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A (0:00)
So I skimmed this question, but any other, any other context you want to give me?
B (0:07)
No, it's just kind of a champagne problem, I think, where it's just like the system works. It's just, you know what I mean? The hypothesis has improved and I'm sitting here just like, dude, the thing I'm most worried about is that if I actually open the floodgates, I'm not going to be able to handle, you know what I mean? And I guess I don't have enough confidence to like, just see what happens and then I'll take it as it comes because I've got a nine to five and you know what I mean, like, time is precious. I have a four year old and a nine month old and so there's just a lot going on. And so I'm writing a lot of step CECs because a lot of these coaches and thought leaders I've been working with have these huge complex, like, systems that they're essentially asking me to break down into five steps and to give a taste so that when someone wants to jump on a discovery call with them, they can then pitch them on their, you know, 10 grand, whatever it might be. So I just find myself, and I know this stems from like a perfectionist streak, but just going back and forth and, you know, like rewriting this and trying to like, wait, is this better? And then listening to another piece of material and going, oh my God, I need to scrap this and go back and do this. And this has happened a few times now to where I recognize this is kind of like a pattern. And this is probably a me issue. And I'm like, I don't know how Cole and these other dudes, Daniel Bustamante and Matthew Brent. I want to be Matthew Brown when I grow up, by the way. And, you know, like, just how do these guys, are they so prolific with their writing? You know, like, how do you crank out four EECs a month? It's like I can barely do, you know, one and I'm just like, kind of. So I'm in this place where it's like, I think this is kind of a mindset issue. And you know, the, the joke that I put at the top of my thing where it's just like, oh my God, came in for the writing, you know, the frameworks and all this, like, you know, technical stuff. And I ended up staying because it's the sales and the mindset stuff that has been the most revealing. And that's really open, like, you know, a new orbit in my brain. So that was my. Expressing my gratitude and thanks for that. But I realized, I think this is more of a, A me issue. And I wanted to just ask you if you could, like, coach me through. I, I'm sure you've been through and, and had other, you know, students and, you know, people that had my issue, but any advice that you'd give in terms of just being able to crank these out faster would be greatly helpful. That's just kind of the general context. But if you have any other specifics, questions.
A (2:33)
So, yeah, totally get it. I'm, I, I'm hearing two different questions and, and we can speak to both. Both. One question is more on the, the hard skill side, the tactical side. How in a very literal sense can I produce these faster? On the other side is more of. And I, I'm use, I'm going to use this word, but I don't mean it with the connotation that is normally associated with it. On the more emotional side, which is more of a. And these are all the things that I'm navigating as I try and figure out and build that hard skill. So also we'll start with the emotional side. Something that I've been thinking about a lot lately is how much. And I believe this is true for everything, but I think it is extremely true and very revealing. Whenever you are trying to do something entrepreneurial, for everyone here, you are doing something entrepreneurial. Whenever you are working with other people in any capacity, it is entrepreneurial. There are degrees of entrepreneurial, but you are doing something that is entrepreneurial. When you are doing something that is entrepreneurial, more and more, I feel like one of the top three, maybe even the number one skill to build is managing your own psychology. And I think people don't think of their own psychology or don't think of their own emotional state as a skill. They think of it as something that is immovable. It's static. It just is. They're like, today I feel this way and tomorrow I feel this way and there's nothing I can do about it. That's just how I feel, right? Or like, I feel anxious, I don't feel anxious, or I'm confident, or I'm not confident. You know, I'm a perfectionist or I'm not a perfectionist. And they assume it is an unchangeable state. And one of the biggest lessons that I've learned over the past decade is that managing your own psychology is not a static state. It is a skill. And so what I mean by it being a Skill is that when something comes up, when you're confronted with some sort of obstacle or challenge, if you're not aware of the fact that it is a skill, it is very easy to be confronted by something and go, this is hard. This is difficult. I don't know what this means. I don't know what this means for my identity. Am I good? How do other people do it? Now I'm comparing myself to other people. When that starts to happen, that means in a very objective way, that you don't have the skill built yet to talk yourself off the ledge and be like, none of those things are true. None of those things have to be true. Right. What if we just take a more objective lens to it? So I want to just share that. And you should take that. Everyone here should take that as very empowering. You actually do have control over these things. You might not have perfect control over it in the beginning, but this is something that you can build. Right? Dickie and I talk about this all the time. We have months where it's like, that was our best month ever. And then the next month it's like, that's our worst month ever. If you don't have the skill to manage your psychology through that, the first month you're going to think you're a genius, and the second month you're going to be like, well, I guess I got to sell all my possessions and it's all over and my life was a disaster. Right. But neither one of those extremes are true. So that's. That's sort of on the. The emotional side. And what I would recommend is just becoming more aware of how often that happens, because the more that you are aware of it, then the more that you can start to build the skill there. Does that. Does that make sense?
