Decisions, Decisions – EP 443: "The MF Read"

Date: October 20, 2025
Hosts: Mandii B and WeezyWTF

Episode Overview

In this candid and fiery episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF dive into the intricacies of non-traditional relationships, modern expectations around housing, dating, and financial security, and the pushback they often receive from listeners and society at large. The duo takes direct aim at toxic online comments, addresses generational shifts in attitudes, and unpacks personal challenges like loss, grief, and the realities of being ambitious Black women navigating love, finances, and public opinion. Expect vulnerable reflections, hilarious rants, and an unfiltered “read” of critics, culture, and each other.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Home, Happiness & Millennial Housing Realities

(02:14 – 14:00)

• Mandii’s Contentment in Atlanta: Mandii expresses deep satisfaction with her move: “I thought I would be like rushing super back to New York and I’m not. …That’s the joy of not having no fucking kids.” (03:52)
• The Therapy of Being Well: For the first time in years, Mandii feels so good, she jokes about skipping therapy because she’s just “bragging about life.” (03:56)
• Weezy’s Cartography Experience: Weezy discusses "cartography" (the astrology of location), describing how it validated her deep connection to Mexico and Brazil: “Where do I go all the time? Mexico. Mexico and Brazil, bitch says, strong sense of belonging, energizing home base…” (05:27-06:41)
• New York Real Estate Madness: Weezy details the financial rabbit holes of buying in NYC—unexpected taxes, co-op/condo confusion, and skyrocketing prices: “You would pay $2,300 a month on top of the mortgage. …I’m tired of people forcing me. And it’s hard because my man, I’ve…” (08:58)
• Homeownership Pressure: Both hosts critique the outdated “American dream” ideal, especially under current conditions: “Everything they told us was a lie.” (15:32)

2. Societal Scripts & The Millennial Unraveling of Old Narratives

(14:00 – 18:00, 31:06 – 35:19)

• Challenging Norms: Mandii rails against being shoehorned into traditional paths: “Be an independent woman. Get your decree. Got that… now they just sitting on my shelf, not worth a goddamn, and I’m sitting on $42,000 worth of loans.” (14:15)
• Children & Money: Both agree the only friends happy to parent are rich, but even then, parenting comes with sacrifices and second thoughts: “All my friends with kids…there’s always a ‘but’…the financial, the time, everything.” (15:19)
• Homeownership is a Scam?: “The American dream is gone. Everything they told us was a lie…” (15:32)
• Prostitution Mindset in Dating: A conversation about women who expect large “date fees,” and the blurred lines between transactional relationships and authentic partnership: “If you are charging and they were going to take you on a date…you are a prostitute.” (31:15)

3. Public Scrutiny & Social Media Clapping Back

(35:19 – 45:49)

• Reading Online Haters: The central “read” kicks off as they dissect negative (and often misogynistic or misguided) YouTube comments directed at their choices and platforms.
  • Notable Read:

    “I’m not toxic, I’m not crazy. And what I’m not is dangerous. What I am is the woman you wish you was, puss asshole.”
    — Mandii B (37:49)

• The Power of Speaking Up: Mandii shares her journey from people-pleasing and “taking crumbs” to now being absolutely clear and vocal about what she wants and expects. (38:25 – 41:48)
• Coexisting and Pages in Relationships: Both note that healthy partnerships often require weathering times when partners aren’t on the same page—communication is key: “Checking—are we on the same page? …When your relationship ain’t [good], you got off the page.” (45:49 – 46:05)

4. Non-Traditional Relationships, Check-Ins & Communication

(42:52 – 46:05)

• Open Relationships Require More Dialogue: Weezy describes the constant need for “check-ins” in her open relationship: “Are we on the same page again today? Because yes, pages can flip.” (43:31)
• Monogamy vs Non-Monogamy: They reflect on how non-traditional relationships can actually inspire more frequent honest conversations than typical “default monogamy." (44:44-45:49)

5. Cultural Specifics: The Braiding Salon Chronicles

(21:48 – 31:06)

• Weezy’s Hair Nightmares: Weezy tells a hilarious but ultimately disheartening story about chasing affordable braids in Flatbush, encountering salon chaos, and navigating cultural norms.
  • Notable Quote:

    “She said, ‘Everything okay?’ I said, ‘No, this isn’t what I asked for.’ …I started to tear up.”
    — Weezy (27:19)

• Why Quality (and Price) Matters: The struggles highlight the challenges of finding reliable Black hair services, grief over the loss of a beloved stylist, and inflation in Black beauty.

6. Loss, Grief, and Toxic Responses

(50:45 – 61:12)

• Weezy’s Grief: Weezy vulnerably recounts the sudden loss of her stylist, Shay, and the emotional turmoil of seeing callous, judgmental comments about her late friend’s family’s financial situation.
  • Memorable Quote:

    “You really came out to say that about a black family, you stupid bitch.”
    — Weezy (54:29)

• Black Community Realities: They address the lack of life insurance education, systematic barriers to generational wealth, and urge listeners to think twice before shaming families in crisis.
  • Mandii’s Mic Drop:

    “Do you have it set up to where your people connected to you [can afford your funeral]?”
    — Mandy B (57:00)

7. Sex Positivity, Respectability, and Black Women in Media

(62:19 – 68:54)

• Support & Critique from Other Black Women: Both express frustration that much of the greatest resistance to their work comes not from men, but other Black women in positions of power. (62:19-63:33)
• Respectability Politics in Brand Deals: Weezy references being excluded from brand opportunities due to her sexually-liberated public persona, despite similar white sex podcasts facing none of the same gatekeeping.

8. Judging Women for Reproductive Choices: The Cardi B Conversation

(68:54 – 73:31)

• Who Has the Right to Judge: They debate the hypocrisy of judging celebrities’ reproductive choices versus the realities facing less wealthy women.

  • “I've had those conversations with friends, bro, pull the vacuum out.”
    — Mandy B (67:46)

• Celebrity Reality vs. Public Expectations: Deep dive into Cardi B’s choices, relationship expectations, and societal double standards applied to Black women with money versus women without.

Notable Quotes

• Mandii B (03:56):
  “I have a breather. This time of year for the last five years has been the year that I crash… And so maybe that’s why like this year just feels different because I’m not in that space. So I feel good, I feel great… All my niggas are still showing up.”
• Weezy (05:27):
  “Where do I go all the time? Mexico. Mexico and Brazil, bitch, says, strong sense of belonging, energizing home base... I saw that shit. I said, this might be real, bro.”
• Mandii B (14:15):
  “Girls, I understand why they advise us to get married and have kids before 25. Because after that, our brain starts working and the decision won’t seem so reasonable anymore.”
• Weezy (43:33):
  “Pages can flip… Being on the same page is literally—when someone’s off the page, that’s how a relationship ends.”
• Mandii B (37:49):
  “I’m not toxic, I’m not crazy. And what I’m not is dangerous. What I am is the woman you wish you was, puss asshole.”
• Weezy (54:29):
  “You really came out to say that about a black family, you stupid bitch.”
• Mandii B (57:00):
  “Do you have it set up to where your people connected to you [can afford your funeral]?”

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 02:14 – Mandii talks “manifesting” her life in Atlanta and finding peace.
• 05:27 – Weezy explains cartography and global “soul homes.”
• 08:52 – 12:18 – Deep dive into NYC real estate and shocking costs.
• 14:15 – 15:32 – The unraveling of the Millennial “dream” and motherhood pressures.
• 21:48 – 31:06 – Weezy’s hair salon misadventures and grief for her stylist.
• 35:19 – 37:49 – Beginning of the “MF Read”: Reading online haters (esp. Alexis Barnes).
• 41:48 – 46:05 – Communication in non-traditional relationships; being on (and off) the same page.
• 50:45 – 61:12 – The loss of Shay and confronting toxic, classist comments (esp. Lily Edwards).
• 62:19 – 63:33 – Black women’s resistance to their own liberation in corporate settings.
• 68:54 – 73:31 – Discourse on judging women’s reproductive choices, especially high-profile women like Cardi B.

Memorable Moments

• The DM Readings: Mandii and Weezy “read” their most aggravating YouTube commenters, both cathartic and comedic.
• Weezy’s Emotional Vulnerability: The open grief around her stylist’s death and the reality of being left alone, financially and emotionally, after loss.
• Mandii’s “Puss Asshole” Monologue: Quickly becoming iconic for its full-throated self-defense and refusal to be shamed.
• Cardi B Debate: Intersection of celebrity, agency, and double standards for Black women is discussed with complexity and humor.
• Final Reflections on Voice: Both hosts reinforce the value of candid, authentic self-expression, especially for Black women handling public scrutiny.

Final Takeaways

• Live Authentically: Both Mandii and Weezy encourage listeners to define happiness and success for themselves, refusing to bow to outdated norms or others’ opinions.
• Communicate Openly: Whether in non-traditional relationships or navigating daily life, communicating needs and boundaries is central.
• Push Back Against Respectability: The pressures Black women face from inside their community can be as intense as those from outside—and must be named.
• Don’t Judge Families in Crisis: Especially in Black communities, shaming people for not meeting arbitrary economic benchmarks misses the larger context of systemic injustice.

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(Note: Skip to 35:19 for the main “read” and clap-back portions; 50:45 onward for the deeply moving segment on loss and community support.)