The Dr. Laura Podcast

Episode: Communicating Better Over Problems

Date: December 20, 2025

Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Episode Overview

In this episode of The Dr. Laura Podcast, Dr. Laura Schlessinger addresses the importance of effective communication, especially when dealing with personal problems and emotional challenges. She shares selected listener emails, offers practical advice on aging and self-perception, and revisits a recent caller’s struggle with survivor guilt, providing listeners with insight into self-reflection and the nuances of psychological terminology. The episode is peppered with Dr. Laura’s signature candid style and focus on moral clarity.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Listener Emails: Aging and Self-Acceptance

• [03:10] Dr. Laura reads two listener "quickie" emails, using them as springboards for larger reflections:

  • Aging as a Blessing: Carolyn writes about aches and pains, echoing Dr. Laura’s own sentiments on aging: it’s a “blessing of living this long”—a reminder to appreciate life, wrinkles and all.
  • Mascara and Self-Image: Deborah, age 73, asks Dr. Laura about her mascara choice, expressing discomfort with her appearance on FaceTime but becoming more comfortable over time. Dr. Laura responds with practical advice—she uses Chanel black mascara and debunks myths about mascara hygiene, emphasizing the importance of self-care routines for self-confidence as we age.

• Memorable Quote:

  “Too many of my friends did not get to. They died with no aches and pains and no ripples on their skin.”
  — Dr. Laura, reading Carolyn’s email ([03:18])

  "If I don't put mascara on top and bottom, it looks like I don't have any eyelashes... I've been using Chanel for 25 years. It's not cheap, and I like the clever marketing: 'Only use it for a month and throw it away.' Are you freaking kidding me? No."
  — Dr. Laura ([04:10])

2. Revisiting a Call: Survivor Guilt vs. Anxiety

• [07:42] Dr. Laura revisits a phone call that bothered her. Initially, she believed the caller misapplied the term “survivor guilt” to her situation—after her friend was murdered, the caller felt guilt for not having been present, due to her father’s restriction.

• Clarification After Listening Back:
  The call was muffled at the start, but upon relistening, Dr. Laura realized the circumstances could rightly evoke survivor guilt:

  • The caller was supposed to be with her friend (who was murdered) but wasn’t allowed to go over by her dad.
  • Dr. Laura connects this situation to similar real-life examples (e.g., a man who missed a doomed flight because of his dog and later suffered guilt).

• Dr. Laura’s Perspective:
  Even if the guilt term was misapplied initially, the actual work with the caller—addressing anxiety and moving forward—remained valuable.

• Memorable Quote:

  “If she was supposed to be there—yeah, that's survivor guilt. Just like the news story that came out... there was a guy, he didn't go because they wouldn't let him bring his dog on... he better talk to somebody because there's going to be survivor guilt.”
  — Dr. Laura ([08:47])

  "But it was so strange how it kept in the back of my mind, something isn't right. And I was right. It wasn’t right."
  — Dr. Laura ([09:45])

3. Communication Tips and Technical Issues

• [10:20] Dr. Laura laments the difficulties of modern phone lines versus traditional handsets, noting that call clarity is crucial to understanding, especially for emotionally loaded conversations.

• Practical Tip:

  • She encourages callers to ensure clear audio, promising to point out “muffled” calls right away so details aren't missed.

• Memorable Quote:

  “When you call me, I’m immediately going to say, ‘This sounds muffled.’ That way I won’t miss anything.”
  — Dr. Laura ([11:18])

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I always say I can’t cure normal collagen loss. Normal. But it’s also the number one reason you start to feel older, stiffer and more tired.” ([00:00])
  (Note: This is from Dr. Laura’s brief health tip, part of the episode's conversational tone.)

• “Only use it [mascara] for a month and throw it away. Are you freaking kidding me? No. I have never had an eye infection from my mascara.” ([04:30])

• “It’s a blessing of living this long… too many of my friends did not get to. They died with no aches and pains and no ripples on their skin.” ([03:18])

• “So if she was supposed to be there, yeah, that’s survivor guilt.” ([08:38])

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [03:10] — Listener emails: Aging, aches, and positive outlook
• [04:10] — Mascara recommendation and beauty/self-esteem conversation
• [07:42] — Survivor guilt call revisited and what she learned after relistening
• [10:20] — Reflections on call quality and communication advice
• [11:18] — Dr. Laura’s pledge to proactively address “muffled” calls for clarity

Tone & Style

The tone throughout is warm, direct, and practical—Dr. Laura balances empathy with no-nonsense advice and often injects a wry sense of humor, especially during product or personal care discussions.

Summary

Dr. Laura’s December 20, 2025 episode offers listeners thoughtful advice on self-acceptance, the healthy navigation of guilt and anxiety, and the ever-important need for clear, direct communication—whether in addressing our feelings or just making ourselves audible on the phone. If you’re seeking practical wisdom on managing problems, understanding emotional responses, and embracing life fully—wrinkles, mascara, and all—this episode is sure to resonate.