Dr. Laura (3:31)

I would have ignored you. Go ahead.

Caller Annie (3:37)

So. So that kind of affected a situation with. When. With one of my friends, the friend that I was bringing up at the beginning.

Dr. Laura (3:46)

And how did it impact that?

Caller Annie (3:49)

So I thought that I had RSVP for a graduation party for their daughter. And it was during that time where my mind just wasn't right. I thought I RSVP'd no, but it turned out that I went through the process and then just didn't do it. I got. I don't know if I got distracted, but I didn't realize till after the fact when this friend had.

Dr. Laura (4:21)

Okay, stop for a second. Stop, please stop first and please stop for a second. How often before this seizure did you talk to her on the phone, text or in person about how often was there communication?

Caller Annie (4:36)

Probably three to five times a month.

Dr. Laura (4:41)

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Dr. Laura (7:59)

And so you didn't. No RSVP came through. Now you want to jump ahead and tell me she was mad or what do you want to tell me?

Caller Annie (8:08)

Well, yes. For. For 10 months we haven't had much communication.

Dr. Laura (8:15)

Okay, stop, stop. I have no understanding of your predicament because it makes absolutely no sense to me. Once you find out that you didn't fill something out, you say to her, I had a seizure and I was all effed up. I thought I sent it. Sorry. If telling the truth, that simply was not satisfactory, then she's a total bitch. An evil, crappy human being. It's that simple. If you were clear and she's still mad, then she's an evil bitch. And I doubt she's an evil bitch. So I don't know what the hell goes on between women. When there's an invitation to a party for a kid and everybody loses it, so do you. This is a yes, no question. Do you want me to believe that you told her what happened and she was still angry? Just a yes or no question.

Caller Annie (9:20)

It was a yes. Yes.

Dr. Laura (9:22)

Well, then I don't believe you. I really don't because I don't believe your average person will do anything but. Oh shit, you had a seizure. Why didn't you tell me? I'm so sorry. I think your average human being does that in spite of the fact that it's a party for their rotten kid. So I really don't believe you. I think there's more to the story.

Caller Annie (9:47)

Well, can I. Since you wanted a yes or no question, I wanted to comply. But I did apologize. I did tell her that my husband.

Dr. Laura (9:56)

There was no apology. Yeah, okay. The question was simply, did you inform her of the truth? Yes. Was she still angry? Yes. And that.

Caller Annie (10:07)

I don't believe I informed her of my health. Not necessarily that I had the seizure because I didn't want to worry.

Dr. Laura (10:15)

Well, then this whole thing is you. You're the problem. You didn't communicate accurately what the problem, what the situation was. Because if you just had a tummy ache, you could have answered the phone. You could have sent the thing. So this is all your fault. I suggest you walk the two blocks, knock on the door and say, I have no idea why. I was an idiot. Maybe I was embarrassed. I have no idea. But I had a seizure. I didn't tell you it. My brain was scrambled. I thought I fulfilled that and I didn't. And instead of telling you the truth, I gave you some meamily thing with which you reasonably reacted negatively to. I am sorry for that. I caused this misunderstanding.

Caller Annie (10:57)

Okay?

Dr. Laura (10:58)

That is how it ought to be handled. And in the future, tell people the truth. The whole truth. The whole truth. I wasn't feeling well. Looks like you don't give a shit. You caused this misunderstanding. Why you wanted to hide the fact of a seizure, I don't know. Probably for the same reason you didn't want them to call 911, which was stupid. And I think as a civilian, even though he had a kid who had seizures doesn't mean they're the same seizure as you had to take that risk on you saying, no, no, no. I think that was irresponsible on his part. I would have said, sorry, I want to make sure you're taken care of and I don't know what's going on. And called 911 and held you down if I had to so you could be assessed, so you didn't have another one and just die. Okay. Now, I think that was a very, very good call for all of you to hear, including my annoyance because I had to really pull teeth to get to the truth. If you're going to cause a misunderstanding by not communicating the entire truth clearly to another person, then you put them in the position of having a reaction to something else. And if something else sounded in her situation, that something else sounded like, I don't really give a shit about you or your kid. I didn't feel well, so screw it. That's what it sounded like to the friend. I don't know. Should I call? Should I write? Should I apologize? Apologizing doesn't work unless you have clarity as what you're apologizing for. 1-800-375-2872 we're learning so much today. You definitely want to get in on this. Check out my social media on Facebook and Instagram. I post stories, photos and videos seven days a week and feature some of what you sent me to. There's always something interesting going on there. You can find me at facebook.com drlaura and instagram.com drlauraprogram.

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