In this episode, I sit down with dementia counselor, educator, and author Tami Anastasia for a deeply meaningful conversation about what really drives behavior in dementia care. We go beyond surface-level symptoms and talk about the powerful role personal history, emotional patterns, and past trauma play once the brain can no longer filter or suppress them. This is one of those conversations that can completely change how you see dementia caregiving.

Tami joins me to discuss her newest book, Dementia Caregiving & Personal History: How to Help Cope, Connect, and Heal, and why this journey—painful as it is—can also be an opportunity for healing for both caregivers and those living with dementia. We explore how connection replaces correction, why the soul does not get dementia, and how caregivers can respond with empathy, reassurance, and boundaries instead of guilt

Episode Highlights:

[0:00] – When words fail, how caregivers can still connect by speaking to the soul
[1:26] – Introducing Tami Anastasia and her work in dementia counseling and education
[3:27] – Why dementia behaviors often connect to unresolved personal history
[6:45] – How past trauma resurfaces when coping mechanisms disappear
[9:01] – Caring for someone who didn’t take care of you—and setting boundaries
[12:11] – Using personalized language to reduce agitation and fear
[16:16] – Honoring identity and work history in dementia care
[19:02] – Caregiver guilt, grief, and the emotional weight of placement decisions
[24:23] – Fear-based family histories and nighttime paranoia
[29:16] – Personality traits intensifying as dementia progresses
[31:56] – Listening to emotional themes, not just words
[34:56] – The power of non-verbal connection when language breaks down
[38:01] – Giving caregivers permission to acknowledge their limits
[40:05] – How to find Tami’s books and upcoming audiobook release

Links & Resources:

Tami Anastasia's Book Dementia, Caregiving, and Personal History: How to Help, Cope, Connect, and Heal: https://a.co/d/4qoXZ2d

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The Soul Doesn’t Get Dementia: Connecting Beyond Words in Caregiving

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