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366. But mainly what you want to do if you're trying to reset your life is like, okay, it's going to be like health, it's going to be relationship. If you're religious, it's going to Be God fixing that relationship. And then it is going to be social and then maybe work. So like four or five things and then you just like, you go one by one, like I gotta just throw a daily habit into each and just get that back. Something that doesn't take that long, but just like a small exercise habit, A small like connecting with people habit, a small like spiritual habit. Right. And you go through like two to four weeks for each one thing, maybe you go through again add a second thing. You're not trying to jump into my ideally configured life where I'm making the maximum progress from my ideal lifestyle. It's like I am back in control in the sense of I'm not where I want to be right now, but I'm taking action that's optional on things that are important and that resets you. And it's going to take six months, take four months, whatever it is, and then you can say, all right, great, now I'm back in it. Where do I need to start making major changes? I got to get this whole thing, this whole problem out of here. I need to shift this job. And then you're sort of back in a mode of capability where you can start taking big action on optional things that are important. So that's what I'd recommend. All right, our final part, I want to check in on the cell phone and schools debate. I think it's interesting now that we're in a new school year to see where we are. But first, something that's even more exciting. I'm going to briefly mention a sponsor. Jesse, let me tell you about something I'm not very good at, which is hiring. As you know, we recently hired a creative director to help run the newsletter, among other things here at the company. You know what my process was there? This is, you know, I'm not proud of this. 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This actually came out in the spring, but it was looking ahead to this current back to school season. The title of this article was who's Against Banning Cell Phones in Schools? So inspired by the governor of New York, Kathy Hochul's push to have New York be one of the latest states to have a statewide ban on cell phones in schools, this reporter was checking in who's for this and who is against it. Now this has been a long, evolving issue with alliances coming and going. Mainly the groups of people who have been in favor of these bans have been growing while those against have been declining. So this is an interesting question. Who is still against smartphone bans in schools? This, by the way, is an article by Gina Belafonte. All right, so just a couple quotes I want to read here. Let's talk about the context for this article. Governor Kathy Hochul's recent campaign is to ban cell phones in schools across New York. At least eight other states, including Florida and Louisiana, have institute restrictions of varying kinds. In September, Governor Gavin Newsom signed a phone free act requiring every school district in California to devise a policy limiting the use of smartphones by July 2026. So these smart statewide smartphone bans in schools are spreading. It's blue states and red states. There used to be a talking point, I think Taylor Rins was really pushing this, that somehow this was like a Republican thing. Blue states, red states, New York, California, but also Florida, also Louisiana. Let's look at what's going on with New York's proposed ban. In a rare instance of agreement between labor and government, it is supported by the United Federation of Teachers, the union representing New York City schoolteachers. As Michael Mulgrew, the president of the U of T, put it, it is simple and everyone knows what the expectation is. Right? So who's in favor of the cell phone bans? The state of New York and the teachers unions. And it's hard to get them to agree on almost anything. So I think that's pretty impressive. So who is left to be against these right now outside of like high school students who just like to have their phones? This is the interesting point of this article. So the reporter looks into this. The constituents most opposed to all day phone bans are the mothers and fathers who seem to be addicted to constant filial contact. Twist. This is a twist for those of us who have been following this issue for so many years. The debate was between the data driven academics and the theory academics. So the data driven academics were the social psychologists and the childhood psychologists, the demographers and the economists who are looking at data and they care about data methodology. This is people like John Haidt. This is people like Gene Twenge who are like, look, I have no dog in this fight, but we're looking at this data. This stuff is bad for kids. We should get this out of schools. Almost certainly this is going to make things better. And then the fight was always against. There's another corner of academia who writes about technology. So like media studies professors or critical technology theorists who are less about data and more about particular theoretical frameworks. Here's the framework that's dominant in our field right now. And sort of my job is to sort of keep protecting this framework. And those type of academics, they cared about things like techno determinism. They didn't like the idea of just like a technology by itself could be good or bad. They were much more interested in their frameworks which were more person focused and about conflicting hierarchies of power, et cetera, et cetera, these sort of complicated postmodernism inspired theories. And so for a long time they just kept throwing up roadblocks for their other professors. And at first the roadblocks were when Jean Twenge came out in 2017 and said, by the way, there's a lot of these trends I'm seeing that are kind of bad. And I think it's because of phones at first. Like, no, it's because of other things. But then they look closer and said, actually these trends start just when phones start, not when these other things started. So they kind of moved on from that. And then you had the social psychologists come in and say, oh no, we're looking at this data and there seems to be these retrospective giant social surveys. There's these correlations between heavy social media use and bad mental health outcomes. And then the against the Idea act. There's like, no, our real complaint was not about the timing. Our real Complaint was these correlations are small and there's other correlations you could come up with. And, and it just matters how you look at the data. No one really knows what's going on here. And then we got better at analyzing the data and they stuck around. And then we got a lot of other types of study designs like prospective studies and randomized control trials and self reports and natural experiments. And they all were pointing towards the same thing. Oh yeah, these are bad for teenagers. So then the same people, like, that's not really our complaint. I think their complaint now is like, well, maybe cell phones are bad, but you can't ban them because we're going to invent hypotheticals where there is a particular kid in a particular situation where it'll be bad for that particular kid and the kid is marginalized. And we get points because we came up, we should get virtue points because we realized that could be a problem when you didn't. So this has been the battle, these professors fighting these professors. These professors are like, the data keeps showing this and these other professors keep throwing up different roadblocks, like, well, what about this? What about that? So this is the twist. Who's really against these bans now is anxious parents. And that's something that those of us who are in the academic argument maybe weren't paying attention to. Let me read a little bit more of a quote here. Governor Hochul has spoken to aggrieved first grade teachers who told her that they are overseeing classrooms full of children wearing smartwatches. Mommy and daddy were checking in all day long saying, I miss you and can't wait to see you. The governor told me me that's a parental need, she said, not a student need. The continuation of these patterns, she worried, was bound to keep children from emerging as fully functioning adults. I've heard the same thing in some of the talks that I give that part of the solution to getting kids off phones, especially in schools, is therapy for the parents. And I get it. If you're prone to anxiety, I'm a parent of three. If you're prone to anxiety, this is a really good vector for anxiety. I know about anxiety. A great vector for anxiety is my kid and my kid's safety. And you can ruminate on that six ways to Sunday. And once you start ruminating on that, you start telling yourself all these stories of all these disasters that are going to happen and that the only way to give yourself some peace is to be able to sort of be in touch with your kid and see this is not A problem, unfortunately, from a social utilitarian perspective, dooming an entire demographic to have to have these sort of highly distracted, low quality educational experiences so that a smaller group of parents can feel better. It's just not the right trade off. Right. There has to be other ways to work on that anxiety. The kids will be fine. Your ability to contact them in the day, it's not going to help. Also, who are these new parents who are talking to their kids every day? I don't know. I have three kids, Jesse. I think by the third kid, we're like rolling them out of the car at the school as we're on our way to celebrate school starting at like, like, what'd you call it? Dubliner. Is that the bar you like? Yeah, we're not sitting around. Oh, poopsie. Whoopsie. I hope you're okay. We're like, we got stuff to do. I'm on the peloton. The margarita. There you go. Sorry, I thought that was interesting, Jesse, that this is again, I've watched some of these things. You just, you get a sense of the data early on and you're like, I see the way this is going and we're going to have to have this battle for a while, but it's going to. And this has just been one of those issues, like kids should not be on these things. It's certainly not in school. And almost everyone is now on board with this. Most of the places of resistance are gone again. They're still like the professors who don't like techno determinism. The academics who are just now, they're just like throwing out random stuff. I don't know. Like, kids shouldn't. They should have phones in school because you have a poopy head. Like, I don't know. It's kind of like down to there. I don't know. But for the most part we're like, they shouldn't have phones in schools. Anxious parents is the next generation of things we have to deal with. So there you go. That's who's against phones and schools. Cool article. All right, that's all the time we have for today. Thank you for listening. We'll be back next week with another episode. And until then, as always, stay deep. Hi, it's Cal here. One more thing before you go. If you like the Deep Questions podcast, you will love my email newsletter, which you can sign up for at cal news newport.com each week I send out a new essay about the theory or practice of living deeply. I've been writing this newsletter since 2007 and over 70,000 subscribers get it sent to their inboxes each week. 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