Dani Austin (2:10)

Okay, well, I took three. They were all negative.

Jordan Austin (2:13)

Funny.

Dani Austin (2:13)

I laid it out in our hotel room in New York. It was like, yeah, so. So yeah, our. Our reveal video is, like, not that cute because ruins, like, you know, you knew. I was like, I didn't know.

Jordan Austin (2:26)

It was a really special time to find out, though.

Dani Austin (2:28)

Yeah, it's. It's really sweet. I. I was finally able to tell my parents. I've told, like, a Lot of my friends. And it was a really sweet moment when I told my parents because, like, this third baby is kind of like when I look at all my dreams as a little girl, like, when I have this third baby, like, all my dreams will have come true.

Jordan Austin (2:51)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (2:51)

I always saw myself as a mom of three minimum. You know, I've always said minimum, Right. Four maximum. And so it's like. It's so crazy that it's, like, actually all happening. And my dad, after I told my dad, he walked out, he goes, you know, all my dreams are coming true, because all your dreams are coming true.

Jordan Austin (3:14)

Wow.

Dani Austin (3:14)

It was so sweet.

Jordan Austin (3:16)

I know. I heard him whisper something and then he. Whenever he knows he's about to say something sentimental, he starts tearing up.

Dani Austin (3:21)

So I was like, my dad's very sentimental. My mom's like, wow, like, how are we gonna do another baby? And my dad's just, like, so sweet and sentimental. We actually did a really cute reveal to tell them, but. And so we'll. We'll end up posting that, but. So, yeah, it's just, like, really sweet, really special. I could care less if it's a boy or girl. I think it's a girl. Because we'll talk about my pregnancy symptoms, but I literally, I'm like, oh, my gosh. Like, either one. I could see just being like, oh.

Jordan Austin (3:55)

How does it feel to finally be able to tell people? Because you've been out for the count for. Yeah, two, three weeks.

Dani Austin (4:02)

Yeah. So it's definitely a relief. I am eight weeks, so I'm very early. And I've never shared a pregnancy this early. I've always waited, I think, till. I think I was 20 weeks when I. Isn't that crazy? I was 20 weeks.

Jordan Austin (4:15)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (4:15)

When I shared.

Jordan Austin (4:16)

Stella, this one's knocked you on your butt harder than any of them.

Dani Austin (4:19)

Yeah. I want to talk about, like, why I shared and everything that's been going on with Stratton I shared probably at, like, 15 weeks. So I definitely. This is the earliest I've ever shared before. And. And I think it's because I've been affected. Like, my mental health has been affected differently. This person, pregnancy I've dealt with, you know, pregnancy has always been hard for me. It's so worth it. But it's always, you know, I think everybody relates. Like, it's just a challenging time, like, physically and.

Jordan Austin (4:51)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (4:51)

You know, and then you sometimes go through these, like, mental spirals. But this has sent me. When my symptoms started to kick in, I experienced the worst symptoms of depression and, like, to the point where I was not even able to speak to Jordan. I was, like, not functioning. And it brought a lot of attention, outside attention from my audience. I mean, honestly, even from my mom. Like, yeah, like, I actually.

Jordan Austin (5:23)

You telling your mom, you should tell that story. It's really funny.

Dani Austin (5:26)

Yeah. I think I worried a lot of people. Like, you even had, like, some of your guy friends texting out, texting you. Because I didn't reply to any of my girlfriends for, like, over a week and a half. I was not really able or wanting to work or motivated to work or post anything. And so it brought a lot of attention, which, when you're really struggling with depression or symptoms of depression, it makes it even worse sometimes because, like, everybody starts to zoom in on your life. And it made me feel, like, more pressure, like I need to act normal because I don't want people, like, you know, inspecting every single little thing. It just makes me feel even worse. And so I felt like I was kind of in this, like, tough position where people are, like, making assumptions about maybe she's sick with this, or maybe she's this or maybe she's that. And I was like, I don't want that type of attention.

Jordan Austin (6:18)

Like, it's, like, a hard thing to deal with.

Dani Austin (6:21)

Yeah, I. And I don't want to worry people because I'm like, no, nothing. I mean, I really was struggling. I probably had the worst week, one of the worst weeks of my life.

Jordan Austin (6:31)

Yeah. To put it in perspective, it was, like, sleeping probably 12 hours a night, and then on top of that, she'd be asleep for five to six hours throughout the day.

Dani Austin (6:40)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (6:41)

All in bed. You know, you had this, like, really strong tendency to isolate. I'd be like, hey, you want to go on a walk or you want to go outside? And you just, like, didn't have the energy to do it.

Dani Austin (6:51)

Yeah. Very stuff. Very. It's crazy when depression hits me. It's so, like, physical, because there's nothing I'm upset about. In fact, I'm really happy. I'm, like, so happy that this baby is coming. This is everything I ever wanted. But it's like these symptoms of depression. It's like my hormones switch, and it's like I become the opposite version of myself, which is. And physically, it's so physical. When I have depression, it is. I'm so lethargic, I can't keep my eyes open. I have the worst migraines above my left eye. So you're kind of miserable all day because you're in pain? I get aches all over my body to where I can't even get out of bed. I remember I was so tired, I couldn't even open my mouth, my jaw to talk. Like, that's how tired I was. My eyes are, like, constantly rolled back. I'm sensitive to the light, so I don't want to go outside. So you kind of become, like, just like you. You become a recluse and no motivation to really live at all. So. So I. All I wanted to do was sleep all day because this sounds horrible, but sleeping was the only time I was happy because I couldn't feel anything. And so I liked to be asleep. And so when I would wake up, I would try. Here's like, an example. But, like, you know, like, I love when I get my Amazon packages. Like, I love when I get my packages in. And we. Because I was feeling so depressed, I couldn't open my packages every day. And so we started to acquire. And I'm the only one that really opens them. And so we started to acquire, like, stacks of boxes. And, like, every time I'd walk through, I'd see all these stacks of boxes, and I'd be like, danny, you gotta open your packages. Like, they're taking over the front, you know, room. And. And, like, I could not open my packages because I couldn't even, like, muster the strength to, like, get some scissors or even just, like, walk over there. And, like, you know, like, every morning you'd come in and I'd try so hard to open a package, and, like, I couldn't do it. And so then I would just get back in bed and, like, I. And then sleep another three hours. And every time I woke up, I was like, damn. Like, I don't want to be awake. I just want to go back to bed. Like, that's just how you feel whenever you're, like, depressed.

Jordan Austin (8:59)

And so I think the harder part, too, is that, like, I. I try not create this environment for you, but it's natural where it's like, the kids are up and they're playing, and, like, I'm moving around the house, and, like, you know, Brenda's over. You know, people are over. And I. I hated that you probably felt guilty for resting, but I so just was like, you should just rest. Like, it's okay.

Dani Austin (9:22)

It's a. It's a vicious cycle, though. Like, it's really confusing and hard to know how to navigate it, because sometimes I feel like when you're depressed and people cater to you so much, they take.

Jordan Austin (9:32)

I know.

Dani Austin (9:33)

The purpose out of your day.

Jordan Austin (9:34)

That's why I didn't open your packages truly thoughtfully.

Dani Austin (9:38)

Yeah. Like, you still have to little accomplishments throughout the day. And I wasn't able to do my makeup. I wasn't able to, like, even shower. I know that sounds disgusting, but, like, I was so gross. Like, but I was like, damn, if I can just get these packages. And it probably took me, like, six days. But then, like, on the seventh day, because I had talked to my doctor and she thought I had, like, a virus or something. So that's why we were going in for blood work. And, you know, you just want to check. Honestly, I wouldn't have been shocked if I had, like, the ronavirus or something.

Ellie (10:07)

Right.

Dani Austin (10:08)

Because on top of that, all the nausea was kicking in and everything, all the other pregnancy symptoms that you get. And. But I remember, like, the day I opened my packages, I was like, oh, my gosh, I just opened three packages. Like, I did it, and then I went back to bed.

Jordan Austin (10:22)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (10:23)

And so. But, yeah, I. I think the hardest part about that season, and I'm sure a lot of you guys that have been pregnant before and, like, you know, kept the secret close to your family because, you know, it is scary not knowing, like, what could happen that first trimester. I think the hardest part that y'all probably relate to is not when people don't know and you're acting that way. Like, they're very worried. They're very worried because it's not. You're at. You're not acting yourself. And then, like, especially whenever you're nauseous and people are talking to you and you're, like, so short with them. Because I'm like, I can't. I can't. Like, Jordan's like, okay, let's talk about, like, a trip we're gonna take in July. And I'm like, again, it's not that I don't appreciate you. Like, I just feel like I'm going to vomit all over you.

Jordan Austin (11:02)

No, I did not take anything personally at all.

Dani Austin (11:05)

That's because it's our third.

Jordan Austin (11:07)

It's our third.

Dani Austin (11:07)

Our first. It caused a lot of friction.

Jordan Austin (11:09)

Yeah. Because, you know, I have a lot of friends right now who are going through their first babies, and the guys are taking everything so personally. And it's kind of a skill set to just, like, not right. Because the first one, I was like, oh, my gosh, what am I doing wrong? Like, what should I be doing different? You know, why is she not happy? I just was very, like, codependent and, like, probably, you know, was Putting too much effort in. Second one. I was kind of bummed because I was scared. Oh, my gosh. It was so close to you feeling good after Stella. Yeah. That I was like, why would we restart this process all over again? And then the third, you know, you were like. You were kind of in a very dark place where you were like, oh, my gosh. Like, Jordan, like, you could just go. Your mind goes to this place where you think it's going to be forever. And I was like, danny, when I.

Dani Austin (11:54)

Was going through it, yeah.

Jordan Austin (11:54)

I was like, danny, you're pregnant. It's okay.

Dani Austin (11:57)

Like, it's temporary.

Jordan Austin (11:58)

I bet next week you're feeling better, and then the week after that you're feeling better. And so I think that that made our marriage okay. During the time.

Dani Austin (12:05)

Yeah. The one thing I was saying, people were like, what made it. Probably want to know, like, what made it better? And I'm just going to be totally honest with y'all. There were moments when I was depressed that I was like, okay, exercise. Get out. Like, you remember that day we took Stella to the splash pads outside? I would do things like that, like, for an hour, like, eat a green or drink a green smoothie, you know, protein, whatever. And then I would just fall right back asleep. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. The only thing that helped me was my medication. I had to. I called my doctor and I doubled my dosage that I was taking. And because I was on a very, very low dose, and within three days, like, my migraine went away, the aches went away. Like, everything went away. And that's, like. That's what helped. And. And so ever since then, now I think if I am in bed or if I'm struggling, it's, like, purely a pregnancy symptom. It's, like, normal. You know, I'll nap one hour a day. Like, that's normal for, I think, a pregnant person. I'll feel sick and, like, just be a little agitated. I think that's normal. There's a very big difference between, like, a depression and pregnancy symptoms.

Jordan Austin (13:16)

What percentage of females that get pregnant do you think go through severe depression symptoms? Like, is. It's our norm now. So I'm like, oh, I think that this is just part of pregnancy, but I don't think it's like that for everyone, right?

Dani Austin (13:30)

No, no, I. I think, man. And if you don't go through that, like, oh, my gosh.

Jordan Austin (13:36)

Yeah, you should have, like, seven babies.

Dani Austin (13:37)

Well, and, you know, I really didn't experience that much with Stratton. It was really Stella. I did postpartum, but, like, during the.

Jordan Austin (13:45)

No, no.

Dani Austin (13:45)

Yeah, you're right.

Jordan Austin (13:46)

Yeah, yeah. You resonated with what I said in the car yesterday. I think it's, like, when your hormones, like, so when you get pregnant in your first trimester, your hormones are shifting a lot, and I think that that's when depression sets in the most. And then after your pregnancy, when they're shifting back. Yes, when it sets in the most.

Dani Austin (14:02)

It'S all the hormones, man. I'm telling you. They really just like Rocky. But I've had friends that haven't gone through that, and. But I was looking up. It said, like, 10. 10 go through depression, like, depression symptoms when they're pregnant, not postpartum. Like, like, actually during their first try.

Jordan Austin (14:19)

That's low. That's way lower than I thought.

Dani Austin (14:21)

Yeah, I'm definitely one of the ten.

Jordan Austin (14:23)

It's way lower.

Dani Austin (14:24)

Yeah. And so. And. And that makes it hard to talk about whenever it is, like, you're one of 10. Like, it's. Not everybody goes through that. Right. But, man, I am very thankful to be feeling better. Our last two episodes. Oh, my gosh. Our podcast producer is, like, probably, like, giggling, laughing, like, y'all. It was so hard to film those episodes. Like, I was straining, like, the whole time, and it was because of the depression and the nausea. Like, it was so hard. And plus, like, I want to be honest with y'all, but I also was like, I need to figure out what is going on with myself before I spill all my guts. Because, like, you know, that's one thing that I've talked about before is, like, it's. It's. It's healthy to be real and authentic and everything, but it's also healthy to, like, protect your peace and not let too many outside opinions, like, sway you whenever you feel like you're on your deathbed. And so there was like, it just takes time. And sometimes I feel like I don't have that luxury of, like, figuring things out. I need maybe a week or two to, like, take time off or take a step back, and everybody's like, where are you? What's happening? It's breast pill, breast implant illness. It's this. It's that Jordan and her fighting, whatever. And I'm like, no, no, please.

Jordan Austin (15:44)

Oh, is that one of them?

Dani Austin (15:47)

No, all the things.

Jordan Austin (15:48)

Oh, big one. He said, yeah.

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Dani Austin (18:26)

D and the thing is is like it's I don't. That makes me feel even worse. So I don't really know how to navigate it but I decided I was going to share early because I know that it's early and I'm going to be honest, I have not even gone to my 10 week appointment yet. Like usually you go your first appointment is like between 8 and 10 or 12 weeks. So I have not even gone to my first appointment yet. I went to my normal doctor. Right. And yeah, it can be scary but I think that if something did happen to my pregnancy I would want all of y'all to know and I want everyone to know and especially like my friends and family because I think like the support would help me. I think if I went through everything secretly like, like the depression, then the pregnancy and maybe something like you know, that would just make it even more complicated and more challenging. And so at this point now that I'm feeling, I feel like I'm willing to share that because I'm better in a better mental headspace. But if I. This was last week, like absolutely not.

Jordan Austin (19:41)

Yeah. I think the lack of real time in all of this. Cuz every other pregnancy has been pretty decently real time. Like if you went through something it was like talked about in real time. I feel like it's been so much healthier this pregnancy just you processing and then us talking about things like even now we're on a two week delay or one week delay since your depression kind of like left the room for a second. I've enjoyed this one a lot more.

Dani Austin (20:07)

The pregnancy.

Jordan Austin (20:08)

Yeah. Honestly. I know, I know.

Dani Austin (20:10)

Tell them why. Tell them what you've been doing.

Jordan Austin (20:12)

Well I've been playing a lot of sellers time.

Dani Austin (20:15)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (20:15)

People don't know like that game saved our. Saved my life because I didn't talk.

Dani Austin (20:19)

To him for about seven days and literally.

Jordan Austin (20:22)

No truly. And each game lasts like an hour and I'll play four games. I'll be like oh wow, the day's gone. You know. But like that entire time, you know, you were sleeping so it just like didn't let it. It made my mind not wander or go to doomsday scenario. It let me be like okay, this is such a temporary thing.

Dani Austin (20:41)

It's a temporary thing. It feels heavy and it feels like it's going to be forever when you're in it. But if you can just get something to pass the time. Honestly that's why I felt like sleeping.

Jordan Austin (20:49)

Yeah. I. But you know, further on that topic, like I. This has been the hardest pregnancy on you in my Opinion. Because, you know, I've been objectively here for all of them. I think this one's been the hardest one on you, but I feel like we've navigated it the most healthy just simply because, you know, maybe you were feeling a lot of pressure from the Internet during this one. But I wasn't. And I think because I wasn't.

Dani Austin (21:15)

Well, lucky. Yeah.

Jordan Austin (21:16)

But listen, because I wasn't, I feel like it allowed for us to have a culture in our family to not worry about it as much. And maybe that's just wishful thinking, but I think that when you and I are both worried about something, the culture of our families were super worried about it. I think you were struggling with, like, opinions of the Internet, but I was pretty, like, removed from that. And I think it allowed for us to kind of stay a little bit more even keel now.

Dani Austin (21:40)

No. 100%.

Jordan Austin (21:41)

Yeah. It just. It just has not seemed as emotionally like this because of the Internet, in my opinion. Yeah, but your mom. I mean, your mom. Tell the story about how your mom found out.

Dani Austin (21:54)

So my mom. When I was really bad, my mom was in Costa Rica, so tornado. I was really struggling. And, you know, I. I think I took maybe five or six days off, but I tried my best each day to, like, post a photo or to, like, just get something up so that people wouldn't be worried. Because when I don't post, people like, what's going on as they should, because I post every day, so it makes sense why people would be concerned. And. And so my mom, when she got back from Costa Rica, she called me one morning, and she goes, danny, I need to talk to you. She goes, I think I'm gonna come over. I'm gonna take you to lunch. She goes, we need to have a chat. She goes, what is going on with you? You are not okay. I'm worried about you. You know, like, something is going on, and I. You need to tell me what it is. What is going on? Something is happening. What's happening? Like, she thought something big was happening, like a secret.

Jordan Austin (22:56)

I was like, they always do.

Dani Austin (22:57)

I was like, mom. She goes, I'm coming over right now. We have to talk. And then I took the phone up to turn him, like, because I. I'll be honest. Like, I still wanted to do something fun to tell our families. You know, I wanted to plan something. Not even for, like, Instagra, just, like. Like to have those moments, especially because you can show your kids one day. And I hadn't thought of an idea yet because I was feeling so crappy. And I was like, mom, I have to tell you over the phone. I'm like, I'm pregnant. That's why.

Jordan Austin (23:27)

Yeah. And then she, like, it was hard for her because she was so concerned. She's like, I'm gonna fix this. To like, oh, oh, oh. Yeah, it was, it was funny. But a lot of people were texting that.

Dani Austin (23:40)

Yeah. And then we also. I felt so bad for your mom, cuz I was like, really struggling the day that I told her. Remember, I think this was like on the fifth day of sleeping. And we took Stella and Stratton to a splash pad, which was probably the first time I had left my house in five days. Slash been outside and I was like, like, your mom showed up. And I was like, man, I hadn't had any time to think of anything special, but I was feeling so down and so gross that I gave her a hug of hi, I'm pregnant. I'm sorry. I feel like, literally that's what I said.

Jordan Austin (24:15)

I know. I think I was filming it and there was like a porter potty in the background and I was like, this is so, like, real. Yeah.

Dani Austin (24:20)

I was like, I'm sorry, I can't. I just. And she was like, excited. I'm like, I. I really wanted to play something fun. I just, I didn't have it in me. Even our, Our pregnancy announcement video that day, I was in bed all day too.

Jordan Austin (24:33)

Yeah, you rallied.

Dani Austin (24:34)

I got my hair done. Like, I got my hair done at 11 because I couldn't even brush my freaking hair. And then I got back in bed all day and got up at like 6 for the photos. Took the photos, went back to bed.

Jordan Austin (24:48)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (24:49)

But I've had two good days in a row, so. So yeah, we're. I'm feeling a lot better and a lot more hopeful. I'm only eight weeks long, which is like so crazy. Like, we have so much more to go. But I'm excited. I'm 20% along.

Jordan Austin (25:07)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (25:08)

I just want all the babies. But the pregnancies are so hard.

Jordan Austin (25:11)

The pregnancies are very hard on you. And that 10 number is striking to me because I was like, oh, maybe like, half of women have easy pregnancies. Half have really hard.

Dani Austin (25:23)

Well, this will be interesting too, because I've never shared my first trimester before. I've never talked about it.

Jordan Austin (25:30)

Wouldn't it be like, beneficial for you to share it? Like, I mean, I, I just, I just think about how many of my guy friends who are now going through their first children. Like, we, We Talk about everything. We talk about all the different nuances and how helpful it is. So wouldn't you sharing your first trimester be, like, a helpful thing?

Dani Austin (25:48)

Yeah. I mean, but you got to be tough, like, as a mom and when you're pregnant. And if you're going to share that, like, you got to be mentally strong and know, because people have so many opinions about the way you live your life when you're pregnant. Oh, my gosh.

Jordan Austin (26:03)

Like, man, I'm so tired of people having opinions about the way we live our lives. It's unreal.

Dani Austin (26:08)

I know. I know.

Jordan Austin (26:09)

That's why I'm removed. I'm just like, I just can't win.

Dani Austin (26:12)

Yeah. Like, people are very, very. And so that's why a lot of people don't share. Like, that's why I waited till I was, like, 20 weeks with. I think I was 21 weeks with Stella. Because it's like.

Jordan Austin (26:24)

But it's, like, not your fault that you're nauseous and depressed. So what. What are they going to say? Like, what's the hate?

Dani Austin (26:30)

You'll see.

Jordan Austin (26:32)

Just, like, give me, like, one example.

Dani Austin (26:34)

Like, working out what you're eating, like, just the way you look.

Jordan Austin (26:42)

But, like, to be honest, don't they, like, comment on all that stuff already without you being pregnant?

Dani Austin (26:47)

Yes. But, like, here's the thing, though. Okay. When you are pregnant, you are hormonal.

Jordan Austin (26:53)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (26:54)

And you are fragile, and you are, like, your. Your mind is already struggling and you're already, like, trying your best to do everything right. And so it's. You're a lot more sensitive.

Jordan Austin (27:06)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (27:07)

Like, you know what I mean?

Jordan Austin (27:08)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (27:09)

Do you remember that time? Oh, my gosh. When I was pregnant with Stella, y'all, The hormones had just kicked in, and we were going to Equinox the gym to work out, y'all. I had the weirdest thing happen to me on the way to the gym. It was like 7:00 in the morning. This was so creepy. I was like. It was out of a horror film. I had this, like, influx of hormones that I, like, physically felt come into my body. And I just started hysterically laughing and then hysterically crying.

Jordan Austin (27:35)

Oh, man. That was.

Dani Austin (27:36)

You remember that?

Jordan Austin (27:37)

I do remember that.

Dani Austin (27:37)

And there was nothing I was laughing or crying about. I was just. I started laughing, like, belly laughing so much where, like, I couldn't breathe. And then it just turned. Turned into, like, a hysterical cry. And I was like, damn, I'm crazy right now. Like, this is not normal. I haven't had a moment like that yet.

Jordan Austin (27:54)

I'm so, like, unfazed right now. Like, just unfazed. Like, I'm. I. I just know we're gonna get on the other side. It's gonna be great.

Dani Austin (28:01)

I just can't wait to have three. I'm so excited.

Jordan Austin (28:03)

What are you, like, how are you feeling about our transition from two to three?

Dani Austin (28:09)

I'm, like, not worried about it at all.

Jordan Austin (28:10)

Same.

Dani Austin (28:11)

I don't know why.

Jordan Austin (28:11)

Like, I know I was worried about it before.

Dani Austin (28:14)

Like, oh, my gosh. Three. I'm like, yeah. Like, I always.

Jordan Austin (28:17)

They're like, no more man to man zone defense. That's what they always say.

Dani Austin (28:20)

Like, I already feel like it's a zone defense.

Jordan Austin (28:22)

I know. Same. But, like, I. Yeah, I'm not worried about it.

Dani Austin (28:26)

Yeah, maybe we should be. Maybe, like, the. The moms that have three are like, oh, gosh, these little naive little nuggets.

Jordan Austin (28:32)

Maybe. You know, I'll tell you what I'm worried about the most is postpartum. No, no. I'm like, I'm. I'm good.

Dani Austin (28:42)

Oh, I'm good.

Jordan Austin (28:42)

I'm like, here for you. Like, I'm here. I got Sellers Katon. Like, you're having. You need a nap time. It's like, okay, I'll get a match in. You know, like, I'm. I'm really, like, good. I'm not worried about that stuff at all.

Dani Austin (28:53)

Oh, I am.

Jordan Austin (28:56)

I. I do think it's probably a girl, if I'm being honest. And I.

Dani Austin (29:00)

The nausea is. I was. I was nauseous with Stella, but not with Stratton.

Jordan Austin (29:04)

Yeah. So, you know, I'm not God, so I don't know what is best for our family. He knows. I don't. But I have always seen Stella and Stratton and then another brother, like, because.

Dani Austin (29:15)

I think two boys, one girl.

Jordan Austin (29:17)

Yeah. Because I think that Stratton would play so well with, like, a little brother. And I think Stella would, like, care for her two brothers. That's just her personality.

Dani Austin (29:25)

I don't know a lot of families where the sister is the oldest.

Jordan Austin (29:28)

Yeah, I. I don't. I don't either.

Dani Austin (29:29)

Oh, wait, my next door neighbor's going up. Never mind.

Jordan Austin (29:31)

So my. So Stella with us, a younger sister, and Stratton being like, here's what's more between two sisters. I can't. I just can't imagine it yet. It's. It's very. It's very interesting.

Dani Austin (29:44)

I'm trying to figure out, like, once I have three, I can't imagine not having four.

Jordan Austin (29:50)

Yeah. No. I'm hoping These are twins. Triplets. I take triples.

Dani Austin (29:54)

Can we pray that it's twins? I would love to have twins.

Jordan Austin (29:58)

Everyone, unite your prayer warriors. Let your beard pull out your beads.

Dani Austin (30:01)

Well, it already, like, is what it is. I just haven't had my. My.

Jordan Austin (30:05)

Jesus, you are a good guy.

Dani Austin (30:06)

Oh, wait. Speaking of that, if you are confused about our pregnancy announcement, we had to use Stella's sauna. Sonogram.

Jordan Austin (30:12)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (30:13)

For our pregnancy announcement because we hadn't gone to the doctor yet. So all of. Like in the video where we announced it was actually Stella as a baby.

Jordan Austin (30:21)

Is that controversial?

Dani Austin (30:23)

No. No. Whatever.

Jordan Austin (30:24)

Yeah. Why would that be controversial?

Dani Austin (30:26)

They're just little nugs. They all look the same. There's a little nuggets in there. No, it's. We're good. Because I don't get my sonogram. I don't get my pictures done for. For two more weeks.

Jordan Austin (30:36)

So this. So Danny's being a little crazy about this pregnancy in another way. She doesn't want to find out the gender.

Dani Austin (30:43)

Yeah. I feel like it'd be so exciting.

Jordan Austin (30:45)

I hate that. I hate that so much. Like, I can't go until January not knowing how to, like, envision.

Dani Austin (30:54)

Just accept that it's a girl. Just be like it's a girl. It's like we're having a girl. Like, accept it.

Jordan Austin (30:59)

I don't want that surprise in the delivery room. I don't know why people do that.

Dani Austin (31:03)

Why do you not want that surprise?

Jordan Austin (31:04)

I don't want that surprise because I want to know. I. I want to be able to.

Dani Austin (31:10)

Like, dream, read about it, research and.

Jordan Austin (31:13)

Think vision and, like, think about it and be like, oh, my gosh. When. You know Stella and Stratton are this age. Like, new baby's gonna be this age. Like, I wanna.

Dani Austin (31:21)

What about. You found out and I didn't.

Jordan Austin (31:23)

Oh, I would love that. See, I would do that, but I wouldn't be able to keep a secret. Secret. No, I know.

Dani Austin (31:28)

You would have a 40 and slip. For sure.

Jordan Austin (31:30)

Yeah, for sure. I was trying to keep this from, like, my friends, and I. I'm shocked that they didn't pick up on my hints. I would be like, hey, like, you know, what do y'all think about this thing? Like, asking all these, like, new baby questions that I've just forgotten, even though it was only two years ago. And I was like, yeah, I'm just asking for a friend.

Dani Austin (31:49)

Yeah. Wow.

Jordan Austin (31:51)

Are we gonna stick with the. The st. Names? Stratton, Stella.

Dani Austin (31:56)

It's such a good question. Don't stop. Do not Say what our baby name is. No, Jordan, stop. It's so annoying. You're being so annoying right now.

Jordan Austin (32:10)

So we can stick with st. No, she's been trying to, like, diverge from the ST name. She thinks it's too. What did you say?

Dani Austin (32:17)

It's kind of like a circus.

Jordan Austin (32:19)

It's, like, kitschy.

Dani Austin (32:20)

It's a little kitschy. It's a little cringe. But at the same time, it's. Here's the thing, because it's not like having, like, kids with the All Star with the same letter. It's kids with all having the same two letters. It's not. It's not a S. Family. It's a family. And that. That's just, like, a little specific.

Jordan Austin (32:38)

Like Stratton, Stella and Steve, Stephen and Stanley. Stanley.

Dani Austin (32:44)

I. I dated a guy named Stanley once. Really?

Jordan Austin (32:47)

What was it like?

Dani Austin (32:49)

It was like my skater phase.

Jordan Austin (32:51)

Oh, a skater named Stanley. That's shocking.

Dani Austin (32:54)

Yes.

Jordan Austin (32:54)

I just see it like a pocket.

Dani Austin (32:55)

He had a very raspy voice.

Jordan Austin (32:58)

Huh?

Dani Austin (32:58)

Like, kind of in a weird way, like, smoker. Sounds like a smoker. But we're 14.

Jordan Austin (33:02)

Like, hey, I'm Stanley.

Dani Austin (33:03)

Yeah, I kind of like that.

Jordan Austin (33:05)

You want to see my ollie?

Dani Austin (33:06)

Yeah, seriously. But no, the thing is, I will say the funny thing is, I have two names that I love. Like, love. And they start with st. Like, I would choose them even if I wasn't doing sts. So that's my biggest struggle. But I also, like, for a girl, I have so many cute names for boy, I. I struggle. I like more like the traditional William, Jack, Charlie type of names.

Jordan Austin (33:37)

You know what's so funny about this pregnancy, too? Last thing we can talk about is, I feel like the culture of the Internet around pregnancies has shifted so much. Like, you know, when Stella was. When you're pregnant with Stella, when you're pregnant with Stratton, it was like pregnancy was all the rape, you know, like the Internet, like, loved pregnancy. But, like, it's so funny because I got a text message from one of my friends when we didn't even announce it yet, but we. It was that, like, real where you rolled on top of me and it was like, I don't think I was.

Dani Austin (34:07)

Pregnant then when we filmed that.

Jordan Austin (34:09)

No, but was I. It was just a. The real was about you ovulating.

Dani Austin (34:13)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (34:14)

And so ever. My friends started guessing and saying, oh, baby number three on the way. And then another friend responded and said, influencer life. You got to, like, minimum of three. It's like a new iPhone. You have to come out with another one.

Dani Austin (34:26)

Wait, is that true? Let's think about it.

Jordan Austin (34:28)

What?

Dani Austin (34:29)

How many influencers have two kids?

Jordan Austin (34:31)

Jen Reed, she has two. Yeah. Maddie Nelson's going for four.

Dani Austin (34:38)

Yeah. Just four. Okay.

Jordan Austin (34:40)

Krista has three.

Dani Austin (34:43)

Right.

Jordan Austin (34:44)

All the tick tockers, they only have like two.

Dani Austin (34:46)

That's because they're so young.

Jordan Austin (34:47)

They're young, right?

Dani Austin (34:48)

That's the thing. I don't know if it's like everybody has to have three kids, but what I always thought it was is these people, like, popped off because they had more than three kids. You know what I mean?

Jordan Austin (34:58)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (34:59)

Because it's like, wow, she has five kids. What is that life like? And then you want to follow because you're like, I can't imagine having five kids. Or maybe I could. Like, that's why it's, like, interesting. I mean, Sarah Litz, also, like, they're amazing, cool people, but it's like crazy to watch her family. There's seven of them.

Jordan Austin (35:15)

Right?

Dani Austin (35:15)

You know what I mean?

Jordan Austin (35:16)

I guess. Let me ask you this. Do you feel like the culture has shifted since your last pregnancy to this pregnancy? Like, do you think they're like.

Dani Austin (35:23)

No, I think we're just all getting older, really. And more people are joining online. So it's like, like pregnancies aren't the same as they probably were, you know, three or four years ago. Because, like, everybody's like, posting them more because everybody's creating content more, not because there's more or less of them.

Ellie (35:40)

But you don't think that there's like.

Jordan Austin (35:41)

A narrative out there that's like. Like, if you're an influencer, you have to have a minimum of like three kids.

Dani Austin (35:49)

I never really thought of that.

Jordan Austin (35:50)

Or. Or is there a conversation that's had. So, like, let's say I'm a mom and I don't have any kids yet, but I'm thinking about planning a family. Do you think that influencers having a lot of kids creates this expectations that you have to have a lot of kids?

Dani Austin (36:05)

Okay, so this is what I really think it is. I think it's in our niche because there's a lot of, like, southern influencers. We like, grew up in the Bible belt. Like, it's more traditional to have more kids. Like, if you follow biblical, no stop.

Jordan Austin (36:20)

To procreate.

Dani Austin (36:21)

Not to have a populate the earth, but not to have a bunch of kids.

Jordan Austin (36:25)

No, it's like, I mean, we are in a population decline. It's important. Okay, but like, we should have more babies. Everyone.

Dani Austin (36:34)

Okay, let's not go there because not Everyone needs to have kids.

Jordan Austin (36:40)

Okay, yeah. I'm not saying they have.

Dani Austin (36:42)

It's not like your purpose in life for some people.

Jordan Austin (36:44)

Okay, yeah, I get it. Like, yeah, you're, you're looking at me like I'm stepping on some landmine. And all I'm saying is like, yeah, big families can be great blessings. I'm not.

Dani Austin (36:55)

If you don't want that. I know. And like, yes. And so that's why I think that it feels like, oh, every influencer has three or four kids. It's like, probably because in our niche there's a lot of southern influencers with more traditional values that value having bigger families and want bigger families. But I think if you follow families in other parts of the country, maybe that's not what they value, you know?

Ellie (37:20)

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Jordan Austin (40:27)

Sure.

Dani Austin (40:27)

Like how many people do you, how many influencers in New York do you follow that live in the city that have five kids?

Jordan Austin (40:35)

Not.

Dani Austin (40:35)

I can't really think of one.

Jordan Austin (40:37)

How many? Something.

Dani Austin (40:37)

Maybe have just three.

Jordan Austin (40:39)

But she's like kind of, she's kind.

Dani Austin (40:41)

Of the like anomaly.

Jordan Austin (40:42)

She's anomaly. But I think that that probably has to do with like her, you know.

Dani Austin (40:47)

Who had a lot of kids in the city was the Austries, the Ashley sisters. There's like four of them and they grew up in the city.

Jordan Austin (40:53)

Yeah. You know what's cool? Here's, here's what I will say. And Stephen Houghton said this too. The more siblings I think you have, the closer your family's going to be because it creates so many inner bonds between them. Like I. Every large family that I know, it does seem like on average the, the siblings are closer.

Dani Austin (41:13)

Yeah. But you know, I don't know. I'm pretty close to my family. There's only two of us.

Jordan Austin (41:17)

That's true.

Dani Austin (41:18)

So because sometimes I feel like the parents have more time to focus on just you. I get a lot of attention because there's only two of us.

Jordan Austin (41:26)

Yeah. I'm not saying it's a perfect formula. I'm Just saying, like, it's. It's a fun thing to have large families.

Dani Austin (41:30)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (41:30)

I think it scares a lot of people, but I've. The more. The more people in the Southern Bible Belt that we have talked to, it has scared me less to have a large family, because I think that, yes, it's hard, but there are a lot of blessings that come with it, too.

Dani Austin (41:42)

Yeah. Yeah. I'll tell you why I wanted to have three kids.

Jordan Austin (41:45)

Yeah, tell us that.

Dani Austin (41:47)

Because I really wanted my. My kids to have siblings close in age. And I'm so, like, I'm so proud of myself. Like, I'm so proud that I did it, even though it was so hard. Like, my pregnancies have been so hard, but I'm so happy that we, like, pushed through and we did it, because it's, like, so worth it, especially being on the other side of Stella and Stratton. It was so hard in the moment sometimes, but, like, it's like seeing them play, I'm like, this is it. That's what I wanted. This is everything. And it's so sweet to see them. And, like, my brother and I are five years apart. You and your brother, four or five years apart. And we're still. We're close now that we're older, but when we were younger, we just had, like, nothing in common. And so I really wanted my. And this is just a personal preference. A lot of people had, like, five siblings grow up, and they're like, I'm only gonna have two kids, and I don't want them to be close in age because I actually want to focus on my kids because, like, I never got to see my parents, you know, so everybody. That's what makes it so beautiful, is we all have, like, different visions and goals for our family. If we were all the same, it would be very odd. And so. But for me, personally, I was like, man, I want to have three or four kids, and I want them all to be close. Like, I always wanted that. That vibe with the fam.

Jordan Austin (42:58)

Same.

Dani Austin (42:59)

I'm so, like, so. I'm so excited. Like, it's so hard, but I, like, I can't wait.

Jordan Austin (43:02)

But I will say. And I. And I thought this before. I thought this when we just had Stella, you know, I remember we went to Jose, that Mexican restaurant, and we were talking to Jordan and Amber Massey, who have, like, how many kids they have?

Dani Austin (43:13)

I think five.

Jordan Austin (43:14)

Five. And we were talking to them.

Dani Austin (43:17)

Was it six?

Jordan Austin (43:18)

I think it might be like six.

Dani Austin (43:19)

I can't remember.

Ellie (43:20)

I don't know.

Jordan Austin (43:21)

Anyway, we were talking to them, and I just couldn't understand how they. They went through the Band Aid ripoff of having your first kid and your just life getting flipped up, down, upside down and then doing that five other times.

Dani Austin (43:37)

Yes.

Jordan Austin (43:37)

And I'm very even keel for three. I think I could be even keel if you were like, let's run it back and do two under two again. Two again and have four. But the people who do like six or seven, that I'm not there yet. I still think that there's something special about them.

Dani Austin (43:58)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (43:58)

I don't say crazy. I say special because it is, like, a calling.

Dani Austin (44:02)

I mean, think about how much time you spend pregnant.

Jordan Austin (44:04)

Pregnant, like, you know, right now. We've been married six years. You've been pregnant for or going through pregnancy or postpartum through most of pregnancy. Yeah. For most of that.

Dani Austin (44:16)

You can do, like, some work on a marriage, too. You know what I'm saying?

Jordan Austin (44:19)

Yeah. It's, like, hard, but shockingly, I mean, we're.

Dani Austin (44:23)

We made it.

Jordan Austin (44:24)

Someone told me our. One of our producers said that there was a rumor that we were fighting, and I was like, we're actually kind of better than ever.

Dani Austin (44:31)

Yeah. Yeah.

Jordan Austin (44:32)

I mean, she's asleep and I'm playing guitar, but, like, we're good.

Dani Austin (44:34)

What did I say this morning? I rolled over. What? I said.

Jordan Austin (44:37)

You said that I was the. Yeah. So great. So random. You just rolled over and you said, you're the love of my life. I love you so much. Or something like that.

Dani Austin (44:49)

Yes.

Jordan Austin (44:49)

Yeah, it was amazing. Yeah, it's amazing.

Dani Austin (44:51)

Yeah, I meant it.

Jordan Austin (44:53)

It's like, I did it. I'm doing it. I did something right.

Dani Austin (44:58)

You know, all that guilt of sleeping was really building up on me.

Jordan Austin (45:01)

No, you shouldn't. You shouldn't feel guilty at all.

Dani Austin (45:04)

Do you think that influencers have multiple kids for content? Be honest about it.

Jordan Austin (45:16)

I. I love to give people the benefit of the doubt. And so I don't want to say that it is, like, a strategy to have babies to boost your engagement, but I think that there are influencers in our space, and I do not believe that this is us who factor that into their decision.

Dani Austin (45:36)

Wait, I have to know who. Can you whisper? Is there somebody, like, you're thinking about or just, like, people in the niche, like, space?

Jordan Austin (45:44)

I would never have evidence for this at all. But in private conversations between their spouses, just, like, knowing their drive and knowing, like, what is gives you anxiety, important, I feel like it's got to play into it in some way.

Dani Austin (46:01)

What.

Jordan Austin (46:01)

And here's what I'll say here's. It's not as like black and white as that. And here's how I think it also plays out is that when one of you guys does get pregnant, engagement goes up. Right. And so even if it's a subconscious thing, I think it creates an expectation that sometimes has nothing to do with the Internet or engagement. Of like, oh my gosh, I need to be doing this too, right? Like, I need to, I need to jump.

Dani Austin (46:27)

I have to push back on that. Because the reason why, like, I just think that's all like such a bunch of bull crap is because you're following us like through the times that people would have babies. Like, when else are we gonna have babies? Like you, like you're following someone when they're maybe getting married and then they start a family. Like, those are the years that people are going to have babies. So it's not like they're like doing it for engage. It's just like it, it's the time I'm 31, like that's when I physically wanted to have babies.

Jordan Austin (47:00)

Like, yeah, if my. Okay, so let's say I'm a 25 something female and I'm.

Dani Austin (47:08)

And sorry. But I also feel like when you go through the postpartum and your body changes and all these like things that are really hard, it makes it really hard to work. It doesn't make it like, I just, I, I don't think that anybody actually does that for content. It's too, it's too overwhelmed. It's too much.

Jordan Austin (47:26)

I just, I think you're seeing the world through rose colored glasses. I think they totally do. And maybe I'm like, I don't think it's one. Okay. If there's a pie in your decision making process, I think it makes up 15% of like, why should we have another kid? Hmm, let me think about this. 15% of that decision is like, oh, content.

Dani Austin (47:49)

I get it. Maybe for your first. I think that maybe some people feel that way for their first, but I can't imagine people feel that way. I could agree that because it rocks your world. And then you're like, oh.

Jordan Austin (48:01)

What I will also say is that I think that your algorithm is so powerful in dictating what you think life should look like. So for example, if I was a mid 25, some 25 year old female that was married and living in Kansas City, okay. But I followed only New York influencers, I would not feel pressure to like be having multiple babies or having a family of three or having a family of four, I would be more like, I need to get to New York and I need to be going to New York Fashion Week and I need to be going to the Hamptons in the summer and all this stuff. And so I think that for the people who are not influencers, but follow the influencers, having Maddie Nelson, who's having four children, us, who's having three children, Darlan, who's having three children, you can't. Taryn, who has like seven. Amber Massey, who has like five. Five?

Dani Austin (48:58)

Yeah. Four boys and a girl.

Jordan Austin (49:00)

Guys, I'm sorry. Massey's and Newton's. Anything plus four is like seven to me. There's no five or six. It's just seven. So I'm. Maybe I'm saying that there's too many. But I think if you're watching that every day, there's no way it doesn't influence you in some way to feel like you need to be doing that too.

Dani Austin (49:19)

I don't know, sometimes I watch that stuff and I'm like, oh my God, I could never. I'm like, I don't know how she does it.

Jordan Austin (49:25)

Like, yeah, it's not a bad thing. It's just you're going to be influenced by what your algorithm feeds you or.

Dani Austin (49:31)

Or the people around you or the people around family.

Jordan Austin (49:34)

Yeah. Or your own family. But our family was not in. Like, we are. I think that we are.

Dani Austin (49:40)

No, I mean the way that you're raised is going to like your family. Like, it does influence you because it's like, like, I grew up with a small family, I want a big family. If I grew up with big family, I probably want a small family.

Jordan Austin (49:52)

Right.

Dani Austin (49:52)

Like, that's what I mean.

Jordan Austin (49:53)

Like, exactly.

Dani Austin (49:54)

I think that plays a big factor into it too. But I don't know, I just personally think I'm like, you're following a bunch of 31 year olds like that want to have families. They're not getting pregnant because their friends are getting pregnant. They're getting pregnant because that's what they're ready for.

Jordan Austin (50:10)

I think that makes up 85% of the truth. I think there's 15 I. And listen, I think it's just like the world that we live in. I think that what social media has done is like warped our decision making to. It's like, do I really want this or do I feel like I need to want this? Right.

Dani Austin (50:26)

What do you think? What do you think about moms that make their brand about being a mom? Because, oh, I have so many thoughts about this versus just a, like a Content creator. That is a mom. It's like, the difference between, like, are you a Christian influencer or an influencer? That's a question. You know what I mean?

Jordan Austin (50:47)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (50:48)

Like, what are your thoughts on.

Jordan Austin (50:49)

I have. I have no thoughts. What are your thoughts? I, like, couldn't even.

Dani Austin (50:53)

This is. This is going to definitely feed into the narrative that Danny's a bad mom, which, like, it's been a narrative since day one. And, you know, whatever. I'm not, so it's cool. But I am actually incredible. But I will say, like, I am so much like my mom when it comes to being a mom, right. That, like, I am not someone that wakes up every day. I'm like, my only purpose in life is to be a mother and to just take care of my kids all day. And it gives me so much joy. And, like, some people do feel that way, and that's fine. But, like, I have dreams and goals and things that I want to do outside of being a mom as well. And, like, even dreams and goals within our marriage or things I want to do with just my husband that maybe I don't want to do with my kids and things that I want to accomplish in my career. And I loved that about my mom. Like, I loved. I remember, like, going to school, and I've talked about this before. I would go to school when I was, like, in third grade. I'd be like, my mom's in Vegas and she's working a trade show. And, like, I'm like, yeah, she's selling strollers. And, like, I helped her learn her lines last night. Like, I used to do that. I used to help my mom, and my mom used to do Spanish commercials. And my mom would, like, practice her. Her lines. And I would help her whenever I was a little girl, or I'd help her pick out her outfit for working market. And my mom would be like, come out in these, like, killer outfits with heels and go work market. And my mom and dad were gone every single birthday of mine because they were going a working market. And, like, I remember I started to be angry about it when I was, like, in high school. But, like, I remember when I was growing up, I was like, my mom and dad are like, like, cool. Like, they're doing big things. They. My parents would go dancing on Saturday nights. And I remember they'd come home, like, with all their friends, and I'd be like, that's so cool. Like, I can't wait to go dancing with my friends. I wasn't like, I can't believe they left me on a Saturday night because, like, I was taken care of. I had a sleepover. I had my friends over. You know, my mom and dad would take me to Blockbuster, and I'd go get candy. Before, like, I was good. My favorite thing was I would do the Barbie workouts. Like, literally, I do the Barbie workouts the entire time that my mom and dad were out. Like, my parents had such a cool life, and it, like, I think that's why it's not so overwhelming for me to have kids, because I'm like, oh, it's not like, my life's not gonna stop. Like, my parents are still cool. Like, I've always thought that they were so much more. They still. They are more fun than I am. They have so many friends. They go on all these trips. They're like the life of the party. Like, they're just. They're very, like, they're cool people. And. And my mom, I. I. I always would be. I would be so scared for my mom if she, like, that was her only identity. And then I left for college. Like, what would my mom have done? Like, my mom always kept working. She always tried to learn. She always tried to do new things. And, like, I loved that about her. When I left for college, it was hard. Don't get me wrong. Like, I remember my parents went through, like, a struggle with their marriage and everything, but, like, they overcame it. And then my mom started working again and started doing her own thing. Like, my mom's always been a hustler. Like that. And that's just, like. To me, like, that's okay, but I know everyone's different. But, like, personally, I. I don't. I like to put my kids in my content. I like to be real about whatever's going on. But, like, I have a lot of other things that I want to share, too, you know?

Jordan Austin (54:17)

What was the original question?

Dani Austin (54:18)

Like, the difference between mommy bloggers or bloggers that are mommies?

Jordan Austin (54:22)

Got it. And so the.

Dani Austin (54:24)

The.

Jordan Austin (54:25)

The people who are mommy bloggers would look at that and say, well, people.

Dani Austin (54:30)

Sometimes don't like that about me because they want me to be on the other side of the spectrum. They want me to, like, only find purpose in being a mom, and I'm a great mom, and I show up for my kids, and I'm. And, like, I die for my kids. Like, I'll always prioritize my kids. You know what I mean? Like, sometimes I feel like it helps my kids when I also prioritize myself.

Jordan Austin (54:53)

Your kids respect you. Like, you're What I. What I see, like, Stratton's still so young, and it's also like, he's a boy and Stella's a girl. And, you know, most of the things that you do is very girly. But I. One of the things that I am really excited about for the future is, like, I think as you continue to work and foster a great career and figure out the balance between being a working mom, I've started to see Stella already, like, taking an interest in what you're doing, like, whether it's like, y'all are unboxing boxing packages together. And she's like, oh, Mommy, I love those shoes. Like, you'll walk in, like, that's just.

Dani Austin (55:29)

Like, girly, cute stuff.

Jordan Austin (55:30)

But last night, you walked in, you were going to a dinner with your friends, and she was like, oh, I like mommy's shoes. And I go, stella, tell Mommy you like your shoes. She goes, mommy, I really like your shoes. Right. And so it's so hard. I think I'm very sensitive about talking about how we raise our kids, because the more that I've gone on in time, the more that I've realized that everyone who judges another family is coming from a perspective mostly of how they were brought up. Rarely try and comment on the way that someone else is doing something, whether it's, you know, a faster, more complex, you know, family dynamic or a slower, you know, more relaxed, you know, nurturing family environment. I just think that every family dynamic looks different. Right. And so it's hard for me to even talk about how our family runs and is raised, because I wouldn't want to communicate to anyone that, like, our way is the highway. Right.

Dani Austin (56:25)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (56:26)

And so I think that, yes, we are raising our family like that. Right. And I am so excited about it, and I'm so happy about it, and I think it's going to be wonderfully fruitful for our children. But that's because you and I are who we are.

Dani Austin (56:40)

Yeah, Right.

Jordan Austin (56:41)

Like, we were raised in totally different environments. I was raised in a very, like, nurturing environment, and I think I bring those assets into our marriage. And so you balance our family because, like, I represent, like, one side, and I'm very good at one side, and you represent the other side. Right. And I think we meet in the middle of balancing those two qualities really well, and that's what defines the culture of our family.

Dani Austin (57:04)

Right.

Jordan Austin (57:05)

Someone else's family. I would never want anyone listening to this and say, and you can pick things from. You can learn from us, whatever you want to learn. But we are never preaching that, hey, this is the way and this is how it should look. Yeah, right. That's what makes me so sensitive about social media in, in so many ways over the past, like year or so. Because like, I realize now that our kids are not just kids that we are caretaking for now. They're developing into people. Right. And so the way that we develop them might look totally different than how you develop your kids. But our kids have unique personalities. We have unique personalities. And so it's just hard because everyone who watches on social media can't watch in a way and say, oh, they're doing it that way. That's so cool. I would love to learn from that. Yeah, it's got a, it's like a mirror to them. It's like, oh, I would never do that. So I'm going to tell Danny X, Y, Z. Oh, I, I look totally different as a mom, so I'm going to tell Danny X, Y, Z. Right. And so it's just hard. I wish that there was just a way we could all kind of be, you know, level headed enough to be like, hey, it's going to look different, but it's okay. Like, I would love to learn from your differences. You can learn from our differences and we can all, all be like good parents together. But unfortunately it just doesn't seem like that's how it works or how it happens. You know, I mean, it's made me want to retreat in a lot of ways and I don't know if that's good, but it makes me want to retreat because I don't want, I don't want to make you feel a certain way.

Dani Austin (58:36)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (58:36)

But all I'm doing is living my life and I'm living the life that we have built and all I, you know, the way that I know how to live it.

Dani Austin (58:42)

Yeah. I mean, to be honest, and y'all probably even like, I felt this through my last rant, but it makes me defensive. It makes me feel like I have to defend the way that I am and because typically nine times out of 10, the hate is towards me and it makes me feel like I have to like, prove why, you know, from my upbringing and my gifts and my talents, like, this is why I'm doing things the way that I'm doing. But like, genuinely I feel the same way as you do. Like, I don't think that my way is the highway and like, I don't think that people listening this should be exactly like me, like, or us or raise their kids like Us, like, Stella is so different than a lot of the three year old girls that I've met. Like, I've seen, you know, and so the way things I'm gonna do, the way I'm gonna do things with Stella, it's gonna probably be very different and probably should be very different than what you do with your daughter, you know?

Jordan Austin (59:34)

Yeah. Like, I just. This is the last thing I'll say. And it's. It's pretty deep, but it's very true. And it's like the more that time goes on, the more I realize this is true. Like, God is in control and God has a design. Like, he placed me in my family because guess what? I don't think I could have been raised in your family.

Dani Austin (59:53)

Like, if you're raised in your family, right.

Jordan Austin (59:55)

If your mom and dad, if your mom and dad raised me, I might have been a psychopath, but that's just because of who I am.

Dani Austin (60:01)

Right.

Jordan Austin (60:01)

God put me in a family with the mom and dad that I needed. He put you in a family with a mom and dad that you needed. And guess what? He brought us together. And now we are married. Okay. And we complement each other as a team in the way that we're raising our kids. So well.

Dani Austin (60:17)

Right?

Jordan Austin (60:17)

That's it. End of story. There's no, I'm doing better, you're doing better. That's it. It's like.

Dani Austin (60:23)

And we're all going to make mistakes. And that's part of it.

Jordan Austin (60:26)

Like, it's all part of it.

Dani Austin (60:27)

And so are y'all. Like, everybody is.

Jordan Austin (60:29)

So now that we're having. This is a good place to end. Now that we're having a third child.

Dani Austin (60:34)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (60:35)

I feel like we have a lot of decisions we have to make in life.

Dani Austin (60:39)

Oh, you know how I feel about decisions. It took me two weeks to decide whether we were going to mountains or the beach for our summer vacay.

Jordan Austin (60:46)

I'm aware. And I was the one planning this family vacation. Guess what? You guys are all the same. And all of the Austins, I'm like, what do you guys think? And it's like, well, your mom will say something and then she'll be like, let's go to the beach. Two days later. And I'm like, I literally just planned this whole trip.

Dani Austin (61:02)

We're going to the mountains.

Jordan Austin (61:03)

We're going to the mountains. So we have a lot of decisions to make about our lives. Like, do we stay in this house? Do we move? Do we move to Nashville?

Dani Austin (61:12)

I'm not moving to another city.

Jordan Austin (61:14)

Really?

Dani Austin (61:15)

I've told you this. Unless it's the Cotswolds in London.

Jordan Austin (61:18)

Okay, so you'd move to another country.

Dani Austin (61:20)

Did you know that Kimmy and Stephen Houghton are renting a house in this Cotswolds for a month this summer?

Jordan Austin (61:27)

Yeah, it's awesome. They're gonna have so much fun.

Dani Austin (61:29)

They said we could go visit them. I ran into her at the mall yesterday.

Jordan Austin (61:32)

Get out of town.

Dani Austin (61:33)

I was like, should we. Oh, my gosh, I would love to rent a house like that before I commit. Because, like, I'm not with no cows, and I'm not, like, plucking no chickens. You know what I'm saying?

Jordan Austin (61:46)

Oh, commit to not England, but Nashville.

Dani Austin (61:50)

Like the. Not the country, but, like. Like an acre of land. That's a lot to me, babe.

Jordan Austin (61:56)

I'm not moving on to an acre. I'm talking, like, 15 acres. Yes. 25, maybe.

Dani Austin (62:04)

This is what I'm saying is, like, we should rent a house.

Jordan Austin (62:06)

We're like that for a month, aligned right now. We are not equally yoked in our vision.

Dani Austin (62:11)

We really aren't. We aren't. We're equally looked on how many children we're having, but we are not.

Jordan Austin (62:16)

You asked me, you said, I. If we move to Nashville, can I have horses? And I said, yes.

Dani Austin (62:21)

I said, horses. Okay. I was like, yes, horses. But, babe, I've ridden a horse probably seven times in my life. I would have no idea what I'm doing.

Jordan Austin (62:30)

I know you. You also said, do we have to take care of all these animals? And I said, kind of. But, like, there are people who help. Like, you lease out your land. That is for people.

Dani Austin (62:40)

Literally the bougiest thing you've ever said.

Jordan Austin (62:42)

No, no, you literally lease out your land for people who need to store their horses or.

Dani Austin (62:47)

So, like, I have, like, a ranch hand. I'm, like, my cowboy and I are going riding horses, and then we're gonna milk the cows.

Jordan Austin (62:55)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (62:55)

We're gonna pluck the chicken. What are you doing? What do you pluck? Chickens? That's only the best.

Jordan Austin (62:59)

The best. And the best and worst thing that Ballerina Farms did for the Internet is she inspired so many people to live the farm life uninspired. So many people. Because she made it seem like we have to be churning our own butter.

Dani Austin (63:14)

No. Let me tell you this. I gotta live 20 minutes from a mall.

Jordan Austin (63:17)

I know. That's why Nash feels perfect for us. Babe, we're gonna have, like. You can avoid this decision all you want, but in about three weeks, when you're feeling better, you're gonna Say we're gonna need to move. No, because, like, I'll move to a.

Dani Austin (63:32)

Different house because you're so. Here's our issue with our.

Jordan Austin (63:35)

What is keeping us in the city?

Dani Austin (63:38)

Babe, I have so many friends here.

Jordan Austin (63:40)

Okay, that's true.

Dani Austin (63:41)

I love my friends.

Jordan Austin (63:42)

That's true.

Dani Austin (63:43)

My family is here. Our church is here. All of, like, our doctors. Everything. Everything is here. Everything is comfortable. You're gonna flip our lives upside down when they're already gonna be flipped upside down with the third baby.

Jordan Austin (63:57)

Okay, then I'm getting a ranch. That's okay.

Dani Austin (64:02)

What are you gonna go do at your ranch? Ride eight?

Jordan Austin (64:04)

Like, me and Devin Miles. Yeah, Me, Devin Miles. We're gonna go see.

Dani Austin (64:09)

Why can't we get a lake house? Then we could all be happy.

Jordan Austin (64:12)

Because, babe, I need, like, a cow or something. I need a cow or a horse.

Dani Austin (64:17)

Or Guys, this is what I'm dealing with. Like, I don't know. Like, he. He's being so unrealistic. He's never had a cow before. He's never had chickens. He has no idea how much maintenance is. Babe, we can't even keep a plant alive.

Jordan Austin (64:29)

Babe, this is the. No. I need to train our children to till the land.

Dani Austin (64:34)

You're dreaming way too unrealistically. Like, it's frustrating because, like, two days ago, you brought up, like, a whole nother career idea. How are you gonna do that plus be a dad of three, plus own 15 acres of land and farm?

Jordan Austin (64:47)

So basically what you're saying is you don't support my dreams.

Dani Austin (64:49)

No, I. I support your realistic dreams. And I want to talk about things that actually make sense. Here's the thing. I will move to 15 acres of land when you decide that you're not going to work anymore because you're gonna have to work on the. On the land. Go. This is how it. Embarrassing. It is. Okay, Stella's crib, like, a panel broke off yesterday. When I tell you all that needs to be done is we need to screw a screw back in. Put the panel in with the two pegs, and then, you know, like, if you built anything from Ikea, like, you know what I mean? We hired a task rabbit to come out to screw one screw.

Jordan Austin (65:25)

No, stop it. This is a process issue. This is a process. This is.

Dani Austin (65:29)

What I'm talking about is that is. I didn't know, like, we have so many processes that there's no way we could move out to a farm. Like, because you would have to be more hands on with some. Otherwise you're going to waste so much Money, hiring people to do everything for you. And, like, you know how I feel about wasting money like that.

Jordan Austin (65:46)

No, that's what I want to do. I want to be hands on. Like, if my crop of corn dies, I need to learn so that next season my crop of corn survives.

Dani Austin (65:53)

What time, babe? With what time?

Jordan Austin (65:56)

All of it.

Dani Austin (65:57)

This is my issue with him. We just, like. We won't see eye to eye because it's just. You're. It sounds good in theory, but it's a lot of work.

Jordan Austin (66:07)

I just want to wake up to the sounds not of cars roaming the streets, but of birds chirping.

Dani Austin (66:11)

Okay, well, our sound machine has that setting.

Jordan Austin (66:17)

That's so funny.

Dani Austin (66:18)

It does.

Jordan Austin (66:19)

It does. Yeah, it does. You're right. I should do that.

Dani Austin (66:23)

That's all we need is a 15 sound machine.

Jordan Austin (66:27)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (66:27)

Or, you know what, babe? I have an idea. Father's Day is coming up. I'm gonna get you a bird. I want to see how you raise this bird and how you treat this bird. And if you are responsible, this bird, we can talk about a ranch. See what I mean? Because here's the thing that's gonna happen, like, everything, it gets old. You're gonna get a farm. You're gonna be raising your cat. You're like, this is so great. As you're milking the cow, and you're like, this is so great. We have fresh milk. You're like, we have fresh eggs. Well, three months later, you're gonna be over it. And you're like, I want to live in a high rise. I want to hear the beeps and the sounds of the city. I want to know that anything is going on at any time of the day. This is. This is Jordan. Pendulum swings back and forth, back and forth. At least I'm steady.

Jordan Austin (67:10)

Yeah. Okay, so you want to live in Dallas forever?

Dani Austin (67:13)

I'm not saying that. I just don't want to, like. I want to, like, focus on what we have in front of us, which I do think we need a bigger house. So let's actually get back to what we were talking about. So we have so outgrown this house. It's really funny because we, like, said whenever we bought this house, we're like, we'll live here for two years. It'll be four years in October. It's great. I'm, like, obsessed with this house. We've had so many good memories here. But we now will have to take Jordan's office, and that will be the nursery. So Jordan's going to be working at the kitchen table. This room that we're filming in used to be another office. It's turned into the podcast studio. And so another thing that I've always wanted that we've never had is a guest bedroom. And so this fall, like, before baby comes, I would like to start looking at houses in Dallas that have one extra bedroom.

Jordan Austin (68:08)

And ranches me in the middle. Shake on it.

Dani Austin (68:14)

No.

Jordan Austin (68:14)

Shake on it.

Dani Austin (68:15)

I can't even look at you right now. I can't even look at you.

Jordan Austin (68:19)

Okay, well, that'll be a fun process for us all.

Dani Austin (68:21)

Yeah.

Jordan Austin (68:22)

So very low stress. No conflict, no arguments. We'll be totally aligned on everything we want out of a house and where it'll be a great time. The hormones will play a strong role in keeping us together.

Dani Austin (68:37)

Can we talk about one other thing that's, like, not, like, a bummer? Because, like, obviously pregnancy is a miracle, and I'm so happy, but I'm gonna be so big. Atlanta Olivia's wedding, and I'm a bridesmaid, and, like, I'll be at the point in, like, pregnancy where, like, things are, like, actually big. Like, you know, like, there's a point when it's like, oh, she's cute. Like, he's pregnant. But, like, this is, like, when your nose starts to split and look like it's two noses in one, and it starts to, like, your voice starts to change. Like, it sounds like you're like an old man. You're like. Like, you know. And, like, you remember, like, my laug is whenever I. Do you remember, like, I got a really good voice with Stratton.

Jordan Austin (69:13)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (69:14)

Do you remember my voice was, like, really raspy and my. And, like, baby was, like, sitting on my diaphragm and, like, I was, like, a really good singer. I was.

Jordan Austin (69:24)

You were. It was incredible. It was like Celine Dion.

Dani Austin (69:28)

It was, like, low and, like, sexy.

Jordan Austin (69:30)

Yeah. Like Adele. That's. A lot of people said you sounded like Adele at that time.

Dani Austin (69:34)

I have gotten that before.

Jordan Austin (69:36)

Try and sing Rolling in the Deep one more time.

Dani Austin (69:39)

Just wait till I'm, like, six weeks, six months pregnant.

Jordan Austin (69:42)

Then I'll think that'll be the intro song.

Dani Austin (69:44)

Yeah. So that'll be cute. But I will say not to, like, sway Olivia one way or the other, but, like, she did. Oh, I can't actually say. Never mind. I was going to tell you the colors that she was going to choose between her bridesmaids, but I don't know if I'm supposed to, so I won't.

Jordan Austin (70:00)

Good job.

Dani Austin (70:00)

But one of them. Never mind.

Jordan Austin (70:02)

Good job. Don't do it, don't do it. No family conflict.

Dani Austin (70:05)

But one of them was more flattering than the other, is what I'm gonna say. And so she was gonna go with the more flattering one. And I was like, yes. So I think she will, but we'll see.

Jordan Austin (70:14)

Okay. Anyway, that was a fun pod.

Dani Austin (70:16)

You know? You know what I'm gonna say?

Jordan Austin (70:18)

Am I gonna say, I actually don't know.

Dani Austin (70:21)

I'm gonna say that today, after you listen to this and you don't put down your phone and you don't go open Tick Tock or Instagram and go follow us on D Influence Podcast.

Jordan Austin (70:34)

True. She's pregnant. Guys.

Dani Austin (70:35)

Like, I honestly feel bad for you. Support our queen because we share so many amazing, funny, hilarious things that will take your mood from a 2 to a 10 in instant seconds.

Jordan Austin (70:46)

Only thing we ask for is for you to hit that follow button on Tick Tock.

Dani Austin (70:49)

And if you want to like and comment and engage, that also would be.

Jordan Austin (70:52)

Really, you know, it's not for us. It's for my pregnant wife and our Gen Z podcast producer.

Dani Austin (70:56)

I'm going to take this a step further.

Jordan Austin (70:58)

Yeah.

Dani Austin (70:59)

Why don't you share one of our reels on your stories while you're at it?

Jordan Austin (71:01)

Slow down, slow down. Baby steps, babe. Chill out, chill out, chill.

Dani Austin (71:06)

Okay. Anyway, we love you guys. I'm so happy that we're finally able to share this really big, amazing secret with you guys. And I'll talk to you later. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.