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Host
Thanks for downloading my Call of the Day podcast. You too can participate in my live radio program heard weekdays from 2 to 5pm Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Dan, dad and Susan daughter, welcome to the program. Susan.
Susan
Hi.
Host
Hi, honey, how old are you?
Susan
I'm 13.
Host
Okay, what's happening?
Susan
So I lost my ski jacket. It was a really nice jacket that I had. And I guess I've been losing some other. Or forgetting some other things recently too. And we were just wondering, like, what we should do about it and like the right.
Host
What sort of things are you telling me you're forgetting?
Dad
Tell about today.
Susan
So I lost. I mean, I didn't lose. I forgot to bring. I had Nordic after school and I forgot to bring my boots into school.
Host
What is Nordic?
Susan
So, just like carpeting.
Host
So did you. I'm sorry, do you always have that on a Monday or was that just a surprise? So you.
Susan
Well, usually I.
Host
I'm curious as to. Okay, I'll ask you a bunch of boring questions. How much sleep do you get a night?
Susan
Like 12 hours? No, like 10ish hours.
Host
10Ish hours. And do you eat a reasonable meal or do your parents have to nag you about vitamins and protein?
Susan
No, I eat.
Host
Okay. How many different activities do you have other than the Nordic?
Susan
I do piano on Wednesdays and I play field hockey two days a week.
Host
I'm sorry, you play what kind of hockey?
Susan
Field hockey.
Host
What is that?
Susan
Field hockey.
Host
I don't know what that means. Can somebody tell me what it means, please, so I don't have to keep asking it and sound stupid?
Dad
Okay. You've never heard of field hockey?
Host
Oh, field. I didn't understand the field. Yes, I played field hockey until I got hit in the shin too many times. Okay, One of the things that I'm noticing is you. Yeah. You have too many activities. Sleep seems good. Too many activities? Yeah, I think there should be one activity. One, not three. Okay, that's it. It's frustrating, but forgetfulness as a teenager is kind of normal. But not getting sleep. Food deficiencies are very common reasons. Spending too much time on the Internet. Another reason stressing because there are too many activities. Probably the number one reason in your home. Why do you have her in so many different activities? Sir.
Dad
That'S a valid question and certainly something that we have talked about. My wife and I have had that conversation.
Host
I mean, how many different physical activities do you have today?
Dad
You know, a couple now that winter's here? Pretty much just one, which is skiing.
Host
And when it's not winter. How many activities do you do?
Dad
One. Always one, like you said, I think is.
Host
What makes you think. What made you and your wife think it's a good thing to have her so busied? Why would you even do that? What are you training her to be sure?
Dad
That's a good question. I think it's mostly the choice of our daughter, and we try to support.
Host
Her teen, and she's not doing it. She's forgetting stuff. It's not working. So if you had to pick one activity, what would it be, dear?
Susan
Field hockey.
Host
That's it. Which is why she forgot her boots. You get me, Dad?
Dad
I do. That's good, I think.
Host
Have a good day. Don't think it's dangerous having her in all those activities. Come on. I don't know what we're training kids for when we do that. Put all that stress in their lives. Wow. Couldn't understand the word. But it's field hockey. Yes. She could take up boxing, mma, soccer, archery. I mean, there are seven days we ought to be able to do that. I don't know what some parents are thinking. Why are we keeping her so busy? Why can't she have time to herself to be creative and time with family? It's Monday. I forgot my boots. I guess I can't do Nordic. She wants to do field hockey, then that should be it. Field hockey, my number. Does anybody ask her? 1-800-375-2872. How much is a kid supposed to do to impress their parents? My number. 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.
Podcast Information:
In the episode titled "Susan's Forgetfulness is Sending a Message," Dr. Laura Schlessinger addresses a concern brought forward by a listener named Susan and her father, Dan. Susan, a 13-year-old girl, calls in seeking advice about her recent struggles with forgetfulness, including losing her ski jacket and forgetting essential items for her after-school activities.
[00:26] Susan: "So I lost my ski jacket. It was a really nice jacket that I had. And I guess I've been losing some other. Or forgetting some other things recently too. And we were just wondering, like, what we should do about it and like the right."
Dr. Laura begins by understanding the specifics of Susan's situation. Susan elaborates on her forgetfulness, mentioning instances like forgetting to bring her boots to Nordic after school.
[01:02] Susan: "So I lost. I mean, I didn't lose. I forgot to bring. I had Nordic after school and I forgot to bring my boots into school."
Dr. Laura delves into possible reasons behind Susan's forgetfulness. She suggests several factors that could contribute to such behavior in teenagers, including:
Sleep Deprivation: Dr. Laura inquires about Susan's sleep patterns to rule out insufficient rest.
[01:43] Host: "How much sleep do you get a night?"
[01:48] Susan: "Like 12 hours? No, like 10ish hours."
Nutritional Deficiencies: She questions Susan's eating habits to determine if lack of proper nutrition might be affecting her memory.
[02:02] Host: "Do your parents have to nag you about vitamins and protein?"
[02:11] Susan: "No, I eat."
Overuse of Technology: Dr. Laura touches on the excessive time spent on the Internet as a potential distraction.
Stress from Excessive Activities: The conversation zeroes in on Susan's busy schedule as a significant factor.
A pivotal part of the discussion revolves around Susan's numerous extracurricular commitments. Susan lists her activities:
[02:11] Susan: "I do piano on Wednesdays and I play field hockey two days a week."
Dr. Laura expresses concern over the number of activities Susan is juggling, suggesting that having too many commitments can lead to stress and forgetfulness.
[02:36] Dad: "You've never heard of field hockey?"
[03:29] Dad: "That's a valid question and certainly something that we have talked about. My wife and I have had that conversation."
Dr. Laura challenges the necessity of maintaining multiple activities, questioning the purpose behind such a hectic schedule.
[03:29] Host: "What made you and your wife think it's a good thing to have her so busied? ... Why are we keeping her so busy? Why can't she have time to herself to be creative and time with family?"
Dan, Susan's father, provides insight into their family's approach to extracurricular activities. He explains that the choice of activities is primarily Susan's, and the family aims to support her interests.
[03:57] Dad: "One. Always one, like you said, I think is."
When pressed by Dr. Laura, Dan admits that they have been reconsidering the number of activities Susan is involved in, especially as winter approaches.
Dr. Laura emphasizes the importance of balancing activities to prevent undue stress on teenagers. She advocates for reducing the number of commitments to allow children time for creativity and family interactions.
[02:11] Host: "Probably the number one reason in your home. Why do you have her in so many different activities?"
[04:31] Susan: "Field hockey."
In conclusion, Dr. Laura advises that Susan and her family consider focusing on a single activity that she is most passionate about—field hockey—to alleviate stress and improve her organizational habits.
[04:42] Host: "If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast."
Balance is Crucial: Over-scheduling teenagers with multiple activities can lead to increased stress and forgetfulness.
Parental Support: While supporting a child's interests is important, allowing them to make choices about their commitments fosters responsibility and reduces burnout.
Holistic Well-being: Adequate sleep, proper nutrition, and limited screen time are essential for maintaining cognitive functions like memory.
Dr. Laura Schlessinger at [03:29]: "Why are we keeping her so busy? Why can't she have time to herself to be creative and time with family?"
Susan at [04:31]: "Field hockey."
This episode underscores the significance of managing extracurricular activities to ensure the well-being and personal growth of teenagers. By prioritizing and possibly reducing Susan's commitments, Dr. Laura suggests that improved focus and reduced stress can enhance her overall performance and memory.