When Tonia Bales married John Meehan, she had no idea that the charming man she fell in love with would later become known to millions as "Dirty John." Psychopaths don’t stand out - in fact they do everything to blend in - but there are some tell-tale signs you need to know.

Together, Laura and Tonia decode and share the signs whilst discussing Tonia’s new book, When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John, and the untold story of what it was really like being married to one of America's most notorious coercive controllers and psychopaths.

Listen and learn:

· Who "Dirty John" really was and how charm, deception, and manipulation were used to gain trust;

· The long-term effects of living with a psychopath and having children with one;

· The impact of coercive control and deception on intimate partners and children

· What Tonia and her family discovered as John's hidden life began to unravel;

· Why understanding behavioural patterns is critical to prevention and protection

· Golden rules from surviving and outlasting Dirty John, and;

· How sharing lived experience can help others recognise danger sooner.

Laura goes beyond the headlines, identifying the offender behaviours, patterns, manipulations and high-risk factors that everyone should understand.

🎧 Listen, learn, and share. You could help someone recognise coercive control and manipulation before it escalates.

#CrimeAnalyst #DirtyJohn #ToniaBales #Psychopath #Survivor #LauraRichards #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #BehaviouralAnalysis #TrueCrimePodcast #Prevention

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Find Tonia here:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonia.bales/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonia-bales-91696347/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toniabales/?igshid=YzVkODRmOTdmMw%3D%3D
Podcast: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-First-Wife-John-Meehans-Reign-of-Terror-Podcast/B099BYMH4G

And Tonia's book:
https://www.amazon.com/When-You-See-Outsmarted-Outlasted/dp/B0FCDDC6FL

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