Ep. 468: Pretty Girls Deserve Facials (feat. Emanny) - Decisions, Decisions

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Lauren LaRosa (0:01)

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Wheezy (1:12)

So now I can excruciate broke dick. But when I was also broke, I'm like, what are we both going to do?

Mandy B (1:17)

What are we both doing? We're going to split this.

Imani (1:19)

Let me tell you something, I hear what y' all saying, but broke on broke sex is fire. As someone who's done a lot of it, as long as one of us got a home, we both never going to be broke because I'm going to just move into your shit.

Mandy B (1:31)

See? See what I mean?

Imani (1:33)

Let me tell you, we are nasty. Most of us are nasty. Most of us have nasty thoughts. Most of us want to do these things. Most of us are just not brave enough to just fucking do it and figure out what it is that you like. I'm not ever mad at somebody who's done that. If you like the gang bang, at some point you wanted to give Bukhaki, whatever, go fucking do it. Figure out if that's what you want. Now, that doesn't mean we're going to always implement it in our relationship, but at least I know what your shit is.

Lauren LaRosa (2:03)

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Wheezy (2:07)

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Summary

Podcast Summary: Decisions, Decisions – Ep. 468: Pretty Girls Deserve Facials (feat. Emanny)

Host(s): Mandii B & WheezyWTF
Guest: Emanny
Release Date: April 13, 2026
Podcast Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

Episode Overview

This episode of "Decisions, Decisions" is a candid, uninhibited exploration of sex, relationships, personal kinks, and sex-positive attitudes, featuring R&B artist Emanny. Mandii and Wheezy revisit old flames, discuss taboo experiences, and dive deep into what it takes to unlearn shame and patriarchal narratives about sexual pleasure and identity. The conversation is layered with humor, honesty, and a genuine effort to normalize sexual self-expression.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Mutual Attraction & Brokeness in Dating (05:13–09:05)

Reconnecting with Emanny: Mandii jokes about nearly hooking up with Emanny in the past, referencing a long friendship rooted in their Bronx days.
- Notable Quote (Imani/Emanny):
  “Why you never gave me no pussy?” (07:01)
Broke-on-Broke Sex: The trio reminisces about their broke days and the wild sex that comes with having “nothing to lose.”
- Notable Quote (Imani/Emanny):
  “Broke on broke sex is fire. As someone who's done a lot of it… when we both broke, we ain't got nothing to lose. We just here to go crazy.” (08:31)

2. Friendship vs. Romance: Setting Boundaries (09:36–11:28)

Mandii and Emanny clarify their dynamic—friends, not lovers—which is maintained despite flirtatious past moments and overlapping social circles.
- Mandii: “I genuinely think that you're a dope friend. I don't know if you are a dope partner.” (11:21)
- Imani: “Today I am. But then a dog… Oh, hell no.” (11:22)

3. Sex Clubs, Experiments & Kinks (13:16–14:19; 30:00–34:33)

Introducing Others into Relationships: Mandii shares stories of introducing partners at sex clubs and playing with the idea of bringing other partners into the mix.
Facials & Pretty Girls: Emanny admits his kink for facials and explains it's about beauty, not degradation.
- Imani: “I have to give up like a real, real pretty…you have to get a facial. It has to happen.” (73:43)

4. Sexual History & Stigma (57:47–61:57)

Dating “Hoes”: Emanny shares his acceptance of women with sexually liberated or non-traditional backgrounds, including sex workers and porn stars, and how he doesn't let societal judgments affect his choices.
- Imani: “If you’re very forward about what you like and what you into, I can accept that and I can appreciate it. I'm never going to feel judged…” (58:20)
Shifting Attitudes with Age: They discuss how age and experience allow for a more open-minded approach to a partner's past.

5. Safe Spaces for Women's Pleasure (77:18–77:57)

Pegging & Equality in the Bedroom:
- Mandii: “I don’t believe in double standards in the bedroom, which is why I peg niggas. If you could insert me, I could insert you.” (76:43)
- Emphasizes the need to carve out safe and shame-free environments for Black men to explore their sexuality.
- Mandii: “For me especially, because I only deal with black men and there’s such a wall for them. To me, there's power in creating this safe space.” (77:53)
Degrading vs. Sharing: Discussion around whether kinks like pegging or snowballing semen are about degradation or mutual pleasure.

6. Sex Clubs: Real Talk (54:11–56:10)

Sex Club Reality: The trio reflects on the appearance and vibe at sex clubs, noting that most attendees aren’t typically “hot,” but many go for the experience, not just for sex.
- Wheezy: “I don’t like being the hottest person at the sex club.” (54:23)
Safety & Friendship: Many women attend with friends for safety and comfort, not always to hook up.

7. The Kinkiest Cities in the World (40:33–49:27)

The panel ranks and swaps stories about various “kinky” cities like Denver, Paris, Miami, Amsterdam, Berlin, and London, often tying sexual cultures to personal travel stories and city reputations.
- Wheezy on Paris: “Senegalese niggas dominate. And the women too.… It's like watching aliens. That's how hot they are.” (41:46–42:23)
- On Amsterdam: “They look like they are being trafficked…everybody looks tired.” (45:20)

8. Sex Talk, Parenting, and Public Image (83:39–88:55)

Parenting & Reputation: Emanny, a father, considers how his sexual openness intersects with parenting. All acknowledge the potential risks of public frankness, but agree that authenticity and audience connection matter more than outside judgment.

9. Sex & Delusion: Dirty Talk & Fantasy Scenarios (68:40–76:03)

Each shares the most delusional or wild things said (or received) during sex, from “I love you” to breeding/pregnancy kinks to competitive pride over sharing their partner’s prowess with others.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On broke sex:
“As long as one of us got a home, we both never going to be broke because I'm going to just move into your shit.” – Imani (01:25, 08:49)
On sexual experimentation & judgment:
“Most of us have nasty thoughts. Most of us want to do these things. Most of us are just not brave enough to just fucking do it and figure out what it is that you like.” – Imani (01:33, 63:02)
On dating women with ‘past’:
“I accept you for who you are. I knew it from day one.” – Imani (58:50)
On equal opportunity in bed:
“If you could insert me, I could insert you.” – Mandii (76:43)
On public perception:
“I'm so caught up into the Entertainment of this shit that I'm also willing to put my neck at risk for this show.” – Imani (85:10)
On sharing sexual partners:
“Thank you for allowing me to experience that, that is the best thing.” – Mandii (71:59)
On facials as art:
“It's like Bob Ross, like, a beautiful painting. Right?” – Imani (74:09)
On closing/opening relationship boundaries:
“We open and close so much, I think we're used to that conversation.” – Wheezy (82:52)

Segment Timestamps

Intro & Broke Sex Stories: 05:13–09:05
Flirtation, Boundaries, and Friendship: 09:05–12:00
Make-out and Non-Traditional Dynamics: 12:00–14:30
Dating, Kinks, and Sex Club Adventures: 30:00–34:33, 54:11–56:10
R&B Song Game/Karaoke: 34:32–40:31
Kinkiest Cities Game: 40:33–49:27
International Sex & Comfort Zones: 47:11–49:27
Openness About Partner's Sexual Past: 57:47–63:00
Dirty Talk & Sex Fantasies: 68:40–76:03
Kinks, Degradation, and Mutual Pleasure: 76:03–78:07
Parenting & Public Image: 83:39–88:55

Episode Takeaways

The show fearlessly addresses sex in all forms—real, vulnerable, and messy.
Stigma around sexuality (especially for Black men and women) is unpacked and challenged.
Safe spaces, open conversation, and self-acceptance are at the heart of authentic relationships and sexual health.
Humor and honesty are used to connect, disarm, and de-stigmatize adult topics.

For more open, empowering—and hilarious—talk about relationships and sexuality, listen to "Decisions, Decisions" each week.