EP 456: Washed, Wild, & Free

Summary

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Decisions, Decisions – EP 456: Washed, Wild, & Free

Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Release Date: January 19, 2026

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Episode Overview

In “Washed, Wild, & Free,” co-hosts Mandii B and WeezyWTF dive into the joys and struggles of navigating nightlife, relationships, and personal boundaries in their 30s. The conversation is an unfiltered, often hilarious reflection on growing older, letting go of traditional relationship expectations, and embracing self-awareness about what they want (and don’t want) from love, sex, and social lives. Throughout, they swap stories about party escapades, dating non-traditionally, and learning to prioritize themselves amidst shifting societal pressures.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Defining "Washed" vs. "Wild"

• Opening Banter: The ladies joke about hair, quick weaves, and growing up, setting the tone for an episode reflecting on aging and partying.
• Weezy’s “Washed” Story: Weezy shares her anticipation for a big night out, only for her energy to fizzle before the party even starts, eventually calling it a night with her Kindle rather than partying till sunrise.
  • “This is how I know I’m washed. I was hyped for three weeks...and then by 11:45, I’m starting to get tired!” (04:26)
• Mandii’s Rebuttal: Mandii pushes back, insisting Weezy may still be wild, since she actually went out, arguing true “washed” people would have stayed home.

2. Social Lives, Clubs, and Nightlife Evolution

• Changing Nightlife Habits: They reminisce about how their clubbing routines have evolved from all-night parties and after-hours spots to plotting strategic nap times and leaving early.
  • Mandii: “My little run is...I have to take a nap...then head out to eat...I like to go to Whiskey Mistress, then McKinnon—that’s my Sunday.” (09:07)
• Contrast Between Now & Five Years Ago: Weezy details a typical “party girl” night in her 20s versus now, noting shifts from late-night dinners and clubs to earlier nights or skipped weekends.
  • “Five years ago, I was out till the morning, now I’m in bed by midnight.” (10:17)

3. Relationship Expectations, Non-Traditional Values & Societal Pressures

• Dating & Non-Monogamy: Mandii shares her story about cutting off a suitor over differing desires for children and monogamy, reflecting on how traditional expectations clash with her needs.
  • “He wants me to want kids. He wants to believe that I’m going to change my mind...” (14:47)
  • Both discuss how men often want children for “legacy” reasons, while disregarding how it changes women’s lives:
    “That is the most crazy, most selfish bullshit I heard. Because guess whose life is gonna change? The woman’s.” – Mandii (17:31)
• Why Want Kids (Or Not)? Weezy explains her personal desire to become a mom is rooted in something “missing,” not societal pressure, and stresses too many become parents that shouldn’t.
  • “Too many people are parents and shouldn’t be. We are so critical of those who shouldn’t be parents…” (19:43)

4. Where to Be Child-Free & City Culture

• Cities with Fewest Children: Mandii shares a list of U.S. cities where childless adults thrive, including San Francisco, Seattle, New York, and Atlanta—discussing how local culture affects societal pressure around having kids. (21:53–26:07)
  • Weezy: “In New York, I never felt I was missing out by not having a family because so many of our peers don’t have kids.” (22:22)
• Social Scene and City Vibes: The hosts share travel anecdotes, including “awkward white people moments” in Austin, Atlanta, and abroad, highlighting cultural differences for Black folks navigating these spaces.
  • Mandii on Atlanta sex clubs: “Them whites is different than the ones here in New York…looks like they have Confederate flags on their pickup trucks.” (27:24)

5. First Date Questions & Navigating Compatibility

• Listener Segment: They react to a viral clip about the top five first date questions for assessing compatibility, adding their own insights:
  • What’s a perfect weekend for you?
  • Planner or go with the flow?
  • What are you into right now?
  • How do you like to communicate?
  • What’s a green flag you look for?
• Mandii’s Priority: Communication style is most important; she observes that habits form early and shape the relationship.
  • “If you like to talk on the phone...immediately start the habits of him answering your calls.” (34:22)
• Weezy’s Perspective: She cares less about how someone likes to communicate, more about creating her preferred dynamic; also, that text-only relationships are “an afterthought.” (34:48)

6. Private Relationships & Sharing on Air

• Learning from Past Transparency: Both hosts reflect on keeping more of their relationships private for personal and partner comfort, navigating what to share on the podcast and what not.

7. Dating in Shared Social Circles

• Entanglements & Ex Overlap: Stories about running into exes, sharing partners with friends, and the importance (and challenge) of not judging or blocking friends' romantic opportunities.
  • Weezy discusses nearly dating the same man as a friend and discovering the truth post-hookup, leading to a conversation about honesty, “dating” definitions, and the need to let friends pursue their own connections.
    • “We gotta work on not making our friends miss out on their soulmates.” (45:22)

8. Knowing Your Worth & Planning for Pleasure

• Mandii’s “If he wanted to, he would” Principle: She calls out men who claim not to “plan for pleasure,” underscoring that interest and prioritization are clear from behavior—don’t accept crumbs.
  • “Men plan and are excited about being around people that they’re excited about being around.” (49:23)
• Self-Reflection: Mandii recognizes her own past patterns of accepting the bare minimum, now grateful for her growth:
  • “I’m glad I learned. I literally would only get dick when a n***a made himself available…oh my God, yuck.” (50:43)

9. Generational "Hoe" Aesthetics & Cultural Shifts

• “Old vs. Young Hoes” Fashion: The conversation pivots, with both hosts poking fun at generational fashion markers among “old” and “young” party girls—bandage dresses, BBLs, hot brands, and evolving nightclub style.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Being "Washed":
  • “This is how I know I’m washed. I was hyped for three weeks...by 11:45, I’m starting to get tired!” – Weezy (04:26)
• On Childfree Life:
  • “He wants to believe that he can make me change my mind…because a part of him liked me. But I’m not who you want me to be.” – Mandii (14:47–15:29)
• On Societal Motives for Parenthood:
  • “Carry on my last name...Fucking legacy.” – Mandii, impersonating men’s answers (17:21)
  • “That is the most...selfish bullshit I heard. Because guess whose life is gonna change? The woman’s.” – Mandii (17:31)
• On Relationship Transparency:
  • “I believe my relationship is so successful because whatever I share, I go over it for real...I have to ask first. ‘Can I share?’” – Mandii (37:10)
• On Dating Friends’ Exes:
  • “We have to stop...not making our friends miss out on their soulmates.” – Mandii (45:22)
• On Generational Aesthetics:
  • “There’s a young whore and there’s an old whore aesthetic...bandage dresses, BBLs, and Dolce Gabbana.” – Weezy & Mandii (53:33–54:14)

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Key Timestamps

• 03:00–08:00: Weezy’s “Washed” night out story
• 10:00–12:00: Comparing nightlife routines now versus younger years
• 14:30–19:00: Discussion on wanting kids, men’s legacy fixation, societal expectations
• 21:53–26:07: City rankings for childless adults; societal/cultural analysis
• 32:01–35:38: Viral “first date questions” and the importance of communication styles
• 39:00–46:00: Sharing partners, friend drama over exes, “dating” definitions
• 48:30–51:00: Accepting less than you want in flings; learning to set standards
• 53:00–54:30: Generational club/hoe fashion humor

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Tone & Takeaways

This episode is classic Mandii & Weezy—raw, candid, and comedic, balancing jokes about nightlife and sex with real talk on relationships, personal growth, and social expectations. Listeners walk away with both laughter and lessons: it’s okay to outgrow old habits, demand what you want in love and pleasure, and reject the scripts society tries to write for you—even if it means being “washed” and wild at the same time.

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Transcript

[A]

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[B]

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[C]

Welcome to Decisions, Decisions.

[A]

I don't think you should say decisions, decisions. It sounded like you was talking in cursive.

[C]

You definitely say the. Welcome.

[A]

Welcome to the new podcast.

[C]

Oh, wait, you wanna say it together? Decisions, Decisions.

[A]

Welcome, everybody, to another episode of Decisions, Decisions. It's your girl, Mandy B, AKA Peg Thee Stallion, AKA Mandy Le Pew, AKA Mandy Dirt, AKA Mandy Baskins, AKA that Beach.

[C]

Welcome back, everybody. My name is Weezy. And, oh, yeah, we've never been on here before, so new for y', all, we haven't.

[A]

I ain't gonna hold you. I think I told Alex I liked it. So I'm gonna copy the set that we're gonna record in Atlanta at my studio. I'm gonna make it like this color scheme and all. What?

[C]

I'm finna get that skunk hairdo next. Then.

[A]

Uh, no, you not. You would never. I would never do a 27 piece.

[C]

Bitch, I've done a 27 piece. I'm from Florida.

[A]

You ain't do no goddamn 27 piece. Bitch, I know you since you was 15.

[C]

I've done the little. Like, the little bob ones. They didn't look like that, though. I didn't do the short one. Oh, I don't know if I would ever.

[A]

The 27 pieces are short. You did a quick weave.

[C]

Oh, I did a.

[A]

But not a 27. This is 27 pieces.

[C]

How do you know it's exactly 27?

[A]

She counted. That's what the box said. Oh, numbers don't lie. What you want me to say? What do you want me to say? Goddamn it.

[C]

Well, wouldn't remember that because I'm fucking washed. Let's have a catch up about how I don't want to do anything.

[A]

No. What? You're not depressed, are you?

[C]

Oh, no.

[A]

Oh, you just really are. Washed.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

But you're not even 35 yet.

[C]

I got three more months. And let me tell you something, I literally. So this is how I know I'm washed. And tell me if anybody else can relate. And if we are together, washer and dryers. So here's what happens. All right. I go out last weekend, okay? And before I went out, all I was talking about that whole week was, oh my God, I can't wait till we go out next Saturday. I'm gonna get so fucked up. I'm gonna get fucked up. I was talking about it for two weeks. Oh my God, we're gonna do this. I'm gonna sp. Sprinkle a little molly in my drink. It's gonna be a time. Then we're gonna go to this new afties in New York. It's called Refuge. It stays open till 2pm I'm gonna.

[A]

Be out all night. Woo.

[C]

Bitch went to dinner right around dinner, right? And I did a late dinner. Little 9:30, you know, that's the party girl. Dinner time.

[A]

That is. That's a late dinner.

[C]

When I'm at one of our favorites in SoHo, you already know. And I'm getting that duck breast and you know all that little. Mm, mm. I was like, fucking. It's 11:45. I'm starting to get tired. So now I'm looking like around the table. I'm like, let's just do the drugs here. And they're like, damn, bitch, we ain't even get to the spot. I'm like, I need something to pimp me up.

[A]

So, yeah, I do drugs at dinner.

[C]

So I'm like, should I get in, by the way?

[A]

Not drugs, drugs. Shrooms. That's still drugs.

[C]

Uh, honey. And you did drugs.

[A]

I forgot you was on the mic. Nigga over there just want to chime in and talk shit.

[C]

Yeah, Go back to the point where they be like, where they hate editing.

[A]

Dirt because I put it. I take them in chocolate. That's still drugs. But it's chocolate in chocolate. Yeah, it's cacao.

[C]

Mine was water. It was molly.

[A]

Oh.

[C]

So anyway, I'm thinking now, 11:45, I'm getting tired, but I don't want to be a party pooper. So I'm like starting to play. This is how I know I'm getting tired. I start playing music at the table while the check come in. I was like, ooh, rhythm is a dancer. Let's wake back up. And everybody else is like, bitch, we've been up. So we get to the spot. My friend Andre was DJing at this like, Brooklyn Warehousey thing. And it was a vibe. And so I'm like, what time you get on? He's like, I'm gonna play one to 3:30.

[A]

And I was like, damn, that's late.

[C]

One o', clock, nigga. But it's all Right. So now what I do, I don't know if anybody else says it. I go in yap mode. I just start yapping. I get a little high and I just start chatting to make the time pass. And I just start yapping to everybody. Cause that's how it, like, keeps me up. Cause I like to learn about people's lives. I start talking to a whorehive member.

[A]

She's like, oh, my God. You and me, we both like, I'm a piano.

[C]

This, this. And we talk about 30 minutes. Boom.

[A]

30 minutes.

[C]

I know because I was high.

[A]

And she said she needed the time to pass. Damn.

[C]

Okay, so three o' clock come, right? So my N looks at me. He's like, well, we already here. We already out, bitch, it snowed the night before.

[A]

We already out.

[C]

I'm like, so then I say to Andre, like, damn, you got another show tomorrow in Atlanta. Damn, you need some rest. He's like, no, I ain't seen you in a minute. We're good.

[A]

I'm like, oh, you was trying to go home.

[C]

Yeah. So we get to the athletes. This new spot in New York called.

[A]

How are you saying you're washed, but you made it all the way to the Athys. This is not a washed story.

[C]

My wash doesn't make it to the afternoon. Like, you. Okay, hold on.

[A]

You wanting to leave but still being out doesn't make you washed, bro. Like, this is not a story of you being washed. You being washed would have been like, instead of going out, I went home and binged the beast in me on Netflix.

[C]

Oh, I did it.

[A]

And it had popcorn and a glass of wine that is washed. But you made it to the afties at three o' clock in the morning.

[C]

Okay, so once I get to the afties, right now, it's about eight of us, but I ain't have my id, so I'm like, I'm definitely not gonna get in. It's okay, guys. No. So everybody's like, no, we're all together, but we not gonna leave Weezy. And I'm like, okay. So then we go to the front. My Mia is like, give me your phone. So he pulls out my id. He's like, this is my girl. Blah, blah, blah, blah. And he's like, doesn't work. She can't get in. I'm like, no problem. Then the manager comes out, and he's like, looking at me now. This really pissed me off. He's like, yeah, she's fine. She's good. So I look old?

[A]

No, over 21. Bruh, I don't think so. But you look over 21. Well, yeah, you look over 21. Mind you, you should be happy. And you don't even know. When we was young with fake IDs, this bitch, they would look at her and be like, yeah, bro, this ain't you good try. Like, she got worked hard. She got her fake ID crumpled in his eyes. And he said, I know you got school in the morning. Go on home now and ruin my night, bitch. I couldn't be out, mind you. I had a fake ID of a bitch who was five' nine. Where the fuck am I five' nine anywhere. Mine did look like mine. Yours? Yours did not look like mine.

[C]

She was a little too brown.

[A]

Yours did not look.

[C]

She was a little too brown, and I'm a little too white somewhere.

[A]

But mine said I was 5 9.

[C]

Okay, same facial.

[A]

But you should be happy that you're now able to just get in.

[C]

So boom, I get into this crackhead afties on tight crackheads. This is how I know I'm mad. The afties are actually really good. But I was mad cause I was so tired. So you know how, like, you could be doing the same shit as other people, but you just gonna be talking shit about them? Cause, like, I could be doing some hoe shit, and I'd be like, she fucked a bunch of niggas, but I could have fucked a bunch of niggas. That's the shit I was on. I was in there after you, and I was like, you were in a bad mood. These people are fucking drug addicts.

[A]

Oh, well, while she was drinking Molly water and dinner. The hypocrisy. Oh, I'm pissed.

[C]

So then this girl's sitting there with a lollipop, and she's like, oh, my God, I'm having so much fun. You're having so much fun. I'm like, ugh. I was just so mad because I can't be it. I used to be me. I was young, wild, and free. So anyway, bitches, you are still.

[A]

You're still wild and free. We both hooked, yo.

[C]

Yeah, this is what my washed ass did. I was like, damn, I'm getting kind of tired. Andre was like, nigga, you the one who's talking about this shit. I was like, okay. So I set an alarm on my phone when I was going home. Be like, damn, I got shit going on. You know, I got to record Horrible. Even though it was a week later. I was just starting to, you know. So not.

[A]

You had to get vocal rest a.

[C]

Week Before I put an alarm on my phone for 5am Cause I was like, that's too much. That's too far. So my man and him stay. I go home, y'.

[A]

All.

[C]

I get home to read my Kindle. I was tucked in the bed, in the sheets, reading a book.

[A]

So she's washed because after and afters, she went home and looked at her Kindle. But it's only because she couldn't go to sleep. Cause she was on Molly. Hey, what are we talking about?

[C]

I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm reading that book. I was so high. I was reading the back of the book. Published by Simon Schuster, 2006. 2006.

[A]

Yeah. Look at that. That was a good year. Very alert. Very alert and aware, by the way, the most unwashed washed story I think I've ever heard on a podcast.

[C]

But it is washed if you know you can't hang. And I also think this is the biggest washed factor about it. I was ready for this party for three weeks. Oh, it wasn't a music festival. It was just a Brooklyn little night out, like. And I am, like, hyped about it. I made the dinner plans three weeks before I picked my outfit. Three weeks before, I'm like, we're gonna go out. And then literally to the point where that Sunday, the party was on Saturday. I'm told, my man on Sunday, we shouldn't have a drink tonight.

[A]

Cause we're gonna drink on Saturday.

[C]

Who have I become?

[A]

That's crazy. Thank you. I mean, but I do that, like, on Sundays in Atlanta. I'll be ready to do my little. My little run. And my little run is. It's a run to where I have to take a nap. So my nap is normally at like 6:30.

[C]

Ooh.

[A]

I wake up about 7:30, 7:45, then get ready, then I'll head out to eat. That's what I. So I go to eat like, 8:30, because then I'll leave at like 9:30. I like to be a whiskey mistress. That's the one we've talked about on Patreon, where it's like Nike tech suits and fedoras. But it's like the older crowd of N that, like, just still ain't giving up the streets. But I like going there because I go there and it's just free drinks galore.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

So I go there from. It closes at 12. So I go there from like 10, 10:30 to like 11:45. Then next door is the McKinnon. So I go there and keep drinking. But that's normally like every Sunday, three spots as long as I'm in Atlanta. And now I'm telling the whole world where I be. But bitch, I be up in the. Yeah, yeah, I made sure I be through that.

[C]

Do you know what used to be my repertoire? This was me. This is the type of girl I was. Okay, this is me five years ago. Me and my girl.

[A]

They know what you was doing five years ago. We can have on this podcast. You ain't gotta live.

[C]

I'm gonna go through my full night. Okay? So boom. I would start the night, I'd have a cocktail somewhere in the les not last lap. Cause you gotta go like at a certain time. But you can't go like midnight back in the day when it was lit. Cause that's all the people that listen to podcasts and shit. You gotta go for the neighborhood people around 9:45. Then I walk over, have my late night dinner at Lucien. The new kids do Dime Square La Deev. I'm an old school New York bitch. Okay, okay. So I was doing Lucienne. Then I'm like, okay, it's midnight time. Where are we going to go for a little she she. I'd hit up the blonde. That was my little Soho jam. Paul's baby grand, Gold Room. Boom. Then about 2:30. I'm tired of this shit and now I need niggas. So that's when I used to go before everybody was at the Tons Cafe Azuli sometimes. And then I was like, okay, too many niggas know me in here. Now I gotta go. So then I would have a little small stint in Brooklyn Mirage or whatever afties was in Brooklyn. I like to go to little Homo the after parties. You ever been to one of them? Like the little lombada?

[A]

That's crazy.

[C]

What, you never been to a homotha after party?

[A]

I don't really do after parties. Cause I'm washed. I'm going home, bitch. I'm going home. I don't normally make it to the afternoon.

[C]

I be in there at 8 in the morning. Nicki Minaj, come on them niggas on the table.

[A]

I be lit by then.

[C]

It's like the drug dealing place.

[A]

That's the thing. I do liquors. So I be so lit to where it's like, ooh, bitch. Slurring, stumbling. Time to go home. Yeah, this is upper material. Yeah, you do.

[C]

No, no, no, no. I've been doing drugs every weekend, but I don't drink that much.

[A]

You don't drink like that? Bitch, we doing shots.

[C]

If I drink that much I ain't gonna last.

[A]

So let me tell you how.

[C]

Like, I see why the club closed at 4.

[A]

I wanna tell you because y' all know we haven't, like, been in the studio for a while. So there's a nigga that was around that y' all didn't really know about, but grand opening, grand closing. So I met a guy at the mck, and he go there a lot. Don't know what it is, y', all, I have a type. And it's not even aesthetics. This nigga Too had a PhD. So in 2025, the theme was N with PhDs.

[C]

What is the look?

[A]

I don't know. I'll show you a pic. Well, I don't even know if I have a picture of him. I think I do. I have a screenshot of him because somehow he ended up on someone else's page. And I said, nigga, I don't even have your social media, but yet somehow you ended up on a picture of my. I'll show you him. I'll show you him. Anyways, so he had very long locks, cute down his back, really smart, had money, no kids. And that was the problem. No kids. And I think he was very traditional. So, anyways, I met him at the spot that I go to all the time. So almost every other time I go there, I run into him. And it was the thing where once we saw each other, we would stand by each other the rest of the night. He would get me drinks. We're locked in. We'd either go to a diner after or, you know, whatever the case may be. Right. However, I even. Bitch, I even spent my birthday with him. He bought a table with. Yeah, girl. Girl, your birthday. My birthday, girl. Anyways, so the last time I just saw him, I was lit. But I was in my feelings. And I had to let. I had to let him know. I said, hey, this has to stop. Now, when we see each other, it could be a head nod or a deuces, but let's. We don't gotta do this every time we see each other. And the reason it got there is because the last two times he's seen me, mind you, he did the same thing that scientist BAE did. The first Mind you. We met, probably back in March. He found out I didn't want kids and he ghosted me, stopped hitting me. Then when we saw each other again, he came back around, and then we had the conversation about me being non monogamous. And, girl, when I tell you, he just couldn't. It's like, he was so amused by me, but also, like, really confused by me at the same time. And so as we, like, kept going, when we would get together and be intimate, I guess I would say things about, like, how I want us to be. Mind you, I got my boyfriends now. Like, n. You done waited too long. I got niggas now. And I'd let him know. And it just got to the point where I kind of started feeling judged by him because I didn't want kids. And so we would have. Bro, drunk as fuck, bro, I'm on shrooms. I'm lit. Why are we at 2 o' clock in the morning talking about how I don't want kids? And so.

[C]

Because he wants you to want to have kids.

[A]

He wants me to want me to have kids. He wants to believe that I'm going to change my mind. He wants to believe that he can make me change my mind because a part of him liked me. But he's like, so this is how you are? Yes, nigga, this is how I am.

[C]

I also must say, as someone who doesn't want kids, I think you could appreciate as someone that wants kids. Imagine if I met someone I was in love with and they didn't want kids, and then I had a child with them. How I would feel all the time in the back of my head, damn, you didn't really fuck with this.

[A]

Oh, no, I would have kids. Becky would have been pulled out with him. I ain't even gonna hold you. I don't want kids.

[C]

But I'm just saying, like, the way you're trying to make someone like this thing.

[A]

It's not even that he was. I'll be honest, at that point, do.

[C]

You think I'm gonna be the mom that you want me to be?

[A]

That's the thing with him. I literally, the last time I was with him, I said, we can stop doing this. I don't want to talk to you anymore. When we see each other, we can be cordial, but. But also, I was like, nigga, you cockblocking. Because now every time we see each other at this spot, we stay by each other for the rest of the night. And I was like, you don't like how I am. You like the idea of me, but you keep waiting every time we talk for me to change who I am in my mind. And I'm like, no, this isn't who I am. Like, I'm not who you want me to be. And so I was like, we can stop the back and forth. And I literally had to just cut them off. And it was interesting because I was talking to my friends about it, and they were like, dang. But, like, we liked him, you know? You liked him. And I was like, yeah, but does he like me? And so what I found last year, he said almost the same thing verbatim as scientist bae. When I had mentioned that I didn't want kids, their, like, response was, so you just wanna be a hoe for the rest of your life? And I was like, who's Heather? Both of them. They didn't say it like that, but that's how natty.

[C]

No, you gotta say y'. All no, bitch.

[A]

That's how I received it, like, because they were so confused.

[C]

But what'd they say?

[A]

Kinda, you wanna be a hope for the rest of your life? That's what the fuck I heard. Bitch. And I was like, no. Like, I still want a partner. I'm looking for. Like, it's weird because when I asked them, and this is the conversation that I found more interesting when I asked them why they wanted to be fathers. Because they're both, like, 36, 37, make jobs well over 200k. They nice cars, nice spots. They be out every weekend doing the things right? But they're both ready right now to be a father. And when I ask both of them why they want to be a dad, it's so interesting. And, ladies, if you're talking to a man with no kids who's, like, now wanting to be a dad, I was like, so what makes you want to be a father, bro? Both of them damn near said the same thing.

[C]

Carry on my last name.

[A]

Fucking legacy. Fucking carry on my last name. And I was like, yes, we too.

[C]

Hope your son is a fucking professor.

[A]

Do you know what's crazy about that, though?

[C]

The world needs it.

[A]

So I'm asking, and I'm like, shut up. Okay. So that's it. He was like, yeah, like. Because my life's not really gonna change that much, but I wanna be a dad. And I said, that is the most crazy, most selfish bullshit I heard. Because guess whose life is gonna change? The woman's like, I have friends right now. Like, I love Deondra. And we talk about it so much. She's like, I'm having to relearn myself as a whole person, because I'm a whole new person now that I'm a mom. My life is different. I can't just get up and go. I can't. And it's crazy that men can be like, well, I want to be a dad. Because I want to be a dad. It's like they just want to wear the title, but they don't, like, really have the idea of how it will change their lives because they have the option and opportunity for it not to impact or change their life.

[C]

I actually had a guy ask me why I wanted to be a mom who didn't want children.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

And it was first date conversation. I don't even really remember his name. I remember where I was. We were having a cocktail at the Public rooftop. And when he said he didn't want kids, there must have been a look that I had that immediately turned me off. And he's like, you need to like your life. You have to be mom. I was like, yes. And he said, well, why do you want children? I said, to be honest with you, even as a young adult, there's something missing. I know that I need to get my life in a financial place and in a healthy mental place to be a mom, but there's absolutely something missing you.

[A]

Because a lot of bitches out here fucking with, like, fucking broke. I know. And having babies broke and having babies without getting themselves together.

[C]

People think because, like, you'll eventually have them. No. That's why I believe in abortion. But basically what I said to him was, I would like to extend my family beyond me and that partner. And I also really crave the desire to. To learn and grow and teach someone that's, you know, an extension of me. And he said to me, I meet women that want kids all the time, and I feel like that's the only answer that I can't combat. If, you know, it's something you've wanted forever, right where you're prepping for it. I have nothing that we can go back and forth about. He said, what I do go back and forth about is women that say I was born to be a mom. He's like, I feel like that's a woman's answer, where a man's answer is legacy. He's like, the second I hear women say that, I'm like, no, you were born to think you should be a mom and a how and a wife.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But, like, is that your true desire? And I think when it comes to creating and wanting family, the reason I respect those who don't want children so much is because I really believe too many people are parents and shouldn't be. And we are so critical of those who shouldn't be parents. I know some fuck niggas and women that are terrible moms, and I feel like, what is the point just to say you did it or I'm that age.

[A]

Like bitch, if you want to do something just to say you did it, jump out a plane and skydive.

[C]

I've heard a friend of mine say.

[A]

With some sharks as an excuse to.

[C]

Not wanting to have an abortion. I mean, we're both in love. We're mid-30s. Okay.

[A]

Bringing a baby cause yeah, it's just interesting. For this episode, I did want to talk about a few things.

[C]

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[A]

Oh, I have a list for tops and bottoms. Let's see for people like me.

[C]

Oh, you like the little.

[A]

So y' all for tops and bottoms. This week I went through because this was a thing that like really like I felt away about it. So I went through and found cities with the fewest children and the most adults without kids. Now this could work both ways. These could be cities where they don't have kids. So they're maybe looking to have kids or cities that don't make you feel guilty for not having kids.

[C]

I'll say for me, not make you feel guilty. I'm looking at this list.

[A]

So for me. And when we get to the bottom list, I think that being in New York is like, through my 20s and my 30s, New York was not only a form of birth control, but I never felt like I was missing out by not having a family because so many of our peers don't have kids.

[C]

Actually, one thing that my mom noticed when she was in New York. So we brought my mom here for Christmas. It was just the three of us all week. And my mom has always talked about moving to New York, moving back, moving back. She's like, you, I can't do it. I'm actually too old to live here. It's a little too hard to get around.

[A]

It's just a hard life.

[C]

And she's like, just to go. Cause my mom, we're making Christmas dinner, let's just go run and get. I think I wanna get green peppers and blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, okay, well, Whole Foods, 15 minute walk. But, I mean, I guess you can get in a cab. She's like, I'm not gonna get in.

[A]

A cab for dinner. Oh, yeah? Nah, bro, I order, it's free. Everything gonna just be delicious.

[C]

So then my man's gotta jump in the car. But then once he jumps in the car to take her, what's he gotta do when he comes back?

[A]

Find parking, bitch. So it's like, parking is.

[C]

And New York is not easy. And so she then said to me, what are you gonna do when you have the baby? Like, what are you gonna do? And I'm really mad that she raised that up because if y' all been listening to the show, you would know my happy relationship only has one little issue. It's not bitches, it ain't niggas, it ain't money, it's where the fuck are we going to live? Where are we going to live?

[A]

Well, now you're about to really live by Coastal, but tops and bottoms. Here is a list of the cities with the fewest children or the most adults without kids.

[C]

Okay, let's see this list.

[A]

All right, we have number one, San Francisco, California. Which to me makes sense. Cause all the work, the gays. Oh, oh, what?

[C]

What? I was gonna say, San Francisco has one of the highest rents because it has such an influx for startups and tech companies.

[A]

So then it's like, New York people working. Okay. My bad.

[C]

She said the homosexual, the gays.

[A]

I mean, science.

[C]

Yeah, make that a clip.

[A]

Okay, the second one is Seattle, Washington. I don't know.

[C]

That's what nobody wants to hear.

[A]

I like Seattle. No, no, no. I actually like Seattle. It's one of my favorite cities in the U.S. i love it.

[C]

Anywho, so you would go there to hang out?

[A]

I actually want to go there to like. Yeah, I want to do a weekend. That's not work. I love it. Me and Vinny had a blast on the pier. Okay.

[C]

Me and Dub work. I love hours to go home. I gotta tell you, the second we went out, I love Sus. She was like. The time she was living in Boston.

[A]

Don't shut up.

[C]

The time I was living in New.

[A]

York, she like going there.

[C]

Bitch. No, I like the whorehive there. Even they don't want to be there.

[A]

But see, that's why. Listen. Okay, next city is Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, followed by Scottsdale, Arizona. I don't know where Daly City, California is.

[C]

Me neither.

[A]

The next one, interesting, but not surprising. Boston, Massachusetts. Now, Boston, Massachusetts, that was in the.

[C]

City a few weeks ago.

[A]

Boston, Massachusetts was the city that was the easiest. One of the cities where you can get laid. The easiest. But someone made a comment on that episode. It said it has the most colleges. So technically, if all those people are in college, yeah, it makes sense that they don't have kids. Followed by following Boston is Columbia, South Carolina. Then Madison, Wisconsin maybe, because don't nobody live there, bitch. Wisconsin. Then Tallahassee, Florida, also another college town. And then San Diego, California. Now, cities often cited by communities as friendly or popular for childless adults include New York City, Atlanta, Georgia, Austin, Texas and Baltimore, Maryland. Now, probably because Baltimore, dangerous child people don't want to add kids over in Baltimore.

[C]

You know, looking at the ones that are childless adults, Austin, Texas also is another startup.

[A]

Startup tech place. So it's probably people that are going there to like, I feel like, start their careers. They're more career focused. Not.

[C]

Do you like Austin?

[A]

Oh, I've never been. I've never been to Austin.

[C]

I have a lot of. Do you know how I feel about Austin? Okay, it's the same Portland thing and it's. It's a Seattle thing too. Okay. It's these cities with white people that's.

[A]

Like, maybe that's why I don't go.

[C]

That give liberal, but it still gives. Like, where are the black people? Like, Austin is hella white. So I went to Austin for South by Southwest and. And Afro Tech. Was Afro Tech in Austin, bitch.

[A]

I ain't go to either.

[C]

I don't know.

[A]

Cause somebody. Why the fuck was I in Austin, Texas? No, no, no.

[C]

It was. It was two years ago. It was. Now they do Houston, but it was.

[A]

They do Houston now. Yeah.

[C]

And so I remember the first time I went, I was like, oh, my God, y'.

[A]

All.

[C]

This is a vibe.

[A]

And then I don't like cities.

[C]

I had to go another time for work and then buy south by. South By. So while there, I noticed all the establishments had all those little Black Lives Matter stickers and the rainbow stickers, like, we're welcome. We're friendly. But then I go to Soho House. Almost everybody had a cowboy hat on, Mandy. And it really gave. Like, we'll call you one if you weren't in this room.

[A]

Oh, I'm not gonna lie. That's why the sex club experience and the sex spaces in Atlanta and the Jeep cell, baby, them whites is different than the ones here in New York. Baby, it looks like they have Confederate flags on their pickup trucks.

[C]

Right outside, I saw a man.

[A]

I don't wanna be around them type of whites.

[C]

Regular, just walk with a horse. Not walking a horse. Maybe he was taking the horse out for a shit. Me and my boy Marlon, we was walking down the street. He said, oh, baby, we have to go back to New York.

[A]

Oh, no.

[C]

I was scared.

[A]

Hold on. Let me tell you. I was with my little boo last night. Who is that boo I got? Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it.

[C]

No, I'm saying, is this. Quarter zip.

[A]

Quarter zip. Okay, quarter zip. Half a zip, whole zip.

[C]

Hey, what.

[A]

Anywho. So we're outside, and you. You saw the picture of him? So we're in an elevator, and he saw. Saw, like, handsome guy, bro. We get in the elevator, and it's white people. And, bro, as soon as we get in, this white man starts touching his shoulders and is like, look at this big one. Oh, my. Like, bro, you would think he wanted to auction my nigga off, bro. I was. I was this close. I was this close, bro. And he was smiling going up the elevator in my hotel. And, bruh, he's grabbing. He's clearly drunk, but he's like, you a big. You a big one. You a big motherfucker. But, like, grabbing his arms and, like, touching on him. Like, if this was the south, he's like, I would have bought you, nigga. Like, that's what it was giving. And I was so mad. And we couldn't tell where he was from. He's clearly Not a New Yorker. So he goes, where are you from, man? This is the only thing that changed the subject.

[C]

And I be damned if I can't slow down.

[A]

You ready? We're from Orlando. I said, mother. I said, me too. So he's like, no, what part? Bitch. They was from? Bitch. Bitch. He was like, oh, what part are you from? I said, oh, I grew up on Oak Ridge, that side of town. He's like, oh, we from Apopka. What da da da? And so we just started talking. And it's the only thing that got him from, like, looking, like, the way he was talking to him. Like, he was just a. A beautiful black specimen that he was like, you pick my cotton, boy. Like, it was. I almost like. So when we got off the elevator, I was like, bro, if that nigga didn't say he was from Orlando, I was this close to being like. It was so uncomfortable, these white people.

[C]

It still didn't help it. You don't know what it is, bruh.

[A]

I was just like. So we ended up going back downstairs for some drinks, and he was down there again. And I said that he better not do that shit again, you know? You ready?

[C]

It's so weird. A little.

[A]

Even worse. I kept walking. He pounded him up and, like, introduced him to his other white friend. And I was just like. The way they even, like, pounded his chest, like he was like one of theirs. I was like, I don't like it, girl. Let me tell you, I don't like it. I don't like it.

[C]

Almost our entire Euro trip, especially in Italy, maybe once a day, someone took a picture of my boyfriend.

[A]

I don't like it.

[C]

It's so.

[A]

Oh. And they both have dreads.

[C]

Weird.

[A]

But I don't know. But. And mind you, he's tall. He's like.

[C]

Also, at one point, I was like, hello, I'm here as well.

[A]

Do not. And I feel like.

[C]

Here's the thing, though, when you out of town, right? Cause it's like, we've been to Thailand a lot. Thai people in different Asian countries have been fascinated by certain things. Half of my Thailand trip, I had my hair out. And I think a lot of people were, like, wanting to look or interested or wanting to see or.

[A]

Bro, I'm sorry. You're bringing it to a fucking Asian country.

[C]

No, no, no. I'm bringing it to rain somewhere else. All these whites being somewhere else, I feel like is more tolerable.

[A]

Nah, bitch, fuck all that. You gotta teach them niggas our history. I don't really know, honey. You know what happened in the usa, bae?

[C]

Do they think that's weird, but they.

[A]

Learned about slavery in other countries?

[C]

No, and I don't think they give a fuck.

[A]

Do they edit?

[C]

They don't.

[A]

They don't learn about slavery. I mean, we learned about the Holocaust. They learned about it, but like, about the Vietnamese war.

[C]

Did you see the clip of the black dude we learned about Dynasty? Who was interviewing the woman who didn't know nigga was a bad word?

[A]

Yeah, she was.

[C]

She was kind of sexy, the little Arabic girl.

[A]

And she's like, yeah, what?

[C]

What am I saying? What do you mean?

[A]

I hate it.

[C]

And I lowkey was like, ain't no way this. It's a very American thing too. Low key.

[A]

Like, don't be knowing that. I hate it anyways, because you guys are probably looking for love in the 2026.

[C]

In the 2026.

[A]

In the 20 26. I want to shout out our producer for this segment. So our reactionary comes from Barry.

[C]

Ooh, Panason Tear.

[A]

He sent me a clip of a guy saying, these are the questions that will give you all the answers you need on a date. And I want to know if you agree with him.

[C]

Okay, fine.

[A]

But he said these are the only five questions if you really want to know what you want to know about a nigga. Like, if he married. If y' all are compatible, not if he married on the date with you. You gotta ask, bro, at this point, I ain't gonna hold you back.

[C]

No, you know the question? Does any woman think she's your girlfriend?

[A]

No, no, no, no, no. You gotta ask if these n is married. Okay, okay, here we go.

[D]

Let me check number three.

[A]

Oh, wait, hold on.

[D]

Let me all too heavy on some of these first dates. Let me give you five light first date questions, and you can still find out what you want to find out just in a lightweight. Number one, what's a perfect weekend for you? That's a lifestyle check. Number two, planner or go with the flow type person. That's a compatibility check. Number three, what are you into right now? That's an interest check. Number four, how do you like to communicate?

[A]

That's the one a lot of niggas are asking.

[D]

And then finally, what's a green flag you look for? That's a value check.

[C]

Great question.

[D]

These are five light questions you can ask on the first date.

[C]

What do you think is the most important one?

[A]

For me, it's. For me it is. I like the. How do you like to communicate? Because when you first start meeting someone, I Don't think people realize how quickly you create a pattern and how you're going to move forward talking. So, like, sorry, like with actor Bae, our first way that we started talking was FaceTime. Moving forward. That's how we communicated. It was always on FaceTime, whether we were on the phone for 10 minutes or on the phone for three hours. And then there's been other partners where we only communicate via text to where they don't even feel like they have to pick up a phone call because that's not how you communicate. So for me, I think how do you communicate is a really important one. But also starting those out early. So, ladies, if you like to talk on the phone with a man that you're in a relationship with and you really like a guy that you just met, you probably immediately need to start the habits of him answering your calls, of y' all talking on the phone.

[C]

This is actually very toxic for me to say, but I actually don't care how you like to communicate. No, I can't get my way.

[A]

But that's what I'm saying.

[C]

I'm not in it.

[A]

As a woman. If you like a man communicating with you a certain way, it's important to a ask that question. But start it out the gate. If you like to be on the phone with your man, don't turn it into multiple conversations via text, because a man's going to get comfortable texting you. So for me, out of that thing.

[C]

Actually, point blank, no matter how serious a relationship could be, if it's only in text, I actually find it to be a little bit of an afterthought. I think that, oh, yeah.

[A]

And if you do feel divergent like me, oh, bitch. Depending on what mood I'm in at that very moment that you text me, not even the tone for me, I get in these, like, things where I'll see a message and depending on how my brain at the very moment is operating, I just won't respond. It doesn't matter how much I even like them. I get anxiety by certain text messages and things. And so if I'm not in the mood to text, I won't. And I'll go back to my phone and then answer like five or six at a time. But I go, I have since where I don't want to communicate. So to me, a phone call will get you an immediate. I even answer emails before texts.

[C]

I don't do well with text messages that are a little too open and did like, hey, what am I going to do with this? Like, what Say hi back. No. Like, what do you want? Start the hey, be the thing to say I need to.

[A]

I think that's like a nudge.

[C]

Then. Then do what you want me to do. But hey doesn't get responses from me.

[A]

But you're also not dating right now. I guess you have your partner, so it's a little different. I mean, but you. Child, please. You talk to women that you want to eat. They coochie.

[D]

Hey, Sal.

[A]

Hank.

[C]

What's going on?

[A]

We haven't worked a case in years.

[D]

I just bought my car at Carvana and it was so easy.

[A]

Too easy.

[C]

Think something's up.

[D]

You tell me. They got thousands of options, found a great car at a great price.

[C]

Uh huh.

[A]

And it got delivered the next day. It sounds like Carvana just makes it easy to buy your car, Hank. Yeah, you're right.

[D]

Case closed.

[C]

Buy your car today on Carvana. Delivery fees may apply. Girl, let me tell you something. That's been a 20, 25 thing. That's continuing. I would say this is the most I've ever kept a relationship private. And the things that I do, however, I believe my relationship is so successful because whatever I share, I, like, go over it for real. And I've been able to leave situations and scenarios out.

[A]

Oh, I told you that's what I would do. Like, moving forward. That's why, like, y' all hear a little bit over on the Patreon. But the way I'm navigating my. Like, I am actually being way more considerate with what I share on here. Like, I have to ask first. Can I share? Like, even asking my mama, you see, I just asked my homegirl if I could share her tea on the pod.

[C]

Same.

[A]

Like we listen and we judge.

[C]

Has actually been fun. What it's really been fun for is like, the Turks and Caicos thing a few weeks ago. My friend isn't really. When I got industry friends, they'd be like, hell, no. And then my other friends are like, whatever, bitch.

[A]

As long as they don't know this.

[C]

Isn'T real to them.

[A]

No, as long as they don't know. Like.

[C]

But what I was gonna say for mine would be the perfect weekend. I have had the largest issue to me that I never clocked while falling in love with somebody was hospital dick. We were completely incompatible in our leisure time and what we like to do. The way that the rate I like to go out, whether it be travel, how I like to spend time when someone's a homebody, I never really got to learn that because we were Falling in love, dating, being out. He worked in hospitality, so I was seeing him out in that way a lot. But that wasn't necessarily something he liked to do all the time. And so that. However I asked that question in the last few years of my dating life, has it made it successful for me?

[A]

Oh, yeah, no, for sure. Like, that's what I like about Cordozip. Like he. He came here to New York for Christmas, which is why I couldn't last minute get his ass to join me in Curacao. But then also, like, he'll like just go to Miami for a weekend and he be pushing shit on his close friends. And he had a little thoughts dancing. I said, oh, you a lit nigga. Like, he does game nights. He does things that I enjoy doing. He travels, he gets out the fucking house.

[C]

I also like to know that you're doing shit that I like to do before you met me.

[A]

Yeah, I like that too.

[C]

Introducing somebody to things is cool, but like, eh, I kind of liked. Now don't get me wrong, I don't want you to know all my moves. Like, one of my homegirls just posted on her close friends and I laughed about it. Cause I was like, yeah, bitch, you're meeting them there. She's like, I just ran into three dudes I dated. New York is too small. And I'm like, no, bitch, New York is too small.

[A]

It's crazy.

[C]

You're hitting up the same shit and you bringing niggas to the same shit you like to do. How many times can you go to Damballa with your homegirls, meet a guy at Dumbala with your homegirls, and then go to Damballa looking for a new nigga?

[A]

Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. That's how I felt the last time I went to McK, bitch. I said, ooh, not three niggas are here. I don't fuck. A bitch gotta go. A bitch gotta go. And I did. I spoke to all of them. But what's crazy is I was like, this is how I know I'm shallow. They were the only three niggas in the whole establishment that I wouldn't even talk to. Well, duh, they're my type, but no one else was even my type. So I was like, bitch, ain't nobody else.

[C]

You know, whenever I go out with my like lit LA homegirls and we go to a spot, I'd be like, damn, he look good. She was like, but you know, I already got that D. I be like, damn.

[A]

Oh, I I let my friends know you can have them now. Like, especially like, one of them I fucked when I lived up here. He lives in Atlanta now. And I be seeing him out and I be like. I be letting my friends know, girl, his dick is big as fuck. He just lame. So I don't like when he talk like. Just shut up, okay?

[C]

You know what?

[A]

Just smile with your dimples and I'm.

[C]

Gonna tell you dick. I recently told my man about a friend of mine. He was like, she did that? That's some weird ass hater shit.

[A]

Okay, what's weird hater shit?

[C]

Okay, so one of my homegirls. This is a very old story, but I brought it up to him. Cause it was relevant in our conversation at the time. This one, I lived in Hell's Kitchen. She was crashing out by the naked. And I didn't know what he looked like. I think cause they met at a club or something. Yeah, I'd never seen him, but she was just super upset about him. Year later, I meet a nigga on Tinder. Because I was on Tinder back then. I don't talk to her all the time. So by our third or fourth date, her and I link up for cocktails. And I'm sharing with her what he looks like. And I have the Tinder profile, okay? She's like, oh, my God, that's one Oak guy. I was like, oh, shit. She's like, did you fuck him already? And I'm like, no, but did you? No, I didn't. Okay. And she's like, well, I don't care. His dick was little anyway. It was like some gummy shit. And like, he was just whatever. He was acting funny.

[A]

Well, damn.

[C]

And I'm like, okay, you sure you don't bother? She was like, no. So boom. She knows I'm meeting up with him on Saturday. Because before this whole thing happens, I'm like, girl, let me show you my new nigga. Saturday we linking up, we got a hotel. Ah, Saturday comes, she calls me at like 3pm with some huge issue. She really needs advice. She really needs someone to talk to. And I'm just like, she know I'm going out with this nigga today. And we have our whole hotel date planned. We're gonna be on the Upper east side doing art all day and staying at a hotel by the park, obviously. Cause we ready to fight. So I'm like, yo, I know why she doing this shit. Cause she know I'm about to link with this nigga and she's just trying to catch you. Just trying to get some tea. So, boom, I have sex with him, and I don't mention her to him. The next day when we wake up, I'm like, yo, have you ever met not.

[A]

You fucked him and then asked him if he fucked your phone?

[C]

Because I didn't want it to be, like, weird for him. Cause she didn't give a fuck. It was a year ago.

[A]

She claimed she ain't give a fuck. But you knew she was in your phone trying to deter the date.

[C]

So listen to this.

[A]

People be lying.

[C]

I didn't want to bring her up to him because it felt too like. My friend says, da, da, da. And I didn't know what kind of mess. And she's a little messy. Next day, I'm like, do you know? He's like, who? Now, she does have a. People have her name. But I was like. I was like, she does xyz. And he's like, oh, yeah, she's a cool girl. I was like, oh, did you guys date? And he goes, nope. I'm like, really?

[A]

I told you, it's the D word. But they ain't dating. Dating is so different for different people. They ain't date, bro. The word date is crazy.

[C]

Mind you.

[A]

We gotta eliminate that word in 2026. Wait, wait, wait.

[C]

No, no, no, no.

[A]

Because I agree.

[C]

We had to clarify that you and.

[A]

I have been potting out, and every time you say date, I'm like, bro, it ain't dating, bro. So I said to him, I hate the word date.

[C]

Are you sure you didn't date? He's like, like, we're doing.

[A]

I ain't.

[C]

I said, yes, like we're doing. He said, no, no, no. I'm like, okay. He's like, I'm assuming you must have talked to her about me. I said, well, I went out with her. I showed her a photo of you, and I just realized.

[A]

And she said your dick was gummy. Were you honest with him?

[C]

No, but I said, you should have. I said. She told me that.

[A]

She said, your dick is gummy and.

[C]

It ain't even good. But wait, this is where I'm. Me and my man is a hater. Hold on. So I said yes. I shared with her, like, your profile, and I'm excited. And da, da, da. He's like, oh, yeah, she. She cool. And I'm like, so she seemed really upset at the year. I remember, like, when y' all met. He was like, I would see her in the club. I used to get tables all the time back in the day when Apple Spot was open and maybe we slept together one time. He said, can't even remember.

[A]

Then maybe we slept together. I watched him.

[C]

The reason he couldn't remember, he's like, we were really.

[A]

His nick was gummy.

[C]

He said we were really fucked up and there was other people there. He's like, I don't even want to, you know, make you feel uncomfortable. But another girl she knew was probably there too. And I'm like, oh. He's like, so I don't remember if I fucked her or her friend. Bitch, mind you, here's why this shit was tea. She said his dick was gummy and he was lame. He was this thick ass dick bitch. Big, beautiful, veiny, nice, chocolatey dick.

[A]

To be fair, the dicks that we get as women are not all created equal. Like, the dick that I get ain't gonna be the dick that another bitch get. If you feel me like I told you, my number one BAE told me I make his dick the hardest. So, like, I could fuck somebody and think the dick is amazing. And my homegirl fuck it. And she has a completely different experience. True.

[C]

Because she said gummy and small.

[A]

No, but if they were lit like he said. Because he doesn't remember. Bro, we talked about haney dick. We talked about dicks that, like, sometimes a man doesn't get hard over anxiety. There's performance anxiety. There's all these things. Like, dick that you get ain't gonna be the dick that I get. Okay, right first, I agree.

[C]

But what I do think, when a girl says where you just said, oh, you can fuck to your homegirls. We have to stop. If you know it's really a problem. Bitch, you need to speak now or hold your peace.

[A]

Well, no, it shouldn't be a problem. Take it up with your therapist. Go to the lady. Because a nigga that you didn't really talk to very long, he didn't even say y' all D worded then that means D worded, bro, we gotta D word that hoe. I don't wanna say date in 2026, but if it's a guy that ended up not being nothing, you met him on an app and it didn't work out for you. We gotta also work on not making our friends miss out on their soulmates.

[C]

I completely agree with that. And I also just really wanna say, I think that the larger issue from it came. Cause when me and my man is digging into her.

[A]

Did you ever tell her that, by the way? The reason Tell her the dick was big, long.

[C]

Yeah, I didn't tell her shit. Cause I was just like, oh, you was really hating. The reason it came up is. Cause she did some other hater shit. And I was like, baby, I got to tell you about some shit that Hill did a few years ago. But you still friends with her. Like, casual. Like, it's not like we're not dogs. But one of the things that we clocked in that moment, he was like, oh, you approached the conversation by saying the nice dates the nigga took you on, how y' all were getting along. Mind you, we maybe been on three or four dates. And one of the conversations that was going on was where we want to travel to. And he's like, okay, let's do a little mini vacation here in the city. He's like, if this bitch couldn't get him to give her a call back.

[A]

So this is so funny that you bring this up. Let me tell you about a conversation that I literally had last night. So me and Quarter Zip were talking about, like, he was asking me a lot about my other boyfriends. And then I was asking him about the last person that he was seeing. So he shows me a picture. She cute. She not me, but she cute. Hey, she was cute. She was cute. But it was so crazy because I was like, well, why did y' all stop talking? And mind you, I had to tell him about himself. So I said, well, why did y' all stop talking? And he said, well, we met at a bar, and she lived nearby. He lives out of Sandy Springs. And so they were, like, seeing each other. I was like, okay. And so what happened? He was like. She started getting, like, an attitude with me and really weird with me because she would, like, want to link. Like, as I'm leaving her, she'd want to be like, when am I seeing you again? And he was like, bro, we were just kicking it. Like, they weren't. They weren't going on dates, but they were fucking. And so she. The last time he went to her house, she got an attitude with him because she was like, well, when can I see you again? I wanna see you this date. And he was like, I don't plan for pleasure. He was like, I'll let you know. Hold on. He was like, I'll let you know how I feel that day if we could see each other. But, like, I don't wanna plan. Like, that's weird. Like, I could wake up and not wanna fuck. I could wake up and not be in a good mood. And he started having all these excuses. So I'm listening to what he said to her. And I was like, how old was she? Around my age, bruh. I told him, I said, you wanna know what's crazy? We knew we were gonna be together today. We knew we were gonna be together the last time we kicked it. Cause we made plans. You planned pleasure for me because you fuck with me. And I said, a woman my age knows when I. A nigga either likes them or doesn't. And I said, I couldn't imagine right now at my big age, telling a man I want to see him to give him pussy. And he's saying, I don't know if I'm going to want it that day. I'll let you know. I said, that's literally you telling her you're not pressed to be around her. You're not pressed to fuck her. You're not even willing enough to pencil her into your schedule because you're really not that interested.

[C]

Because something else may come up.

[A]

Because something else. Something Someone else may come up. Or you just really not. She's not a priority. And I said, when a woman gets that type of response, if she's smart. Cause a lot of you bitches be dumb. If a nigga says, I don't know if I'm gonna wanna fuck you two days from now, I'll let you know. He's just not that interested. So the fact that in his mind, he was like, I'm not the type of person that plans for pleasure. I said, oh, nigga. We both said we was excited about fucking a week ago.

[C]

And the other thing too is how women crash out on realizing you can do those things for other women.

[A]

No. And that's the thing that hurts. If he wanted to, he would, and he normally will and does with other women, just not you. Do you know what else a woman who's smart enough knows? A nigga saying, I don't plan for pleasure. Nigga, you telling me when them niggas go over to Dr. For the $45 pussy they not getting, they stamming already to fuck them $45 prostitutes. Like a man will go on a vacation and plan to have fun. A man will literally plan to fly a woman in or fly out to go see someone. Men plan and are excited about being around people that they're excited around being.

[C]

And the problem is we accept these crumbs mainly because we.

[A]

Oh, I did. Let's be very clear. When I was talking to him, I was like, ew. You mean to tell me you the type of nigga that only want to give her dick when you want to give her tic. And she just got to accept that. And I was like, bitch, that was me, bitch. I used to only see a N when he flew me out.

[C]

At least he wasn't that stage.

[A]

Like, I was like, ew, that was me.

[C]

I literally would only get dick when.

[A]

A N made himself available to give me dick. And I was like, oh, my God, yuck. And as I was saying it out loud, I said, ooh, bitch, I'm glad I grew. I'm glad I learned. Because.

[C]

But I don't know if you know, in terms of what their relationship is, if it's strictly fuck buddy shit.

[A]

Well, I think he wanted that. But after fucking with somebody four or five times, most women. Where are we going from here?

[C]

Yeah, you gotta get him out of the house, baby.

[A]

Where are we going from here?

[C]

You ain't going nowhere in the house.

[A]

Even that. Even that. It was so interesting, like. And it's funny because when I first met Cordycet, I was like, we need to meet at a bar. I'm not just pulling up to your house. And so I did my little espresso martini flight. And then the next time, he cooked me that little shrimp Alfredo. And it was cute.

[C]

Oh, that's cute. I'd give up a pussy for.

[A]

Oh, no, I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie. I was like, ooh, not mind you. It was. I didn't know it was a TikTok thing, but she made me the marry me shrimp and pasta.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[A]

I was like, these fucking young niggas, bitch. There's marry me chicken.

[C]

I've made the mix.

[A]

And he. I'm thinking he just know how to season some shit.

[C]

We was married to the toilet. I said that. Marry me chicken pie.

[A]

I ain't gonna lie. He put a lot of seasoning in that. And I felt real old. Cause I said, you know, that's a reflux, bitch. I said, God damn, that was some Cajun seasoning on that goddamn shrimp, though.

[C]

Cause you're washed.

[A]

God damn. That was a washed thing, bro. I'm sitting here with mind you. But I told you what I did. Like, I told you what I did, like, huh? I stood up naked after we fucked, and he asked me if I had a bbl. And I said, no, baby, this husband.

[C]

This is hot.

[A]

This is grown woman body, baby. This a grown woman body. Okay?

[C]

Keep cooking that marriage.

[A]

This what happened when you deal with a bitch a decade older than you. Okay?

[C]

You know, I think young niggas, if.

[A]

They deal with they love a little thick.

[C]

No, no, no, no, no. If they dealing with a bitch that's mid-30s, they like, oh, they love it. Gotta be a BJ.

[A]

Oh, it's a whole new thing.

[C]

No, no, no. But Duncy.

[A]

Oh, no, I saw that. I saw. Etta, did you see the Internet saying that, that, that BBO now show what generation you're in?

[C]

Kind of. Yeah.

[A]

Because it's like the 30 and 40 year olds have the BBO. I feel like that makes sense because it was our era.

[C]

We were just getting that shit. We were just talking about starlets. When I was like saying there was a guy that was always dating women at starlets. Bro went to starlets. I'm gonna tell you right now. I knew from every bbl, every makeup style, every way they was, if they came out, even the do young hoes.

[A]

No, it's not looked like that. It's 30. I would say it's 33 to 43. Those are the bitches.

[C]

I agree.

[A]

That literally all went to the same doctor. They was at Yili. They went.

[C]

And you know what the new aesthetic was? Doctor, they're 30 and under. I know. I'd say, like, there's also.

[A]

I'd say 28 of them.

[C]

You know how there's like young fashioned nigga, like the Drew ski video, he was like, yeah, this is comedy, girl. This is like Rick, like how they be wearing little ski masks. The bitches got that too. The ones that wear the fucking micro skirts with the thong on. Oh, yeah.

[A]

No, no, no, no. They dress like Y2K. Christina Aguilera.

[C]

There's a young whore and there's an old whore aesthetic.

[A]

No, there is.

[C]

Then there's the old.

[A]

Oh, when I go out when they all look like they're dressed like Tyla, they got the furry boots with the little mini skirts with the little. I'm like this bitch 24. But I could tell the old hoes. Cause they still bringing out the goddamn bandage. Cruel summers, they got the Giuseppes deep in their closets, bitch. I could tell a oh, ho. If they out with the cruel summers.

[C]

I be seeing them D. G's going, don't do that.

[A]

Hold on. I like my D and GS, ho.

[C]

Okay.

[A]

I like a little Dolce Gabbana, bitch. Oh, ho, shit. Oh, ho, shit. Dolce Gabbana is Fendi.

[C]

Oh, actually. Oh, hos like Fendi. They like the labels. They like the main luxury house. You get a young ho. Now she's into the me stuff. Like, they want the non label fucking Alaia Alaya.

[A]

Shit.

[C]

Yeah, they like that.

[A]

Fuck them young hoes.

[C]

I'm right in between.

[A]

Cause we fucking on the same niggas, bitch. Anyway, let's go ahead and wrap this up, how we wanna wrap this up. Let the people know that we got mad shit over on the Patreon.

[C]

Oh, I'm like, girl, the way we always do it.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[C]

It ain't that much of a new year new me, bitch. Just cause you.

[A]

Oh, no, no, no. It's a new year new me. It's new year, new hairstyle. But bitch, I'm still the same bitch, ho. Okay, go it is. Anyways, if you guys want more bonus content, head on over to our Patreon. That's patreon.com ho. Horror decisions. Also, if you haven't yet, make sure you order our book, no holds barred. By the way, it is available right now for pre order for the soft cover.

[C]

Fuck is this bullet?

[A]

And if you. That's crazy. And if you want the signed edition, head on over to SimonAndSchuster.com search the book and they have the signed copy there that you can give out to that.

[C]

That had her real fingerprints on it, you know?

[A]

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[C]

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[A]

She said she kicked that white man out from upstairs.

[C]

Sure did.

[A]

She own the building.

[C]

About to call the police. On myself, bitch. Because that music is loud. Woo. Turn it down. I was in there doing a zoom this morning. I was like, the fuck kind of shit?

[A]

That's crazy, bitch. And you just swore he was a racist, Mindy. I know.

[C]

It was like we have two Latina trainers. It's very trap casa. Bitch, you better turn down that babony. Listen, anyway, come through. We have a bunch of new hot people working there that you. I mean, sorry. It's great instructors. Thank you.

[A]

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[C]

Love you.

[A]

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