Talking Dateline: The Ruse

Summary

Dateline NBC: Talking Dateline – "The Ruse" (December 10, 2025)

Overview

This episode of Talking Dateline, hosted by Keith Morrison and featuring Lester Holt and Dan Slepien, explores the baffling case of Tom Perez Jr.—a man who confessed to murdering his father, only for his dad to reappear alive just hours later. The central theme is false confessions: how and why they happen, law enforcement’s role, and the human psychology behind such events. The episode also includes insights from interrogation expert Steve Kleinman and a social media Q&A segment.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Case Walkthrough: "The Ruse"

• The Incident

  • In August 2018, Tom Perez Jr. reported his father missing.
  • What began as a missing persons report in Fontana, California, quickly escalated as police suspected Tom Jr.’s involvement.
  • He was interrogated for 17 hours and eventually confessed—falsely—to killing his father.
  • The twist: Tom Perez Sr. was alive and well, returning just hours later.

• Initial Police Response

  • Police suspicions rose due to Tom’s behavior and house conditions.
  • Blood evidence and a cadaver dog’s alert heightened suspicion, though these were later explained or remained mysterious (e.g., the missing shower curtain was due to moving).
  • ([02:24]–[06:43])

• Behavioral Analysis & Confirmation Bias

  • Keith Morrison: "You begin to develop a belief and every fact you discover after that is fighting against the belief you've already established."
    • Described as confirmation bias—once suspicions form, new facts are fitted to that view. ([08:11]–[09:23])

2. False Confession Mechanics & Interrogation Techniques

• Why Do People Falsely Confess?
  • Dan Slepien notes that, in DNA exonerations, about 25% of cases involve false confessions.
    • "Nobody knows how many there are. Nobody knows how many innocent people are in prison. But what we do know is that ... 25% falsely confessed." ([12:04])
• Interrogation Practices
  • The 17-hour interrogation was persistent but not overtly aggressive.
  • No mandatory national standards exist for police interrogation training, unlike firearms, which astonished Holt and Slepien. ([13:38]–[14:15])
    • Dan Slepien: "There is no mandatory training for interrogations, and they do it every single day." ([13:38])
• Role of Lying in Interrogations
  • Steve Kleinman explains: Detectives may legally lie about evidence (“We have your DNA on the knife”) to suspects. This can:
    • Break down trust.
    • Lead people to question their memory and even plant false memories ([16:02]–[17:46])
  • Kleinman: "The research ... is quite clear as well. So it's a combination of suggestions that at some point some people actually believe that they committed the crime." ([17:33])

3. Psychological Pressure & False Memory Creation

• Pressure-cooker environment

  • The stress of the interrogation room, being tired, isolated, or emotional can cause suspects to lose confidence in their recollection.
  • Lester Holt: "It’s a pressure cooker. And then you add some of the other stressors and it can lead to all kinds of bad outcomes." ([19:38])

• False Memories and Narrative Filling

  • Suspects may offer details to fill perceived gaps, sometimes guided (intentionally or not) by investigators’ questions.

• Obvious Case Example

  • Keith Morrison: "This is a ... perfect example to show that how false confessions happen and that they do happen ... Here you see it where the payoff is immediate. ... This is obvious." ([19:46])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On False Confessions:
  • Steve Kleinman:
    • "Every year, approximately 27 to 28% of all those convictions [DNA exonerations] involved a false confession." ([16:05])
    • "The average person would never believe that a detective could lie about the information." ([16:42])
• On Interrogation Training:
  • Dan Slepien:
    • "There is no mandatory training for interrogations, and they do it every single day." ([13:38])
• On the Cadaver Dog’s Alert:
  • Lester Holt:
    • "How you know, how that occurred no one can explain because obviously there was no cadaver." ([05:23])
• On Confirmation Bias:
  • Dan Slepien:
    • "What you're referring to is confirmation bias ... they saw him as a suspect and it, it makes sense." ([08:14])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Case Recap and Initial Reactions: [01:06]–[04:48]
• Evidence and Police Suspicion: [05:13]–[06:43]
• Discussion of Confirmation Bias: [07:39]–[08:31]
• Interrogation Structure and False Confessions: [12:04]–[15:14]
• Steve Kleinman on Interrogation Myths: [16:02]–[17:46]
• Psychological Impact and Real-Life Example: [18:12]–[19:46]
• Expert Commentary Summary: [19:46]–[20:27]

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Social Media Q&A Highlights

• Shorter Episode Length:
  • Due to holiday scheduling and having to cut to fit a slot after "Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer." ([22:44]–[23:57])
• Did Tom Sr. Have Dementia?
  • No—just quirky and used to taking long, unexpected walks. ([24:24]–[25:01])
• Where Was Tom Sr. Found?
  • At Los Angeles Airport, boarding a plane to see his daughter—completely unaware of the drama. ([25:09]–[26:28])
• On Tom’s “Don’t Bodies Float?” Question:
  • Likely a misguided attempt to be "helpful" to police, reflecting his odd way of thinking. ([26:43]–[27:39])
• Legality of Lying to Victims and Families:
  • Not clear; panel can't think of a valid reason and have not encountered it. ([27:39]–[28:00])
• No One Died in This Dateline Episode:
  • Unusual for the show's format but underscores the significance of false confessions and procedure. ([28:08]–[28:41])
• Do People Survive Long Interrogations Unscathed?
  • It's possible, but highly unlikely after such intense, prolonged questioning. ([28:41]–[29:27])

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Tone & Style

The conversation is frank, thoughtful, and sometimes tinged with dark humor or incredulity, especially regarding the quirks of the case and the systemic issues around interrogations. The hosts approach the material with empathy for those caught up in the criminal justice system, emphasizing lessons for both police and the public.

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Conclusion

"The Ruse" serves as a “class” in the anatomy of a false confession, laying bare the compounded effects of circumstantial evidence, investigative pressure, human psychology, and flawed procedural practices. The case’s clean resolution—when the “victim” simply returns—makes it a clear demonstration of both how and why false confessions occur, and why reform, transparency, and skepticism are needed.

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Transcript

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Hi everyone, I'm Keith Morrison and this is Talking DATELINE Today. I'm here with Lester Holt and Dan Slepien to talk about their episode, which is called the Ruse. If you haven't seen the Ruse, you can find it in the DATELINE podcast feed. So go there, listen to it, stream it on on Peacock if you wish, and then come right back here. To recap, Tom Perez Jr. Called police in August of 2018 to report his father missing. And before long, police began to suspect that Tom was involved in his dad's disappearance. So they brought him in for an interrogation. It lasted 17 hours and resulted in Tom confessing to his father's murder. The big twist was that Tom Perez walked back into his life a few hours later, alive and well, and Tom had falsely confessed. For this Talking dateline, we have a podcast exclusive clip from interrogation expert Steve Kleinman. And then Lester and Dan will answer some of your questions from social media as well. So, yeah, a false confession case. They feature in a lot of our DATELINE cases. How did, how did this one happen when actually the victim wasn't a victim at all?

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, I mean, that's the amazing thing. This is an amazing crime story, except for the fact that there was no crime. And that's what we ultimately get to in this hour. But this is the case guy, you know, picks up the phone and calls the police station in his town, Fontana, California, and says, look, my pop didn't come home last night. He went out to pick up the mail down the street. His keys are here, his wallet is here.

But no sign of dad. So they talk to him on the phone for a while. They send out a police officer, a community resources officer who speaks to him, goes inside the house, is a little bit shocked by his. His wardrobe, or maybe we should say lack of wardrobe. He says they were moving, and thus, you know, things were out of order. He seemed a little confused. But as they spent more time and called more officers to this house, the more their spidey sense kind of went off to the fact that, you know, could this be a crime scene?

[Keith Morrison]

First of all, back up for just a little minute. How did you encounter this story in Fontana, California? How did that arise above the transom?

[Lester Holt]

I'll defer to Dan on this. The story had been out there for a while, but no one had pieced it all together as we were able to do, to really get all the players, all the key individuals in this, and bring them together to tell the story.

[Dan Slepien]

Yeah. I had first learned about the case because I had seen the footage. And what immediately struck me about the video was how raw it was. I mean, I've been doing this work, like all of us, for. For a long time.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah.

[Dan Slepien]

And, you know, I've never seen this kind of extreme, personal way that a person unraveled in real time. I mean, the video shocked me, Ripping off his shirt and pulling his hair out. But then when I found out that the story was that dad was actually alive, it made me realize that all of these people that hear false confession stories all the time and say, did he really? I don't really know. Well, this one we now know, because dad's alive. So it made me wonder, how did it all happen? So it was really the police that had never spoken before from their perspective. And given Lester's work in this space and his reputation, they spoke exclusively to him to explain the backstory of why he came to be.

[Lester Holt]

And I think it's fair to say, Dan, I think you'll agree, as you watch this hour unfold, the way we put it together, you can at least understand why some bells of suspicion were ringing. And I think that was part of what we wanted to do, was we were going to give a fair look at this and kind of put people, to some extent, you know, in their shoes as they were investigating this in real time.

[Keith Morrison]

What was some of the evidence that the police did have, which, you know, it made sense that they would ask such questions as they did because it looked like a crime scene? What made it.

[Lester Holt]

I mean, I think they started off with his behavior, which they thought was odd, and that warranted more police officers coming to the scene. But there were things like they said there was blood evidence that they had discovered in the home, you know, drops and smears. But there was also another thing that we haven't talked about here, and that is the cadaver dog. They called in a cadaver dog that's meant to. To hit on the scent of a human remains. And they say that it had a positive reaction in that house. How you know, how that occurred no one can explain because obviously there was no cadaver. There was no cadaver to be found. Finally, on the blood.

Tom had had an answer for pretty much everything, including the blood which he said his father was a diabetic and sometimes he would bleed after he had pricked a finger to get. To get a blood sample.

And furthermore, there was a shower curtain that was missing. Tom says that was, you know, it was removed during, during the move process. But these are little pieces that again, if you, if you're thinking already in the direction that something nefarious happened, these could. You could see a scenario where this would reinforce the notion that this man had committed a crime.

[Dan Slepien]

And he said, also, dad also said that they have, they had felt fallen before, that they had accidents in the house. And when you clean up blood in the bathroom with a towel or soap, you might not see it with the human eye, but later it'll show up when chemicals are put onto it.

[Keith Morrison]

It is interesting about the cadaver dog of sits with you for a little while. You expect cadaver dogs are going to be accurate, and they aren't always, or at least they may hit on something that is a cadaver, just not the right one, you know.

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, it kind of left me wondering. That was the one piece that's kind of lingered out there and we just don't have an answer on it.

[Dan Slepien]

And neither do the police, by the way. Like the. But I guess it talks about the quality or we need to question.

Every time maybe, I don't know, I don't know the science of cadaver.

[Lester Holt]

But at the end of the day, it's irrelevant in the story because there was no cadaver to be found.

[Dan Slepien]

Right.

[Keith Morrison]

I get the impression, though, that this happens, and certainly it's happened in a number of the cases, false confession cases that I've been involved in as well, that there is that initial impression of a suspect or of the place the suspect was living or whatever, somebody who maybe it doesn't seem to be responding appropriately for the circumstances. And then you, you know, you begin to develop a belief and Every fact you discover after that is fighting against the belief you've already established. Is that what they were dealing with?

[Lester Holt]

I think that's a, That's a fair characterization. Dan, what do you think?

[Dan Slepien]

Yeah, I mean, I think that what you're referring to is confirmation bias.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah.

[Dan Slepien]

Really. In that they saw him as a suspect and it, it makes sense. Right. Because always when there's a false confession, there's reasonable suspicion for them, that person to be in that room.

[Keith Morrison]

Sure.

[Dan Slepien]

And so that's kind of what's nuanced.

[Keith Morrison]

About it from their point of view. I mean, this was a guy who went for walks and didn't come home before. Right. This was not a new behavior for him.

[Dan Slepien]

And that's what the son said.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah, that was one part of it. The other part is his son actually was the one he, he. Tom Jr. Called the police. Right, right. So he thinks he's. Something happened to his dad.

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, he thinks, he thinks, he's not sure. That's the thing. When you go back and listen to what he said on the phone and you know, his reporting seems a little vague at points, but it's just the idea that I think he's asking essentially, has anyone come upon my father? Has anyone found him? So he wasn't necessarily. I think when he was asked at one point, I think he didn't feel like his father was in any particular danger. He just kind of wanted to know where he was. And essentially when it was coming up.

[Dan Slepien]

What you just hit on about what Tom thought he was doing with police and what police thought they were doing with Tom is kind of the issue. He was going for help. And all too often these interrogations turn out to be, as we discussed, guilt presumptive. First, that this is the theory. And whatever we're doing is trying to fit into what our theory is as opposed to be a transparent, open fact finding, truthful fact finding endeavor.

[Keith Morrison]

When we come back, we have an extra clip from interrogation expert Steve Kleinman.

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[Keith Morrison]

How often do you run into this, Dan, because you this is an area of interest for you. You've been looking into all kinds of cases around the United States over the years.

[Dan Slepien]

Yeah, I mean, Lester and I did a story about a false confession 10 years ago about a guy named Johnny Hincapier. You find that it happens quite a bit. I mean, the statistics. Nobody really knows how many there are. Nobody knows how many innocent people are in prison. But what we do know is that of the people who have been exonerated strictly by DNA, that 25% of those, roughly 25% falsely confessed.

[Keith Morrison]

The interrogation went on for what, 17 hours. And you can't put all of that on television, but presuming you watched it, what was the nature of the inter. How intense was it? Or was it intense the entire 17 hours? Did they, you know, go away for five and come back again? How did that work?

[Lester Holt]

Well, they were, they weren't yelling, as you see, they weren't yelling or didn't seem to be treating him badly, but they were kind of persistent that, hey, we think something's going on here. You know, we think you know where your dad is. And they keep just peppering him with that.

And it's only after a while they reach this point of frustration where they just come out and drop it, hey, we, we've got your dad. Your dad's dead.

[Dan Slepien]

And also the I think one of the things that this points out is that whether or not the cops believe they did right or, or they did wrong, they believed he was guilty. And the there's no national.

Standard by which detectives are trained to do these interrogations. So every police officer and department pretty much decides for themselves. There's no, you know, you. If you're an officer. Most officers do not pull out their service revolver in their careers. Fewer, you know, actually shoot somebody, yet they are required to go four times a year for training, for gun training. There is no mandatory training for interrogations, and they do it every single day.

[Lester Holt]

I was shocked by that, to be honest with you.

[Dan Slepien]

So. So the idea that there's these guidelines and best practices that can reduce wrong. It doesn't mean lying, doesn't sometimes elicit the truth. But the reason that these guidelines are there and these best practices are there to reduce the possibility.

[Keith Morrison]

Over the years, innocence projects have sprung up around the country and in many cases, to deal with false confessions, because they do happen quite a lot.

And one of the experts is Steve Kleinman. Tell me about him a little bit before we hear from him.

[Lester Holt]

He's a former military intelligence officer, has a lot of experience in interrogations, and he's. In two things he pointed out. One is that the lie was counterproductive in this case, and the length of time that he was in the interrogation room was counterproductive. And his whole point is about trust. You've got to earn the trust with the suspect if you want to get anywhere.

[Dan Slepien]

And one of the reasons that I thought it was important, you know, there's a lot of experts out there that, that you can use to talk about this. I, I specifically thought it was important for Steve Kleiman to be the guy, because I didn't want to have an academic talking about this, because a lot of detectives and police around the country will look at that and say, well, yeah, that guy goes to school. He's never done an interrogation. Steve Kleinman has done interrogations around the world, including in Guantanamo Bay, you know, and he.

[Keith Morrison]

He.

[Dan Slepien]

He trains other detectives about how to do this. So he's a peer. He wasn't, you know, an academic or something. So that's. He came with great credibility.

[Keith Morrison]

All right, well, let's listen to that extra clip from Dan. Dan's interview with Steve Kleiman. He talks about lying during interrogation.

[Steve Kleinman]

The Innocence Project.

Has. Has conducted a number or completed a number of DNA exonerations. That means cases where homicides where people were convicted and DNA evidence later demonstrated conclusively that they did. Not only did they not commit the crime, but sometimes it actually pointed to the actual perpetrator. But every year, approximately 27 to 28% of all those convictions involved a false confession. What does that mean. That means that somebody who is demonstrably innocent for some reason, for some set of circumstances, some process, actually admitted to a crime they didn't commit. And we have to ask ourselves, why would anybody do that? The false presentation of evidence, which is legal in just about every jurisdiction in this country, slowly but surely that's being rescinded, especially with children. But the average person would never believe that a detective could lie about the information. For example, Dan, I appreciate you talking to me, and I've heard you deny that you were anywhere near that crime scene. But help me understand something. I have your DNA on the knife. How is that possible? Now think about having done this after 12 hours. Think back to the Central Park Five. First of all, they don't think that a detective could lie. And then they start. There's this whole scenario that's being presented that maybe you passed out, maybe you were drunk, you did admit that you were drinking, Right?

[Dan Slepien]

So.

[Steve Kleinman]

And the ability to actually plant false memories. The research on that is quite clear as well. So it's a combination of suggestions that at some point some people actually believe that they committed the crime.

[Lester Holt]

I love the way they talked about the false memories there. Because I think, Dan, I think. And Keith, I think we really see it when he's in that interrogation room and he starts to offer what they call confession. He later says they were kind of directing the action, they were kind of creating, and he was filling in holes. So I looked at that, and to this day I still wonder, was that really a confession as we think of it?

[Keith Morrison]

Well, it doesn't take too much, apparently. It just, you know, takes a kind of a. May sound to you like a confession, or it may be interpreted as a non confession. But if it can be interpreted as a confession, as a confession, isn't that how it works?

[Lester Holt]

I think that's right.

[Keith Morrison]

But how many times have you had an argument with somebody you've been up for a long time, it's late at night, you had a couple of drinks, you're talking about something you can't agree. It's an emotional conversation, and you can't remember exactly what happened.

[Dan Slepien]

Lester, didn't that happen with us last night? There you go.

I forgot.

[Keith Morrison]

Maybe so, you know, the fact of your own life become a little uncertain, and you're talking to somebody who's very skilled at getting you to say, you know, who's been lying to you, for one thing, planting information in your head. And maybe you were wrong in the first place. Maybe that person is right. I mean, I. Anybody can see how that can happen.

[Lester Holt]

And you're in an interrogation room. It's something that, it's a, it's a picture that's indelible on, on, on many a person's brain. They've seen it in movies, they've seen it on Dateline certainly many, many times. And it usually doesn't go well for many of the people who end up being interrogated. So just the idea of walking into one of these rooms and having two detectives confront you and trying to get you to trip up to say something that's contradictory.

It'S a pressure cooker. And then you add some of the other stressors and it can lead to all kinds of bad outcomes.

[Keith Morrison]

I thought this was a really just about a perfect example to use to show that how false confessions happen and that they do happen and that this is not. You know, people often ask the question how could you possibly confess to something you didn't do? Here, here you see it where there the payoff is immediate. You can see that there. There aren't decades of uncertainty about whether or not it was a false confession. This is obvious. And, and, and the techniques used to get there were obvious and the tape was available and the police were prepared to talk about it. It was a, I thought that was a, a real class in how these things occur and, and worth watching.

[Dan Slepien]

You just articulated exactly the reason that.

[Keith Morrison]

We thought it was worth doing right. We're going to take a short break and then Lester and Dan will be back to answer your questions about the show for social media.

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[Keith Morrison]

We are moving on to social media questions now and I want to ask you the first one, which was why a 45 minute show this time it.

[Lester Holt]

Had, it had to do with holiday programming, to be honest with you. And now that you asked me the question, I'm, I'm, I'm wrecking my brain as to what program it was.

[Dan Slepien]

Rudolph. It was Rudolph.

[Lester Holt]

Okay, Rudolph. So we came on at 10:16 and I remember earlier that morning I was on the Today show to promote the program and Al goes to read the tagline and he says that's the Dateline. And with Lester Hole, 1016. And he goes, 1016. I said, that's the Dateline mystery.

As.

[Dan Slepien]

It is to us.

[Lester Holt]

I don't know, just to pull down.

[Dan Slepien]

Pull back the curtain a little bit for the audience. You know, we're not obviously live tv. We don't, we're not like the today's show. These are very carefully scripted and planned segments to make up certain hit times.

[Keith Morrison]

To pull out an hour, of course.

[Dan Slepien]

So when we hear we did that for an hour and this, there is an hour long version of this that will be in syndication. But when we heard we needed to fit that time slot, that meant we needed to cut out 12 minutes of material.

[Keith Morrison]

It's like cutting off an arm or something.

[Dan Slepien]

Exactly right. So the questions that the audience has make sense. And the answer is we had to take out 12 minutes of material to fill that time spot.

[Keith Morrison]

Well, that was from Magz on Facebook. This one is at Sandy Castle. Underline RB does his father have dementia? It wasn't explained why he takes off like this.

[Lester Holt]

He, in his initial conversation with police, I think he floated the idea that he might have some dementia, but that was later proven not to be the case.

[Dan Slepien]

I guess he's kind of like his son. He's quirky. You know, it's like Lester was like, tom, where were you? And he's like, oh, you know, I just decided to go for a walk, and it was a nice day. And there was the train, and I decided to get on the train and, you know, just like, Where's Waldo? You know, he was just kind of going, you know, and so he. He clearly didn't think his son would be concerned. It's odd behavior, for sure, but it happened.

[Keith Morrison]

Barbara, a couch on Facebook asks, where did the police find him? Find Tom? Tom Senior.

[Lester Holt]

They found him at Los Angeles Airport. The town where this happened, Fontana, is about, oh, maybe an hour, hour, 15 minutes east of Los Angeles. But apparently his name was on a list of, you know, people that, you know, police wanted to talk to in this case as a potential victim. So they got a call from, I believe it was tsa, but. But certainly some officials at LA Airport that's, you know, said, we have a Tom Perez senior here that we think you want to talk to.

[Dan Slepien]

Yeah. So this is the part that I had read some comments and heard some people. Well, maybe they thought that Tom and his father planned this like, that they were in on it together to falsely confess for a settlement or something. That's not what happened. He went to go visit his. His brother, and then he decided to see his daughter and was going to go fly to see his daughter. And this was just a day, a day and a half after he left.

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, she was. His daughter was in Northern California.

[Dan Slepien]

Right. So he had a plane ticket. He was boarding the plane, and that's where they, as Lester said, tsa, it came up that there was a missing Tom Perez Sr. And they notified LA police, notified Fontana authorities, and they came to pick him up and they brought. He had no idea his son was in an interrogation room. He had no idea that he was declared missing.

[Keith Morrison]

I'd love to have been in the room when they got the call saying that there was a guy in the airport in la.

[Dan Slepien]

Can you imagine? Tom was still there that night. He had just confessed. He was. He was still. It was either they had just taken him to the hospital or he was still in the room.

[Keith Morrison]

Wow. Yeah. Laurie and David Cook on Facebook. Why did he ask at the pond, don't bodies float?

[Lester Holt]

You know, I only take from that as he was, you know, I don't know, actually. That's a good question. I'm trying to. I've been trying to piece that one together. I think that was, again, in that area of where he was trying to be helpful and. And they're thinking it's a. You know, in the lake, perhaps. But he's like, well, no, it would. It would be floating if that was the case. But again, really ill advice. Kind of a conversation to have with police if you didn't do it.

[Dan Slepien]

Weird, right? I think Lester's description, that is exactly right. Knowing this guy, the way we met him, it's just kind of like, well, he can't be here.

[Lester Holt]

Right.

[Dan Slepien]

Because somebody's float. He was just, like, kind of thinking of it academically, I think.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah. Huh.

[Dan Slepien]

But it was weird, for sure.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah. At Iowa Me, Alaska asks if they can legally lie to suspects. Can they also lie to victims and their families?

[Coop Sleepgoods Advertiser]

Wow.

[Lester Holt]

I don't know why they would want to, but I don't. I don't have an answer to that question.

[Dan Slepien]

I mean, I think they can let anybody.

[Keith Morrison]

I don't either.

[Dan Slepien]

Yeah. Why would you lie to a victim?

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah.

[Dan Slepien]

I don't know.

[Lester Holt]

Unless you think that, you know, the victim is in on him somehow. But, yeah. I can't think of circumstance.

[Keith Morrison]

Just a comment from Anita Walmsley on Facebook who says, first Dateline I've ever seen, where no one died.

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, well, that's. I remember when Dan and I were planning this and I said I had to wrap my. My hands or my head around the idea that there's no crime, that, you know, the. What the police did, whether you like it or not, was legal.

That clearly there was no murder since the. The alleged victim was alive and well. It was. You're right. That's a good way to look at it, though. Very unusual guide.

[Keith Morrison]

Melinda Ali McNutt on Facebook says that was so disturbing. And it was. But once an interrogation becomes accusatory, she asks. It's time to ask for an attorney. But can anyone keep their wits about them under such circumstances? Do you see cases where people go through these long, long interrogations and they, you know, walk out of there and are never charged with anything because they did keep their wits about them? It's a long interrogation.

[Lester Holt]

It is.

[Dan Slepien]

I mean, I'm sure some people do, but I'm sure it would be hard to. I mean, if you're in an interrogation room for 17 hours.

[Keith Morrison]

Yeah.

[Dan Slepien]

I don't know. If you walk out skipping.

Like, everything's okay. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah.

[Keith Morrison]

And finally, to be selfish about things, there's an audio question about a different story altogether, which is my latest podcast, It's Something About Carrie. And this is from Mindy Begley on Instagram. Let's take a listen. Keith Morrison, As a longtime listener, I had to reach out. I'm listening to the Something About Carrie podcast and I have to call you out on the Pottawatomie Police Department. Us true Nebraskans and Iowans know that it's Pottawatomie County Police Department.

[Lester Holt]

Hey, keep up the good work and we'll keep listening.

[Keith Morrison]

Thank you for all you do.

[Lester Holt]

Yeah, Pottawomany.

[Keith Morrison]

I am known for mispronouncing names all over the country, and that's one of them. Potawatomi.

[Lester Holt]

It's always the accent that gets you.

[Keith Morrison]

If you haven't yet downloaded Something about Carrie, do it now. And thanks to Mindy, that pesky pronunciation will be magically corrected. Well, thank you so much for talking about this. This is a, an issue which has been certainly close to my heart for a long time because when you do run into these kind of cases, and you know, I remember the first story I got involved in where we're doing a heartbreaking false confession was 25 years ago. And it ever since then, they just pop up all the time and every one of them is difficult to hear about. Knowing that people spend so much time behind bars for something they didn't do is just a heartbreaking thing.

Yeah, absolutely. So thank you, both of you, for taking part in this pleasure.

[Lester Holt]

Thank you.

[Dan Slepien]

Thank you.

[Keith Morrison]

That's it for talking Dateline this week. Remember, if you have a question about Dateline, DM us a video on social media aightlinenbc for a chance to be featured in a future episode of Talking Dateline. Or you can leave your question in a voicemail at area code 212-413-5252. Thanks for being with us. What a dorky thing for me to say.

Oh, well.

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