Deep Dive: Improving Life Through Visualization

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Dr. Laura Call of the Day

Episode: Deep Dive: Improving Life Through Visualization (Sep 18, 2025)

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Episode Overview

This episode centers around using visualization as a tool for personal growth, healing, and improved relationships. Dr. Laura Schlessinger, with her trademark directness and warmth, guides callers through powerful mental imagery exercises to help shift their perspectives, manage anxiety or trauma, and embrace more positive, productive mindsets. Several real-life callers share their stories and results, illustrating the transformative effect of visualization techniques in a variety of challenges—romantic, familial, and deeply personal.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Power of Visualization as a Coping Strategy

• Dr. Laura introduces visualization as her preferred method for helping people put their problems into perspective, especially when overwhelmed by negativity or catastrophizing thoughts.
• Quick, memorable images (like “glass half full” or "petting an alligator" expecting it to purr) help clients immediately grasp her advice and carry it forward.

“Visualization is my favorite way to make a point, especially when people are upset and getting catastrophic.”
— Dr. Laura Schlessinger [01:53]

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2. Real-Life Examples of Visualization in Action

A. Overcoming Fear in Relationships: The Bear & Deer Analogy

• Taryn recounts how Dr. Laura’s advice and a visualization exercise (walking into a forest, encountering a bear—which symbolized her father, versus a deer—which symbolized her future husband) helped her overcome anxiety about marriage and distinguish between past trauma and present reality.

“You told me to close my eyes and imagine walking into a forest... you get attacked by a bear... The bear was my dad and the forest represented marriage... Was that man I was dating a deer? And you said, ‘It sounds like... he's not your dad, he's not a bear, and you can walk back into the forest.’” — Taryn (Caller) [03:47]

• Taryn affirms she married "the deer" and uses the phrase fondly with her husband.

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B. Shifting Focus with the Two Sides of a Coin

• Dr. Laura relays her "penny" visualization, advising a caller named Anita to focus on the “head” side—representing blessings and present happiness—instead of constantly flipping to the “tail” side, which represents lack or disappointment.

“The head side represents your beautiful life...Then I had Anita flip the penny over...‘but I want more’. Anita could choose to look at... the blessings she already had. Or...think about what she didn't have.”
— Dr. Laura Schlessinger [06:23]

• Paul calls in to share how he used the coin visualization with his young daughter to teach coping with disappointment regarding difficult family relationships.

“She asked if that bothered me. And I said, I used your visualization... I don't spend any time looking at that side of the coin.”
— Paul (Caller) [08:00]

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C. Healing Difficult Memories: The Camera Pull-Back Exercise

• Kelly discusses her struggle with memories of her father’s angry outbursts before his death, and how this expectation of disapproval has colored her adult life and career.

• Dr. Laura and co-host lead her through a visualization to “pull the mental camera back”, transforming her perception of her dad from an overwhelming presence to a pitiful, small, sick man, thereby transforming the emotional charge of the memory.

“Now, I want you like one of those cameras in a movie that's pulling back...until he's about three inches high...Tell me when you're there.”
— Dr. Laura’s Assistant/Co-host [16:36]

“I guess I feel a little more pity.”
— Kelly (Caller) [17:20]

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D. Addressing Trauma Through Symbolic Imagery

• Dr. Laura helps another caller, Lindsay, work through sexual trauma by visualizing her sexuality as a flower, allowing her mind to represent damage and healing.

• Guided imagery includes visualizing the perpetrator destroying the flower, physically pushing him away, then reconstructing the flower (which changes color—a sign of evolution and regained control), and finally entrusting the flower to her husband.

“Think of your sexuality as a flower...What color is the flower?... Okay, picture him grabbing the flower...throwing it on the floor and squashing it... Now pick the flower back up. Fix it... Is it weird that it looks pink in my imagination now?”
— Dr. Laura’s Assistant/Co-host & Kelly (Caller, recounting Lindsay’s story) [19:25-21:41]

“Now I want you to hand him [your husband] your flower... say to him after me, ‘Honey, I love you. I trust you. Keep my flower safe.’”
— Dr. Laura’s Assistant/Co-host [23:00]

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3. Practical Takeaways

• Visualization can quickly shift emotional state and perspective, reducing anxiety, anger, and despair, while fostering gratitude, understanding, and hope.
• Dr. Laura encourages listeners to use concrete images to interrupt negative loops, and to teach such tools to children for early emotional resilience.
• For deeply rooted issues, like trauma, symbolic exercises help reclaim agency and start new narratives.
• Therapeutic visualization needn’t be complicated—it’s as simple as pulling out a penny or imagining the size of a person in your mind’s eye.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On mental habits:

  “Everyone's life has disappointments. But focusing on what makes our lives lovely is the key to happiness.”
  — Dr. Laura Schlessinger [07:28]

• On changing perspective:

  “Once you understand that your emotions follow wherever your mind goes, you're able to alter your own mood.”
  — Dr. Laura Schlessinger [12:07]

• On scalable techniques:

  “When you feel in trouble... pull yourself back so they're three inches high and say, okay, this is a moment for pity.”
  — Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host [18:20]

• On teaching visualization to kids:

  “You pull out the coin and say, what's on this side? Which side do you want to look at?”
  — Dr. Laura’s Assistant/Co-host [09:14]

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Important Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment | |------------------|-----------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:53 | Dr. Laura introduces visualization philosophy | | 03:30 – 05:16 | Taryn & the bear/deer analogy for relationship anxiety | | 06:20 – 08:43 | The penny/coin visualization with Anita & Paul | | 12:07 – 18:56 | Helping Kelly reframe painful memories of her father | | 19:25 – 24:53 | Healing sexual trauma through "flower" imagery (Lindsay) | | 27:09 | Dr. Laura’s closing thoughts on not spiraling, and resources |

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Final Takeaway & Tone

Dr. Laura’s approach remains compassionate, direct, and determinedly practical. Using lively metaphors and visual stories, she helps listeners see their own power to choose perspective and change emotional reactions. The episode is rich with real-world examples enjoyed in her signature mix of humor, support, and gentle challenge, making visualization accessible and actionable for any listener.

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Transcript

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[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

If you're a glass half full or a glass half empty person, you immediately get an image in your mind and understand what I'm trying to convey when I reference a glass and its state of fullness. Visualization is my favorite way to make a point, especially when people are upset and getting catastrophic. Visualization can quickly help put things into perspective. Wonder why, no matter how hard you try, you just can't get that curmudgeon in your life to be more sweet and affectionate. Why do you keep petting an alligator and hoping it will purr? Start thinking of them as an alligator and you'll start Start thinking of them as an alligator and you'll start expecting less sweet sweetness. Hence no disappointment. Are you a wife who's too busy, too tired, too annoyed for sex, but still want your husband to buy you gifts and take you out to dinner? You can't throw poison into a garden and expect beautiful flowers. With that type of imagery in your mind, maybe you'll be less likely to say no to a romantic advance tonight. These kinds of visuals resonate with callers, giving them something to think about long after our conversation has ended. A Young lady named Taryn called to share how I helped her get out of her negative way of thinking about romantic relationships in order to embrace true love and happiness. She describes the powerful imagery that helped her move beyond her fears.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Oh.

[Taryn (Caller)]

You gave me some amazing advice. I actually called you when I was possibly going to be getting engaged to my husband and you gave me the most amazing visual and advice.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

What was that?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

What was the visual?

[Taryn (Caller)]

You. I had told I was actually physically sick thinking about getting married to my then boyfriend at the time. And we'd been dating for about two years. We were not shacking up, we hadn't even had sex. And you told me to close my eyes and imagine walking into a forest. And then I get attacked by a bear and you have to run. I had to run out of the forest because I was attacked by a bear. And you said, all right, now I want you to imagine walking back into that same forest and you see a deer. And you said, are you going to run? And I said, well, no. And you said, well, why not? It's an animal. You're in the forest. You were attacked there before. And I said, yeah, but it's a deer. And you said, yeah. And you told me that the bear was my dad and the forest represented marriage and that is. Was that man that I was dating at the time who's now my husband, was he a deer? And you said, it sounds like. From our conversation, you said, it sounds like, you know, he's not your dad, he's not a bear, and you can walk back into the forest.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Is what you actually remember this.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

That is a wonderful. Yes, I do.

[Taryn (Caller)]

That's amazing.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

That's.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

I remember the bear and the deer. I remember it as though it were yesterday. Today. This morning.

[Taryn (Caller)]

Well, yeah.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

You did good with your life. I'm proud of you marrying the deer.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Very smart.

[Taryn (Caller)]

I did. He is. My dear. I say hello, my dear. A lot.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

There's a parable I've used many times on the documentary Dr. Laura program. A grandfather is talking with his grandson and the grandfather says, in life, there are two wolves inside of us which are always at battle. One is a good wolf, which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear. The grandson asks, grandfather, what? Which one is going to win? The grandfather replies, the one you feed. While thoughts are always tossing and turning in your brain, you can choose to feed only the good ones you can starve. The ones that make you feel disappointed, upset and unhappy. Imagine the thoughts that distress you are like a balloon with helium. You can let go of it, let them silently float away. Being upset can cause an irregular heartbeat, sweaty hands, heart palpitations, and other biological reactions. Even if the only real threat is your own mind, Visualization is a technique that can calm or even extinguish them. Picture a coin. Two sides, right? But you can only look at one of them at a time. I asked my listener, Anita to visualize a coin. When she called me angry that her husband didn't want to have any more children, I told her to pull a penny out of her purse and take a look at the head side. The head side represents your beautiful life with a loving husband and two sweet kids and a happy life together. Then I had Anita flip the penny over to the other side. This side represents but I want more. But I want more. But I want more. Anita could choose to look at the head side of her penny and be reminded of the blessings she already had. Or she could look at the other side and think about what she didn't have.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

It's a choice.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Everyone's life has disappointments. But focusing on what makes our lives lovely is the key to happiness. Well, while Anita wasn't quite as receptive to this visualization as I would have liked, that call did make an impression on other listeners like Paul, who shared his appreciation for it when he called.

[Paul (Caller)]

Hello, Dr. Laura.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Hi.

[Paul (Caller)]

First time calling in, long time listener.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Thank you.

[Paul (Caller)]

My visual is the penny one you used last week with somebody. And that came up when I was riding around with my daughter that weekend and she had asked about my relationship with my brother and sister, which one sister and one brother I don't get along very well with. And she asked if that bothered me. And I said, I used your visualization. And I walked her through it just like you did. Said, you know, there's two sides to that coin. And one side is what I have today and the great life I have and the other things like that. And I don't spend any time looking at that side of the coin.

[Kelly (Caller)]

It's not worth it to me.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Nicely done. What was her reaction?

[Paul (Caller)]

She. She got it. She got it very well. She's 11. She's a sharp.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Well, that's what, that's what's good about these visuals. You get them at any age.

[Paul (Caller)]

Yes, that's wonderful. And it'll be one I keep bringing up, you know.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yes.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Where's your penny?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yep.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Exactly when she comes back from school.

[Paul (Caller)]

But that's okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Exactly when she comes back from school.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

And she's having an issue with a teacher or with a kid, you pull out the coin and say, what's on this side?

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

What's on this side?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Which side do you want to look at?

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

And you'll be able to help her constantly.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

This is wonderful. Thank you so much for calling.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

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[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Once you understand that your emotions follow wherever your mind goes, you're able to alter your own mood. It's a fascinating technique that I hoped would help Kelly reframe the memories she had of her father in the years before his death. Kelly, welcome to the program.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Hi, Dr. Laura. It's great to talk to you. I appreciate what you do. I guess what I'm trying to figure out is at the age of 48, I'm seeing some things in my life that I think may have started, of course, in childhood, late adolescence. I was one of those late babies. My mom was 42 and she had me by accident. My dad was 52, and they were great.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

They were still frolicking, huh? That's good.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yeah. Yeah, that's true. I hadn't looked at it that way, but they were great people and great parents. But I grew up from an early age aware of my dad's health problem. For instance, we didn't go home at night unless my mom filled the car tank in case we had to get up in the middle of the night and take him to the ER or something.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

What was wrong with him?

[Kelly (Caller)]

He had had a major heart attack five years before I was born.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Well, you know, he could have been.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

35 and had that major heart attack.

[Kelly (Caller)]

That's true.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Yeah.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay, so.

[Kelly (Caller)]

And, well, the problem really came in. He died my senior year of high school. And the last year or two, he was having significant, you know, decreasing, declining health and hardening of the arteries. And I think the part that I'm struggling with is he had the dramatic mood swings from the physical problem with the hardening of the arteries, and there would be, like, rages. He would rage at me for no reason. And. And I know teenagers seem to blow things out of control anyway, but this was really, you know, never physical.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

So you're thinking it was affecting his mind, right?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Kelly (Caller)]

And, yeah, I just. I'm seeing in my life a pattern of expecting that from people or projecting that on people. And I look around in my life, and even in the career that I chose, I work in a field where I get the worst of people.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

What are you, a cop?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Almost. I'm over a 911 call center. And what started as a dispatcher.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Yeah.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

So you're only hearing People in panic state.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Right. And also that some of the co workers are, you know, just general problems that everybody has in their job.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Well, that's.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Yeah, that's one of the.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

That's one of the more stressful jobs, definitely.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yeah. But I see, you know, I tend to. I tend. I think what I'm realizing is that I expect that of people and I'll.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

I'm sorry, you expect them to yell?

[Kelly (Caller)]

No, I expect anybody in my life to be disapproving. And I feel like I look for that and I need to look at.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Okay. He wasn't disapproving.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

He was losing his mind.

[Kelly (Caller)]

That's true.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

That wasn't disapproving. He was losing his mind. This. The drugs they gave him to deal with all the physical problems, with the cardiac issues, the hardening of the arteries, including in his brain. He was not your dad anymore.

[Kelly (Caller)]

True.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

It wasn't disapproval. You have to stand back. You have to physically. You're not driving, are you?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yes, I am. I'll pull over.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah, thanks. I was going to ask you to. I was going to ask you.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Country roads. I was kind of looking for a place to pull over.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Well, let me know when you can, because I was going to ask you to close your eyes. That's all I need to do. Right. All right.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Tell me when you're ready.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay, I'm ready.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Okay, now I need you to sit back, put your hands on top of.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Your thighs near your knees, and just let your shoulders fall down.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. And just put your head back.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

And just take a few deep breaths in. And one more. That was good. That was good. Usually I have to nag people. Do it again.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I've heard you nags.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah. So you know how to breathe now? Okay, now I want you in your mind's eye to see your dad close up. Close up in front of your face, yelling. Just tell me when you're there.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay, I'm there.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. So, so very upsetting, isn't it? Now, I want you like one of those cameras in a movie that's pulling back. I want you to pull back until he's about three inches high. You know, you're back so far that he only looks 3 inches high. And take your time. Take your time. No rush. Tell me when you're there.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay, I'm there.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

What's the difference in feeling?

[Kelly (Caller)]

I guess I feel a little more pity.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah, pity is the perfect word. Oh, my God. That is the perfect word. Pity. He's a sick, dying man. Losing it. When you're up close, which is the memory you keep in your head. Up close and personal with him screaming in your face, all you can see is your daddy is screaming in your face.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

But when you pull all the way back so he's three inches high. Go back there again. Come on, pull the camera back. Three inches high. Then you can have pity. He's not yelling at me. He's yelling at. At life.

[Kelly (Caller)]

That's so true.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

He knew he was dying, and he knew he wasn't himself, and he did a bad thing, and he probably couldn't control it.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I believe that inside. I believe that, but I just.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

No, stay with that.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

And so whenever you're in a situation where you're thinking, oh, I want you to. With whoever person that is, pull yourself back so they're three inches high and say, okay, this is a moment for pity. Is this a moment for understanding? Is this a moment where I'm overreacting? What is this moment? Just like you did with your dad with the pity, and it changed everything. You use the same technique.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

When you feel in trouble.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Gosh, that was like night and day.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah. Good.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Letting go of trauma is a particularly hard thing to do. When I spoke to Lindsay, she had never fully recovered from the rape she had endured as a teen. Unfortunately, her anger and pain had now seeped into her marriage and was affecting her sex life. Here's how we used imagery to help her regain some sense of control and calm. If we could put your sexuality as some kind of object.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

A baseball flower. An iPad. Okay. A flower. Okay. Think of your sexuality as a flower.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Okay.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. What color is the flower?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Purple.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Purple had leaves?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yes.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

The center of it.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Have any other colors in it?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Orange and yellow.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Orange and yellow and purple. You're very artistic. Okay. I want you to. I want you to have that flower in your hand. Which hand do you want to have it in? Left or right?

[Kelly (Caller)]

My left.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. Put it in your left hand. Make sure your eyes are closed. Okay. It's in your left hand. Now, this is going to be uncomfortable, so I hope you trust me. Do you trust me?

[Kelly (Caller)]

I trust you.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Good. Okay. Keep your eyes closed. The guy who raped you, right? He's two feet in front of you. Tell me when you can picture him.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Picture him.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. Picture him grabbing the flower out of your hand, throwing it on the floor and squashing it with his foot. Tell me when you see him squashing it.

[Kelly (Caller)]

He's got it.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Tell me when it's squashed.

[Kelly (Caller)]

It's squashed.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. Keep your eyes closed. I want you to take both of your hands, hold them up like you're gonna push against a wall and shove the bass and shove the bastard back about 2fe. Tell me when that's done. Okay. Pick the flower back up.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Fix it. I don't care how you do it. I don't care if you blow on it. I don't care if you wave it around over your head. I don't care if you bring it to the emergency room. Fix it. Tell me when it's fixed. Take your time.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Is it weird that it looks pink in my imagination now?

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

No.

[Kelly (Caller)]

It'S pink. But it's pink.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

It's pink. It's different. It's changed. It's grown, it's evolved.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Wow.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

It's pink now. Any colors in the center?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yellow and orange.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yellow and orange are still there, but the outside just got softer. Nice. I like that. Okay, I want you to turn completely around. Face the other way. Keep your eyes closed. Tell me when you turned.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I've turned.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay, now picture your husband two feet away from you.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Okay.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

What's he look like?

[Kelly (Caller)]

He's tall and he's cute. He's kinda got blondie brownie hair. Green eyes, big green eyes and then one dimple, just one. It kind of makes him look lopsided with a smile.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

That's cute.

[Kelly (Caller)]

He's real cute.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

What color are his eyes?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Green.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Ooh.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Sandy hair and green eyes.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Wow.

[Kelly (Caller)]

He's a cutie.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

He's a cutie. How tall is he?

[Kelly (Caller)]

He's about five, eight.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

And how tall are you?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Five' three.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

Oh, nice match.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yeah.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Yeah. Okay, I want you to hand him your floor. Tell me when that's done.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I did it.

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Good. Now I want you please to say to him after me, honey, honey, I love you.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I love you.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

I trust you.

[Kelly (Caller)]

I trust you.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Keep my flowers safe.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Keep my flowers safe.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Okay. Give him a big hug. Big hug.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Big hug.

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Big hug. Bone cracking.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Big hug.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

How are you right now?

[Kelly (Caller)]

I'm good. I'm good.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

Good. You deserve to be good.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Thanks, Dr. Laura.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

You're welcome. Small, small, tiny Question.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Yeah.

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What do you think you're going to do tonight before you go to sleep?

[Kelly (Caller)]

Oh, we're going to do it.

[Dr. Laura's Assistant/Co-host]

That's right. Because he has the flower and he's keeping it safe. Thank you for trusting me.

[Kelly (Caller)]

Thank you for helping me, Dr. Laura.

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Anytime. Take care, sweetie.

[Kelly (Caller)]

You too. Bye. Bye.

[Dr. Laura Schlessinger]

I've got to take a break. Picture this. I can't come up with anything.

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Are you.

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I'll be right back.

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