Podcast
Dear Shandy
Hosted by Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine · EN
Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine—aka "Shandy"—combine dating advice and reality show recaps for a fun analysis of modern romance.
Sharleen and Andy are two former commitment-phobes who have now been married for over a decade. They don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the tough dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, non-judgmental & honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership.
As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge (combined with Andy's hilarious commentary) to deliver what are hands-down the best Reality TV recaps in the business. They interview reality TV (or reality-adjacent) couples in double-date style episodes called Love Fests. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during TV seasons, twice a week.
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Perfect Match S4: FINALE Recap & Review - Ep 467
3d ago00:54:46Tap to summarizeShandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, and today they're breaking down the grand FINALE!Thanks to our sponsors...- Go to https://poshmark.com/shandy to get $10 off your first purchase!- Text SHANDY to 64000 for your 2 free gifts with the purchase of any Pocket Hose Ballistic hose!- Go to https://goodwipes.com/SHANDY to snag a free pack of goodwipes at Walmart!- Go to https://mudwtr.com and use code SHANDY to get up to 43% off your entire order, Free Shipping and a Free Rechargeable Frother!- Go to https://curehydration.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://rula.com/SHANDY and take the first step towards improved mental health!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:45 - Finale Kick Off25:00 - “Perfect Match” Crowning Ceremony44:19 - Surprise Couple47:15 - Final Thoughts & Predictions49:44 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Q&A! Demystifying The Moody Husband & Is Timing *Really* Everything? - Ep 466
1w ago01:08:20Tap to summarizeIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you and your longtime platonic friend have been secretly crushing on each other, is it now or never to make a move, even if he's started dating someone new? (Speak now or forever hold your peace?) If your friend has volunteered YOU to help her move, can you worm your way out of it, or is it best to roll up your sleeves and help? And what can be done if your partner of 16 years has become a moody grump? Can people actually change, or must you grin and bear it? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!Interested in getting the Shandy take but don't want to appear on the podcast? Email dearshandy@gmail.com for information about Shandy Off The Record sessions.Thanks to our lovely sponsors...- Go to https://quince.com/shsandy for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!- Go to https://dupe.com and tell it what you’re looking to buy!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:14 - Q1: My Longtime Friend And I Are Secretly Crushing But Timing Isn’t Our Friend—Help!16:54 - Q2: My “Friend” Has Assumed I’ll Help Her Move Homes—Can I Get Out Of This?26:03 - Q3: My Boyfriend & I Are Finally Moving In Together But I Fear Compromising On This One Thing—Help!34:12 - Q4: I’m An Adult But These Former Colleagues Make Me Feel Like I’m In Junior High—Help!44:58 - Q5: My Husband Is Moody And It’s Driving Me Nuts!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Perfect Match S4: Episodes 6-7 Recap & Review - Ep 465
1w ago01:16:31Tap to summarizeShandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, so today they're breaking down the first batch, aka episodes 6-7! Thanks to our wonderful sponsors...- Text SHANDY to 64000 for your 2 free gifts with the purchase of any Pocket Hose Ballistic hose!- Go to https://saltandstone.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order!- Go to https://ogee.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get 20% off!- Go to https://cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping3:06 - Episode 633:53 - Episode 71:12:15 - Shandy's Predictions1:14:44 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Perfect Match S4: Episodes 1-5 Recap & Review - Ep 464
2w ago01:22:27Tap to summarizeShandy is back with their world-famous recaps! Shandy couldn't resist the siren song of Perfect Match Season 4, so today they're breaking down the first batch, aka episodes 1-5! Thanks to our wonderful sponsors...- Go to https://saltandstone.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order!- Go to https://functionhealth.com/SHANDY and use gift code SHANDY25 for a $25 credit towards your membership!- Go to https://perelelhealth.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off your first order!- Buy 1 pair of prescription glasses and get 20% off any additional prescription pairs at https://warbyparker.com/SHANDY- Go to https://ollie.com/shandy and use code SHANDY to get 70% off your Welcome Kit today!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:16 - Episode 126:10 - Episode 235:32 - Episode 356:14 - Episode 41:07:53 - Episode 51:19:11 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →U Up? x Dear Shandy: Jared Freid & Jordana Abraham Unpack Modern Romance - Ep 463
3w ago00:52:06Tap to summarizeToday Shandy is joined by fellow podcasters and dating advice givers, Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham from the U Up? Podcast! They chat the most common themes they see in the questions they receive, whether or not dating today is *actually* worse (or if we're just talking about it more), and what it's like to date when you're famous! Watch on for two relationship podcasts' (sometimes very different!) perspectives on apps and modern romance.Thanks to our sponsors:- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://laundrysauce.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://shopremi.com/SHANDY and use CODE SHANDY to get 50% off your night guard!- Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY to get 15% off!- Go to https://revolve.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order!More Jordana & Jared:- The U Up? Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/u.up.podcast- Jordana: https://www.instagram.com/jordanaabraham- Jared: https://www.instagram.com/jaredfreidTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid of U Up? Podcast!0:47 - What Are The Most Common Themes They See In Their Relationship Qs?9:34 - Is Dating Today Actually Worse Or Are We Just Talking About It More?11:51 - Number One Piece Of Dating Advice21:43 - Dating When You’re Famous25:22 - Leaving The House31:57 - Advice They Give That They Struggle To Follow39:06 - Would You RatherIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Q&A! Your Boyfriend Steals Your Jokes & The Setup From Hell - Ep 462
Apr 3001:08:39Tap to summarizeIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your best friend puts zero thought into setting you up with her husband's friend, is that a slight or are you just sensitive? If your boyfriend's new hobby involves regularly "borrowing" your ideas, is it weird to be annoyed or is just a case of "sharing is caring"? At what age is OK to stop sending your nieces and nephews money? And if a family member is addicted to making AI-generated photos of your family, is it worth the awkwardness of saying something? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!Interested in getting the Shandy take but don't want to appear on the podcast? Email dearshandy@gmail.com for information about Shandy Off The Record sessions.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://mudwtr.com and use code SHANDY to get up to 43% off your entire order, free shipping and a free rechargeable frother!- Go to https://Ollie.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get 60% off your Welcome Kit today!- Shop Sharleen’s favorite Bras and Underwear at https://www.skims.com/SHANDY- Go to https://goodwipes.com/SHANDY to snag a free pack of goodwipes at Walmart!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:54 - Q1: At What Age Can I Stop Sending My Nephews Money?17:08 - Q2: My Friend Put No Thought Into Setting Me Up—Am I Being Too Sensitive?33:00 - Q3: My Boyfriend Loves Doing Standup But Keeps Stealing My Jokes—Help!50:30 - Q4: My Mother-In-Law Is Addicted To Making AI-Generated Photos Of Our Family—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Rewire Your Brain & Get "Unsingle" With Amy Chan - 461
Apr 2301:01:02Tap to summarize*Special Announcement*Dear Shandy will be moderating Amy's Book Launch Event in NYC on May 5th, 2026! For more info visit: https://luma.com/unsingleIt's not every day we bring back a Hot Topic guest, but when Amy Chan writes a new book, YOU BRING HER BACK. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is a relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamp, retreats that apply a scientific, psychological approach to healing heartbreak and rewiring dating patterns. It has been 4.5 years since we first had Amy on, and now with her new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" (April 28, 2026), she shares the science of rewiring your brain to actually find success in your love life. Today Amy chats your unconscious patterns, how being otherwise "high-achieving" is working against you, and at what leg in the "Dating Funnel" you're getting stuck. We promise you'll never see dating the same way again after hearing Amy's insights. Watch on to get "Unsingle"!Our first episode with Amy: https://youtu.be/FRXrV7AXHwY?si=NRMBdTNNAKy1PwEgThanks to our sponsors:- Go to https://curehydration.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://perelelhealth.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off your first order!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns!More Amy:The Book, 'Unsingle': https://missamychan.com/unsingleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/missamychanTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome (Back) Amy Chan!3:30 - Unconscious Patterns6:44 - Does Being Otherwise “High-Achieving” Work Against You In Dating?11:00 - The Dating Funnel16:16 - Expanding Horizons25:34 - The Experiment27:37 - Age Gaps29:13 - Over-Icking33:15 - Chemistry49:14 - Situationships51:29 - People Pleasing54:18 - The Grass Is Always Greener56:39 - What You Can Do Now To Rewire Your Brain58:52 - Final TakeawaysIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Q&A! Blinded By Breadcrumbs & Does His Bad Taste Mean Bad Compatibility? - Ep 460
Apr 1601:08:56Tap to summarizeIt's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you love your husband but find his career boring AF, should you feign interest to spare his feelings, or be 100% honest about your disinterest? Is it acceptable to become close friends with your best friend's partner, even if your best friend doesn't approve? Has Shandy ever dated anyone who brought out the worst in them, and what are their thoughts on "breadcrumbing" in dating? Finally, if your date regularly brings you the ugliest flowers you've ever seen, does that speak to a deeper compatibility and "taste" issue? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!Interested in getting the Shandy take but don't want to appear on the podcast? Email dearshandy@gmail.com for information about Shandy Off The Record sessions.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.saltandstone.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order!- Go to https://revolve.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order!- Go to https://masterclass.com/SHANDY for 15% off!- Go to https://laundrysauce.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping3:17 - Q1: I’m Bored To Tears When My Husband Talks About His Job—AITA?21:16 - Q2: Can I Be Best Friends With My Best Friend’s Wife?30:27 - Q3: I’m Still Hung Up On A Girl Who Brought Out The Worst In Me—Help!43:42 - Q4: My New Flame Is Great But His Taste Is Not—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Temptation Island S2: Episodes 6-9 Recap & Review - Ep 459
Apr 1301:27:26Tap to summarizeDear Shandy's world-famous recaps are back, this time covering Temptation Island, Season 10 (or Season 2 in the Netflix era)! Today Shandy breaks down the second half of the season, episodes 6-9! #temptationisland #netflix #temptationislandnetflixThank you to our sponsors...- Go to https://ogee.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get 15% off!- Go to https://rula.com/SHANDY and take the first step towards improved mental health!- Go to https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY to buy 1 pair of prescription glasses and get 20% off any additional prescription pairs!- Go to https://cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:02 - Episode 635:28 - Episode 748:33 - Episode 81:01:15 - Episode 91:23:46 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Transcribe →Temptation Island S2: Episodes 1-5 Recap & Review - Ep 458
Apr 1001:32:11Tap to summarizeDear Shandy's world-famous recaps are back, this time covering Temptation Island, Season 10 (or Season 2 in the Netflix era)! Today Shandy breaks down the first half of the season, episodes 1-5! #temptationisland #netflix #temptationislandnetflixThank you to our sponsors...- Go to https://monos.com and use code SHANDY at checkout for the latest offer!- Go to https://poshmark.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY for $10 off your first purchase!- Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY to get 15% off!- Go to https://shopremi.com/SHANDY and use CODE SHANDY to get 50% off your night guard!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping3:22 - Episode 120:29 - Episode 232:09 - Episode 346:55 - Episode 41:13:56 - Episode 51:29:41 - Predictions1:30:46 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.comSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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