's been over a year of me having the locs, which I love.
Shirelle Rosado
I love.
Leah
It's something that I didn't know I was missing, you know, like in just my vibe, just my extra, like a little layer. But I'm in the stage of where they are locked. So I was. I'm in a lock reformation phase right now. So it took hours to take out the locs and now I got a deep condition and it had to cover up these grays and I'm getting them all relocked permanently tomorrow.
Shirelle Rosado
Oh, my goodness. Are you going to add extensions or are you just going to use your.
Leah
Yes, I'm going to add the extension. But like, my hair grew so much. I had so much new growth and they've already started locking. So it's just like a big step being 42 and only a week old. Like, so much is going on, you know, where I'm just like, you know, it's time and that's your crown. You know, it's very, very sacred. And so, like, I love how I feel in them. I love my vibes.
Shirelle Rosado
It's sexy.
Leah
Thank you.
Shirelle Rosado
It's so sexy.
Leah
Thank you. Thank you. So it's just my essence right now. And so. So I just wanted to make sure I was doing it the right way, the correct way. And so now I'm locking in, literally. And my boys, my boys had them for years. My oldest just cut his two years ago and then my baby still has them. So I'm just gonna be like them and just rock out.
Matt
One day I wanna lock my hair up too.
Leah
Come on.
Matt
So my whole family can be.
Leah
Yeah, you're right. You're the only ones locked up.
Matt
So one day when I get like, I don't know what age, hopefully I inspire.
Shirelle Rosado
I mean, your hair is so long.
Leah
It's so pretty.
Matt
I'ma lock it though, though.
Leah
You can't.
Matt
Nobody gonna be doing this. When I'm older in age and I.
Leah
Don'T feel like I like it, I go, I Just especially if we're living here in Miami.
Shirelle Rosado
Eventually, I want to cut all my hair off and go short.
Leah
Yeah, you should. It'll grow right back, too. Try it.
Shirelle Rosado
I had short hair before. Like a really cut.
Leah
We need. We need a picture. We need some evidence, because I don't like.
Matt
I got a question. I got a question.
Leah
Sure.
Matt
Okay. So what do you guys feel about men feeling like they have a say, so what their woman does with their hair? Do they. Do you do. Do we need to get permission for them to make a big hair change if we want to do a big chop if we wanna lock up? How do you feel about that?
Shirelle Rosado
I think I say yes. You know what's funny?
Leah
It's like a conversation.
Shirelle Rosado
No. Before we go into this. So I was on a plane coming back from Africa, and this guy was sitting next to me, and we were having a conversation. We was talking about everything. And he was like, is that your real hair? And like, no, I have extensions. And he was looking at it, and he was like, I hate. I hate women who wear the lace front. He. He said, it's okay, but if it. If it looks crazy, I don't like it. And the other thing I don't like is the smell of.
Matt
Not the smell.
Shirelle Rosado
Because, you know, some hair stinks. It has, like a.
Leah
It does have a particular smell, a.
Shirelle Rosado
Horrible smell to it. And I said, I understand where you're coming from. Like, that was his pet peeve. I said, I totally understand where you're coming from because I hate that smell, too. And I hate seeing when the. The lace fronts are just lifting and it ain't done right.
Matt
Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
So I feel you with a. With your man. If they don't like that, I feel like you should take heed to what they're saying. That's just like.
Matt
I don't know. I feel like. Like if he met me with my hair like that and he liked me enough to come and say hello and want to take me out and blah, blah, blah, blah, then I feel like. Then he gotta deal with it. But I feel like if he met me and I was natural and then maybe I switched over, then we could have a conversation about it, but I don't think he necessarily has a say in it. Like, you can let me know. I don't prefer that, but that's fine because I like this.
Leah
So I think that's what I would. I would.
Shirelle Rosado
No, but I feel like. Like what I was taking from your question is, okay, what if you. Okay, your man met you. Met me with A problem.
Matt
But you just met him on the plane. So that's why I was saying that. But what if this is your man.
Shirelle Rosado
And you want to do a big change?
Matt
You going to do a big change?
Leah
Because it has to be a big change. Has to be.
Shirelle Rosado
I would consult with. Hey, bae, I think. I think I'm going to try this. What do you think about it?
Leah
I like that.
Shirelle Rosado
Get their opinion.
Leah
I think that's a good way to approach it. Like, especially, that's your man. You know, y'all have this dialogue. Y'all are friends. You have the conversation. And going off of how he met you, that's what attracted to him, to you in the first place. So what A big change like, that comes sometimes, a life change, too. You know, something could have triggered the haircut. It could have been anything, because it is. It's a moment of your spirituality, your soul switching off because you want to change something. And to your all's point, like, my swag switched up a little bit with the locks and the vibes. So, like, low key. The right partner would have to handle that. You know what I'm saying? If that's the case. But low key. I was talking to one of my friends about it. I was like, what do you think of it, like, you know, if I. He was like, don't cut the locks. He was like, you need to consult your man if you gonna cut them locks off. Cause that shit's dope, like. And I was like, I kind of get that, you know, But I would definitely have that conversation. But I know that's what, like, is part of your vibe or your essence. So it is a part of who you are, you know?
Shirelle Rosado
So how your friend feel about them locks being gone? Temporarily.
Leah
They'll be back tomorrow. Don't worry.
Shirelle Rosado
Did you FaceTime them?
Leah
Not yet. Not yet.
Matt
Well, I mean, but, you know, look.
Shirelle Rosado
Ladies, I'll be talking about your friend. They'd be like, let me go back to this. Somebody coming in and was like, let me go back to this.
Leah
People think they're detectives. You'll never know. You'll never.
Shirelle Rosado
They would never know.
Leah
But we, you know, it's good to have friends, friends everywhere. Guys, you know, let's just say this.
Shirelle Rosado
Lord, every time we talk about that friend that them cheeks get red, that smile get big.
Leah
Can we change the top? What you talking about?
Shirelle Rosado
Hair?
Leah
Okay.
Matt
You brought a friend up. Don't be shy now.
Leah
You should have said a friend, like, you know, but we know what that.
Shirelle Rosado
We know what that mean.
Matt
When you.
Leah
Them locks Gonna be back in tomorrow.
Shirelle Rosado
So you can pull on them real crazy.
Matt
Okay.
Leah
Well, yes.
Matt
I don't know. I'm thinking about, like, if Phil ever cut his locks, because I met him, I've only known him with locks.
Leah
Yeah. It goes both ways. Even with the guys. Can you imagine that?
Matt
No, I cannot.
Leah
Because they have facial hair changes.
Matt
I can't imagine him cutting to grow.
Leah
A beard or not to grow a beard. To go bald or not to be bald or.
Shirelle Rosado
I couldn't see Chad with any hair.
Matt
I can't see him with hair either.
Shirelle Rosado
No.
Leah
Cause, like, can he grow hair?
Shirelle Rosado
He can grow hair.
Leah
I mean, I was. No shade.
Matt
I used to be.
Shirelle Rosado
I used to be his barber.
Leah
Really? So he chooses. He's choosing to be bald.
Shirelle Rosado
He look better bald, too. I don't think he would look right.
Leah
You like bald guys, Sherrelle?
Shirelle Rosado
I mean, I liked when we were together. I liked that bald head man.
Matt
But okay.
Leah
But yeah, so I think it's also for men and women too. I think you should consult if it's a big change.
Matt
Yeah, but I don't like a man asking if my hair is real or not. I feel like that's rude.
Shirelle Rosado
Especially for you as a black woman.
Matt
Exactly. But you felt okay with that man asking you that? What, on a plane, he was like.
Shirelle Rosado
Is this your real hair? I didn't think too much of it. I was like, like, I mean, I got some extensions in here.
Matt
Yeah. I don't like that. But, you know, I'm old school when it come to that. Like, you shouldn't. Back in the day, I'm like, I. Like back in the day when, like, we didn't know what you had going on in your head. But now it's like everybody, it's like a flex to be like, I got that 30 inch bust down, blah, blah, blah.
Shirelle Rosado
Right.
Leah
Because it's an accessory. You know, we've embraced hair culture now. We've embraced locks.
Matt
And I'm not mad at the workplace. I don't know.
Leah
The love journey. Yeah.
Matt
Like, don't worry about it.
Shirelle Rosado
Your hair is beautiful.
Matt
Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about it, sweetheart. Don't worry about it. You know what I'm saying?
Leah
Yeah, yeah, I understand what you're saying.
Matt
Yeah. I don't know. I guess I'm old school, but don't see what I got going on in here. It's nothing I bought. But all y'all want to know, and no, you can't touch it.
Leah
But, you know, you know, especially. Let me just be 100. You know, we prep for a trip for the protection of our hair. So whether it's braids, whether it's a deep condition or something.
Matt
Yeah.
Leah
We gonna switch it up. Up for convenience, you know, So I feel like, you know, they shouldn't be asking. No one should be asking, like, why? You got that? Why are you doing that right now?
Matt
Yeah.
Shirelle Rosado
So Ashley don't like about people asking about her hair.
Matt
Don't ask me about my hair, okay? If it look like it's mine, it's mine, period. Okay? Don't ask me no questions.
Shirelle Rosado
And if you ask me it's mine because I bought it, period.
Leah
And that's that.
Shirelle Rosado
And.
Matt
And Lex. But it locks up.
Leah
And no, you can't touch it. And no, you can't touch it.
Matt
No, you can't touch it, period, Period.
Shirelle Rosado
So do not ask a woman about their hair. No.
Leah
Let her come to you.
Matt
All right, y'all, now it's time for our favorite time. It is the humble baddies mail time. Period. All right, who do we have today? This week's mail is from Dominique.
Leah
Hey, Dominique.
Matt
She says, y'all, I'm stuck. So I'm currently going through a divorce. And guess who else is my high school sweetheart.
Shirelle Rosado
Ooh.
Matt
We recently connected after six years, and the vibes are still there. It's like no time has passed. Now here's the dilemma. We both want to give this a real shot once our divorces are finalized. But he's in the military, which means we will be starting off this relationship long distance. And let me tell you, I hate long distance. But I've loved this man for 12 years. So what do I do? Do I dive in and make it work, or am I setting myself up for heartbreak? Help me out, humble baddies.
Leah
Dominique.
Shirelle Rosado
Dominique. Well, I'm gonna tell you, like this, girl. You are just coming out of a relationship, right?
Leah
Oh, she put the cards down for.
Shirelle Rosado
This because I just. Just got out of a relationship and.
Matt
Well, never mind.
Shirelle Rosado
Go ahead and. What?
Matt
Nothing.
Shirelle Rosado
Say it.
Matt
Uhuh.
Shirelle Rosado
Say it.
Matt
No, I was.
Shirelle Rosado
No, say it.
Matt
Spoke prematurely. Go, go. Okay, okay.
Shirelle Rosado
Listen, honey. Dominique, focus on you. Heal you. Do whatever it is to make sure that you're happy, because what you don't want to do is get into another relationship. I don't know why you guys are ending your relationship, going through a divorce, but you need that healing time, and that's on some serious like, find out what makes you happy. And because you don't want to bring whatever it is from your previous relationship, it had to be Something because y'all are going through a divorce into this new relationship. If he's been your high school sweetheart and you still have feelings, take it slow. Like, you can communicate with him. You still can date him and date others, but find out what it is that you want, because it may seem like it's happy and butterflies right now.
Leah
But it can be just the honeymoon stage. Right?
Shirelle Rosado
Right. It can be something to, like, a temporary void. So you don't want to make. You want to make sure it's not that temporary void. So focus on you. Do you date a little bit, and then we'll see where it leads to. That's my opinion.
Leah
I agree and disagree. Y'all know I'm the hopeless romantic. Um, I feel being being a divorcee, I feel like people do have an expiration date. And I also believe in Define divine timing. I agree with you saying you need to heal, and you also need to focus on yourself, because that's one thing they do have in common, is one. They are familiar with each other, but it's a different stage in life. They have both been through traumatic events, meaning like a marriage and a divorce and military. Y'all both know how that is. So that can also be taxing on just the mental and just really just an additive of what the healing journey is. So you're adding that. And plus, you're. You're adding still trauma from the previous relationship. If there was infidelity, if there was financial reasons, whatever the cause of divorce between those parties were. So I agree with healing, but I also believe in, again, the timing is perfect in their own way so they can heal together.
Matt
I feel. I like. I like both these answers. I feel like you can't go wrong with any either one of these answers. But I feel like with some of these questions, you know, y'all be knowing the answers, I feel like. Right. And y'all just be wanting to code.
Shirelle Rosado
So you still married? Girl, we don't been married. Divorce.
Leah
I done been married.
Shirelle Rosado
Divorced.
Matt
Like, it's like y'all be knowing what to do.
Leah
We have some life.
Matt
Look, this is my husband calling out.
Leah
See, we have some life experience, you know, in that way.
Matt
So, yes, I'm filming mama at work.
Shirelle Rosado
Phil, we filming.
Leah
We filming. We at work. Hey, Phil.
Shirelle Rosado
Phil, answer the question. Have Phil answer the question. Yes.
Matt
Can you answer this question? We have a question from a humble baddie. Can you answer it? The question is, this girl Dominique, she just got a divorce, but she reconnected with her old high school sweetheart after six years.
Leah
They're both going through divorce.
Matt
They're both going through a divorce. And they just rekindled. But he's in the military and they want to get in a relationship, but it's going to be long term because he's in the military. What should she do?
Leah
Long distance.
Shirelle Rosado
Put it. Put it towards the mics. It depends on what are they going.
Leah
To be long distance, you said?
Matt
Yeah, it's going to be long distance.
Leah
I don't know. I don't think that's gonna work.
Matt
Yeah, that's what I said.
Shirelle Rosado
That's what I said.
Matt
I said. They be writing these questions knowing the answer. They just want us to co sign some. That's the answer. Okay, thank you, babe. Love you. I'm gonna call you in about 10 minutes. We're gonna be done. Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
All right.
Matt
Okay, bye. Bye.
Leah
I love that male's perspective.
Shirelle Rosado
Yeah. Yes. You know, it ain't gonna work. It's just gonna work. A temporary healing because they both need to heal.
Leah
I agree.
Shirelle Rosado
And see what they really want. It feels good and it sounds good for the moment.
Matt
It. Yeah, but. But it's not going to work.
Leah
Well, maybe they can heal together.
Matt
Dominique is not going to work.
Shirelle Rosado
Bab.
Leah
Girl, we don't know if it's not going to work. Dominique.
Matt
Dominique, go. And. And.
Leah
But I say date them all.
Shirelle Rosado
I always say date them all, sis. Date them all.
Matt
Do all the.
Leah
He could be top one. But.
Matt
But this ain't it. Just know that. Okay.
Leah
And that's okay.
Shirelle Rosado
It's okay.
Matt
Girl.
Shirelle Rosado
You see me over here glowing and having fun.
Matt
We can't co sign everything.
Leah
All of us.
Matt
Okay.
Leah
Yeah.
Matt
But anyway, thank you for writing us over here at the Humble Baddies.
Leah
Thank you so much.
Matt
We appreciate you and all your questions. If y'all have advice that y'all need, please feel free to write us. As always, thank you for sending in your messages. If you're facing a situation or need advice on something happening in your life, we'd love to hear from you.
Leah
Yes.
Shirelle Rosado
And where can they contact us?
Matt
Send us an email at. Contact humblebaddies.com and we may feature your submission on the show.
Shirelle Rosado
Period.
Matt
So we look forward to hearing from you guys.
Shirelle Rosado
All right, you guys, that is it for another episode of Humble Baddies. Make sure you follow us at Humble Baddies on Instagram. Humble Baddies podcast on Instagram. Subscribe to us on YouTube. Humble Betty's podcast on all platforms.
Matt
Say your Snapchat, y'all. We've been trying to get our Snapchats.
Leah
Oh, I need to get mine going.
Shirelle Rosado
Yes.
Matt
Don't forget. There you go. It's that chat that. Okay.
Shirelle Rosado
And then you can also follow me at Charelle Rosado Underscore on Instagram on my Snapchat. Cherelle Rado. Make sure y'all follow me because I'll be putting some tea on that and on my Twitter, Cherelle Rosado Underscore, period.
Matt
Okay, so you can find me at Ashley Nicole on Instagram, on snap. I'm ash3nicole, and I think I'm Ashley Nicole on Twitter. But I. I ain't mastered Twitter yet. Y'all gotta work with me on that one one.
Leah
And you can find me just on Instagram. That's where I'm at. Come see me Alexis St. And then I'll be on Snap with them. And then I'll have some good tea on there. That'll go away in 24 hours. Why not?
Matt
All right, y'all, thank you so much for tuning in to Humble Baddies. We'll see you next time. Love you.
Shirelle Rosado
We Love y'all.
Matt
It's.
Shirelle Rosado
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Leah
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Leah
That is, until a cheating husband and.
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Gates and behind closed doors where scandal, romance, betrayal, passion, secrets and revenge await. CBS Daytime is about to get soapier.
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Podcast Summary: Club Shay Shay
Episode: Turning up in Nigeria, travel etiquette, should men comment on women's hair? | Humble Baddies
Release Date: March 7, 2025
Introduction
In this engaging episode of Club Shay Shay, hosts Matt, Leah, and Shirelle Rosado of the Humble Baddies podcast dive into a vibrant discussion covering their recent travels to Nigeria, the intricacies of travel etiquette, and the dynamics of men commenting on women's hairstyles. The conversation is peppered with personal anecdotes, professional insights, and relatable humor, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in lifestyle, travel, and relationship dynamics.
1. Exploring Nigeria and Ghana: Business Meets Leisure
The episode kicks off with the hosts sharing their exhilarating experience in Nigeria and Ghana. Shirelle Rosado emphasizes the warmth and hospitality they received, highlighting the rich culture and the burgeoning business opportunities in the region.
Matt discusses their visit to Lagos and Accra, expressing a keen interest in Ghana's real estate market.
The team reveals that Allure Realty has partnered with a major development company in Ghana, signaling future investments and projects that aim to foster generational wealth within the Black community.
2. Balancing Family and Travel: Spring Break Adventures
Transitioning to family dynamics, the hosts discuss managing spring break with their children. Shirelle shares her upcoming trip to Dubai with her daughters, while Matt talks about planning a spring break getaway with his kids.
Leah highlights the challenges of coordinating multiple schedules, ensuring each child gets quality time during their respective breaks.
3. Navigating Travel Etiquette: Airplane Anecdotes
The conversation shifts to the often-overlooked aspect of travel etiquette, with the hosts recounting humorous yet relatable experiences on airplanes. They discuss the discomforts of long flights, from dealing with noisy neighbors to managing personal discomforts.
Shirelle shares a story about dealing with a plane incident involving excessive gas, leading to a plane turnaround.
Leah adds her perspective on addressing personal discomforts respectfully, emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure in shared spaces.
4. The Hair Conundrum: Autonomy and Respect in Relationships
A significant portion of the episode delves into the sensitive topic of hair and personal autonomy. The hosts debate whether men should have a say in their partner's hairstyles, especially when considering major changes like locking or cutting hair.
Shirelle recounts a conversation with a man who expressed dislike for certain hairstyles, prompting a discussion on respecting individual choices.
Leah offers a balanced view, acknowledging the importance of personal expression while also recognizing the dynamics within relationships.
The consensus among the hosts leans towards open communication and mutual respect, emphasizing that personal hairstyle choices should be autonomous and free from unsolicited commentary.
5. Listener Mail: Navigating Reignited Relationships Amidst Divorce
In the beloved Humble Baddies Mail Time, the hosts address a listener named Dominique, who is grappling with rekindling a relationship with her high school sweetheart amidst ongoing divorces and the prospect of a long-distance relationship due to his military commitments.
Shirelle offers heartfelt advice focusing on self-healing and cautious optimism.
Leah, embracing her role as the hopeless romantic, encourages Dominique to consider the potential for healing together, while also acknowledging the challenges posed by simultaneous divorces and military separation.
Matt concurs, emphasizing practical considerations about long-distance relationships.
The hosts conclude that while rekindling old relationships can be healing, it's crucial to ensure that both parties are genuinely ready and that the relationship isn't merely filling a void from past wounds.
Conclusion
This episode of Club Shay Shay offers a blend of personal stories, professional insights, and candid discussions on relevant topics like international business ventures, family travel dynamics, travel etiquette, and the delicate balance of personal autonomy within relationships. The Humble Baddies hosts provide a relatable and thoughtful exploration of these subjects, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own experiences and choices.
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