Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions – EP 441: "Back Hair & Seggs Robots" (ft. Dustin Ross)
October 6, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Guest: Dustin Ross

Episode Overview

This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" delivers an unfiltered, humorous, and deeply candid discussion about modern relationships, dating, sex, and evolving social expectations. With guest Dustin Ross—comedian, podcaster, and cultural commentator—the trio traverses everything from intimate hygiene and body hair, to boundaries in casual sex, to the emotional intricacies of love and friendship. Expect plenty of laughs, bold truths, and memorable moments as they break down taboo topics with vulnerability and wit.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Guest Introduction & Setting the Tone (00:30–05:20)

• Dustin Ross is introduced as a multi-talented entertainer, co-host of "The Friend Zone," standup comedian, and pop culture voice.
• Mandii and Dustin reminisce about their friendship and Dustin’s influence:
  "Dustin is the person that let me know how to make sure a motherfucking check was attached to everything I do." (03:04, Mandii)
• Dustin reflects on gratitude for his sold-out tour and the importance of giving thanks for success.

2. Truth or Dare: Body Hair, Hygiene & Turn-Ons (05:36–09:59)

• Surprising Turn-On: Dustin confesses to loving hairy legs, lamenting his own lack of leg hair.

  "Ooh, hairy legs." (06:06, Dustin)

• Three-way consensus: back hair is a hard no for attraction ("No, back hair is probably the most unattractive thing." – 07:39, Mandii).
• Lively discussion about body hair standards and preferences in partners, with comedic banter about personal grooming and the challenges of hair and hygiene during sex.
• Hygiene talk leads into a critique of poor washing habits, societal expectations, and the link between personal care and attraction.

3. Cultural & Relationship Dynamics (10:13–15:57)

• Debate over what constitutes hygiene versus femininity in men—e.g., men with clean nails and shiny nails, and how appearance standards are gendered.

  "There should be no grace for a [man] to be dirty period. Just because you're a guy. That's crazy to me." (15:33, Dustin)

• The group agrees that partnerships often nudge men to up their self-care routines.

4. Filthy Nursery Rhymes & Sex Toys: Humor Interlude (17:19–25:16)

• Dare segment: Dustin improvises a raunchy version of “Humpty Dumpty”:

  “Humpty Dumpty, Comte Dumpty sat on the wall. Comty Dumpty, drain my motherfucking balls...” (18:04, Dustin)

• Mandii reveals her enthusiasm for novelty sex toys, including a dinosaur dildo:

  "Do you mind fucking me with something with legs and balls and a tail? But he held the tail..." (22:26, Mandii)

• Hilarious side talk about toy hygiene, transporting toys, and toy aesthetics.
• Commentary on creativity, sexual exploration, and the normalization of “taboo” kinks.

5. Music Lyric Challenge (Poetry Segment) (25:38–32:10)

• Mandii quizzes Dustin with poetic readings of classic hip-hop lyrics (“Put It in Your Mouth” by Akinyele and “Magic Stick” by 50 Cent/Lil’ Kim).
• Dustin aces the lyrics game, leading to laughs and playful debate about generational differences in music knowledge.

6. The Modern Casual Sex Dilemma: Boundaries, Emotional Labor, and Gender (33:26–45:37)

• Dustin is prompted about his approach to relationships, referencing a past interview with an ex, Micah.
• Is it cool to just vibe and not define the relationship?

  “Just because we vibing raw…making up nicknames…don’t mean we together, Stink. Goodbye, Twin Stink.” (36:10, Voiced in clip)

• On communication & boundaries:

  "Just have those conversations up front and decide if you think they look good enough for you to deal with that." (37:23, Dustin)

• Sex, feelings, and blurred boundaries:
  • Mandii and Weezy describe how “casual” sex often develops into emotional investment, especially among women, not always mirrored by men (or gay men, as described by Weezy).
  • “We’re suffering in our casual sex relationships because we’re asking for too much.” (41:14, Weezy)
  • Dustin pushes back: “If that’s what you want, then you just get that…in the meantime, if you have an itch you need scratched, you compartmentalize.” (41:36, Dustin)
• Insight: The panelists dissect the difference between casual sex, dating, and friendship with benefits, recognizing the language and expectations that make modern relationships so confusing.

7. Compartmentalization, Discipline in Love, and Emotional Lessons (45:37–51:56)

• On emotional discipline:

  "All the things that will benefit us...take discipline. Sex and love is the same thing, you know what I mean?" (45:37, Dustin)

• Dustin describes cutting off contact with someone he loved because it wasn’t the right time/context, likening the pull of love/sex to a “drug.”
• All agree on the necessity for clear-sighted decisions about personal needs and relationship health, especially as they age and gain wisdom.

8. Progression & Growth: Lessons from Past Relationships (57:33–61:08)

• Dustin opens up about the lessons from his last long-term relationship:

  "Just showing up in the fullness of yourself and not necessarily trying to create or configure yourself as the perfect person for them." (58:39, Dustin)

  • He emphasizes the importance of showing friends (not just romantic partners) love and support, especially after bereavement.
• Mandii relates, expressing a deep appreciation for friendship as her chosen family and source of fulfillment outside romance.

9. Industry Bias, Representation, and Owning Your Brand (54:12–56:19)

• The group vents about industry stereotypes pigeonholing Black, queer, and sex-positive creators:

  “All you can make is a fucking vibrator? …I was so gagged.” (54:58, Weezy) "But y'all ain't ringing my bell. Why y’all only want a certain type of gay person, you know what I'm saying?" (56:19, Dustin)

• They celebrate their achievements (NYT bestseller, comedy shows) and encourage listeners to stay proud and undeterred despite industry gatekeeping.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "Ooh, hairy legs." – Dustin (06:06)
• "No, back hair is probably the most unattractive thing." – Mandii (07:39)
• "There should be no grace for a [man] to be dirty period. Just because you're a guy. That's crazy to me." – Dustin (15:33)
• "Humpty Dumpty, Comte Dumpty sat on the wall. Comty Dumpty, drain my motherfucking balls." – Dustin (18:04)
• "You just described a friendship with benefits. Is that what it is?" – Dustin (42:41)
• "If that’s what you want, you just look for that...in the meantime…compartmentalize." – Dustin (41:36)
• "All the things that will benefit us or be, you know, for our good, take discipline." – Dustin (45:37)

Segment Timestamps

• 00:30: Dustin’s intro, tour talk, and friendship origin
• 05:36: Truth or Dare: Hairy legs, back hair, and hygiene confessions
• 17:19: Dirty nursery rhyme challenge
• 22:20: Sex toy stories – dinosaur dildo anecdote
• 25:38: Music lyric ("Poetry") challenge
• 33:26: The “vibing doesn’t mean we’re together” debate starts
• 37:23: Dustin expounds on communication and emotional expectations
• 45:37: Cutting things off for self-preservation; love as a discipline
• 57:33: Reflections on growth and lessons from relationships

Original Style & Tone

The episode is a riotous, insightful blend of playful teasing, frank honesty, and unfiltered conversation—a trademark of “Decisions, Decisions.” The hosts and guest bring both comedic timing and hard-earned wisdom, creating a safe space for taboo-breaking dialogue that's as inviting as it is thought-provoking.

For Listeners: Why This Episode Matters

Whether you’re single, coupled, or navigating undefined spaces in between, this episode will make you laugh, squirm, and rethink the stories you tell yourself about romance, sex, and connection. It’s a reminder that self-awareness, open communication, and personal boundaries are the bedrock of both sexual freedom and emotional sanity.

Listen to this episode for:

• Honest reflections on intimacy and self-worth
• Hilarious stories about body hair, sex toys, and dating blunders
• Insightful debate on modern casual sex, emotional labor, and friendship
• A celebration of personal evolution and resilience in the face of stereotypes