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What Makes You Happy?
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The best stories are inspirational, about people following their dreams and achieving their goals. And that's the main ingredient in the Food Network Obsessed podcast. Each week, Food Network Obsessed host Jamie Syer sits down with your favorite show hosts and chefs to dish on all things delicious in the food world. Yep, Food Network Obsessed is about food, but it's also about the people behind the restaurants and the cookbooks you love. You'll get a taste of Food Network's hottest shows and a sprinkle of history, too. Chef Duke Chase shares how his grandmother, the queen of Creole cuisine, became the inspiration behind Disney's first black princess. And food stylist Christine Tobin shares what it was like to recreate Julia Child's iconic dishes for television. Even if, like me, you're not into cooking, you'll discover a story to savor in the Food Network Obsessed podcast. So dig in and listen to Food Network Obsessed wherever you get podcasts.
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Thank you for listening to my morning monologue brought to you by Golden Crest Medals, helping everyday investors protect what they've worked so hard to build by adding gold and silver to retirement portfolios. Learn more@goldencrestmetals.com forte remember, you can hear my radio program daily on SiriusXM triumph and connect with me 24.7@drlora.com what do you think really makes you happy? Think about it for a second. I don't mean giggly. You just found a $5 bill. Oh, I can spend $5. That's not happiness. A little bit of exhilaration, maybe. Happiness is a profound and deep thing. It usually makes us cry. People cry in sentimental movies. It touches them because something is deep. Happiness often makes you cry. That's crazy. It sounds counterintuitive. By the way, who is this woman talking? Hi, I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger welcoming you to this hour of the program right here on Sirius XM Triumph123. You are here with Bea and Dan screening your calls, the amazing genius of Carson Smith engineering, orchestrating our music, producing the Segways all at once. Makes my head dizzy to think about it. It's good. He's young, he can handle that. You know what I'm saying? Talk about multitasking. 1-800-375-2872. So what is this secret to being happy? I hope you're all thinking about this before I start. My point of view, it has nothing to do with stuff. Because if the stuff really isn't there, then what? You can just be unhappy again. So what'll make you happy that'll stick? You ready? Other people. Uh huh. When you feel, feel and believe, believe other people care about you, you're basically a happy person. Even though you could be ferociously disappointed with your finances, with your looks. Yeah, just about everybody can do that. I wish I had more money. I remember a very rich guy I met a long time ago. He has since lost his money, but he deserved to lose it. Not a nice guy, but anyway, he said, you know, what's enough money? I said, no. What? He said, just a little bit more. Just a little bit more. I thought, oh my gosh, how does that ever make you happy? Because the goal post keeps moving away. Hmm. The best stories are inspirational about people following their dreams and achieving their goals. And that's the main ingredient in the Food Network Obsessed podcast. And each week, Food Network Obsessed host Jamie Syre sits down with your favorite show hosts and chefs to dish on all things delicious in the food world. Yep, Food Network Obsessed is about food, but it's also about the people behind the restaurants and the cookbooks you love. You'll get a taste of Food Network's hottest shows and a sprinkle of history, too. Chef Duke Chase shares how his grandmother, the queen of Creole cuisine, became the inspiration behind Disney's first black princess. And food stylist Christine Tobin shares what it was like to recreate Julia Child's iconic dishes for television. Even if, like me, you're not into cooking, you'll discover a story to savor in the Food Network Obsessed podcast. So dig in and listen to Food Network Obsessed wherever you get podcasts. Life doesn't have to be so complicated. Walmart helps you simplify. They're your one stop shop for daily essentials like groceries, snacks, school supplies, and thanks to Walmart Pharmacy, you can count on them for your prescription needs too. Use the Walmart app to easily manage your family's medications and save time by getting prescriptions delivered right to your door. Switch your prescriptions to Walmart Pharmacy delivery not available for all prescriptions and exclusions apply.
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Choose to show. With the bold styling of the Mazda CX30 awake up. How about your looks? You've seen so many people in the public eye show business. What have you get A million facelifts and injections and this is and that'ses and they look weird. They just don't look like normal people anymore. And they say it's required in the industry to look a certain way. Yeah, a lot of actors and actresses don't bother to do that. And they get work. You know why? Extremely talented. You can get by with wrinkles when you're extra. Extremely talented in a way that's used in the industry. Okay, so here we are back to people. So you say, oh, well, I don't really believe and trust people. Well, you know, a lot of people have had some interesting things happen early in their childhood with abandonment and such, so used to survive on their own. They don't really trust people. They've been betrayed. Stuff like stuff happens. So when you get into the mode that people cannot be trusted, then you behave in a certain cold way. They detect that and they withdraw. And then you're alone. And evidently we are more mentally ill, physically ill, and die earlier when we're really alone. Not having a group of that doesn't mean. I mean, I live alone with two dogs now. Okay. Yeah, I'll whine later. This is a tough stage to go through, this puppy stage anyway. I like periods of time being by myself. It's not the same thing as being lonely. I have so many things I like to do or nothing and I'm fine. And when I'm not fine, pick up the phone, call a friend and say, let's go to lunch, let's go to a museum, let's go shopping, let's just do something, let's hike, whatever. And a lot of people use the network. I don't think I have a network. I have a selection of really spectacular people that I'm very fortunate that I can pick up the phone and they can, too. Give me a call. You want to go to lunch? Yes. I've done enough taking care of things in the house. Yes. I want to get out of the house. Yes, yes, yes, yes. That's the stuff that ultimately makes us not feel lonely when we're alone. And quite frankly, if you have a dog, you never feel lonely. Somebody said something earlier this week that they asked their kid, you know, what made you smile today? I get smiles all through the day. He peed on the carpet last night. Peed. It's been raining. I've been taking them out a lot. But dogs somehow just don't want to be out in the rain. And this morning in the kitchen, because I had both doors closed and I thought, oh, my God, I thought I had a miracle dog here. So I was disappointed. But nonetheless, when I go to walk in the backyard or down a hall and I turn around and there's these cute little faces following me, it makes me smile. It does. It's people who make you happy. I should say. It's having people in your life that makes you happy. We're very dependent. I mean, when you are born, you're not like a horse or some other wild creature that they fall out and walk away. We don't do that. We fall out and can't do anything for the longest period of time. We better have people taking care of us. And at the other end, sometimes we get them infirm and hard to get around. And we rely on people at the other end, too. We're a gregarious species. We like the connection. When we're isolated and lonely, our work suffers, our mental health suffers. We even know that people die earlier when they don't have a sense of belonging. Now, how do you make a connection? People often call me and, you know, they're waiting for somebody to do something. They're at the dance. They're waiting for somebody to ask them to dance. You know, life. No, you want to make a connection? Pick up the phone. How many times have you heard me say, pick up the damn phone? Call, say, hi, suggest to do something. You have to start it, because everybody is feeling the same thing you're feeling. Everybody would like to have somebody connect. Yes. Now, if you're focused on things like money or beauty, there's always someone with more money, and there's always somebody more beautiful. There's always somebody who's more accomplished. And so you can never be satisfied that you have enough of what it takes to be loved. Those are not the reasons people love you. They don't love you because you're beautiful. They don't love you because you got money. They might manipulate and steal from you and that kind of stuff, but they don't love you because you have money, because you're successful, or because you're very attractive. They could be attracted to you for all kinds of reasons, but that's not love. Love is really devoid of all that concern. You want to make somebody like you, which can morph into love. This is how you make somebody like you. You show interest in them. First, you go fishing. You put bait at the end of the fishing line. So the bait you put out there is kindness, curiosity, interest, compassion. That's what draws people to you. You have to make it happen. You can't call me and sit there and go, I am all alone. When was the last time you did anything to bring anybody into your world? Crickets. Crickets. Crickets. So it may seem counterintuitive, but if you want to be more loved, the first step is you have to make the other person feel loved first, first, first. Everybody got that. Now have to make sure you got that. My number 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my pod. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.
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