Episode Overview

Podcast: The Dr. Laura Podcast
Episode: Depth of Thinking Regarding Male and Female Relationships
Date: November 23, 2025
Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger (with SiriusXM)

In this episode, Dr. Laura spotlights a listener’s thoughtful email exploring male and female relationship dynamics. Using real-life experience, the letter challenges stereotypes about nagging and unappreciative women and delves into emotional intelligence, logical thinking, and mutual caretaking in romantic partnerships. Dr. Laura uses the letter to foster greater reflection on gender roles and relational expectations, inviting her audience to consider nuance beyond surface-level gender tropes.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Introducing Audience Depth on Male-Female Differences

• Dr. Laura begins by acknowledging the depth of thought in a listener’s letter, especially as it comes from a man reflecting on male-female relationships.
• She highlights the value of audience contributions that transcend “idiot feminists [making] you believe there are no differences between men and women.” (02:26)
• Dr. Laura frames the discussion as counter to prevailing narratives, aiming for meaningful exploration of relational realities.

2. The Listener’s (Brian’s) Perspective

Experiences with Women in Relationships

• Brian, the emailer, details his long-term relationships, noting:

  • Two out of approximately ten significant relationships (lasting two years or more) were with logical, reasonable, and emotionally stable women.
  • The majority matched Dr. Laura’s described type: “most women are nagging, weirdly overemotional, react with emotion before logic and just simply don’t use logic or rational thinking in their relationships.”
  • He states he agrees with Dr. Laura’s perspective at “about 85%.” (03:41)

• Notable relationship behavior he describes:

  • Before age 30, he tolerated emotionally unstable or illogical women but eventually learned to “push aside those kind of girls no matter how hot they were.”
  • Sometimes continued relationships largely for the physical intimacy, “as that seemed to overshine and overwhelm everything else.” (04:47)
  • Acknowledges such relationships were tumultuous and lacked long-term stability: “those kinds of relationships don’t last, albeit fun and exciting, but lots of ups and downs emotionally and lacking in stability overall.” (08:08)

Celebrating His Current Marriage

• Brian’s current wife stands out as “super smart, logical, reasonable, has very little emotional swings, has nearly no stupid normal women nagging, bitching and appreciation. No, she is very appreciative.” (08:28)
• She’s the “giver,” always seeking to care for him: “She wants to bring me the soda, food, my flip flops when I’m sitting on the couch.”
  • Brian finds this unique compared to “what you said all guys say today, I’ll do anything you want me to do. No, not her. If anything, she is the one who does that.” (08:44)
• There’s a genuine reciprocity—both enjoy caretaking for each other. Even when his wife protests accepting favors, it stirs a playful dynamic (“I’m like, babe, hi. This is what you always do for me.”) (09:00)
• Concludes: “We are in love and are both very thoughtful, empathetic people toward each other... Neither of us is whipped or both of us are whipped.” (09:32)

3. Dr. Laura’s Commentary

• She lauds Brian’s “depth of thinking” and invites listeners to reflect similarly.
• Highlights how real-world experiences provide nuance to commonly held beliefs about gender and relationships.
• Encourages audience contribution and introspection—reinforcing her central podcast aim: “to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being.”

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Dr. Laura (on differences between men and women):

  • “Very importantly when men write in after a depth of thinking about male female relationships and the differences, in spite of the fact the idiot feminists make you believe there are no differences between men and women. Yeah, okay.” (02:26)

• Brian (on his relationship experience):

  • “To me it was easy to push aside those kind of girls, no matter how hot they were. Well after the age of 30 anyway, when I knew better and if I saw that they were emotionally unstable, illogical thinking in communication, I said goodbye to those gals pretty readily. Not always...” (04:22)
  • “The physical connections were crazy and amazing and like nothing else seemed to matter. But it amplified any fight we had for sure. But then the makeup sex outweighed any fights we had—mostly.” (08:05)
  • “My current wife whom I love is a super smart, logical, reasonable [woman]... She is very appreciative. She is the one who goes overboard... She actually feels bad when she is sitting on the couch and I ask her if she wants me to get anything for her.” (08:23–08:53)
  • “Gosh, I could go on, but I just wanted to give one vote and one instance where the girl is the one doing that.... We are in love and are both very thoughtful, empathetic people toward each other.” (09:23–09:39)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [02:26] – Dr. Laura introduces and sets up Brian’s letter, challenging feminist narratives.
• [03:40–05:10] – Brian describes his agreement with Dr. Laura’s take and his relationship history.
• [08:03–10:00] – Brian details the dynamic in his current marriage, focusing on mutual caretaking and appreciation.
• [09:32–09:40] – Brian wraps up his email with reflections on love and equality in his current relationship.

Summary

This episode offers a nuanced look at male and female roles in relationships, using one listener’s reflective experience to challenge widespread stereotypes. Dr. Laura frames the discussion as an antidote to oversimplified gender narratives, highlighting that across real relationships, mutual care and logical, non-emotional engagement can—and do—exist. Brian’s story stands as an example of emotional intelligence, selective partnership, and reciprocal love, contributing to Dr. Laura’s broader ongoing conversation about what makes relationships work.