Podcast
Dont Make Me Call Her
Hosted by Grace Lam · EN
What can a former VOGUE fashion editor talk about? Fashion? Nah—way more! Welcome to DON’T MAKE ME CALL HER, the podcast reviving the lost art of real conversations. Be ready for candid, unfiltered chats about life, self-help tips, culture, parenting, F1 and everything in between. Expect humour, surprises, and even Cantonese slang lessons.
Tune in every Wednesday for authentic stories that are as relatable as they are hilarious. Follow, subscribe, rate and share with a friend.
Instagram/TikTok: @dontmakemecallher / @gracelamstyle
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How To Revenge Like Lewis Hamilton
1w ago00:25:27Tap to summarizeDon't let your age define you people! As a huge Lewis Hamilton fan for many years, I’m so thrilled to celebrate his first Formula One Grand Prix win with the world's most iconic team, Scuderia Ferrari. At 41, driving for Ferrari in his second season, Lewis just gave the middle finger to every cynic who said he was "washed up." If the 2025 season was a dumpster fire, Spain was the glorious and EPIC revenge.This week on DMMCH, we’re unpacking the only thing that matters: why do people love to put an expiry date on our lives? Why are we so obsessed with being "past it" when, clearly, we’re just getting started? We’re talking about the art of ignoring the "you’re too old/too much/too ambitious" noise and why your self-talk needs to be sharper than a Formula 1 turn.But it’s not just about the track. It’s about the people standing on the sidelines—the people who clap for you but are secretly praying you hit a wall. We’re doing a brutal audit of your inner circle, calling out the fake people, and learning how to protect your energy like it’s a championship trophy. We’re tapping into the Stoic side of self-belief—because if you aren't backing yourself, who the hell is?In segment 'What Would Grace Do?' (replacing Ginja Ninja Combat Zone) Another listener write-in, another round of our highly unprofessional, unsolicited, and absolutely necessary advice. Keep'em coming peeps!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to us on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →How To Get An Asian Discount
2w ago00:17:09Tap to summarizeIf you aren’t being called a “diva” or “difficult” at least once a week, are you even doing it right?This week on DMMCH, we’re weaponising the ‘Asian Discount.’ We’re moving past the supermarket haggling and looking at the real reason we do it: because you deserve what you’re asking for, and the world is counting on you to be too embarrassed to demand it.We’re peeling back the layers on why women are “difficult” for knowing their worth, while men are just “good negotiators.” We’re here to say "Sorry NOT Sorry". We’re teaching you how to treat rejection like a common cold—unpleasant for a second but it won’t kill you, and you definitely shouldn't let it stop you from getting what you want.Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice. Ginija Ninja Combat Zone Forever!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to us on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →Shut That Shxt Down! NOW!
3w ago00:19:44Tap to summarizeEP 9. Welcome to the cultural interrogation room. This episode, we are unpacking the endless cycle of family grilling. Why does reaching a certain age mean your aunties get a free pass to ask about your uterus, your bank account, and your relationship status? We dive into the heavy pressure to stay quiet just to 'keep the peace,' and share actual, practical ways to reject the traditional norm without being labeled the 'ungrateful child.' Because honestly? It’s none of their bloody business. Grab a matcha—we’re unlocking the scripts to shutting down the interrogation, respectfully...kinda!Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice. Ginija Ninja Combat Zone Forever!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to us on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →FXCK OFF! Access Denied!
4w ago00:18:41Tap to summarizeWe’ve all done it. You keep holding the door open for someone just because you have ten to thirty years of history together or because you share the same last name. But let’s get real: a long timeline or a bloodline isn’t a lifetime pass to wreck your mental health. It’s time to start issuing some "Access Denied" notices.In this episode, Jason and I are talking about how to spot the ultimate energy vampires, how to spot a narcissist, and master the art of the being the best door biatch. You don’t always have to block them completely—you just need to take away their VIP pass to your sanity. If you know a conversational hijacker or have experienced countless encounters of people ill treat you then this episode is for you. Don’t fall for the history trap! This week’s Ginja Ninja Combat Zone we go all bubbly! It’s time to clean house again! Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice. Ginija Ninja Combat Zone Forever!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to us on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →The Ginja Hustle
May 1900:23:49Tap to summarizeIf you work in the creative industry or the freelance world, grab a matcha latte and sit down. This week, Jason and I are pulling back the curtain on the absolute circus of chasing what you’re actually worth.We’re breaking down the ultimate "Dos and Don’ts" of setting your rates, and exposing the oldest client trick in the book: the classic "we just don't have the budget" sob story. Funny how that budget magically evaporates even when the economy is flying high, innit?We’re also calling out the people ruining the ecosystem by doing high-value work for absolute pennies. It’s hard out here, but undercutting everyone else just makes it worse for the rest of us. It’s time to grow a backbone and start charging properly.We’re heading straight back into the alleyway for this week’s Ginja Combat Zone and we need your ammunition. Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice.DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to us on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →How To Grow Your Own G-ninja
May 1200:24:47Tap to summarizeIf you want to know how Grace Lam claps back this one is for you. Apparently, the "sweet primary school" era has a much shorter shelf life than it used to. One minute you’re dealing with lost lunchboxes, and the next, the social dynamics have shifted into a low-budget teen drama—about three years ahead of schedule.In this episode, Jason and I discuss the "Year 7 Pivot." We’re not pointing fingers, but let’s just say the parenting bar in the wild is currently sitting on the floor or even in the basement. Apparently Y7 is all about hanging with the 'cool kids' but may I remind you all that those so called 'cool kids' in high school are definitely not cool anymore....jus sayin. Grace shares some good quotes from renowned child psychologists -Gabor Mate and Dr Becky Kennedy.Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice. Ginija Ninja Combat Zone Forever!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to me on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →I Eat Confrontation For Breakfast
May 500:19:32Tap to summarizeWhy are we all so terrified of a little chat? In this episode, we’re diving into the awkward, sweaty-palmed world of confrontation.Most people would rather move to a different country than tell a friend they owe them money or tell a colleague their "reply all" habit is bloody annoying. We explore why everyone has become so sensitive and why "refusing to talk things out" is actually just a slow-motion car crash for your relationships.Don't forget to send in your dilemmas and problems via Instagram so we can give you our useless advice. Ginija Ninja Combat Zone Forever!DMMCH podcast is available on Spotify, Apple Podcast and YouTube. Don't forget to rate and subscribe! Leave us a fun five-star review! Thank You. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa and let’s get into it.Follow & talk to me on Instagram: @gracelamchats @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →Chinatown Brain VS Monk Brain
Apr 2800:21:53Tap to summarizeEpisode 4: What happens when your nervous system is pushed to the absolute limit? In this episode of Don't Make Me Call Her, things get real—and a little terrifying. Jason and I are opening up about a high-stress incident involving an intruder trying to break into our home and how our bodies instinctively took over.We’re breaking down the "Fight or Flight" response, but through two very different lenses. You’ll hear how Jason’s "Monk Trained Brain" (calm, collected, almost eerie) collided with my 0 to 100 "Chinatown Brain" (fast, loud, and ready for war). It’s a study in survival, temperament, and why we react the way we do when the stakes are high.In this episode, we explore:The Intruder Incident: The minute-by-minute breakdown of what happened and how we survived it.Brain vs. Brain: Why Jason’s zen approach and my "Ginja Ninja" instinct are both a blessing and a curse.Post-Stress Processing: How to come down from the adrenaline dump without taking it out on each other.Ginja Combat Zone: This week’s dilemma is a classic. We’re tackling a common couple’s problem that almost everyone has faced—tune in to hear our take (and probably a bit of a debate).Whether you're a "Monk" or a "Chinatown" thinker, this episode is about finding balance in the chaos.New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of water) and let’s get into it.If you enjoyed my chat please click ‘Follow’ on Spotify, Apple Podcast, YouTube Music and leave me a five-star review. Lotza luv. Thank You. Follow & talk to me on Instagram: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →Just Say 'NO' For Fxck Sake!
Apr 2100:19:50Tap to summarizeEver said "Yes" to something while your soul was screaming "No"? We’ve all been there—that sinking feeling in your stomach the moment the words leave your mouth, followed by a week of self-loathing.In this episode of Don't Make Me Call Her, we’re getting comfortable with the most powerful two-letter word in the language. You’d think that with age and experience, saying no would become a reflex, but even I found myself backed into a corner recently. I’m sharing a personal story of a time I wasn't quick enough to react, the "self-hating" moment that followed, and how we can all avoid that trap moving forward.What we’re unpacking this week:The "Yes" Trap: Why we feel pressured to agree to situations we actually hate.The Human Element: Admitting that even the "Ginja Ninja Master" gets caught off guard sometimes.The Toolkit: Practical, useful excuses and strategies to help you decline with grace (or just firm boundaries).Ginja Combat Zone: As your non-professional, ill-equipped agony aunt, I’m diving into a listener dilemma involving a very complicated threesome relationship... I’m saying no more!Stop living for others and start protecting your energy. Tune in to find out how to master the art of the decline.Available now on Spotify. Don't forget to rate and subscribe!New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of water) and let’s get into it.If you enjoyed my chat please click ‘Follow’ on Spotify, Apple Podcast, YouTube Music and leave me a five-star review. Lotza luv. Thank You. Follow & talk to me on Instagram: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
Transcribe →Me...Bad Temper? Never! How To Handle Anger!
Apr 1400:20:36Tap to summarizeEpisode 2: The Art of the Ginja Ninja—Handling Anger & The Combat ZoneHow do you handle the heat when the temper flares? In this episode of Don't Make Me Call Her, the "Ginja Ninja Master" herself sits down with her most mature student, Jason, to dissect the rawest of human emotions: Anger.We’re diving deep into the generational shift of rage—comparing the "Boomer-style" upbringing to the more empathetic, gentle parenting approach used today. Are we finally understanding our children better, or just finding new ways to vent?In this episode, we discuss:Battle Styles: Jason and I compare notes on how we each express (and suppress) our bad tempers.The Evolution of Conflict: The "Old Grace Lam" used to fight and scream, but those days are over. I’m sharing the new, refined way I handle conflict now that I’m "too old" for the drama.Management & Diversion: Practical ways to diffuse the emotion before it explodes.A Challenge to F1 Royalty: Sir Lewis Hamilton—I’m your biggest fan, but let’s be real: I don’t think you could handle my G-ninja temper.Stick around for this week’s Ginja Combat Zone, where we tackle a brand-new dilemma that is as fun as it is relatable. Tune in to get our perspective on staying cool when things get heated!Follow us for more and don’t forget to subscribe!New episodes drop every Wednesday. Grab a cuppa (or a glass of water) and let’s get into it.If you enjoyed my chat please click ‘Follow’ on Spotify, Apple Podcast, YouTube Music and leave me a five-star review. Lotza luv. Thank You. Follow & talk to me on Instagram: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyle @jasoncapobiancophotographyTikTok: @dontmakemecallher @gracelamstyleHosts: Grace Lam and Jason CapobiancoProduced by Herrrooo ProductionMusic by Lindsay Lai www.lindsaylai.com
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