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People Who Struggle During the Holidays
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
What about toys? Do they have brands kids have been wanting all year?
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Thank you for listening to my morning monologue brought to you by Vibriance Super C Serum, the skincare product I use twice a day. Visit vibrance.com drlaura to save 37% and get free shipping. Remember, you can hear my radio Program Daily on SiriusXM Triumph and Connect with Me 247 drlaura.com There are certain types of people who struggle during holidays. You know, cheer. Cheer, cheer, cheer. Yeah, the holidays are a time of depression, sadness, anger, grief and frustration for a lot of people. Not everyone looks forward to the holidays, and there's some good reasons. One day of swapping gifts and eating too much and celebrating with your family. Wouldn't that be fun? To a great argument that leaves everyone depressed, hurt and crying while you establish grudges that will continue to last. So let me give you some types of people who are struggling during the holidays. And I'm not talking about any profound mental illnesses. I'm just talking about people who are just not happy. Could be a personality style, could be what they're going through at this time. You don't have to be profoundly depressed to be unhappy. You're not feeling it. And everybody telling you tis the season to be jolly. Your reaction is stuff.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Stuff it. Overbearing and annoying. Constant reminder you're not happy. And you think, am I the only one out there who's not happy during the holidays? The answer is no. There are a lot of sad people walking around with happy for the holiday masks on. Another category of people. By the way, some of this information I got from YourTango.com and I go to them a lot. They have great articles, very intelligent, in depth articles. Better than mainstream media places. Okay? Second group is introverts. Between a lot of holiday parties, family gatherings, it's kind of impossible to avoid people during the holiday without being considered a Scrooge or a Grinch. And they ask you, have you been? What are you doing? What are you up to? And when you're kind of introverted, you don't want to be asked a lot of questions. It's annoying. You just want to be handed a drink and some food. Leave me alone. Listen to music, watch other people talk. It's okay. Another category of people who are not doing well for holidays in general is people who have suffered a loss. Could be recent, could be 10 years ago. It's sort of interesting that holiday times have the power to make any loss seem recent. Could have lost somebody 20 years ago that you really cared about. And you're reminded at Christmas that they're not here and you miss them. You had a grandpa who did some Christmas cool, funny things, rang some sleigh bells over the phone on Christmas Eve. Did that to everybody. You miss it, you know.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
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The who's down and who Newville were making their list, but some didn't know Walmart has the best brands for their gifts.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
What about toys? Do they have brands? Kids have been wanting all year. Yep.
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Walmart Announcer
Barbie, Tonys and Lego gifts that will make them all cheer.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Do you mean they have all the brands I adore?
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Walmart Announcer
They have Nintendo, Nespresso, Apple and more.
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What about so the who answered questions from friends till they were blue? Each one listened and shouted from Walmart.
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Who knew?
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Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Another category of people who are not overjoyed is people on an intense budget. Because if you're interested in staying out of debt, Christmas can be a very annoying time of the year because it's not a religious holiday, it's a commercial holiday, it's a family gathering holiday in general. People are not sitting around thinking of Jesus. They're thinking of how much that gift is going to cost them and is anybody going to send a thank you note. And that's just reality. If Christmas time had nothing to do with gift giving, I don't think there'd be so much sadness around it. So you have the cost of decorations, of gifts, more gifts, wrapping paper, scotch tape, airline tickets if you have to fly. But most people are driving these days or giving tickets to relatives. They can come to you. Food, more gifts, the rest of it. Another category of human beings are people who tend to overbook their lives and they're very busy. I don't have time for anything. Got a lot of kids trying to bring in money to feed everybody and pay your bills. A lot of responsibilities, caretaking ill folk. Some people are just overwhelmed as it is. Biggest category of miserable people is people with family problems. Your spouse, your annoying in laws, your overbearing parents, competitive sibling, infinite possibilities. You're trying to bring people together, half of whom don't like each other, don't want to be there. I have so many letters with these situations. One woman, it made me so sad. I hope she calls in but maybe she's listening. Okay. She's got a son and a daughter in law and a husband. Husband has a business. Husband hired the son. Husband also hired the daughter in Law who turns out to be a shrew. She described the behavior. Overbearing, demanding, entitled. She's a real piece of work. So they got rid of her. That made for bad feeling in the family. The husband, who evidently is a bit of a limp dick as far as I'm concerned, listening to it all, hired her back just after she gave birth. So she's bringing a screaming baby into the company and the manager said, we can't have this. We got customers, we got work going on. The husband permits this, she gets fired again. Nobody wants to talk to them. So they don't want to talk to the husband anymore because he finally said, that's enough. So he's not a limp dick anymore. He was for a moment. And now the wicked witch of the west, the daughter in law is just not going to permit the husband, her husband to have anything to do with them or the kids. And the son just stands by and lets her be a shrewd. We had a couple of shrews last week and I comment to the man, how can you let your woman be a shrew? Forget you. If you're going to be a limp dick, I don't care. But how can you let her be a shrew to other people and the family and friends? How can you permit that? William Shakespeare, Taming of the Shrew. Read the book, the play. Sorry. So, family problems. There's always somebody in the family who creates havoc. Drunk, addicted, just mean and stupid. Out of control. Just. They're people. Last but not least, at the end of the year, we're all reflecting on the whole year. Something in this article. It's at the end. I'd like to read it as is. The holidays are a time when people reflect on the previous year and are supposed to find things to be thankful for. And sometimes that's difficult. You write, I don't send out Christmas letters, but if I did, a lot of years would include details like, let's see, what am I thankful for? I enjoyed a variety of tasty samples at Costco, vacuumed up the raisins and animal cracker crumbs out of my minivan. Those details would have made it into the letter to spare people details of illness, divorce and death. There's no right way to feel during the holidays. If you love the holidays and consider them joyous and merry, that's awesome. Just know that you're probably encountering a lot of people who are faking it while thinking, is it January 2nd yet? And if you aren't happy during the holidays, you are not alone and you are not a Grinch. The article was in. Danny Bostick wrote the entire article from which I excerpt Commentary. Your tango my number 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.
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