Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:07)

Okay. Do you have. Okay, I got it. All right.

Caller (Janet) (3:12)

Okay.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:12)

And your question for me?

Caller (Janet) (3:15)

My question for you is I'm having a hard time deciphering where and when my responsibility begins and ends. I will. I'll be a good Christian person, you know what I mean, and help those that are less fortunate than myself. And I am burnt out. I'm tired. I'm burnt out. I'm becoming.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:35)

Okay, I get it. Are you a religious woman? Are you a Christian?

Caller (Janet) (3:39)

I am. Oh, very, yes.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:41)

And is. And is that what you're holding over your own head also?

Caller (Janet) (3:45)

I think so, yeah.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:47)

Okay. You have a Bible around?

Caller (Janet) (3:49)

I do.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (3:50)

Go get it.

Caller (Janet) (3:52)

Okay.

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Caller (Janet) (6:24)

I was sitting in my car listening to your program. Okay, I'm here. I have my Bible.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (6:30)

Okay.

Caller (Janet) (6:30)

Yep.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (6:31)

Number of places you might want to write them down so you can do some of this on yourself because basically biblically speaking.

Caller (Janet) (6:38)

Yeah.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (6:39)

Jesus, who was a nice Jewish boy, you do understand that Jesus made it very clear that, that in dealing with people who are self destructive and no matter how much you help them, it isn't helpful that ultimately you back away. Jesus said that. So I want you to look at a couple of things like Matthew 18, 15, 17.

Caller (Janet) (7:04)

That's 1, 15 through 17. Okay.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (7:09)

Proverbs advises you to stay away from a fool, for you will not find knowledge on their lips. That's Proverbs 14, 7. All the way through your texts it's clear that limits are placed to how much you're supposed to cater to sacrifice for self destructive people.

Caller (Janet) (7:34)

Yeah, okay. I mean, Dr. Laura, I've studied this my whole life. Okay. Since I was 26 years old. You know, codependent.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (7:43)

Yeah, but you weren't, but you weren't looking for this.

Caller (Janet) (7:55)

Okay. So, okay, I'm going to refer to these passages that you've suggested and we'll just limit. I'm just trying to limit my exposure at this point. And yes, and yes. Jesus helping her.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (8:10)

Jesus. I don't need to hear any of that.

Caller (Janet) (8:14)

Okay.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (8:15)

Jesus backs you up.

Caller (Janet) (8:17)

Yeah. Dr. Laura, thanks. Thank you. I will review these. Good. It's a tough one.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (8:29)

Well, it wasn't to Jesus. It's his teachings that you don't waste. I'll put it in my own words. You don't waste your energy when it's not being used constructively. Why would Jesus even tell you to keep wasting yourself when it's not being used effectively? I mean, think about it. That would be a bizarre thing, I think, for Jesus to require of anybody.

Caller (Janet) (8:52)

Yeah. Okay.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (8:55)

And that's just two. There are so many others. So look them up, read them and give yourself some peace.

Caller (Janet) (9:03)

So you let these people, like what's going to happen, you know, I don't know.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (9:08)

I don't know. But not all of it is your obligation or responsibility or concern anymore. You can feel bad, but you don't have to waste yourself away.

Caller (Janet) (9:22)

Yeah. Every time I leave church on Sunday, I come back thinking, jeez, I should help her. You know, no one is here to help her.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (9:36)

Janet. Janet. You keep digging, pushing the dirt out of a hole. She keeps pushing it to fall back in. Read the scriptures and stop berating yourself. And yeah, at some point there will be no one to help her. You're right.

Caller (Janet) (9:56)

Isn't that sad?

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (9:58)

Yes.

Caller (Janet) (9:59)

Yes, it is. Because I really believe all these people in the world that are destroying themselves, something happened to them, you know, something along the way that.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (10:12)

Well, I tell you, there's a mentality that makes being evil, being destructive, that something must have happened to you that's nonsensical.

Caller (Janet) (10:23)

Really?

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (10:23)

You don't think there's some people are evil? Some people are evil. Do you hear me?

Caller (Janet) (10:32)

Yes, I do.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (10:33)

They don't have to have had an ingrown toenail and their mother kicked them. Yeah.

Caller (Janet) (10:41)

And if they have, then what? What if they have?

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (10:46)

We have. We have all known people who came from shit.

Caller (Janet) (10:50)

Yeah, that's true.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (10:51)

And created themselves into beautiful flowers. So don't tell me it's cause and effect. A bad childhood means you have to be a bad, self destructive, destructive person. That's nonsense.

Caller (Janet) (11:02)

I agree. Yeah. I always thank God for my strong brain that I could get out of any of these bad situations. I could have gone down. I'm grateful for that.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (11:13)

You made better choices.

Caller (Janet) (11:16)

I did, yes. I'm grateful. Right. I feel very grateful to yourself.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (11:22)

Be grateful to yourself. Yes, I'm with that.

Caller (Janet) (11:27)

All right. Thank you so much.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger (11:29)

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