Decisions, Decisions — "You've Got Decisions: Am I Tripping?"

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Date: August 20, 2025
Episode Theme:
Mandii B and WeezyWTF tackle listener questions about the gray areas in dating and relationships. This week, they discuss the complexities of accepting favors (like flights) in dating, the etiquette of making social plans during "fly-out" visits, and the emotional baggage of co-parenting a dog with an ex.

Main Topics & Key Discussion Points

1. Podcast Banter: Jingles, Producer Tags, & Book Reviews

• Lighthearted banter about wanting a podcast jingle and favorite producer taglines.
• The hosts read a glowing Amazon review for their book and reflect on the audiobook process, highlighting the “full-blown performance” and unique value of audio vs. print.
  • Quote (Amazon Review):
    “It’s bold, it’s freeing, and it invites you to unlock parts of yourself you might have been scared to touch.” – Alex B. [03:28]

2. Dilemma #1: The Fly-Out Etiquette

Listener Story (06:48):
A woman got flown out by a guy she’s been dating in Atlanta, who paid for her flight while she did hair work. She made plans with a friend (a gay homie with a dinner party) on Saturday night, which upset the guy because he thought her time should be dedicated to him.

Discussion Breakdown:

• Mandii’s View:

  • It’s normal to want to see friends while in town, especially during a multi-day trip.

  • However, there should be clear communication and consideration (“Would you be okay if…” or “Do we have plans?”) before making outside plans.

  • Respect for a partner’s contribution (like paying for a flight) should be acknowledged.

    “Am I supposed to spend every single night with you?” – Mandii [10:33]

• WeezyWTF’s View:

  • If someone pays for your flight and expects quality time, that should be discussed explicitly.

  • Accepting favors can create a sense of entitlement; if you want autonomy, buy your own flight.

  • If you want a “solo trip,” set the expectation in advance.

    “If I’m offering off rip, let me know, like, ‘Hey, I know that you’re getting my flight and I’m excited to see you, but I have other plans outside of work.’ That needs to be said off the rip.” – WeezyWTF [11:10]

• Consensus:

  • Communication is crucial. Accepting a paid flight comes with expectations that should be clarified.
  • If independence is a priority, self-fund your trips.

Notable Moments:

• Jokes around cheating on barbers/hairstylists and loyalty to service providers. [06:25–06:48]
• Mandii appreciates that her friend sought independent plans, but emphasizes the need for communication. [12:50]
• WeezyWTF warns that not discussing outside plans can risk the relationship. [13:05]

3. Listener Question: Co-Parenting a Dog With an Ex

Letter from “Carmen” (16:02):
A recently divorced, 31-year-old bisexual woman is dating a man who co-parents a dog with his ex-fiancée (their engagement ended due to her family’s disapproval). Despite initially being okay with the monthly dog exchange, Carmen grew uncomfortable and ended things when the man refused to adjust the arrangement unless they were “locked in.” She asks, “Did I make the right decision or am I tripping?”

Discussion Breakdown:

• Mandii’s Take:

  • Carmen might be “tripping” for ending a promising relationship over co-parenting a dog.

  • Mandii understands the sensitivity but emphasizes that early dating isn’t the time to make demands.

  • Cites her own experience sharing a dog post-breakup, noting convenience and habit can keep pet-sharing alive after romance ends:

    “We had such an easy schedule...if you purchase a dog together, it’s kind of difficult [to just break it off].” – Mandii [18:58]

• WeezyWTF’s Take:

  • Thinks Carmen is not tripping.

  • Compares co-parenting a dog to co-parenting a child: it creates an ongoing connection to an ex, which can foster insecurity or jealousy.

  • If avoiding “baby mama drama” is a dating goal, dog co-parenting with an ex feels like the same problem in another form.

    “To me, this is almost a non-compromised force to be in a poly relationship, essentially…If the dog is now taking place like that, mind you, it’s fuck them kids, but bitch, it’s fuck them animals sometimes too.” – WeezyWTF [20:34]

• Deep Dive:

  • Reference to Before I Let Go by Kennedy Ryan, which captures the emotional complexity of co-parenting (kids, but relevant to “dog custody” too). [22:54]

• Consensus:

  • Both perspectives are valid:

    • It’s okay to have boundaries about a partner’s connections to their ex—even over a pet.
    • But maybe it’s premature to cut someone off early over a dog if otherwise things are great.

  • Ultimately, if it’s a dealbreaker for Carmen, she did the right thing for herself.

    “If you saw long-term reasons to be with this guy and this was a dealbreaker, I think you did the right thing. Don’t waste your time.” – WeezyWTF [24:02]

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Intellectual Property & Producer Tags:
  “Bitch, cadence will get you sued, okay?” – WeezyWTF [02:43]
• On Outdated Gender Norms:
  “Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms.” – [Episode Context]
• On Co-Parenting With an Ex:
  “The fact that he wasn’t willing to bend or compromise or consider how you feel about it—he’s not off of that relationship yet enough to consider you.” – WeezyWTF [24:03]
• Relatable Humor:
  “Not no kids and no dogs.” – Mandy [22:24]

Key Timestamps

• 00:00–03:00: Jingle banter, intro, and producer tags humor
• 03:00–05:45: Book review shoutout and audiobook reflection
• 06:48–13:14: Fly-out etiquette listener dilemma—Is it okay to make other plans if your flight is paid?
• 16:02–24:02: Co-parenting a dog with an ex—Is ending things over this “tripping” or valid?
• 22:54–23:51: Book reference: Kennedy Ryan’s Before I Let Go and the complexity of relationship entanglements

Listener Takeaways

• Communication is everything in modern dating: Whether about trips, gifts, or lingering ties to exes, direct convo saves drama.
• Know (and state) your boundaries early: If co-parenting a pet with an ex is a dealbreaker, that’s okay—be clear about what you want.
• There’s no one right way to “unlearn” relationship scripts: Mandii and Weezy model that open dialogue, even if they disagree, is a key to navigating new norms in love and sex.

Final Thought

Mandii and Weezy offer both affirmation and challenge—pushing listeners to claim agency in their relationships, but also to think critically about what actually matters to them. Whether it’s about dog custody or date night etiquette, “Decisions, Decisions” invites radical honesty, humor, and permission to forge your own path.

Questions for the hosts? Submit to: decisionspodmail.com

Next episode: Tune in for more real talk, laughs, and life advice from Mandii B and WeezyWTF.