Podcast
Command the Room Coaching
Hosted by Command the Room Coaching LLC · EN
Command the Room Coaching helps emerging leaders and career changers build the confidence, clarity, and modern leadership skills needed to stand out - in interviews, in their careers, and in life.
Hosted by Trey, a fire service battalion chief and leadership coach, and Allie, a career and leadership coach with over a decade of experience helping professionals pivot and grow, this podcast blends straight talk, practical tools, and personal stories that cut through the noise.
If you’re ready for real conversations about leadership, career transitions, and personal growth - without the buzzwords - you’re in the right place. Expect honest insights, humor, and strategies that help you command the room, wherever that room may be.
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E16: The Resume Mistake That Makes You Sound Generic
5d ago00:18:09Tap to summarizeMost people think the goal is to have a strong resume. It is not. The goal is to get hired. In this episode of the Command the Room Coaching Podcast, we talk about why that distinction matters, why resume writers are not always the answer, and how job seekers can end up dependent on a process they never learned to do themselves. We also cover tailoring your resume to the job description, translating specialized experience for a broader audience, and why your materials need to sound like you. If you want to stop chasing a prettier document and start building a stronger job search strategy, this episode will give you a better way to think about it.Ready to stop chasing a prettier resume and start building a smarter strategy? Head to commandtheroomcoaching.net to explore our coaching services, upcoming workshops, and ways we can help.
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Bonus Episode: Trey's Guest Spot of "The Junto Podcast"
2w ago01:29:56Tap to summarizeThis bonus episode is a little different. I recently joined Edgar Mills on his podcast, The Junto Podcast, for a wide-ranging conversation on leadership, preparedness, and why polished is not the same as credible.We talk about the difference between vigilance and paranoia, why strong leaders think through contingencies before things go sideways, and how after-action reviews help teams learn from mistakes instead of repeating them. We also get into authenticity, independent thinking, and the trap of believing you have finally “arrived.”Not a typical Command the Room Coaching episode, but very much in line with what we care about here: clear thinking, honest leadership, and getting better over time.Check out the Junto Podcast for more great insight from Edgar. Links to all the cool stuff he does below.https://2teamguys.com/https://ospreyshootingsolutions.com/
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E15: How to Lead When Your Day Keeps Getting Hijacked
3w ago00:53:50Tap to summarizeGreat leaders do not just solve the obvious problem in front of them. They notice the small signals early, ask better questions, and act before a minor issue becomes a major one.In this episode of Command the Room Coaching Podcast, we break down how strong leaders recognize patterns, avoid getting pulled into constant reaction mode, and build teams that speak up before problems escalate. We also talk about the difference between being thoughtful and being paranoid, why after-action reviews matter, and how to create pause points that lead to better decisions.If you are a new leader, growing manager, or mid-career professional trying to lead with more confidence, this episode will help you think further ahead and respond with more clarity.
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Apr 1800:36:51Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we unpack toxic positivity and why the pressure to stay upbeat can do more harm than good. We share personal experiences, talk about how forced optimism can make people feel dismissed, and look at what real support sounds like when life is actually hard.If you’ve ever been told to just stay positive when you needed real support, share this episode with someone who’ll get it. Follow the show, leave a rating or review, and let us know where you’ve seen toxic positivity show up in your life.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content.
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E13: Not Everyone Should Be a Leader
Apr 400:40:41Tap to summarizeIs leadership something anyone can grow into, or are some people just not built for it? Allie starts off skeptical, and I push back. We get into the difference between formal leadership roles and informal influence, the five bases of power, and why some people are better at earning trust, buy-in, and followership. We also dig into the nature vs. nurture debate and ask a harder question than most people want to answer: should everyone lead?Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who is struggling to find their leadership lane.
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E12: No ‘Yes-Men’ Allowed: How We Build Better Teams
Mar 2100:34:38Tap to summarizeBuilding a great team is not about finding people who think exactly like you. In this episode, Allie and I break down what we actually look for when building teams, why different perspectives matter, and how groupthink can quietly weaken decision-making. We talk about the danger of yes-men, why personality balance matters more than most people realize, and why having a class clown on the team is usually a bigger asset than people think. This is a conversation about building teams that are smarter, sharper, and a lot more effective because of their differences, not in spite of them.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who is in the process of building their dream team.
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E11: Why You Keep Getting Passed Over
Mar 700:33:22Tap to summarizeGetting rejected for a job or promotion hits harder than most people admit. It messes with your confidence, your identity, and sometimes your entire career plan.In this episode, we talk honestly about what it feels like to lose out on roles you thought you had in the bag. We share personal stories of rejection, missed promotions, and decisions that did not go our way - and what we learned from them.We break down how to respond professionally after rejection, how long to sit with the disappointment before moving on, and how to tell the difference between bad luck and a real pattern. We also dig into when repeated rejection is a signal that something needs to change, whether that is your resume, interview approach, or how you are positioning yourself.This is not about staying positive or manifesting the next opportunity. It is about using rejection as data, tightening your strategy, and moving forward with clarity instead of resentment.If you are stuck replaying a recent "no" or wondering why it keeps happening, this episode is for you.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who just got a rejection email.
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E10: How to Receive Feedback Without Getting Defensive
Feb 2100:22:38Tap to summarizeMost people say they want feedback. Far fewer are actually good at receiving it.In this episode, Trey reacts to reading Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen, sharing the ideas that hit closest to home both as a leader who gives feedback and as someone who has struggled to hear it without getting defensive.We talk about why feedback often feels personal even when it is not, how intent and impact get confused, and why the hardest feedback to hear is often the most useful. Trey reflects on moments where he dismissed feedback too quickly, misunderstood the message, or focused on delivery instead of substance, and what changed once he slowed down and got curious.This episode is not about becoming passive or accepting bad feedback at face value. It is about learning how to extract value from imperfect feedback, recognize your own blind spots, and respond in ways that actually help you grow.If feedback has ever made you shut down, push back, or quietly resent the person giving it, this episode will challenge how you think about it.Subscribe to the podcast so you do not miss future episodes on leadership and professional growth, and share this episode with a leader or teammate who struggles with feedback.commandtheroomcoaching.net
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E9: Work-Life Balance Depends on the Season You're In
Feb 700:30:56Tap to summarizeWork-life balance is often treated as a fixed ideal, but real careers don’t work that way.In this episode, we unpack why balance looks different depending on the season of life you're in and why trying to copy someone else's version of balance usually leads to frustration or burnout. We talk through how responsibilities, energy, and priorities shift over time and how those shifts require different tradeoffs, not better time management.This conversation reframes balance as an ongoing reassessment rather than a destination. If you've felt like you're constantly falling short of an invisible standard, this episode offers a more realistic and sustainable way to think about work, life, and leadership.Subscribe and leave a review if you want us to keep tackling uncomfortable career topics honestly. And visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content.
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E8: How to Leave a Role Without Burning Bridges
Jan 2400:32:40Tap to summarizeQuitting a job isn't just about deciding to leave, it's about how you leave. In this episode, we focus on the mechanics of a professional exit: timing your departure, lining up your next move, and protecting your reputation in the process.We talk through why leaving without a plan often creates unnecessary risk, how to communicate your decision clearly and calmly, and what leaders and employers remember long after you're gone. Trey also shares a personal story about leaving a role that no longer aligned with his values - and why how he left mattered as much as the decision itself.This episode is for anyone who knows they're done, but wants to leave in a way that keeps doors open and their integrity intact.
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