Podcast Summary: “You’ve Got Decisions: Side Chick-ship”

Podcast: Decisions, Decisions
Hosts: Mandii B & WeezyWTF
Date: December 3, 2025
Episode Theme: Navigating Side Chick-ship—Guilt, Boundaries, and Non-Traditional Relationships

Episode Overview

In this episode, Mandii B and WeezyWTF candidly discuss “side chick-ship”—the complexities, guilt, and boundaries of being involved with someone in a committed relationship. They offer advice to a listener navigating life as a “side chick,” discuss societal expectations, and challenge the traditional narratives around fidelity, self-worth, and relationship structures, all with their signature blend of humor and raw authenticity.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Manifestation and Self-Reflection in Relationships

• Mandii shares personal stories about manifesting the type of partner she wanted by shifting to a more positive mindset and envisioning love actively (00:51–02:44).
  • “All of how you talk to yourself is dictating this, right?” — Mandii (02:32)
• Weezy discusses her growth in enjoying singlehood, balancing vulnerability and empowerment in her romantic life (03:22–04:38).

2. Modern Dating: Rosters, Intentions, and Ambivalence

• Discussion of non-monogamy, rostering multiple lovers, and negotiating needs for space and intimacy (03:22–04:38).
  • “I really like my alone time...I also want someone long distance so I don’t have to have them around all the time.” — Weezy (04:04)
• Mandii disputes the idea of instant clarity in relationships and argues that dating is not black-and-white in 2024 (05:25–08:02).
  • “Niggas just don’t know until they fudgeing start to know.” — Mandii (05:25)
  • Argues both men and women often “try others on for size” before deciding what they want.

3. Listener Dilemma: The “Side Chick-Ship” Letter

• Listener’s Story:
  • Met a married man on a dating app who disclosed his status.
  • Relationship evolved over 2 years, now involved with his family, spends weekends/birthdays together, he pays her bills, bought her a car. The wife knows, they have a three-way text group.
    • “Hell, we’re on a three-way text group. When she can’t find him, she texts us.” (12:34)
  • Listener feels increasingly guilty, wonders whose responsibility the fidelity is (10:07–14:23).
  • Asks: Should she feel guilty since the wife knows and stays?

4. Hosts’ Analysis: Morality, Guilt & Accountability

• On Guilt:

  • Weezy and Mandii challenge the rationalization of guilt when one knows their actions hurt another (15:01–18:44).
    • “You can’t just pretend that you aren’t a part of the cycle of a marriage being broken up just because you don’t want somebody.” — Mandii (17:32)
  • Distinction between sex workers (who maintain detachment, provide a service) and someone emotionally invested in the relationship.

• On Self-Deception & ‘Winning’:

  • Mandii believes the listener actually wants the man, citing the joy she takes in relationship perks and involvement with the family (15:52–16:43).

• On Responsibility:

  • Both agree the husband is ultimately responsible for the fidelity breach.
  • The side chick’s presence, when knowingly ongoing, still makes her partly morally engaged.
  • “So it’s like, is a drug dealer really wrong? Because somebody’s going to buy the crack anyway...yeah, you still selling it, bitch.” — Mandii (21:56)

• On Cycles and Endings:

  • Warn that relationships starting in betrayal rarely escape their origins—“bad juju” lingers (22:39–23:43).

• What Keeps the Cycle Going:

  • Men often stay until pushed out, rarely leave independently; women must honor their own boundaries (25:12–27:17).
    • “I’m never gonna leave a bitch till she leave me.” (25:45, paraphrasing male friends)

5. Hard Truths and Takeaways

• Self-Worth and Walking Away:

  • Women who expect more and leave build better outcomes for themselves.
  • “As long as y’all gonna take them crumbs, a motherfucker gonna feed you crumbs.” — Wheezy (29:31)

• “Fake Leaving” Doesn’t Work:

  • Mandii: Going back after threats to leave only reinforces bad behavior—real boundaries matter (30:07–30:11).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Witchy Manifestation:
  • “Little motherfucking witch. That is some witchy ass shit you listen to a frequency of manifestations of a man.” — Wheezy (01:21)
• On Modern Dating:
  • “This is 2024. This is a new era of dating. Niggas just don’t know until they fudgeing start to know.” — Mandii (05:25)
• On Side Chick-ship:
  • “Hell, we’re on a three-way text group. When she can’t find him, she texts us.” — Listener’s Letter (12:34)
• On Guilt:
  • “You can’t just pretend that you aren’t a part of the cycle of a marriage being broken up just because you don’t want somebody.” — Mandii (17:32)
• On Responsibility:
  • “I’m never gonna leave a bitch till she leave me.” — Paraphrased from Mandii’s male friends (25:45)
• On Self-Worth:
  • “As long as y’all gonna take them crumbs, a motherfucker gonna feed you crumbs.” — Wheezy (29:31)
• On Boundaries:
  • “Don’t fake go, fake go. That don’t...once you fake go and come back enough—” — Mandii (30:07)

Key Timestamps

• Manifesting Relationships & Positivity: 00:51–02:44
• Navigating Singlehood & Relationship Rosters: 03:22–04:38
• Modern Dating Intentionality: 05:25–08:02
• Listener’s “Side Chick-Ship” Letter: 10:07–14:23
• Analysing Morality, Responsibility & Guilt: 15:01–18:44
• Cycles of Relationship Dissatisfaction: 22:39–23:43
• Men’s Perspective on Staying Until Left: 25:12–25:45
• Self-Worth, Standards, and Walking Away: 29:26–30:11

Conclusion

This episode offers a compelling, often humorous dive into the gray areas of “side chick-ship”—underscoring the need for honesty with oneself, honoring boundaries, and re-examining outdated relationship norms. Mandii and Weezy leave listeners with tough love: if you’re accepting crumbs, don’t expect a full meal, and don’t rationalize away your discomfort—act on it.

For more dilemmas or to submit your own, contact the hosts at decisionspot@gmail.com or via Patreon.