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The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Hello and welcome back to your favorite podcast, de Influenced. What's up, babe? I know you're upset with me this morning.
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Why?
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Because I messed up your flow and you were flowing with.
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I was flowing.
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He was flowing on the computer, doing his thing, doing ads for Divi, and he was like, in the zone. I'm like, we got a podcast.
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You know, it's so funny. Someone came up to us in Nashville and she was like, my favorite part of the podcast is that it's so raw because I can tell that every week y' all don't want to do it.
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That's actually not true.
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It's not. It's not exactly true.
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It's only 20% of the time. I don't want to do it.
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No, no, not. Yeah, not. She wasn't singling you out. She was saying, like, one of us is clearly, like, busy with something else, and we're like, oh, we got a podcast. But she's. She was like, that's what makes it so real and authentic is that. Yeah, it's unfiltered.
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I will say when I get up here, I'm like, I'm happy. But it's kind of like. It's like, oh, you have to go for a walk or a run. It's like. But then while you're doing it, you're like, it's not as just like work. Like, anything work related. Like, you don't want to do it. But then once you're kind of in the zone, you're like, oh, I'm kind of killing it. Like, I'm having fun. So it's kind of one of those things. But sometimes I really look forward to it if I have, like, a really big story that I want to share.
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I know the hardest weeks for us are the weeks that we have to double record, cuz, like, we kind of gave it our all on Monday. And then it's like, you know, our lives don't really change that much anymore, like, day over day. So if you're asking us to re record on a Thursday, that's a funny thing.
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I think it does change a lot.
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Does it?
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Yeah, I feel like we have a lot going on, but we just don't realize it.
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Maybe we were so conditioned for. For like four years prior to like, chaos, for chaos, that like, this is our peace times, but it's like, still a lot right for, like, for the. The. It's like we were running average human.
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We were running at 100 miles per hour and now we're doing 80, which is still higher than the average 50. But the 80 is, like, rest for us.
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You're probably right, because our parents do. Our parents are still always like, y' all are so, like, busy all the time.
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Not really. I still.
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Even our bankers were like, y' all are like some of the busiest people we have. And I was really. I was like, well, think about it.
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We're having four children under five, trying to move cities, applying to all these private schools, like, running our businesses, my business. It's kind of like a lot.
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It is a lot. I mean, we could. We just. Maybe we just have a high capacity.
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Speaking of life, I had a little pitter patter in my heart this morning.
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I. Is this about the text you've been sending to the realtor? Yeah, I know. I've been seeing. I honestly was. So this is an emotional trip for me to Nashville.
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It's always emotional for you. Okay, tell us why.
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No, I. You tell me why first.
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Why I was emotional.
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Yeah. No. What's the pitter patter? Tell me about the pitter patter.
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Oh, okay. So, you know, I have been very. I'm not going to say anti Nashville because I haven't been. I've been very 5050 Nashville versus Dallas. I have found more pros to staying in Dallas, and I have found this new. I have this newfound appreciation and love and adoration for Dallas. And I'm starting to just, like, the. The more that I think about being pulled away from it, the more that I love and appreciate it. There's so many great things about it. And you don't realize until you go and consider moving. Move to Nashville. Not because there's not great things about Nashville, but it's just so drastically different that, like, you overlook the fact that we have sidewalks. You overlook the fact that we have so many, like, running, walking trails. You overlook, like, all the things you can do with kids, our sports teams, how close we are to everything. Like, it takes us 15 minutes to get downtown to Highland Park. We have the best of the best shopping, but then we also have, like, affordable shopping. Everything is, like, where we live. It's not too far. Like, so we're not in the car all the time. We live in the most beautiful, like, pocket called. Oh, I can't say where we live.
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Sorry, my address is.
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People already know. It's, like, everywhere. But we live in the most beautiful pocket right. Right next to a lake where there's always people. Like, if you. If you're feeling sad, you can just go On a walk. And, like, it's the most beautiful views, and we have great schools just, like, everything and that. We have great friends, great churches, great community. And, like, you know, then you think about going to Nashville. I'm like, there's no freaking sidewalks around here. Like, I don't know. I. I don't know what you guys do all day. Like, you're just landlocked on, like, 3 acres, which is so great. But what do you do? Just hang out with your family on three acres? No, thank you. I'm like, mama's got to get out of town. And sometimes it's like, all of our shopping centers have great, like, coffee shops and cute little. And I don't even, like, go to shop. I just go to, like, be outside and be around people, you know? And so, anyway, I have just, like, really struggled with the different pockets of Nashville because I feel very lonely when I think about them. But we found this one house that is, like, the most Dallasy that you can get in Nashville. Um, and it is so beautiful, and it's in, like, the coolest neighborhood, and, like, really close to everything. Like, there's, like, a dry bar that I could walk to. Okay, like, that's what I'm talking about. That's what I. That's what mama needs. But it's still in Nashville. It's really close to the private schools that we'd love to get into one day. It kind of has, like. It has, like, the family feel like it doesn't have sidewalks still, but it's like a neighborhood, like, pocket. So there's no through streets, so there's not as much. Like, I wouldn't be as scared if my kids were out biking or if I was, like, going on a walk or something, so. Because some of these streets that, like, these. That. That are the most prestigious in Nashville are like, the craziest, busiest streets. Like, you step it out there, you're. You're smushed like a watermelon, you know? And so I just like that. I'm like, that doesn't sound.
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There's an Uncle Julio's.
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There's Uncle Julio's that I was like, we're craving.
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We've never been to it. But Danny was like, jordan, there's an Uncle Julio's down the street. But honestly, you've been so excited about food lately that I think that that was just, like, a pregnancy thing. Like, there was. We were supposed to go to dinner, and she. She uber eats just queso.
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I know. I feel like my tummy still Hurts.
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But anyway, there was Uncle Julio's. You're right.
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Yeah. And there. There's just like. There was a puffy muffin. And I was like, I don't know what that is, but I like it. You know? And they have like.
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I know. You actually didn't even know what it was like. And you were like, jordan, look, there's a puffy muffin.
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And I was like. And they had, like, baked goods. Apparently there was a Starbucks, a Chipotle Po, a chopped salad for when I actually do get healthy again.
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See, all of this, this is my fear with making a major life decision is like, it's either hormones or pregnancy craving. Craving generated. And I. I literally told my friend who called me. He's like, hey, how's the search going up in Nashville? And I was like. Honestly, I was like, I think it's going well, but I am so scared that all of our decision making is tainted by pregnancy right now. And not in a bad way in some form or fashion, whether it be nesting related, whether it be food related. Like, every single thing you just listed was food related. About why you love Nashville.
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Oh, yeah, you're right.
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And it's not even. I'm just going to be honest with you. It's not a food scene. If we were foodies, I'd be like, this is not place for us. But we're not.
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I know.
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That's like you being like, we have to move to Nashville because there's a California pizza kitchen.
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I do love cbk, and we don't have those anymore. So if Nashville does have one, that would be a huge bonus. That actually used to be my favorite restaurant growing up. I always really liked the barbecue chicken pizza or the facility Alfredo. Oh, my gosh, y'.
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All. Okay, anyway, I. I interrupted your. Your pitter patter.
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So anyway. But no, not only that, but, like, this was in a great neighborhood, and it was like, one of, like, the bigger houses that we looked at, but, like, in the better price point. And. And then. So they didn't have, like, a lookbook or a floor plan or anything online. They just had renderings of the outside. And so last night, I found. I, like, did. I did a little stocky. Stocky. And I found the designer online and I messaged her, and I was like, hey, like. Because right now they just have, like, the. The board. What do you call it? Like, the framing. Yeah. So if there's really things that we wanted to change, like, if I wanted the door. If I wanted to add a door from the closet to the office, like, I could do that, you know, And I've always wanted like a door from my closet to my office.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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That's like, so cool.
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That's so cool.
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Anyway, so I was like, oh, that could be fun because, like, we could get in on like a few of the things. And most of the selections are already, like, selected for, like, the actual finishes. But she sent me the mood board and the, like the, you know, I.
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Didn'T even see this.
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Gorgeous. Gorgeous. Like, I mean, so probably one of my favorites when it comes to like the finishes and the design. And so, yeah, it's like, it's six bedroom too, which everything we looked at, we were like five bedroom. And like, we'll have to bunk the kids and so.
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Which is not going well. We'll talk about that in a second. Well, yeah, we put Stratton and Summit together and it was a disaster.
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You know, like those reels where it's like, it starts out and the music is like, like popping and then it's like, like. And then it goes to like the really janky music that was last night.
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Like, yeah, it was horrible.
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We. This actually does play into the house decision. So let me explain. But we have been really struggling. When I say we, it's been me and I have been really struggling with this decision because we have three bedrooms upstairs, but now we're gonna have four children. So I've told you guys this, but we have one year old that naps all the time. Still a three year old that still takes a two hour nap every day, a five year old that refuses to nap. And as a female, when all the other ones are male, and then we're gonna have a newborn and we have really struggled with where to put. It's really where to put Stratton at this point because, you know, newborn has to have their own room. Stella has to have her own room because she's just like, don't touch my stuff, you know? So then that leaves us with my. With Summit and Stratton rooming together. A one year old and a three year old. I don't know why I thought this was a good idea.
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Me neither, to be honest.
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You loved the idea.
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I loved it in theory, but I was like. You said you had asked a lot of people about this.
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I did. People are dumb. Okay.
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Yeah. This was.
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People don't know what they're talking about.
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I also thought it was really crazy that you just went full tilt because we got back last night.
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Well, don't worry. I have a backup plan.
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Okay.
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I always had a backup plan.
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Well, no, no, what I mean is that you went full tilt. Like, I would have introduced Stratton to his big boy bed first for a week and then tried to.
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Well, I only. Sorry. I only did this because today is MLK day. Is that what today is?
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Yes. How dare you.
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Okay, I'm sorry.
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Yes. She respects. That's her favorite leader.
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It's my favorite holiday too. I. Yeah. So Monday, I just, I didn't. I was like, oh, this is a great time to, to try it because they don't have school tomorrow. So I was, I was right about that.
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Yeah.
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And so. Because if they had school, if we were gonna try it, like tomorrow they have school the next day, it's gonna be a pain in the butt, you know? And so while we were gone, I had a bed installed. I had everything, like ready to go. So they're, they're both like, Stratton and Summits closed. Everything are now into Stratton's room. We got home last night and Strat, and I'm like, stratton, you get to see your big boy bed. And I took a video and like, he's like so excited and he's like, strat, he's like, summit, I'm a big brother. I'm gonna watch over you. It's like so precious. And they're like, both like, you know, Summit's like peeking his head over the crib and they're like looking at each other. I was like, oh, this is going great. I was like, this is gonna be so awesome. So 4 o' clock in the morning rolls around and Stratton's bedroom is actually over our bedroom. And I just hear like stomping.
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It's like a rave.
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And I put on the nanit and stress like, summit, go to bed. You'll make it. You. You keeping me up. Go to bed. And Summit just like, like, just like playing and he's like rocking like standing up. It's 4 o' clock in the morning and they are just having like a full on conversation. Like, Stratton, turn the lights on. Like, it's just like horrible. So I go up there and I'm like, oh, my gosh.
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Yeah. When you went up there. What? I haven't even asked you this yet.
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What, what happened was standing up, like looking into Summit's bed. And I go up there and I start like listening through and he's like, Sean's like, summit, you have got to go to bed. You're keeping me up.
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Oh, he was Trying to be a bit big.
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No, he really was. He was trying to get some, but then someone has no idea. And someone's like, yeah, you know, just like, playing, like, thinking he's trying to play with him. And. And Stratton's like, mommy. So I walk in. Sutton's like, mommy, Summit woke me up. Summit won't let me sleep. And he's like, I'm tired, and I felt so bad. And so I took Summit out and I put him back into his OG nursery. And Summit or Stratton, I tried to put him back in bed, but he had. He would not let me leave. He was like. Started crying, and he was like, no, Mommy. And I'm like, it's 4:30 in the morning. I'm like, so tired. Not only that, but still had come into our room with a fever last night, Like, a really bad fever. So she was in our bed. And so I just hadn't, like, fully rested yet. So I. I, like, threw in the towel, and I was like, chad, and I'm gonna put on Iron man for you and mom gonna go back to bed. And he's like, no, no, please stay up here, here with me. So I put on Iron man, and I get them all cuddly, and I go, hey, I'm gonna go get some water. Do you want me just move downstairs? And got back in bed?
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You know what's so funny is from my point of view, I was like, half asleep because I woke up with Stella and had to get her Tylenol. So I was, like, really tired. And I knew that you had gotten up at some point, but I woke up and this is probably like 5:05. And I turn on the nanite, and I was like, summit's not in his bed. And then I turned on Stratton's nan, and I was like, stratton's on his bed? And I was like. In my mind, I was like, I should be really worried because Stratton probably got Summit out of his bed. And I was like, so tired. I was like, you know what? They'll survive. It's fine. Like, I genuinely, in my mind, was so tired.
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I was like, well, you asked me. You go, what happened? I go, I don't want to talk about it.
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Yeah, I know.
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You're like, what happened? Are they okay?
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I was like, whatever.
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I go, I don't want to talk about it. Just go to bed. They were safe. And so. But I put Summit back in his bed and in his green room. He fell asleep within five minutes.
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And I Come. So I get up this morning to get you coffee and there's like three puzzles that are completely done. And I go, stratton, I go, did you and Stella do this puzzle? And he goes, no, I did it by myself in the dark.
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He did.
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He came downstairs and did his puzzle by himself.
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By himself. Which is crazy because he could have come in our room and he didn't. And, and the crazy part is like, I've been pissed if I was him. I was like, hey, I'm gonna go get water. I'll be right back. I was like, do you want any? And he was like, no. And I was like, okay, I'll be right back. We literally just went back to bed.
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In a weird way, I really feel like this is all very good for Stratton. Like, I think it's responsibility, worry.
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I have a backup plan.
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Okay, I won't lie. I've been running around my house like a crazy woman for the past two weeks, officially in full nesting mode. Preparing for baby number four has completely flipped a switch in my brain and I've been on a mission to make our home feel calmer, more functional and honestly just easier to live in. One of the biggest projects I just tackled was the kids. Closets Summit and Stratton are now sharing a room, which means they're sharing a closet, which means they have half the space that they used to. I really needed to find a solution to organize their closet, so I just bought new drawer organizers from the Container Store and it immediately changed everything. Now the kids can actually see what they have, things stay folded and getting dressed doesn't feel like a full workout. That's why I always say if you want to start your year off right, get to the Container Store. They really can help you organize any space in your home and pretty much your life, which I definitely need as a mom of almost four. If you don't even know where to start, their experts are amazing at helping you find exactly what works for your space. From closet storage to pantry and fridge organizers that make eating healthier feel realistic to custom solutions for closets, garages, offices, the Container Store has thought of everything and their free design services are such a game changer if you want a space that actually functions long term. We've used the Container Store's custom Alpha system in our garage. We we have organizers all throughout the house and every time we add something new, I'm reminded how much easier daily life feels when everything has a place. Honestly, to start the year off more organized. You'll thank me for the reminder later. Visit containerstore.com and use code Danny at checkout for A discount on your purchase. That's containerstore.com use code Danny D A N I for a special discount.
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Yeah. What's your backup plan?
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Okay, so the good news is with all of this is that Stella is getting very jealous that she has to be the only one that doesn't get to sleep with someone. She's like, why does mommy get to sleep with Daddy? Why doesn't Mommy get to sleep by herself? Why do. And then why does Stratton get to sleep with Summit? She was like, I'm the only one in the house that has to sleep by myself. And I'm like, well, you get your own bed. You're like the big girl. So this morning, Stratton came in the bed, and I was like, you know, and Stella was complaining again. How come they got to sleep together and I don't? And I go, well, I go, okay. I said, just for tonight, Stratton, do you want to sleep in Stella's bed? And she's. And still is like, yeah. And Stratton's like, yeah.
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Oh, so sweet.
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So I think that what we're gonna try to do tonight is have Stratton and still asleep in Stella's bed. And then the good news is, is that still all of Stratton stuff needed to be. Or Summit stuff needed to be moved to Stratton.
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Yeah. And the other good news is we accidentally ordered a bunk bed, so if we want to just build that, it's downstairs.
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Yeah, I'm not. I'm not gonna do that. So wait, they're just gonna both sleep.
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In her queen size bed for good until we move?
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Yeah, we found a house. We like. I mean, I slept with Landon in my bed for, like, probably two years when I was, like, when he was really young.
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You know what's so funny about this podcast? So much of it. So much of, like, what I learn about where your head is at with things I learn on this podcast.
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Yeah.
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Like, if you would have told me that coming up here, you were. You had a pitter patter in your heart about Nashville, I would have been like, no way. I learned so much on this podcast. Yeah, it's kind of like you process things privately, not with me. And then when you're ready to make them public, I. I don't mind it. I love learning about them for the first time up here.
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I'm just so, like, it's great. Annoyed with talking Sometimes I've noticed, like, you're like, how are you? And I'm like, just. I'm good.
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Yeah. Let's I'm actually so curious about that because I've been feeling that. But I. I don't press in. I used to be so annoying.
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You're kind of love bomby these days.
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Really?
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You're like the guy that tries to cuddle really hard, and I'm like.
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Yeah, yeah. But I feel like I've scaled it back because I've been so understanding that you're not in that zone right now.
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I'm just so uncomfortable. I'm not lying to you. Like, I can't tell you how uncomfortable I am. Like, 24 7. Like, I. I mean, you. You saw, y'.
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All.
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Every single house we. We went and looked at yesterday, I truly had to go pee three or four times. Every single house.
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Yeah. So when I.
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It's so uncomfortable. It's so annoying. And then I just, like, don't. I don't know. I just don't want to be touched. I don't want to be talked to.
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What about, like, when I just, like, hold your hand in the car? That's okay. I feel like you don't get annoyed about that sometimes. Really? What about when, you know, I've been, like. Like, giving you random hugs and, like, sometimes, like, kisses, even in, like, the house stuff. And in my mind I'm like, this is so fun. I love hanging out.
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No, those are great. They're hand holding, and the hugs are great and the kisses.
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But it's when I'm like, hey, like, how are you feeling?
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Yeah, you're like, what did you ask me? You're like, so, what'd you think of all the houses? I was like, yeah, I like them. And you're, like, asking our questions. And I was like, yeah, they're really good.
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Yeah. Then you just like, but that's. That's just third trimester.
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Yeah. No.
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Yeah. See, I don't take it personally. After the fourth run, I don't take it personally.
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I love a handhold. I love a hug. I love a little cuddle sesh. I'm like, all about it.
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No, you really don't, though.
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Yes, I do.
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Pregnancy one, I was like, she hates me now. I. But I'm good. I'm good about this now. There's one other thing I was gonna say. I don't know. I remember. So you have a pitter pattern in your heart about Nashville.
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I guess it's more about the specific house.
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Yeah. This. That we're talking about. The second one, right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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The first one is a great option. Still could work out. But the second one I like that we could get in on a few things.
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Yeah, no, this is. I mean, this is very big that you had a pitter patter. Because this was kind of the nail in the coffin, to be honest.
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B
This trip.
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This trip, it was, it was going to be make or break. And the reason I kind of felt discouraged because we went out a little bit further. I guess they would call that like East Brentwood, right?
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B
Huh? But it's so beautiful out there.
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A
Like the house, Gosh. We found some, like, I feel like we, we both walked into a house that we were both smitten by, enamored with and.
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B
But it's on this one street that's like a two lane street that apparently has really bad. Like it would take us 30 minutes to get to the school that we want our kids to go to, which we're not even in yet. So. So who knows if this even happened? But. But yeah. And I was like. And Jordan's like, it's fine. And I'm like, yeah, no, like, I'm not spending 30 minutes driving to our kids, to the school, or if I want to be able to like drop them off and then go back home and change and then go to lunch and then come back. Like, I just can't. That's too far. And so. So we like, you know, reluctantly cross it off of our list, but because it's a little bit further out. I think that's why you can get like these massive houses for way, way less expensive. I mean, they're still pricey, but.
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A
And further out, like without traffic means like 10 minutes further out, but with traffic it's like 20 to 30 minutes.
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B
Exactly. That's the thing. If there's no traffic, then it's different.
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A
It's crazy. Like, Nashville has this place called Nolensville where everyone wants to move out to because there's these like mega mansions that are like cheap. And the reason that they're cheap is because there's so few roads in and out of Nolensville that it's like Landon's friend was like, don't move out to Nolensville. He was like, we did it. And like, I can never get out of here.
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B
You can't get out because it's so much traffic. But it's supposed to be like the new Franklin, which is. I hope they've just built some more. How hard is it to just build some more roads?
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I think that they're growing faster than they can keep up the infrastructure.
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B
Been there, done that.
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A
There was so. So the. So we're we're feeling good. I haven't read the text yet. Are you, like, talking to the designer and talking to the realtor?
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B
Well, the. The designer I DM'd a little bit last night. I haven't heard from her since.
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A
But also, the. The other confusing thing is when you were starting this spiel on the podcast, I was pretty sure you were gonna say, like, this Nashville thing has been fun, but it's actually just made me realize I want to be in Dallas.
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B
Yeah. I still really, like, I'm. I'm still open minded.
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A
Yeah, I. I am too.
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B
But, yeah, I don't know if I'm just, like, tired of being back and forth that there's a part of me that's just like, let's just do it. Like, you know, we didn't even get into a school yet. Like, let's just do it. I'm, like, so tired of this.
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A
I know.
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B
Like, I just have, like, decision fatigue.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And I am a very, like, when I get decision fatigue, I am, like, a very, like, effort person.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Like, I just. I'm like, effort. Just pick one.
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A
Yeah.
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You know, anyway, that's fun. Yeah.
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A
All right, well, we'll see what happens. I don't. Are we gonna make this decision pre pregnancy, though, or pre labor?
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B
I mean, I think postpartum could be worse.
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A
I know. I. I genuinely saw my friend Connor about that. I was like. He was like, can you make the decision beforehand? And I was like, we really can't because we don't find out about schools until March. So we'll basically like, I don't know.
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B
I'll be like, breastfeeding, sleep deprived, and you're like, let's move to national. I'll be like, get out of here.
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A
No, I see it so much. Like, so raw. Like, even if we move within the post partum window, I could see you being like, we made the worst decision of our lives. It's my greatest fear. But I also don't really know what we're gonna do here.
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B
Yeah. I mean, like, well, Stella and Stratton, hopefully we'll let you know how it goes next week. We'll see how they sleep.
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A
So tonight they're gonna sleep together.
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B
Yeah. I think no matter what, I think we made the right decision moving them into Stratton's room. That had to be done.
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A
Yeah.
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B
You know, we couldn't have moved Stratton's clothes into Stella's room. She would have had a heyday.
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A
Do you know that every morning Stella has been waking up Stratton pulling him out of his crib and putting a new pull up on him.
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B
I know. She's such a good little mommy.
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A
So I think that this will actually be good for their relationship too.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Because they. They fight a lot.
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B
Yeah, they do. All right, I want to talk about sleep for a second because if you're sharing a bed with someone, you know how complicated this can get. I run really hot at night. Jordan does not. He is always so cold. So finding for a long time, finding sheets that kept me cool without turning the bed into a full on ice cube was basically impossible. That's actually how Cozy Earth came into my radar. I went down a full rabbit hole trying to find something that felt cozy but still breathable. And these sheets are the answer. They're soft, they regulate temperature really well and somehow managed to keep us both comfortable and at the same time, which honestly feels like a miracle. They've completely changed how we sleep and they're easily our favorite sheets ever. And then there are the pajamas. I am obsessed with them. Especially the bamboo pajama set. They're lightweight, but still feel cozy, super soft, and just really comfortable to actually sleep in. Not the kind you rip off halfway through the night. Cozy Earth really does elevate those everyday moments at home and makes winding down feel like something you can look forward to. This time of year. It's all about showing a little extra love, whether that's to someone else or yourself. And Cozy Earth makes that really easy. Their attention to detail, the quality of the fabric and how long everything holds up just sets them apart. Plus they make it totally risk free with a hundred night sleep trial and a 10 year warranty. That's crazy. Which says a lot about how confident they are in their products. And right now is actually the perfect time to try them because these pajamas sold out during the holidays and they're finally back with a deal you won't see any other time of year. These viral PJs are so good they sold out during the holidays and now they're back with an exclusive deal available January 25th through February 8th. Check out their bamboo and Sutton pajama collection at cozyearth.com Use our code Danny Bogo to get these PJs for you and someone you love. And if you get a post purchase survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here on De Influenced. At Starbucks, full and part time baristas get comprehensive health care benefits so they have the support they need in every part of their lives. From early morning runs to School pickups to late night auditions. Because at Starbucks, comprehensive healthcare coverage, including dental, vision and mental health care is just to start. Learn more@starbucks.com partners let's look at the script over here. What's going on? Okay, so.
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That'S, that's when, you know, we don't.
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We.
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We're out of things to talk about as we grab the script.
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B
No, no, no. I'm not out of things to talk about. Let's see. Oh, the gender reveal.
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A
Oh, is it. Is it public?
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B
Yeah.
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A
Oh, it's public.
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I didn't post anything on social media. Like, cuz like Livy were like, yeah, you can post like, you can post the gender reveal. Just don't like, share the results. And I was like, yeah, hell no. I'm like, I'm not posing nothing because I don't. What's going to happen is like, I'm going to like take a video or a picture. There's going to be like one little pink confetti on the ground and then it's going to get out and there's going to be like, Danny ruined the.
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A
Danny ruined her brother. She's so selfish. She's the worst person ever.
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B
And I was like, honestly, I don't have time to deal with like the hate of accidentally maybe posting the gender reveal results. So I was like, I'm just not going to get on my phone at all until it's like completely posted. I was just like, it's not worth it. So. Because I don't know why, but sometimes whatever happens in any of our lives, it somehow it's always my fault.
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A
That's so true on the Internet.
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B
So I just decided to give people absolutely nothing.
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A
Overall, like, I would say it's our fault, but then more explicitly on the Internet, it's your fault.
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B
Yeah. Yeah, for sure. So. But no, it was super. It was so fun. And it's always fun to just like live in the moment. But yeah, they ended up having a. Or they're having a girl. So excited. Like we all. I would say I was very convinced it was a boy just because she like, wasn't throwing up and she wasn't really sick. Like that's kind of always. I know it's not true for every pregnancy. It wasn't even true for mine. But I just always. That's what I always go off of. And so I was like, oh, I think she's definitely having a boy. And. But I knew that she really wanted a girl. So I wanted to be a girl. And it was a girl. And I think Landon was so excited. Like, you could tell he was, like, kind of tearing up. But that's because he only wants to have two kids, and he knew that if he had, like, two boys, he'd have to go for a third to try to grow. So that's why he's like.
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Yeah.
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Also really excited. So it's just so crazy. Like, there. Our pregnancies are not that far apart, you know?
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A
No, I know. I really want. Yeah. I mean, I. Did that change your perspective on shifting you towards Nashville at all? The fact that Olivia's having a girl? Oh, because y' all could.
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B
Like, girl versus boy.
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A
No, not girl versus boy. But, like, just being there and realizing that she's gonna have a baby in June or July. And y' all could, like, y' all have babies pretty much at the same time.
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B
I know, but, like, so fun. Do I really have a baby? Like, I have, like, a clan. Like, I have, like, this.
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A
Yeah, that's true.
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B
It's like. It's, like, such a different light. Like, it's. That's so different than just having a baby.
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A
I know.
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B
Like, I don't just have a baby. Like, I'm not just a mom with a baby. People are like, do you want to come hang out? I'm like, I don't even know if that's possible anymore. I don't know.
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A
Like, I think this is also part of your fatigue. I feel like you're just, like. You're just, like, relinquishing. You're like, just move me to Nashville. Just put me.
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B
No, I. I really have gotten to the point where, like, Summit is, like, crawling around. I'm like, he could fall. I'm like, I'll take my chances. I'm, like, can't stand up. And I'm, like, so tired and, like, the decision fatigue. And there's, like, so many kids everywhere, and, like, we just traveled with all those kids, and, like, I don't even care if you have a nanny with you. It's not enough. Like, it's not enough. It's not enough having. Not enough. Like, they. So they help with one kid. You still got three other ones. Like, it's just, like. And they're not. Just, like, they're not kids. They're, like, babies.
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A
Yeah. They're all still babies.
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B
They just, like, don't know. Like, it's.
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A
No, I just really get hurt more than Summit.
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B
One million. He cries more.
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A
Yeah.
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B
He is way more needy. He's like, God bless him. God bless that child.
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A
But you know what? One Thing that we haven't talked about that I do think has changed our kids behaviors. Do we talk about how we're doing? No screens? I don't think we talked about it.
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B
I. I maybe did on my Instagram a little bit.
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A
We did no screens on the plane.
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B
Well, did I tell the story of, like, why this happened?
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A
Yeah, yeah. No, no, no, no.
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B
Okay. So I actually don't think I ever shared the story really anywhere but. Well, the first thing was our kids watched a show every night before bedtime from like 6:15 to 7. Okay. Which was like a great time for me and Jordan too, because we, like, didn't have to be doing anything.
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A
Well, we could kind of like clean up and just like mentally reset, you.
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B
Know, and like, just let them be. And we get to be. And just everybody's just being together. And that's the thing is, like, when your kids don't watch screens, it comes back to you. Like, it's not like they're always just like, oh, now we're all gonna go play together. What happens is they come to you and they're like, mommy, I'm bored.
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A
Right?
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And I'm like, go play with your brother. Your toys. And they're like, no, I don't want to. Like, you know, can you play cards with me? I'm like, but I thought we were just gonna be together. Like, I don't want to play cards with you right now.
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A
You know what I think you should say? I don't know if I have this excuse, but you should say, listen, I can't play with you, but I gave you three siblings so that you can play with them.
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B
Don't work. Like, none of that works. I mean, but that's like saying, look at all the toys you have.
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A
That's true.
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B
Like, and it's like they're like, so I still want to play with you. That's the same thing. Okay. So anyway, so that was kind of our thing. And what. It became annoying because discipline and trying to get them to do something all became about like bribing them with a TV show. It was like, if you don't say bye to someone or go say thank you, we're not. We're not watching a show tonight. Or, you know, it was just always about the show. And like, they all that. That's what they looked forward to is like, it would become. It would be like 5 o' clock and they'd be like, can we watch a show yet? And I'd be like, no, you have another hour. And then 10 minutes. Can we watch a show now? No, it's. You still have 40 minutes, 30 minutes. You still need to play. And, like. But we don't want to play. We want to watch a show. And, like, it's like, we're talking about shows for, like, hours a day, and it's, like, so annoying. And then, you know, then candy came around with Halloween and Christmas, so then that was, like, a big thing because they had all this new candy. So it's like, mommy, after dinner, can I have a blow pop? And I would be like, well, did you clean up your room? And they would be like. And it was just like, everything was bribing, Bribing, like, candy, TV shows. And it was just. Honestly, that alone was just annoying. And I do feel like we. Because that's all they wanted. I do feel like they weren't, like, really being, like, creative or, like, like, finding ways to, like, you know, play together.
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A
Because they were also fighting a lot.
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B
Yeah. Because they just knew they had a show coming up. And. And then. Then it became they were fighting a lot because it would be like, bubba hit me. He can't watch a show. So now they're, like, also using shows against each other. It was just, like, annoying. It was annoying. And so that had already happened. Well, I have been really, like, locking down on this, like, manners thing. And so, like, when I say manners, it's more like just like, overall good behavior. So it's not just manners. We call it manners, but it's like when somebody asks you, hi, Stella, how are you doing? Like, looking them at the eye and say, in the eye, and just saying hi back, like, that's simply, like, all I want. It's like, not that much. It's like, I'm not even asking them to be like, yes, ma'. Am. Great. How are you doing? Like, not even that. I'm just. Because they're so shy that they just. When adults talk to them, they, like, look down, like, bite their, you know, nails. And. And they're not being rude, they're just being shy. And so then there's like, you know, I want them to. Whenever I. When they ask me for, like, may I have a glass of water? It's not like I want water. It's like, may I have a glass of water, mom, please? And then if I give it to you, then. Thank you. Like, just simple, like, human good behavior things. It's not crazy. And the only way I could get them to work on these things with the. Was with the bribery of the TV shows. So we went to go towards school in Nashville. And we were leaving, and I had. My kids were already, like, I was already bribing them with, like, a sucker in the car. Like, I was already, like, on top of it because I was like, I. I really need for them to do well. Like, I was like, who cares? Like, I'm bribing for this, you know? And so they're together, and when they're together, they're extra, like, poor behavior because they just, like, feed off of each other. And I told Stella to. Or, like, one of the teachers comes over, like. Or she was like, on the team, admissions team. And she's like, stella is Stratton. Like, thank you so much for hanging out with us today. I hope you had so much fun. And then, typical me, I always say, what do you say? You know? Like, I'm always like, what do you say? You say, can you say thank you? Or can you say, you know? And I'm, like, having to, like, lead them again to say, what do we say? Like, say thank you for. I go, stella, say, thank you for having me. And Stella looks up at the teacher and takes the sticker that the teacher had given her, looks at her straight in the eye, and just puts a sticker over her mouth. And I was like, oh, my gosh. I. Well, when I tell you, my blood was boiling. I. So then I was like, you know, this is the point where I'm like, I'm not gonna embarrass. Like, we just need to get out here. So we walk outside. I'm holding still in shot in his hands, and I go, you guys, I'm like, I am appalled by your behavior. I did not raise children. I'm not raising children to be like this. You guys did not use manners. I said, not only, like, am I taking away candy, but I'm taking away shows. I was like, no more shows and no more candy until you guys both learn. Learn how to use your manners.
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A
This is probably. I mean, I remember being in the car, and I thought I was in trouble.
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B
Oh, I was.
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A
I was scared.
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B
I don't yell at them, but I. I do. I talk stern. And I'm like. I'm like, I am so disappointed in you. These are not the type of children that I've been trying to raise. You guys are better than this. So then Stella starts crying because I took away the sucker that they gave her at the school, too. They gave her one at the school. So she's crying over the sucker of. After all this. She's really just crying over the sucker. And I'm like, you're freaking kidding me. So she's like, I like this sucker. I was like, I go, okay, then let's go back inside and say thank you. So I march back in with both of them and I go, you're going to walk up to this teacher and you're going to say, thank you for having me. And like, we walk literally, like, this is three or four minutes after we left. We walk right back in. And they're like, oh, like, did you forget something? And I like, tap on our shoulder. I said, no, my daughter has something to tell you. Like, the teacher probably thought she was in trouble and still like, thank you for having me. And I was like, yes, thank you for having us. Let's go, like. And so we went back in the car and I. But I told them, I was like, that's great. And. But I'm just telling you, I was like, you guys can have these suckers like later on. But like, no more screens and no more candy until y' all learn how to use your manners and good behavior without me having to ask you. So since that day, we have not had TV or candy except for when Iron man was on this morning at 4:30. I probably slept like twice. I mean, come on. Like, Mommy's gotta get a rest. But no, so like, what was so great is now they don't even ask. And now whenever Stella. So, like, another thing is like, I always tell her, like, whenever she goes somewhere, like she goes to school or at the lake house, we have like another family that she'll just go hang out with her family. And I'll be like, hey, did you use your manners when you were there? I said, did you say thank you when they gave you water and food? And like, did you say thank you for having me? And she'll go like, you know. And I go, oh, really? Because I talked to her mommy, which I really did it. And she's like, okay, Mommy, I promise I'll do it next time. I said, okay. But I just want to remind you this is why we don't have shows, and this is why we don't have candy. Because you have not learned how to use your manners on your own. And when you start to use your manners long term without mommy or daddy having to say anything, that's when you'll get shows back.
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A
They have asked a question that I think is a pretty fair question.
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B
Like when?
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A
Yeah, they're kind of like, hey, Mommy, like, how much do I have to use my manners?
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B
Yeah, like A quantity. And you know what I say? I said, you'll know.
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A
Yeah. No, I.
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B
You'll know.
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A
It's. It's nice to hear this because I didn't want to say anything because you're pretty scary when it comes to this manners conversation. But, you know, if you ask me, like, what does. What does mommy mean by manners? I would have some examples, but I wouldn't know the perfect.
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B
I put the. I have very specific examples for them. No, I know when an adult says hi to you, you look at them in the eye and you say, hi. When we're leaving somewhere, you say, bye. When you ask for something, you say, may I please and thank you.
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A
But just between you and I, you know, they don't know how to listen to this podcast yet. Between you and I, what you're really saying is you're not mature enough to handle candy and shows. Manners is just something that they can tangibly understand.
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B
I call it manners. But it's like behavior.
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A
Right? That's what I mean. So it's. It's. It's a broad umbrella.
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B
Yeah. And I say, when you learn how to, like, act like a big boy and a big girl, you can have shows back.
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A
I'll be honest. We could use this for. We could use this until they were 15.
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B
Well, no, because there are, like, I do have, like, four or five things that I ask of them.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And, like, Stella has gotten exponentially better.
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A
100.
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B
On the airplane, she ordered her own drink. She said, please and thank you. And then she'll come to me and be like, mommy, I said, may I? Like, even Stratton the other day asked me, mommy, may I have water? They've. Our kids have never done that before. It's because they know it's like, a really big emphasis now, and they know that it affects, like, it's going to affect their quality of life. So. So it's like, I'm sorry. Like, I'm not raising rude children. Like, I won't.
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A
I believe you.
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B
Yeah. I will not.
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A
I'm so impressed. I'm. I'm so impressed because I never really thought about it, but you are, right? I mean, yesterday, Stella took all of the boarding passes. She handed them to the security guard.
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B
She talks to them now. She looks.
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A
She was pushing Summit because I'm not.
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B
Looking to bribe them to do something one time.
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A
No, it's really affected their independence and their maturity.
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B
Yeah. And I told him, I said, whenever you start acting like bigging, like big girls and big boys without mommy having to ask or say Anything like, long term, you will get TV shows and candy back. But. But they still make a lot of mistakes because they're children.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And so then I always remind them, I'm like, this is why we don't do TV shows and candy. I said, because you didn't look at them. Them in the eye. And. And I try to explain to them it's not. I understand that you're shy, but that does hurt people's feelings whenever they try to talk to you and then you ignore them. Like, it's like they're trying to talk to you and they want to make you feel good and like, they want to feel that way too. Another thing that I've been really trying to work with Stella on is like, when you see another child, like another kid alone, like, go talk to them. And like, that's also part of good manners. It's like when you see somebody that feels like maybe they don't have anybody else to play with or like she saw a kid in like a wheelchair the other day and she's like, mommy, like, why are they in a wheelchair? And I said, I don't know. But some. I bet you they can't go all the places that all the other kids can go, so you should go talk to them and play with them. I bet that would make them feel so happy. You know, it's just like being like, aware of how. How like they can make other people feel too. It's not just about them all the time.
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A
Yeah.
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B
It's not just about getting your. Your sucker. Like, you know, and so candy and just shows like, it just. You can't teach them anything when those two things are involved.
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A
I've learned, like, I will say for any parents that want to venture into this realm with us, oh, I don't.
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B
Know what I'm doing. Like, don't listen to me. Well, no, no, I didn't read a book or anything. This is like literally just like what I felt like we should do. Like, I could be totally.
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A
I think you great. But any parents that do want to venture into this, you need to be aware that you will also have to cut out screen time and shows from your life too. I spent three hours on the plane doing dinosaur sticker books and Legos with Stratton and it. Listen, but here's the real side of this, is that I have realized as we've done this, the lack of presence that I have had now that I know presence. Like every night from 6 to 7, we got these, like, educational workbooks for our Kids.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And we'll do, like, color matching, and we'll like.
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B
They love them, too.
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A
They love them, and they love doing them with us. And it's helped me realize, you know, how easy it is to be not present and passive when you truly don't have a screen. You can't open your computer, you can't work. You can't distract yourself. Like, you have no choice but to, like, do some dinosaur sticker books. And you know what? It's kind of fun.
- [49:18]
B
No, it's kind of fun.
- [49:19]
A
I mean, I put together this Lego set, and he was like, can I do it? And I was like, I'm doing it. I was like, this says, plus, you're.
- [49:26]
B
Like, use your manners. And then you can do it, too.
- [49:28]
A
And then you can maybe do your own Legos.
- [49:31]
B
No, I. I've noticed that as well. Or sometimes, like, the kids are really sensitive with me right now because they know I have a baby in my tummy. And I'm like. They're like, let's go walk around the right. I'm like, like, mommy can't right now. Because I'll be, like, sitting there with my foot massager.
- [49:45]
A
Yeah.
- [49:47]
B
But, like, they truly have. There are some nights, I would say 50 of the time now, which it used to be, like, 0%, where they know there's no show, so they have to go, like, figure out something fun to do with each other.
- [49:59]
A
Yeah.
- [49:59]
B
And so they're like, bubba, let's go jump on the trampoline. Or, bubba, let's go do this. Or, bubba, do you want to play grocery store? And they never did that before because they always knew they had a show coming up, you know, And. And it's just so hard, though, because, like, I watched a crap ton of TV growing up.
- [50:14]
A
So did I.
- [50:15]
B
And so. But I just. I do days. But I think it's different. Like, I think the Netflix and the way that the TV shows are presented to us now, because I remember watching a TV and then just being like, I don't really want to do this anymore. And, like, being bored of watching tv.
- [50:30]
A
Yeah.
- [50:30]
B
I don't think that you can be bored of watching, like, Netflix and all these shows anymore, because, like, the colors and all that. So. And the fact that you can, like, you get bored of one show. See, like, if we're watching a show and then it switched over to, like, spongebob for me. Like, I wasn't. Like, I watch a little bit of spongebob, but, like, that was never really my jam. So when spongebob came Up. I was like, all right, I'm ready to go play.
- [50:51]
A
But they don't now it's on demand.
- [50:52]
B
Now it's on demand. So if they don't like spongebob, they can go watch something else immediately. And it's so different.
- [50:58]
A
There was this, like, Ben Affleck, Matt Damon episode of Joe Rogan recently. And they're so interesting because they've been in the like business for so long. But he was talking about how you have to write scripts now to re explain the plot like three or four times throughout a movie. Because people are like, you have to assume that they're like, on their phone with Netflix in the background. And we were watching this movie in Nashville and on Amazon prime now they have this beta feature where if you, like, stop and then pick back up, you can recap the movie just up to that point so that you can, like, re. Engage.
- [51:41]
B
Yeah.
- [51:41]
A
So, like, if you kind of like, lose or get distracted, you can press this button and it'll like, recap like, oh, here, let me remind you what this story's about.
- [51:48]
B
Yeah.
- [51:48]
A
So that you can re. Engage. So all of those things are just like. It is different than watching Doug. It's so different.
- [51:55]
B
It's so different. Even Doug. Remember the colors of Doug?
- [51:58]
A
Yeah.
- [51:58]
B
They were so bland.
- [51:59]
A
Yeah.
- [51:59]
B
And it was like, like, it really just didn't get your mind. I feel like going in the ways that shows do now. And so that's another thing is like, we have to understand it's like, different. It's like the same thing when people are like, well, I grew up on, you know, Cheetos and muffins, and it's like.
- [52:13]
A
But it was different.
- [52:14]
B
The ingredients were different.
- [52:16]
A
The manufacturing of the food was totally so different.
- [52:19]
B
So. So like I said, I am not trying to cut screens out and in candy forever. TV shows forever. And I use it as like a backup. Like this morning at 4:30 when, like, like it was an emergency. Like, Stella had like a 105. Like, she was so sick last night. And like, I'll. I'll let her watch the show whenever I really want her to rest and like, all put that on. So I'm not like this crazy, like, lady about it. But overall, I don't want that to be like a cultural thing in our home. Like, yeah, we just like, watch shows all the time.
- [52:50]
A
I will say, listen, I. I've really gotten better about this because you called me out. I. I believe that we can live a very present, you know, present life with our kids, raising four kids Here in Dallas, too. But there is something about even that. That second house that we looked at where it's like, we've just got more space. You know, we have a quieter street. The pace of Nashville seems a little bit slower. And I just have realized, like, even being present with our kids with no screen, it. It's gonna take a lot.
- [53:27]
B
Yeah, but I don't. I don't want to be slow with my kids. Like, I still want to take Stella, like, to fun places.
- [53:31]
A
No, no, no, no, no. I know. I know.
- [53:34]
B
Crazy.
- [53:34]
A
No, no, I know that. I know that. I'm just saying, like, it's. There's. There's part of Nashville for me that is just, like, a commitment to, like, these. These next 10 to 15 years that we have with our kids. Because I was so. Summit was crawling around in the airport yesterday everywhere, and all these adults, like, three adults stopped me, and they kept being like, hey, enjoy it. You're going to blink, and he's going to be 21. And it was, like, so sweet because it was like, all these, like, older individuals that clearly, like, have adult.
- [54:06]
B
Like, it's okay. We have another one if I blink.
- [54:07]
A
No, I kept. I kept saying that, and I go, oh, we've got three more over there.
- [54:11]
B
Yeah, I blink. We have another one younger.
- [54:13]
A
But again, it might just be my algorithm, but, like, on Twitter, I feel like I'm getting, like, all of these, like, you know, really, like, sentimental posts from, like, adults that are, like, man, I ne.
- [54:25]
B
The.
- [54:26]
A
The days are long, years are short, or whatever. And so I don't know. I. I think that no matter whether we stay in Dallas or Nashville, but there is something sweet about the simpler life in Nashville that makes me feel like we would be able to, like, really engage and raise four amazing kids. I don't know if you felt that way at all. Like, I don't know if you're just, like, decision fatigue. And when you walked in that house and had more space, like, I just.
- [54:52]
B
Feel like that can easily be done in Dallas.
- [54:53]
A
Yeah, I agree.
- [54:55]
B
And I. I like. I also think that I feel the same way as you, but I also. I feel like the. Like, you feel like you want to spend, like, this, like, quality, sweet time with him, which is, like. I do, too, but I feel the pressure of, like, raising good humans like that. I have to do it in a very connected amount of time. Like, I feel like every day counts because I'm like, oh, my gosh. Like, I need to. If I just let this thing slide or this thing.
- [55:21]
A
No, you've been. And you've done great at that.
- [55:23]
B
Like, I feel like I have to be, like, very consistent with, like. Because, oh, my gosh, it's. It's so funny because everybody's like, every stage of having kids, everybody's like, is the hardest. Like, pregnancy, the hardest. Postpartum, the hardest. Newborn stage, the hardest. Toddler stage, the hardest. I think what is so far been the hardest, and maybe it's just because this is a phase that we're in, is, like, raising good humans. Because that, to me, is, like, the most. Like, there's truly no, like, textbook for it. And every kid, even if there was every kid is so.
- [55:58]
A
They're just, like, born.
- [55:59]
B
And that's why I'm like, if you want to have shows for, like, I have a friend that. I asked her, I was like, do you all have shows? And she was like, yeah, but the boys, like. Like, she has, like, a three, four, and five year old. No, sorry. What are her kids? Six.
- [56:13]
A
They're like, two years.
- [56:14]
B
Yeah, whatever. They're all two years apart. Anyway, so I asked her, I was like, yo, what are y' all doing? She's like, yeah, I put the TV on, but they're, like, not really interested. I'm like, really? That's amazing. So that's why I feel like every family has to figure it out on their own and, like, cater what works for their kids. And that's what makes it so challenging, is that there's no. Like, you just have to, like, feel it in your gut.
- [56:34]
A
Yeah.
- [56:35]
B
And then stick with it. And even sometimes, like, the way you feel in your gut, and then you try something, it's like, oh, that actually didn't work. Like. Like, we thought we were being smart with the scheduled 6 to 7 TV time. Like, we thought that that was, like, smart of us to be, like, right. No screen time. Except for this time. That. And it maybe works for other families, but it just doesn't really work for our kids, you know?
- [56:55]
A
Yeah.
- [56:56]
B
And so I feel like those are the things that every day I'm like, I stress about.
- [57:01]
A
Yeah. No, I. I mean, you're doing great. You're doing.
- [57:04]
B
You're too. Babe, you're doing great.
- [57:05]
A
Thanks.
- [57:06]
B
Yeah.
- [57:06]
A
That's so sweet.
- [57:07]
B
Let's go over the fraternity shoot.
- [57:09]
A
Okay.
- [57:12]
B
I've done two maternity shoots this pregnancy. Typically, I only do one, and I. This is like, these last two I've really gone all out for. And I think you know why. He's on his phone. It's okay. I deal with this sometimes. I want to take away his screen time. Seriously, this behavior is so rude. It's. It's just. I'm sorry, I'm gonna start bribing you.
- [57:46]
A
Okay, I'm listening.
- [57:50]
B
So I've done two maternity shoots and you know the reason why I did these?
- [57:55]
A
Because you think it's going to be your last one.
- [57:56]
B
Yeah.
- [57:57]
A
Yeah.
- [57:58]
B
And so I just wanted to like, milk it for all it's worth.
- [58:01]
A
That's fair.
- [58:02]
B
You know? And you know, I've never really done like, the. The like creative shoes. And I was like, I'm gonna regret it if I don't, you know, So I did a little, you know, a little topless there for a little bit.
- [58:16]
A
I wasn't even there for that one.
- [58:18]
B
No. But I did have sticky boobs on, so it's like, I really was. But everybody's like, where are you gonna put these photos? I'm like, I don't know.
- [58:24]
A
You're like the Internet world.
- [58:28]
B
Like, all over my Instagram.
- [58:31]
A
There's something about modesty that happens to pregnant women, especially four, four time pregnant women where it's like, why does.
- [58:38]
B
He's not a thing anymore.
- [58:39]
A
You're just kind of like.
- [58:40]
B
Like, I walk in like our podcast producer and I'm like, look. And I like, lift up my shirt.
- [58:44]
A
You're kind of like. You're kind of like. You're like, you want to see me naked? Cool. Like, what do you want to see?
- [58:50]
B
Like, it's kind of like equivalent to like a baby walking around naked. It's like, oh, yeah.
- [58:55]
A
Like, it's like to you and yourself, you're like, it's whatever. At this point, it's like, who wants.
- [59:00]
B
To see this anyway? Like, you know, it's like, it's like, oh, she's walking around trying to be sexy with her. You know, it's kind of like when a baby has like, like, like man boobs or like, boobs.
- [59:13]
A
It's like, oh, they were made up boobies.
- [59:17]
B
So cute. So. So anyway, yeah, and it's funny because everybody's like, oh, my gosh. Like, female power empowerment. And I'm like, no, that's about. I wish it was. I wish I was like, yeah, I wish I felt that way. This would be me masking behind that. Like, trying to be like, look, I'm a strong, powerful woman, but like, I'm like actually crying. Eat donuts every day. Like, like, please get this baby out. So, no, I just did it more of like, it was like a challenge, you know? Like, I just wanted to be like a creative Challenge.
- [59:50]
A
Yeah, you did great because you. You pretty much did the whole thing yourself, too.
- [59:54]
B
I planned two shoots. One in Nashville, where you came up to, and then one in Dallas. And I had a lot of fun, you know, I just kind of rad.
- [60:04]
A
You kept saying in Nashville, like, I really want, like, don't. I want to feel like I'm wearing the pants in this shoot. You know? Like, it was like. It was like feminists.
- [60:13]
B
Yeah, it's like you wanted to be like.
- [60:16]
A
Yeah. Feel it. You did keep saying that, though.
- [60:22]
B
I know, but it was more like the. Like, it was just like the vibe of the shoe. But I didn't really feel that way. No, I know, because I'm like, please, like, please help me. I don't feel good. Please give me a coffee. Like, please hold my hand.
- [60:34]
A
Yeah, you're. You're convenient. Feminist.
- [60:37]
B
I'm like a feminist for like, two minutes.
- [60:40]
A
Yeah.
- [60:40]
B
And then I'm like, can you come pick me up, babe? I don't have a car, and I Ubered here, and Uber driver scared me, so. Yeah, it's so fun. Like, it's so fun to be, like, a feminist for like, a minute or two.
- [60:55]
A
Yeah. Yeah.
- [60:55]
B
Just put on the pants. Yeah, it was just a pantsuit with my belly out. So, yeah, I did those and it was a good time. And now I think. I think I'm. So. Let's see. Let's just. Let me pull up this app. Let me just tell you something. I am now. Oh, my God. Tomorrow. I'm 34 weeks pregnant.
- [61:21]
A
When does the baby come?
- [61:23]
B
Our earliest Stella came at 38 weeks, so the baby could be here in a month.
- [61:28]
A
Yeah.
- [61:31]
B
Is that crazy?
- [61:32]
A
That's crazy. I don't.
- [61:33]
B
Oh, he's on my bladder. I don't want to pee myself. Sorry. My baby's the size of a pineapple. I don't know. This one's kind of giving, like the size of like a basketball. They said he could be £9. I could see it.
- [61:49]
A
It's so. It's so crazy that I don't even know what his personality is going to be like.
- [61:53]
B
Yeah. So he will be born. Well, we'll see. But he. Tomorrow. I'm 34 weeks. Why did I. Oh, I was just gonna say, I think I'm ready to go. Bye. Bye.
- [62:09]
A
What? Where are you going?
- [62:10]
B
Just non existent. You know, just off the. Off the grid.
- [62:14]
A
Oh, off the grid.
- [62:15]
B
Yeah, but not on social media. I'll be. I'll be there. Right. I don't want you to miss me too much, you know? Like, I don't want to, like, no more travel.
- [62:24]
A
Yeah, no more. We need to start chilling.
- [62:26]
B
Technically, I could travel for another two weeks, so we'll see.
- [62:31]
A
No, no, no, no, no, no.
- [62:33]
B
Not with the kids.
- [62:34]
A
Oh, okay.
- [62:36]
B
But, like, where we go, the only thing I really want to go do is just like, I want to go to a place where every day I can experience a different type of massage.
- [62:46]
A
Interesting.
- [62:47]
B
They should have those, like, massage getaways.
- [62:50]
A
Yeah. Yeah.
- [62:51]
B
Like, just. Oh, I guess that's called, like, a wellness retreat.
- [62:54]
A
I mean, yeah, I'll go somewhere with you.
- [62:57]
B
Yeah, it's so fun, but I just want to go and, like, be touched like that.
- [63:01]
A
Okay, calm down. Chill.
- [63:04]
B
Like, I just want. It's so funny because now, like, at the end of each day in Nashville, like, we were always getting our 10, 000 steps because we would walk to 12 south, and, like, my feet. The dogs be barking at the end of the day, like, barking. Oh, my gosh. And I'd be like, jordan, Jordan, can you please come? Like, massage my feet? They hurt. And then I'd say, like, stella, can you get Daddy? And she'd be like, daddy, mommy wants you to come smush your feet. She always calls it smush. And then I'll be like, can you ask him? Like, an hour later, I'm like, can you ask him to come massage Daddy? Mommy wants you to come smush her back. Because that's what she views it as. It's like, just smush. But that's really all I want is just somebody, like, smush my feet.
- [63:48]
A
Yeah, we'll look into that. Yeah, Somewhere together.
- [63:51]
B
No, I'm gonna. Well, my baby dinner, maybe be shower dinner. It's on the. I'm not having a baby shower. It's, like, literally just a dinner is not this weekend, but the next weekend.
- [64:00]
A
Yeah, this weekend. We have more school stuff in Dallas.
- [64:03]
B
I can't wait.
- [64:04]
A
Well, I don't think you can come.
- [64:05]
B
Because you're right, I can't. I'm not available. I totally forgot. Why can I not go?
- [64:12]
A
You have another baby shower, right?
- [64:13]
B
Oh, so is my baby dinner this weekend? Oh, it is.
- [64:16]
A
Oh, it's this weekend.
- [64:17]
B
Yeah, it's this weekend.
- [64:20]
A
Interesting. Okay.
- [64:21]
B
Oh, good. So we'll get that knocked out. Yeah, it is this weekend. Oh, and then the 29th, we're going to the opening of that new club in Dallas.
- [64:31]
A
That's so. I forgot about. This is quintessential Danny Austin. She. What time is it at? Like, it's, like, 10.
- [64:40]
B
It starts at, like, 9.
- [64:42]
A
9Pm and she. But it's like a week before. It's like a new club called Delilah. And she texts, it's cool.
- [64:49]
B
Like apparently it's like, like it's an LA club. Like, like, not like club, but it's like a. Yeah, it's like a. I don't know, it's maybe. How do you, what do you compare it to? I don't know, it's like a club.
- [65:02]
A
It's like a, like a fancy dinner place, but like, it's kind of vibey. Like. Yeah, it's like that place in Cabo. What's the.
- [65:09]
B
I don't know.
- [65:10]
A
No, no, we need Bagatelle. Bagatelle. Maybe it's like Bagatelle.
- [65:14]
B
Maybe. I don't know, but I. They like, they were like, hey, like, we want to invite you like exclusively to this, like, new. New invite, like to Delilah and I and like to hit the club.
- [65:26]
A
And I was like, yeah, here's the funniest thing is like, she screenshotted it to me and I've learned a lot about my wife through marriage. It's very important that I respond to that text message with excitement.
- [65:38]
B
He didn't reply at all. And I was like, what do you think I'm crazy? Like, you think I'm just trying to be like a 22 year old over here? Like, you didn't even reply to me. I was like, he's definitely judging me. No. And then I was like, sorry, I want to have fun when I'm 35 weeks pregnant.
- [65:52]
A
No, see, it wasn't about whether we're actually gonna go. It was the fact that, like, Danny wanted me to believe that we could go and that we should go together and that it would be a fun thing and exciting. But then we were, we were laughing at my birthday weekend because you were like, oh, you know, Delilah, you never texted me back. And I was like, oh, yeah, I'm super excited about it. And she was like, once I said, I'm super excited about it. You were like, it starts at nine, I don't know if we'll make it. And then I just started laughing because I was like, I know we're not going to make it, but it's the idea of making it.
- [66:25]
B
And I did kind of get my feelings a little hurt on your birthday weekend. Not by you, but when I went up to go to the bathroom, we were in that like piano lounge bar and I was walking by and these like four guys, like, I was like, I was like, excuse me, I'm trying to. And like, they turned around and saw me, and they were like, whoa. And I was like, whoa. Sorry. I didn't know I wasn't allowed to be here. And so then it really did kind of, like, it kind of opened my eyes. I was like, maybe. I. I. Like, I don't belong.
- [67:00]
A
Oh, you do, though. No, but we're gonna go to Delilah.
- [67:03]
B
But they were like. They were taken aback. They kind of were like, it's like a fish out of water. Like. Like, she. It's like that. That isn't Seinfeld, that show where it's like, when you see, like, a pregnant woman on the treadmill. It's like, whoa, that should not be happening right now. It's.
- [67:19]
A
It's so funny because it reminds me of that one time when we took Stella to that bar when we first had Stella.
- [67:27]
B
Oh, yeah. And you.
- [67:28]
A
You just wanted to feel like we could be out past eight, and still you're like, oh, we're not. We're not different now we can take.
- [67:35]
B
A baby to a bar. And then, like, we pull up, and the. The bouncer's like, yeah, does she have a id? And I was like.
- [67:42]
A
And it was, like, sarcastic, like, what are you doing here? You're gonna bring a doona into. Into this bar right now?
- [67:48]
B
Yeah, I mean, it's fine.
- [67:51]
A
But listen, we're gonna go to Delilah.
- [67:52]
B
Do anything.
- [67:53]
A
Like, when they're, like, the biggest. We're gonna be the biggest hit at Delilah.
- [67:56]
B
We're just. We're just gonna be the biggest period.
- [67:59]
A
True.
- [68:00]
B
That's it.
- [68:01]
A
That's okay.
- [68:02]
B
I just don't want to be looked at again like that.
- [68:04]
A
Like, those guys, if I, man, really.
- [68:07]
B
Didn'T make me feel good, if I.
- [68:08]
A
Would have seen that, I would have kicked it.
- [68:10]
B
No, they were sweet. They were like, whoa. Whoa. Sorry. They're like. Like, the frat guys are like, whoa. Everybody, like, get out of the way. Like, watch out. Pregnant lady walking through. Like, it's like, they didn't want to, like, be near me because, like, they didn't want to, like, assault me or something. Like, it wasn't. They weren't being mean. They were just like, whoa.
- [68:28]
A
You were like, hey, boys.
- [68:30]
B
I'm like, I can't be.
- [68:32]
A
To put, like, I just did a topless maternity shoot. You can probably find it on the Internet soon. Follow me. DM me.
- [68:40]
B
Like, have you ever seen a belly like this? This round before?
- [68:45]
A
You're like, you guys got Instagram?
- [68:48]
B
No, but, yeah, so I am a little scared of being looked at like that again.
- [68:54]
A
Hey, Delilah. No, just get like a. I don't.
- [68:58]
B
Want to, like, make people feel uncomfortable.
- [69:00]
A
Babe, we're so. Now it's a thing. We're so going. When is it? This weekend? Next weekend?
- [69:05]
B
It's. It's such a thing.
- [69:06]
A
It's like, oh, you're gonna be real. I know. You might have the baby at Delilah.
- [69:11]
B
I could be, like, 36 weeks pregnant. Like, I'll have, like, the full on triple chin going on. Like, nothing will fit. My shoes don't fit. I have to wear Birkenstocks all the time now because my feet are so swollen. So. Yeah, I don't. I don't know what I was thinking.
- [69:26]
A
Yeah, we're gonna go now.
- [69:28]
B
We have to go just so we can tell this around the podcast.
- [69:30]
A
Yeah, for sure.
- [69:32]
B
But anyway. Well, this has been fun.
- [69:35]
A
This has been fun. We. Next week, we're going to make it to this script, I promise.
- [69:39]
B
Okay. We love you guys. Bye. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.