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Chelsea Handler
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Kathryn Law
Oh, hi, Chelsea. How are you?
Chelsea Handler
I'm feeling very deep throated today. Yes, I kind of am too.
Kathryn Law
I don't.
Chelsea Handler
Is, uh, maybe, maybe I spoke to a little bit of a joint, so.
Kathryn Law
Well, I have a really fun update. So I'm not sure if you remember Whit from our John Lovett episode. He was getting serious with his girlfriend and wanted to propose but wasn't sure about telling her family that he's trans.
Chelsea Handler
Oh, yes, I remember.
Kathryn Law
Yes, we loved Whit and I think we did update that they got engaged and that was all very happy. So I got a very special email this week. This email is from, I believe Erin. So Aaron says, hi, Chelsea. I couldn't help but think of you and the experience you shared with my son Whit when he appeared on the Dear Chelsea podcast last year. This is Whit's mom. I've been a longtime listener of Chelsea's podcast and have enjoyed her episodes on Netflix and YouTube for years. Whit and I even binge watched some of them together when I visited him in Montreal. So I was thrilled when Catherine arranged for Whit to be on the show and have the chance to ask Chelsea and John questions about his dating relationship. Shortly after the episode aired, Whit proposed to Anne. She said yes. The heart of the episode was about whether Wit should tell Anne's parents that he's trans. Before they got engaged, Chelsea and John suggested it really shouldn't matter either way. As it turns out, Anne's parents are incredible people. They were extremely understanding and expressed that they were honored. Whit and Ann shared that part of their story with them. They emphasized that it didn't change how they felt. It simply didn't matter to them in the best way. Wit's experience on Dear Chelsea gave him confidence and validation beyond what I could have imagined. The respect and Dignity Chelsea and John brought to the conversation through their openness, inclusion, and compassion was truly refreshing. As Whit's mom, I want to say how much I appreciate all of you. Today I'm flying to Montreal for Whit and Anne's wedding, and I felt it was the perfect time to reach out and express my gratitude for the kindness you showed warmly, Erin.
Chelsea Handler
Oh, my God. I know. Wow.
Kathryn Law
I know.
Chelsea Handler
It's just like, so keeping families together. That's what we're doing. Keeping families. I mean, to get a thank you letter from someone's mother is like the best gift ever.
Kathryn Law
I know. It's so delightful. So thank you so much for writing in, Erin.
Chelsea Handler
And by the way, what a beautiful model and blueprint for anyone who is dealing with anyone. You know, the way that this couple reacted to finding out that their new son in law is trans is so beautiful. Like, it has absolutely no impact on them. And then they thanked him for sharing something so personal. That is how we treat people.
Kathryn Law
And for Aaron to be obviously this woman who has a child, who maybe things went a little differently than expected as wit grew up. But guess what? Aaron loves wit and, you know, is accepting. And these families have come together and it's just.
Chelsea Handler
It's beautiful.
Kathryn Law
It's beautiful.
Chelsea Handler
This is the way the world should be going around. Everyone should be accepting of everybody, regardless of what anything you should be able to accept and look at everybody as a human being.
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Chelsea Handler
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Kathryn Law
Well, Ricky says. Dear Chelsea, I've been a fan of Chelsea since the Chelsea lately days. My sister and I would chat recapping your hilarious shows often, and we saw you live in New York many years ago. Anyway, I recently came across your podcast and have been listening and loving hearing the humor that I always enjoyed with my sister. Anyway, I don't need advice, but I have a ridiculous question. Pikachu versus Kaslapas. Why do you sometimes say one versus the other? Different words, same meaning. Or is there more of a distinction? Just stupidly curious. Thanks, Ricky.
Chelsea Handler
Great question. I love it. Pikachu is just a softer way to say, I feel like Caslopis sounds like sloppy sea bass. Like, it sounds like fish. You know what I mean? Caeslopus is like, yes, Cassalpis is the dirty. Pikachu is like, oh, you have a cute little vagina. You know, that's a nice way to say vagina. It's the nicest way to say vagina. Vagina's a terrible word.
Kathryn Law
It's the worst.
Chelsea Handler
It's not good. And so Pikachu. I don't like the word pussy. I mean, I like calling men pussies, but I don't like saying, you know, come lick my pussy. No one says that. Oh, so gross. Should we name this minisode? Come look. I can't even repeat that song.
Kathryn Law
I'm gonna have to use too many asterisks if we do that. Yeah, in our family it's tutti. But it wasn't when I was growing up. That came from, like, my sister's college friend, but now we call it a tutti.
Chelsea Handler
But a tootie is a fart also like a toot. You know, in some families, I suppose it could be.
Kathryn Law
In my family growing up, my parents called it your body, which is very confusing. Like, that is absolutely the wrong. They would say, like, call that your body. Oh, well, make sure to wash your.
Chelsea Handler
Body when you're in the shower.
Kathryn Law
No, no, it doesn't work.
Chelsea Handler
Now, I love beaver also, but that's.
Kathryn Law
Not for, you know, I mean, everyday consumption. No, that's not. It depends.
Chelsea Handler
I mean, I guess for me it is. I can pretty much say, I mean, there's nothing wrong with beaver, but actually make a note to myself to start using beaver more often.
Kathryn Law
Well, our caller today is Liz. She says, Dear Chelsea, about six months ago I broke up with my first long term boyfriend. He was not good for me and it took me a while to realize it. The relationship ultimately ended because he wanted me to convert to Catholicism, but truly he wanted my leftism politics to more aligned with his right wing tendencies. Looking back, I can now see his behavior was controlling and somewhat abusive at times. He was the classic love bomber that withdrew whenever he couldn't get control of me in some way. There were times I'd call him out for attempting to gaslight, verbally intimidate and physically control me. He would always become super defensive and try to put the blame on my mental state rather than take responsibility for these things. Needless to say, after getting out of that relationship, I've been in somewhat of an apathetic state about men since the breakup. I want nothing to do with any characteristic of my ex, so I've been mostly going out with guys knowing that it will lead nowhere. Well, I met a really sweet guy on the dating apps. He seems the complete opposite of my ex. We're politically aligned, share a ton of interests, and he puts in a ton of effort. The problem is I'm not that attracted to him. I totally want to be, but I've given it a few months and still feel no attraction to him. My question is, am I just continuing my patterns of falling for unhealthy relationships due to my insecure, anxious attachment style? On paper, this new guy has everything I should be looking for. But I can't help a feeling there's a lot of the chemistry missing. This leaves me thinking about the chemistry I had with my ex. I know that relationship wasn't healthy, but why do we look back with blinders feeling like that was the relationship that had something? When the new guy on paper looks so perfect, do you think I should give up on this new guy and keep looking for someone I'm more attracted to? I'm a little scared that my little self quote unquote is calling the shots. And the reason I'm not feeling the attraction is because I'm still drawn to the avoidant controlling person. Liz.
Chelsea Handler
Hi, Liz.
Kathryn Law
Hello, Chelsea. Hi.
Chelsea Handler
Okay, so, first of all, I think you're doing. This is great. There's so many people that call in, and they don't even know how to begin the process of dating. And I'm so glad that you're already doing it and you understand what you're. That you're avoidant. Anxious or anxious avoidant. Is that what. Yeah, you said. Okay. Anxious, avoidant. That you got away from that ex boyfriend. That's over. What you're realizing is that you don't have chemistry with this new guy. That's okay. You don't have any chemistry with him, then that's it. There's nothing happening there. But don't confuse the chemistry you had with the other guy as a sign that you should be with that guy. You just know what chemistry feels like and what a good guy feels like. So you have identified all of the things that you want in your romantic relationship. You want somebody who's reliable, who's good on paper, who's gonna be honest, who's gonna be thoughtful and. And not manipulating and not controlling. And you also wanna have chemistry. That's great. That's a victory. You know exactly what you want, and you're gonna find it, and it's just a numbers game. And don't stay with some guy that you're not attracted to. There's nothing you could do about that. You've given it a couple months. If it were three weeks, I'd say give it a couple months. But you've given it a couple months. You've tried. You're not attracted to him. You don't have to be attracted to everybody. I wish I could be attracted to more people. Do you know what I mean? I'm sure you feel the same way. I'm like, oh, God, I wish I could be attracted to you. You seem easy. But. But we've identified all of the things that you're looking for in a relationship. You're winning. You are winning. You are on your way to finding somebody. Just stick with it and just know in your heart what you're going to settle for. You're not going to go back to a guy that's controlling or domineering in any way, and you're not going to settle for somebody that isn't exactly what you're looking for.
Kathryn Law
Yes, I knew you would say something just like this, Chelsea, but I was making sure that I wasn't, you know, just writing off this new guy because I'm looking for something. Else. But no, I think I know. I just needed to hear it, I guess.
Chelsea Handler
Yeah. And listen, if you end it with this guy and in a couple months you're still thinking about him, then guess what? Then you can go back and go, God, wow, I made a mistake.
Kathryn Law
Yeah.
Chelsea Handler
So, yeah, just trust yourself. Really trust yourself and listen to yourself. You're identifying all of the things that are important to you in a relationship, and that's. You're ahead of the game.
Kathryn Law
Yeah. And I think, like, teasing apart this idea of having chemistry with someone from what you had with your ex, which was not just chemistry. I'm sure you had that, too. But what he also gave you were these, like, adrenaline hits and dopamine hits of I never know what's coming next. Like, when you have those arguments with people and they have your nervous system all out of whack, you are getting rushes of adrenaline every single time that happens. So that can also be very addicting. And that's a different thing than just, like, having chemistry with someone at the same time, if you don't have chemistry with this new guy, you don't have. It's friend zone. Right. But at the same time, you may find dating someone who's like, this guy that you do have chemistry with and you find yourself like, is this person too boring for me? That, I think, is the thing you want to maybe give a little more time to if you find yourself feeling that because you're not getting those dopamine and adrenaline hits of just, like, surges of hormones. Right. And sometimes, like, the Steady Eddies at the beginning can be like, is this boring? Or is this. Is this just kind of fine? So maybe give yourself a little more time if you find yourself in one of those. But that's what you're aiming for, right? Somebody who's not constantly a roller coaster.
Chelsea Handler
Sure.
Kathryn Law
Yeah. That makes sense. A lot of sense. Okay, Liz, you have some friend zoning to do. Okay, Got it. Got it. Come on in.
Chelsea Handler
Bye, Liz. Thanks for being here.
Kathryn Law
Thank you so much.
Chelsea Handler
I just announced all my tour that's called the High and Mighty Tour. I will be touring from February through June, so go get your tickets now if you want to come see me perform. I will be on the High and Mighty Tour.
Kathryn Law
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Chelsea Handler
Fleur de Mel is known as an It Girl brand for luxury lingerie dresses and bodysuits with a seductive chic and elevated aesthetic. Their fabrics include real silk, refined French lace and modern stretch materials designed to feel soft, smooth and wearable. One of their most popular pieces is the flared corset knit dress worn publicly by Taylor Swift and recognized for its flattering waistline and versatility from brunch to evening events. Their bodysuits come in cotton, lace and fashion forward materials. The full collection is available @fleur de mal.com you guys, I have some very exciting news about an ethical phone carrier. I just switched to Forget about all these other phone companies. Forget about Verizon, forget about AT&T. Forget about T Mobile. There's this new carrier called Noble Mobile and they actually pay you to stay off your phone. You can earn real money, up to 20 bucks back every month just for putting your phone away. If you're like me and you're tired of feeling controlled by your phone, social media or just disgusted by those screen time alerts, this is the answer. Go to noblemobile.com Chelsea and try it for $10. That's noblemobile.com Chelsea if you're looking for a wine that's not just delicious but also a total crowd pleaser, let me introduce you to Josh Sellars. This California California wine brand has over a dozen award winning wines, from crisp Sauvignon Blancs to velvety Merlots. Josh Sellars has the perfect wine for every occasion, serving up a juicy steak at your next barbecue. Their Cabernet Sauvignon is the perfect pairing. Unwinding with friends after a long week. You can't go wrong with their Pinot Grigio. With so many delicious wines to choose from, Josh Sellers has something for everyone. Josh Sellars is a proud sponsor of Dear Chelsea. Visit www.joshcellars.com Chelsea and join the Wine Club to get 20% off. Please drink responsibly. It's time to dump skincare companies that make us feel bad about getting older. I'm 50 years old and guess what? I'm loving life. Froia Organics is completely different. They know they're not going to magically make you look 20 again. And honestly, who wants that anyway? But they do use arctic plants like Arnica and sea buckthorn that hydrate, repair and protect your skin's natural barrier, giving you healthy, radiant skin at any age. No fillers, no bullshit, just natural ingredients that actually work. Visit froiaorganics.com now to get 40% off.
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Podcast: Dear Chelsea
Hosts: Chelsea Handler & Catherine Law
Date: January 2, 2026
Episode Theme: Exploring listener questions with Chelsea’s signature mix of humor and candor, focusing on family acceptance, language around genitalia, and navigating dating after a toxic relationship.
In this minisode, Chelsea Handler and co-host Catherine Law begin with a heartwarming update from a listener whose son’s experience on the show led to a positive family revelation and marriage. They answer a witty question about euphemisms for female genitalia, before moving to an earnest conversation with a listener seeking advice about post-breakup dating and the complexities of chemistry versus comfort. The episode is marked by Chelsea’s trademark edge: honest, compassionate, and hilarious.
[03:24–06:14]
[10:15–12:00]
[12:00–17:27]
Chelsea Handler on Acceptance:
“This is the way the world should be going around. Everyone should be accepting of everybody, regardless of what anything—you should be able to accept and look at everybody as a human being.” (06:03)
On Vagina Euphemisms:
“Vagina’s a terrible word.” – Chelsea (11:04)
“I don’t like the word pussy. I mean, I like calling men pussies, but I don’t like saying, you know, come lick my pussy. No one says that. Oh, so gross.” – Chelsea (11:04)
On Moving On from a Toxic Relationship:
“You don't have to be attracted to everybody. I wish I could be attracted to more people. …You’re winning. You are on your way to finding somebody. Just stick with it and just know in your heart what you’re going to settle for.” – Chelsea (15:29)
The episode is candid, funny, and heartfelt—typical of Chelsea Handler’s approach. She and Catherine blend humor with emotional intelligence, celebrating progress in inclusivity and sharing practical advice for listeners navigating love, language, and family.
For listeners seeking advice with a dose of irreverence and compassion, this episode delivers both laughs and life lessons.