Dating Coach Reveals What Most Men Refuse To Accept | DSH #2035

Summary

Podcast Summary: Digital Social Hour – "Dating Coach Reveals What Most Men Refuse To Accept"

Host: Sean Kelly
Guest: Coach Greg Adams (“CGA”)
Episode: DSH #2035
Date: June 26, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this provocative episode, Sean Kelly sits down with controversial dating coach and “free agent lifestyle” advocate Coach Greg Adams (CGA) to unpack the hard truths and uncomfortable realities of the modern dating landscape—especially from the male perspective. The conversation covers CGA’s travel experiences, shifting gender dynamics, criticisms of the red pill/manosphere, the transactional nature of relationships, and why most men are left behind by today’s dating norms. CGA shares raw opinions and anecdotes, calling out what he sees as the uncomfortable, often ignored truths facing men in the West.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. CGA’s Global Dating Experiences

Timestamps: [00:29]–[02:19], [09:43]–[10:24]

• CGA shares that he’s traveled to over 30 countries and rates Brazil and the Philippines as the top places for dating, citing traditional gender roles and less government interference.
• “Brazil’s number one, and I would say Philippines would be number two...advantages to dating, advantages to getting to know people, that just doesn’t exist here in the United States.” ([00:48])
• Critiques U.S. dating for being heavily influenced by feminism and what he sees as over-regulation, contrasting it with the more “companionate” culture abroad.
• Highlights that even “passport bros” (men traveling abroad to date) need financial resources for such a lifestyle; it isn’t as easy or cheap as it may appear online.

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2. Red Pill/Manosphere Critique and Men’s Struggles

Timestamps: [03:05]–[05:18], [05:39]–[07:45], [29:11]–[30:20]

• CGA distances himself from the mainstream “red pill” or manosphere content. He claims it’s “dead” due to oversaturation and the discrediting of prominent voices.
• Argues that most men, especially Gen Z, are struggling in dating because women are targeting a small percentage of men, while the rest are increasingly isolated (“80:20 rule”).
• "The only way you’re going to make a relationship work…is if you bow down. Damn star symptoms.” ([00:16:02], recurring theme)
• Warns against the "hope strategy" where men expect society or laws to change and restore previous dating dynamics—it’s not coming back.
• “They believe that women are approaching dating and relationships genuinely for the benefit of everyone. They think it’s a fair game or it should be as fair as possible. So they’re trying to play the safe route and play it fair. What they’re finding out is that the women in their generation are not playing it fair.” ([05:43])

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3. Transactional Nature of Modern Relationships

Timestamps: [10:43]–[12:00], [17:29]–[19:16], [25:44]–[26:55]

• CGA asserts that all relationships are transactional, whether overtly (money, gifts) or covertly (time, energy, attention).
• Introduces his concept of “money, energy, attention, and time”—MEAT—as the currencies men trade in relationships.
• Discusses the “law of diminishing returns,” arguing that relationships are most exciting at the start and quickly lose value over time.
• “A woman will say, ‘I just want you to spend time with me.’ Is that transactional? Time is money.” ([11:19])
• “In order to make the relationship work, you have to simp. You gotta say yes these days. That’s how it works.” ([25:53])

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4. Femininity, Simping, and Power Dynamics

Timestamps: [13:53]–[16:10], [31:13]–[31:41]

• CGA laments the decline of femininity in the U.S., contending it’s now only displayed “transactionally” or temporarily to certain high-value men.
• “Femininity to me is a power. It’s a superpower. Unfortunately, it’s told to women as something that makes them vulnerable, gets them taken advantage of…these women have been educated to show less femininity or show femininity transactionally or only to the one guy they like…” ([13:53])
• Reiterates belief that for relationships to last, men must give in or act “submissive” (“simping”).
• “Most relationships work today because a man’s saying, 'Yes, yes. Okay, you want to go here...okay.'” ([16:11])

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5. Exclusivity, Vetting, and Dealing with "Damaged Goods"

Timestamps: [20:24]–[22:13], [23:08]–[24:33], [35:08]–[36:13]

• CGA rejects exclusivity at this stage of life, citing high baggage (“salvage title”, “damaged goods”) among women his age (debt, trauma, kids).
• “At my age…depending on the person’s age…I’m actually investing into damaged goods.” ([20:58])
• Warns men about taking on partners’ financial or emotional baggage, especially paying off debt, which he says often leads to the woman leaving once her problems are solved.
• Recommends stringent vetting and not attaching emotionally too soon.
• “All women are gonna lie…You want to catch her in the lie as early as possible.” ([39:59])

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6. Cheating, Social Media, and Relationship Trust

Timestamps: [34:46]–[41:22], [42:31]–[42:42]

• Argues that “almost all women are cheating in some form or fashion” — not just physically, but via emotional avenues such as male friends, social media orbiters, financial manipulation.
• “Almost all women are cheating in some form or fashion because that’s their mating strategy.” ([34:47])
• Social media is portrayed as an “orbit” where women continually market themselves and collect attention, an advantage men don’t have.
• Calls out the naïveté of men who seek less attractive women, believing there’s less competition: “That’s false…even a bum will get some level of attraction” ([42:12])

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7. Hookup Culture, College Dating, and Social Circles

Timestamps: [44:39]–[47:05], [47:40]–[48:56]

• Admits that constant hookup culture is “terrible for society,” especially as women win in the short term and men give up.
• Recommends social circles, community groups, or networking events as the best way to meet women—there’s more accountability and vetting.
• “Social circle is undefeated…[It] gives you your best results. Unfortunately, men are impatient. They just want to get laid tonight.” ([43:46])
• College hookup dynamics exemplify the 80/20 rule, with athletes and popular students accessing the most partners.

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8. Parenting, Modern Teen Relationships, and Social Media

Timestamps: [48:03]–[50:26]

• Sean and CGA reflect on the stealth and autonomy with which Gen Z dates today—parents are often oblivious to their kids’ relationships, unlike prior decades when approval was required.

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9. Child Support and Systemic Critiques

Timestamps: [50:37]–[55:20]

• Discuss the Paul Pierce case and the broader problems with child support in California.
• Both men criticize the lack of accountability in how child support payments are spent.
• “They budget child support as income, and that’s when the child doesn’t get the money.” ([52:19])
• CGA refuses to date women who have men on child support, calling it a “broke hustle.”

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10. Legacy, Final Thoughts, and Expat Living

Timestamps: [55:27]–[56:14]

• CGA muses on possibly relocating permanently overseas, juxtaposing the U.S. as the best country for ambition and money, but not for relationships.
• “Maybe in another five years, me out there...I was like, 'Okay, with this income, what would I consider?' And it literally came back, 'you would live like a king.'” ([55:53])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Modern Women:
  “Women are just children with breasts…they’re not anything more.” (CGA, [00:00] and repeated [31:13])
• On Transactions:
  “All relationships are transactional...money, energy, attention, and time—MEAT—you’re gonna pay.” (CGA, [11:01])
• On Modern Dating:
  “If you want to make a relationship work today, you gotta simp.” (CGA, [25:53])
• On Vetting Women:
  “All women are gonna lie…You want to catch her in the lie as early as possible.” (CGA, [39:59])
• On Hookup Culture:
  “Hookup culture…for most men, they’re not able to handle it…It’s terrible for society.” (CGA, [45:08])
• On Child Support:
  “I can’t respect a woman that’s on child support…she’s deceiving the system.” (CGA, [52:37])

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Major Segments (with Timestamps)

• Introduction & CGA’s Travel/Dating Background – [00:24]–[02:19]
• Critique of U.S. Dating & Governmental Influence – [01:31]–[02:19]
• Reflections on the Manosphere, Red Pill Content – [03:05]–[05:18]
• Trends in Male Virginity and “Hope Strategy” – [05:39]–[07:45]
• Scarcity and Abundance in the Modern Marketplace – [07:50]–[09:43]
• "Passport Bro" Lifestyle Realities – [09:43]–[10:24]
• Transactional Relationships & “MEAT” – [10:43]–[12:00]
• Femininity and “Simping” Strategy – [13:53]–[16:10]
• Law of Diminishing Returns in Relationships – [17:29]–[19:16]
• Baggage, Debt, and Why Exclusivity is Outdated – [20:24]–[22:13]
• Cheating and Social Media – [34:46]–[36:13]
• Where and How to Meet Women—Social Circles – [43:43]–[44:39]
• Hookup Culture and Societal Impact – [45:04]–[46:32]
• Parenting and Teenage Dating Today – [48:03]–[50:26]
• Child Support System Critique – [50:37]–[55:20]
• Expat Dreams & Final Reflections – [55:27]–[56:14]

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Takeaways

Coach Greg Adams offers a polarizing but candid appraisal of contemporary dating. His arguments revolve around the decline of traditional gender dynamics, the transactional nature of all modern relationships, and systemic issues like child support. CGA positions himself as a world-weary realist, rejecting hope for societal change and urging men to take control of their dating fate—often by looking abroad or embracing a “free agent” lifestyle.
For listeners, it's a raw, unfiltered insight into the growing frustration and cynicism among many men in today's dating world.

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(Follow Coach Greg Adams: Instagram/Twitter @CoachGregAdams, Free Agent Lifestyle books, etc.)

Transcript

[A]

And most of the time, you know, because I've raised children, women are just children with breasts. They're not anything more than children with breasts. Now, in order to keep a relationship going, the only way the woman is going to participate is if you bow down. Damn star symptom. That's the only way you going to make it work. Almost all women are cheating in some form or fashion because that's their maiden strategy.

[B]

All right, guys, CGA back on the show. Free agent lifestyle. Also Mr. Worldwide.

[A]

Lately, man, you've been traveling internationally known. All right. I get everywhere, man. 30 countries down.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I'm going to try to get 10 more in the next two years. I'm going to slow down a little bit.

[B]

Okay?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Every time I see your ig, you're in a new country, bro.

[A]

New country.

[B]

Crazy.

[A]

Trying to learn the world, learn the women, and learn the culture.

[B]

Which woman has impressed you the most out of these 30?

[A]

I would say Brazil, number one. Has been probably the best experience overall. Not just the women, but the women in general in terms of the quality and the way you can get along with them. Brazil's number one, and I would say Philippines would be number two. Philippines. Yeah. Philippines had a lot of advantages to dating. Advantages to getting to know people. That just doesn't exist here in the United States. Or it used to exist in the United States. It doesn't exist anymore. 90s are dead, you know, Y. But, you know, if people miss that element of dating and getting to know people, I think if they went to the Philippines, just having casual conversations with women is completely different than it is today.

[B]

Really? No feminism over there.

[A]

I mean, there's feminism, but there's only so much feminism you can have because there's no government. No government regulations. So if people are used to the government regulations in terms of child support, divorce, there's not much of that there. Neither is there a sense of a woman being independent. Right. So we have an independent woman culture here in the United States where there's an idea that they believe they can get as much as they can being independent, but they're just getting the C quality life. They're not getting a A or B quality like being independent, which is fine to me. But in the Philippines, that doesn't exist. Neither does Brazil. So there's a need to have companionship.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

Need to have relationships and lead to cultivate them as early as possible. So you're getting more or less women in their prime, no matter what your age is.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

As opposed to here in the United States. There's a lot more feminism and a lot more taboo things about relationships that will make people think twice about relationships.

[B]

So no government over there. So are people getting married out there in Brazil? And you said Philippines?

[A]

Yeah, they're getting married now, unfortunately, in the Philippines. They don't have divorce.

[B]

Oh, they don't have.

[A]

They don't have divorce.

[B]

Oh, wow.

[A]

So the thing is, you're probably dating someone who has been married, but they can't divorce, but they're estranged from their interesting person.

[B]

Interesting.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Is that a religious thing or what is that?

[A]

I don't know. It's been their place for history. You know, they're pretty Christian Catholic nation, so they don't believe in the divorce yet. But I do think it's coming around in due time because people will take advantage of that. They'll eventually have to do something about the divorce.

[B]

That makes sense. Did you watch the manosphere thing on Netflix?

[A]

I watched some clips of it.

[B]

Okay. You didn't watch the whole thing?

[A]

I didn't watch the whole thing.

[B]

Yeah. Media want to suffer through that.

[A]

I mean, how many more of these things that you can get? But I can pretty much assume what. What. How it went. Yeah, you know, but based on the

[B]

clips that I saw, I'm surprised they didn't ask you to give comment on that or be part of it.

[A]

Well, I think any intelligent producer of a content piece like that would not come after someone probably as experienced as I am. You know, most of the people that they had were young. They didn't have much life experience. Much of their philosophies on the show were probably suited in probably. I. I guess what I'm saying is not to demean any of those people that have been on the show, but most of their experience wasn't life experience. They're using talking points to try to overcome whatever deficiencies they have in the dating and marital marketplace. Whereas me, I have actual experience. I have experience with women, experience with dating, experience with the child support system, experience with the family court. And so I can speak specifically about an issue as opposed to generally.

[B]

Not hypothetically.

[A]

Not hypothetically.

[B]

Yeah, that's different. Plus, you're not really red pill. You're doing your own thing.

[A]

Yeah, I'm doing my own thing. I'm in entertainment, but I have an understanding of that specific environment. So I don't. I don't have a problem with being considered lumped in adjacent to red pill, adjacent to the manosphere, but I don't want to be considered some guy out here. Just putting out talking points to take advantage of men and build an audience on them, to sell them only fans.

[B]

That makes sense.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

The sentiment of the red pill manosphere scene seems to be at its worst right now.

[A]

Also, you know, I always say it's dead. It's dead. It's pretty much dead. It's great for people getting into it. Like, if you have no red pill knowledge, if you will, it's great to learn something to come into it. After you experience a breakup or you're thinking about marriage, it's good to come in from that entry point, but it's been oversaturated. The talking points are pretty much been overused at this point. And most of the characters that have become mainstream have been discredited to a massive extent. You know, I mean, so now if that's the. If these are the people that you're getting the information from and they've been massively discredited, well, then who do you have left?

[B]

For sure.

[A]

Yeah. It's tough.

[B]

What's the age demo of your audience? Is it younger guys mainly?

[A]

My demo was older.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

So, yeah, my demo is between 35 and 44. That's my peak demo.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

And then 45 up to 54 and with a little bit of 20, you know, mid 20s in there.

[B]

So my demo, Gen Z, we just reached all time high for a percentage of virgins. Did you see that?

[A]

Yes. Yep. Yep.

[B]

Why do you think, why do you think we're struggling so bad?

[A]

I think me, there's. There's two parts to it. Men, they believe in hope. Right. They believe that women are approaching dating and relationships genuinely for the benefit of everyone. They think it's a fair game or it should be as fair as possible. So they're trying to play the safe route and play it fair. What they're finding out is that the women in their generation are not playing it fair.

[B]

All right?

[A]

They're dimly. They're typically skewing towards men who are more established, well put together. They're also skewing towards men who they have interest in, which tends to be the same type of guys. All right, so there's an idea of an incel statistic of the 8020 rule where 80% of the women are going for 20% of the men.

[B]

Right.

[A]

But once you go outside in the outside world, you can see it's not that significant. Right. It's probably more like 70, 30.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But if you just take online Instagram, Tick tock, online dating apps, it's definitely 80 20. So that the people that you see outside are people who settle. People are kind of using that person to get to the next person as a stepping stone. And the men that fall below that, these men are getting no interest. All right? And the problem with them is they're creating a culture where they're trying to figure out how they can change that. How can we change that dynamic? Well, we can get red pill knowledge, we can follow a manuscript content creator, or we become an incel. We can become a red pill rager. We can rage about it. We can possibly maybe let women know that we're aware of this, guilt them into skewing the data back. But that's not going to happen. They're not going to get that. These men are going to be completely isolated from the dating marketplace for good because they're hoping, and I call it the hope strategy, they're hoping that it changes. What they tend to do is hope the government changes the law, maybe a religious awakening comes along, or that we cancel apps like Only Fans and we minimize social media to the point where women won't have a choice but to go back to those guys. And those guys gonna be highly disappointed.

[B]

Damn. So when you, when you were my age, this wasn't a struggle, right. Pre social media, you were still getting around.

[A]

Well, people can people struggle. I mean, everybody struggles. But if you look at the data, I would say in the 80s and 90s, 70, 80% of people were married by 24, 25. Wow, that's crazy to me, right? That's going into the 80s and 90s. So people typically married and they married earlier. And I typically attribute this to what we call scarcity. So men always have scarcity. They always tend to look at dating from a viewpoint of we don't have a lot of available women to pick from. So I got to pick someone. Even in the point of having sex, if a guy is even a good looking guy, he's probably going to deal from scarcity. He's going to go out to an establishment, go to a place and do a spray and pray, go out there and talk to as many women as can to get a result of one or two for sure. That's operated from scarcity. What tends to happen is the women used to operate from a place of scarcity they were dealing with. They're going to be an old maid, they're gonna have to have babies by 30, yeah, they would lose their value. By 25, they didn't have a great reach of men. Right on. Like it couldn't get flown out right. In the 1970s and 80s, they didn't have social media to continue to advertise themselves throughout the relationship or prior to the relationship. They certainly didn't have the ability to earn significant amount of money to be able to support themselves independently. So you had women operating in greater scarcity than the men. So then you had the perfect, perfect storm of people merging together and getting relationships. Even a lower tier man can get a relationship easier in the past compared to today. We don't have that. Women don't have scarcity. Women believe they have unlimited amount of options. I don't care how ugly, fat, disgusting she is, she believes that she has an unlimited amount of options. Even if they're sexual options. That, that beats settling at 25.

[B]

Right. You're not wrong. So the counter to that is passport bro kind of lifestyle, you think?

[A]

Well, it is. If a man has the ability to become a passport bro needs some money. He needs some money. Right. Because passport bros aren't traveling for free. Especially if you're traveling at it. You know, you're trying to do five star hotels, you know, business class. You're not trying to sit in coach for a 19 hour flight to the

[B]

Philippines, you know, free agent lifestyle, baby.

[A]

Because I, I travel nice, all right. I travel in business class, first class. I'm in five star hotel resorts. I'm not traveling like bums, you know what I mean? So I'm eating at great restaurants, I'm not trying to eat off the street food carts. And I'm seeing the higher tier women in there, which they don't come cheap in terms of dating them or mating.

[B]

So even overseas, they're pretty expensive.

[A]

Well, comparatively. I mean, let's like, you know, they're cheaper for, for us as an American, the experience is cheaper. Just a regular date.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Plus you're not dating like, you know, women here want to experience. Yeah, those women want more than just any, you know, the regular.

[B]

Is it more transactional over there?

[A]

It's probably. Well, all relationships are transactional, but it's directly transactional. Some men can navigate it and get around it, but they're fooling themselves. It's transactional. They, they depend on the relationship to be able to survive over here. It's transactional, but it's kind of. Well, we're not going to say it's.

[B]

It's masked. Yeah, yeah.

[A]

It's mask. Well, I really like you. I want to get to know you. It's still transactional to an extent. And if it's not transact financially, it's transactional with your energy, attention, or time. So a woman will say yes. She was like, look, I. I don't care about your money. I just want you to spend time with me. Is that transactional?

[B]

Yeah, time is money.

[A]

Time is money. So if she. If you're spending time, you're taking away time from what you can do to make more money.

[B]

Right.

[A]

It's still a resource. And what about paying attention? She wants attention. Text me, call me, FaceTime me. That's paying attention is paying transactional. Paying is a way to transact something. So if he says pay attention, paying would indicate a transaction. So it's masked over here. I call it money, energy, attention, and time meet. So you're either going to pay one of either money, energy, attention, or time, which is all transactional, or you're going to pay one of them, but you're gonna pay, right?

[B]

So for the guys that can't afford the passport bird lifestyle, because that's probably millions of guys, where do you think that's gonna have, like, AI girlfriends?

[A]

Oh, well, you know, I hope, if it heads that way, I hope to never see any of these guys out. All right? I don't want to provide a consultation for them. I don't want to talk to any of these guys. I want them to kind of languish in whatever world they're in. But I can see a time where those guys will head there because people hit the only fans big in Asia right now. Actually, the. The. Yes, the AI girlfriend experience, you know, if that's what they're going to do, that's what they're going to do. But be becoming what you call a passport, bro, requires a lot of money and requires you to have to be away from work. You know, you go to the. You go to Asia, you go to another country, you're not going to go for a weekend, right? You're flying 19 hours. So you got to go for at least a week or two weeks, and I would say three weeks. When I'm going over there, I'm going for four or five weeks. So I'm gone, right? And I'm gone. But I'm hopping from country to country. I pro will hit six or seven countries and I'll do five days, six days here. Most guys, they can't afford to do that. And thus, by the time they scrape enough. Enough money from their Jiffy Lube job to be able to experience that well, by the time they get over there, I will have conquered much of that and anybody else that can afford that and Trust me, there are a lot of men from a lot of countries, not just the US that travel to those areas not to take advantage of the girls, but to experience something that they miss, which is femininity.

[B]

Right.

[A]

They miss femininity. Men miss femininity, and that's why they are the way they are. And Asia, Southeast Asia specifically, they can see a level of femininity that they can't see in Russia, they can't see in Germany, they can't see in London, they can't see it in Australia, they certainly can't see it in the United States. So they have to travel to those places to see it.

[B]

That's a good point. I feel like a lot of guys forget what it actually is. Right. Femininity.

[A]

Femininity to me is a power. It's a superpower, unfortunately, is told to women as something that they will makes them vulnerable. It gets them taken advantage of. And I can understand it from their perspective because if you're told to be docile, nice, submissive people are going to take advantage of you for sure. So unfortunately, these women have been educated to show less femininity or show femininity transactionally or show femininity only to the one guy that they like, which is difficult.

[B]

Yeah. So you think it's lost in the US Pretty much.

[A]

It's gone. Damn, it's gone. Unless you're in that top 20, 25, 30% of men, you can experience it, but it's going to be temporary, right? Like, she'll come over and she'll be in her mood, she'll be in her luteal phase or she'll be in her phases. She'll be ovulating or something, and she'll come over for a couple of hours and she might wash a dish, she might make some noodles or some rice, and she'll be wanting to experience her femininity. She'll be in her submissive. Right. And then you'll go to the bedroom and you'll dominate her. You'll slap her on the ass and you'll pull her hair and give her a little bit of a toke and she'll be saying, yes, Daddy, yes. And then after she experiences that, that orgasm, if you will, she'll snap out of it and she'll turn into a masculine. Yeah, she'll snap right out of it. And she'll be out the door going back home.

[B]

Yeah. You're speaking from experience. It sounds like.

[A]

Oh, a lot of experience with this. Yes, yes,

[B]

man. It's like a switch. As soon as they get what they want.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Give it a person.

[A]

Yeah, they get what they want. You give them a couple hundred dollars for their pocket in gas, you get them a little bit of, you know, experience, you say, thank you. You know what I mean? He said, well, you're gonna come back. She'll go back to her phone or Snapchat. She'll go back to her Instagram. She'll go back to exercise on her options. She'll go back to her own place where it's comfort. She'll go back to cats and dogs, and she'll be back to her normal phase. She won't be in femininity anymore.

[B]

Right, right. And I feel like for guys, it's the opposite. They start simping once they get a taste of it.

[A]

I'mma tell you, you know, I'm gonna tell you, well, in order to make a relationship work, you have to simp. So in order to keep her there, you have to. You have to start simping.

[B]

You think so?

[A]

Yeah, absolutely. She snaps out of it and gets masculine. Now, in order to keep a relationship going, the only way the woman is going to participate is if you bow down. Damn star symptoms. That's the only way you're gonna make it work.

[B]

Holy crap.

[A]

And that. That doesn't mean you're not masculine. But in order to entertain her, you got a yes, dear. Okay, darling, you can't. You can't tell her that she needs to apologize for her behavior. You can't correct her. So if you start doing that, what's she gonna do? She's gonna run back to her Instagram. She gonna run back to Snapchat. She's not gonna sit around for that. Most relationships work today because a man saying, yes, yes. Okay, you want to go here? You want to try the sushi restaurant? Okay. Or you want to go shopping to the mall? Okay. You want to go to Costco and pick up. Let's go to Target. Okay. Let's go to Sephora and Ulta. Okay. Yes. All right. Okay, you want to pay? Step in front of the line, pay. Okay? Now if you want to stop a relationship, tell her, no, no, no, we're not going out to that restaurant. Okay? No, we're not going out on Friday night. No, you're not getting a new car. You're not getting a new minivan for you, for the kids. No, you can't go to work. You gotta stay here and start taking care of these kids. You tell her no three or four times, you're gonna hit a Scooby Doo Fred Flintstone runs, just gonna be scrambling. She gonna be out of there.

[B]

So that's your strategy?

[A]

That's my strategy. That's why I'm telling you all. You already get her to run. Yeah. Get out of here. All right. Well, my, my. My strategy is to provide aftercare enough for her to leave as fast as possible.

[B]

Really? Yeah.

[A]

You don't need to stick around.

[B]

Oh, wow.

[A]

It's a law of diminishing returns. All right. It's an economic term, is basically the more time or money you have into something, over time, the return is going to be less, the longer you stay in it. Okay. So if I'm meeting a person, what I put in, I'm going to get back as early as possible. The early part of the relationship and then towards the middle part of the relationship is going to be pretty much one to one. Okay. Reciprocation. What I put in, she gets back. But at some particular point, most people don't recognize when this point is. Is a point of no return. The returns start to decrease the longer you stay in it. Okay. And then you're put out, but you don't get back.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

And the more you accept that, the worse it gets over time.

[B]

Sexless marriage.

[A]

Sexless marriage. So even in a situation where you might be hanging out with the girlfriend or your wife on a Saturday, you wake up in the morning, everybody's feeling good. Hi, honey.

[B]

Hi, dear.

[A]

You get some pancakes and grits and eggs, all my stuff, and everything's good. All right? By the afternoon, somebody's gonna say something that triggers or ticks someone's off. And then now the experience with that person starts to lessen.

[B]

Right.

[A]

If it's not corrected or you don't separate for a period of time, the longer you sit around each other, the worse is going to get. And by the end of Saturday night, no. No dick. All right. Nobody.

[B]

All right?

[A]

Because the excitement's gone. That's the law of diminishing return of the time. Most people are excited to see each other when there's separation.

[B]

Interesting.

[A]

And then you get back together. Anticipation. Once people get comfortable and you spend more time, the quality of that experience dampens the longer you are around each other. So my particular experience is get them out of there.

[B]

All right. So you're a fan of separate houses, separate bedrooms, separate house.

[A]

Yeah, get them out of there. Separate houses, separate bedrooms. Live apart as much as possible. And then I realized there's only a certain amount of time that's going to last, which is good, because I get to Change women around, like underwear. And then I get to get a new pair.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I get to get a new set. I get to get a new experience, which is always going to be positive. All right. I'm never going to have to deal with the negative part of it.

[B]

You're, like, stuck in puppy love basically the whole time, right?

[A]

Yep.

[B]

Because you're just swapping musical chairs.

[A]

Yeah. Come in. We have fun. We go on some events, we go on some dates. Everything's great. We spend about a couple days together. Everything's good. It's time for you to go. Here's your ticket.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Here's your. Here's your Uber. Go home. She has a positive experience about it. She's happy about it. The next time I call her back in, in the next few weeks or months, she's like, yeah, that was great.

[B]

That's impressive.

[A]

But otherwise, if I just say, hey, we had a great experience, why don't we become a couple and exclusive, Guess what's gonna happen over time? That relationship is gonna crash and burn.

[B]

Yeah. Exclusivity. You're not a fan of that?

[A]

I can't do it anymore. I was exclusive. I was married before.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I can't do it anymore. At this age. You know, maybe. Maybe. Maybe when I'm older or something. A nurse or something. You know, maybe somebody take care of me. A hospice or Hospice. Hospice wife or something like that.

[B]

You're making up for lost time. Yeah, I make up.

[A]

I'll say, all right, baby, you know, I got a couple y. I'll write you into my wheel or something. You can get $20,000 out the door once I croak. All right. But no, at this point, exclusivity requires a lot of attention. Money, energy. Attention and time into one person.

[B]

Right.

[A]

That at my age, depending on the person's age that I'm dating, I'm actually investing into damaged goods.

[B]

Yeah, at your age, for sure.

[A]

At my age. So if I'm dating women my age, I'm basically taking a salvage title. Time to put a new engine in it, trying to get it re registered with the state as a new title.

[B]

They got kids. They got high body counts.

[A]

They got kids, you know, body counts or body counts, but they got kids, they have experiences. They also have trauma. They might have debt. Right, right. Even I. I've known women that have good situation. You walk into their house, they got a nice house and nice car, and they're in debt. They're. They're stepped from bankruptcy. And many times, unfortunately for men who want Relationships, they become easy targets for women to dump onto them. Right. And it. By the time he finds out, it's too late.

[B]

Oh, my gosh, they're hiding it.

[A]

So they'll hide it. Yeah, they'll come in, oh, I just want a relationship. I want to settle down. I don't want to be outside. I'm an in. You know, I'm an introvert. I don't go outside the clubs and party. And then you come in, I'll take you, and I'll save you. You know, you take her in, and then all of a sudden, she's like, oh, I need to tell you something. Oh, I got some problems. You know, I'm in a bind. And you start uncovering some situations that

[B]

needs to be discussed before I agree. Both sides. Even if the man was in debt, you need to discuss that before I agree.

[A]

And men do this to women specifically when they're younger.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

All right. This happens to men when they're. When they're younger. You know, gang bangers and drug dealers and dudes on child support with baby mamas, they'll dump on women very early. So the women will experience this in their early to mid-20s, and they'll get dumped on, whereas the men experience this pretty much late 30s, mid-30s, all the way up until they're 60. The women will come in like, oh, I'm so great. I'm so wonderful. I'm the diamond in the rough. Every man missed me but you. And you figured it out. Lucky you. And then when you take her in, you're gonna see baggage.

[B]

Yeah. Is that a deal breaker for you?

[A]

Debt is a deal breaker.

[B]

Even if it's like 10k, something light.

[A]

Well, that 10k is a mountain for her. She can't. She can't pay off that 10k. I mean, I could pay it off and not blink.

[B]

Right.

[A]

But once you pay it off, anytime a man pays off debt, she basically. You just basically gave her a ticket to leave.

[B]

That's true. Because then why would she stay? Right.

[A]

Why would she say she's staying there? Now, if I pay it off incrementally, okay, you earned a hundred dollars. You earned a hundred dollars. If I pay it off incrementally, the. The longer she'll stay, but she'll look at it and say, okay, this is going to take 24 months. But if I walk in, she walks in the door and she says, yeah, I'm in 10k worth of debt. I just need a little bit of help and space. Well, basically, you just gave her her walking papers once you paid it off, and that includes anything if you give her a breast implants, tummy tuck, bbl, a mommy makeover, you pay off her debt, her student loan debt, credit card debt, you pay, you know, you help her through a bankruptcy. Yeah, she gone. As soon as you met that. As soon as you drop that payment out of there. And them titties you bought somebody else

[B]

playing with, she's keeping them. Y y.

[A]

And she keeping them. You can't take her off her body, so another dude sucking on them.

[B]

I see stories like that all the time.

[A]

Happens all the time. T ass take you, you give her a bbl. Guess who's smacking that ass? Not you. You pay off your house late in the marriage. You know, you're 40 and 50 and you have that family conversation. You say, honey. You know, she says, honey, wouldn't it be great if we just paid off the house? We'll be financially free. You pay up that house 12 to 18 months, you're getting a divorce, and she taking that house. Y. Statistically, this has been proven. So, you know, it doesn't happen all the time, but you never know.

[B]

A lot of the times, man. Yeah, same with military, same with prison. The stats on those are nuts.

[A]

It's nuts.

[B]

Yeah. It's.

[A]

Another one is remodeling houses.

[B]

Really? Yeah.

[A]

Remodeling houses. You remodel a house, it's going to. You have a high chance of increasing your chance of divorce.

[B]

No way.

[A]

But most of the time, the woman is leading it. So she'll come in and say, well, we need to redo the kitchen. We need to put new cabinetry in. We need to do the bathroom. It will increase the property value, which is somewhat true until you have to sell it. But what'll happen is it'll cause so much discomfort because you got to work around having no kitchen. You got to negotiate off white versus cream cabinets. And if you get your way and she doesn't get her way and you put those cream cabinets in and she wanted off white. Every time she goes in that kitchen, she's reminded that you got your way. Now she's looking at cream cabinets. Now she's pissed. Every morning she goes to the. Every morning she goes in the kitchen.

[B]

Damn.

[A]

All right. And there's no. No sex for you tonight because she just got reminded every time she went in that kitchen on the remodel. So if you look it up, these things do happen. These are the fears that I talk about openly. And people would say, well, we shouldn't have to talk about this. Oh, you want people to be blindsided by it?

[B]

I mean, thanks for telling me because I'm going through my first remodel right now. Now I'm gonna let her do everything I got.

[A]

Yeah, get her.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. Let her get away.

[A]

And like I said, you got. In order to make the relationship work, you gotta simp.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Right. You gotta say yes these days.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That's how it works.

[B]

Not like the old times, right?

[A]

Nah. Old times. You used to get away with a little bit more.

[B]

Yeah, a lot more. Yeah, yeah.

[A]

You used to be a dad. Tell her to get your fat. You know, use your smacker up. You know what I mean? You just pull your hand back, you know, get in that kitchen. You know, today you can't do that anymore. Which is interesting. I didn't say, you know, maybe we should go back to that. Because violence does solve problems. We've gone to a philosophy of no violence. To where, you know, people, unfortunately, people. When there's violence, people take advantage of people. Right. But we've gone to a time where we go from no bullying, no violence. Right. It sounds nice on paper. However, unfortunately, what then happens is when people are manipulative, they use strategies to gaslight you and create circular conversations where you go nowhere to where if somebody just gets, ah, I give in. And most of the time, you could have solved it by just pulling your hand back.

[B]

All right?

[A]

And then now we're not even talking about it.

[B]

100.

[A]

So what. What we've done is remove violence of bullying, but we replace it with sign language manipulation. And typically, weaker people are better at manipulation. Smaller people, weaker people, women. These people are better at manip. And then the people who are larger, stronger, faster, they can't use what they. That works for them, so they have to end up relenting. We see this with liberals versus conservatives. We see this with people, you know, we see it across the board where the bullies, the new bullies, are the people who are not good strategically.

[B]

Keyboard warriors.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, Keyboard warrior.

[B]

It is a valid point. I got bullied growing up, but it made me way stronger as a man.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

So I think some level of it is good.

[A]

Some level of getting checked, you know, chin checked, you know, talk shit, get hit.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Understanding that words do harm. Consequences, Consequences. And we talk about the fist versus the tongue, where the fist is just as strong as the tongue. The tongue is more lethal. Right. The tongue is a sword. The fist is a weapon. Right. But we've removed the fist, and all we got is the Tongue.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And now you got people really violating and abusing people with the tongue. Keyboard warriors, Internet.

[B]

Yeah. You know, haters.

[A]

Haters. Liberal people. Now you can't snatch them up. You can't exercise the fist anymore against this particular people. So now they get to go run rampant doing what they. Doing what they do and saying what they say with no consequences.

[B]

Yeah, it's nuts, dude, because I have on the most hated people on the show. But in person, no one ever comes up to them.

[A]

I have never had a problem in person.

[B]

Exactly.

[A]

And people recognize me in person.

[B]

Yeah. But your comments, I'm sure you have thousands of haters every day.

[A]

Every day. I mean, they're the first people commenting. They're like waiting for you to drop a video.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So they can go in on it.

[B]

And they probably have notifications set up. Yeah.

[A]

You're like, man, why is this person. Now you got block them. Then they put another account up. And unfortunately, we just live in a world where we use social media, that's our source, to get our frustrations away. And whatever we think is the problem, we can solve it by saying things to instigate or hurt people. And that wasn't the intent.

[B]

I mean, it goes back to what you said earlier. There's just a lot of angry men these days. And I think a part of it's a lack of sexual experience. Right. A lot of virgins, a lot of incels. These guys are angry people. A lot of them.

[A]

I used to sympathize for these men. I don't anymore.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

No, no, no, no. But you got to be ready for them. Because they're desperate.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because they've been given all the tools that they need to be successful with women. They just don't want to do it. They just don't want to do it. We told them to get in shape, clean themselves up. I mean, get a haircut. We told them just about everything. Go to the gym, you know, improve your financial situation and what their scenario is. We shouldn't have to do all of that for an average woman. And I'm like, okay, stay averse.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I mean, what do you want me to tell you?

[B]

Got to put in some level of work, right?

[A]

You gotta. You gotta meet someone halfway.

[B]

Girls aren't going to come to you.

[A]

They're. They're trained not to come to you. Basically, that's their mating strategy. So in essence, it's about leverage. Women know that if they initiate conversations with men, they lost leverage. Men that initiate conversations with women, you lost leverage. So Women inherently know they're going to get more options anyway, so why lose leverage? They can maintain leverage by just acting like, oh, I don't see anybody here. And then, oh, tap me on the show. Oh, hi, miss. You know? And they maintain the leverage from that particular point.

[B]

Right.

[A]

The men believe, they automatically know that. So they don't want to go in with as little leverage as they have and lose leverage completely by initiating.

[B]

Would you ever let your girl attend a Chris Brown concert?

[A]

I never use the word let. Okay. I'm smart. What I would say is, I don't accept a woman that goes to a Chris Brown concert so that she gets to make a decision on whether to do it or not. Now I get to exercise consequences whether she does it or not. So I don't tell her, I don't let you go. I don't let you do anything. I don't let you go out to nightclubs. I don't let you wear that. I could say, well, I don't accept a woman that I'm committed to to wear something like that. But if that's what you want to do, go for it. She comes back and she sees the door locks are changed, and, you know, I blocked her. She made the decision. I didn't.

[B]

Wow, so you've actually done that.

[A]

I do that all the time. That's hilarious. And most of the time, you know, because I've raised children, women are just children with breasts, all right? They're not. They're not anything more than children with breasts. We've been convinced that they're more than children with breasts, but they're not, because they can always fall back to, oh,

[B]

I'm just a girl.

[A]

They can always fall back to. I'm the victim. So they're just a child with breasts. You know what I mean? And that's how you have to treat them. You have to give them options. When you raising a kid, you give them options. Hey, if you do that, there's consequences.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

As opposed to, I'm not gonna let you do that. And then they don't find out that there's real world consequences. You said, well, go ahead and do that and see what happens. And then in that moment, you've given them the choice. They can't play the victim. Women are victims all the time. Right? So if I say, you can't do that, or I won't allow you to do that, or I won't let you do that, she can play the victim and say, he's insecure, controlling, combative, he intimidates me, he bullies me. I want to do it, but he won't let me. That's a victim. But I take away the victim narrative by saying, well, I don't accept that. But you could decide to do it and then see what happens.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then when she walks out that door thinking she's coming back or thinking that I'll. I'll accept it and relent or bow down or become a simp. Well, then she'll find out that I won't do it, and she'll just have to go back and hop on another date. Yeah.

[B]

I frowned. And find out. Right.

[A]

Fuck around, find out. She'll find. Go for the other dick, then. That's what you want to do.

[B]

That's the much smarter approach than what Wes Watson did with his girl. Did you see that? She went to the Miami Heat game.

[A]

Yeah. And then he threatened her, allegedly through hands or whatever.

[B]

He's in prison right now, but, yeah, he's too emotional. Right.

[A]

Way too emotional. But people could have saw that coming. I mean, he's not able to manage relationships because of whatever his emotions are. And again, he's trying to use the bully tactic. In today's world, that doesn't exist.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And men haven't adapted to today's world. They're. They're hoping they can go back or turn back the hands of time to a world where you can do what Wes Walking. Watson.

[B]

Watson.

[A]

Yeah. Wes Watson did. And you can't because the women have more options. They already knew. She's like, whatever.

[B]

They got more power, too.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

They call the cops. Who are they going to believe?

[A]

Usually, you know, they got the cops. We call them simp enforcers. So they have the cops. So they got simple forcers, or I told them, you know, toy soldiers.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So they have a series of men and women that they just get to wind the little wind up behind the. Behind the back, and then they'll just go. Yeah. So we call them the court of public opinion. They have the Internet, simp enforcers, they have the. The family court. Simp enforcers, lawyers, police officers, simp enforcers, you know, men in general. So they just have too many people that they can just ignite right away. Klay Thompson found that out with Megan Stallion.

[B]

That was crazy. I saw that coming, though. I mean, let's be honest, that from day one, I was like, this isn't going to last.

[A]

But people said that, and they called us haters.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

We were like, that's not a pair.

[B]

It was so obvious.

[A]

Yeah. And they were trying to force a narrative. And when it happened, then of course the first thing she ran to was the simp enforcers. She ran to the court of public opinion to come out here and say, I was victimized. He was cheating on me. He tried to embarrass me by having other girls. Well, ma', am, we didn't know he had other girls. You embarrassed yourself by talking about it. We didn't know what would happen. You could have just broke up. But because women have toy soldiers and symptoms enforcers in the court of public opinion, they're always going to be.

[B]

But didn't she cheat first?

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

What? I don't know the exact details, but that's what I said.

[A]

Pretty sure she was cheating.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I mean, most women cheat. Oh, I don't know if you want to talk about that.

[B]

Oh, let's do it. Yeah.

[A]

Okay. Yeah. So almost all women are cheating in some form of fashion.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because that's their mating strategy. So in essence, they'll mash. And when I say cheating, I don't mean physically cheating, but they're doing things like marketing themselves continually on their social media. That's a form of what I call keeping their orbit around.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Keeping people to give them attention. Even if she's not checking on it. That exists for her where that does never exist for men. You don't have that equality. So she can do it and say, well, I'm not doing anything. But of course, when she breaks up, what do you find out? She's gonna jump up there on her social media a lot more and just say, oh, you know, it's complicated. Yeah, you know, I broke up. And then now here, here comes the comments of all over available orbiters. Financial cheating, having multiple men that are male friends that want to have sex with them or previously had sex with them, but they maintain the relationship with their ex, their baby daddy. These are all forms to me of cheating, which is, this is why I'm not relationship material. But these are forms of cheating that they get away with in their mating strategy that men don't have the ability to do. There's no equal side of that argument. We either have to physically cheat or emotionally cheat or if we have a girlfriend or a female friend, then that's going to be something she's not going to be comfortable with. Yeah, she's going to try to sabotage that. And if she feels comfortable with it, you better find out what she's doing with her male friend.

[B]

For sure. Yeah. Men, she just physically. Right.

[A]

We Mostly treat physically and financially.

[B]

Financially.

[A]

Financially, yeah, yeah. We, we spend money. A woman, you want to upset a woman, physically cheat on her, you want to embarrass her and the humiliate her. Take money from that should have went to her and give it to another woman.

[B]

That'll piss her off.

[A]

Oh, she'll be really pissed.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Especially a married woman or a woman that you're in a relationship with. If you physically cheat on her, that's, that's a violation. But if she finds out you've been taking her around the world, traveling, going to the beach. Right. And paying for her wardrobe and buying her high heels shoes, taking her out the five star restauran restaurants, oh, she really gonna be pissed. Especially if she's been sitting at home and you don't take her anywhere.

[B]

Yeah. Whereas woman, it's more emotional. Right. For them.

[A]

Emotional.

[B]

They'll flirt a little bit. Yeah, they'll DM some guys dm, they're

[A]

talking to multiple guys. Even if she says, oh, it's just, it's nothing. It's a work husband. It's my play cousin, gay best friend, gay best friend, my homie that I went to school with. My hairdresser, my personal trainer, my, the guy at the gym. These, these are. Nobody, don't, don't worry about these things. These are emotional cheating because women, most of the time, I would just tell you, like these guys that she's talking to. You also met her that same way. The same way you met her is the same way she's engaging in these conversations with these other men. Right.

[B]

So women that have male physical trainers, what do you think about that? They're married.

[A]

I used to be a male physical trainer. Yeah. Yeah. And I trained a lot of women, but I was a professional.

[B]

Okay. Right.

[A]

I never really looked at sourcing my vagina from my workplace. You know what I mean? I was about making money and I was on a mission to make as much money from that as I possibly can. But a lot of trainers do violate that. There's a lot of flirting. Text message.

[B]

Tom Brady's wife.

[A]

Tom Brady's wife with the jiu jitsu instructor. Well, I guess I would have cheated with J if I, I mean, he came up, he married her, he's a millionaire. But yeah, I think like if I had a relationship with a woman, I wouldn't want her to have a male fitness training same. I wouldn't want that.

[B]

I wouldn't want it.

[A]

But if she had a male physical trainer when I met her, that's different. I would have to handle that a little bit differently. I can't come in then and say, you can't have that person respect.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I mean? Like, I'm not. I'm not a bully. I don't want people to change because I entered into the door.

[B]

Right.

[A]

But if that person already existed and I accepted it initially, and then I committed to her, and then I was like, okay, you need to change that. That would be probably unfair.

[B]

I feel that. What about some male friends that she had before you?

[A]

That would be a little bit different, because then you would have to understand the true nature of the relationship, and hopefully she will be up front. See, for me, I think the worst thing a woman could do is lie. And they're all liars, so you're gonna catch them in lies. And I think that a lot of people allow women to lie, lie, lie so much that when they. The lies they had exposed their hurt. Men are very hurt by the lie. The woman sold him a dream. The woman sold him the idea that she was faithful and true. And when the guy finds out that's a lie, he looks back at all of the times that she was with him. Faithful and true as a lie. So that's where the pain comes from. The guy, this, we did that. She made herself available sexually. She sucked me off. And then you find out she was doing the same thing with another guy. Well, all of that was a lie. She told me she loved me. She told me she was fake. All of that is a lie. And that's what sets guys off. But in my experience, in dealing with women that I want to see if she's going to lie as early as possible, I want to catch her so I can not fall into the emotions yet. I don't have to negotiate emotions if I'm not that attached to her. So I want to catch her in the lie as early as possible.

[B]

Got it?

[A]

And I will. Because all women gonna lie, Detective. Yeah, I'm untrustworthy when it comes to women. I don't trust no women. I don't trust them. I could always tell them, I can trust you as far as I can throw you. Now, most of you are fat than a. So I can't throw most of you guys very far. But, you know, when you're dealing with Filipinos and Asian women, they're very small. You can throw them a little bit further so you could trust them a lot more. But in this situation here, most women, you're going to catch it a lie in the first couple of Minutes that you meet them.

[B]

Really?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

What's a good question? To tee up to catch them in a lot from a. Oh, that's a good question.

[A]

But here's. Here's a good question here. Are you talking to anybody else?

[B]

That. That's enough for you to know.

[A]

That's enough.

[B]

Okay. I mean, usually they say, no, right?

[A]

She'll say, no, I'm not talking to anybody else.

[B]

And that's a lie.

[A]

That's gonna be a lie.

[B]

Right?

[A]

100 a lie. Oh, my phone is dry. I don't have anything else going on. I'm boring. I just sit at the house all day. Should have told, like, five lies right there.

[B]

Right?

[A]

I'm an introvert. I don't like nightclubs. I don't go out and party. A woman that will tell you she'll introvert. She's a homebody. She don't go out into clubs and party. Get into a relationship with her. In three weeks, she'll be at a nightclub.

[B]

That's wild.

[A]

She'll be at a nightclub. She'll be like, oh, I'm going out with my friends. My friends from out of town are here. Where are you going? Oh, we're going to. We're going to Omnia. What happened? We're going to Dre's. Wait, well, hold up. You told me you don't go to. You don't go to nightclubs. Give it three weeks. You commit to her, she'll be at a nightclub within three weeks.

[B]

Yeah. They all say they don't talk to anyone. I've never asked that to a girl. And they're like, yeah, I'm talking to a bunch of guys. Yeah.

[A]

I mean, that would be the honest answer. And that would give me the opportunity to say, do I want to invest in pursuing this woman? Okay. Because there's competition. There's always going to be competition.

[B]

Always.

[A]

Always. When she walks out the door, she's going to have three people talking to her within the. The entire day. That's competition. But men shouldn't be afraid of competition. Women are generally afraid of competition. Men should not be afraid because it's always going to be there. Even if you marry her, the competition is going to be there.

[B]

Right.

[A]

So you're going to have to deal with it whether you like it or not. And to make the best man win, it's inevitable.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So even if I lose, I want to go ahead and say, well, I'll go, I lost. Or, yeah, there it is. But most guys don't want to lose at all.

[B]

So you don't worry if a bunch of dudes are hitting her up, I can't help.

[A]

Okay, listen, if, if no dudes are hitting up your girl, you got a bum. I mean, like what kind of like you settle for less. All right, if nobody but like all women getting hit up at some particular point, but if no dudes find your girl attracted attractive, you got a bum. And most dudes will take a bum. But even a bum will get some level of attraction.

[B]

Yeah. I mean, these days, any dating app, they hop on 10 to 1 ratio, they're gonna get so many matches.

[A]

You see all these slump busters and knock knees and cockeye women and bucktooth and snotty nose women running around here with men.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Dudes are desperate for anything, so they'll take anything. But I think a male dating strategy, which is a failed one, is to take a lesser quality woman. Because in his mind he thinks there's less competition, right? Oh, she'll be, she'll be appreciative if I give her a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Right. She'll be appreciative if I give her attention, she'll be appreciative with my inexperience in the bedroom. And so I'll take a lesser quality woman and then more or less she'll be happy to be with me and there'll be less competition. That's false.

[B]

You don't agree with that?

[A]

No, because men inherently shoot low and hit. They aim low to hit. So when they're using strategies like cold approach and numbers game, they're going to go to the worst women to try to get success, right?

[B]

Always. Always. Because they assume the hottest ones already getting taken. Right.

[A]

You know, how does girl go reject them in 10 seconds? Soon as he opened his mouth. Right. But a woman with that's less, he's going to assume he's going to be able to get a conversation out of her.

[B]

Where are you telling guys to meet girls these days? The gym or the grocery store or.

[A]

To me, social circle is undefeated.

[B]

Okay?

[A]

So if you want, because men are impatient, but if you want your best opportunity to see a woman, see how she is in her environment, see what type of lies that she tells. She could tell less lies when the social circle is on. Right. That includes church. Right. Your community, networking events, these type of areas. Right. Even if you just have a friend group, college roommates, college friendships, these are the best place to meet women because you can vet them and she has something on the line to lose if she lies.

[B]

Right.

[A]

She has a Reputation. And women's reputation has to always be protected. But if you're meeting strange women, that's when they can lie and it makes you harder to vet them. And she has nothing to lose once you discover that she's a lying sack of.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

She could just go to the next person. Most of the time. Can play the victim and go to the next person, which makes it even worse. So social circle is going to give you your best results. Unfortunately, men are impatient. They just want to get laid tonight.

[B]

Yeah. And.

[A]

Or they want to get as late as they possibly can, which sets them up for failure.

[B]

What do you think of the hookup culture? Do you ever advocate for that? Like trying to find a new girl every night for me.

[A]

All right. But for most men, they're not able to handle this.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And it's detrimental for women, for society overall. It's terrible. Okay.

[B]

At least you acknowledge that right now.

[A]

It's not good. Yes. It's not good for society to have people constantly hooking up as long as they can, because women are going to win that game. They're going to hook up with more men and then dump that baggage into a man with lesser experience and then manipulate him. And then also in terms of the man, the men then look at it and they're just going to give up when they don't have success. They're going to hear some guy say he got a body count of 100, 200, 300. And this guy working on three.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And he's seeing how fast this guy's getting it and how he's not, and he's just going to give up. There's no incentive for men to become better in a world where a small percentage of men are women. You know, if the men are winning, what am I going to do? I can't compete against that.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. I don't think it works long term either.

[A]

Terrible.

[B]

I think it should be a phase. You go through it, and I mean, for you, you're living it, but you're a rarity. Right.

[A]

I'm rare, but I think more men should become me at some point in their lives.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But I think the hookup culture thing should kind of die out early 20s once college comes. It should be people being more serious about people and not trying to hurt people and manipulate people and coming to the relationship generally. But we can't bank on that. I can't control people. So what we have is a system of manipulation and lies, and people are frustrated about it. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

When I hear girls go to college. I'm just like, oh, man, that's almost a red flag to me these days.

[A]

Well, my son's in college. I'm sure he's having a good day. He told me, man. Boy, you know, it's. It's. It's out there. You know, the girls are experimenting. They're experiencing things where young men aren't. And I think that doesn't give relationships an advantage for men.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

How did. How's it supposed. How is he supposed to beat that?

[B]

Yeah. That college. I really do feel like the 8020 applies there because you got the sororities and the fraternities. Yeah. Just hooking up with the hottest, most attractive people. Right. If you're just like an average Joe, you're not getting laid.

[A]

You're out of there.

[B]

Yeah. If you're not an athlete or.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

Someone like, in a frat.

[A]

Big man on campus.

[B]

That was my experience, at least.

[A]

Yeah, well, that was my experience too.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

Yeah. I mean, that was the same thing, but I was around athletes and athletic and this type of thing, and that's what happens, you know? Think we can do anything about that? Because we've made a society where women exploring themselves as empowerment and independence and where body counts don't matter. Well, I can't negotiate that. I can't criticize that. But what I can do is develop a plan around it and say, okay, how does that. How do I experience a better situation? Maybe I can tell men on doing the same.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So we try to tell them. Well, instead of dealing on hope that you hope you find a good woman, actually vet women enter into the relationship where you look at it before you emotionally believe her, because that's where you get hurt.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So, you know, I always tell men, you can catch a woman cheating very easily.

[B]

I feel that. How strict were you when it came to your son and his dating life?

[A]

Well, you know, they. Gen Z people had. Unfortunately, they had covet. They also have the ability to communicate people online discord boards and. And 2K and COD. So I found that that generation of people didn't go out and date as much. And they're gonna have some struggles for this for the next, like, 10 now years down the line, we're gonna see how that worked out for them. But you have to remember, if my son's a freshman in college, his experience with school was behind a computer from seventh, eighth grade to tenth grade.

[B]

Damn.

[A]

All right. That three years he missed his freshman year on campus. I think. I think they had like, part time.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And Then going into middle school, that was right at the beginning of COVID And then right after that, they got accustomed to three, four years of just being able to comfortably sit behind their computer and goon or find girls or talk to people online.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And their dating experience is different from ours, where much of their experience is behind their door talking to people online.

[B]

I feel that. I'm sure you get asked that a lot because you said your age demo is a bunch of parents, like 30s, 40s, 50s. So I'm sure they're asking how involved they should be with their kids dating lives. Yeah.

[A]

You know, and you're never going to see anybody that they're sexually active, that are dating. They're not going to come to the door. In the 90s, we had to go to the door, knock on the door,

[B]

you get approval, right? Yeah.

[A]

Get an approval, Meet the dad, meet mom. Or at least when we called the phone, it wasn't a cell phone. It was a house phone.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And they didn't have their own line. And then their dad will pick up and he got. Yeah, this is Marcus. Is Tammy home? You know, and then who is this? You know, you know, that type of. And you have to overcome the parents just to get to talk to the girl. And the girl couldn't sit up at all night texting on the phone. She had to get off the phone or somebody else had to use the phone. So there was limited time. So you had to be present in front of the parents and. And navigate that barrier. Today you don't.

[B]

No. The kids hide their relationships out. They won't even tell you till they're like a year in.

[A]

Exactly. They're dating someone and they won't post you either.

[B]

Yeah. So they're sneaky with us.

[A]

Sneaky with it.

[B]

Yeah. I don't know if that's the right approach, though.

[A]

Well, you won't find them. That's why we always tell. I always tell my parents or the parents and say, look, you better watch your daughters, your nieces, your cousins, because they're out here, especially when they turn 18, 19, and 20.

[B]

Yeah. All right.

[A]

They see me. All right. The stuff that you. You see your niece. Where'd you get that from? They got it from daddy.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

All right. They. They're real Daddy. That's me. I'm taking care of a lot of kids. I'm a father. I'm like Abraham. I have many daughters out here, but what happens is they're able to do these things and then hide them from their parents.

[B]

Saw you make A video on one of my guests. I wanted to talk to you about this Paul Pierce.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Child support. How much is he paying for that?

[A]

Well, she's trying to get $30,000 from Paul.

[B]

Damn. A month.

[A]

A month? You're retired.

[B]

He's not making money like that anymore.

[A]

No.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

I don't think she'll get $30,000, but she's gonna get something.

[B]

Is that in Cali?

[A]

That's in. Yeah. She has the case in California.

[B]

That makes sense.

[A]

Worst place you can have child's.

[B]

Worst by far.

[A]

I was on child support in California.

[B]

Oh, God. Yeah. How much were you paying?

[A]

I was like 700amonth.

[B]

It was good deal.

[A]

That was a good deal. It was right before I was making money.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But. But because my kids were minors all the way through up until 2024, she still was coming after me because of my increase in social media.

[B]

Took off.

[A]

Yeah, Social media took off in 2019.

[B]

So they can retroactively.

[A]

Yes. She was coming after me for three, four years of child support.

[B]

Damn.

[A]

Yeah, man.

[B]

She went.

[A]

She came after me right before my son turned 18.

[B]

How much of that was she spending on the sun, you think?

[A]

Oh, none. Myself was like, I don't see no money. I don't see any money. Yeah, but that's my 6,000amonth from you.

[B]

Yeah. That's my biggest gripe with it. They don't check, like, how much of the funds are being used on the kid. Because I grew up under child support. Yeah. I don't think. I mean, my mom watches every episode, so. But I'll say this to her face. I don't think she spent the full amount, obviously.

[A]

No.

[B]

On the kid. What incentive do they have to do that?

[A]

None. They actually don't intend to spend the amount on the kid.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

They're thinking about rent, which they'll say, oh, that helps the kid.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Oh, the Internet bill helps the kid.

[B]

All right.

[A]

But no, what you're financing is her ability to double dip. She has a job and she double dips with your money. And that's her budget. That's why they make a mistake, unfortunately. They budget child support as income, and that's when the child doesn't get the money.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Because they're looking at it as a way to make ends meet, and so they're stealing from the system. I think these women are what we call. I call it the Broke Hustle. And I can't respect the woman that's on child support if I'm. If I date a woman, if I'm. Let's say I have a metal woman and she has a man on child support. I won't.

[B]

You're out.

[A]

No.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

Because I think that's a. It's a. There. She's deceiving the system.

[B]

Yeah. Do you think it should be an arrangement just between the. The husband and the wife? On.

[A]

Well, I don't pay you because men aren't gonna pay it.

[B]

Right. Obviously. Let's be honest. Right.

[A]

I mean, they're not gonna pay. I mean, they have trouble paying it now, and they get arrested, they get their tax return taken, they get their passport revoked, and they still don't pay it. But I think what we need to do is. What you suggested is to look at how they're spending it. But we have government people who. They're idiots. They're not gonna.

[B]

They don't care.

[A]

They don't care. Their job is to get matching funds from the federal government so that they can get, you know, billions of dollars built into the state system. They don't really care about the. The mother or the father or the kid, for that matter. But Paul Pierce, in this situation, what surprises me is he was aware of it. He was doing podcasts and information about men.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And he knew about it. And he still went raw and cream pied that woman, bro.

[B]

That was our whole podcast when he came on, was about dating.

[A]

Was it?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And he got got. But. But look, for men, I always tell you, look, you can have all this knowledge about dating and women. That's the problem with this dating knowledge that we have going on the Internet between men and women is that we're trying to tell each other through experience what's going to happen. But when you get two people behind closed doors, all that is out the window. That awareness goes away when. When. When everybody's aroused.

[B]

Yeah. Well, when he was probably drinking. Yeah. Who knows?

[A]

You're drinking, you're aroused. She's naked. She looks good.

[B]

That's when your. Your primal brain, or whatever it's called, kicks in, Right?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You're not thinking straight.

[A]

Even. Even to the point where he's gonna finish in her. Yeah, he probably thinking, maybe I shouldn't do this. Oh, too late. All right. Oh, it feels good. And then you're. You're doing the hope and pray. I hope she's not pregnant. And then she is. And now you're gonna pay child support until you're 70.

[B]

Yikes. 70.

[A]

I mean, by the time he goes,

[B]

well, I mean, yeah, he's in his 50s already, so. Yeah.

[A]

So he's like, almost 50?

[B]

I think so. Yeah.

[A]

Right. That's 18 years plus, you know, you're gonna pay the kid. I mean, the kids. A human being. You're gonna take care of the kid afterwards. Right. You're. You're doing partial custody exchanges in your 60. Like, part of the people who criticize my free agent lifestyle is they never talk. They never consider why I didn't get remarried and why I don't have relationships today is because I look at it as I don't want to be. And getting divorced at 60 and going through split custody and having custody arrangements with my kids, mid-60s and paying child support in college in my 70s.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Who wants to do that?

[B]

Nah.

[A]

I'll be in the Philippines.

[B]

All right.

[A]

I'll be in Brazil. Catch me somewhere else. I'm not doing that. No way.

[B]

You think you're gonna get out of here for good one day?

[A]

One day I will.

[B]

Really?

[A]

Yeah. I mean, I'm kind of trying to do the partial.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

50 here or 30 over there. I'm trying to figure it out. A good balance, because the United States is. Is good. It's the best country to live in.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

If you want to make more money, you know, if you're ambitious, other areas, not so much.

[B]

For sure.

[A]

So. But maybe in another five years, me out there and.

[B]

I mean, you could live like a king out there.

[A]

Yeah. Actually type that into chat. Gbt One time, I was like, okay, but this income, what would I consider? And it literally came back. You would live like a king, bro.

[B]

Thailand. Thailand. Thailand. I'm sure Philippines, too, but Thailand, you could spend, like 10 bucks a day and live like a king.

[A]

Live like a king.

[B]

Crazy, man. $10 a day gets you Chipotle here.

[A]

Yep. Does it get you Chipotle?

[B]

Not anymore.

[A]

Yeah, man.

[B]

Yeah. Not even. Not even.

[A]

I used to. I used to fill up my gas tank with $10. Wow.

[B]

Now I spend 150.

[A]

150.

[B]

Crazy. It's crazy. Times have changed. Well, dude, how can people watch this? Support you and keep up with you, man.

[A]

Man, Keep up with me. Coach Greg Adams. Google it. Or you can go on Instagram Coach Greg Adams tv or Twitter Coach Greg Adams. You can find me on the free agent lifestyle. You can find my books. Free agent lifestyle. And you'll be able to find all the information.

[B]

Check out the links, guys. Peace. Peace. Thanks for watching all the way to the end, guys. It means a lot. Please click here if you want to watch the next episode and please subscribe to the show. It helps us get more guests and helps grow the brand.