Our BIGGEST Conflict to Date

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Our BIGGEST Conflict to Date"
De-Influenced with Dani + Jordan
Release Date: February 20, 2025

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Introduction and Lighthearted Gym Talk

The episode kicks off with Dani and Jordan engaging in their characteristic playful banter about their recent gym mishaps. Dani humorously laments Jordan's deadlifting accident, showcasing their relatable and candid dynamic.

• Dani (00:00): "Guys, my baby got hurt. Somebody messed with my baby, and I don't like it."

• Jordan (00:26): "Yeah, no one messed with me. I threw my back out. Deadlifting."

Their conversation smoothly transitions into discussions about exercise routines, highlighting the challenges men face with leg days and the nuances of different squat forms.

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Health and Fitness Concerns

Dani and Jordan delve into personal health experiences, sharing moments of vulnerability about their physical well-being. Dani recounts her struggle with a back injury and the emotional impact of her chiropractic adjustment.

• Dani (02:01): "I couldn't walk. Like, I walked like the Hunchback of Notre Dame... I started crying after the adjustment."

The discussion shifts to biological age and wellness, with Jordan introducing Function Health, a blood work company that assesses biological aging. He shares his excitement about his own biological age being younger than his chronological age.

• Jordan (05:23): "Function Health is a blood work company by Dr. Hyman. It gives you a biological age you're going to live to."

Dani expresses her apprehension about participating, highlighting concerns about cortisol levels and overall health perception.

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Parenting Challenges and Child Behavior

The conversation moves to parenting, where Dani opens up about feelings of insecurity regarding her post-pregnancy body and the struggles of fitting into societal expectations.

• Dani (07:05): "I'm feeling a little insecure... that area around the belly just won't go away."

Jordan empathetically addresses Dani's concerns, reinforcing his support and appreciation.

• Jordan (09:36): "I think you look great and I love the curly hair."

They also discuss the challenges of managing multiple car seats in a small sedan, reflecting the practical aspects of parenting young children.

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Conflict Over Reality TV Show Participation

A significant portion of the episode centers around a heated discussion between Dani and Jordan about Jordan potentially joining a reality TV show. Dani voices her strong opposition, citing concerns about losing control over their personal narrative and the potential impact on their family dynamics.

• Jordan (18:12): "We're not going to let our kids watch Disney anymore."

• Dani (43:26): "I feel like we've just gone through this break, and you just blew up your life... it's reintroducing chaos."

Jordan counters by expressing enthusiasm about sharing their story and being a positive influence, emphasizing his desire to learn more before making a decision.

• Jordan (58:27): "I feel like this show is not... my husband doesn't feel good about it, but I feel a lot of peace about it right now."

The tension between personal aspirations and maintaining a stable family environment is palpable as they navigate their differing perspectives.

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Relationship Dynamics: Love and Respect

Dani and Jordan explore the intricacies of their marital relationship, particularly focusing on the concepts of love and respect as outlined in the book "Love and Respect". They discuss the "crazy cycle" where unmet emotional needs lead to conflicts, emphasizing the importance of understanding each other's love languages.

• Dani (37:08): "It's so hard because they're also like screaming. So you're... it's very counterintuitive."

• Jordan (43:27): "The hardest love language for me to give is quality time."

They acknowledge their differing approaches—Dani's need for verbal affirmations and Jordan's challenge with expressing them—while striving to bridge the communication gap to strengthen their relationship.

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Pop Culture: Kendrick Lamar vs. Drake

Shifting gears, Dani and Jordan engage in a spirited debate about the authenticity and influence of artists Kendrick Lamar and Drake. They critique the manufacturing of fame in the music industry, questioning the genuine impact versus orchestrated popularity.

• Jordan (65:32): "He says you can pump up and fabricate fame, but you can't recreate my influence."

• Dani (67:14): "Beyonce does not [use co-writers]. Taylor Swift is like a tried and true artist."

Their analysis underscores the tension between artistic integrity and the commercial mechanisms that propel artists to fame, highlighting their preference for authenticity.

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Chicken Soup for the Soul: Gratitude and Looking Forward

In the concluding segment, Dani and Jordan share personal reflections on gratitude and future aspirations, fostering a positive and heartfelt end to the episode.

• Jordan (71:48): "I'm honestly grateful for this podcast conversation around the reality TV show topic."

• Dani (73:06): "I'm looking forward to looking at more houses. It's like window shopping."

They express appreciation for their supportive friendship with Ellie and discuss their excitement about potential new living spaces, emphasizing the ongoing journey of growth and adaptation in their lives.

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Final Thoughts

This episode of De-Influenced with Dani + Jordan offers an intimate glimpse into the couple's personal struggles, particularly focusing on the delicate balance between individual aspirations and maintaining a harmonious family life. Their honest and reflective dialogue provides listeners with relatable insights into navigating conflicts, fostering communication, and prioritizing relationships amidst life's challenges.

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Notable Quotes:

• Dani (02:01): "I couldn't walk. Like, I walked like the Hunchback of Notre Dame... I started crying after the adjustment."

• Jordan (05:23): "Function Health is a blood work company by Dr. Hyman. It gives you a biological age you're going to live to."

• Dani (07:05): "I'm feeling a little insecure... that area around the belly just won't go away."

• Jordan (58:27): "I feel like this show is not... my husband doesn't feel good about it, but I feel a lot of peace about it right now."

• Dani (37:08): "It's so hard because they're also like screaming. So you're... it's very counterintuitive."

• Jordan (43:27): "The hardest love language for me to give is quality time."

• Jordan (65:32): "He says you can pump up and fabricate fame, but you can't recreate my influence."

• Dani (73:06): "I'm looking forward to looking at more houses. It's like window shopping."

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This structured summary captures the essence of the episode, highlighting key discussions and emotional moments, while providing actionable insights for listeners seeking similar experiences or advice.

Transcript

[Danny Austin]

Foreign. The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Hello, and welcome back to your favorite podcast, de Influenced. Guys, My baby got hurt. Somebody messed with my baby, and I don't like it. And I'm not talking about Summit. I'm talking about my baby boy, Jordan.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, no one messed with me. I threw my back out. Deadlifting.

[Danny Austin]

I want to beat up that. That deadlift.

[Jordan Austin]

I was. I was doing sumo squats for the first time.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, that's a. You know, girls love a sumo squat. We do those all the time. It's like, really? Oh, yeah. It's like, every workout, we do a little sumo squat. Yeah, absolutely. I'm so happy that, like, some. Some of the men are joining in on this.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. No, it's terrible.

[Danny Austin]

I know.

[Jordan Austin]

Horrible.

[Danny Austin]

Men hate leg days.

[Jordan Austin]

No, I. This wasn't leg day. This is, like, core and back. But my. I was, like, lifting it, and I felt like, this slip, and it scared the crap out of me.

[Danny Austin]

Did you thought you, like, were paralyzed?

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, I thought I, like, ruined my walking ability for my life.

[Danny Austin]

My gosh. Were you just lifting too much weight?

[Jordan Austin]

I also wasn't familiar with, like, the form squat.

[Danny Austin]

You weren't, like, really tuned in?

[Jordan Austin]

No, I wasn't, like, tuned in. Honestly, I didn't really want to be doing them.

[Danny Austin]

Oh. So.

[Jordan Austin]

And so, mentally, I was like. It was my last one, too.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, that.

[Jordan Austin]

And then I literally had to lay there.

[Danny Austin]

Oh. At the gym.

[Jordan Austin]

Ambulances came, paramedics.

[Danny Austin]

No, they didn't.

[Jordan Austin]

They had to give me an adrenaline shot because my heart stopped.

[Danny Austin]

No, I mean, that's. That pain that you have right now. That's. This is what's so crazy. That's what happened when I threw out my back when I was pushing with Stella. That's how hard I was pushing.

[Jordan Austin]

That's got to be terrible for your bajaj to be all healing and then you're back to be out, like, oh, yeah. Miserable.

[Danny Austin]

So I was for a week. I don't. I don't know if you can even remember this. I couldn't walk. Like, I had to. I, like, walked, like, the Hunchback of Notre Dame.

[Jordan Austin]

That's how I'm walking.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. And. But I was, like, also had just pushed out my first baby. It was wild. But I also didn't know because, you know, like, it was your first time. So I was like, oh, your body's supposed to hurt. But then I realized I was like, wait a minute. My back's not supposed to be like this. And that's when I went to the chiropractor. And the number. They adjusted me, and then I started crying.

[Jordan Austin]

See, this is what I really don't get is, like, this Brian Johnson guy who wants to, like, never die.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't get it. I'm like, At a certain age, I'm gonna be like, all right, I'm good. I don't know what that age is. I don't want to comment.

[Danny Austin]

Babe. That's so depressing.

[Jordan Austin]

No, it's really not. It's accepting.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, no, I get that. I mean, you know, like, I call Goie all the time. I talked about this. My grandma's 98, and every time, like, when I talk to her, she. I'm like, goy, what you doing? She's, like, waiting for the good Lord to take me. She's like. But then, you know, I always tell her, I'm like, sorry, go away. I prayed in second grade that you'd live to 100. I'm like, I think you have a little.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. Like, I. I mean, the. The purpose. I will probably feel around, like, 75. 80 will probably be like my grandkids and playing a role in their lives. But, like, let's take grandkids out of it for a second.

[Danny Austin]

Okay.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, at a certain point, I feel like we live our lives where it's like every day's our last, you know? Like, I feel like I get.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, that's a great way to live.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. I think I.

[Danny Austin]

That you feel like we live that way.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, 100%. Oh, I feel like we've seen some, you know.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Yeah. And I like. And that's the thing is, like, I never want to be on my deathbed and be like, I wish I would have.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, no, no. I think that we both live like that. And so I cannot imagine being at 70 and being like, okay, I got more to see. You know, I think I'm going to be like, hey, I've done it.

[Danny Austin]

70 is not that old.

[Jordan Austin]

I know. 70 has always been my number, Jordan.

[Danny Austin]

What. What am I gonna do? What am I gonna do for 30 years when I'm gonna thrive?

[Jordan Austin]

We'll set you up for success. You'll. You'll be.

[Danny Austin]

You'll. Playing shuffleboard with my dad is 71.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, that's perspective.

[Danny Austin]

My dad is like, we've got a lot more life.

[Jordan Austin]

Okay, 80.

[Danny Austin]

80. That still works out.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, here's what I. I don't want to lose the plot here.

[Danny Austin]

No, 90. 92. It's, like, a good number.

[Jordan Austin]

I feel the point is. Is, like, all of these billionaires that Never want to die. Like, the fact that our bodies are aging, you can't reverse that. So, like, if I had to walk around, like I'm walking now, like, you know, just kind of hunchbacked and like.

[Danny Austin]

You'Re like, if this is getting old, I don't want it, is what you're saying. Yes, okay. Yes, I totally. But, you know, that's why it's so important to take care of yourself in your younger years.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, I know. You know, my.

[Danny Austin]

My dad takes no medication. My dad, every time he goes to the doctor has, like. You know why? My mom always said it's because he doesn't stress. My dad is like the least stressed out person. My mom's always like, I had to carry all this stuff. Like, when I think of my dad, I just think of floating in the pool, chilling like a villain. Happy, content, you know, doesn't need much, just happy, happy to be there, you know, easygoing. And I mean, I honestly think that adds years to your life. What are we all stressed about anyway?

[Jordan Austin]

You know, I did this, you know, this company I've been telling you about, Function Health.

[Danny Austin]

Function of Health or Function?

[Jordan Austin]

No, just Function Health.

[Danny Austin]

You've been calling it Function of Health.

[Jordan Austin]

No, I haven't.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, okay.

[Jordan Austin]

So Function Health is a blood work company by Dr. Hyman, right? Yeah. Anyway.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, Dr. Amen. Or Hyman.

[Jordan Austin]

No, not Eamon.

[Danny Austin]

Okay.

[Jordan Austin]

I mean, but he is. So he basically, you go to like a quest and then you get access to all of your blood work. So I just did a bunch of blood work and then it'll give you like a biological age that you're going to live to.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, no. Oh, that you are.

[Jordan Austin]

Right now I'm 34 in real life, but my biological age, according to my blood work, is 28.

[Danny Austin]

That's phenomenal.

[Jordan Austin]

So I've been going around saying, like, I'm 34, but biologically I'm 28 when people ask. But I. Everything that I do, I typically like to roll you on to. But I am so scared for you to get this blood work done because I'm. Now I'm actually okay.

[Danny Austin]

I'm like 54 at heart.

[Jordan Austin]

Well, like, the stress.

[Danny Austin]

Let's do it. Let's do it.

[Jordan Austin]

Should we do it?

[Danny Austin]

Oh, totally. But it's.

[Jordan Austin]

What if your biological age is like 50?

[Danny Austin]

Well, then I got some something to work on, babe. I don't know why you're underestimating my health so much. Like, I always, every time I go to the doctor, it's like perfect health. I just get the flu a lot?

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. No, but they're going to check your cortisol levels. That's the one I'm scared to see. But honestly, you've been chill.

[Danny Austin]

My cortisol levels are fine.

[Jordan Austin]

True. This is. I'm thinking you're. You know what? I need to get you out of this box. Pre break. Danny. I gotta get rid of that. That's the old Danielle. Hello? She's.

[Danny Austin]

Hello? She's dead. Yes, I'm chilling in the pool like a villain.

[Jordan Austin]

Yes. So true.

[Danny Austin]

Speaking of body, I do want to talk about mine. You know, I just. I have to be honest. I'm not feeling myself these days.

[Jordan Austin]

Really?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. And, you know, I've been eating healthy. It's been about three days now.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

What? Did you see something I snuck last night?

[Jordan Austin]

No. I mean, I think I literally was like. You were like, yeah, I'm not into diets. I like bread too much. And I was like, well, if I eat bread, like, that's really what does. And you're like, yeah, I'm just not going to give up bread.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, but I haven't eaten a lot of bread lately. Actually, I don't think I've had bread in three days. I've been supplementing it with oatmeal. Oatmeal, oats, grains, rice.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't know enough about, like, the bread ecosystem, but isn't oats and bread the same?

[Danny Austin]

Jordan, the only thing is that, like, I'm breastfeeding, so if you could just get off my nuts right now, like, okay. And I also just had a baby four weeks ago. Hey, listen, I can't even work out yet.

[Jordan Austin]

You brought this up. I have not said anything about your body. I think your body's great.

[Danny Austin]

I feel your judgment, though. Just because you eat 18 chickens in one day doesn't mean the rest of us have to. Okay.

[Jordan Austin]

Okay.

[Danny Austin]

He literally eats so much protein, it's.

[Jordan Austin]

Finish your thoughts. Finish your thoughts.

[Danny Austin]

No, I just. I. I just wanted to say. It's just. I'm feeling it. I'm feeling a little insecure.

[Jordan Austin]

Really?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. It's okay. It's just this area right here with the belly that just, you know. Yeah, it's just. Yeah, me too.

[Jordan Austin]

I'm like, what are you doing?

[Danny Austin]

Get out of there. And then it just affects, like, all my pant sizes because my legs. I don't mind my legs. It's just that area around the belly that it just, you know, it just won't go away at that stubborn area. And then it makes me go up like, three sizes in my pants just because that one little area, you know, they call it the FUPA sometimes.

[Jordan Austin]

The. The jeans video where you tried on jeans.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Very relatable. I've had many women come up to me and be like, love Danny's jeans video. That's like, you truly. Our PE Group today was like, love that video. Been there. Like, walked into Divi. Love that video. Been there.

[Danny Austin]

Is putting on. That's probably one of the hardest days, is trying to put on jeans after you had a baby. Like, I remember each after each baby that one day after each after having Stella. I remember that day. I remember that day after having Shreddon. And I'll never. And I'll remember that day after having stomach. Yeah, it's just a horrible, horrible feeling. Those mother jeans, though, I didn't put the link. I'm going to put the link to those in my stories one day because those are stretchy and we really need the stretch. Abercrombies aren't stretchy. So that's. That's hard. That's hard.

[Jordan Austin]

But for what it's worth, I think you look great and I love the curly hair. Fan must stand.

[Danny Austin]

Thank you, babe. I appreciate that. You know, we got really good news today about Summit.

[Jordan Austin]

What?

[Danny Austin]

He doesn't have a dairy allergy.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, yeah.

[Danny Austin]

You know, I know you weren't concerned, but it kept me up all night last night. So Summit has this baby acne that's all over his face, and all of my kids have had baby acne. And then, like, I started to get acne, too. Right now maybe I think it's the hormones and stuff, but I. I typically don't get acne like this. Like, I don't get, like, the pimples. If I get acne, it's usually on my jaw, which is so weird, or on, like, the outside of my face, but right now, I have acne, like, everywhere. Anyway, so I had noticed on Summit's ears, they were getting really crusty, and it looked like crusty is such a gross word. And it looked. It almost like looks like a rash on just his ears. And they got kind of swollen, and I was like, okay, this is definitely not baby acne. So, you know, of course I hit up the. The good old reliable Google and it told me that Summit 110 has a dairy allergy. But I was wrong.

[Jordan Austin]

Did you ask ChatGPT?

[Danny Austin]

Did I? I guess I could have sent a picture in.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, man.

[Jordan Austin]

It identified the rash on my chest.

[Danny Austin]

What did it say it was?

[Jordan Austin]

I forget it's a really complicated word.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. The boys and on your side of the family have like skin issues.

[Jordan Austin]

I know.

[Danny Austin]

You know, Should I send in the picture right now?

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, ask them.

[Danny Austin]

Okay.

[Jordan Austin]

It they them the Antichrist.

[Danny Austin]

Said, I think AI is.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't know. It's been praying for me lately. It's weird.

[Danny Austin]

It's been asking me to pray to it too.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, really? No, it's like, no.

[Danny Austin]

I'm like, that's called Antichrist. Okay. I said, what is this? I'm not a doctor, but from the age of it looks like your baby has some redness and small bumps on their face called baby acne.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, there you go.

[Danny Austin]

Okay. Well, it was accurate.

[Jordan Austin]

Yep.

[Danny Austin]

Man, what's the point of doctors and doctors these days?

[Jordan Austin]

I know, it's tough. It's tough. I mean, I literally called our doctor and I was like, hey. And I don't want to tell it. Tell her that, like I like research via AI. But I was like, hey, like, you know, I kind of made it up. I was like, I. I talked to a couple other doctors already.

[Danny Austin]

Oh my gosh.

[Jordan Austin]

And here's what I. Here's what we've narrowed it down to. What do you think it is?

[Danny Austin]

Right.

[Jordan Austin]

And yeah, it's crazy. Like with Function Health, I have all of my blood work and I asked Chachi PT about it. And then with 23andMe, we have all of our genetics and then I asked sh. Like, my health is in my hands.

[Danny Austin]

Wow. Your health is in our hands now. AI's hands.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. So anyway, I found out from the doctor, like the real doctor and not AI, that it actually is a baby rash. He does not have a. A dairy allergy. And like, how does that work if your baby has a allergy to your breast milk? I'm like, that just seems like, I don't know, conspiracy theory there.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. I always thought it was the, the formula.

[Danny Austin]

The formula companies.

[Jordan Austin]

No, no. Like, cuz he's. He's supplementing conglomerates the formula with Bobby.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. So I thought that that was what caused it.

[Danny Austin]

So I.

[Jordan Austin]

But I wasn't worried about it.

[Danny Austin]

I ordered more of that Holly like the German one. Because I want to try that one. Yeah. Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Let me tell you, don't like that one. Not into the German formulas. German formulas.

[Danny Austin]

I. I'm just getting so. But we've always liked Bobby. That's always in or like we did infamil Gentle Ease with Stella and then Bobby with Stratton. And then now I'm going to just try this Holly, one again and see but it's like, it's all German and, and pediatricians do not like. Like they have. What did that guy do in our appointment?

[Jordan Austin]

He looked at it and he goes, hm, can't read it. It's in German.

[Danny Austin]

Like.

[Jordan Austin]

But it was like so condescending.

[Danny Austin]

It's so condescending. I'm like, how many times have you said this to other parents? Yeah, yeah. So anyway, it's cuz they're bought.

[Jordan Austin]

They're bought by the formula company. They're bought by Big pharma. No, I'm kidding. They're great.

[Danny Austin]

So. Yeah. How was this weekend? What do we do this weekend? Oh, we put three car seats in.

[Jordan Austin]

We put three car seats in.

[Danny Austin]

I don't know what I was thinking with that car of mine.

[Jordan Austin]

It's okay. We'll figure it out.

[Danny Austin]

I have like a small sedan and it. I don't know why. I just really wanted the sexy mommobile. And now it's like major regrets because we had to fit these three car seats across. And it's like you can't even enjoy the car because it's like my car. My seat has to be so far up near the steering wheel that it's not even comfortable at this point. But it's a lease.

[Jordan Austin]

We're in minivan territory.

[Danny Austin]

I'm still, I'm considering it again. But I did see that Lincoln Navigator. I saw someone drive a white one this morning and I was like, that's a sexy ass car right there.

[Jordan Austin]

You know we still have the Mitsubishi. You know, I thought about this the other night.

[Danny Austin]

Stop. I freaking.

[Jordan Austin]

You remember? It's. It's sitting up in Colorado.

[Danny Austin]

Oh my God, that's so funny.

[Jordan Austin]

I know, right? I always forget about it. But like, there's been a couple times where like Brenda's had to take, you know, Strat somewhere. I was at work, you were here and I was like, I should bring the Mitsubishi back down.

[Danny Austin]

Where would we put it? Where we put that car. Our neighbors already hate us.

[Jordan Austin]

I know. On the street.

[Danny Austin]

We need one of those. Those lifts we've been seeing in all the cars in the suburbs.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh man, I wish we could tell that story.

[Danny Austin]

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[Jordan Austin]

So one of the other things that I feel like we should address is, and I never thought we would be this, these parents, but I think we're not going to let our, our kids watch Disney anymore.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, our kids are gonna have major problems if we do that. They're gonna like go to their friends houses and be like, can we watch Disney? Can we watch Dizzy? It's like telling your kids, like, you can't have sweets in the house.

[Jordan Austin]

But tell them what, what we have been seeing with Stella in particular.

[Danny Austin]

Well, you know, I don't know if it's just having a toddler that's four years old, that's a girl, or if it's Disney, but Stella has been getting like these mannerisms and this like obsession with flipping her hair and this like woe is me mentality. I'm like literally just describing probably any four year old toddler right now. But like we kind of feel like it was from Disney.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, there's like we, we are seriously questioning where she learned like the, the dramatic facial expressions and like the dramatic movements. Like it's hard to explain it over audio, but it's like she will walk to her bed, pause and be like, oh, my life is terrible. And then throw herself like on the bed face first. And I was like, that is from that Brave movie. Yeah, it's like the mannerisms of Stella are the mannerisms of like Pixar Disney princesses.

[Danny Austin]

Well like, or the other day we were doing timeout and I was upset with her because she had hit her brother really hard on the back. And I was like, Stella, like, we don't hit. That hurts him. And she goes, I'm not pretty anymore. And I go, I don't care if you're pretty. Like I said, look at mommy's hair. And she goes, my hair is not pretty anymore.

[Jordan Austin]

I'm not a princess.

[Danny Austin]

I'm not a princess anymore. Because she was in timeout. And I was like, where are you getting this?

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, there's no way that that is like born into them. Like, that has to be some type of media exposure. And you're not getting that from Peppa Pig. You're not getting that from Bluey. It is only the Disney princesses.

[Danny Austin]

We do a lot of Peppa Pig and Bluey. Those are kind of like the two favorites in this household. We tried trot struck with Stratton, but, you know, Stella's like a dictator. Doesn't let anything. Anything slide past her. And so. So we do a lot of that. But then, you know, like, on the weekends, I'll watch, like, a Disney movie or something. And I don't know, like, I'm kind of feeling the same way as you. I'm thinking we. Honestly, you know, I'm thinking. I think we could go straight up educational. I'm talking Sesame Street. I'm talking maybe a little Miss Rachel here and there sprinkled in, you know, like, I'm talking like we're counting cows on the TV screen.

[Jordan Austin]

I think we should just go fully back to cable.

[Danny Austin]

I think we get rid of all the TVs in the house.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

You know, I have really been.

[Jordan Austin]

We have the frames is like, it's not a tv, Stella. It's art.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Yeah. Well, you know, like, I didn't really, like. Like, we've been off the screens for a while, but they've been, like, kind of you, you know, making their ways back. And then in the. And I really tried to, like, ramp up their nighttime routine where we were doing puzzles and we were doing all. And, like, I saw huge. But I. It was so much more work on us, but I saw huge behavior shifts with the kids.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

Like, instead of watching tv, I would, like, build them those forts and stuff. Or instead of, you know, them going and watching a movie, we did puzzle night. And then I. We did floor puzzles. We did. We would, like, work on Stella's letters and shapes and stuff. But, like, it just took so much more effort from us. Especially when we first got the trampoline after Christmas. They were loving that they'd play dinosaur out there all the time. I know. I actually have been reading this book about simplifying your home because I'm a little scared of, like, the toddler tantrums lately and just, like, the toddler behavior. Like, I. I truly don't know what to do. Like, I feel like we've tried everything.

[Jordan Austin]

With which one seller or shredding or both?

[Danny Austin]

Both. Like, both. Like, every. All the time. I'm like, I literally don't know what to do. Like, it's so. It's so confusing because then everybody's like, okay, temper tantrum. Like, okay, try to reason with them and, like, understand their feelings. But then it's also, like, be stern and be consistent and be this. That it's like so hard because they're also like screaming. So you're. Yeah, it's very like counterintuitive to be like, okay, let me try to like understand your feelings right now and then put my foot down and not give you what you want right now. But also try. It's just really tough. But I've been reading this book about simplifying your life and simply in your home. And one thing I was reading so much about is the amount of toys we have and how the amount of toys you have can actually really can kind of like lead to add adhd. Like this stress among children. Like, it says that you should only have like 10 toys out for your kids.

[Jordan Austin]

10, like in the entire home or just like out at one time?

[Danny Austin]

Out in like a safe play area. Yeah, they're very like. Also they talk a lot about having safe spaces, like where you play. Like that's like the play area and only having 10 to 15. I'm like, we literally have like 50.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. We have like four giant bins.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. And then it talks about how like the toys that you have should be high quality toys. So they should be. I actually wrote down the different types, types of toys that they encourage. Open ended toys, which are blocks and dolls, like things that they can like play with. Like open ended. Number two, problem solving toys, like puzzles and shapes. Number three, fine gross motor toys, like stackable cups. Number four, sensory toys, kind of like those textured like the sand and textured balls and music instruments. And then number five, books and art supplies. So like crayons, coloring books, things like that. So I, so I realized this the other day. And then it also talks about how much you're supposed to encourage, like play like just like make believe play. Like I used to like pretend I was a cashier or pretend I had a restaurant. So I told. I noticed like yesterday Stella and Stratton were like going nuts over the toys. They were like fighting over the same toy. And so I was like, okay, guys, instead of playing with this, I was like, let's play Amazon. And Stratton, you're the mailman and Stella, you're the Amazon girl. And let's go around to each house and deliver mail. And then I got them book bags so they could put all their mail in it. And I showed them how to make envelopes and put stamps on it and deliver all the mail. And that got them for probably 20 minutes, which is pretty good. That's a win.

[Jordan Austin]

I walked in, they were fighting.

[Danny Austin]

Well, that was over the stamps.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. They were fighting.

[Danny Austin]

And that was actually towards the end. That was towards the end, but it worked for a little bit, and at least they were doing something together. They fight so freaking much. It's, like, impossible.

[Jordan Austin]

I know.

[Danny Austin]

But. But yeah. So I've been reading a lot about this, and I thinking. I'm thinking I'm gonna get one of those big black trash bags.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

And I'm gonna. And here's the thing. It doesn't say to throw away the toys, but it says get rid of anything. Like, super flashy, loud, obnoxious. Get rid of those toys. Like, just get rid of, like, donate, but then just store them all and then go, like, on a rotational system. We're like, okay, every two weeks, you. Or maybe every week, like, you switch out the toys.

[Jordan Austin]

Smart.

[Danny Austin]

We have so many freaking toys. When you walk into our house, it's overwhelming.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't even know where you start.

[Danny Austin]

It's scary.

[Jordan Austin]

We almost need to start from the ground up.

[Danny Austin]

Also, you know what I. I also realize, which I. I think our kids probably get this because of school and they have recess, but kids need three hours of physical activity a day. It's like having a golden retriever puppy. That's a lot of play at this age, huh? And I think boys need even more.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, Stratton, he needs more.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Three hours. I mean, they probably get like an hour at school, maybe two, and then, like, at home, they. I mean, they definitely get it because they run around.

[Jordan Austin]

They wrestle.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, they wrestle. They wrestle you.

[Jordan Austin]

But wow.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, it's. It's a lot, you know? Do you want to tell them about when you took Stella to work?

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, yeah, I took Stella work. So Jefferson Bethke always talked about, like, integrating your kids into your life. Oh, yeah. Danny doesn't like this one. So I was like. I just on a whim, I was.

[Danny Austin]

Like, I like this one, but just not at this age.

[Jordan Austin]

Okay. So good thought. Wrong timing.

[Danny Austin]

Well, let's keep going.

[Jordan Austin]

So anyway, I just. One Tuesday, I go into the office on Tuesdays, and I was like, you know, I'm gonna take Stella. I don't know why. I was just like, I want to hang out with her today. She wanted to hang out with me. She told me, and I was like.

[Danny Austin]

She's like, dad, I like you too.

[Jordan Austin]

She was like, can I come? And I was like, you know what?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, come work.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. And so we packed her a bag. She packed her briefcase. She got all dressed up, and I was like, so cute. It was so freaking cute.

[Danny Austin]

So cute.

[Jordan Austin]

I took her and I was like, you know, your. Your pictures on the wall everywhere with, like, divvy. And I'm like, that's Mommy. I was like, remember, this is in mommy's bathroom. Mommy made this. And I, like, get to tell her about it. And then she gets to. She's shy, so she didn't meet, like, everyone that I introduced her to people. And, you know, I would have meetings, and she would, like, play with her laptop while I was on my laptop. I ordered her Chick Fil A. It was, like, the best day I've ever had. And then I come home and I tell Danny, and she's like, yeah, I don't feel great about this. And why didn't you feel great about it? I can't remember.

[Danny Austin]

I want to be honest with you. It was like an intuition.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. Which is hard because I know that's, like, something you see that I do not.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. So I'll tell you what my intuition was as a mommy. Like, I had this, like, mommy intuition, and I didn't like it. And I couldn't really articulate why at first, but, like, I really thought about it and many of reasons. One, I didn't like the fact that we were taking her away from her peers to be around adults. Like, I didn't like that. I didn't like that you were planning on taking her every Tuesday, because I felt like that was a little overkill, and it messed up her predictable routine. And kids thrive off of a predictable routine. I also didn't like that you weren't keeping an eye on her 24 7, like she would at school, where. It's like, every single minute at school is. Is at least her learning Spanish or playing or, you know, communicating with kids and her peers and. And, like, learning independence and that word work. Like, that. I was like, what is she doing? Just, like. Because I know that she took the iPad. I'm like, what is she doing? Is she playing on the iPad? Is she. No, that actually, like, iPad sucks.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, it. It's. It's not an iPad. It's like a. Like, it doesn't. It doesn't work.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. I just didn't know it. I didn't know what she was doing with her time there. And I know that she probably thinks it's really cool, but for something. I don't know why, and. But, like, she's so innocent and doesn't know about work or buildings like that. And I know that, like, you do. I do want to integrate my child and, like, teach them about those things, but just not at 4. Like, I. I wouldn't mind her going, like, every once in a while for like, a special occasion or something where, like the. We kind of roll out the red carpet for her, but I wouldn't want her to just be there sitting around, like, alone. I just. I feel like she wasn't sitting alone.

[Jordan Austin]

She was. She. She was hanging with me. Honestly.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. I don't know. That's just how I feel. I know, and I'm not saying I'm right. That was just like, my mommy intuition. I would much rather her be at school with her friends and learning Spanish.

[Jordan Austin]

Fine, I'll take Stratton.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, golly. Please, please. No, it. Stratton really, like, he needs that, like, predictable routine. So I don't know. But, you know, I think like, every, maybe once a month.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, no, it was like. I mean, she really did.

[Danny Austin]

No, I know she loved it. I'm not saying she just didn't love it.

[Jordan Austin]

She's so, like, curious that. Can I be honest? I also read this study. What? I showed it to you. I texted to you.

[Danny Austin]

But, babe, Scylla's four, right. You're reading studies that are about and Jefferson Bethy.

[Jordan Austin]

Right.

[Danny Austin]

Probably wasn't saying, take your four year old out of this and like, teacher to work.

[Jordan Austin]

I feel like we should call him Feel like Diamond.

[Danny Austin]

They're just so impressionable at this age. And I really think that, like, something that the book I'm reading talks a lot about is trying to reduce the amount of stress that children take on. Like, and. And keeping a predictable routine helps a lot with that. And that's like, a lot of times that's when kids develop like, OCD or, or, you know, ADD or whatever it is, because they don't. There's. There's. They have so many, like, external stresses, whether it's from, like, their parents fighting or unpredictable routines or the news is on and they're learning way too much, way too fast, and they're not being, like, shielded. Yeah, like children. It talks about in the book, like, children should be shielded from adulthood, you know, and, like, let them develop, let them have creativity, let them have their routine. And. And the reason why they feel, like, safe to be creative and to have pretend play is because of the predictable routine. And as soon as you take that away, they go more like, in inward instead of outward, you know?

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, I mean, usually I was like the structured, scheduled one, and here I am trying to be loosey goosey, taking my daughter to work with me.

[Danny Austin]

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[Jordan Austin]

Oh, what have you been. So you've been going on your worship walks?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

What have you been learning? What have you been, like, reading about? You always, like, actually are kind of a sleeper. Like, you're always like learning interesting things and thinking about and processing interesting things.

[Danny Austin]

Like, well, right now I'm learning.

[Jordan Austin]

Usually they're pop culture related, but what's going on?

[Danny Austin]

Right now I'm learning how to love and respect your husband.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, okay.

[Danny Austin]

I'm actually reading a lot of books. I'm probably reading like four books at a time right now. I read Love and Respect throughout the day as I'm like just here. I read my parenting books right before bed. I read my Bible study like first thing in the morning. And then I have this other one that's like about emotional stability. And that one just kind of go. It's like whatever. It's like, whoa. Janine recommended that one to me. But yeah, so there's this thing called. I was actually on a walk this morning and I was talking to Ellie about this because I think that this happens so much in postpartum eras for a lot of couples. So tell me if you resonate with this. Mom is postpartum. Okay? And I'm saying this is something that happened between me and you. Probably not this baby, but maybe like with Stella. So mom is postpartum, mom is hormonal, kind of has this, like, is. Has anxiety, a little fear based. Because, you know, you just picture like everybody picking up your child, giving them the flu, walking down the stairs, falling, you know, 10 flights of stairs, ninjas breaking through your house. So you already like have this like super intense fear with your child and Then you have this husband that comes in and like sometimes does things not the way that you would want them to be done. Maybe it's feeding the baby, not taking.

[Jordan Austin]

Your daughter to work.

[Danny Austin]

No, but I'm talking about like newborn phase.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, sorry.

[Danny Austin]

So I'm saying like, okay, like a bottle paste feeding. So you know. Or was that. Yeah, bottle. So pace feeding is like whenever you put the baby up and like you put the bottle in like 90 degree angle so that the baby really has to work on their jaw muscles whenever they're sucking the bottle. And I've never told you this, but sometimes like with Stella, like, you didn't do it. And it would always bother me because I was like, oh my gosh, I'm going to have to breastfeed. And the jaw, her jaw is not going to be strong enough because Jordan isn't feeding the baby the way that I want to be fed. So then you're hormonal and instead of finding a safe time or space to communicate to your husband, you snap. You just snap. And then you become, over time, you become naggy, you become annoying, and your husband is now like a little resentful towards you. He doesn't like the way he's being treated. So then he's like, fine, I'm not even going to do it anymore. Like, you know, we've been through some cycles like that.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

You feel you resonate with that.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, less so in this one, but yeah, I know what you mean.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, I think I'm just, I. I actually am not even really speaking for myself. Ellie and I were just talking about this because we were talk. Talking about the book I was reading. And, and so this, you get on this cycle. This book calls. I'm reading a book called, I think it's called Love and Respect. You get on this cycle called the crazy cycle. That's what he calls it. And it's when the husband is not giving the love that the woman wants and the wife is not giving the respect that the men desires.

[Jordan Austin]

So you just.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, you just get in this like vicious cycle where it's like you're constantly playing the blame game and you're like, well, he's not loving me the way that I want to be loved, therefore I have, I have a right to treat him this way. And then the husband's like, well, she doesn't respect me. So, like, I don't really feel like I'm gonna love her the way. And the hardest part about the crazy cycle is one, it takes one person to be the Bigger person to get off of the crazy train and to be the bigger person and to like, give love when love isn't deserved or to give respect when respect isn't deserved. And so a lot of times I think this happens with couples when they maybe they just had a child because, like, it's so easy to treat men without respect because you think that you're so justified because it's like your baby or like you're postpartum or whatever it is, and you get into like this just really like this crazy cycle with your spouse and. In a really vulnerable hard time.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

So we talked a lot about that and I've been reading a lot about that in my book. And it's just so insane to me how different men and women are wired.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. The operating systems are just.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, it talks about, like, how me, like we're. We both see the same things throughout the day, but men see the. Men see it with blue glasses. Blue, like, what am I saying? Like, blue tinted glasses. And women see it with like pink tinted glasses. So we both are seeing the same thing. It's just tinted and like, like actually appears different. And so. But yeah, I mean, so now I'm like reading the book. I'm like, okay, like, so I, I get the concept. I'm like, what, like, what do you actually do about it? Like, what, throughout the day? Or what can Kissing. I'm a very action based person. I'm like, what can people, what can wives do to show their spouses respect? So my question for you is, as a man, what makes you feel respected? Because. And I think that not only do men want to feel respected and be respected, but they also want to be desired.

[Jordan Austin]

Is that what the book says or is that your. Oh, yeah. So it's so funny. We were talking about this yesterday in marriage counseling, too.

[Danny Austin]

We weren't in marriage counseling yesterday.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, we were. That was yesterday.

[Danny Austin]

No, we weren't, babe. It was not yesterday.

[Jordan Austin]

Monday.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Oh, okay. Yeah. So I think that it was funny because me and the other male therapists, I think were vibing on this because we were talking about, like, love and respect.

[Danny Austin]

And I hadn't started reading the book yet.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. And so we were talking about how I was like, man, I can. I can walk into work in any office and, like, be the hero and solve people's problems. And they're like, oh, my gosh, like, Jordan, thank you. You saved the company. And like, in the back of my mind I'm like, man, that's cool. But, like, I really just Wish my wife was proud of me, you know? Like, it's like, I want that from Danny probably the most. And it's not saying that she isn't. A lot of it you just don't know about, you know? Or I might, like, softball, you things like, hey, I lifted this much today, or, hey, I did this at work today. And I think it's very easy to be like, oh, cool. I'm so proud of you, because I think in your mind, you're like, yeah, you're awesome. I love you. But in my mind, I'm like. Like, I wanted that affirmation because that makes me feel, like, not just a hero to other people, but, like, a hero to you, you know?

[Danny Austin]

So. But. So do you feel like I don't do that when you tell me that you lifted those weights?

[Jordan Austin]

No, I actually. I actually think on the topic of, like, like, gym or fitness, I actually feel like you struggle and, like, you, like, know that I'm right.

[Danny Austin]

You're right.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, you know that, like. Like, you know that I have improved, but it's almost like I feel like you hold back on, like, giving me that reaction because I feel like you don't want to, like, inflate my. No, that's my true theory.

[Danny Austin]

That is so stupid. I, like, that's.

[Jordan Austin]

That was. That's always been my theory.

[Danny Austin]

Sorry. I'm not saying that your feelings are stupid.

[Jordan Austin]

No, no, I don't think that. But that's.

[Danny Austin]

That is so not what I think at all. I'm not trying to, like, not inflate. Honestly, I probably just am bad with words. Like, I'm not. I. I am not not telling you because I don't want you to, like, be confident and like me to notice. I. I. It's. It's, like, weird. I'm just not. I'm. Something I'm working on is my. The love language of, like, affirmations. Like, verbal.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. And it's hard because I. And I think that this is always what happens is, like, you end up with a spouse that typically desires the love language. You are not able to Easiest, like, I guess, give the easiest. Right. So, like, my. I was raised in, like, an affirmation type of home.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't feel like you were. That doesn't mean that you were raised in a bad home. It's just, like, affirmation was not, like, really anyone's love language.

[Danny Austin]

Right.

[Jordan Austin]

In the Austin household. Right. And so I am used to receiving love in that way. But that is the hardest love language for you to give.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Like, I'll come up and, like, touch your muscles, but I might not say something.

[Jordan Austin]

The hardest love language for me to give is quality time. Because, like, I'm so, like, efficient with my time, and, like, I like to always know that, like, I'm spending every second valuable and, like, I'm living life to the fullest. And so quality time of just kind of, like, doing nothing and being bored together is the hardest thing for me to give.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And that is what you desire the most. And I really feel like God designs it and, you know, calls people together for this very reason, because for me to love you, I have to genuinely give up a part of myself and sacrifice to love you, you know? And, like, that's the growth aspect of it, and I think that you probably have to do the same and, like, learning how to affirm better.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Yeah, I know. I don't know why I'm not very good at it. I just feel so silly sometimes.

[Jordan Austin]

I know you said this the other night, and I still don't understand this thread.

[Danny Austin]

It's very vulnerable. Yeah, it's very vulnerable to be like, you look so, like. I don't know why, like, I, like, can't do it, like, but I. But I. I feel like I've gotten a little bit better, but.

[Jordan Austin]

Is that about you?

[Danny Austin]

I don't know.

[Jordan Austin]

I don't either.

[Danny Austin]

I don't understand Inner healing retreat to understand.

[Jordan Austin]

You want to come? Because I'm going tomorrow.

[Danny Austin]

I don't know, like, what it is, why I'm so bad at verbal affirmation. It's the same reason. I also hate conflict. There's something about it.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. The craziest things about. The craziest thing about our fights the past, like, two months, as we, like, recalibrate life is like, I feel like there's been instances where you've had to get us off the crazy cycle because I was stubborn, and then there's instances that I've had to get us off the crazy cycle because you were being stubborn. And I feel like we've both learned so much from just, like, owning our side of the street, like, as our, you know, conflict. We're basically in just, like, this giant recalibration of, like, what we want out of life. And that's, like, a hard season to be in in marriage because Danny's having to, like, adjust to this new Jordan, and I'm having to adjust this new Danny. Right. And so it's all normal. But it's been so interesting the more that I have owned my side of the street. So, like, any conflict we can think of, I've just been like, hey, like, what is my 50% in this? The more that I've done that, the more that I realize, like, our conflicts smooth over faster. You're able to be vulnerable and, like, humble to come to the table with me. And, like, our resolutions are so much easier because we're not focusing on, like, hey, I'm justified in feeling this way about you, and vice versa. We're both like, hey, we're on the same team. How can we be better for each other?

[Danny Austin]

It's like that I instead of you.

[Jordan Austin]

Yes.

[Danny Austin]

It's like, I need to work on myself. And it's like, my. My issue is. Is me, not you. It's so hard, though, even if your spouse is, you know, I'm just trying to think feeding the baby wrong or something, or, you know, throwing his wet towel on the floor. I'm literally just making news up. It's like, it's so easy to just feel like it's all your fault. He's not listening. Like, he's not doing what I'm asking. But it's like, really? Can you look at yourself and, like, be like, why? Why am I communicating in this way? Like, why am I so feisty? What's best? What's, like, the next best thing for me to do? Maybe it's just take a step back and find a safe. A better time to communicate to my spouse instead of, you know, just attacking him and being naggy. Like, there's always things that you can work on on your side of the street. Yeah, it's hard.

[Jordan Austin]

It's so hard. Like, this last one, it's very counterintuitive. This last one, the reality TV show?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

So Danny is, like, pretty progressed in this potential for a reality TV show. Is that fair to say?

[Danny Austin]

No, I wouldn't say I'm progressed. I'm learning more.

[Jordan Austin]

Danny's learning more about a reality TV show, and it's been a conflict between us because I'm very against it. Vehemently, vehemently against it. And, you know, the first time we talked about it, I reacted in a way that I was, like, really angry, and I felt justified in how I approached you with it because I was like, we just went through this break, and you just blew up your life. Your words, not mine. Like, in the last episode or whatever. And now we're reintroducing this, like, whole bit of chaos back into our life. And I felt really justified in that. And I think your narrative was you say it, I don't say it for you.

[Danny Austin]

About the show.

[Jordan Austin]

About the show.

[Danny Austin]

This is just a hard conversation because, like, we still don't know a lot about the show. So, like, I don't know.

[Jordan Austin]

Fine, be idealistic. What is your like rose colored, pink colored glasses version of the show though?

[Danny Austin]

I mean, I would say with the show, like, there's a lot of opportunity to like, share our story, share what we're learning, be a good, like, resource or influence for people, like just show up in a different format that we've never showed up at. And to me it's like, also I'd be doing it with like two or three of my really good girlfriends. And it just seems like every show kind of needs one or two people that kind of keep it grounded and can actually be like a good influence. And I thought maybe it was like a really cool opportunity for that. But I'm also like, I've always said this and whether you believe it or not, I'm, of course I'm prioritizing my family first and so I just want to learn more and see what that would actually take. And I don't know yet. So like whenever, like, I just process slower and I want to gather all the facts and then I want to make a decision. I don't want to, like, that's just how I've always been. Like, I want to know everything and then I'll be like, okay, that doesn't make sense. But I'm not going to say no to something until I learned everything.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. So like, the first time we talked about it, it didn't go well because, like, my whole approach to it was like, you need to see my side, you need to understand my fear in this. Like, you need to kind of like, it was kind of manipulative because I, I came at you angry and I didn't leave room for you to make the decision by yourself. Right. Because I was trying to manipulate you to see my whole fear and what could happen. And you're just a more optimistic person.

[Danny Austin]

Then here's the thing. I, I value your opinion and I want to know, like, what those fears are too. Like, I want to know your fears and make a pros and cons list and be like, oh, these are legitimate fears. I think it was just the way that it was communicated, to be honest. Like, I feel like still to this day we haven't had like a level headed, logical conversation about it.

[Jordan Austin]

What about last night?

[Danny Austin]

I still feel like maybe I haven't shared like totally even on this Podcast like, kind of what I've been processing about it or like, what my thoughts are or what I feel like. Yeah, I don't know.

[Jordan Austin]

Well, what a perfect place to do that. Do you want to do it now?

[Danny Austin]

I mean, not really.

[Jordan Austin]

Okay. Well, like, I. What I was saying as it relates to, like, the love and respect thing is like, I feel like last night I didn't come at you with anger. I had to be like, hey, all these fears and anxieties that I'm feeling about this show, like, those are like my problems, not yours, you know, Whereas, like, I think the first time I was like, throwing those feelings at you and then trying to like, get you to make them stop, and it's like, those are kind of like my feelings, my problems.

[Danny Austin]

Well, it was also kind of like a thought crime because I didn't commit to anything either. Like, and I wasn't, I said I wasn't going to without your buy in. Yeah, I was just like, learning about it, so I just felt like I was like being accused of. Of just something I hadn't even done.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. So, you know when you said, like, in the book, it talks about females see things with pink colored glasses. And what is the difference in how the book describes men see the world and women see the world?

[Danny Austin]

I think that men or husbands want to be the protector provider, keep everything, like, safe and, and stable and like, so when there's a disagreement, they ultimately go like, immediately to feeling disrespected, like in an argument. That's like the first place that they go. They're like, my wife doesn't respect me. I'm being disrespected.

[Jordan Austin]

So what is the pink colored glasses?

[Danny Austin]

I think that in that moment, a woman thinks, like, immediately, I'm not being heard, like, I'm not being understood. He doesn't want to understand me. He doesn't understand my feelings. He's not listening. He's being defensive.

[Jordan Austin]

But if, if men jump to protection and stability, what do women jump to with pink colored glasses? Opportunity.

[Danny Austin]

No, I think they want to be understood and like, loved and cherished, ultimately. Yeah, understood.

[Jordan Austin]

That's why I brought up the reality, because I think it's like the perfect example of like, it's. We're both looking at one situation with two different lenses, and I think we're both on the same team. But you're right, like, the first conversation we had about it, I did feel disrespected.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. And I maybe I would say maybe what woman wanted is like, the emotional.

[Jordan Austin]

Intimacy to feel Heard and understood.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Last night you go, are you gonna ask me any questions?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah. Because I felt like the. In this whole situation with the reality show, I feel like you've made your point and your feelings very, very clear, but I don't think that you've been, like, actually curious about mine. About this show.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

And like. And so, yeah, I think I've kind of thrown in some of my thoughts here and there. And I think right now, like, on the podcast was like, I kind of was put on the spot. You were like, well, what are your thoughts about the show? But, like, I. Yeah, I don't feel like you've been, like, asking me, well, why. Why do you want to do it? Like, you haven't asked me that, like, really once.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

You just told me, like, the 18, 000 reasons why you don't want me to do it.

[Jordan Austin]

Can I ask you now?

[Danny Austin]

Um, yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Why do you want to do it?

[Danny Austin]

Well, I don't know if I want to do it or not, but there's. There's like, I. I was 50. 50. I would say I'm more 70, 30 now, which 70 is. No. 30%. Yes. So the reasons why I would want to do it is. Okay. On a more surface level, it sounds so fun. Like, more surface level, it sounds like a challenge. It's a new format. I've always been curious about tv. I didn't never done anything like that before. And so I think that that was something that I've always been interested and curious about. But when it comes to this concept, it is about Christian wives. And I feel like I've learned a lot about being a Christian wife. And I don't think I've, like, done it perfectly at all. And I think that's why there's a lot of wisdom that I could share. And every single time I've thought about it, I'm like, in every situation, like, in any piece of drama, I feel like I could because I've. I've lived so much life, I feel like I could be a positive resource and a source of wisdom for, like, a lot of people. And it's so funny because, like, I. I watch reality TV and I think on every show there's, like, one person that I admire that I actually, like, look up to, whether it's like, their story or their vulnerability or whatever it is. And I. I'm not saying I'm going to be that person on this show, but I always know that there is. That is needed. You know what I mean? And so. So, yeah, I Just feel like it could reach a lot of people. And then, so yesterday I was actually praying about it. And I'm not saying, like, I'm not trying to, like, whatever. I was literally praying about it and I was, like, thinking about it because I had just had this, like, follow up call with. With the production company, and I didn't know what I was feeling about it. So I was just like, okay, should I be. Should I do this? Should I not do this? And I'm walking outside my house, like, praying about it, and literally this white car pulls over to me, and she's like, danny, Danny Austin. As I'm praying about it, and she, like, looks at me and she's like, I am just now listening to your podcast about I blew up my life. And oh, my gosh, girl, like, I am just so happy that you're sharing this message and you're impacting so many people. I was listening. I was, like, crying listening to it. Like, you're an amazing role model. Thank you so much for. For being vulnerable and sharing all this. She's like.

[Jordan Austin]

She's like, I'm gonna go blow up my life.

[Danny Austin]

She's like, I'm a realtor down the street. And, like, I went to UT and I just absolutely love you. It was like, literally, I don't. I don't know. I was, like, so encouraged. I was like, wow, thank you so much. Like, I was literally just walking outside of my house, so I was like, I'm so encouraged. Thank you so much. She's like, keep sharing your story. Keep being vulnerable. And I was like, okay. And so I got my car and drove away. And I was like, why am I feeling so much peace about this show right now? Like, I feel like this show is not. Like, my husband doesn't feel good about it. Like, so many people on my team probably don't feel good about it. And then I'm like, why do I feel good about it right now? And I'm not saying that that was like, you know, whatever. It's just. It's part of the journey of getting there to deciding whether it's yes or no. I'm not saying that that was, like, a yes. You know what I mean? I think it's just all part of the journey. Yeah. And so. So, yeah, I don't know. I've just felt, like, a lot of peace about it. But then I'm also like, I. I also know that I think everything you do, I do can be done in a healthy way. And I feel like I could find out that formula. But at the same time, I also wouldn't want to drag my family or jeopardize, like, my marriage because of it. So it's like I'm weighing those, I'm like, looking at all of it and I'm like, is there a way that I could do it once I learn more about the details to where it could actually strengthen my marriage and strengthen my relationship with my, you know, with my kids? Or is it just something that's just going to be taxing and take away from, from that? And so I'm looking at all those facts and I'm figuring it out. Like, I just need time. Like, I need, and I need to gather the facts and understand exactly, like, the time commitment it would take and, you know, who else is going to be on it and what are some of the storylines and what are, what are they, like, going to allow me to share? What are they not and how are they going to try to spin narratives or not? Like, and I guess sometimes you don't know until you're there, but I don't know. I'm just, I'm just learning more.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. So my side of the street is in. This is like, you asked me last night, you were like, can you just like, trust me and like, let me have time to kind of make this decision for me? And that really struck a chord for me.

[Danny Austin]

Like, not for me, for, for me and the family.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah, for us. I, I, I agree. I don't think that post our first fight where I put a lot of assumptions on you that like, you're, you're just doing this again. We're going to have to have. I blew up my Life part two on the podcast. And like, once I, like, got past all of those assumptions and understood, like, whoa, this is one of those, usually we're not this far off on different pages about a topic. Like if it's like moving or this or that. Like, usually I'm slightly more fear based and you're slightly more optimistic, but we're like kind of hovering in the middle and we have to like, come in the middle to make a decision. This one, it feels like I think we're both like, whoa, why do you feel so much peace about this? And I don't. And I think a big part of it, and this is why I was like, hey, can we talk after I go to my retreat is because I think a big part of it is I am extremely fear based. And like, that's not probably good. Like, you can say that men see the World with, like, desires for stability and protection. Those are probably true things, but there's a way for even that to become unhealthy. Right. And so I really was kind of happy that we put a pin in the conversation because, like, I. Before we talked about it again, I wanted to make sure that, like, I had done the work on me internally to be like, whoa, like. Like, what if I'm. Don't get excited about this, but, like, what if me not being open to the show is me doubting that God is within this and that you could be a light to more people via the show? Right. Like, why do I doubt that? I believe in you. I know who you are as a person. I know who you are behind the scenes and on camera. So if there's anyone that I would bet on from a, you know, role model, morality standpoint, it'd be my wife. Danny Austin. I think that where. That's why I've always been supportive of your platform. I've always been supportive of the lifestyle that it creates, all of those things because I believe in you. So my question is, like, is God? Is God big enough to control these snake producers that I don't trust? And these story lines that we lose control of over and the drama that has to be created to make this show interesting? Like, it's almost like, I think that where I'm struggling with it is, like, I feel like it's literally giving up control of the narrative. Whereas, like, you have control of your narrative on your platform, it's giving up the control of the narrative and saying, like, Danny's piece means that there could be a God given purpose in it.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And I doubt that. I. I truly, right now, I doubt it. I. I doubt it. I wouldn't bet on it. I don't trust these people. I don't trust producers. I don't trust production companies. I know the nature of the entertainment industry is, like, you have to drag people through the mud. So that's where I'm at. But, like, I'm gonna go on my retreat.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And I could very well come back and be like, namaste. Hello. I would love to be like, it's like, what is reality? What is TV like? It's just us, you know, like, so, I mean, I'm happy with where we're at. Like, I don't think. I think you see my perspective. I see your perspective. I think God's gonna, like, speak to both of us about the opportunity, but.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is what we call love and respect.

[Danny Austin]

No, I, I, I respect your feedback, and I appreciate it.

[Jordan Austin]

Love you and your optimism, even though sometimes it drives me nuts.

[Danny Austin]

Truly, I'm not making a decision. Like I told you, I'm 70. 30 right now. 70%. No.

[Jordan Austin]

We'll see.

[Danny Austin]

Have we ever talked about the fact that we went to a New York Fashion week fashion show and sat next to Drake and Serena Williams?

[Jordan Austin]

I think we have told that story.

[Danny Austin]

And Anna Wintour and Gigi Hadid.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

Andrea Lima.

[Jordan Austin]

See, this is why we can die at 80. I mean, we've done it.

[Danny Austin]

We've done it all, so. Which was so crazy that we, like, sat next to Drake when he was dating Serena Williams, and now she's, like, obviously married to that Alex guy and whatever. But what are your thoughts in her? Like, you know, she was, like, performing at the super bowl or dancing at the super bowl with Kendrick Lamar. To the diss track.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. So, like, I'm confused, because isn't it controversial to say that you don't like the halftime show? To be clear, I actually loved the halftime show.

[Danny Austin]

We loved it.

[Jordan Austin]

I loved it. I actually thought it was awesome. The choreography was simple, yet, like, artistic. Like, Chef's kiss. I am not, like, Kendrick Lamar is hard for. I think he's incredibly talented. Like, I don't just put on his music.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And I'm like, oh, I gotta listen to my Kendrick album today. Like, maybe the first one.

[Danny Austin]

I. I never listened to any of.

[Jordan Austin]

Them, but, like, I just. I appreciate him as, like, an artist and an individual. And I just think it's like, if you're in a, like, beef game with Drake.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And you go into the super bowl dissing, like, champagne poppy, who's like, like, considered universally as, like, one of the best. What a move. I'm like, the ball's on this, man. I am like, go, king. Like, go do it. And then you put Serena Williams. And who's the other person in the red? Oh, Sza Sizza is also Drake's X.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, I don't know. Oh, also. Oh, that's hilarious.

[Jordan Austin]

I'm saying, I'm like, man, go off. Like, I think it's so cool.

[Danny Austin]

I. Yeah, I like it because he was more of the underdog. But isn't it funny, though? Like, he had Serena Williams, but she's married with kids now, and she was dancing to his diss track.

[Jordan Austin]

Who cares if you could go, like, do the Crip walk to, like, like, rag on your ex who shall not be named? I would be like, go off. Like, I'd be like, do it. That's awesome.

[Danny Austin]

It's just interesting to me, though, because first of all, do you remember the first ACL we went to? Kendrick Lamar was performing at? Remember that? It's, like, headlining. He was there, and I remember walking by his stage and being like, what is this? Like, I was so. It was, like, very angry rap.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. No, but he's like.

[Danny Austin]

At the time. Yeah. But I do think it's interesting because Drake has so many more hits.

[Jordan Austin]

But here's the thing. So you missed this line, and I could be making up a narrative that I have no idea what I'm talking about. But in it, I can't remember the specific word he said, but it basically was like, you can basically pump up and fabricate fame, but you can't recreate influence. I don't remember the exact line, but basically what he was saying is a lot of people in the music industry, smaller artists, independent artists, have made claims that, like, labels will basically juice, like, albums. I remember kind of like the algorithm. Yeah, like, they juice the algorithm and they basically. I don't know if it's bots or, you know, fake streams, but it basically, like, kind of creates this world where, like, what you think you should, like, is what you end up liking, because it's like, oh, it popped off and got 10 million streams.

[Danny Austin]

Or it's, like, always hitting, like, number one.

[Jordan Austin]

And apparently Drake is infamous for this. And the reason I know this, it's like a very underground industry. This is so random. Okay. I was at the horse races once in Pasadena, and I met this guy in the music industry, and it was just like this ragtag individual, and he was like, yeah, the labels pay me to basically, like, black market. I forgot what he called it. Black market, like, song streams. And it's like a whole underground industry. And so what Kendrick Lamar was saying is, like, drake, your fame is fake. You can't recreate my influence. Like, his is real. Does that make sense?

[Danny Austin]

It makes sense.

[Jordan Austin]

It's so cool. I'm like. Like, I. My level of respect towards Kendrick Lamar is.

[Danny Austin]

No, I think a lot of people respect him Matter. Respect it. It. I. I will say he seems more influential than Drake, but Drake is more famous.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. Drake's soup. Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

Way more famous and, like, way more.

[Jordan Austin]

You know, but by virtue of social proof is like, the argument, like, you're famous because the record labels got behind you.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

And propped you up.

[Danny Austin]

But can you.

[Jordan Austin]

Famous because of my actual art. Like, my art has actually created the influence that I now have.

[Danny Austin]

But you don't think that Drake is talented.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. I mean, yeah, for sure. You always go do that little thing that you do where you, like, see who writes their own songs. I bet Kendrick. I bet Kendrick Lamar writes a lot of his own lyrics. And I bet drake has probably 18 different co writes on each of his songs.

[Danny Austin]

Let's see.

[Jordan Austin]

It's the difference between Taylor Swift and Beyonce. Yikes. I know. Sorry, sorry. But she. What I'm saying is she has a lot of co writes on it.

[Danny Austin]

Beyonce does not.

[Jordan Austin]

So she is an artist that the label machine has created. Whereas, like, you could argue Taylor Swift is like an. A tried and true artist. The other thing that I think can't be slept on is Drake had to completely 180 his image after Degrassi.

[Danny Austin]

That is amazing.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, he was. Wasn't he playing like.

[Danny Austin]

Like a.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, Like a disabled kid, right?

[Danny Austin]

Yeah, I was never. I never really watched Degrassi. I had one for the. Always watch.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

This guy, he was like a Disney Channel character.

[Jordan Austin]

A Canadian Disney Channel character that pivoted and took over hip hop. So, like, they both can be great. We're just living off the tee.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

We just love it. That's. And honestly, it's like Coke and Pepsi. Like, they're both going to be more famous because of that. This.

[Danny Austin]

They just seem so different to me. Drake and Drake and Kendrick Lamar, like, it's a different sound. It's different.

[Jordan Austin]

Like, do you remember, Danny, when we used to run the Katie trail and you showed me that in Machine Gun Kelly song where he, like, tried to take down Eminem?

[Danny Austin]

Oh, yeah, yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

It's like, these beefs are such good marketing strategies to like.

[Danny Austin]

Was it MGK or was it.

[Jordan Austin]

It was mgk.

[Danny Austin]

It was.

[Jordan Austin]

Yes.

[Danny Austin]

Wait, it wasn't. Wait, hold on. It wasn't the guy, Nate from Hope? No, my friend.

[Jordan Austin]

No, no. It was mgk. MGK wrote the song. There was.

[Danny Austin]

Wait, MGK raps?

[Jordan Austin]

He used to rap and then he uses. He used that.

[Danny Austin]

Oh, my gosh. I do remember this. I used to be obsessed with that song.

[Jordan Austin]

The song is called, um, it's so.

[Danny Austin]

Funny that you remember that.

[Jordan Austin]

Rap Devil.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

So he wrote Rap Devil to attack Eminem, and then Eminem came out with the diss track back. And then ultimately, I mean, Eminem kind of like, put him in the ground. And I think even MGK was like, yeah, like, yeah, he's the king. Like, he. He buried me.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

But ultimately it was so good for MGK because it, like, rose him to fame. I was. I would have been like, who's this at the time, it's like, 2018.

[Danny Austin]

That's what's happening with Kendrick Lamar. Like, but, like, look at me. Like, I'm not a Kendrick Lamar fan. And now I'm like. So I'm, like, been playing the song not like us, and I've been reading the.

[Jordan Austin]

But it's so crazy because all that matters, in my opinion, to end this battle or per, like, keep the battle going was who got the super bowl slot. If it would have been Drake and he would have been able to perform his diss track on Kendrick and on the super bowl stage, I think he would have been like, the king at this point.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

Because just to do that on a national level and bring a beef, but it just makes the largest sporting event.

[Danny Austin]

It makes Drake more famous. And now we're all just waiting for Drake's next move.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. I don't know if he has one, though.

[Danny Austin]

I think just let it. Let it. Yeah. Let it die.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah. I think he's kind of. I think he's done.

[Danny Austin]

Not, like, done forever.

[Jordan Austin]

No, no. I just think he. With this, he's better off from a PR standpoint. Just, like, moving on and, like, starting a whole new chapter.

[Danny Austin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Austin]

But I think that Kendrick struck fear in this man because, like, he knows that Kendrick is a better. Like, if he tries to come out with another diss track, Kendrick will bury him.

[Danny Austin]

I agree. Kendrick Lamar, one of the greatest rappers of our time. I guess for our last segment, we could do a little chicken soup for the soul.

[Jordan Austin]

Yeah.

[Danny Austin]

What's one thing that happened this week that you're grateful for? What's something you're looking forward to?

[Jordan Austin]

I'm honestly grateful for this podcast conversation around the reality TV show topic.

[Danny Austin]

Why?

[Jordan Austin]

I just think that we. I don't think we have it figured out, but I think that we love and respect each other in it.

[Danny Austin]

It's good. I liked the conversation as well. I would say something I'm actually really grateful for today is I had a really good walk with Ellie. You know, our friendship lately has just been, like, prime. Like, it's just so good. Like, the type of friendship where, like, every single time you hang out, you're like, it's like, iron sharpens iron, you know? And we're just both so healthy right now that we're, like, just sharpening each other. No. Just come out and we're stripper and, like, you know, like, she's really healthy in certain ways that I'm maybe not so much. And, like, we're just really, like, give and take. Like, just like, just butter each other up. It's good. It's a good friendship right now. Like in our friendship always has been that way. But I would say she's always way healthier than I am. So maybe I usually have just like, like taking from her, you know, not actually, but like, just her wisdom. And right now we're just both like. We're just really good together.

[Jordan Austin]

What is something you're looking forward to?

[Danny Austin]

We're about to go look at a couple more houses.

[Jordan Austin]

Yep.

[Danny Austin]

You know, and that's like, I'm. I. It's so funny. Like, every time I walk around our house, I'm like, I just love this house. I really do. I love. I love where we live. But I also feel like I'm just ready for that next stage of life and that next. The next phase of just having a little bit more space, a little bit more like, backyard. Not feeling like so on top of each other all the time and so. But looking at houses, even if we don't find the house, that's perfect. It's just fun, you know, it's kind of like window shopping or like going to the mall. It's like, I don't. I really am. You can attest to this. Like, I'm the type of girl that I can go to the mall. I'm not. I don't have to buy something. Like, I just like to walk around. I like to see things. I go to Sephora all the time. I look at all the new products. I don't buy anything. My thing is, what I typically do is I'll go to, like, Lululemon. I walk around, I see it. And then if I'm still thinking about it when I get home, I order it online. I do that all the time. Yeah, but that's how I feel about houses too. It's just fun. It's a fun, like, hobby.

[Jordan Austin]

Are we going to the Maps game tonight?

[Danny Austin]

Girl, I gotta get my sleep. I don't know. I. The game doesn't start till like 8, 8:30. And I'm usually in bed benign. So with this breastfeeding schedule, I would have to say no. But I would love to spend time with you before you go. Bye. Bye.

[Jordan Austin]

Okay, well, I made us dinner reservations. Okay. That's the fun.

[Danny Austin]

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