Podcast Summary: Just (Make Yourself) Do It
Podcast: Dr. Laura Call of the Day
Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Release Date: August 1, 2025
Introduction
In the episode titled Just (Make Yourself) Do It, Dr. Laura Schlessinger addresses a heartfelt call from a grieving listener named Sally. The conversation delves deep into themes of loss, family dynamics, and the journey toward healing through personal responsibility and positive focus.
Listener’s Story: Sally’s Journey Through Loss
Sally begins by sharing the profound losses she has endured over the past 18 months. She recounts the passing of three of her brothers, each succumbing to different causes:
- December 2023: Her first brother died from a heart spell.
- September: Another brother passed away due to a heart attack.
- June: The most recent loss was her brother who died from sepsis.
Sally explains that her last brother developed sepsis from untreated fluid accumulation in his legs, leading to necrotic tissue. She attributes his decision to forego treatment to depression, stubbornness, and signs of dementia.
Notable Quote:
Sally (01:32): “I think a little bit he was depressed and he extremely stubborn and I think he had a little bit of dementia where he didn't think that he was as bad off as he was.”
Family Dynamics and Strained Relationships
The conversation shifts to Sally's broader family situation. She reveals that she has a good relationship with her younger brother but is estranged from her sister. The estrangement stems from conflicts that arose while caring for their elderly mother in a nursing home. Sally had to intervene to prevent her sister from being verbally aggressive towards their mother, leading to her sister viewing her negatively. After their mother's passing, her sister presented ultimatums that Sally chose not to comply with, resulting in the severance of their relationship.
Notable Quote:
Sally (02:08): “And then that escalated to me being a not so nice person in her eyes. So after my mom passed. After my mom passed, she gave me ultimatum that if we had a relationship, I needed to do this, this and this. And I chose not to have a relationship.”
Coping with Grief: Focusing on the Positive
Dr. Laura empathizes with Sally's pain and guides her towards coping strategies. She emphasizes the importance of concentrating on the positive aspects of her life to navigate through grief. Dr. Laura encourages Sally to identify and actively engage with the good elements in her life, such as her loving husband, children, and grandchildren.
Notable Quotes:
Dr. Laura Schlessinger (06:04): “When you start thinking of the negatives, go hug your husband. Go write your grandkids a note if you have any. Go bring a neighbor an apple pie you made. Create something positive. There's no other way.”
Dr. Laura Schlessinger (07:39): “No, you just have to live it. No, you just have to live it. You have to make yourself do it. Seriously, you have to make yourself do it.”
Empowerment Through Action
Dr. Laura stresses that overcoming grief requires proactive effort. She advises Sally to make a conscious decision to focus on positive actions and interactions, thereby fostering resilience and healing. This involves engaging in daily activities that reinforce her support system and personal well-being.
Notable Quote:
Dr. Laura Schlessinger (07:02): “When you start thinking of the negatives, go hug your husband. Go write your grandkids a note if you have any. Go bring a neighbor an apple pie you made. Create something positive. There's no other way.”
Conclusion: Embracing Strength and Moving Forward
Sally acknowledges Dr. Laura's advice, recognizing its validity and expressing a renewed determination to implement these strategies. The conversation concludes with Dr. Laura affirming Sally's strength and resilience, encouraging her to continue focusing on the positives in her life as a pathway to healing.
Notable Quote:
Sally (07:33): “Hey, that's kind of what I thought, but I just didn't know you were right.”
Dr. Laura Schlessinger (07:49): “I know. You're a strong woman.”
Key Takeaways
- Personal Responsibility: Embracing the need to take proactive steps in managing one's emotional well-being.
- Positive Focus: Concentrating on the positive aspects of life to mitigate feelings of grief and loss.
- Strength in Support Systems: Leveraging relationships with loved ones as a foundation for healing.
- Resilience: Recognizing and cultivating inner strength to navigate through challenging times.
Final Thoughts
In Just (Make Yourself) Do It, Dr. Laura Schlessinger offers compassionate guidance to Sally, illustrating the profound impact of focusing on the positive and taking responsibility for one’s emotional state. This episode serves as a poignant reminder of the power of proactive resilience in overcoming personal tragedies.