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Command the Room Coaching
Hosted by Command the Room Coaching LLC · EN
Command the Room Coaching helps emerging leaders and career changers build the confidence, clarity, and modern leadership skills needed to stand out - in interviews, in their careers, and in life.
Hosted by Trey, a fire service battalion chief and leadership coach, and Allie, a career and leadership coach with over a decade of experience helping professionals pivot and grow, this podcast blends straight talk, practical tools, and personal stories that cut through the noise.
If you’re ready for real conversations about leadership, career transitions, and personal growth - without the buzzwords - you’re in the right place. Expect honest insights, humor, and strategies that help you command the room, wherever that room may be.
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E19: The Lonely Side of Leadership
4d ago00:32:35Tap to summarizeWhat happens when leadership starts to feel lonely? Allie and Trey dig into the less-talked-about side of leading: decision pressure, isolation, boundaries, and the awkward shift from being part of the team to being responsible for the team. Through firehouse stories, career lessons, and practical examples, they share how leaders can stay connected without overstepping and build the kind of trust that makes the role less isolating. For more episodes, coaching resources, and ways to work with us, visit CommandTheRoomCoaching.
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E18: Leading People Who Don’t Think Like You
3w ago00:29:33Tap to summarizeSome leadership problems do not show up as clear policy violations. They show up as tension, awkward silence, side conversations, complaints, and people feeling like they are not being heard.In this episode, Trey and Allie use a real listener story to unpack how leaders can navigate uncomfortable team moments without overreacting, dismissing concerns, or making things worse. From perceived favoritism to communication breakdowns and conflict that may or may not need to go up the chain, this conversation is about slowing down, checking your blind spots, and leading well when the situation is not clean, simple, or comfortable.
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E17: No Consolation Prize for the Runner-Up Candidate
May 3000:39:21Tap to summarizeBeing the runner-up for a job, promotion, or major opportunity can sting worse than getting rejected early. You were close enough to picture it, invested enough to care, and then still walked away with nothing official to show for it. Long gone are the days of participation trophies.In this episode, we talk through the emotional hit of being passed over, why “don’t take it personally” is easier said than done, and how to turn the disappointment into useful information instead of letting it wreck your confidence. We cover when to ask for feedback, how to spot patterns in your job search or promotion process, why “you’re a shoo-in” can be terrible advice, and how handling rejection with professionalism can keep doors open later.Whether you’re chasing a promotion, changing careers, or repeatedly making it to the final round without getting the offer, this conversation is about staying grounded, learning what the process is telling you, and deciding what to do next. For more episodes, coaching resources, and ways to work with us, visit CommandTheRoomCoaching.
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E16: The Resume Mistake That Makes You Sound Generic
May 1600:18:09Tap to summarizeMost people think the goal is to have a strong resume. It is not. The goal is to get hired. In this episode of the Command the Room Coaching Podcast, we talk about why that distinction matters, why resume writers are not always the answer, and how job seekers can end up dependent on a process they never learned to do themselves. We also cover tailoring your resume to the job description, translating specialized experience for a broader audience, and why your materials need to sound like you. If you want to stop chasing a prettier document and start building a stronger job search strategy, this episode will give you a better way to think about it.Ready to stop chasing a prettier resume and start building a smarter strategy? Head to commandtheroomcoaching.net to explore our coaching services, upcoming workshops, and ways we can help.
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Bonus Episode: Trey's Guest Spot of "The Junto Podcast"
May 901:29:56Tap to summarizeThis bonus episode is a little different. I recently joined Edgar Mills on his podcast, The Junto Podcast, for a wide-ranging conversation on leadership, preparedness, and why polished is not the same as credible.We talk about the difference between vigilance and paranoia, why strong leaders think through contingencies before things go sideways, and how after-action reviews help teams learn from mistakes instead of repeating them. We also get into authenticity, independent thinking, and the trap of believing you have finally “arrived.”Not a typical Command the Room Coaching episode, but very much in line with what we care about here: clear thinking, honest leadership, and getting better over time.Check out the Junto Podcast for more great insight from Edgar. Links to all the cool stuff he does below.https://2teamguys.com/https://ospreyshootingsolutions.com/
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E15: How to Lead When Your Day Keeps Getting Hijacked
May 200:53:50Tap to summarizeGreat leaders do not just solve the obvious problem in front of them. They notice the small signals early, ask better questions, and act before a minor issue becomes a major one.In this episode of Command the Room Coaching Podcast, we break down how strong leaders recognize patterns, avoid getting pulled into constant reaction mode, and build teams that speak up before problems escalate. We also talk about the difference between being thoughtful and being paranoid, why after-action reviews matter, and how to create pause points that lead to better decisions.If you are a new leader, growing manager, or mid-career professional trying to lead with more confidence, this episode will help you think further ahead and respond with more clarity.
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Apr 1800:36:51Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we unpack toxic positivity and why the pressure to stay upbeat can do more harm than good. We share personal experiences, talk about how forced optimism can make people feel dismissed, and look at what real support sounds like when life is actually hard.If you’ve ever been told to just stay positive when you needed real support, share this episode with someone who’ll get it. Follow the show, leave a rating or review, and let us know where you’ve seen toxic positivity show up in your life.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content.
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E13: Not Everyone Should Be a Leader
Apr 400:40:41Tap to summarizeIs leadership something anyone can grow into, or are some people just not built for it? Allie starts off skeptical, and I push back. We get into the difference between formal leadership roles and informal influence, the five bases of power, and why some people are better at earning trust, buy-in, and followership. We also dig into the nature vs. nurture debate and ask a harder question than most people want to answer: should everyone lead?Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who is struggling to find their leadership lane.
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E12: No ‘Yes-Men’ Allowed: How We Build Better Teams
Mar 2100:34:38Tap to summarizeBuilding a great team is not about finding people who think exactly like you. In this episode, Allie and I break down what we actually look for when building teams, why different perspectives matter, and how groupthink can quietly weaken decision-making. We talk about the danger of yes-men, why personality balance matters more than most people realize, and why having a class clown on the team is usually a bigger asset than people think. This is a conversation about building teams that are smarter, sharper, and a lot more effective because of their differences, not in spite of them.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who is in the process of building their dream team.
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E11: Why You Keep Getting Passed Over
Mar 700:33:22Tap to summarizeGetting rejected for a job or promotion hits harder than most people admit. It messes with your confidence, your identity, and sometimes your entire career plan.In this episode, we talk honestly about what it feels like to lose out on roles you thought you had in the bag. We share personal stories of rejection, missed promotions, and decisions that did not go our way - and what we learned from them.We break down how to respond professionally after rejection, how long to sit with the disappointment before moving on, and how to tell the difference between bad luck and a real pattern. We also dig into when repeated rejection is a signal that something needs to change, whether that is your resume, interview approach, or how you are positioning yourself.This is not about staying positive or manifesting the next opportunity. It is about using rejection as data, tightening your strategy, and moving forward with clarity instead of resentment.If you are stuck replaying a recent "no" or wondering why it keeps happening, this episode is for you.Visit commandtheroomcoaching.net for career coaching, resources, and upcoming content. If this episode hit close to home, share it with someone who just got a rejection email.
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