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I gave a little micro lecture on what survivor guilt was and I didn't think it was appropriate to her circumstance from what I heard from her. Then we went on and I thought we did a great job. Whether or not it was survivor guilt was anxiety and we did a great job. And she sounded happy at the end, but something bothered me. Why would she think after all these years it was survivor guilt if it wasn't? So I went back and listened to the tape and there are certain calls where people just do not see. I like the old fashioned phones where there was a part up here you could listen with a part down here that you could talk and they didn't get messed up. And now with these little cell phones, it's sometimes when you folks call, it just sounds so muffled and you've heard me say what are you doing? That sounds so muffled. And then all of a sudden they sound like that and it's like where did it come from? So I don't exactly know the difference, but that's what happened. In the beginning of the call it sounded very muffled and what I heard is her friend got murdered a little bit. A few seconds that came before that were just not clear. But I'll paraphrase it because I still didn't hear it clearly. I'll paraphrase it. She was supposed to go over a friend's house but her dad didn't let her go. I think she was being punished or something, I don't know. He didn't let her go and then her friend got murdered. It's a little on the periphery, but if she was supposed to be there, yeah, that's survivor guilt. Just like the news story that came out, the tragic crash of the plane in D.C. where everybody died because an Army Black Hawk helicopter slammed into seems pretty clear now it was the Black Hawk's fault. They were 150ft higher than they should have been. Who knows? But they slammed into the plane. A guy who I think is also involved in the skating part. There were a number of There were so many children aboard. He didn't go because they wouldn't let him bring his dog on because they decided his dog was too big. So pissed off, he got thrown off the flight, got in his car to drive to D.C. and I said when I heard that he better talk to somebody because there's going to be survivor guilt. So yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So. But it was so strange how it kept in the back of my mind something isn't right. And I was right. It wasn't right. So just wanted to clarify that it was partially. Yeah. Due to that, happily, it didn't really change because it's so many decades later. It didn't really change what we had to work on. Okay, so that's that. Just wanted to clarify if anybody else heard that and wondered. So when you call me, I'm immediately going to say this sounds muffled. That way I won't miss anything. All righty then. My number 1-800-375-286 72. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.
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Episode: Survivor's Guilt
Host: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Date: December 19, 2025
In this episode, Dr. Laura Schlessinger explores the topic of survivor’s guilt—what it really means, when it’s appropriate, and how it sometimes gets misapplied to situations involving anxiety or regret. Drawing from recent listener emails and a memorable call from a woman haunted by past trauma, Dr. Laura untangles the nuances between true survivor's guilt and other emotional responses, all with her signature mix of candor, direct advice, and empathy.
“Are you freaking kidding me? No. I have never had an eye infection for my mascara.” (02:20, Dr. Laura)
“If she was supposed to be there, yeah, that’s survivor guilt.” (08:20, Dr. Laura)
“When I heard that, I said he better talk to somebody, because there’s going to be survivor guilt.” (08:58, Dr. Laura)
“With these little cell phones, sometimes when you folks call, it just sounds so muffled ... That’s what happened.” (07:30, Dr. Laura)
Gratitude and Aging:
“This is simply the blessing of living this long. Too many of my friends did not get to—they died with no aches and pains and no ripples on their skin.” (01:33, Dr. Laura reading Carolyn’s email)
Mascara Wisdom:
“Only use [mascara] for a month and throw it away. Are you freaking kidding me? No.” (02:22, Dr. Laura)
On Survivor’s Guilt:
“If she was supposed to be there, yeah, that’s survivor guilt.” (08:20, Dr. Laura)
Recalling Public Tragedies:
“I said when I heard that, he better talk to somebody because there’s going to be survivor guilt.” (08:58, Dr. Laura)
Technical Frustrations:
“...with these little cell phones, sometimes when you folks call, it just sounds so muffled ... That’s what happened.” (07:30, Dr. Laura)
Dr. Laura maintains her direct, practical, and sometimes humorous tone throughout the episode. She voices empathy for callers struggling with guilt from past traumas, but also stresses precision in understanding emotional responses—reminding listeners both of the importance of clarity (technological and emotional) and of not letting labels distract from healing.
Listeners seeking insight into survivor’s guilt—whether for themselves or loved ones—will find encouragement to look closely at experiences, seek help if old wounds persist, and appreciate both the serious and everyday moments in life.