The Dr. Laura Podcast

Episode: How to Flirt With Your Wife

Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Date: February 7, 2026

Episode Overview

In this engaging episode, Dr. Laura Schlessinger discusses practical and heartfelt ways men can keep the spark alive in their marriages by “flirting” with their wives. Drawing on a list of 18 tips inspired by an article from MomJunction.com, Dr. Laura offers actionable advice, personal anecdotes, and her signature wit to encourage husbands to show affection, attention, and appreciation throughout all stages of marriage. The episode aims to help couples deepen their intimacy in fun, accessible, and loving ways.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Flirting Is for All Couples, Always

• Dr. Laura sets the tone by emphasizing the universal need for affectionate gestures in marriage—not just for young or newlywed couples.

2. Eighteen Tips to Spice Up a Marriage

(01:16 – 05:43 & 07:31 – 11:35)
Dr. Laura highlights and expands upon several suggestions for romantic connection, including:

a. Visual Appreciation

• “Your eyes sometimes are worth a lot more than your words…do a leering thing. Leer at her. It’s pretty sexy.” (01:34)
  • Use flirtatious glances, even in public, to make your wife feel desired.

b. Flirty Nicknames

• “People develop nicknames– sometimes very strange sounding, but it doesn’t matter. They’re affectionate between the two of you, but have flirty names. Cute.” (02:05)

c. Physical Affection in Public

• “Hold her hand. Put your arm around her waist…It’s cute. Just like when mommy holds your hand when you were little to cross the street, makes you feel secure and wonderful. That never stops.” (02:34)
  • Expressing physical closeness in public affirms the relationship.

d. Written Notes

• “I knew one couple, every day of their marriage, he would leave a post-it somewhere saying something… That’s a lot of post-its. I hope he invested in the company.” (03:14)

e. Compliments

• “Compliment, make her feel important…Tell her something about how wonderful she is, how smart, how creative, what a good baker, talented at this, that, and the other thing.” (03:41)
  • Compliments go beyond physical appearance—notice and value her skills and efforts.

f. Random Expressions of Love

• “Calling randomly–I love you. I miss you. Those were great pancakes. Whatever.” (07:31)
  • Small, unscheduled words of affection mean a lot.

g. Casual and Playful Touch

• “Just walking behind her and touching her hair, her neck, her back, her shoulder, whatever.” (07:40)

h. Spontaneity Matters

• “Don’t do the once a week, we’re going on a date. Just whenever. Surprise… Honey, kids are at Nana’s house. We’re going for a ride. Go for a ride.” (07:45)

i. Reminisce Together

• “Reminiscing about all the wonderful things you’ve experienced together is very important. It reminds you both how deep and profound the relationship has been.” (08:18)

j. Thoughtful Gift-Giving

• “Buy her some sexy clothes. Not vulgar sexy—unless you two are into vulgar, okay—but generally speaking, classy.” (08:29)
• “Send her stuff, especially when other people can see it. Girls are very competitive, so it’s kind of nice if she’s getting stuff at the workplace. And add a cute note. Make it personal.” (08:41)

k. Respect her Boundaries

• “Never try to make her do or be anything she has clearly told you is not comfortable. Don’t ever do that.” (09:16)

Memorable Quotes

• “Your eyes sometimes are worth a lot more than your words…do a leering thing. Leer at her. It’s pretty sexy.” – Dr. Laura (01:34)
• “Hold her hand. Put your arm around her waist…makes you feel secure and wonderful. That never stops.” – Dr. Laura (02:34)
• “I knew one couple, every day of their marriage, he would leave a post-it somewhere saying something… That’s a lot of post-its.” – Dr. Laura (03:14)
• “Compliment, make her feel important…Tell her something about how wonderful she is, how smart, how creative, what a good baker.” – Dr. Laura (03:41)
• “Reminiscing about all the wonderful things you’ve experienced together is very important…It reminds you both how deep and profound the relationship has been.” – Dr. Laura (08:18)
• “Never try to make her do or be anything she has clearly told you is not comfortable. Don’t ever do that.” – Dr. Laura (09:16)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:16] – Introduction to 18 Tips for Flirting with Your Wife
• [01:34] – Visual appreciation and leering as flirtation
• [02:05] – Importance of flirty nicknames
• [02:34] – Physical affection & public displays
• [03:14] – Daily written notes example
• [03:41] – The power of compliments
• [07:31] – Random expressions of love and casual touch
• [07:45] – Spontaneous dates and surprise moments
• [08:18] – Reminiscing together
• [08:29] – Gift-giving and sending surprises
• [09:16] – Respecting her boundaries

Tone and Style

Dr. Laura’s tone remains warm, playful, and gently authoritative, mixing advice, humor, and personal experiences to build rapport and underscore the enduring need for ongoing acts of love—even the simplest ones—within long-term relationships.

Conclusion

Dr. Laura’s episode offers a refreshing reminder that flirting doesn’t stop with courtship or marriage. With stories, research-backed wisdom, and relatable anecdotes, she challenges husbands to continually engage, uplift, and cherish their wives using everyday gestures. The key message: consistent, thoughtful acts of love create the warmth and excitement that sustain lasting marriages.