Podcast Summary: Digital Social Hour with Janelle Gordon

Episode: Why Most Women Haven’t Reached Their Sexual Potential (DSH #1613)
Host: Sean Kelly
Guest: Janelle Gordon
Date: November 10, 2025

Episode Overview

In this candid and unfiltered conversation, host Sean Kelly sits down with recurring guest Janelle Gordon—speaker, tantra teacher, and intimacy coach—to explore why most women haven’t reached their sexual potential. They dive deep into taboo-breaking topics around feminine sexuality, the prevalence of masculine energy in women, the role of sexual compatibility, tantra, semen retention, intimacy hacks, conscious parenting, and more. Janelle’s personal experiences and bold opinions provide a provocative and educational listen for anyone interested in relationships, intimacy, and feminine power.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. The Orgasm Gap and Masculine Energy in Women

• Most women only experience one type of orgasm, the "masculine" clitoral orgasm (70%).
  • Janelle: “Every woman has the potential to orgasm, but most women only are experiencing one type… the clitoral is the underdeveloped tip of the head of the lingam for men.” (00:00)
  • She argues that because the most common female orgasm mimics male ejaculation, this has contributed to a rise in masculine energy among women: “The type of orgasm that 70% of women are having is a masculine orgasm, which is why I think there’s more masculine women today.” (00:16, 24:06)
• Full body, implosive orgasms are rare but trainable.
  • Only about 10% of women can have full body/internal orgasms, and Janelle insists this is a skill that can be trained, not just genetic.
    • “That’s not genetic, it’s trained. Anyone can be trained for this type of pleasure.” (22:01)

2. Radical Authenticity and Taboos

• Janelle's lifestyle and public perception.
  • She lives what she teaches, even participating in practices like drinking moon blood and semen, insisting:
    • "People say I do it for the clicks, and I'm like, no. Like, I really live this." (00:46)
  • She was ostracized in Bali for teaching conscious intimacy and shares shocking details about surveillance and sexual restrictions there. (01:08–01:55)
• Stigma and misunderstanding around her work.
  • “What I do is actual healing. I help people in their intimate relationships... and it's still hard for me to understand why there’s so much pushback.” (02:17)

3. Feminine vs. Masculine Roles in Modern Society

• Women are pressured to embody both masculine and feminine roles.
  • "It is tough to do all those things and stay feminine. There's nothing wrong with working…but the chances of you being a high powered CEO and coming home and being highly feminine are just slim to none." (04:42)
• Women’s achievements and sexual polarity.
  • “For a man that’s almost… like, it’s like their lingam goes inside their body when a woman starts flexing about what she’s done, because a man’s role is to protect, provide…” (06:21)
• Sacred partnership and conditional love.
  • “Why do we not forgive infidelity? Why are we like that?... That’s saying our love is conditional.” (09:55)

4. Relationship & Intimacy Challenges

• Sexless marriages and conditional affection.
  • “Today, the population that has the least amount of sex is like married people. They’re having sex once a month. 12 times a year.” (02:53)
• Listening and communication breakdown between men and women.
  • Women tend to communicate to men as they do to other women, which leads to frustration. “A man is wired to… provide a solution. So when you’re saying a bunch of complaining… it just stresses him out.” (14:45)

5. Healing and Sexual Expression with Tantra

• Suppressed throat chakra and sexual suppression.
  • “It’s suppressed expression, unspoken desire, and emotional disconnection… Tantrics had this philosophy that… when you deep throat, that gets activated… that actually can heal trauma.” (15:12–16:15)
• Sound and authentic sexual expression.
  • Most women make “generic” sounds during sex—Janelle challenges women to express more deeply, which leads to more potent orgasms and emotional release. (17:35–19:17)
• Crying, screaming, and long sessions.
  • “I’m crying, I’m screaming… it’s not about releasing shame anymore.… The pleasure is so intense you cry.” (18:48–20:10)
• Full-body orgasms, for men and women.
  • Men can have full-body orgasms, but it requires training to separate orgasm from ejaculation. “It’s possible. The first step of training is understanding that your orgasm is separate from your ejaculation.” (27:45–30:19)

6. Semen Retention and Energy Discipline

• Tantric vs. semen retention.
  • Janelle clarifies tantric retention involves moving sexual energy, not just withholding ejaculation, which boosts vitality. (33:51)
  • "Tantrics... are constantly moving the energy. We're not keeping it in the testicles." (33:46)
• Benefits for both partners and the value of sexual fluids.
  • Regular sex and consuming semen are linked to higher happiness and lower depression in women, according to some studies and Janelle’s personal experience. (35:44)
  • The exchange of bodily fluids (semen, “kala” from female ejaculation, breast milk) is revered energetically in her practice. (40:43–41:44, 58:43)

7. Sexual Compatibility & Size

• Matching anatomy for optimal sex, busting size myths.
  • Not every woman needs or wants a larger penis; compatibility depends on yoni and lingam sizes and shapes. (42:29–43:37)
  • “If you’re around five inches, you’re super normal… Don’t feel bad.” (43:37)
• Sexual compatibility should be discussed openly.
  • “If sex is the only thing that separates your partner from other people in your life, then you should make sure you’re compatible." (48:32)
  • She suggests using yoni wands to measure compatibility before getting serious. (49:08)

8. Conscious Parenting, Breastfeeding, and Women’s Health

• Extended breastfeeding, natural childbirth, and conscious parenting.
  • Janelle breastfed her son until age 7 (!), citing benefits, and discusses how indigenous cultures typically breastfeed until ages 9–12. (57:25–59:41)
  • “My son comes in, he’s always like, ‘Oh, we get to see Sean.’ He’s chill. He’s been to almost 30 countries… his EQ is better than most men.” (59:41)
• Critique of formula, vaccines, and Western birthing practices.
  • “Formula is garbage… They drop it off at African countries and the women stop producing milk; look it up, it’s crazy.” (58:29)
• She advocates for natural birth and questions mainstream advice.
  • “We’re so dumb. We believe what anyone in a white coat who’s white tells us to believe. I think I know my body better than you, boo.” (57:16)

9. Intimacy and Relationship “Hacks”

• Top 3 hacks for lasting intimacy:
  1. Sleep separately: “You want to keep that magnet attracted. The best way is to not sleep together. The tantrics stay together for a long time because the polarity is strong.” (82:18)
  2. Schedule sex and blowjobs: “If you don’t schedule it, it won’t happen… If it doesn’t go on your calendar, does it happen?” (82:29–84:43)
  3. Don’t be idle together: “Don’t just sit on your phones side by side… The number one thing that weakens polarity is just spending idle time.” (85:00)
• Other notable Q&A topics: Period sex, female ejaculation (“squirting is trainable!”), breastfeeding as a fetish and for health, the role of anal play, and Janelle’s personal opinions on sexual kinks and fantasies. (71:51–81:22)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On living authentically:
  • “I do drink my moon blood. I do drink my urine. I do drink my man’s…semen…so it’s not, I think that’s what’s interesting is that this is, like, real.” — Janelle (00:58)
• On why marriage doesn’t guarantee good sex:
  • “Population that has the least amount of sex is married people…they’re having sex once a month. 12 times a year.” — Janelle (02:53)
• On asking men how to serve:
  • “I just asked my guy this the other night…I said, like, what can I do to help you? How can I make your life less stressful?” — Janelle (07:37)
• On sexual compatibility and relationship dynamics:
  • “If you know that going into marriage…you know that sex is…the first thing to go…don’t you think it’s important to know if you’re compatible?” — Janelle (48:32)
• On the difference between male and female orgasm:
  • “When you learn to reprogram your body to have those orgasms as a man, you’re just constantly having high pleasure sensation over and over…never having that direct up and that energy loss.” — Janelle (31:38)
• On sexual retention and discipline:
  • “Men who practice tantric retention…They’re so, like, on their purpose, Sean. Nothing can shake them.” — Janelle (27:39)

Key Timestamps for Segments

• [00:00]–[02:40] – Opening: Orgasm gap, “masculine” orgasms, Janelle’s authentic lifestyle
• [04:14]–[06:59] – Roles of modern women, masculinity/femininity, CEO and dating dynamic
• [09:54]–[11:14] – Conditional love, infidelity, modern marriage statistics (80% divorces filed by women)
• [15:06]–[24:41] – Suppressed throat chakra, sexual healing, types of orgasms, shifting away from clitoral orgasms
• [27:28]–[34:41] – Tantric/sexual retention, energy discussion, discipline in men
• [35:43]–[41:44] – Sexual fluids, benefits and practices, squirt/ejaculate myths, compatibility talk
• [42:29]–[49:08] – Sexual compatibility, matching anatomy, measurement tools, shame-free discussion
• [56:41]–[59:43] – Orgasmic birth, extended breastfeeding, conscious parenting
• [71:51]–[81:22] – Rapid-fire Q&A: period sex, mental/energetic orgasms, anal play (for men and women)
• [81:26]–[85:33] – Top 3 hacks for lasting intimacy and sexual polarity
• [86:41]–[89:47] – Monogamy, cuckolding, and modern male energy

Concluding Thoughts and Where to Find Janelle

Janelle urges listeners to drop sexual shame, focus on authentic sexual expression, and treat intimacy and partnership as purposeful, sacred acts. She encourages open-mindedness around topics that are often stigmatized or shamed, arguing that “anything can be trained or improved with intention and practice.”

Find Janelle Gordon:

• Instagram: @ShaktiLivingJG
• Book: Available on Amazon
• Next Retreat: Tulum, February (Valentine’s Week)

For anyone seeking challenging, thought-provoking—and at times, controversial—perspectives on sex, love, and spiritual connection, this episode is can’t-miss listening.

Notable Quotes for Social Sharing:

• "The type of orgasm that 70% of women are having is a masculine orgasm, which is why I think there’s more masculine women today." — Janelle Gordon (24:06)
• "If sex is the only thing that separates your partner from any other relationship in your life, don’t you think it’s important to know if you’re compatible?" — Janelle Gordon (48:32)
• "Men who practice tantric retention…they’re so locked in. Food tastes better, things are clearer, they hear better, they see better." — Janelle Gordon (27:39)
• "You want to keep that magnet attracted? The best way is to not sleep together... That’s why it’s so passionate." — Janelle Gordon (82:18)