The Internet Didn’t See This Coming (But We Did)

Summary

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Podcast Summary: De-Influenced with Dani + Jordan

Episode: The Internet Didn’t See This Coming (But We Did)
Date: January 8, 2026
Hosts: Dani & Jordan
Network: Dear Media

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Episode Overview

In this candid episode, Dani and Jordan navigate personal health hurdles, parenthood logistics, private school admissions, tech trends, and the latest internet-famous couple drama. With their signature unfiltered banter, they “de-influence” the idealizations around wellness, marriage, and social success, sprinkling in relatable confessions and sharp cultural observations. The hosts also revisit their spot-on prediction regarding the viral Alex Earle and Tom Brady headline, reflecting on what really plays out behind “internet wins.”

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Surviving Sickness and Parenthood

[00:15–11:18]

• Dani's Health Struggles: Dani is battling a persistent UTI late in pregnancy, sharing frustrations about antibiotics, new allergies after pregnancies, and relying on her Oura ring to track health.
• Pregnancy & UTIs: The couple demystifies why UTIs are common in late pregnancy (pressure on the bladder), and discuss the often-misleading symptoms that overlap with typical third-trimester woes.
• Medication & Misinformation: They muse on the recent “canceling” of Tylenol in the media but explain why they use it only sparingly, trusting both research and their OB’s advice.
• Family Logistics: Parenting doesn’t pause for illness—Jordan describes “divide and conquer” strategies for managing multiple kids and two school admissions visits while Dani is out of commission.

Quote:
"I have this UTI that will just not go away, and it is affecting every element of my health. ...My aura ring is like, ‘Yeah, something’s wrong with you.’"
— Dani [00:22]

Quote:
"You reduced your Tylenol intake based on the news?...Did your doctors—did the OB—like, change their tune at all on Tylenol?"
— Jordan [05:18]

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2. The Chaos of Private School Admissions

[11:18–19:42 | 21:26–33:53]

• Admission Observations: Jordan recounts recent private school parent interviews in Dallas, including stiffness among parents, performative value-sharing exercises, and the pressure to “say the right thing.”
• Mom vs. Dad Dynamics: Dani and Jordan note differences in their approaches to impressing faculty. Dani leans into casual relationship-building ("the Amazon cowboy boot lady”), while Jordan observes the scene more reservedly and jokes about not speaking up during group interviews.
• Authenticity vs. Performance: Both critique how the Dallas private school world rewards highly curated perfection, questioning how schools can discern genuine families amid uniform presentations.
• Minor Mishaps: The couple laughs about awkward moments—like a carpool-time child meltdown and appearing twice in the same outfit at two school sessions.

Quote:
“It was crazy. ...The Dallas private school scene is a lot of pressure. ...The tension these moms were feeling in this room was to say the right thing.”
— Jordan [11:40]

Quote:
"I start just talking to them. I'm like, Amazon, like, I'll send you the link. So, like, I'm building, like, a relationship with them that now they're going to remember me as the cowboy Amazon lady."
— Dani [16:17]

Quote:
"You had to answer whether you see the faces or the vases...and then...I was like, I see both. And they were like, 'You're super adaptable.’ And I was like, guess what? So are my children."
— Jordan [13:29]

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3. Tech, Productivity, and “Transhumanism Lite”

[34:08–38:53 | 39:11–41:44]

• Meta Glasses Review: After initially mocking the idea, both hosts are sold on the utility of Meta’s AR glasses for discreet audio editing and capturing candid family moments.
• Tech and Social Etiquette: They discuss how these gadgets are less “rude” than AirPods in social settings and more practical for safety when walking outdoors.
• Transhumanism Reflection: Jordan contemplates how technology is becoming "fused" with us—phones, glasses—and muses on the inevitability of more seamlessly integrated AI.

Quote:
"Meta was onto something by making this because they know that we're going to become more and more infused with technology."
— Jordan [40:11]

Quote:
"You can still, like, hear your surroundings enough to be safe...sometimes I feel like AirPod Pros blackout so much...people could bump into you and you don't hear it…"
— Dani [35:44]

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4. Marriage, Guilt, and “Being Sick Wrong”

[46:06–53:36]

• Emotional Labor: Dani gets honest about feeling guilty for not matching Jordan’s affection when she’s unwell and the pressure to “show up” even through illness.
• Communication Growth: Jordan explains how, after several pregnancies, he’s learned not to take Dani’s absence or irritability personally, instead giving her space and support.
• Cultural Takeaway: The conversation highlights “invisible” pressures many moms feel around productivity and self-sacrifice, even in supportive relationships.

Quote:
“I feel like you want me to be, like, happy in this version of myself that I don't feel like being right now. And then I feel guilty. I mostly feel guilty about you when I'm sick.”
— Dani [47:03]

Quote:
"First pregnancy, everything I took personally...now, I’m a veteran at this point now."
— Jordan [49:34]

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5. Calling the Alex Earle x Tom Brady Story

[53:41–64:47]

• Prediction Victory Lap: The hosts recall how they called Alex Earle’s headline-making split and her upgrade to a superstar athlete—nearly predicting Tom Brady specifically.
• PR Conspiracy Theories: Both speculate that Earle and Brady’s romance is likely a publicist-crafted move, especially given media context around Brady’s divorce and image.
• On Internet Narratives & Gender: They analyze how the internet frames “leveling up” in high-profile relationships, the “men can’t win” trope, and the ethics of leveraging breakups for fame.
• Tom Brady’s ‘Divorced Dad’ Era: The couple snarks on Brady’s “forever young” Instagram fits, his midlife clubbing, and the comedic mismatch between him and Earle; they agree the relationship feels more like PR spectacle than genuine love.
• Broader Implications: The conversation zooms out to reflect on how society glamorizes certain paths, often overlooking the less sensational but “good guy” stories.

Quote:
"What if this publicist got with Tom Brady’s publicist? ...They literally concoct this St. Barth’s back rub that actually was nothing but that put them back in the power seats."
— Jordan [57:32]

Quote:
"He’s almost 50 years old... If I was 25 and Tom Brady, I’d be like, I think this is a crisis that you’re having. Midlife crisis."
— Dani [58:26]

Quote:
"It’s a tale as old as time that nice guys finish last. Let’s say Braxton was the nice guy—he’s finishing on the downside..."
— Jordan [64:12]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Dani on pregnancy symptoms:
  "They're so sneaky because the symptoms are kind of common to just third trimester symptoms, like cramping, contractions, pain in your lower back, feeling fatigued..." [02:36]

• Jordan lampooning the 'value-share' interviews:
  "All the moms would say...I have this really great example of how earlier today my son spilled the ketchup...telling stories that for sure never happened about their children." [24:52]

• Jordan on being remembered at school visits:
  “I think I came across as this, like, super authentic, genuine dad whose son loves him because he has attachment issues...who’s in athleisure.” [26:05]

• On tech and the future:
  “Technology is literally just going to become a part of us ... it’s so normalized for me now to go on a walk with these glasses on and be listening to a podcast ... meta was onto something by making this...” [40:11]

• On the internet’s pro-female bias:
  “The internet is so pro female that, like, you just can’t win as a man.” [64:20]

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Important Segment Timestamps

• [00:22] Dani on her UTI & post-pregnancy allergies
• [11:40] Jordan paints the priv school pressure-cooker
• [13:29] The “faces or vases”—admissions group exercise
• [19:05] Parenting: which environment each host thrives in
• [34:08] Tech talk: meta glasses, etiquette, and future
• [47:03] Dani expresses guilt over sickness and marriage dynamics
• [53:41] Revisiting the Alex Earle & Tom Brady saga
• [57:32] The publicist conspiracy theory (Alex + Tom)
• [64:12] Internet narratives, 'nice guys' vs. PR power moves

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Tone and Style

The conversation is witty, self-deprecating, and breezy, mixing in cultural analysis, marriage confessions, and pop culture gossip with equal weight. Dani & Jordan’s easy rapport makes even stressful or silly moments feel relatable, and their refusal to “influence” to unattainable standards is the throughline tying together this episode’s seemingly disparate threads.

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For listeners: This episode is a window into how a modern, internet-savvy couple navigate health, family, ambition, and viral culture—rarely with grace, always with honesty, and often, unpredictably, ahead of the internet’s curve.

Transcript

[A]

Foreign. The following podcast is a Dear Media production, hello, and welcome back to your favorite podcast, D Employed.

[B]

We almost didn't make it back we almost didn't make it back for the. The podcast because she's sick.

[A]

I'm struggling, y'.

[B]

All.

[A]

I have this UTI that will just not go away, and it is affecting every element of my health. I, I. My. My aura ring is like, yeah, something's wrong with you. My aura rings like, your resting heart rate is, like, 10 beats, like, higher than average. It's like, you really need to, like, stop being so stressed out. And so. And I'm like, I'm not stressed. I just don't feel good. Also, I forgot. I think the antibiotic they're giving me is making me itchy again. Oh, no. I know, man. So annoying. I'm, like, allergic to penicillin. Oh. I became allergic to all these things after my pregnancies.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I was never allergic to anything.

[B]

Well, good news is, you waited seven months to get into the best allergist.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

In. In Dallas, like, immunology and allergist.

[A]

So I, in March, before I was pregnant, made this appointment to get into this immune specialist, essentially. And he also does allergies. And I called in March, and they're like, yeah, his Next available is December 31st. So I waited almost, like, yeah, I think seven months to get into this guy. And the thing is, is, like, when I called, I wasn't even pregnant when I made the appointment. So then we go in, and I'm like, hey, listen, I'm just here to get into your system, but I'm pregnant, and I know you can't do anything for me. I was like, here's my issues in the past. And he was like, all right, come back in June.

[B]

You also were getting sick a lot more before you made the appointment. So when we went in, you were.

[A]

I had been clear for five.

[B]

You've been clear. But then it's so funny, because then we get the appointment. You're like, yeah, I don't really have anything to talk about. I'll see you in June. And then you get a uti.

[A]

Yeah, but he can't really do anything about that. Immunology is, like. It's, like, more about, like, your immune system.

[B]

How do you think you got the. The uti? I know you get it from sex, but.

[A]

Yeah. So they're very common in pregnancy because what happens is the baby starts pushing on your bladder. So when you empty your bladder, you're not entering the whole thing because you don't feel it, essentially, or it's just like, you have to pee so much. And so if you leave, like, any urine in your bladder, it can get infected.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

So that's why a lot of pregnant women get them, like, often, especially towards the end, because your baby's so big and it just, like, sits on your bladder and it's like you can, like, you literally cannot get it all out. Like, you have to sit there and, like, like breathe and just, like, try, but sometimes you just can't. And so that's why a lot of women in their third trimester start to get UTIs, but they're so sneaky because the symptoms are kind of common to just third trimester symptoms, like cramping, contractions, pain in your lower back, feeling fatigued, and like, all these things which, you know, when you're not pregnant, it's like, whoa, what's going on? But a lot of people have, like, they. It, like, burns when they pee or like. And I didn't have any of that. Like, I didn't have any of those symptoms where that were, like, super obvious. Except for my. Sorry, tmi, but my PETE was kind of cloudy at first, and I was.

[B]

Like, okay, that's like, cloudy, like, gray.

[A]

No, no, no.

[B]

Just like, it's like, like dense.

[A]

No, not the texture.

[B]

Like, no, no, no, no, no. I know, but, like, I'm trying to like, what is cloudy peak?

[A]

So there's like, clear pee. That's like pe trans. And then maybe cloudy pea would look like there's like a little, like, splash of milk in mixed with it. Interesting, you know, huh? Like, it's just, like, not translucent.

[B]

That's confusing.

[A]

It still is, but it's just, like, not as translucent.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So, yeah, maybe like, dusty looking. I don't know.

[B]

I don't know. I take some supplements and it makes my pee, like, neon. That's always weird. Yeah, that really scared me the first time.

[A]

That just means you're peeing out the extra vitamins.

[B]

Yeah. Or most of them.

[A]

Most of them, yeah. It's like, who knows?

[B]

Kind of. Supplements are kind of weird.

[A]

Yeah. So then I've, like, not been feeling good. And of course the only thing that helps is Tylenol. I know, but I'm just trying to get through this thing. And so then it's like, sorry, where.

[B]

Are we at on Tylenol? That was. That was like, two months ago. So are we back on Tylenol or are we out on Tylenol?

[A]

I was never out on Tylenol completely. Like, I'm not gonna, like, but suffer. But I'm not going to take it every day.

[B]

Well, I'm trying to think of what politically happened to Tylenol. It was, like.

[A]

It was, like, kind of cancelled.

[B]

But, like, it was cancelled, but then people on the left were like, I'm going to take it. And then they were taking too much.

[A]

Yeah. And then they were, like, dying, like, because.

[B]

Right, so we're back to moderate amounts of Tylenol.

[A]

No, I think I've always been the same where I was like, oh, if there is some type of causation or if it really does cause these things, like, I want to avoid it, you know, like, so I'll only take it when I really, really need it, which is maybe like once a month. Yeah, maybe not even.

[B]

So you reduced your Tylenol intake based on the news?

[A]

Yeah, I used to take it, like, every day when I was.

[B]

Did your doctors. Did the ob, like, change their tune at all on Tylenol?

[A]

No, my OB was like, you can totally take it.

[B]

But, you know, like, she's standing up to the man.

[A]

Yeah, but my. My. My ob, like, that practice is very, like. Like, they have pictures of.

[B]

Not important. Okay.

[A]

It's just. They're just, like, very progressive.

[B]

Yeah. And so countercultural.

[A]

Counterculture, or.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Or maybe cultural, actually.

[B]

Yeah. Depending on your lens. Yeah.

[A]

They're just not very traditional. Yeah. No, that's not true. I don't know. So anyway, so I kind of, like, I listen to them, but I also am like, okay, I'm gonna do what I feel like is best, which is, like, take Tylenol. When I'm dying of uti, you know, it's like, for two days of the month, I think I'll be okay. That's just how I feel about these things. But, yeah, I'm also. So then I'm like, last night. Oh, I've also been chugging. Oh. Just so you see. Kind of throw, like, thinking about it, the 100% cranberry juice, like, the concentrate one. Like, it is. Y'.

[B]

All.

[A]

It is so sour. You have to dilute it with water. And I have just been chugging that stuff. And then I woke up this morning with a little stuffy nose. I have really bad dry mouth, and I'm having a hard time talking right now. I'm, like, really out of breath.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

My aura ring is probably like, you need to calm down the. And I'm so hungry right now. Oh, wait, my doctor just. Danny, usually with kidney infection, you will have fever. I hate when people start a Text with your name. It feels sounds so, like, demeaning.

[B]

Well, she's probably voice noting it.

[A]

I know, but just like, would you remember when you used it when we used to fight? You'd be like, danny. And I'd be like, why are you talking to me like I'm a child?

[B]

Yeah, you used to really get that.

[A]

I realized, Danny, I'm like, stop it. You're not my mother.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, I remember those fights. I don't say your name anymore.

[A]

Yeah, because I really didn't like that. Like, if somebody started to text with, like, Jordan. Usually with the UTI infection when we.

[B]

Fight, I. I've learned I just really say less. Just in general, you know?

[A]

Okay, we'll talk about this. Danny, usually with kidney infection, you will have fever, upper back pain on one side or the other. Did you finish the Bactrom course? Also, only way to evaluate for kidney infection is to go into labor and delivery for evaluation. Are you in town so you can go in also considering kidney stones if pain is bad? No, I don't have, like, that type of pain. I've had that type of pain before.

[B]

Do you think you're going to go into labor?

[A]

No.

[B]

No. You sure? No, I think this morning when you texted me, you were like, it could be.

[A]

No, no, I wasn't saying I was going to go into labor. I was saying that I want to make sure it's not a kidney infection so I don't go into labor.

[B]

Yeah, we are not ready for labor. We got to get bunk beds.

[A]

Yeah, we don't have a. Yeah, we don't really.

[B]

The good news is about this bunk bed situation. Did you know that when I woke up this morning, both Stella and Stratton were downstairs? And I walked out and I said, how did Stratton get out of his bed? Oh, and Stella said, I pulled him out.

[A]

Oh, we should pull it up on the camera.

[B]

Yeah, they were just playing. It was so.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

Like, Stratton acted like he was at Disneyland. He was like, whoa, the house exists at this time of the morning. Like, he did. He just was. He was lost. The only last thing I will say about this UTI conversation is I learned when I was trying to call in for your prescription, because a lot of the times I just don't want to bother you. So, like, I'll just act like you. I'll say, like, I'm Keely Austin and say your date of birthday. And she was so confused, and I was like, I do this all the time. I don't understand. And it's because males can't get UTIs.

[A]

Well, actually, I'm sorry, that might not.

[B]

Be true, but I don't think that's true.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Because.

[A]

But the thing is you're like, hi, my name is Keely Austin. I'm calling in about a UTI. I'm 32 weeks pregnant. And she's like, sir, yeah, we don't see you in the system.

[B]

And I'm like, how dare you?

[A]

You're like, yeah.

[B]

I'm like, I feel like I am being attacked and discriminated against right now. And how dare you? I'm a pregnant person.

[A]

Oh my gosh. Stop.

[B]

Can males get UTIs? Yeah, babe.

[A]

Okay, I'm sorry. Males can. It just the, it was the context because we were like talking like you were like 32 weeks pregnant, like Uti.

[B]

Yeah. She kept being like, so this is for you? And I was like, yes, yes.

[A]

She was like, just confirming this is for you. Yes, it's for me, Keely Austin. And I'm like sitting right there like, like, give me the phone. So.

[B]

But yeah, we're praying for you. We're praying for a. A good recovery.

[A]

I've been. I just think I. I need a good night, baby.

[B]

Yeah, you need a good night. Night. You don't like being sick. It's not the physical side, it's the mental side for you.

[A]

Yeah. I just feel like such a piece of crap.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yesterday I walked 12,000 steps.

[B]

Good.

[A]

Even though I had a UTI and I was so sick, I was like, I just have to do something.

[B]

I don't know if it's because our life with this many kids just never has as much margin, but if there was any day for you to go down with a uti, I would say that yesterday was one of the more inconvenient days for it to happen.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because we had two school observations for private schools for selling Stratton and Summits ear tube, which I was going to take him to. And yeah, we had a great divide and conquer plan. And then, I mean I was going from like 5:30 to. To 8. It was a lot.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And the problem with these observations, they're no problem.

[A]

But you have to be present.

[B]

You have to be present. And they do the same thing each time. Right. So it's like, like they bring all the parents together and the parents share their values. So I, I did that twice.

[A]

What were your values? Like, what was everyone's values?

[B]

Well, it's.

[A]

What are families into these days?

[B]

It's so funny because, you know, the, the The Dallas private school scene is a lot of pressure. So the. The tension these moms were feeling in.

[A]

This room was to say the right thing.

[B]

Yeah, it. It was crazy. Like, they. They were dressed to the nines.

[A]

Were they.

[B]

A lot of them were on their third, second or third round trying to apply to these schools.

[A]

Oh, I believe that.

[B]

And so the.

[A]

The moms that were there, any of their dads.

[B]

Oh, all dads. Yeah.

[A]

No way.

[B]

All dads and moms. That's another thing that was funny.

[A]

Wait, that's so funny because I took Stella to one and Stratton to one on Monday. No dads.

[B]

Yeah. This was both couples, like, moms and dads both there. So, like, I would, you know, I was just there. It's not no big deal. And. And so. But yes, the. The moms that were on their second round of applications. Oh, my gosh, I felt so bad for them.

[A]

Why? They're, like, so stressed.

[B]

They're so stressed. And then when you're doing, like, this group thing, because they. So what happens is they. They take your kids to go basically, like, in a mock classroom to see how they behave. And then they brought all the parents into a round circle of chairs, and you kind of do this exercise where you go over your values. And all the. All the staff at this school are like, listen, we're not filming this. We're not recording this. But these parents are like. They.

[A]

Tell me what they said. I'm so curious.

[B]

It's hard to explain unless you were there, but it would be like.

[A]

Well, just.

[B]

Yeah, it was like a list of values and everyone.

[A]

Oh, so it was a list.

[B]

Yeah, they gave us a piece of paper.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

And it was one of those, like, do you see the vase or do you see the faces? That type of thing.

[A]

Oh, no.

[B]

You first had to answer whether you see the face or the vases, which was, no, no big deal.

[A]

What does it mean?

[B]

No one knows. So everyone was, like, on edge, being like, should I see the faces? Should I see the bases? Like, what do I see? And then there were some people, and this was genuinely me, where I was like, I see both. And they were like, you're super adaptable. And I was like, guess what? So are my children.

[A]

You know, the face base. I see both, too.

[B]

I see both. But it was shocking how many people couldn't see both. Like, they were just like. Like, really, they don't belong there. So. So then they had a list of values, and they were like, you know, at this school, we're very big on values.

[A]

And.

[B]

And so, like, we would love to understand some of Yalls values. And again, they. They clarify. This is not recorded. You know, this is not going.

[A]

This is so much more application than the one I went to.

[B]

You're in a round circle with all these parents, okay? And there's probably like 30 parents per each group. So the list of values they gave you on the backside of this page, there were like a hundred to choose from. So you have to circle six or so to go through. So what happens is, you know, they're like, okay, there's no formula to this. Let's just. Popcorn. Who wants to start?

[A]

Popcorn's the worst.

[B]

So then you get the mom who starts, right? And that mom is like the overachiever. She's like. She kind of sets the tone right Now. I did this twice yesterday, so once at 9am and then once at like 1.

[A]

You probably perfected the second time.

[B]

No, I didn't speak the first time.

[A]

What?

[B]

I didn't speak. I just want you to know that.

[A]

Why did you not speak?

[B]

It was optional and I just didn't feel like speaking.

[A]

Jordan, that's not okay. We're trying to get our kids into this school.

[B]

She clarified. It wasn't recorded and it wasn't on camera.

[A]

What does that have to do with anything? Well, she's probably in admissions.

[B]

I was very. I was active listening.

[A]

Yeah, but you were. But the whole point is you're trying to get the admissions team to get to know you.

[B]

Danny, listen. Sorry. Said your name. So listen, I'm telling you that there is no way other than them listening this podcast, which is probably unlikely. There is no way they will know if I spoke in that room or not.

[A]

But the admissions person, you have to get to know.

[B]

Unless they were lying and they actually recorded.

[A]

Was it.

[B]

But I did. I want you to know. I walked in and I looked. And I want you to know this too. Just to be honest. They said they weren't recording and that there were no cameras. But there were cameras everywhere. I just wanted to.

[A]

Security, first of all. And I don't think they're recording, nor do I think they're going to go back and watch the footage for admissions. That's not what it's about. It's about getting to know the admissions team.

[B]

Oh, no, I did.

[A]

That was the admission. Was the lady leading it from admissions team.

[B]

They were all in faculty.

[A]

Yeah, but were they part of the admissions team?

[B]

I don't know. They didn't clarify.

[A]

Okay, do you not like, I feel like you don't Know how to, like, work around Danny. I like, work the system.

[B]

I worked the system hard. Trust.

[A]

Like, there are like four or five people that are on the admissions that you need to get to know.

[B]

I did. And I said, hey, you know, I did, I did.

[A]

Okay. I'm just saying sometimes it's not a. It's not about that. It's just like, it's just a. A relationship. So for example, when I went into this other school, there was probably. I stayed in like, the pre K area, so there were probably like 15 to 23 or 4 year olds. Okay. And they all. So we have to like. They had green, yellow, red, blue. So we all went to, like, our perspective groups and all the moms, we started talking. I got like, a lot. The moms were so amazing. I had so much fun. Stratton was being really shy, so he wasn't really playing with any other boys, but he was playing with toys and, like, acting totally normal. So I was like, he had the cutest cowboy boots on from Amazon. So, like, everybody in the room was talking about it. Okay. And so everybody's like, oh, my gosh, she's so cute. And all the ladies from Mission are coming. Oh, my gosh, she's so cute. So I start just talking to them. I'm like, Amazon, like, I'll send you the link. So, like, I'm building, like, a relationship with them that now they're going to remember me as the cowboy Amazon lady. So then Stratton goes. So they all go away. They teachers come and grab them. Stratton is the only child out of like, 20 kids that throws the biggest tantrum. Screams, cried, no, Mommy, no. Please, please, mommy, no. Please, no, mommy, no. And the teacher has to, like, literally pry him off of me. And I'm just like, oh, my gosh. So all of the faculty and the admissions people, afterwards. Not afterwards, like immediately or after that, they come up to me and they start, like, consoling me and they're like.

[B]

They do that to me.

[A]

I'm so sorry. Like, it's okay. It's okay.

[B]

Do you know what I said?

[A]

What?

[B]

I said it. It's really hard that I'm such a good dad.

[A]

Please tell me you didn't say that.

[B]

I did say that. And they left.

[A]

We're screwed. And so then afterwards, I. I took that opportunity to go up to each one of them and be like, hey, I'm sorry. He's like, you know, he has his. His. He's 16 months apart from his sister. And then we just started the Conversation. And we got to know each other. That's, like, really what those things are really all about.

[B]

Yeah, I. I think we. I understand. I hear you. I think that you. You won at that school because that school is. You're pregnant.

[A]

Oh. Oh, yeah. Not because I'm actually good at this.

[B]

No, no, you're good at it. But, like, you're also pregnant.

[A]

No, this school also, like, was really sweet. It's a sweet school.

[B]

I find that because I was solo. I think it worked in our favor.

[A]

Jordan does better in, like, prestigious, nice environments, and I do better with normal people.

[B]

I would say that this environment was prestigious.

[A]

That's what I'm saying.

[B]

Oh, yes.

[A]

I think I. Jordan does better when it comes to, like. Like, talking to politicians or, like.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

Celebrities or people that are really smart, and I'm just better at being normal.

[B]

I don't think that's true for either of us, but.

[A]

No, it is.

[B]

Okay, fine. Whatever. But what was I saying? Okay, so, yes, I didn't speak, and I think it was okay. But I want to tell you about how this, like, room went. Cause it's really cool.

[A]

Yeah. And then tell us what everybody said. Okay. I am officially in full nesting mode right now. Like, cleaning out drawers I haven't opened in years, reorganizing every room, and convincing myself that this is the moment my house is finally going to feel under control, before baby number four arrives. And honestly, the fastest way for me to feel calmer and more prepared is when my space is organized. If you want to start the year off right, especially if you're in a season of resetting or nesting, get to the Container Store. They truly make organizing feel doable instead of intimidating. Whether it's your pantry, fridge, closets, office, or even your garage, they have solutions that actually make everyday life easier. I love that they don't sell just bins. They help you figure out what works for your life. And if you don't even know where to start, their experts are so helpful at walking you through it. We've used the Container Store's custom ELFA system in our garage, and it completely changed how we use that space. Everything has a place we can actually find things, and it just works. We also have organizers throughout the house that make a huge difference, especially in the pantry and fridge, when you can see what you have. Eating healthier and staying organized suddenly feels realistic. Another thing I love is that they offer custom design services for closets, pantries, offices, even garages. And those design services are free. We have one of those in our closet too. It's such a game changer if you want something tailored to your space without feeling overwhelmed. Plus the quality is so good and they have options at all different price points, which I really appreciate this year. Instead of setting resolutions you can't keep, find real solutions that actually support your life. That's what the Container Store does best. Visit containerstore.com and use code DANI at checkout for a discount on your purchase. That's containerstore.com use code DANI for a special discount.

[B]

Okay, so everyone's talking about New Year's resolutions right now, gym goals, productivity hacks, all of that. But honestly, the thing I keep coming back to as a parent is my kids health. Because our kids are growing up surrounded by ultra processed food and that honestly stresses me out more than I'd like to admit. So instead of trying to overhaul everything at once, I've been focusing on small changes that actually stick. And that's where Haya has been such a win for us. That's really why Haya exists. They looked at the kids vitamin aisle and said why does this all look like candy? Some children's vitamins have up to 7 grams of sugar and artificial dyes and Haya went the complete opposite direction. Zero sugar, no gummy junk, just clean nutrition and somehow kids still love them. The taste, the routine, the whole experience. What really impressed me is how thoughtful it is. Haya was created with pediatricians and nutrition scientists to help fill the nutritional gaps kids actually have. Each chewable packs 12 organic fruits and vegetables and 15 essential vitamins and minerals. Things like vitamin D, B12C, zinc, folate, all the foundational stuff that supports growth, energy and development. And the ingredient list is super clean, non gmo, vegan, dairy free, allergy free. They even do third party testing for heavy metals and contaminants which gives me so much peace of mind. My kids love taking their Hya vitamins. They also love decorating the reusable bottle with the stickers that come in their first order. You get the bottle once and then they send eco friendly refills every month. Which is one less thing to think about if getting your kids to eat vegetables feels like a daily battle. Haya's new Kids Daily Greens plus Superfoods is a total game changer. It's basically chocolate milk stuffed with veggies. It's greens powered with 55 plus whole food sourced ingredients. Just mix one scoop with milk or a non dairy option and they actually drink it. Right now our audience can receive 50% of your first order go to hyahealth.com dannyaustin this deal is not available on their regular website. Go to H I y dash A H E A L T h dot com dannyaustin and get your kids the full body nourishment they need to into healthy adults. So 100 list of characteristics. And I just am watching. We're all, we all have our pencils and I circle like ones that are like true to us. But I could see these moms, like looking around and they're like, I wonder what she's putting. I wonder what she's putting like. And you could just tell they were like driving themselves mad. Like, I want to choose the values that most align with this school. What are the school's values like?

[A]

I think they just want you to be yourself.

[B]

I know. That's why I feel like I stand.

[A]

Up for what you like and what you want and to not be what everybody else.

[B]

So I can't obviously remember verbatim like what some of the moms would say, but it would be like, Susie, not a real person. Susie started and she's with her husband and she's like, hi, I'm Susie. This is my husband Dave. I want to talk about what I circled, which is just honesty. You know, honesty's so important to me. I have this really great example of how earlier today my son spilled the ketchup and he said, no, I didn't spill the ketchup. And I just, I approached it like telling these stories that for sure never happened about their children.

[A]

But they're able to show how good.

[B]

Of parents they are, how good of parents they are, how that's good.

[A]

That's a good interview tactic, how great.

[B]

They are rearing their children and how their children embody like honesty on a day to day basis. So the moms that I loved were the ones that were like, you know, I circled patients because, you know, today I had to ask my kid for a do over and I'm learning patience myself. Don't our kids teach us so much? So many great things. I'm trying to implement patients and I feel like the administration really appreciated that a lot more. But Dallas is so. It's just such a funny place because everyone's decked to the nines. The kids are decked in the nines. And like every. Trying to present this like perfect image. And I look like pretty much a single dad. I. I had to come. This was another thing I. Do you know what I was wearing yesterday?

[A]

The vest.

[B]

I. I was wearing athleisure because I had to Go straight. I didn't know I was gonna have to do this. I had to go straight from the surgery to the appointment. I was like, did you tell people that?

[A]

Just curious.

[B]

No. How am I going to fit that in? No one was like, why are you not dressed up?

[A]

Yeah, but they probably like that about you, too.

[B]

That's what I'm saying. I think everything worked in my favor. Like, I think I came across as this, like, super authentic, genuine dad whose son loves him because he has attachment issues. Who's in athleisure.

[A]

He does. He's not trying too hard.

[B]

He's not trying too hard. And poor sweet thing. I wonder if he's a widow.

[A]

Oh, my gosh, Jordan.

[B]

No, truly.

[A]

Did you tell them that I was pregnant at home, sick?

[B]

Yeah, I did. On the second time. Because the second time they made you talk. And so I was like, hey, like, I'm here. My wife was supposed to be here with me, but she's. I didn't say you had a uti. That felt like tmi. Yeah, yeah, but. And then I even made a joke. I was like, yeah, you know, we had. We have three. Our youngest is 11 months. And then, oops, we have a fourth. And they were all like, oh, my God. So, I mean, point being, I feel like we would be a great fit.

[A]

Yeah. I think that they really just want people that are confident in themselves, confident in their values. Their values can be all over the place, but they probably just don't want you to, like, try to be something that you're not. That's, like, what probably gives them the ick.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's unlike all these parents are trying to be so perfect and, like, you know, and they're probably just like, no.

[B]

Yeah. It's like. And again, this never happened. But it's like there was, like, one of the.

[A]

The.

[B]

The sessions of being. Being led by the music teacher, and the music teacher is, like, talking about, like, their program and stuff. And then one mom, like, chimes in, and she would be like. She'd be like, you know, we've been really trying to focus on, like, the ukulele this year with my 2 year old. And, you know, we're really starting to see promise. We just really want him to be ready for the program when he comes. Comes in and we apply. And it's like. But it's cool. It. This. The psychosis that happens within this private school scene in Dallas is just bizar land.

[A]

I know. But I really do appreciate how much they care about each child. And, like, I genuinely Think that if you're yourself too, then honestly, if you're not a good fit, then you don't want to be there anyway. You know?

[B]

I don't know, though. Here's. Here's where we might be putting our foot in our mouth a little bit, is I think that a lot of the people who are on their second or third round of applications, I think the first time they showed up in Athleisure and tried to be themselves.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

And then they got denied. And so maybe they took a different strategy. So the jury's out whether our strategy is right or not.

[A]

Dallas does kind of like when you try hard. Like, they. Like, they.

[B]

But here's my thinking. So listen, listen. And I'm not trying to stereotype. We live in Dallas. You know, I'm sure people look at us and they're like. They're so Dallas. Like. But here's my confusion is we are sitting in a circle of 30 people, and because everyone is trying to be so perfect, and it's pretty dang good at it. I don't know how these schools make a selection.

[A]

I know.

[B]

I genuinely don't. I'm like, what is different about any of these people? They are all kind of the same.

[A]

It's all about relationships.

[B]

I don't know, though. Yeah, it's confusing.

[A]

It's got to be what it is.

[B]

There was.

[A]

I'm gonna be honest, maybe they also.

[B]

Like, maybe there was an immigrant family in there. They're Mexicans, and they were, like, talking about, like, where they came from, and they. I loved them so much because they were like, yeah, we came from, like, really hard working families. Like, we're just trying to do, like, the best for our kids. And I was like, they can take my spot. Like, they can be the Ramirez in this group. I will give my. Like, it was just. It was cool to see that because.

[A]

You know that they're going to bring something so different to the table because they've had to establish. And I think that's what they want to hear from these families is, like, what is unique and special about you? Like, what do you. What do you bring to the table? And you don't have to bring exactly what everybody else brings, but, like, what makes you, your family, special to our school because, like, they. You. It's. It's a huge, like, relationship between the faculty and the parents. And they want parents that are going to pour into their school as well.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

It's not just all about the kids. Like, you know, and so, like, having people or a Couple or family around like that. Like, that's such a cool story. They probably have talents and gifts that, like, no other family has.

[B]

Yeah. The point is, just be yourself. Everyone should just be themselves. I do want to tell you one other thing that could have dinged us on this whole process. This is a funny story.

[A]

So were you late?

[B]

No, I wasn't late. Babe, come on. Okay.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I put the team on my back yesterday.

[A]

I was just asking.

[B]

Okay. I. So I have Summit with me, who had just gotten the surgery, and he was fine. Like, Summit, The. The doctors were like. It's like he didn't even have anything done, so he was fine. But you know when you get the tubes in your ear, you have some blood coming out, right? So I pull. I pull in, and Brenda has to meet me. Cause you're sick. So Brenda has to meet me, and we basically are like, swapping kids. Cause so I take Strad, and then she's gonna hop in the car with Stella and Summit. So the night prior to all this, as you remember, I shouldn't have said this, but I was like, oh, someone's getting a small surgery tomorrow. And Stella climbs into your bed, and she's freaking out over Summit getting a surgery. She's, like, screaming, crying. She, like.

[A]

She's like, mommy, don't do. Why are you doing this to him? Why are you doing this?

[B]

Yeah. And so. So she's really concerned about Summit the night prior. Well, so we both pull into the parking lot, and all these, like, staff members are, like, directing traffic. And I just want to paint you a picture of what happened. So Brenda and I, like, it's a really full parking lot, so all these parents are walking in. And so it's kind of a weird thing that we're doing, like, her pulling up, me trying to save a spot, and, like, switching cars at the exact moment this. All. All of this happened. The staff members are like, okay, take a break here. They're, like, watching, standing to the side of the car while we do this swaparoo. Our two friends from the lake walk up, and they're like, jordan, what's up? You're doing this school, too? And I'm like, yeah. And at the same time, I open the door, and Stella climbs up and looks at Summit, who's has blood coming out of his ears. And she starts freaking out hysterically. What did you do to Summit? What did you do to Summit? There's blood. There's blood. So the staff member. So our two friends from the lake. I'm like, he just Got tubes in his ear. Sorry. We're really chaotic. We're swapping things. The staff members are like, like, so confused, like, what's going on? But kind of just, like, write it off. And I have to, like, literally be like, stella, it is fine. It is fine. And we have, like, 30 seconds where I have to calm her down, put her in the car, and then grab Stratton.

[A]

So it was a bad day to be sick.

[B]

The first session could have been better, but by the second session, when I.

[A]

Took Stella, was it the same faculty, same people?

[B]

Yeah, yeah. They remember me. They were like, hey, dad, again. I was like, I'm back.

[A]

Were you wearing the same thing?

[B]

Yes, wearing the same thing. I. Even so. And they even gave the same speech. And again, I don't know if I'm just being myself. They gave the same speech, and the. The main speaker on staff there saw me, and she was like, is it like Groundhog Day? And I was like, no, I love it here. I can't wait to come to school here. And she laughed, and then she gave the same exact speech with the same exact jokes. And when I was walking by her to, like, go to the Circle session, I go. I go, you did better the second time she laughed. So, I mean, you know, we just make the most of it. You think. You think in those environments that I'm. I'm joking too much? I think it's like, they'll remember me.

[A]

Okay. I don't think you're joking too much.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

You're fine.

[B]

You say that in our board meeting sometimes, too.

[A]

I do?

[B]

Yeah. You're like, you're joking too much. And I'm like, but it's funny. It's all fun, babe.

[A]

I don't remember saying that at all.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[A]

Okay. I don't really care. I mean, we own the company. You can joke as much as you want.

[B]

I know.

[A]

You're right.

[B]

That's true. I'm wearing these meta glasses, and I. You know, I know I'm talking a lot, but I do want to admit something.

[A]

You look like squints.

[B]

No, that's not what I was talking about. I.

[A]

You don't like them?

[B]

No, I actually, I think on one of the podcasts, I kind of railed on these because I was like, who would use those? And why? Yeah, because then it didn't make sense.

[A]

But then Landon had a pair at my cousin's wedding, and so then I bought a pair of the sunglasses, and I was like, wait, I kind of love these. Because the best part about them is you can discreetly edit video and, like, nobody knows that you're editing because there's so many times, like, you put your AirPods in, it's, like, kind of rude.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

But this, I'm like, I can just, like, discreetly edit. And then also, it's the best for capturing, like, really raw moments of your kids because you just click a button to take a picture. And, like, me and Cilla were on this walk with, like, beautiful red, like, leaves falling down. And, you know, and so I just, like, she ran ahead of me and I just took a picture and it's like, good picture and, like, good video.

[B]

Yeah. I. I originally was like, who's going to buy these? This is like one of those, like, super tech bubble things that they think everyone wants this and no one wants it. The speakers are the most incredible part of it because I now can go on walks and not have to put my headphones in. So I love my app, AirPod Pros. That's probably, like, my next favorite thing.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But there's a lot of times where it's, like, kind of rude if I have AirPods.

[A]

It's kind of rude. Yeah.

[B]

Now, this is just such a game changer for me.

[A]

And I feel like you can still, like, hear your surroundings enough to be safe, because sometimes I feel like the AirPod Pros, like, blackout so much that I get worried about, like, when you're walking on the street or, like, you know, all those things, people could, like, bump into you and you don't hear it, right.

[B]

No. So I. And I don't have the one with, like, the augmented reality, because those are, like. Are they hard to find right now?

[A]

Well, for Christmas, me and Olivia went everywhere in Dallas trying to get land in a pair because that's what he wanted. And they were so, like, there. They said that there were only, like, three sent to Dallas total. Like, all of the.

[B]

Can you not order them online?

[A]

Not at the time. You couldn't.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

Or maybe you could, but they wouldn't get there by Christmas. Maybe that was the issue. I'm not really sure.

[B]

But I think I'm going to order.

[A]

Them because I wanted to ask you, like, because I told you my biggest regret. Not regret, but, like, I wish I would have gotten the ones that weren't sunglasses. Because what I realized is, typically when you're using sunglasses, you're in an environment where you're by yourself anyway. So, like, on a walk, you know, like, you're going from one place to the next. So, like, it's really not that rude to be, like, to have AirPods in. In those moments. What I want is the clear glasses, where it's, like, super discreet. Like, we can wear them inside and be editing like, whenever you're, like, you know, around people that you could also be talking to. So I got you the clear ones.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Do you like the clear? Would you want the clear or the sunglasses? I'm just telling you, like, the sunglasses you don't use as much. I know you would only use them when you're on a walk. And when you're on a walk, like, you technically don't have, you're not, like, really concerned about all the social norms.

[B]

So I'm gonna change my tune on something else. And I've stood by this for years. Do you know the most boomer thing to me ever is when dads get those glasses that are, like, glasses inside, and then when you walk outside, they immediately tent so you don't have to, like, switch between. I have always thought that that is the most cringe thing in the world. And I was like, I will never, ever get those. Because when you walk inside, typically your glasses are still tinted. And it's like, bro, come on. It's like, the most.

[A]

Like, I don't think I'd recognize that.

[B]

To me, it's like, you've given up if you get those glasses. And I know I have a strong opinion about this, but I've stood by it for years. I need to reverse my course. And I don't know if this is.

[A]

Me changing or just getting older or.

[B]

Me getting older and stepping into that identity, but I would say that if these glasses had an auto tint. Okay, so they are both glasses inside, and then I walk outside. That would probably be the best. Best product improvement I would have to. This.

[A]

Don't they have this?

[B]

You could probably get those lenses installed, but I don't know if. I don't know if you can. If it's the ar. I don't know how, like, the augmented reality works. The second other criticism I would have about these, and I don't know if you've noticed this is when you're driving on, like, the highway. There's a lot of exterior kind of like background noise.

[A]

Uhhuh.

[B]

The volume doesn't go up high enough for me. For me to be able to hear in a lot of environments.

[A]

But why. Why would you. In the. Oh, when you're, like, in an Uber or something?

[B]

Yeah, Uber. Or like, I was driving the other day, and I was like, oh, I have these. I Don't want to put in my.

[A]

Or on an airplane.

[B]

Or an airplane. I don't think they would work. I don't think they would work on an airplane.

[A]

No. I found there are some environments that it there it's too loud.

[B]

But I do think that it's also these metaglasses have convinced me that. Have you ever heard of like the transhumanism thing where people are basically like, hey, like getting a neural link in your brain is like this kind of part of like the transhumanism. Like we're gonna basically mold with AI.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's gonna be like an extension of us. And the phones were just like the first step of it. Now it's the glasses and having it always. Then it's going to be like the chip in the brain. I'm like more convinced than ever that like technology is literally just going to become a part of us. Like it's gonna, it's so normalized for me now to go on a walk with these glasses on and be like listening to a podcast. But then being able to switch between the digital world and then the real world, it's not, I don't know how I feel about it because I've only had them for a week. But like I'm like man, meta was onto something by making this because they know that we're going to become more and more infused with technology.

[A]

Don't. The 1500 dollar ones, like when you look at someone, it gives, it has facial recognition. It tells you like who exactly who they are.

[B]

I don't know. I would love to play with them.

[A]

I, I, I tried to play with them at the mall and they, all of them were like fake displays.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So you can really play with them. But like apparently it'll like remember faces and so like if you run into someone it will like tell you who it was and like bring up their contact information and stuff. I don't know if that's true, but that's what let me said.

[B]

That's. See that's crazy.

[A]

But that's so cool. I love it.

[B]

But like I just think we have to have, we're gonna have to set really intentional boundaries of like, like, okay, I'm not going to be wired in all day. I'm going to like, like at the gym these days. I used to listen to podcasts while I was at the gym and now I raw dog it. No headphones.

[A]

Gotta love a raw dog.

[B]

No headphones. Like just the ambiance. Me and my other planet fitness people around me, you know, the music that's playing on this and it's the best.

[A]

See what I do because it's like.

[B]

The only time my brain really resets.

[A]

Yeah. Like I went on that walk yesterday. I walked like 12,000 steps with UTI. Thank you. And I started out listening to the toast and then I was like, I really don't want to hear anything at all. So I just walked with nothing. I've been doing that a lot. My times that I really like podcasts are in like the short, like taking a shower or doing things that I like, really, really hate doing.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, and I, and I will say when I get my, when I do my makeup, like, I'll listen to it, but like, I don't know. I just wanted to be in nature and it was so nice.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then sometimes I, I'm out there and I, like, I would say my next step if I'm not listening or consuming something as I start editing. Like I edited that whole video I showed you on my walk. Okay, here's something I feel like we don't talk about enough. You can have the best skin care in the world, but if your body is stressed, dehydrated or inflamed like me right now, your skin is going to show it. And I feel like January is always that reset moment where we're all trying to do less surface level fixing and actually focused on what's going on underneath. That's why I've been really interested in brands that take a more inside out approach to skin. And Peak is one of those that has been highly recommended to me. They're all about combining science and nature, using powerful botanicals, minerals and vitamins, but elevating them with real advanced extraction technology. It's wellness, but done thoughtfully. The Radiant Skin duo is designed to work as a two part system. One part focuses on calming inflammation and detoxing and the other focuses on deep cellular hydration, which honestly makes so much sense when you think about what the skin needs to actually grow. The first part is the Sun Goddess Matcha. It's ceremonial grade matcha grown in a volcanic soil and it's packed with things like chlorophyll, egcg and L theanine, which help calm stress, support detoxification and bring balance back to your skin. Then there's BT fountain, which is basically luxury hydration for your skin barrier. It has hyaluronic acid, ceramides and in chelated minerals that help hydrate at a cellular level. Especially helpful if your skin ever feels dry, dual or just like Your makeup isn't sitting right mid afternoon. What's cool is how the the two work together. One helps reduce inflammation and stress, the other rebuilds and rehydrates. And that's when people start saying things like wait, what are you doing differently that's brighter, firmer, lit from within look isn't coming from another serum, it's coming from supporting your body properly. Redefine your standard of health, secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today@peak life.com Dani that's P I Q U E life.com Danny There.

[B]

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[A]

Yeah no, just tell me. Well, no, no, just say. Because now I'm not gonna let it go.

[B]

I just. I just wanted you to tell. I wanted to tell you that it's. It's okay to be sick. I just feel like you need to hear that because, you know, yesterday you were sick, and I. And I felt like you.

[A]

You treat me like normal when I'm sick.

[B]

Treat you like normal?

[A]

Look, you try to be like, you slap my butt, like, four times yesterday.

[B]

No, I. I apologize, though.

[A]

I know.

[B]

I apologize.

[A]

And then you come in, you're like, do you want to hug? Do you want a hug?

[B]

And I'm like, well, Stella did that first, and then I just copied her.

[A]

And I was like, can y' all just like, you know, I'm sick. Like, I don't really want the attention right now. And then it makes me feel like a failure, so I had to text you and apologize.

[B]

No.

[A]

Yeah, because I feel like you want me to be, like, happy in this version of myself that I don't feel like being right now. And then I feel guilty. I mostly feel guilty about you when I'm sick.

[B]

What. What did I do? I was totally good.

[A]

Because I feel like you try.

[B]

I was gone most of the day.

[A]

I know. But when you're around, you're, like, so lovey dovey, and I feel like you're wanting love back. And I'm like, I can't give you that full right now. Like, I don't want to be touched. Like, I feel nauseous. I need to. To go to bed. And then I feel guilty the whole day. I'm like, I'm the shittiest wife ever.

[B]

Yeah, I, I can tell that you. So that makes sense. I hate that I make you feel that way. I can tell that you felt guilty because I feel like you were adamant about, like, like, for me, I'm like, just rest. Like, I don't. I don't care. Like, who cares? Like, I didn't complain or anything that. But I could tell you felt guilty because you were pretty adamant about walking 12,000 steps, which is pretty much the opposite of what you should do with uti. You edited a whole video, and you were like, look at what I did. I was like, you do that every day. And there was another thing that you did that I was like, oh, she's. I don't know. I could just tell that you, like, I, I, I woke up with you.

[A]

In summit and tried to get summit ready.

[B]

Yes. And I was like, I, I got this, which I really appreciate it. But the hardest part about you being sick for me is it's almost like we're conflicting. Because you feel guilty because you think that I'm judging you for being sick.

[A]

No, that's not what I feel. I don't feel like you're judging me for being sick. I feel like you're disappointed because I'm not giving you the love that you want or the attention that you want.

[B]

I love attention for you, but, like.

[A]

I feel like I'm. I'm, like, a little short or, like, kind of not mean. I'm not mean, but, like, you know.

[B]

You'Re like, you're not available.

[A]

I'm just not emotionally available. Physically available. Really? No availability at all. And I feel like you try even harder when I'm sick, which makes me feel bad.

[B]

Trying to be supportive. Like, I'm just trying to check.

[A]

What did I say? You came in to my office. You're like, hi.

[B]

How you do? You do it.

[A]

Okay. He gives me this hug, and I go, can. And then Stella started doing the same thing. I go, can y' all just treat me like a normal person?

[B]

And I was like, hey, let's get out of here. She's. She's boring right now.

[A]

So then he goes to the gym, and I wrote him a text. I'm like, I'm sorry. I am just agitated with my body and myself. Has nothing to do with you personally. I just kind of want to be left alone.

[B]

No, listen, babe, how long has it been? Five years. How long you been pregnant? Five years. Like, I'm a veteran at this point now. First pregnancy, everything I took personally, I was like, she doesn't love me anymore. She hates me now. I'm kind of just like. Like, what did I do? I literally. Like, you did that episode you had, that little short snippet of like, can y' all leave me alone? And I was like, fine. I walked out of the gym. I went to the gym. And then I was like, you know what? I'm gonna extend this because I don't want to bother. So I went on a walk, and I listened to a podcast about the Roman Empire. I am so good.

[A]

Yeah, I. I don't mind if you're in the same room as me. Maybe just actually, same house, maybe different rooms.

[B]

No, that's how you feel for sure. Like, same room is pushing you.

[A]

When I'm ready.

[B]

No, I know.

[A]

I'll come to you.

[B]

I know. That's what. You didn't see me until 10am I was gone.

[A]

I didn't wake up till like 9:30. So I was up from like 1 to 3 last night.

[B]

I was it. You know, we have everyone like in marriage gets used to this like, routine. And I, I broke the routine today because I was like, I'm usually like, I'll go to Merit and I'll get my coffee and then I'm usually back by like 8:30.

[A]

Where were you today?

[B]

Well, I went to. I was like, I'm just gonna stay at the coffee shop. So I brought my computer and I worked out the coffee shop.

[A]

Were you trying to spite me?

[B]

No, I wasn't.

[A]

A little bit.

[B]

No, no, no, no. I wasn't trying to spy you at all. I genuinely was kind of like bored with my own routine, so I was wanting to change it up. But I will say around 9:30, when I didn't get a text that's like, where are you? I was like, huh.

[A]

Babe, I was literally sleeping.

[B]

I know, I know you were.

[A]

And you guys brought me breakfast and coffee, which was so sweet, but I didn't even touch it.

[B]

No, I didn't. I didn't bring it to you. I literally was like, stella, go take this to mommy because I'm scared to go.

[A]

Babe, I was not being that mean. Oh my gosh. I literally said that one line at five o'. Clock.

[B]

But it is it. You understand it's psychologically difficult for me because you're like, okay, I understand not treating you normal, but like the. Oh, but like sometimes I feel like if I serve you and like make you breakfast or bring you coffee, it also like compounds your guilt because, like, I feel so it makes me okay. I'm like, I don't want her to feel guilty, but I'm kind of a lose lose because her guilt is not really my fault or anything I can change.

[A]

My thing is though, I'm very good about asking for help when I need it. When I'm sick. Like the other. When I was feeling really bad at like 9 o' clock or 8 o', clock, I texted you and I was like, hey, my body's really hurting. Can you come run my back?

[B]

That's true.

[A]

And so I feel like. And then whenever I'm like, hey, can you help me with like get. Pick up this medication or something? Like, I feel like when I need, need something, I really. And I really need help. Like, I will ask for it.

[B]

I. I actually like, as funny as I'm trying to be, I totally get how you feel because like, if I, I don't get sick that much, but if I was sick and I felt like I was a burden on you. I would also feel guilty. But I just want you to know, just communicating on this part. I don't ever feel that way.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah. I don't ever feel like you're a burden at all. The only times I maybe feel like that is during first trimester. Because it's, like, straight up, three months of it.

[A]

Oh, it's horrible.

[B]

It's a marathon.

[A]

It's horrible.

[B]

And so that's when I'm like. Thoughts get into my head. Like, you know, I'm just like, no, it's.

[A]

The first trimester is so much harder than third trimester, in my opinion.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Third trimester, it's a little bit more of, like, a roller coaster. But, like, I mean, last week I was, like, cleaning out the attic. Like, I was, like, full throttle. I'm also planning three baby showers right now, you know, so, like, I'm. I'm functional first semester. I'm not even functional. It's horrible. Yeah. But so. Yeah, no, I. I think we're good. You and I, we're solid.

[B]

Yeah, we're good.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I think we should talk about one more thing, and then I think we should end this podcast.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I think we should talk about how we were both right about the Alex Earl, Tom Brady situation.

[A]

I know. It's so weird.

[B]

Like, we were both right.

[A]

So I think I said in the podcast that she was gonna break up with Braxton and go for, like, an A list football player.

[B]

Yeah. Did you say Tom Brady? No, she didn't say to him. You said like, a list. Like, celebrity, like, super rich.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, a list, whatever. But I'm not kidding, y'. All. When I said that I know no one's gonna leave me, I thought of.

[B]

Tom Brady and what?

[A]

Like, I literally thought that she would get with Tom Brady whenever. Like, it's almost like when I saw it happening, I was like, oh, deja vu. You know, this already happened.

[B]

Like, and what I said was. I said 100. Because we know who her publicist is, and her publicist is very, very smart.

[A]

Oh, yeah, yeah. Like. Like, yeah.

[B]

Like, best in the industry. And I was like, 100. Her publicist is gonna, like, a list leverage that.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Keep. Keep Alex at people's attention. But what I also said that I was right about was that no matter what, Braxton was going to lose in this situation.

[A]

That's so weird. I. I guess I haven't seen any of that online, although my whole feed is about, like, UTIs and pregnant people, so Here.

[B]

Here's what I see on your feedback, because I don't. I just log into yours what I see.

[A]

I kind of hate that because then people think I'm watching their stories when I really haven't.

[B]

I don't watch stories. I just.

[A]

You scroll.

[B]

I'm on. I'm on it very little. But like, when I. When what I do see is, it was like, like, oh, you go, girl. Like, see a Braxton by, like, as though Braxton was this guy that, like, treated her like crap.

[A]

But I haven't seen, like, any, like, talking heads videos about how bad he was or horrible.

[B]

That's. No, not about him, but just the very nature of, like, oh, like, Of. Of like, you go get it, girl. Like, yeah, level up. Like that just by very nature takes all of the. The goodness. Let's just assume he was a good guy. The goodness of their relationship for what, like, two years, and just throws that out the window as though he's throwing the trash. And, like, she deserves to, like, level up. You know what I'm saying? It's just so, like, the men on the Internet can't win.

[A]

But I. I don't feel like. But I don't feel like anybody has, like, hard, harsh feelings towards Braxton. Like, I don't think this hurts his reputation.

[B]

No, they're calling him out. Like, they're talking about his career. Like, oh, you went from, like, no name. Like, didn't even start. Special teams person.

[A]

Cool. Good for him. Nobody knew who he was. I didn't know he was. And now, like, everybody knows who he is because he dated Alex Earl. Like, deep down, like, it's got to be okay. The only funny meme that I did see, it was like, Alex Earl has a thing for men that are associated with the NFL that don't play in the NFL.

[B]

Yeah, no, that's. See, that's funny. That's really funny. But, like, are you seeing this? Yeah. It seems like he's just getting little Boyd. Big time little boy, like, in a little brother. And even the only thing that she said about her relationship with him, and she's like, it's weird. You know, we. We kind of grew apart, but everything has been so, like, amicable. I'm not even angry. I'm used to in a breakup being angry, which means that he probably was a great guy.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, handling it. And I just feel like he's just taking the short end of the stick on and it's so unfair.

[A]

Is going to come out on top too. Like, I'm just telling you, like, he's going to come up and date somebody really impressive as well. That's just how these things work. Like, they're now just. People are talking about them. They're put, like, they're, like, on our radar. And they both benefited from this relationship. Like, it wasn't. This is not a loss for Braxton. Do you know how many girls would probably kill to date him now?

[B]

Oh, my gosh. I just had this thing because what if. And I wouldn't put a pastor. What if this publicist got with Tom Brady's publicist? Because think. Okay.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

Conspiracy unlocked. All the headlines the week prior about Tom Brady were about how Giselle just got married to the jiu Jitsu instructor.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So what if publicists and publicists were like, we need to concoct this story because Tom Brady's taking an L right now. He wants to get back at Giselle, and Alex is heartbroken over Braxton, and they. They. They literally concoct this St. Barth's back rub that actually was nothing. But that put them back in the power seats.

[A]

I could see. I could see.

[B]

I can see.

[A]

Because, like, honestly, they knew Alex and Tom knew was going to come out. They were being, like, lovey dovey in public. Like, that's the thing that I'm like, they kind of plan this. Like, they. They both kind of, like, probably were like, you know, we're gonna meet in public. This is gonna happen. Also, although I showed you that video of Tom Brady, he had his phone in his back pocket and his light was on. Yeah. Everybody. I just thought that was so funny because he's, like, such a dad. Like, like. And everybody's, like, yelling, tom, your. Your cell phone flashlights on. Turn your flashlight off, and you can't hear. Like, and he's just, like, so tall and, like, what? He's, like, almost 50 years old.

[B]

Yeah. He's. He's.

[A]

She's like, 25.

[B]

It really.

[A]

They're like. It just like, it. I don't know why it's comical to me because I just don't see them actually ending up together. So it does kind of feel like a PR move. Like, I don't. I think that, like, deep down, Tom Brady gives Alex the egg. Like, for sure.

[B]

That's an interesting theory. I will just say, like, Tom Brady.

[A]

Kind of gives me that. He's old. He has, like, four kids. Yeah.

[B]

And he, like, he's like.

[A]

And he dated, like, a supermodel. I'd be like, dude, what are you doing talking to, like, a 25 year old. If I was 25 and Tom Brady, I'd be like, you're. I think this is, like, a crisis that you're having. Midlife crisis.

[B]

But I think that that's why he got divorced. Like, he basically was like. Like, I don't really follow, like, NFL that much, but it's interesting because Giselle, I think, was like, hey, if you keep playing, like, you're literally ruining your family. And he chose his ear, ego and his pride and his career over it. And she was like, okay, we're getting a divorce. He loses his family. Now what I think the sports world is talking about with Tom Brady is he's on this, like, divor. Like, kind of like just stereotypical divorced dad vibe. Like, is posting, like. You know, he posted this picture in his stories that with him wearing this sweater that was, like, forever young. No, and he's like.

[A]

And he's, like, going to. Out to St. Barts at a club. I'm like, dude, no, no, it's.

[B]

It's really. It's really.

[A]

That's what I'm saying. It gives ick. Like.

[B]

Yeah, no, it's really. It's really kind of, like, kind of nerdy.

[A]

Probably kind of, like, nerdy guy in high school, gets popular, like, in college vibes.

[B]

Well, he also. I. I don't. Again, I don't, like, follow the NFL that much, but I did do think he wrote this post, or maybe it was like a blog post he wrote about how he wishes that he was a better he. His one regret is that he wasn't as good of a dad as his dad was to him. And that was, like, something that was hard for him to reconcile. So this divorce is, like, really just kind of wrecking the dude. Yeah, he's getting. He was kind of like.

[A]

But I will say it's like, just the Alex ear. Although for the PR of, it was just, like, perfect. He couldn't have chosen a better person.

[B]

For both of them. For both of them, it was the most mutually beneficial set of headlines. Like, because then it's like. And he probably has this side of him where he's like. He's getting embarrassed. Like, his whole roast that we watched was about Giselle leaving him for a jujitsu instructor. And so he's getting embarrassed now.

[A]

He's like, all those, like, colleagues that he has, like, in the NFL, they're all, like, older men, you know? And I'm sorry, I don't think that they look at this as, like, wow, man. Like, this is like, she's not even 30 years old. If she was like a 32 year old, I feel like it'd be like a little bit more respectable. She's 25. Like, she literally just graduated from college. Like, the guys that he's around who are, you know, ex pros, somewhat professionals, because, you know, they're all in that industry have to be like, dude, like, come on, this is gross.

[B]

I don't think it's how it works.

[A]

Really? No. Oh, my gosh. I just like, can't imagine a world.

[B]

I mean, it depends on what people.

[A]

Would be like, oh, yeah, good job. Like, I get it. If, if she's, if she's 30, I get it. Like, I think it's like, okay, like, I get it, she's 30. But a 25 year old is like a child.

[B]

No, no, it depends. Like, if he's hanging out with the other divorced dads, they're like, dude, you won. If he's hanging out with like married men, they're like, hey, Tom, like, let's sit down. Like, we need to talk about this. Usually divorced dads, I feel like I think they go a little haywire. I'm going to be honest.

[A]

Like, I think that I'm not talking about divorced dads. I'm talking about all the comments, colleagues, like he's like working with on like.

[B]

Within the NFL who may be married or maybe divorced.

[A]

Isn't he like a sports commentator now? Yeah, yeah. Like all those guys, they're probably all bad guys. Whatever.

[B]

I don't know. It just the. I hope it turns around for him. But like, I will say that he's kind of a tale as old as time where it's like he chased this dream for too long. He loses his family, he loses his marriage because of it. And he will be searching. He will be searching, searching for the rest of his life how to fill the void he thought football was going to fill.

[A]

I just, I just realized that because I just remember growing up like Tom Brady and Giselle were just like such a power couple and everybody like, and like with all their kids and they seem so family oriented and they're both so successful in their own ways and everybody was like, they are the golden American couple, you know, and it really is sad that this is the way that the tale, like how it ended up. Yeah, it's like very.

[B]

Did he win? Didn't he, like really lose in his last season too? Yeah, it's like he pushed it one season probably too far, and that was like the breaking point.

[A]

So hard though. I mean, people are quick to judge, but, I mean, if this is all this guy's been doing since he was a kid, like, you gotta give him a little bit. It's hard to stop.

[B]

Yeah. One last thing I was gonna say. Oh. I do also feel like it's a tale as old as time that nice guys finish last. Let's say Braxton was the nice guy. He's finishing. On the downside, he's not going to. And Tom Brady. Tom Brady, who literally chased his career to and divorced his family, and he's now on top.

[A]

Braxton is not going to come out like, last.

[B]

I'm telling you, in the eyes of the Internet, I feel like he is. I agree real life is different than the Internet, but, like, I'm just saying that the Internet is so pro female that, like, you just can't win as a man.

[A]

Yeah. Well, we haven't been able to vote that long, so I feel like we kind of deserve it.

[B]

So this is. These are your feedback. These are your reparations.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Okay. All right. Good talk.

[A]

Good talk. Well, we will be podcasting soon again. There's so much more that we need to catch up on. We didn't, like, honestly touch, like, any of our script, but we love you guys and we'll talk to you later. Bye. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.