You've Got Decisions: Am I Tripping?

Summary

Decisions, Decisions — "You've Got Decisions: Am I Tripping?"

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Date: August 20, 2025
Episode Theme:
Mandii B and WeezyWTF tackle listener questions about the gray areas in dating and relationships. This week, they discuss the complexities of accepting favors (like flights) in dating, the etiquette of making social plans during "fly-out" visits, and the emotional baggage of co-parenting a dog with an ex.

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Main Topics & Key Discussion Points

1. Podcast Banter: Jingles, Producer Tags, & Book Reviews

• Lighthearted banter about wanting a podcast jingle and favorite producer taglines.
• The hosts read a glowing Amazon review for their book and reflect on the audiobook process, highlighting the “full-blown performance” and unique value of audio vs. print.
  • Quote (Amazon Review):
    “It’s bold, it’s freeing, and it invites you to unlock parts of yourself you might have been scared to touch.” – Alex B. [03:28]

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2. Dilemma #1: The Fly-Out Etiquette

Listener Story (06:48):
A woman got flown out by a guy she’s been dating in Atlanta, who paid for her flight while she did hair work. She made plans with a friend (a gay homie with a dinner party) on Saturday night, which upset the guy because he thought her time should be dedicated to him.

Discussion Breakdown:

• Mandii’s View:

  • It’s normal to want to see friends while in town, especially during a multi-day trip.

  • However, there should be clear communication and consideration (“Would you be okay if…” or “Do we have plans?”) before making outside plans.

  • Respect for a partner’s contribution (like paying for a flight) should be acknowledged.

    “Am I supposed to spend every single night with you?” – Mandii [10:33]

• WeezyWTF’s View:

  • If someone pays for your flight and expects quality time, that should be discussed explicitly.

  • Accepting favors can create a sense of entitlement; if you want autonomy, buy your own flight.

  • If you want a “solo trip,” set the expectation in advance.

    “If I’m offering off rip, let me know, like, ‘Hey, I know that you’re getting my flight and I’m excited to see you, but I have other plans outside of work.’ That needs to be said off the rip.” – WeezyWTF [11:10]

• Consensus:

  • Communication is crucial. Accepting a paid flight comes with expectations that should be clarified.
  • If independence is a priority, self-fund your trips.

Notable Moments:

• Jokes around cheating on barbers/hairstylists and loyalty to service providers. [06:25–06:48]
• Mandii appreciates that her friend sought independent plans, but emphasizes the need for communication. [12:50]
• WeezyWTF warns that not discussing outside plans can risk the relationship. [13:05]

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3. Listener Question: Co-Parenting a Dog With an Ex

Letter from “Carmen” (16:02):
A recently divorced, 31-year-old bisexual woman is dating a man who co-parents a dog with his ex-fiancée (their engagement ended due to her family’s disapproval). Despite initially being okay with the monthly dog exchange, Carmen grew uncomfortable and ended things when the man refused to adjust the arrangement unless they were “locked in.” She asks, “Did I make the right decision or am I tripping?”

Discussion Breakdown:

• Mandii’s Take:

  • Carmen might be “tripping” for ending a promising relationship over co-parenting a dog.

  • Mandii understands the sensitivity but emphasizes that early dating isn’t the time to make demands.

  • Cites her own experience sharing a dog post-breakup, noting convenience and habit can keep pet-sharing alive after romance ends:

    “We had such an easy schedule...if you purchase a dog together, it’s kind of difficult [to just break it off].” – Mandii [18:58]

• WeezyWTF’s Take:

  • Thinks Carmen is not tripping.

  • Compares co-parenting a dog to co-parenting a child: it creates an ongoing connection to an ex, which can foster insecurity or jealousy.

  • If avoiding “baby mama drama” is a dating goal, dog co-parenting with an ex feels like the same problem in another form.

    “To me, this is almost a non-compromised force to be in a poly relationship, essentially…If the dog is now taking place like that, mind you, it’s fuck them kids, but bitch, it’s fuck them animals sometimes too.” – WeezyWTF [20:34]

• Deep Dive:

  • Reference to Before I Let Go by Kennedy Ryan, which captures the emotional complexity of co-parenting (kids, but relevant to “dog custody” too). [22:54]

• Consensus:

  • Both perspectives are valid:

    • It’s okay to have boundaries about a partner’s connections to their ex—even over a pet.
    • But maybe it’s premature to cut someone off early over a dog if otherwise things are great.

  • Ultimately, if it’s a dealbreaker for Carmen, she did the right thing for herself.

    “If you saw long-term reasons to be with this guy and this was a dealbreaker, I think you did the right thing. Don’t waste your time.” – WeezyWTF [24:02]

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Intellectual Property & Producer Tags:
  “Bitch, cadence will get you sued, okay?” – WeezyWTF [02:43]
• On Outdated Gender Norms:
  “Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms.” – [Episode Context]
• On Co-Parenting With an Ex:
  “The fact that he wasn’t willing to bend or compromise or consider how you feel about it—he’s not off of that relationship yet enough to consider you.” – WeezyWTF [24:03]
• Relatable Humor:
  “Not no kids and no dogs.” – Mandy [22:24]

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Key Timestamps

• 00:00–03:00: Jingle banter, intro, and producer tags humor
• 03:00–05:45: Book review shoutout and audiobook reflection
• 06:48–13:14: Fly-out etiquette listener dilemma—Is it okay to make other plans if your flight is paid?
• 16:02–24:02: Co-parenting a dog with an ex—Is ending things over this “tripping” or valid?
• 22:54–23:51: Book reference: Kennedy Ryan’s Before I Let Go and the complexity of relationship entanglements

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Listener Takeaways

• Communication is everything in modern dating: Whether about trips, gifts, or lingering ties to exes, direct convo saves drama.
• Know (and state) your boundaries early: If co-parenting a pet with an ex is a dealbreaker, that’s okay—be clear about what you want.
• There’s no one right way to “unlearn” relationship scripts: Mandii and Weezy model that open dialogue, even if they disagree, is a key to navigating new norms in love and sex.

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Final Thought

Mandii and Weezy offer both affirmation and challenge—pushing listeners to claim agency in their relationships, but also to think critically about what actually matters to them. Whether it’s about dog custody or date night etiquette, “Decisions, Decisions” invites radical honesty, humor, and permission to forge your own path.

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Questions for the hosts? Submit to: decisionspodmail.com

Next episode: Tune in for more real talk, laughs, and life advice from Mandii B and WeezyWTF.

Transcript

[Mandy]

This is an I Heart podcast if you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible thruffle, guess what?

[Weezy]

You've got decisions. You've got decision.

[Mandy]

That's our jingle, y'.

[Weezy]

All. That was a different cadence. That ain't really the jingle. I still haven't locked it and secure where it ends. It ain't what it's supposed to be just yet. I want music behind it and all. I'mma hit up some of my little music industry friends.

[Mandy]

We gonna get this jingle, bitch.

[Weezy]

We gonna get this jingle drop. It's gonna say, you know what?

[Mandy]

Drop. I want Wheezy out of here.

[Weezy]

It's gonna be right about no. Or what's the other drops I be knowing?

[Mandy]

If young Metro don't trust you, I'm going shoot.

[Weezy]

And mustard on the beat, Hope.

[Mandy]

Wait, let me Google most famous drops.

[Weezy]

Well, they're. They're like producer taglines.

[Mandy]

Oh, wait, now it's. Now you know what's coming up. Most famous, like, beat drops. Like music.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah.

[Mandy]

Nah, nah.

[Weezy]

It's producer tagline brought about. No, that's my friend Taran.

[Mandy]

He beat Mustard on the beat. If Young Retro don't trust you, okay. Murder on a beat not so nice. Yo, Pierre, you want to come out here? Oh, I love you.

[Weezy]

Oh, yeah. Wait, what's hit makers? Because his is on. His is at the top of everything, too.

[Mandy]

I see Mike Will made it.

[Weezy]

Damn tagline is oh, Lord.

[Mandy]

Jesse made another one.

[Weezy]

They don't want I be hearing it on a lot.

[Mandy]

Da got that dope wheezy out of here. Just Blaze, Tay, Keith, Fuck these niggas up. That was a good one.

[Weezy]

I do like that one.

[Mandy]

But when I hear that this is the song I think of. I just hit the switch. Metro Boomin was number one. Let me see. South side on the track. I can't hear that. Can it.

[Weezy]

By the way, there's a whole producer's tag directory on genius.com. what the fuck?

[Mandy]

Oh, I forgot.

[Weezy]

Listen, you know, technically, we.

[Mandy]

You.

[Weezy]

We stole our tagline.

[Mandy]

Yeah. Oh, I know it's not stolen.

[Weezy]

Yeah, I mean, kind of. Okay, we didn't steal it, guys. We just kind of borrowed it without permission.

[Mandy]

They know who it belongs to, right?

[Weezy]

They all got. Of course they know. That's Juicy J. Yeah, yeah. Do not make this the clip, y', all, because we don't need him coming for after us, all right?

[Mandy]

I don't need to come in after. But I thought it was, like. Because it was under a Certain amount of seconds.

[Weezy]

No, no, no, no, no. None of that matters, bitch. Did you not see the recent clip of Cisco explaining how he didn't make no money from Thong Song because Ricky Martin sued him for saying live in la vida in the cadence of his song? Bitch, cadence will get you seared. Okay?

[Mandy]

Oh, no. Clearly.

[Weezy]

Y' all see, I've been living on the Internet. And speaking of living on the Internet, y', all, I'm gonna read y' all one of our Amazon reviews because we are New York Times bestsellers. Um, listen, listen.

[Mandy]

We would love to read another company, but that's where y' all leave them, so. Shit. That's what we. What we reading.

[Weezy]

Well, it's that and Goodreads. Um, if you guys want to leave us reviews on our book, please go on over to Amazon and leave a book review. Or Goodreads. I have to look and see if there's a way that we can read reviews from our Audible. But people have actually been leaving reviews from the audiobook on Amazon as well. This one comes from Alex B. She says nobody else could have told this story quite like them. This book is truly like nothing else you've ever read. No Holds Barred is part memoir, part self help, part erotica, and somehow manages to be all three without losing an ounce of depth or intention. Mandy and Weezy hold nothing back. They are raw, hilarious, emotional, vulnerable, reflective, and wildly wise. It's educational, entertaining, and healing all at once. Nobody else could have told this story quite like them. You could feel how much thought and heart went into every chapter. This book deserves every award and accolade it gets. It's bold, it's freeing, and it invites you to unlock parts of yourself you might have been scared to touch. Even if your life looks nothing like theirs, even if you're not into the same kinks, curiosities, or experiences, it's still worth the read just to witness two women telling their truth with this much courage and creativity. And honestly, you need both the book and the audiobook. The print version is visually alive with personality and clever design. The audiobook, a full blown performance. The emotion, the tone, the delivery. You'll feel like you're right there with them. This is a must read. No matter your genre, no matter your background. You'll laugh, reflect, clutch your pearls and. And walk away. Changed.

[Mandy]

Alex, you did I. We've been getting a lot of comment on the audiobook. Comments. Excuse me, on the audiobook and where it wasn't like my priority to like push an audiobook. I'm not gonna hold you. I didn't realize how much better we are at audiobooks because we already podcast, for sure. Like, we already.

[Weezy]

I mean, it was.

[Mandy]

And we're reading.

[Weezy]

I mean, I've shared.

[Mandy]

It was hard.

[Weezy]

Yeah, it was hard. Shout out to Nicole, who worked with us on that, but was it Nicole? Yeah. Right.

[Mandy]

Nicole Shelton. Yes.

[Weezy]

Yeah, yeah. Shout out to Nicole Shelton. Yeah. It was an interesting process, but I do love that so much of the whorehive, like, purchased the audiobook and the. The hard copy. Just like, thank y'.

[Mandy]

All.

[Weezy]

Now, this week, we have a question. Y' all know if you wanna send it in, it's decisionspodmail.com. okay? So the subject line for this already lets me know. We're gonna say, yes, bitch.

[Mandy]

Okay.

[Weezy]

The question is, am I tripping?

[Mandy]

Yep.

[Weezy]

Please help ladies, if you have to ask if you're tripping, okay? Nine times out of ten, you are. But there are some instances where it be like, well, no, bitch, you are right.

[Mandy]

Actually, before we get into this, uh, oh, I had a girl that was doing a service on me. It was hair, not my usual braider that asked me if she was not.

[Weezy]

You cheating on your braider? I wonder if it's like, I didn't get braider because you know how, like, men be talking about cheating on their barbers.

[Mandy]

Oh, yeah, I know. Cause my makeup.

[Weezy]

Oh. Do you know how many people are trying to get me to go to another blonde specialist? And I'm like, nope, Althea in Brooklyn. I'll keep traveling to New York, bro. Don't disrespect my hairstylist, bitch. I'm gonna go get my blonde from Althea until I'm done being blonde, ho. Damn.

[Mandy]

Okay, so this what the bitch was telling me. She was treating my hair. I was just getting a little keratin drink, and she was like, so I wanna ask you some advice. She was visiting a guy in Atlanta, and they've been dating each other. It's been a few months. He hits her up. She went out there to do some hair. Okay? She. They weren't covering the flight, so he covered the flight. He's like, come see me. Whatever. So while she was in Atlanta, or while she was going to Atlanta, one of her gay homies invited her for a dinner party Saturday on a rooftop. She hit her. Boone was like, hey, by the way, I have plans Saturday at 8. And he was like, why would you make plans when I'm flying you down here for us to hang out? You said you had to work. Now you got to step out so he's like, you leaving on Sunday? Like, you just thought, I'm making plans on Saturday night. She's like, oh, well, I didn't invite you because it was a gay party. I know you probably ain't want to go. He's like, yeah, but you didn't even like, I'm flying you out here to do what party on Saturday night. So she was like, am I wrong? Because he already said to me, I'm in chill mood. She's like, so basically, because he flies me out, I can't do anything else. And I'm like, you know what? I get what you saying. Cause I don't think she's wrong either. But I do think she's wrong for not considering telling him first.

[Weezy]

Do you think she's wrong or not wrong? You said you don't think she's wrong, but you do think she's wrong.

[Mandy]

I don't think she's wrong for wanting to make a plan with a friend or having the idea that seeing a friend while in Atlanta is normal. But at the same time, it's like, I'm not going to hold you. I would tell my nigga, like, hey, did you want to. Would it be cool if. Would you like to come and. Or would you be okay with this? Or do we have plans?

[Weezy]

Like, I ain't going to hold you. If I'm dating somebody, Dating not. Doesn't live. Hold on. If I'm dating someone and he does not live in my city and he buys my flight to come to his city to make money because I'm working, essentially, I'm coming there for work. If he covers that and I make plans outside, bitch, I don't really like him because. Well, this is. This is my opinion. You don't have to think it's true. But, bitch, if I. Like, I know how I've acted when I've traveled to see niggas, if I'm making plans to see someone else, mind you say, I'm coming in Friday, I have to work. Maybe Saturday, I have to work. Hair braiding can sometimes take a day or two. So if I'm working all this time and he's covering my flight.

[Mandy]

No, no, no, no, no, no. Hold on.

[Weezy]

And I'm leaving. Hold on. And if I'm leaving on Sunday, If I'm leaving on Sunday, he's clearly probably expecting at least a night with her. I think that she's wrong.

[Mandy]

And four nights there.

[Weezy]

What?

[Mandy]

That's a lot.

[Weezy]

I didn't hear four nights. I did not hear not flying in for the day.

[Mandy]

She's flying. Flying in for the weekend. I think it's Thursday to Sunday, three or four nights, right? But here's what I'm thinking.

[Weezy]

Yeah. Three or four nights wasn't given. That's a detail that. I mean, that matters.

[Mandy]

So let's just say it was Boston. I'm definitely not about to not see Vinnie when I come to Atlanta. I always see either Toya or Rasheeda. Matter of fact, when I was. My. My nigga brought me to Atlanta to meet his family. His cousin was out there, and mind you, we live in New York. But he was like, oh, I want you to meet some of my Atlanta family. I still was like, okay, let me set up my time with so and so.

[Weezy]

Well, I mean, I. I have a completely different take if it's four days.

[Mandy]

Like, Thursday to Sunday. I was wrong. Thursday.

[Weezy]

I mean, if it's. If it's four days, like, yeah, like, nigga, I'm not gonna be.

[Mandy]

That's what I'm saying. Am I supposed to spend every single night with you? But also, I feel what he's saying.

[Weezy]

I think that that's also something that should have been discussed. I mean, I think if someone spends their money, like, I ain't gonna hold you if I fly a nigga in. I'm expecting time, bro. I don't give a fuck. Like, so I think you have to consider, like, a lot of times you covering someone's flight, there's kind of entitlement there.

[Mandy]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Weezy]

To the first dibs. So, like, bitch, if you want to have your own little trip, bitch, buy your own flight. Don't accept it. Or if I'm offering off rip, let me know. Like, hey, I know that you're getting my flight and I'm excited to see you, but I have other plans outside of work. And just letting you know, like, that needs to be said off the rip.

[Mandy]

I agree.

[Weezy]

I think that nigga, my sex slave, bitch, fuck out of here. That nigga I own. I bought your flight. Even if it's main cabin N. Even if it's a middle seat. You better not go see nobody else without letting me know first and letting me say you can't.

[Mandy]

I understand the entire entitlement of buying the flight, but I also was like, damn, I see where he's coming from. He's like, damn, I flew you out to make weekend plans. But I was like, exactly. Like, I do either. Even if it is four days. Like, you could at least been like, hey, I'm staying with you. We're dating, we got our shit going. So for me, I'm at the point in my relationship where when weekend shit comes up that I want to do or that he wants to do, we tell each other, like, now I ain't.

[Weezy]

Going to hold you. I just think that as a woman, if you have other plans and you date in somebody and clearly like there needs to be an open line of communication on expectations or bitch by your own flight so you don't feel like, you don't feel guilty or who knows?

[Mandy]

Because then the niggas like staying with me. Niggas be doing that too.

[Weezy]

But that's what I'm saying. Nah, bro, if I sit here and save you money, I think you like.

[Mandy]

Telling someone your plans is fair. I totally get it. They're not in a serious relationship. But the point you fly into somebody's city, that was literally the I am wrong. Like, that was in my mind.

[Weezy]

I was like, I save you money on a flight and I'm offering you to stay with me. Fuck, nigga. Oh, listen. You don't get no other plans.

[Mandy]

But then I literally said to her, I appreciate that you're doing shit so that you're not cooped up under him.

[Weezy]

Yeah, cool. Sounds good. Then she should have bought her own flight.

[Mandy]

Bitch, I don't want to just buy anything. Let me tell you something.

[Weezy]

Should have bought her own flight. And now the nigga's probably not gonna date you anymore.

[Mandy]

After the trip.

[Weezy]

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[Mandy]

The way, speaking of buying your own I did date night this month. Y' all know I plan date night once a month or no one of us does it. So this last month was my month and it ended at Bath House. Why me and my was downstairs. He goes, this where you and Mandy got fingered?

[Weezy]

I did not. No one got fingered.

[Mandy]

She was like, this the one y' all.

[Weezy]

Bath house? Oh no, they have the one in.

[Mandy]

F. Oh no, girl, the one that we went to is now two floors rooftop. It's crazy.

[Weezy]

Oh wow, really?

[Mandy]

Fire. Now I know there was that New York Post article that said there were stains, but boy, that was not I.

[Weezy]

Was oh no, I love Bath House. I I mean there can be a bad experience.

[Mandy]

No, no, no. Now you really love it. Like I love that was one of the best views y'. All Bathhouse whoever working over there.

[Weezy]

Why are we even promoting Bathhouse? Bitch, it's already small.

[Mandy]

No, it's not anymore.

[Weezy]

Yeah, but it still is because it's New York City. Well, all the black girls.

[Mandy]

Horrible. Y' all bitches get us a little day pass? Cause that pool was hitting better than Soho Out.

[Weezy]

Oh my God, even the day pass. No, girl, stop telling people. All right, well let's see if this listener this week is tripping again. If you want to send your letter in and get your advice from us, the unofficial experts at all this shit is decisionspodmail.com not the unofficial experts.

[Mandy]

Shout out, bitch.

[Weezy]

Because I don't know why people even ask us questions anymore. All right, well, hey Mandy and Weezy. I am a huge Fan of the Pod and a recently divorced 31 year old bisexual woman who has now been given the freedom to truly explore myself sexually. This podcast and no host bard have been instrumental in guiding me on this journey. I appreciate y' all for the sake of the pod. You can call me Carmen. She also added her picture for reference.

[Mandy]

Oh, let me look.

[Weezy]

I need help. I am currently dating and it has been hell and recently met a man who is checking all the boxes. Great personality, educated, no kids. Me neither. Homeowner, good sex, etc. The issue is he was engaged and broke it off three years ago, but they are still co parenting their dog. It is important to note that their engagement ended due to family cultural differences and they were damn near forced to break up because her family wasn't accepting of a black man. They meet up and trade their dog on a monthly schedule and they even communicate and trade their dog when they are traveling for work, vacation, etc. At first I thought I'd be okay with it, but when I was around the dog for the first time, I knew this wasn't going to work for me. The dog was grooming me, I swear to God. All I could think about was his ex fiance and also some of the trauma he had experienced due to the way her family handled things. I suspect that they are both still emotionally attached and using this dog as a way to stay connected. Of course he said that that's not the case, but you can't believe these niggas. This is also one of those very small, very busy dogs. I did my best to be kind and welcoming, but it was a lot to handle with him jumping all over me. I recently decided that the best thing to do was break it off. I was really feeling him, but I didn't want to lead him on because I know the feeling was mutual and he really liked me too. But when we discussed this, he didn't offer any compromise and said that we need to be locked in before he made any moves regarding his dog. Did I make the right decision or am I tripping?

[Mandy]

Yeah, you're tripping.

[Weezy]

You think she's tripping because she don't want to co parent a dog with a nigga?

[Mandy]

I think exactly what he said at the end, like being locked in like that's not your nigga. You're feeling him. You're finding this flaw in the dog thing, but you really don't have room to be demanding shit yet. I can completely understand in thinking it's emotional attachment, but I'm be real with you. The way that Obey and I were training Nina was an emotional attachment because we were using that as an excuse to. But we weren't doing monthly, we were doing more than that.

[Weezy]

And well yeah, she's saying she feels like this is their emotional bond so I'm gonna be real.

[Mandy]

If me and him just had a chill relationship, he'd still be watching Nina like that nigga on some real shit. We were just so. We had such an easy schedule. I mean even I remember we were driving off to rupes picnic. I dropped the dog off like it was just easy and if you purchase a dog together. Now, Nina wasn't his dog. Nina was my dog. But when you purchase a dog together, it's kind of difficult. And I can understand people not wanting to break up that time. I know a lot of people have talked about Caitlin Nicole because she's got the dog when her and Travis broke up and that was like, oh, I.

[Weezy]

Don'T think I knew about that.

[Mandy]

Oh, people like talk about it in her comments and, and I just be like, bro, people are obsessed. But I get it. I don't know how long, how long she's had that dog, but she was with Travis five years. I'm only speaking on this because it's a public relationship and public commentary, by the way, for everyone listening. This is an personal conversations I have with her about the dogs ever. But when I saw people chatting about it, I was like, damn, I feel for her because it's like, fuck, this whole shit is going on. Everybody talking about me. These are my children. I don't know, I think if someone was my man, then I would get to the point where I would maybe start making demands on what makes me comfortable, what doesn't. But at the end of the day, you're still a new person. The dog might always fucking growl at you and look at you funny until they like you. Like, I don't know, like, people really love their pets, bro. They do.

[Weezy]

They love they pets like they love they kids.

[Mandy]

That's what I'm saying.

[Weezy]

If y' all are on Patreon. So I'm about to tell her she not tripping and here's why.

[Mandy]

Okay, If y' all are on the.

[Weezy]

Patreon, y' all know Weezy and Ed and Danmare told me I can't date no n with kids because I don't want to co parent, right? So to me, this is almost a non compromised force to be in a poly relationship, essentially. Hear me out. She didn't, she didn't agree to kind.

[Mandy]

Of sign up for the dog because.

[Weezy]

She brought up that both of them do not have kids. I didn't agree for like to deal with a baby mama. And so if the kid is coming in, if the, if the dog is coming in, essentially acting like a kid. And now you still have ties with your ex, Beyonce. To me, this is giving. Like I now have to accept this other person being a part of our relationship, of our schedule, of our dynamic. When, mind you, I thought you were perfect because you ain't had kids. Which meant I didn't have to deal with another Woman or another schedule. And so if this dog is now taking place like that, mind y', all, it's fuck them kids, but bitch, it's fuck them animals sometimes too. Cause bitch is a dog.

[Mandy]

Fuck the animals sometimes.

[Weezy]

So to me, I actually don't think you're tripping if this is like a situation where not only that, it's forcing you to feel insecure about your relationship. Because however much he's shared about his previous relationship, you know, it ended because of her family, not because of their decision. It was kind of forced upon them. So to me, if he's not also reassuring you in your emotions or how you feel, I absolutely don't think you're tripping. I think that you didn't sign up to be with a partner who has to co parent. And having that dog, even though it's not a human being child, there's a co parenting dynamic once a month. Bitch, you not tripping. Go on to the next nigga who is single with no kids, with good dick and all the other things you said.

[Mandy]

Not no kids and no dogs.

[Weezy]

Girl, to me, you could have a pet. You could have a pet, but the co parenting is a lot.

[Mandy]

I'm not saying your advice is bad either. I. I honestly see both. The reason. The reason I think it's tripping is because you cut him off over the dog. That's why I think it's tripping.

[Weezy]

I would cut a nigga off over his kids or his baby mama. And at this point, to me, I think that it wasn't just a dog. It's the fact that there's a co parenting situation. If that nigga just had a dog that just lived at his apartment all the time, I don't think there would be.

[Mandy]

But you know what I'm reading?

[Weezy]

It's the co parenting element.

[Mandy]

I'm reading one in Kennedy Ryan's book. Shout right now. Shout out to Kennedy Ryan. She. She fucks with us. We got to have her on sometime soon. A fellow New York Times bestseller. And it's before I let go. And a lot of y' all have read this book, and I think that John. John Legend's turning it into a TV series. But long story short, reading about co parenting, where people still want to fuck each other and they don't know they want to fuck each other, but they feel tied to each other. And the way that she's writing about how people are feeling, like, jealous and, like, thinking about the other person, I'm like, I literally was reading the book. Put the book down looked at my nigga, I said, we ain't never leaving each other, Nikki, because I ain't gonna do this. We ain't. I already tattooed my neck. We are not. And I like, handed in the book. I'm like, I can't. It really reconfirmed for me what I used to be insecure about when dating men with children. And the fact of the matter is, y' all could both have moved on, but you still feel entitlement to that other person. Like, it's a weird.

[Weezy]

How do you let go?

[Mandy]

So I don't know. But anyway, bitch, yeah, I wouldn't hurt her unless you had a. I mean.

[Weezy]

But to me, if you're dating with intention.

[Mandy]

But you do though, so you can do whatever you want.

[Weezy]

If you saw like long term reasons to be with this guy and this was a deal breaker, I think you did the right thing. Don't waste your time. That wasn't a situation you wanted to deal with. And the fact that he wasn't willing to bend or compromise or consider how you feel about it, he's not off of that relationship yet enough to consider you. So I think you did the right thing. Let us know in the comments if you go over to DecisionsDecisions, post your thoughts on the clip or if you are our Patreon community member, you can see the full episode of this. You got decisions right on Patreon. And we would love to hear from Yalls thoughts on all the things on the braider who got flew out and still did not.

[Mandy]

It's not the braider I don't want.

[Weezy]

Whatever. She be Brayden. She be Brayden who decided to take a free flight and hang out with her gay homeboys even though she was dating a nigga. And also drop your thoughts on this woman who left her nigga for co parenting a dog with his ex fiance. If you guys have questions like this, make sure you send it over to us decisionspodmail.com we want to hear from you and we will give you our our goddamn advice. And clearly you gonna get both sides of the coin from us, bitch. And we will see y' all next week. Peace.

[Mandy]

Bye. This is an I Heart podcast.