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They don't even grow apart. People push each other away by a lack of action. It's not only drop dead, go away that pushes somebody away. It's not bringing them in. Not bringing them in. And there's a current. Current just brings people apart. But it's because you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing that you promised on your wedding day to love, honor and cherish that you're not doing every day. Those of you who have read my books on marriage, you know that I say you should wake up in the morning and before you pee or brush your teeth, just turn to look at your spouse and in your head think, what can I do to make him or her happy? They're married to me. Every day you should wake up like that. Then you can pee and brush your teeth. Okay, so these 12 dudes are regretting things left unsaid for years. So let's go over them. Number one, I wish I had taken the time to tell my wife how much I appreciate her and love her. Being around someone every day, you tend to leave things unsaid. You know you're seeing them every day. I wish I would have expressed expressed my love and appreciation. I so appreciate all the things you do for me. Russell from Oregon said, I wish I had expressed my love and appreciation to my wife more often. Jack I'm a computer programmer trained to systematically problem solve all day. And of course this extended into my relationship with my wife before she finishes her sentence. I've got a five step plan in place and I'm shocked that she's not ready to start executing it. In reality, she probably just wants me to shut up while she vents. She's perfectly capable of figuring out her own problems. I should have just lent an ear. Number three from Sean, he said. It's one of the most flattering things anyone has ever said about me, and I kick myself for not telling my wife how much I truly admire her. Because I do admire her. She's a warrior, a nurturer, lover, a friend, a confidant, and she fills all these roles effortlessly. At least that's how she makes it seem. Telling someone you admire them, he said, is different than telling someone you love them. Love is kind of this ongoing connection, whereas admiration is like a peak or a spike of joy and amazement. It's something I've rarely said to my wife, and it shouldn't be rare to say to my wife. John I I don't think I ever looked my wife in the eye and told her that I truly do just enjoy being around her. Most times it's something I assume she knows. Maybe she does know, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't tell her. It's not natural thing for me to say, but that's what would make it special. Like coming out of nowhere. Like a surprise. Spending time together is a blessing when you're married with kids, and I wish I told her how much I enjoy it. Number five from Jimmy. My wife wakes up early and spends most of the day taking care of the kids. I'm at work when I'm not at work. I still like to stay busy, but I find myself leaning toward tasks and projects that I want to do. Rather stuff that would help make it easier for her. I don't think I'm selfish. I just think I have tunnel vision and forget that I'm part of a team and we play every day. There's no off season. That said, I regret not being more deliberate in my offers to help out. I need to start asking her very specifically what I can do if each day. Six is from James I find that in the midst of the busyness of life and work and parenting, I forget just how much my wife does and endures as a mom of young kids. When we were new parents, she would get up in the middle of the night to feed them. When they were toddlers, she would be changing their nappies while I was at work. Now she makes lunches every day, drops them off, picks them up from school, takes them to swimming classes, make sure they have the right stuff it's just so much I wish I took more time to tell her. Not only that I see and appreciate how much she does, but that she's a great mom. Being a mom can be a fairly thankless and discouraging task. She is doing so amazingly well. I wish I had told her that more often. Dan My wife is unwavering in her support of my passions, and I have some weird ones. Oh, really? But she sees how happy I am and how invigorated I feel when I'm doing something I love. She goes way out of her way to make sure I'm able to. To indulge. I do that for her, too, watching the kids while she goes to art classes in the gym and stuff like that. But I don't think I've ever told her how much of a fan I am of her. Every time she shows me something she painted, I tell her how impressed I am. But I've never told her that I'm a genuine fan of who she is as an artist, a mother, a wife, and a person. I want her to know that I'd be the guy in the stands with her name body painted on my stomach. From a guy. That's high praise. Okay. That's commitment. That's love. Alan, Try using more than one syllable to let my wife know that I'm still physically attracted to her after all these years. It becomes stale. You're breathtaking. You're enchanting. You're exquisite. Use more than one sentence to tell her how much you're still attracted to her as a woman. That's Alan Jerome said, I've never met a woman who makes me laugh as much as my wife, and our senses of humor aren't exactly the same anyway. She's just genuinely funny and adorable. Laughing is a reflex, telling someone you think they're funny and that they make you smile with their humor. As a choice, I'm not an easy laugh. So every time she makes me laugh, I realize how lucky I am. Jay I don't know that I've ever said that to another person as an adult, but when I think about it, my wife truly is my best friend. She knows everything about me. She supports me. She's always there for me. She surprises me, goes out of her way to make me happy. I think the reason I've never outright said this to her is it seems so implied. You might say I married my best friend on Facebook or something. But you rarely say it to your spouse, and I regret that because having a best friend is a gift Having it be your wife is even more special. Next to last is Rich. He says, I'm not the most articulate person when I get upset or stressed. I tend to internalize everything so I can organize it in my brain before I start talking. I don't think it's a bad thing, but it's taking me too long to realize how it comes across, especially to my wife. We both made New Year's resolutions to work on communication. My first step has been to preface before I get quiet in a thought by explicitly saying, just give me time to think. Verbally. Women don't need much time to think. We flow. They often need time to think. And it's not shutting you out. It's not being rude. They need time to think because they haven't quite found the right words yet. Last but not least was Emory. When you have kids, the basic game plan is to tag team everything. You change the diaper while I warm up the bottle. You take them to school. I pick him up. And even though you're technically working together, it can start feeling like a singles game because each of you is checking off your own separate to do list. As our kids were growing up, I wish I would have stopped to remind my wife and myself, honey, we are a great team. I think we still are. It's something I wish I would have realized and continued emphasizing a long time ago. And now I have plenty of chances still to say it. Okay, guys. Women, you have your expectations and understanding. And men, you have your marching orders. My number 1-800-375-2872. Check out my social media on Facebook and Instagram. I post stories, photos and videos seven days a week and feature some of what you sent me, too. There's always something interesting going on there. 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