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Who knew? Thank you for listening to my morning monologue brought to you by Vibriance Super C Serum, the skincare product I use twice a day. Visit vibriance.com drlaura to save 37% and get free shipping. Remember, you can hear my radio Program Daily on SiriusXM Triumph and connect with me 24 7@drlaura.com do you want to know the reasons for divorce? Yes. Good. I'm glad you said yes. Okay, Great article in marriage.com Advice Divorce 10 Most Common Reasons for divorce. You know all of these. You don't want to know some of them because it means you'll have to change how you behave. But you do know all of these. But I'm going to go over them again. Good article. There was research. The Austin Institute for the Study of Family and culture data from 4,000 divorced adults identified the top 10 reasons for divorce. So I thought it would be nice to boom boom boom. Go through them for you and with you. Number one extramarital affair number one reason for divorce. 20 to 40% of the breakdown of most marriages end in divorce when one of you has screwed around with somebody else. The reasons why people cheat aren't as cut and dry as you would think because you get angry and you stop looking. So they named some of the reasons. Anger and resentment are common underlying reasons for cheating. Resentment means some ongoing behavior or attitudes that are just unsatisfying and never seem to get resolved, along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy. I remember had a high class hooker who went straight said that when she was a call girl that most of the men came for conversation and the sense of emotional intimacy and not so much for the sex which is why I get a lot of people angry when women call and say he did such and such. And I try to ask, you know, why? I mean, he's just a bad character or what need was he getting met? That wasn't happening at home. Oh, you're blaming the wife? No, I'm holding the wife accountable for the wife's part. Holding the man, the husband, accountable for his part. People get upset when they have to be held accountable sometimes. Trouble with finances. 41% of divorces have to do with money. Everything from different spending habits, different long term financial goals, to one spouse making a heck of a lot more than the other spouse and using it to be in control and to dominate. Not nice. All right, Lack of communication. That's 65% of why people divorce. Yelling, not talking enough through the day. You know, little calls, I love you, how are you doing? What's new? What's up? Little text, love you, thinking about you. What's new, what's up? Stuff like that, Making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication. Basically, you just stop talking altogether. You have a million excuses for it. But if you're not going to relate to the person you made vows to, and with 65% of you, constant arguing, bickering about chores, arguing about the kids, incessant arguing kills relationships. And that's mostly because people don't want to see the other person's point of view. Holy cow. I remember a long time ago, I was on the John Davidson program. That's a long time ago. It was a talk program, like so many. And I was on there once a week for a while. And I did this thing with audience members. I took a couple that came there as a couple. I would also do it with people who didn't know each other, didn't matter. And I would say, okay, tell the person what you're mad at. So they would say, I'm mad that you don't make coffee. I'm mad that you. Whatever, doesn't matter. Okay, now that you've told us what you're angry about, this is basically what would happen if you go into marital counseling. You walk in, the therapist says, so what's your problem with them? What's your problem with them? Okay, now you have to defend the other person's point of view. This works so well for communication. And maybe, you know, you don't even have to set this up with your spouse. Just the next time you're really annoyed with them, think if I were defending them in a court of law for this. How would I defend them? And it helps you see that there is another point of view. You married somebody different from you. They don't have all the same thoughts and experiences and reactions. They're unique and you loved their uniqueness. That's why you married them. Now the fact that they're unique is annoying. So take some time to think about why they're behaving that way, why they're doing that and how it does make some sense. It's amazing. Won't be any communication problems.